#especially on the internet

[miss-allsundays]

'"as I said calling people the r slur IS wrong, I've just never personally been called that, so it doesn't bother me." this is a real thing a dream stan has posted btw.

[tonycries]

heeey tony, just wanted to say you are so funny, i love stealing your memes and don’t mind those bitches who seem to be so brave to curse you, but can only do it anonymously

[fella-lovin-fella]

checking yourself is a learned skill btw

[54625]

It's so fuckin cool to see people speaking so many different languages in the QSMP tag, even ones that aren't spoken on the server, like Ukrainian and Arabic.

No se mucho español pero lo intentaré lo mejor que pueda para hoy. No será bueno

[starbugforest]

For every aspect of your identity there is a term that someone has coined.

These terms are useful, and help us feel belonging.

Feeling like one belongs will often have one feeling territorial.

When something new comes along that does not adhere to the term and its rules as you understand it, this is a threat.

Because if you do not understand, then you do not belong.

But you DO belong here and you finally found this place and this thing that fits you so it must be that the other is wrong. The other does not belong.

They are other.

Other is a threat.

[scarlct-vvitch]

men aint shit because we said "if you have genuine kindness and respect for the women around you then you will likely find companionship" and men took it as a cheat code for talking to women, then got angry when women were smart enough to see through it. because women are people and not a video game. but they were too stupid to realize that was the point being made in the first place

[trelinha9]

I have the slight and terrible feeling that I'm going to really regret writing this. But I can't focus on the things I need to do, so here we go

Browsing the Amethio tag, I discovered that someone took the link to my poll about Friede x Amethio and sent an ask to an account saying "this fandon has shit taste". This is because 65.8% of the votes (111 votes, just for the record, which shouldn't be, like, even 1% of the Horizontes fandon) had marked the option "Wtf that shit's illegal"

I don't want to talk about this ship anymore, but there are people out there who ship it, so, HERE WE GO I GUESS

(Warning: Some really angry text is below the line)

For me, and this is my opinion, the discussion of why Friede x Amethio is a horrible ship and deserves its own little corner of hell is no longer about age. It doesn't matter if Amethio is of age and legally an adult or not. This doesn't change the following facts that every episode Ametio has appeared in so far keeps throwing in our faces:

1- Amethio is, EMOTIONALLY, much more immature than Friede. Friede provokes Amethio, and he falls. When Amethio tried to instigate Friede in episode 25, Friede literally responded "I'm not a kid anymore to fall for that kind of provocation". This is the script throwing in your face how far from emotional maturity the two are

2 - Friede doesn't treat Amethio with respect. He continues making fun of him, annoying him and irritating him. Whether it's on purpose or not is beside the point: if it is, it's because Friede is really an asshole, and if it's not, it's because Friede can't realize that his actions are affecting someone else in an extremely negative way (which also It's a horrible option!!!)

I wanted to be calmer in my first post on the subject, but I'm stressed today and I don't need someone calling the fandon "dummies" because they don't agree with the crap ship you like. People have tastes. People have their own ideas. People have their own interpretations of media. There are people who see the things I just mentioned and see "enemies to lovers", when it is an extremely toxic and unbalanced relationship. EVEN IF BOTH OF THEM WERE ADULTS IT WOULD STILL BE TOXIC AND UNBALANCED. I want Amethio to become an RVT, but first Friede will have to work hard to redeem himself for all the stress he put Amethio through and the way he treated him.

And as for Amethio x Liko, I prefer to think of them as friends/sibling. The two are very similar, and with each passing day a new parallel between them appears. They're basically a walking "two sides of the same coin", and I really want to see how their dynamic continues (especially after ep 46)

Then that's it. I hate Friede x Amethio. I don't care about Liko x Amethio. I don't care if you think Amethio is of age, if he's 30 years old or if he's someone's reincarnation. His relationship with Friede is toxic, unbalanced, and Amethio needs distance from that idiot with aviator glasses, not a romantic relationship with him.

