#disclaimer: i am not trans

[friendraichu]

hey i haven't mentioned it because it hasn't felt real but i'm literally getting top surgery next week!! wowee!!!!!!

[bluemoth698]

Day 8: Mirror

Drew my character, Kiyoko, discovering things about herself.

[gloaming-sometimes]

dear lesboy (and tbh any other nuanced identity) exclusionists who think your vein of thought is the majority in queer spaces id like to inform you that today at lunch with my (entirely queer) friend group the topic drifted to me being a butch lesbian and one friend goes "wait i thought you were a guy?" and i said "i am" and another friend interjected "dudes can be lesbians too" and that was that. no further probing about my identity, nohing about how im "invalidating transmen and lesbians", or whatever. everyone just accepted that thats how i identify and i dont owe an explanation for it and moved on. i promise u its not that deep 👍

[l0rd-0f-c0ws]

for some reason in class i just couldnt do anything but make weird isopod memes. heres all of them

Bonus horseshoe crab :)

[qitty-qat-quorra]

Breaking News: Local gaywad coming to a town near you!

Also check out my sick ass jacket I've been working on :)

Still wanna add more patches and spikes to it lol

[gay-otlc]

On Transmisogyny Exempt Privilege Dynamics

Introduction

I came across the article "On Transmisogyny Exempt Privilege Dynamics" and had a lot of thoughts about it. As a warning, this will include discussions of transphobia, intersexism and coercive gender assignment, violence, abuse, sexual assault, suicide, and misgendering.

Note on language 

This article uses transmisogyny affected (TMA) and transmisogyny exempt (TME) language throughout. I don’t entirely agree with the way the author uses these terms, but in addressing the article, I will use those same terms for consistency and to engage with what the author is saying. I have read a lot of varying perspectives on the use of TMA/TME language but I am not interested in discussing or debating the terms on this post; the ideas themselves are my focus.

The author uses TMA to refer to trans women and other trans people who were assigned male at birth, and trans TME to refer to trans men and other trans people who were assigned female at birth. Intersex people were not mentioned. 

The Disclaimer that apparently isn't

This isn’t an attack on the author. This isn’t an attack on trans women & fems. This isn’t an attack on transmisogyny theory. This isn’t an attack on TMA/TME language. This isn’t meant to be an attack at all. I think the author has good points to make about transmisogyny, particularly in this other article of hers. But I think their perception of the experiences of transmasculine and nonbinary people assigned female at birth is incomplete, and at times, entirely incorrect. I wanted to address these aspects of the article.

Aspects of the article to expand upon

TME trans people represent to the system the affirmation of the very rules that TMA people break and are severely punished for.

TMA people do challenge the societal rule that men are superior to women, referred to as the holy rule of patriarchy in “We Need To Talk About Transmisogyny.” In “choosing” to transition towards womanhood and/or away from manhood, TMA people are perceived as betraying the patriarchy, and punished for it. This is a major aspect of transmisogyny. 

It's also important to note: Trans women & fems also challenge societal rules of gender and sex, that one must fit into a strict gender and sex binary, and your gender must align perfectly with your sex assigned at birth. But TME trans people don’t affirm these rules. All trans people, and intersex people, break the rules of our cisnormative, intersexist society. 

Seen from the patriarchal and bio-essentialist perspective of wider society, the fact that women would rather be men is proof of male supremacy and is — often unconsciously — rewarded by society. They do also — consciously and unconsciously — stand out positively from their systemic inversion, TMA people, who betray male supremacy, whose femininity is considered a transgression, and whose rejection of manhood proves their derangement, dangerousness and untrustworthiness, as they fail to uphold the fundamental truth of patriarchy.

TMA people’s “betrayal” of male supremacy, as said above, is severely punished by society. But “women wanting to become men” aren’t rewarded. They threaten male supremacy as well; if “women” can be men, then how can men be biologically or inherently superior? The patriarchy believes that of course women want to be men, because men are superior, but women can’t actually be men. A woman who wants to be a man must be put back in her place.

