#especially for an introvert

[shyspider]

Howdy Shy! You had An Incident during the holidays??? Is everything okay? Are /you/ okay?

~Smooch

Oh no, it was nothing terribly serious - sorry if it came off like that. Super sorry.

It's just the usual with my extended family. They are exhausting to put up with, among other things that really get under my skin and push my boundaries.

But it's over. Holidays are done. I'm home where I can relax with a warm cup of let-go-of-that-bullshit tea and watch my dog play in the snow with reckless abandon.

[purplesaline]

In Canada, at least, a person's reasonable expectation of privacy can extend to public places depending on a few different factors. The most obvious case being recorded voyeurism (recording breasts/butts/upskirts/etc per R v. Jarvis, 2019 SCC 10)

While R v. Jarvis was a voyeurism case the expanded definition of reasonable expectation of privacy can be applied to any public situation a person would generally expect to not be recorded, such as in a waiting room of a doctoes office, or even on public transit depending on the context of the recording and how it was used.

Additionally Canadians have Personality Rights, also known as Right of Publicity, which allow us to control the commercial use of our identity (likeness, image, name, etc).

Which means it very well can be illegal (in criminal or civil law) for someone to record you in public and then post that recording online.

For a criminal suit you'd need to show that you've been harmed by the recording and that you had a reasonable expectation of privacy (dancing on a sidewalk would not qualify here)

For a civil suit you'd need to show the person who recorded you has profited from the recording (dancing on a sidewalk could qualify here)

Right of Publicity would also apply to someone taking a video you'd posted online and profiting from it, though I don't know how jurisdiction would apply with that.

Reasonable Expectation of Privacy would also likely apply if someone hacked into the cloud where you'd stored any photos/videos (provided the cloud storage was located in Canada, or other jurisdictional criteria was met).

I know there are other countries with laws that protect folks against being recorded in public as well.

So if you aren't in the US, don't automatically assume you aren't protected from stuff like this. Check the laws in your area, there may be something that can be done about it.

i hate the "meta glasses" with their invisible cameras i hate when people record strangers just-living-their-lives i hate the culture of "it's not illegal so it's fine". people deserve to walk around the city without some nameless freak recording their faces and putting them up on the internet. like dude you don't show your own face how's that for irony huh.

i hate those "testing strangers to see if they're friendly and kind! kindness wins! kindness pays!" clickbait recordings where overwhelmingly it is young, attractive people (largely women) who are being scouted for views and free advertising . they're making you model for them and they reap the benefits. they profit now off of testing you while you fucking exist. i do not want to be fucking tested. i hate the commodification of "kindness" like dude just give random people the money, not because they fucking smiled for it. none of the people recording has any idea about the origin of the term "emotional labor" and none of us could get them to even think about it. i did not apply for this job! and you know what! i actually super am a nice person! i still don't want to be fucking recorded!

& it's so normalized that the comments are always so fucking ignorant like wow the brunette is so evil so mean so twisted just because she didn't smile at a random guy in an intersection. god forbid any person is in hiding due to an abusive situation. no, we need to see if they'll say good morning to a stranger approaching them. i am trying to walk towards my job i am not "unkind" just because i didn't notice your fucked up "social experiment". you fucking weirdo. stop doing this.

[tired-fandom-ndn]

So much of Dungeon Meshi before Falin's revival is from the perspective of people who fundamentally misunderstand her as a person and this is really obvious in how they treat Laios versus how they treat Falin, despite the two of them being so similar.

Falin's weirdness and autism are cute and quirky because she's a quiet and pretty woman. Laios' weirdness and autism, despite being pretty much the exact same as Falin's, are creepy and suspicious because he's a big and (kinda) outspoken man.

I do think that Marcille (and Shuro too) genuinely loves Falin but that she's also very willfully blind to the "weird" and "bad" parts of her, the same things that make Marcille recoil when coming from Laios.

[cams-cozy-corner]

Statement I feel needs to be said, headcanoning a character as an age regressor is NOT the same as infantilizing them

[galacticlestell]

i was way too nervous to post my m&g pics on here before,, but here are some of them 6 years later !! they’re so smiley and sweet :’) ohh i miss them </3

[king-crawler]

hey, even if you end up not doing some entries for the sake of the length of the video, could you post the full uncut version of the iceberg with all the entries?

Probably not, sorry :[ Do keep in mind I'm not cutting out any entries because of length (i love long iceberg videos), more so just keeping the ones that I personally think would make for an interesting topic / cool discussion, which will be like 99% of them anyways bc diving into fandom culture is fun ! If it helps I don't think I'll be deleting anything on the public iceberg, I think I'll probably just make a copy of it and use that one for my (hypothetical) video. I might also combine a few entries, idk yet we'll see! I hope that's not upsetting :') Again I still don't know if I'm making this thing but it seems fun in concept, I'll just have to find the time which might be a while... Regardless I do appreciate the entries that have showed up and how its filled up so fast ❤️ I genuinely can't believe how much stuff showed up that I'd never heard of before

[entryn17]

sans is not a bad guy by any means but i loooove when people explore his potential of being morally gray like yes girl give us nothing! jelly moral backbone extravaganza!

[lyss-butterscotch]

Ah yes being an introvert and difficulty remembering faces is not a good mix

[faysgeekystuff]

Francesca Bridgerton has SAD

This new season of Bridgerton has been absolutely amazing with Polin, Eloise scenes, Violet being Violet, and, of course, Francesca Bridgerton. She is such an interesting character to me, and extremely relatable to many people. She has become my favorite character in the franchise due to how much I relate.