Now I'm going to do my homework

And please, don't reblog this post or comment on this post to say that I'm wrong and that Friede x Amethio is good. I am a 16 year old girl. If someone treated me the way Friede treats Amethio, I would react the same way he did. Maybe a little worse. And I definitely wouldn't want people shipping me with that person.

I hope this is the last post I make on this subject. From now on, let's talk about how the sky is blue or how sperm whales are not whales but dolphins

[muiromem]

I hope some day that more people will understand that just because the internet allows for a wider array of world-wide communication and the ability to hide behind a username, doesn't mean you shouldn't still be a polite and considerate person.

Think of it this way: if you overheard a complete stranger standing in a public park, talking with their friends about their interests, would you go up to them and start nitpicking their opinion just because they're in a "public" space? Would you inject yourself, uninvited, into their conversation so that you could disagree with them? I hope not, because that would be incredibly rude.

"But people online aren't always talking directly to friends, sometimes they're just shouting into the public void"

Okay, then imagine if you saw someone standing in a public park with a sign that said "I love cats". Would you take this as an invitation to go and tell them why you hate cats? Would you start telling them why you think dogs are better pets and that they shouldn't be expressing their love for cats in front of everyone? No. Because someone expressing their opinion in a public space is not an invitation to start a debate with them.

Do you understand? Expressing an opinion is not the same as inviting debate or critique.

You can have a different opinion! There is nothing stopping you from going to the same public park and having your own "I hate cats" sign. You can even hold a club meeting or a public debate somewhere to find other people who want to discuss why you hate cats, and how dogs are better. The issue isn't about anyone's opinion being the "right" one, which is I think where some people get lost. It's about understanding when to share your opinions and when to stay in your own lane.

A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself: is this person expressing an opinion that is directly causing harm or inciting others to do so? No? Then stay in your own lane.

Ask yourself: Did this stranger ask for other people's opinions, or are they just expressing theirs? If it's the latter, stay in your own lane.

On the other hand, if you were standing with friends in a public park and were talking about a shared interest, would you be mad about a stranger approaching to tell you how much they also love said interest? No, because it's fun to share things you enjoy with people and thats how you meet new friends. But if that stranger approached you to tell you they hated the thing you're discussing, it would be considered very bad social behavior. There is no reason why the internet, which is also a shared public space, should be treated any different for socializing.

Also think about the difference in someone saying "I don't like this character" versus someone saying "this character is bad". The first is stating an opinion (whether it's "right" or "wrong" isn't the point), the second is taking an opinion and stating it as though it were a fact (something that I have often encountered in less pleasant fandom spaces).

So yeah, not to sound like some early 2000's internet etiquette campaign, but maybe think before you type and remember that the internet is full of actual humans and you should still be polite and considerate in how you interact with other members of society.

[ratofthewoods]

Istg I Google shit like this biweekly

[t4t4ever]

People have to realize the difference between being supportive and condescending to trans girls.

Like, saying “I’m so sorry, it is really hard to find bras that fit right, they’re not always made for cis girl’s bodies either” can be a comforting thing to say in the right context, but like “oh yeah everyone feels that way. That’s normal.” Is just dismissive and shitty. Like no it is worse actually!

[xo-goldengirl]

Sometimes you just gotta let people be loud and wrong.

[lesbianslovenamari]

This whole thing about Americanisation is really important I’m glad some people here have explained it so well

DO NOT LET SOCIAL MEDIA TURN YOU INTO AN AMERICAN

[heppileppi]

this is actually one of the very first tma comics i ever did but i never posted it because i’m ace and their relationship is special to me and it felt too vulnerable somehow lol

well now here you go, i hope you like it and i love you.

[mistyycowoa]

Y'all please stay safe

[lady-yfrit]

I couldn't agree with this more.

Going to make this a soapbox moment for this time because I've thought along these lines for a while but was never able to put it to succinctly and accurately as these two posts.

