#disabled lesbian

[houstonxbreed]

Me and who??

[elysianmadness]

Happy lesbian visibility week/day to every lesbian around the world! I hope you're going to have a wonderful week, wherever you are. Your lesbianism is perfect and needed in the world. In this household, we love and appreciate the diversity of the lesbian experience <3

[800-dick-pics]

Help Me Get New Mobility Aids!!!

Happy Disability Pride Month! I initially wasnt going to make a post to try to get new mobility aids/tools, but I really need them, so what the hell.

I am a multiply disabled Black lesbian and I have been without proper supportive mobility since the start of the pandemic. I had many of my things broken or thrown away during this time period, and I thought I could go without but its been so long and I really cant anymore.

I need smart/ergonomic forearm crutches because regular forearm crutches wreck my fragile hypermobile wrists, I need braces for both legs and ankles, a shower bench and detachable showerhead. All of this combined is a bit over $550.

I REALLY need this, esp the crutches! My mobility and bodily autonomy would be GREATLY increased If I was able to get these items. I

CA: $sleepyhen

VN: wildwotko

Dm for P@ypal

TLDR?: Disabled Black Lesbian needs new mobility aids for increased mobility and autonomy.

[androgynealienfemme]

"Yes, it's true: I was the type of young femme who managed the girls basketball team in high school, just to be able to take in the sight of all those butches parading their muscles up and down the court. I found Girl Scout camp to be femme heaven and reveled in being able to explore my athletic self and still maintain my femmeness. And, to my horror, I have to admit pushing Tina away from my breasts in the back seat of a Buick while attending Mount Saint Mary Seminary. And then there was feminism... Although I came out as a "gay" woman before reading The Feminine Mystique, the seventies brand of white feminism had me trimming my nails and cutting off my hair. Soon I was outfitted in farmer jeans and high tops. And still I was told by my "sisters" that I didn't "look like a dyke" (read: I didn't look butch). I began to lead two lives- one as an outrageous, skirted, lipsticked femme while I worked in and traveled with carnivals, and another as an imitation butch back home in the women's community. Eventually, I pulled the pieces of my being back together and proclaimed boldly, "I am a working-class lesbian femme." So I had maybe six years reveling in unleashing my seductive femme self when, as lives go, mine changed: slowly at first and then more dramatically. Recurring back pain and limited range of mobility were finally diagnosed. Soon after came decreased mobility. No more mountain climbing. No long mall walks in search of the perfect piece of sleaze. No more standing against kitchen walls being gloriously fucked by some handsome butch. I stopped using alcohol and drugs, became ill with what is now known as CFIDS (Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome), and began to use a three-wheeled power chair. The more disabled I became, the more I mourned the ways my sexual femme self had manifested through the nondisabled me: cruising at the local lezzie bar, picking up a dyke whose eyes refuse to stray from mine, dancing seductively, moving all of me for all of her. Cooking: love and suggestion neatly tucked into the folds of a broccoli quiche. Serving my date in varying, sleazy clothing, removing layers as the meal and our passion progressed. And making love... feeling only pleasure as my hips rose and fell under the weight of her. Accomplishment and pride smirked across my face as her wrists finally submitted to the pressure of strong persistent hands. There are the ways I knew to be femme, to be the essence of me.

It's been five years now since I began using my wheelchair. I am just awakening to a new reclamation of femme. Yes. I still grieve the way I was, am still often unsure how this femme with disabilities will act out her seduction scenes. I still marvel when women find passion amidst the chrome and rubber that is now a part of me.

There have been numerous dates, lovers, relationships, sexual partners, and fliterations along the way. Cindy, Jenny, Ellie, Emma, Diane, Dorothy, Gail, June, Clove, Lenny, Cherry, Diana, Sarah I, and Sarah II. You have all reminded me in your own subtle or overt, quit or wild ways that I am desirable, passionate, exciting, wanted.