Feminist inversion: Within liberatory (e.g. feminist, queer, trans, etc) spaces there usually is an inversion of the male/female hierarchy, privileging women and femininity over men and masculinity. Not as an alternative model to wider society, but as a corrective. These spaces too often trip over the complexities that transness introduces to the simplified models we all have internalized. Few of these spaces can avoid an implicit elevation of TME trans people based on their feminine association and policing TMA people because of their masculine association.

Demonization of perceived association with manhood and/or masculinity is a significant problem in feminist, queer, trans, etc spaces. TMA people are policed and punished as a result of this bias, especially if they are pre- or non-transitioning, and/or have a butch or masculine gender expression. And in many of those spaces, TMA people are viewed as a threat to cis women (and often TME trans people) as a result of transmisogynistic concepts of “AMAB socialization” or “male biology.” This is horrible and should not happen.

But this feminist inversion doesn’t universally elevate TME trans people. Trans men, and transmasculine people who come “too close” to manhood, are very frequently demonized and viewed as a threat in these spaces. In my experience, queer and trans people– even friends of mine– have encouraged me to identify as nonbinary, discouraged me from “becoming a man” because men are evil and dangerous. Moving away from womanhood, and especially “choosing” manhood, was seen as a betrayal of feminism. Most trans men & mascs I know have similar experiences.

For a lot of men their male privilege is curtailed by other axis of oppression. Disabled men, fat men, Black men, poor men, to name a few, especially when combined, experience a lot fewer benefits than the normative white men most people think about when they imagine an average holder of male privilege. Trans is just another modifier in the mix.

The crucial difference between marginalized cis men versus trans men is that, for otherwise marginalized cis men, they are still recognized as men. They may be seen as lesser men, inferior men, or failed men, but men nonetheless, or at least something close. Trans men, on the other hand, are not seen as the wrong type of man; we are seen as the wrong type of woman. As the author states earlier in the article: “They [society] do not recognize us as our self-determined genders or the intention behind and the meaning we give to our presentation and appearance.” 

Since they are, before and often even beyond transition, categorized as women by the system they are afforded access to women-only support, resources and spaces which would be denied to most — if not all — trans women independent of their transitions.

This isn’t always the case; especially after transitioning, trans men are very much denied access to women-only resources and spaces. See this article about transmasculine abuse survivors, and this personal experience of trying to find shelter for a homeless trans man.

And even when they aren’t denied access, that’s not a privilege. Being misgendered isn’t a privilege for anyone; not for nonpassing or closeted/boymoding TMA people, and not for TME people being forced into the category of “women.” TME trans people in these situations are forced to misgender and (re)closet themselves, and in some cases, detransition. 

It’s a major problem that trans women are denied access to “women only” spaces. They 100% should have access. But it’s not a privilege when trans men are afforded access (which is not always the case), at the expense of their own identity. 

Aspects of the article that are incorrect

That this difference is necessarily binary is often used as a supposed proof that the TMA/TME distinction was itself divisive— or worse. But the binary nature is a direct result of how transmisogyny works in society. It is to a large degree based on the binary of the “assigned sex at birth” (ASAB, either male (AMAB) or female (AFAB)), so naming and describing it cannot avoid binaries, lest we cease to talk about it altogether.

Unfortunately, assigned sex at birth is more of a binary than sex itself, as intersex people are sometimes given coercive treatments (nonconsensual surgery and hormones) to force them into a binary. But sex isn’t a binary. Defining TMA/TME as a sex based binary, without considering intersex people who don’t fit into that binary, is a crucial oversight on the author’s part. Intersex people deserve to be acknowledged and included in trans theory. 

There happens a weird and twisted fusion of the worst associations of men and women in TMA people and the best associations of both men and women in TME trans people.

The first part of that is true. The second part isn’t. Quite the opposite, in fact. TME trans people are hysterical, confused, stupid little girls who don’t know what’s best for them and need cis men to control their bodies. And TME trans people are disgusting, dangerous “men” who have mutilated themselves, and betrayed women to join the enemy. We also get the worst associations of both manhood and womanhood– just in a different form. 