I think everyone agrees that she is an introvert, it's been confirmed by Julia Quinn and everything. Having her social battery run out, enjoying solitary activities such as piano forte, being overstimulated by crowds, needed time to herself, preferring to be a wallflower, sitting in companionable silence ect. She is very different from her sibling, and it's refreshing to see an introvert in the Bridgerton family.

One thing I couldn't help but notice is the anxiety she has when she's social. Now someone isn't necessarily neurodivergent or has a mental health issue if they're an introvert but there is a higher likelihood because of how many signs overlap. Francesca is a character that I've noticed many people, introverts or nuerodivergent people especially, relate to. I honestly think it's amazing! But I haven't seen many people talk about the clear signs of anxiety she has.

She fidgets a lot in social situations, avoids eye contact, anxiously follows social situations until she's told by someone it's okay to take a break or to go play piano. Avoids being social but will mentally prepare herself if she has to go to events. She wants to be done with these situations as quickly as socially possible, which we see when she leaves multiple balls early. There are so many signs but the biggest one for me is the faces she makes.

Hannah Dodds has done an amazing job showing the rich internal life of Francesca. The faces she makes show clear thought and internal dialogue without any of it having to leave her mouth. The anxiety she has before meeting the queen and having everyone look at her, the panic when she is surrounded by multiple suitors who don't follow her practiced dialogue (they went off script!), the relief when she finally has time for herself and can get away, the nervousness when she's dancing with a suitor because if she messes up everyone will see and judge her. All of it leads me to believe that she is a very socially anxious person.

All in all, I see her as an introverted person with Social Anxiety Disorder and relate to her so much because of it. It's something more people should talk about. When we see Social Anxiety on screen or in TV it's almost always someone who never leaves the house or has a panic attack when people start talking to them. It's almost always portrayed as debilitating and generally becomes the personality or quirk of the character. There definitely are some people like that but SAD is often fairly functional. We can go to social events, talk to people, be in a crowd, ect.

A lot of the time an underlaying anxiety throughout the interaction and you have an internal monologue telling you to not to mess up. To avoid judgement. Asking if this is okay to do? Do i look weird doing this? Are they laughing at me? When is it okay to leave? Can I go to the bathroom now or is the timing weird? Am I making eye contact too long or too little? Can i find somewhere away from people? Most of that stays internal but it can have few outwards signs. Things like avoiding eye contact, or figeting, making a face, trying to find a way to escape a conversation. All things we see Francesca do. It's so nice to see a mild form of social anxiety on screen for a change. Someone who can live their life despite the anxiety and is so much more than just their disorder.

Even if you don't agree with me and you think she's just an introvert, or she's shy, or she's on the spectrum, or anything else. I find it amazing how many people see themselves in her. That she can be seen in so many different ways, and have so many people love her without being a loud or gregarious person. She's quiet and has a rich internal life, and so many of us love her for it.

[mystilotls]

Is this something?

[eugeniedanglars]

if you ever feel like you’re bad at your job just remember that joe jonas’ own pr team managed to turn the internet’s view of him from completely neutral to public enemy number one in the span of 48 hours

[canisalbus]

I don't know if you'll ever see this, but i just binge reblogged almost your whole tumblr and i thought i should leave a little something before i go again. I already came and went, seeing your art around so many times that it didn't feel right to just close the door behind me once more. I've followed you around ever since i was 11 years old, from Deviantart and across the internet. I'm 24 now. Your art inspired me to draw. There were times when i forgort about your art and was suddenly reunited with it again through pinterest, through tumblr, through a post on Twitter and went "oh it's CanisAlbus again!" You may never know me. We may never talk or get to know each other, but isn't it so amazing that even without knowing, something so simple as a guy sketching silly dogs on the internet can influence other people's lifes across the globe? Never doubt yourself.

Thank you for taking the time to leave me a little note, I'm very moved by your words! It's always very sobering to hear that you or your creations have been a significant part of someone's life. I guess I've been posting art for a long-ish time now so it shouldn't be that big of a surprise that there are people that have known my work for a good while, but it's still hard to conceptualize.

[kurthummeldeservesbetter]

literally every character in arcane is so compelling because Ambessa is clearly the most manipulative and power-hungry characters (willing to put her daughter in danger to get power) but she also fucks twinks on the regular and has the actual skills and intelligence to back up her claims. shes evil but damn shes hot and interesting. (also her music video slaps). shes committed war crimes but also walks around naked and has a body like a marble statue.

and like. Sevika, who was at first just someone who switched sides in S1A1 for power/control, now is helping and defending the girl who cant seem to die/literally is the reason she doesnt have both her arms. she gambles and is a regular at a sex club. shes also very level-headed, smart, and only wants whats best for zaun even if it means war.

not to mention Mel, who is introduced as this like manipulative and "only in it for the power" councilwoman but is very intelligent, is wary of war because she knows what it does to people, wants peace, is willing to stand for her morals even when others are against her, and knows there are greater evils out there and is willing to do whatever she can to make sure they dont happen. shes also gorgeous. holy shit.

[icewindandboringhorror]

a quite simple outfit, trying to use the little blue and white apron thing (which is actually a dress I think, that I just leave un-buttoned in the back and added an apron-like tie to lol)

[seokmattchuus]

No bc the "beef" between jiyoon and jungeun is so 💀 You pit TEEN girls against each other and expect them to stay cute and cuddly?? I've seen teen girls fight over less please

[myfriendstoldmenotto]

Question, how do you make fandom friends in real life?? Like I don’t like talking to people but i need someone to talk about fandoms, I’m going to go insane