#este thinks

[femmptation]

Housesitting for someone with a super open, but fenced in and private yard.

Getting to spend my mornings sitting out in the sun in just a bra and shorts, damp grass making the heat more pleasant has me thinking about being the femme housewife to my rancher butch.

Doing the housework and making sure meals are always ready for her when she comes in at the end of the day, making her take breaks to eat lunch with me because I JUST made the iced tea she likes, bugging her about home renovation projects and then starting them myself because then she HAS to help me finish them. It all just seems so NICE

[whetstonefires]

You know what I realize that people underestimate with Pride & Prejudice is the strategic importance of Jane.

Because like, I recently saw Charlotte and Elizabeth contrasted as the former being pragmatic and the latter holding out for a love match, because she's younger and prettier and thinks she can afford it, and that is very much not what's happening.

The Charlotte take is correct, but the Elizabeth is all wrong. Lizzie doesn't insist on a love match. That's serendipitous and rather unexpected. She wants, exactly as Mr. Bennet says, someone she can respect. Contempt won't do. Mr. Bennet puts it in weirdly sexist terms like he's trying to avoid acknowledging what he did to himself by marrying a self-absorbed idiot, but it's still true. That's what Elizabeth is shooting for: a marriage that won't make her unhappy.

She's grown up watching how miserable her parents make one another; she's not willing to sign up for a lifetime of being bitter and lonely in her own home.

I think she is very aware, in refusing Mr. Collins, that it's reasonably unlikely that anyone she actually respects is going to want her, with her few accomplishments and her lack of property. That she is turning down security and the chance keep the house she grew up in, and all she gets in return may be spinsterhood.

But, crucially, she has absolute faith in Jane.

The bit about teaching Jane's daughters to embroider badly? That's a joke, but it's also a serious potential life plan. Jane is the best creature in the world, and a beauty; there's no chance at all she won't get married to someone worthwhile.

(Bingley mucks this up by breaking Jane's heart, but her prospects remain reasonable if their mother would lay off!)

And if Elizabeth can't replicate that feat, then there's also no doubt in her mind that Jane will let her live in her house as a dependent as long as she likes, and never let it be made shameful or awful to be that impoverished spinster aunt. It will be okay never to be married at all, because she has her sister, whom she trusts absolutely to succeed and to protect her.

And if something eventually happens to Jane's family and they can't keep her anymore, she can throw herself upon the mercy of the Gardeners, who have money and like her very much, and are likewise good people. She has a support network--not a perfect or impregnable one, but it exists. It gives her realistic options.

Spinsterhood was a very dangerous choice; there are reasons you would go to considerable lengths not to risk it.

But Elizabeth has Jane, and her pride, and an understanding of what marrying someone who will make you miserable costs.

That's part of the thesis of the book, I would say! Recurring Austen thought. How important it is not to marry someone who will make you, specifically, unhappy.

She would rather be a dependent of people she likes and trusts than of someone she doesn't, even if the latter is formally considered more secure; she would rather live in a happy, reasonable household as an extra than be the mistress of her own home, but that home is full of Mr. Collins and her mother.

This is a calculation she's making consciously! She's not counting on a better marriage coming along. She just feels the most likely bad outcome from refusing Mr. Collins is still much better than the certain outcome of accepting him. Which is being stuck with Mr. Collins forever.

Elizabeth is also being pragmatic. Austen also endorses her choice, for the person she is and the concerns she has. She's just picking different trade-offs than Charlotte.

Elizabeth's flaw is not in her own priorities; she doesn't make a reckless choice and get lucky. But in being unable to accept that Charlotte's are different, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with Charlotte.

Because realistically, when your marriage is your whole family and career forever, and you only get to pick the ones that offer themselves to you, when you are legally bound to the status of dependent, you're always going to be making some trade-offs.

😂 Even the unrealistically ideal dream scenario of wealthy handsome clever ethical Mr. Darcy still asks you to undergo personal growth, accommodate someone else's communication style, and eat a little crow.

