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duodusk · 2 years ago

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i think it should be normal to send out little surveys asking people what they thjnk about you . BTW

#txt #rgh dumb post but the thing i want to taok about i couldnt think of a way to phrase it #its so hard to manage like. being incredibly autistic about an interest you can only talk to one person about #because I don't want to be annoying or burn them out of it but its what my brain is latched on to rn #wahh #i was gonna post somehting like. 'sorry for being autistic do you still tjink im hot' but im NOT!!! sorry for being autistic i just #dont want to be overbearing #lol #but whateverrr whateverrrrrr at least i habe this blog to post shit onto #i wish it was easier to just like. ask ppl where theyre at with certain things or how ive been acting and not have it #inherently come with expectations or connotations that im trying to guilt them about it or that its something THEY did to make me feel this #because its literally not its all in my head i just want to know what ppl think of me for . like research #i feel that way with mutuals too i want to invite mutuals to talk to me and send asks but i dont want to be presumptuous #idk what/how often ppl think about me and its not something easy to ask bc of the way itll be interpreted #life is hard FOREVER !!! why is it so hard to communicate #anywayyyyy anywayyyyy #hi

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slavhew · 5 months ago

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fun fact the word "dirk" sounds exactly like the root of the croatian verb "drkati" which means to jack off

get the dirk brush here

#homestuck #hs #hom3stuck #home24uck #home2t4ck #dirk strider #self #admin draws #fanart #yeah like idk anymroe #TTAC #assorted. dortles. that ive been forgettting to post #sigh i gotta be real! i saw a post comparing the common reblog to like ratio in 2014 vs now #and i noticed the same pattern applies to my art obviously ofdkgjjg of there being like a lot fewer rbs than there are likes #and its been kind of a thorn in my eye looking at my notifs the last few days. hence i wasnt very motivated to post #cause its like figure out how to group stuff together for posting so its mutually related then format tag and bla bla bla #anyways i wasnt feeling it #i think my exams are affecting me too s well as pms so like dont mind me too much #i didnt wanna whinge in a separate post but its been eating at me a little so. compromise #i wanted to do a separate one thanking the ppl who consistently leave tags because i do see you! and i appreciate you so much #i have to resist the urge to reply to them lolol thats a lot more overbearing sounding than just replying under posts or to comments on twt #sorry 4 no fun tags this time around. hopefully the fact is fun enough.#also til you can just. add a hyperlink to a word by highlighting it and doing ctrl+v. crayzey

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ourhouseishaunted · 7 months ago

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people acting as if laios can Do No Wrong and infantilizing him because he is autistic are annoying as hell. especially because laios belongs to my favorite genre of character: "person who desperately wants friends and deep relationships because they're lonely, and while part of their problems stem from people not wanting to understand them and refusing to meet them where they are, they also genuinely come across in a way where you Completely Understand why others can get turned off from them"

#.txt #dungeon meshi #laios #like. okay. i think its a very autistic experience to Want People In Your Life So Badly but because you act differently and have a hard time #with social cues you dont get that easy friendship and it sucks and youre lonely as hell #<- source: im autistic #but ALSO. i think some people forget that missing social cues genuinely makes you rude. even if you dont mean it #intent goes a long way but sometimes the autistic experience is realizing that Unfortunately You May Have Been A Dick #or that being intense or overbearing or disregarding boundries you dont know are there Drives People Away #like idk i think wanting people to look deeper and see whats worthwhile about you while also realizing youve unintentionally #driven people away #and that you can be misunderstood AND need to improve how you treat people #is an interesting story (growing as a person while also understanding that you were worthwhile the whole time even if others didnt see it)#on TOP of being a. idk more true to life autism expereince at least for me #and characters who have these kinds of arcs are really fascinating to me and i think theres a lot of nuance to them #and idk it sucks when people try to act as if lack of malicious intent suddenly means everyone who doesnt love you unconditionally is wrong #to be clear sometimes its not the Neurodivergentisms that drive ppl away sometimes its smth else #but idk i find more nuanced approaches to characters like this feel much more engaging to me and its lame when it seems like ppl go out #of their way to remove nuance from characters :/

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rouge-the-bat · 1 year ago

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i absolutely love kurama and hiei being a bit yandere towards each other while the other is like FUCK thats hot

#a bit creepy and possessive over each other #trying to restrain themselves bc they dont want to be overbearing or make the other uncomfortable #but it doesnt take them long to realize the other gets excited seeing how crazy they get over them 😍😍#hiei #kurama #kurahi #youko kurama #shuichi minamino #yyh #yu yu hakusho

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huntershowl · 5 months ago

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do y’all ever find yourselves like, structuring/regulating your excitability because you don’t want people to think you’re too much GFKSHDJD