Stereotypes and tropes about TME trans people being dangerous, scheming, untrustworthy, sexually perverted/predatory or vilifying them in other ways are all but unheard of.

What about "gender traitor" rhetoric? What about the view of trans MLW as perverted butch lesbians, or trans MLM as straight girls fetishizing "real" gay men? What about the fearmongering surrounding famous trans men & mascs on the internet, who are "convincing young girls to transition"? What about the negativity surrounding gender affirming surgery? What about the belief that testosterone makes someone violent and abusive? These stereotypes, though perhaps less prevalent than infantilizing claims that TME trans people are confused and can't think for themselves, absolutely exist.

Visibility

While often enviously and jealously lamented, TME trans people’s transition make them ultimately less visible and hence less of a target. 

The invisibility (erasure) of TME trans people doesn’t prevent the violence against us; it just means that the violence goes unaddressed, swept under the rug. Trans men and nonbinary people with "female" on their birth certificate experience extremely high rates of sexual assault, and trans men have higher rates of violence and abuse from people they live with (compared to trans women, who have higher rates of violence from people they don't live with). We're a less visible target, but a target nonetheless.

Of course, this isn’t to say that the increased visibility of TMA people is a privilege in the slightest. TMA people are subject to extreme negative attention and transmisogynistic portrayal, and it’s horrific. Erasure and hypervisibility are both weapons of transphobia, and they both cause us harm.

There is also a distinct lack of transantagonistic tendencies and movements putting any noticable focus on TME trans people. The maybe most famous transantagonistic movement, trans-exclusionary radical feminism (TERF), is almost exclusively concerned with antagonism against TMA people. TERFs do not treat TME trans people with hostility, but pity.

Transphobes, including TERFs, are focusing on TME trans people quite a bit. Just look at the rhetoric surrounding "rapid onset gender dysphoria" (ROGD) and Irreversible Damage, the rhetoric about how we are "mutilating our bodies" and "chopping off our beautiful breasts." JK Rowling's transphobic essay talks about how trans men are transitioning because they are confused, mentally ill, often autistic young girls who want to escape womanhood. TERFs want TME trans people to detransition and recloset themselves, something that would leave many of us horribly dysphoric and, in many cases, suicidal. How is trying to drive us to suicide not hostile? TME trans people can also be correctively raped by TERFs to "remind them that they are lesbian women."

Yet there is little policing of their [TME trans people���s] presentation

This simply does not match up with the experiences of TME trans people, particularly trans men & mascs, that I know. Every transmasculine person I’ve ever talked to has had their gender expression policed, often violently so.

Calls for physical violence against TME trans people are next to non-existent.

Please read the archive of violence against transmasculine people. Please look at our sexual assault rate. Our rates of hate crimes and murder may be lower than TMA people, but the violence against us often takes a different form, and is then ignored. It’s not next to non-existent; it’s just erased. Please don't ignore us.

Conclusion/the disclaimer that was

There is this thing that almost all TMA people do when they want to talk about transmisogyny or TMA/TME relations, and that is add a disclaimer, most often right at the start of their text or video, where they wholly commit to the support of TME trans people and pledge their unconditional allegiance to them, affirming several times that nothing they’re about to say could change anything about that, and how much we love our TME trans siblings. You will not find anything like that in a critique of TMA people by TME trans people. Ever.

Huh. I’m a TME trans person. I wonder what that was at the top of my post, then. 

In fact, disclaimers are a common phenomenon among transmasculine people who talk about transmasculine issues. The opening page of the transandrophobia explained carrd is a disclaimer you have to agree you've read before continuing. The beginning of this article on transmasculine erasure is a paragraph-long disclaimer about transfeminine people. Posts on tumblr about transandrophobia and transmasculine experiences constantly include these disclaimers.

So who is privileged over whom, who holds power over whom, who has reason to be afraid to speak, who is not allowed to speak on their experiences, when TMA people are the ones that need the disclaimers to ward off some of the inevitable abuse, but TME trans people don’t?