Yes I am an incredibly sexual being. An outrageous, loud mouthed femme who's learning to dress, dance, cook, and seduce on wheels; finding new ways to be gloriously fucked by handsome butches and aggressive femmes. I hang out with more sexual outlaws now- you know, the motorcycle lesbians who see wheels and chrome between your legs as something exciting, the leather women whose vision of passion and sexuality doesn't exclude fat, disabled me.

Ableism tells us that lesbians with disability are asexual. (When was the last time you dated a dyke who uses a wheelchair?) Fat oppression insists that thin is in and round is repulsive. At times, these voices become very loud, and my femme, she hid quietly amidts the lists.

Now my femme is rising again. The time of doubt, fear, and retreat has passed. I have found my way out of the lies and oppression and have moved into a space of loving and honoring the new femme who has emerged. This lesbian femme with disabilities is wise, wild, wet, and wanting. Watch out.

-"Reclaiming femme... Yet again" Mary Francis Platt, The Persistent Desire (Edited by Joan Nestle) (1992)

[ieatratsforbreakfast]

I love you skinny butches

I love you butches with no muscle

I love you butches who don't/can't work out

I love you disabled butches

I love you butches who use mobility aids

[lovebunni05]

Hot take: neurotypicals need to stop using neurodivergent language. Like girl you're not going nonverbal cus you don't feel like talking 😭😭😭

[violottie]

ahem, taps mic....

lesbianism is not a quota to fill. lesbianism is not what you do. it is innate; it is who you are.

a lesbian is a woman or lesbian aligned nonbinary person who is exclusively attracted to women and non-man aligned nonbinary people.

you fit that? you're a lesbian!

lesbian sexuality is so profoundly beautiful and diverse and powerful. it is boundless, limitless and abundant. it is joyous and overflowing with glory and strength.

take pride, lesbians. we are the best.

❤️🧡🤍🩷💖

[masculinerose]

Happy International Lesbian Day!

The lesbian community has caused me a lot of strife, if I'm being honest with myself. There's a good chunk of my fellow lesbians who don't accept my complicated identity with masculinity and butchhood, and anti-masculinity is a very real and scary issue in our community.

But throughout it all, I'm managing to find fellow lesbians, especially masc/butch/stud ones, who remind me why I feel so connected to this community in the first place. Why it's my home, regardless of how many people who want to exclude me to it.

So here's a shout out to the masc lesbians. The butches, studs, mascs, the racialized masc/butch/stud lesbians, the transmasc lesbians, lesboys, boydykes, butchboys, malesbians, lesbian men, the transfem/woman masc/butch/stud lesbians, the trans/non-binary masc/butch/stud lesbians whose gender falls outside masc/fem, the androgynous butches, faggy butches, dandy butches, stone butches, butch4butches, the disabled mascs/butches/studs.

I see you, I hear you, I love you. We are so misunderstood and diminished if we don't fit the cookie-cutter-mold of hypermasculine cis white physically strong abled butch lesbian.

Even within our own community there are people who ignore us, don't actively think about us, even hate us. You deserve better than that. We deserve better than that.

But even if it feels small, there's a community for us here. You just have to find it. I promise you, you'll find it. I'm part of it, and I want to share it with you.

I love you, lesbians. Have a wonderful day.

[houstonxbreed]

Disabled people get criticized and called lazy for being unemployed but nobody wants to discuss how employers won’t hire us because we’re considered a “liability”. Many companies also refuse to accommodate individuals with disabilities. Let’s not talk about how the government takes away our lifesaving healthcare benefits if we make more than $2000 a month and this the reason why most disabled people live in poverty!!!

[butch-knight]

Happy Pride Month to all the femmes, butches, and every other kind of lesbians that see this. I love y'all and you make the world a better place.

❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

[sapphic-sprite]

wear a mask please! some of us will die if we catch covid or will be sent to the hospital for a cold! by wearing a mask you are making it easier for us to just exist in public places!

