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i think it should be normal to send out little surveys asking people what they thjnk about you . BTW
#txt#rgh dumb post but the thing i want to taok about i couldnt think of a way to phrase it#its so hard to manage like. being incredibly autistic about an interest you can only talk to one person about#because I don't want to be annoying or burn them out of it but its what my brain is latched on to rn#wahh#i was gonna post somehting like. 'sorry for being autistic do you still tjink im hot' but im NOT!!! sorry for being autistic i just#dont want to be overbearing#lol#but whateverrr whateverrrrrr at least i habe this blog to post shit onto#i wish it was easier to just like. ask ppl where theyre at with certain things or how ive been acting and not have it#inherently come with expectations or connotations that im trying to guilt them about it or that its something THEY did to make me feel this#because its literally not its all in my head i just want to know what ppl think of me for . like research#i feel that way with mutuals too i want to invite mutuals to talk to me and send asks but i dont want to be presumptuous#idk what/how often ppl think about me and its not something easy to ask bc of the way itll be interpreted#life is hard FOREVER !!! why is it so hard to communicate#anywayyyyy anywayyyyy#hi
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best way for me to keep and maintain some kind of peace and stable state of mind for me ever since my mum died has been uninstalling most social media apps. I reinstalled some stuff today and have seen ppl have been trying to talk to me including on here but I really think for the new year I'm staying away from social media for as much as i can otherwise I'll just continue to compare myself to other people and not do anything of substance.
still working on my neocities because that's been on my list of things to do for years but that's probably going to be my main place to be if I come online. I'm not anti social media (clearly) but it leaves me so unproductive I feel useless and awful and I'm already trying to hold myself together and make it to the end of year without walking off the edge lol.
I won't lie I still don't have the energy to talk to anybody although I appreciate the messages. wish ppl would be ok with just communicating via letter 😭 instead of worrying about people thinking I hate them for taking a while to respond.
#will probably come back on new years eve but i like not being online. or atleast not sitting on social media all day#the discourse. the lowering of my self esteem that it causes. its just overbearing sometimes. i would quit social media#all together but everybody i know talks to me via Instagram or tumblr or discord or whatever and i dont even want to use these#apps or sites anymore they tire me so much especially right now#atp im just keeping social media around for talking and for future jobs idk
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fun fact the word "dirk" sounds exactly like the root of the croatian verb "drkati" which means to jack off
get the dirk brush here
#homestuck#hs#hom3stuck#home24uck#home2t4ck#dirk strider#self#admin draws#fanart#yeah like idk anymroe#TTAC#assorted. dortles. that ive been forgettting to post#sigh i gotta be real! i saw a post comparing the common reblog to like ratio in 2014 vs now#and i noticed the same pattern applies to my art obviously ofdkgjjg of there being like a lot fewer rbs than there are likes#and its been kind of a thorn in my eye looking at my notifs the last few days. hence i wasnt very motivated to post#cause its like figure out how to group stuff together for posting so its mutually related then format tag and bla bla bla#anyways i wasnt feeling it#i think my exams are affecting me too s well as pms so like dont mind me too much#i didnt wanna whinge in a separate post but its been eating at me a little so. compromise#i wanted to do a separate one thanking the ppl who consistently leave tags because i do see you! and i appreciate you so much#i have to resist the urge to reply to them lolol thats a lot more overbearing sounding than just replying under posts or to comments on twt#sorry 4 no fun tags this time around. hopefully the fact is fun enough.#also til you can just. add a hyperlink to a word by highlighting it and doing ctrl+v. crayzey
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people acting as if laios can Do No Wrong and infantilizing him because he is autistic are annoying as hell. especially because laios belongs to my favorite genre of character: "person who desperately wants friends and deep relationships because they're lonely, and while part of their problems stem from people not wanting to understand them and refusing to meet them where they are, they also genuinely come across in a way where you Completely Understand why others can get turned off from them"