#>> OUT.#{ like i don’t want to post too much. or with partners i dont know super well yet i dont want to be overbearing }#{ like literally i will time myself to make sure i dont interact too much too quickly bc i know that can be overwhelming #BUT ITS JUST interesting to realize that’s a behavior pattern and think on it. }#{ anyway good morning! today ya girl is gonna go hassle the government }

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fitzrove · 7 months ago

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Started watching a "problem with greek myth retellings" video and it began with a blurb montage like "Condemned by the misogynist guys of history, this is the true girlboss feminist story of [A WOMAN]" and like. brb writing one of those about crown prince rudolf. It's ok he's like a misunderstood girlboss to me<3

#NASJASKSDFKDSLFDGJDFJ #joking. since those retellings seem to be often bad #fun fact i do have ideas for like a black teen comedy series with mary as the protagonist where the ending is like a harrowing twist #like you think it won't go that far but it does and the point is that she had historical agency and her own problems and personal journey #but in the end it spiralled catastrophically due to both crown prince rudolf related events and others #unfortunately writing one would draw the ire of both misogynist rudolf conspiracy theorists (how dare you suggest women have agency) AND a #certain type of feminist media critiquer person: (1) how dare you cover a topic like that flippantly 2) how dare you make rudolf anything #but an inhuman monster of a r*pist murderer gr**mer or whatever in the story #like idk man.. other male characters portrayed as romantic interests in mainstream media are toxic r*pists all the time. like omg i hate ho #'the great' handles p*ter and catherine because i was rooting for them to remain toxic and for catherine to kill him or whatever but then #she starts falling in love with him in s2 and everyone in tumblr is like omg hot sexy toxic romance. like cant we have ONE series where #straight romance doesnt inevitably become the overbearing focus?? i had wlw ships for that show.. they never pulled through...#anyway um yeah. the way i would portray rudolf in that is that mary sees him as this romantic hero which is emphasised in the way its shot #but he's constantly acting in kinda offputting and strange ways and is occasionally pretty pathetic and weird ASHDJFJF #^^ that's never been a deterrent to anyone ever. most rudolf biographers want to [redacted] him this has been proven by the way they write.#the only ones that dont are me (well not a real biographer but a rudolf enjoyer nonetheless) and brigitte hamann /hj #(she actually doesnt salivate over his appearance like frederick morton does xD only quotes 2 contemporary women commenting on it)

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b00m-b0mb · 2 months ago

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Something really funny that's occurred to me is the way Joe talks about Maccie is like she's some catastrophic event that happened to their family "I can't believe she's been here that long." / "Everything's been different since she was born" / "Everything changed." / "She changed everything."

And it's just rlly funny to me. I want to up the dramaticness of his words at some point. And anyway, he's talking to the Samurai/Ronin for the first time and I'm wondering the impression he's getting lmao

Joe is certainly expressive to me, but only when he's given the chance. And I think w Ronin, he just started letting a lot of stuff out bc thus guy is gonna go on his way anyways.. but then he's like wait!!! Actually let me go?? For a little? (Platonic yearning so bad)

Ronin like 》^. "I suppose.. Alright, curious karate man, I'll accompany you a little longer."

Or something I'm messing around UGH

#the reason everything changed is bc joes mother passed away either shortly after Maccies birth or during #that started the strain w joe and sr but they also had.. her yk? its just sillay #dysfunctional karate family ily <3 #sr isnt a terrible father he is just narrow sighted and firmly believes he knows best. he doesnt give his kids the room to grow- but he #really loves them. he just wants to protect them in a way i think.. he just lost his wife and i think that made his parenting way more #overbearing. buT ALSO. JOE JUST BEEFS W MACCIE BC YK SJXNXNX theyre siblings #espexially when they were younger. teen joe is sooo funny to me. teen angst ft this baby i dont want in my room KGLZLGKXMVKKC #in current theyre much much closer and Joe has remained Maccie's favorite person. but Joe still gets really annoyed / tired of her sometime #SRRY ugh ily karate family #also also ronin and maccie dynamic so real. i like ronin being patient with children. except maccie is wayyyy more antagonizing to him than #like my oc the lost girl. so fun!!!! sorry #karate maccie #rh head canon #< new tag #karate joe #sr isnt a bad dad on purpose agenda. sr could have the possibility to apologize and fix things one day.#maccies only ever known this version of her father and she doesnt have the capaxity to try and forgive him for certain things joe will #maccie is the golden child but she is also the problem child. she uses her favor to her advantage and to rile up her dad sometimes #just bevause she can and she has a little bit of a problem with him sometimes bc.. you know? shes a very ambitious teen and she doesnt wsnt #to be shackled..... and she doesnt like thinking of Joe as that way and UGH #i love them im normal #to elaborate a tiny bit more i hc joe as having chronic fatigue like myself. hes low spoons and he pushes himself despite it.#but his disability holds him back sometimes snd its like.. you know? he doesnt want to be the weak memver of the family so he keeps pushing #but he also cares about karate too. its not something negative to him. and stuff. even if its hard. its avtually good for his body / health #when he doesnt overexert himself anyway