Like yeah, fuck these people and all of the fear and pain and suffering and outright deaths their cult causes, they deserve to be cussed out and ostracized.

But ultimately... do we want the emotional satisfaction of cussing them out like they deserve?.. Or do we want them to stop supporting their cult, and for that cult to fall out of power and never return?

People are stupid, stubborn, selfish animals, insult them, threaten them for what they vote for and they'll just dig in harder.

I mean just consider if say libertarian tried to convince you to vote their way by calling you insults and calling you a commie and all sorts of things. Now consider if they just had a conversation with them where they laid out their values with minimal judgement. Which one of these two is more likely to get you to consider their point of view?

It's not fucking fair that they don't see it on their own, that they won't register the fear and pain that their support of the ideology causes, and that the insults that I too feel the need to think of will just make everything worse, that the only way to make things better is to try to be far more patient, understanding and graceful than many of them are, in a way that many of us can't.

But that is how it is.

And ultimately we get to decide if we want to pick fights with them wherever we see them because it makes us feel better, or if we want to try to invest the effort to change their minds and try to build a better tomorrow before they all die of old age.

I don't blame anyone for not having it in them and just feeling violent and angry or threatened and afraid or any number of combinations of negative emotions, because you frankly should feel these things with people that support an ideology that has it out for you, but ultimately when it comes to your direct environment and people you interact with online... just try to consider the posts above.

If you decide to have at it anyway, fair enough. But if all things considered you're willing to not get into it with somebody...

Might I give some advice:

Not everyone has (or needs to have) the energy to thoughtfully respond to republicans on the Internet. You do not have to do that.

But some people do, and can. And I think we gotta let them.

An example:

I have a former teacher, I'll call her Grace, who is an incredibly kind woman in her 70s. Devout catholic, had voted for various parties over the years, but has been pretty strictly democrat over the past 15-20 because that aligns with her values of kindness and service.

She shared a post about the pope's recent letter and expressed that she agreed with his concerns about how trump is treating immigrants. A friend of hers commented a long paragraph basically saying "dear Grace I care for you but I don't understand how you can be a Christian and a democrat. Blah blah abortion blah blah gender blah blah drugs."

Grace replied "I'm very busy right now but I am going to respond to you soon with my thoughts". When she did it was an incredibly generous, rational monologue that connected with this person's humanity, their shared religious values, and made a beautiful case for why she supports who she does. I didn't agree with a good half of what she said as I am not a Christian, but the result was an expression of values that I think put her on the side of justice and compassion.

The person replied and thanked her and said she had a lot to think about. It was probably the best case scenario for a Facebook politics conversation

You know what came very close to ruining it? A bunch of (mostly younger) people piling on with "fuck you you racist maga pos" and "no one has to explain anything to you, go to hell" etc etc. Even after Grace wrote that she intended to reply herself.

I watched this republican respond to all the easy, quick insults by saying "this is why I don't think any democrats can be Christian, this is how you all speak to me." If Grace hadn't put so much work into writing her response in a way that was tailored to fit this person, I would not be surprised if that person left Facebook doubly certain that Christian nationalism is the way to go.

I'm not saying we can't cuss out jackasses. I'm not saying everyone needs to respond to bad faith arguments like Grace did or use their time like she did.

But this was on Grace's Facebook page, and interrupted the work she already volunteered to do. Just so these individuals could feel like they "did something" and got a shot off at an enemy.

I think that's selfish and childish and unproductive. They could have said anything they wanted in their own space, but they made grace's job harder for no fuckin reason. And then "loved" her reply and said "that was beautiful Grace, thank you for sharing your thoughts"

Like... Buddies. Pals. If someone volunteers to scrub the toilet fucking let them.

[pilferingapples]

once again begging people to not post their plans to commit crimes/ admit to committing crimes on tumblr

and especially don't post about your friends committing crimes on tumblr please,