#.txt#dungeon meshi#laios#like. okay. i think its a very autistic experience to Want People In Your Life So Badly but because you act differently and have a hard time#with social cues you dont get that easy friendship and it sucks and youre lonely as hell#<- source: im autistic#but ALSO. i think some people forget that missing social cues genuinely makes you rude. even if you dont mean it#intent goes a long way but sometimes the autistic experience is realizing that Unfortunately You May Have Been A Dick#or that being intense or overbearing or disregarding boundries you dont know are there Drives People Away#like idk i think wanting people to look deeper and see whats worthwhile about you while also realizing youve unintentionally#driven people away#and that you can be misunderstood AND need to improve how you treat people#is an interesting story (growing as a person while also understanding that you were worthwhile the whole time even if others didnt see it)#on TOP of being a. idk more true to life autism expereince at least for me#and characters who have these kinds of arcs are really fascinating to me and i think theres a lot of nuance to them#and idk it sucks when people try to act as if lack of malicious intent suddenly means everyone who doesnt love you unconditionally is wrong#to be clear sometimes its not the Neurodivergentisms that drive ppl away sometimes its smth else#but idk i find more nuanced approaches to characters like this feel much more engaging to me and its lame when it seems like ppl go out#of their way to remove nuance from characters :/
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I know everyone can have their own opinion and it was in part the intent to upset people with how the 118+Maddie reacts (especially Maddie), but I somehow didn't see that coming lol
#rrposts#like i also take issue with Maddie as an older sister sometimes#and what she did in the last chapter was Wrong#im not saying it wasnt#but it doesnt come out of nowhere#like she isnt saying all this about Buck or Eddie because she is a mean person who sucks and hates them for no reason#she wanted to amputate bc she is scared and has that history of Daniel being stuck in a hospital and dying leaving her in a broken home#and she is this upset with Eddie about it bc she literally had to kill doug like a few weeks ago#that was pretty recent people#like i cant believe im making a post defending Maddie#bc I actually dont always like her very much#i think she is an interesting character. but the way the show positions her sometimes makes me jikes especially in her relation with Buck#she is overbearing and thinks she knows best and that can be annoying#but she is like his mom bc she was forced into that as a kid#and sometimes she forgets that Buck has grown up#like my grandma still sometimes forgets im 22 not 8 and she has been there the whole time
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i absolutely love kurama and hiei being a bit yandere towards each other while the other is like FUCK thats hot
#a bit creepy and possessive over each other#trying to restrain themselves bc they dont want to be overbearing or make the other uncomfortable#but it doesnt take them long to realize the other gets excited seeing how crazy they get over them 😍😍#hiei#kurama#kurahi#youko kurama#shuichi minamino#yyh#yu yu hakusho
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do y’all ever find yourselves like, structuring/regulating your excitability because you don’t want people to think you’re too much GFKSHDJD
#>> OUT.#{ like i don’t want to post too much. or with partners i dont know super well yet i dont want to be overbearing }#{ like literally i will time myself to make sure i dont interact too much too quickly bc i know that can be overwhelming#BUT ITS JUST interesting to realize that’s a behavior pattern and think on it. }#{ anyway good morning! today ya girl is gonna go hassle the government }
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fighting to hold myself back from saying i love you every time he says something that reminds me of it
#boink#the thing is that i love telling my friends i love them#but some people im not sure how comfortable they are with that#like i dont want to overbear yk#anyway i love him a lot and he very often says things and i just#says something very characteristic of himself#and i kind of just#i---. you.... youre.. silly#sometimes all i can do is just look at him and try not to smile too broadly#its just hopeless and i know i love him as a friend and i care about him#but i am also seriously starting to worry that i am actually falling in love with him#i dont know if thats possible#i am probably overreacting#but hes so caring and smart and beautiful and blunt and clever and obtuse and radical and pragmatic and soft and loud and bright#and he makes me feel safe and worthwhile and important#and god of course hes not perfect#but is anyone?#i love being around him#talking about whatever. anything.#i could listen to him talk forever. he listens to me talk forever#about big things and small things and nothing#i love sitting with him and saying nothing#i love his high laugh and the way he waves with his fingers curled#i love the freckles on his neck and the five oclock shadow thats so light its only visible from up close#i love how he never lets me get left out of a group#i just love knowing him
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Started watching a "problem with greek myth retellings" video and it began with a blurb montage like "Condemned by the misogynist guys of history, this is the true girlboss feminist story of [A WOMAN]" and like. brb writing one of those about crown prince rudolf. It's ok he's like a misunderstood girlboss to me<3