[theedexterspeckman]

i love you femme transbians

i love you futch transbians

i love you butch transbians

i love you disabled transbians

i love you sex worker transbians

i love you neurodivergent transbians

i love you transbians of color

i love you closeted transbians

i love you transbians

[pamperfemme]

friends i am going to decorate my cane to make me feel less embarrassed about using it in public (it’s not embarrassing to use mobility aids. i��m just weird) i know i will spray paint it (BABY) pink, but what else should i do?

[whitewolfstracks]

Hey, after publishing this post, some of you offered help, and though I never thought I'd find myself in this situation, I decided to set up Buy me a coffee. Well, in my case it's Buy me a meal 😅

You can find me there @whitewolfsoul

I'll never be making any exclusive content or offer membership, this is based on strictly voluntary one-time support. Though, once I get my tablet fixed, I can make you a commission as a thank you gift at least xD

For more info, you can either read the linked post, or I'll also share my profile info from Buy me a coffee below. If you decide to donate, know I'm really extremely grateful!!!

I wouldn't be doing this if I wasn't absolutely desperate, I have problems with accepting help.

"I never thought I'll be doing this, but I've reached the most desperate time of my life.

For two years now, I've been unable to work because of extreme exhaustion. I've gone through multiple tests, which proved nothing, so the doctors ruled it's a result of my mental health.

Thanks to my multiple mental health disorders, I've been found elegible for disability pension, but just the lowest level. Right now, I'm living from state benefits that barely cover my rent, I get my food from food banks.

The problem is that for the past year, I've been suffering from worsening joint pains. Again, multiple tests that proved nothing yet, but I can't walk at this point. I can't even go to the shop or pick up my post, and food or medicine delivery is expensive.

It will take three more months for my disability pension to come, but that won't even cover my rent. Due to all of this, my mental health is deteriorating, and I'm also losing things that I need to replace, making mistakes that cost me money because my brain is so overwhelmed.

If you would find it in your heart to make a small donation just so I could buy some food, I would be extremely grateful. I don't share much about my condition online, but if you wanted to contact me to make sure I'm a legitimate person, below is my blog address."

Thank you! ♡

[lovebunni05]

Reminder that there's no marriage equality until disabled people can get married without losing their benefits.

[whompbiscuits]

EMERGENCY COMMISSSIONS bc we are poor and have overdue bills to pay

did not want to make this post but here we are. my wife and I moved to Augusta 3 months ago hoping to find better work opportunities, and it's not going great. we have friends who have given us housing, but our personal bills have gone unpaid for over a month now, and despite finding a job I just do not make enough to pay them. we're working with our bank to get our payments lowered (my credit is now officially shot) but we still owe over $800 in back payments.

I'm not asking for donations (though they are appreciated I won't lie); instead im opening my crochet comms.

i make lace shawls; pics below

they're big; I have 26" wide shoulders and these fall to at least my elbow if not lower. they're made of a cotton/acrylic blend that is easy to care for (machine washable if run on a delicate cycle w cold water in a garment bag; hang or lay flat to dry) and can come in essentially any color variation.

you can choose what colors you want and whether you want the gradient to flow from one point asymmetrically to the opposite edge (the first pic) or evenly out from the center (pics 2 and 3). the actual lace pattern is up to me, because while my lace is simple it is freeform, and I don't follow any specific pattern for my shawls. as a result they're all different and unique, this is part of the charm!

I'm asking $150 per piece; this covers both materials and my time and labor.

i also have to order the yarn I'd need; this yarn isn't the cheapest so I don't have a stash of it at the moment. the shops I order from are very prompt, however, so this won't take too much extra time.

overall turnaround time is 4 weeks from the time I receive the yarn, but it rarely takes me that long.

I'm opening 6 slots

if they all go that'll be enough to get my bills right, which is all I need right now. payment is required before I can order the yarn, but I'll send whatever updates you ask for as I work on your project. if this goes off I'll keep track of my progress on a given project in my pinned post.

if anyone is interested, please dm me and we can go over all the details.

**if you want something bigger, like a poncho or a cape, I can do that! but it'll cost more.**

if you don't want or can't afford a $150 shawl I absolutely understand, reblogs are much appreciated 💜