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the-gayest-sky-kid · 2 months ago

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who CARES that he killed people he was being a silly goober okay

#pinching his cheeks like an overbearing grandma #have i talked about how i love dazai #i know i dont bring it up that much 💔 but i realllyyyy love dazai #free my boy he did all of it and i want to give him a lollipop and a little star sticker that says good job #posting posting 💕

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why-its-kai · 17 days ago

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ocd is winning today 😔

#i hate how worried i am rn but i dont want to be annoyng and overbearing abt it

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toytulini · 3 months ago

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name some canonically nonbinary characters why dont you

#toy txt post #those 'name 10 female characters' posts got me rolling my eyes again. just ultimate performative bullshit huh #its giving i think picking a favorite blorbo os activism. by shipping an appropriate amount of femslash in a way that is genuine #but not overbearing or that might be fetishizing! and im not forgetting the characters for the ships not like those nasty m/m shippers!#and by doing this i will reinstate abortion rights. with my Feminist Tastes. im putting words in ppls mouths and being petty but good god #like everyday this shits on my dash. can you all just start blocking the annyoing misogynist m/m shippers you dislike then?#'dont name a male character you just call babygirl' are you normal about trans headcanons? im sure im SURE you are getting the most #annoying fuckers in the world in your notes just calling male characters babygirl without it being a trans headcanon but i have seen so #many posts of this flavor now. are you consuming media correctly? are you consuming the correct media correctly? are you doing it right?#are you meeting your ship quota? are you caring about the characters outside of their ships enough? are you shipping the characters of #color the right amount the right ways to the right characters but not too much cos that might be fetishy? are you headcanoning them aspec?#are YOU aspec? we'll give you a begrudging pass for headcanoning marginalized characters as Aspec MAYBE but dont get too annoyed about #seeing ships and you have to be so polite about everyone equating aspec headcanons with infantilization with no thought to the irony that #in doing so theyre infantilizing aspecs. its honestly 50/50 if you get a pass to headcanon a character as aspec. but we will talk about #doing so as a one to one example of writing the character out of the way of your ship. you and i are not the same. name ten female #characters. name 5 of their albums and recite all the lyrics from memory. produce 5 pieces of heartfelt fic or fanart to prove your genuine #love of the character. are you going to be normal about it if someone names a cano ically male character they headcanon as a trans fem?#or will you start on some shit about how that doesnt count cos shes not a real girl? or do you know better than to say that bc that would #be genuinely shitty. are you doing it right? are you doing it right? are you doing it right? prove your fandom activism to me. write a #feminist retelling of the narrative. what if i name 10 female characters that im headcanoning as transmasc or nonbinary and calling them #babygirl? are you doing it right? am i doing it right yet? am i performing fan engagement correctly?#am i correctly engaging with fan content? is this going to please your algorithm? but not too much. just a little spicy. a little punk. but #not so much i get banned from the platform. for fandom. am i doing it right? are you shipping Pure and Wholesome Ships?#are you Cool and Edgy? do you only ship characters that hate each other that kill each other that are siblings that are problematic? have #you gone so far the other way you think youre cool to scoff at those silly tiktok puritans who only ship pure ships? you wont even think #about a show if its Politically correct you want it to call you a slur. cos youre tough and cool not like those mentally weak uncritical #tiktok puriteens. are you winning son? are you winning? are you having fun yet? are you doing it right? pass my gauntlet #are you a fake nerd girl? name five obscure comics characters to prove youre a real fan. do you hate women? are you winning?#are you winning at correctly engaging with media content? do you get a sticker? is there a sticker for naming 10 female characters? what #about 20. do you completly write off media with Less Women? put your money where your mouth is then. ship the girls in fast and furious

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doyeons · 3 months ago

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i need to find the trick to not feeling annoying and not feeling like a loser bc it’s holding me back so bad

#bella.txt #like it’s a cycle.. i want to show ppl love -> i feel annoying/overbearing -> i get anxious and back way off -> our connection weakens #of the other way.. i feel like a loser bc im 25 and have no romantic experience -> i get too scared to put myself out there bc i’m a loser #how do i get out of this spiral like ill never stop losing connections with friends and loved ones if i dont stop feeling annoying #and i won’t ever get in a position to even like.. date if i can’t stop feeling like too much of a loser to put myself out there #hits myself on the head STOP FEELING LAME THINGS

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waywardsalt · 3 months ago

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link being in a position of authority (first mate) in post ph is so interesting is that even something he’s cut out for. with the composition and whatnot of the post ph crew its not like he has to be an actual authority figure but at the end of the day he’s higher ranked than damien and bellum. linebeck probably talks to him the most about sailing and adventuring plans and he likely gets a lot of input on what they do. he probably stays in charge of the cannon. also least assigned to swabbing the deck probably but i doubt he dislikes doing it