#NASJASKSDFKDSLFDGJDFJ#joking. since those retellings seem to be often bad#fun fact i do have ideas for like a black teen comedy series with mary as the protagonist where the ending is like a harrowing twist#like you think it won't go that far but it does and the point is that she had historical agency and her own problems and personal journey#but in the end it spiralled catastrophically due to both crown prince rudolf related events and others#unfortunately writing one would draw the ire of both misogynist rudolf conspiracy theorists (how dare you suggest women have agency) AND a#certain type of feminist media critiquer person: (1) how dare you cover a topic like that flippantly 2) how dare you make rudolf anything#but an inhuman monster of a r*pist murderer gr**mer or whatever in the story#like idk man.. other male characters portrayed as romantic interests in mainstream media are toxic r*pists all the time. like omg i hate ho#'the great' handles p*ter and catherine because i was rooting for them to remain toxic and for catherine to kill him or whatever but then#she starts falling in love with him in s2 and everyone in tumblr is like omg hot sexy toxic romance. like cant we have ONE series where#straight romance doesnt inevitably become the overbearing focus?? i had wlw ships for that show.. they never pulled through...#anyway um yeah. the way i would portray rudolf in that is that mary sees him as this romantic hero which is emphasised in the way its shot#but he's constantly acting in kinda offputting and strange ways and is occasionally pretty pathetic and weird ASHDJFJF#^^ that's never been a deterrent to anyone ever. most rudolf biographers want to [redacted] him this has been proven by the way they write.#the only ones that dont are me (well not a real biographer but a rudolf enjoyer nonetheless) and brigitte hamann /hj#(she actually doesnt salivate over his appearance like frederick morton does xD only quotes 2 contemporary women commenting on it)
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Something really funny that's occurred to me is the way Joe talks about Maccie is like she's some catastrophic event that happened to their family "I can't believe she's been here that long." / "Everything's been different since she was born" / "Everything changed." / "She changed everything."
And it's just rlly funny to me. I want to up the dramaticness of his words at some point. And anyway, he's talking to the Samurai/Ronin for the first time and I'm wondering the impression he's getting lmao
Joe is certainly expressive to me, but only when he's given the chance. And I think w Ronin, he just started letting a lot of stuff out bc thus guy is gonna go on his way anyways.. but then he's like wait!!! Actually let me go?? For a little? (Platonic yearning so bad)
Ronin like 》^. "I suppose.. Alright, curious karate man, I'll accompany you a little longer."
Or something I'm messing around UGH
#the reason everything changed is bc joes mother passed away either shortly after Maccies birth or during#that started the strain w joe and sr but they also had.. her yk? its just sillay#dysfunctional karate family ily <3#sr isnt a terrible father he is just narrow sighted and firmly believes he knows best. he doesnt give his kids the room to grow- but he#really loves them. he just wants to protect them in a way i think.. he just lost his wife and i think that made his parenting way more#overbearing. buT ALSO. JOE JUST BEEFS W MACCIE BC YK SJXNXNX theyre siblings#espexially when they were younger. teen joe is sooo funny to me. teen angst ft this baby i dont want in my room KGLZLGKXMVKKC#in current theyre much much closer and Joe has remained Maccie's favorite person. but Joe still gets really annoyed / tired of her sometime#SRRY ugh ily karate family#also also ronin and maccie dynamic so real. i like ronin being patient with children. except maccie is wayyyy more antagonizing to him than#like my oc the lost girl. so fun!!!! sorry#karate maccie#rh head canon#< new tag#karate joe#sr isnt a bad dad on purpose agenda. sr could have the possibility to apologize and fix things one day.#maccies only ever known this version of her father and she doesnt have the capaxity to try and forgive him for certain things joe will#maccie is the golden child but she is also the problem child. she uses her favor to her advantage and to rile up her dad sometimes#just bevause she can and she has a little bit of a problem with him sometimes bc.. you know? shes a very ambitious teen and she doesnt wsnt#to be shackled..... and she doesnt like thinking of Joe as that way and UGH#i love them im normal#to elaborate a tiny bit more i hc joe as having chronic fatigue like myself. hes low spoons and he pushes himself despite it.#but his disability holds him back sometimes snd its like.. you know? he doesnt want to be the weak memver of the family so he keeps pushing#but he also cares about karate too. its not something negative to him. and stuff. even if its hard. its avtually good for his body / health#when he doesnt overexert himself anyway
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im watching mystery inc while im trying to unbury my room from the depression nest ive built in it and all of y'all saying Fred Jones Autistic were so right. this man is missing every social cue bc he cant think about anything other than traps. hes got a scrapbook of all his traps. hes got trap magazines. we love a special interest king