[sualne]

a good looking buggy to make up for the silly ones

[touchlikethesun]

you’re telling me people are doubting the cultural relevancy of destiel, THEE destiel??? the first and the last Great American Queerbait??? that destiel???

[shouldering-worlds]

NOT ENOUGH OF YALL ARE TALKING ABOUT THE NAME A HAMILTON SONG BIT

please, the "name a woman," the Kahoot bit, the utter look of disappointed but not surprised from Dan, the panicked confusion on Phil's face

The videos are fucking art

[firstfullmoon]

every day I have to go on with my life even though albert camus told maria casarès he loved her as one loves hope and certainty and she told him she loved him irrevocably as one loves the sea

[visenyaism]

been proper haunted by this for weeks. just pointing at shit going t’es woke toi🫵tois t’es un woke-left🫵

[awacatin]

los compas

[ID : Fanart of Vash and Wolfwood sitting down on a light yellow BG. Wolfwood is smirking and lovingly petting Vash's black hair, while Vash sheds a small tear with a smile on his face. Wolfwood has a small halo on the side of his head.

Second image consists of a Wolfwood torso. He's smoking and making a lightly concerned face as two small Vashes sit on his shoulder. The Vash on his left has an angel-like appearance, with yellow feathers coming out of his body. The Vash on the right wears his red coat, with his face obscured in black, with only his glasses visible. End ID]

[kaiminluu]

visited the louvre a few weeks ago and did some studies anyway baroque warrior mike

[rontra]

on the eve of the war you ask me if i regret any of this i guess even you need reassurance sometimes you're only human after all

[dabisbratz]

when nerd!eren takes you out on an official date for the first time he’s so nervous. considers combin his hair back (doesn’t stay in place anwyay), argues with himself over glasses vs contacts (opts for glasses, he knows you like em), sprays so much cologne he almost has an asthma attack . . . n when he’s finally got you there he’s missin all his cues, his voice cracks with every other word, n you’ve never seen him so flustered. bright red the whole date, hands clammy, tremblin like he’s been caught in a snow storm. but it’s so memorable— even when he walks off to the bathroom for a good twenty minutes, his awkward charm is jus so.. endearin.

[femmptation]

Lesbian Joy is so much more than sex tbh

Don’t get me wrong, the sex is great, but There is something so beautiful in learning to love your lesbian identity. In the care and sisterhood and love in the community even between strangers.

Lesbian joy is a femme giving a butch the haircut they always wanted but never got. Its two butches playfighting and not caring about how loud or distracting they are. Its two femmes going bra or swimsuit shopping together and allowing themselves to compliment each other without worrying about seeming like a creep.

Lesbian joy is in the little things. The tiny nods in lavender tattoos or carabiners on belt loops.

Lesbian joy is mentorship, and group acknowledgement of how much Sailor Moon impacted us all when we were young, and community, and looking out for each other, and its fucking beautiful.

[whetstonefires]

the problem with knowing things about battle tactics is that an ever-increasing subset of popular media becomes impossible to enjoy properly because you have to sit there like 'wow Captain Protagonist good to know all those dead people on your own side are a direct result of your total lack of anything resembling brains'

[yasbeych]

little evil criminal still deserves a big nice boyfriend who will listen to him complain

[taeminie]

There’s a trick people use to avoid getting caught. That is by keeping a five-meter distance. Like this? If you keep coming closer, how can we maintain the distance? What if I don’t want to be five meters apart? Because with just five centimeters… I’m already dying.

Est Supha as Po & William Jakrapatr as Thame Thame-Po: Heart That Skips A Beat, dir. Mui Aticha

[butdaddyilovehimmm]

Driving myself insane with my own headcanon of Harvey referring to Mike as "his boy"/calling him "my boy" like ugh. I mean, even in canon he repeatedly called Mike "his guy"/"my guy", so it's really not a farfetched idea... He's a possesive son of a bitch too so he'd absolutely love it.