That’s an excellent question. When TMA and TME trans people both need disclaimers to even attempt to prevent abuse and harassment, who is privileged over whom? Is it possible that we all have reason to be afraid to speak? That we’re all denied the authority to speak on our own experiences?

(Disclaimer: TMA people do not have privilege over TME trans people.)

(Disclaimer: Trans women do not have privilege over other trans people.)

[fatguarddog]

So I keep thinking about a trans girlfriend who fattens me as she forcefems me, in a way that's like "oh yes you became such a handsome man all so that you could really be a trans girl" as opposed to like... detrans... not detrans but double trans I guess

Swapping out my T for E, subtly encouraging me to shave because she thinks I look nicer without the beard, slowly replacing my wardrobe with more feminine clothes, making sure I'm always eating well for her so I get nice and soft and curvy all over, touching me so I feel so good as she changes me

I'm pleasantly dumbing down from her conditioning and feedings, so much so that the first time she says "that's my good girl," I hardly notice except for the rush of pleasure... and from there on out I fall deeper and deeper into her grasp and plans as she makes me her perfect fat girlfriend

[the-trans-fiendling]

Hope Streams Eternal

Greetings! Things are... fucking rough right now. However, I refuse to let the hope of myself and others die without a fight.

SO! I am going to be doing what I am calling Hope Streams, very relaxed, very fun hang out streams where I play chill games and chat with whoever wants to swing by.

In the description of each stream, I'm going to feature a different queer individual's mutual aid/gofundme/assistance/etc. post, and build a master list that features everyone whose link I've shared, so even if folk don't swing by the stream, they might see it on socials. SO, if you have some sort of gofundme or a donation post making the rounds, whatever the case may be, feel free to send it my way! I do have a simple priority tree, for those interested, which boils down to the most marginalized folk before less marginalized folk. I don't make enough to be able to donate to anyone, but I want to try to use my privilege to help others when I can. (So, say two disabled transgirls needed help, if one is a transgirl of color and the other is not, she'd be featured on day 1 while the white transgirl would be featured on the next stream)

[shalom-iamcominghome]

What led you to decide conversion to Judaism was "for you"?

I'll preface this post by saying that you are, essentially, asking to open a Pandora's box - this is an inherently huge question to ask, and I only request that you keep this in mind when I talk about this. I'm completely open to this discussion, though! I am absolutely happy to talk about my journey because it is so deeply personal and fulfilling,

I was raised in a Lutheran family - I was baptized, but I was never really... required to go to church. We'd gone before, my dad and I, but I don't remember this because I was young. However, what I do remember is just not believing in any of it. I never truly believed in Jesus, I'd only said I did. Despite having little pressure put on me in a religious aspect, I'd always just assumed that I should please my family. I went to Jesus camp (a moniker for the religious camp I'd gone to a few times), and I went to a handful of confirmation classes. As I understand it, Lutherans practice confirmation in order to educate young adults about the religion, and by the end, the person decides if this is right for them. I dropped out completely, and honestly, it was simply due to "I believe none of this besides g-d."

Once I had consciously admitted to myself that I really could not reconcile my disbelief, I decided to disconnect completely from all forms of xtianity. I mostly kept to myself and didn't even interrogate my feelings about g-d or religion at all.

After a while, I realized that I truly knew nothing else besides xtianity. I always thought it was my duty as a person to learn about others to accept them. I started throwing myself into education about other religions. Now that I think about it, I think part of myself really did want to connect with something that felt right in my soul. For a while, I didn't find that. Once I started learning about what were the true basics of Judaism, I felt a strange and indescribable feeling, really for the first time ever.

My journey into Judaism really began on an intellectual level. I truly jived with what I was learning - I remember one of my big issues with xtianity was the idea of "spreading the Good News," or proselytizing. I think learning that about judaism was what made me realize that there was something out there that I could logically understand. I loved the cultural understanding of disagreement - that you can even disagree with g-d and not be sent to Hell For All Eternity. I loved that observing mitzvot wasn't really a strict dogma. It was a process we all undertake on some level. I'd say that the common attitude held in the xtain spaces I was exposed to all my life (that is - "all of this is strict dogma, and no questions are deemed acceptable.") really made me appreciate the intellectualism that judaism often fulfills. By nature, I want to disagree with others, explain, agree, and ultimately learn, and I loved the culture of education.