#dont like the velma as overbearing girlfriend thing though#its not reading as 'shes not getting the attention she needs' so much as like#shaggy doesnt even want this relationship he seems so uncomfortable every time shes anywhere near him#and maybe thats the point maybe they're going to address it??#but it feels weird. why is velma suddenly so obsessive and clingy
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ocd is winning today 😔
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i need to find the trick to not feeling annoying and not feeling like a loser bc it’s holding me back so bad
#bella.txt#like it’s a cycle.. i want to show ppl love -> i feel annoying/overbearing -> i get anxious and back way off -> our connection weakens#of the other way.. i feel like a loser bc im 25 and have no romantic experience -> i get too scared to put myself out there bc i’m a loser#how do i get out of this spiral like ill never stop losing connections with friends and loved ones if i dont stop feeling annoying#and i won’t ever get in a position to even like.. date if i can’t stop feeling like too much of a loser to put myself out there#hits myself on the head STOP FEELING LAME THINGS
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link being in a position of authority (first mate) in post ph is so interesting is that even something he’s cut out for. with the composition and whatnot of the post ph crew its not like he has to be an actual authority figure but at the end of the day he’s higher ranked than damien and bellum. linebeck probably talks to him the most about sailing and adventuring plans and he likely gets a lot of input on what they do. he probably stays in charge of the cannon. also least assigned to swabbing the deck probably but i doubt he dislikes doing it
#post-ph#salty talks#god my tags have been a mess recently i think. rn trying to figure out post ph link’s wholr deal#its probably a mix of linebeck trusting him a lot and his experience letting him be someone to trust when it comes to what they come across#while also linebeck quietly using that role as an excuse to get him out of the longer and intensive tasks bc like. kid’s like twelve#i do think during ph linebeck trusts in links ability to take care of himself and be mature (partially out of irresponsibility/ w/e)#but post ph he wants to give him more of a break and like. take care of him in a sense return the favor. link needs some recovery time too#damien probably takes some time before really taking him seriously and would listen to him mostly bc he trusts linebeck#but does later just trust link but offers to help a lot (a little overbearing i think he has an issue of overriding ppl so to say)#(i know what i mean bjt i dont thinm its clear. im typing on moblie and have little patienxe so im not explaining)#bellum just hates it and link hates him so the first mate and the eternal swabbie just have hateful staring matches half of the time#bellum usually ignores anything link tells him to do but oncd he settles in and starts like. being more open-minded? he respects him more#in an old version aryll joined the crew for a bit but that got trashed bc she is a bit young and the groups morals have dipped#and idk what id do with her yknow. its not off the table to have her tag along for a lil but as a crew member? nah#where was i going with this. crew ranking is linebeck > link > damien > bellum#idk what actual role damien has (tbh idk if swabbie is a real thing i just see it around) generally he just helps out with stuff#he helps with repairs and stuff since hes got some relevant experience
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my humble era is over, i now claim ownership over my faves and i Will be your voryn/phantom/hircine/fíli mutual. all yuor blorbos are belong me now
#/lh ofc#last year i was so dead set on not jumping on the trend of calling myself the ceo of a specific character#bc it felt rly rude and mean??? i want to share my faves not to hoard them and be an unpleasant overbearing presence in a fandom !!#but i think that. when i put so much of myself into a chara...and i flesh them out and develop them so differently from their canon source#then im allowed to be associated with said character without feeling guilty :')#everyone has their own interpretation of characters and mine just happen to be wildly different from both canon and fanon haha#mainly bc im a raging lesbian and i love all my faves being girlified#ill never refer to them as genderbent and i rly dont like that term#bc it would imply that my faves are cis men in canon and that i change them to be cis women#which isnt true! the whole thing is that i Dont see them as being cis men in canon#most of my faves arent human and the gender roles of irl white societies dont apply to them!!#ik im bad with wording but hopefully u get what i mean 😭#sorry about the word vomit its just how i am as a person fhshds#txt
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work tomorrow. goodnight friends!
#>> out.#>> tbd.#{ i have decided to try to be less annoying/overbearing SWEATS PROFUSELY —#i mean already; i don’t doubletext so if sb doesnt want to talk they can just not answer and i’ll stop BUT#I DONT WANT…. TO MAKE PPL FEEL LIKE. IDK#this is the most energetic ive ever been on this blog and the brain is judt starting to worry abt it ! }#{ it’s more the a) ooc posting and b) infodumping in plotting thats !! i feel bad doing }#{ but i think. maybe just posting less… calming down a bit… yk. }
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