I'd say much of the emotional attachment I now have to judaism came later. There is only so much you can appreciate about judaism from the sidelines, and once I got involved in my community, I truly learned this. Much of my love for judaism is simple - it's everyday life, really.

I think what made me decide so soon that judaism was right is because I am trans. I am no stranger to this feeling, I just had never felt it about religion. It's a deep, soul-level understanding of belonging. It's a feeling you can never do justice to through word alone. I've felt this before, and I know this is a feeling that I cannot simply ignore. It's something you can only grab hold of and never let go. It is a primal understanding within your entire being - at least it is for me.

Because of this, there is so much that I have not touched upon here, but I think I've been rambling for long enough. Again, I welcome any and (almost) all questions that may be remaining. So much of my decision about judaism came down to exposing myself to conversion stories and thoughts about judaism from jews, and if there is a chance I might be even a little like that, I will always welcome it!

[desultory-suggestions]

While people are asking health questions, if you’re a trans person on T specifically and you’re having unexplained urinary problems and pain I swear you are not rare or alone and also there are treatments for this. But what I and every other transmasc I’ve met with this issue have found is that it’s complexly linked to having a hypertonic pelvic floor! If anyone wants more information please feel free to DM me because I’ve been dealing with this for 6 years with little to no help until the last year and I know it gets lonely and overwhelming. You most likely don’t have to live in pain or give up T like many of us have been told.

[mintyyyjades]

feeling cute might whack a transphobe later 🥰💖

[friendraichu]

i finally decided to pull the dreaded trigger and just pay for top surgery out of pocket. its gonna be 12k. but it will be so, so worth it.

i've wanted this for 16 years and have failed for the past 3 to get it with insurance.

so fuck it. i have the means; i am incredibly lucky to have a rock solid support system emotionally and financially because of my parents. i need to take advantage of this while i have it.

as much as it kills me to pay when it could theoretically be covered by insurance (eventually, someday, maybe). i just wanna fucking do it and be done. no more hoops, no more red tape. if that's the price of peace, im in a place to afford it.

[l3viat8an]

transmasc lucifer getting fucked dumb by his partner (they can be transfem or transmasc, either or)

luci being unable to think straight as he gets fucked through his nth orgasm, his legs shaking as mc’s cock/strap moves in n out of his cunt fast n rough

mc practically making him scream as they start to thrust impossibly faster, his eyes rolling back

~ t4t anon

Nsfw content MDNI

Just imagine~ Lucifer's screams of pleasure echoing through the room as you continue to relentlessly pound his tight hole with your cock/strap-on. His body writhes beneath you, his muscles clenching and relaxing as the intense waves of pleasure wash over him. His moans grow louder and more desperate with each thrust of your hips as his own hips buck back and up against you.

"MCCCC," he moans, eyes rolling back into his skull as he nails dig marks into your back, "I can't take it anymore. I need, I need-” Lucifer babbles something between more and for you to stop, but you laugh and keep fucking into him~

(Disclaimer; It’s all consensual Lucifer didn’t use his safeword)

[antiv3nom]

my first official one piece art and its on yamato birthday.....hes just so real 2 me .

(id and art without text under cut, click image to see more detail :D)

Image ID: [The first image is a digital drawing of Yamato from One Piece, smiling at the camera with his hands on his hips. The background is white, and behind Yamato is a blue color blob similar to the color of the ends of his hair. In front of him is text reading, "Happy birthday Yamato!" in all caps.

The second image is the same as the first, but without the text.] End ID.

[macbethz]

Y’all love to invent conflicts that aren’t happening. Trans women and trans men are not like battling it out anywhere except twitter dot com we are too busy making out with each other

[transbeamrooikat]

thinking about how (I mean I haven't gotten to far into the book and I dont remember too much of the 1st movie but) there's probably Bene Gesserit mad at Paul for being a boy. he the most transmasc coded cis character ever oh my god