#death discussion

[starlightshore]

Lingering Spirits - A Danny Phantom AU where Danny moves to Amity 2 years after the Portal Incident. Combo of Alicia Adoption (Farmboy AU) + Nobody Knows AU

A more serious/ Horror take on the AUs

Hoof, starting on a morbid foot. Please note that it's intentional that Sam is romanticizing death and has over-blown anti-human feelings. they're a depressed teenager! they're going through it and they're coping the only way they know how. They'll learn to grow more healthy world views and ways of dealing with their depression with time. Please don't assume I'm condoning their world-view lol.

Anyway on a lighter note, I wanted Sam and Tucker to look different than my usual AU stuff in this AU, so I hope you guys like the design change!

Updates will be infrequent as I'm pretty busy. However, I did this on a team call day so I was kind of productive in my other projects haha!

[sighthounds-and-sketches]

I'm feeling very intense grief tonight over our Boston Terrier. She was actually the original face of this blog, but she was so sick when I made the blog I didn't want to discuss her, I just wanted her to be comfortable til it was time to say goodbye. Argos came home about a month and a half after she passed. It was actually supposed to be much longer between them but things worked out differently.

He's a new great love, and I adore the journey we're on. But, sometimes, well into the night, grief comes in waves and it sucks to have to feel the weight of making the call to end your friends life, even if that was the only choice.

[yveltalreal]

tbh i know i say concerning things a lot but like i do have my pokemon to keep me safe in an actual emergency like tami is an absol, enough said about that. decibel is a flying type that is large enough to carry me and has echolocation. dash is able to be ridden as well and is pretty quick, as well as capable of climbing with a rider. and pickle is just resourceful and willing to die for me (and im going to be real with you guys id die for her if i had to too) hell i also got .zip and even if theres no phone services rotom phones are very durable and known for helping get trainers our of sticky situations + electric type go zappy or a way to charge other electronics (if its built for rotom or youre very careful)

like theyve all gotten me out of sticky situations more than i can count i would not be alive today if not for them. not even talking about the shit ive mentioned you all seem to fixate on. without dash, tami, or pickle, i would not have survived my 13th birthday.

[curetapwater]

I think that when Sonic dies, he'll want his body (not enbalmed) to be placed in a no-frills hole in the ground to be reclaimed by the earth. He knows people will want fanfare and a bigass statue and stuff, and he knows he can't prevent that entirely, but he can at least request that his grave be about giving life back to the planet he loved.

[merry-death]

a family friend passed away this weekend and it really has me thinking about US funerals/death culture. Like, his wife's funeral is the first funeral I remember clearly (not the first I went to though) and she had been embalmed and just looked...wrong. she was old and had cancer and had been so thin and pale, but the last time I saw her she was still so bright and warm. but her body looked like it had been plumped up somehow, her wrinkles smoothed out, and the makeup they used several shades too dark/orange. It was unsettling, and her husband seemed unhappy about it too, and now that's the last memory any of us have of her face. I know there are embalmers who do good work and some people really want it, but it is often pushed on grieving families here as the only safe way to have an open casket (or in some states, the only legal way). But it isn't always necessary. And it's also not common enough for people to have their wishes for their bodies/funerals written down, so there's often a lot of guesswork for their families about the best way to honor the deceased. One of my grandfathers had a clear plan and it was easy for us to be sure everything was how he would want it. It really helped us get onto the actual grieving instead of worrying about getting things right for him. The other had no plans, so the days after his death were filled with the stress of his kids and wife debating and arguing over the best options. It was really clear to me that the kindest thing you can do for your loved ones is have a plan. And yet, people are still so weird about talking about what they want or writing it down or anything. Like, I asked my mom some time after her dad's funeral what she wants for herself and she freaked out about it. She's in her 60s and if Dad goes first or is unavailable for some reason, I'm her next of kin and already her emergency contact on everything, so I should know that. But despite helping to plan several funerals and knowing how hard it is on a family, she still won't talk about it and she doesn't have any legal documentation of what she wants either. It's legitimately concerning for me. I hope she has another 40 years with us, but if anything happens I will be a wreck and I would rather take the guesswork out of as much as possible. My aunt and uncle are the ones organizing the funeral for our family friend, and thankfully it seems like he had pretty clear plans so they aren't just guessing. I don't really have a point, other than to say know your rights for your death and the deaths of loved ones, get a plan in place, and have it written down. I highly recommend Caitlin Doughty/Ask A Mortician on YouTube as a resource

[yeehawtist]

one thing i adore about neil gaiman’s The Graveyard Book is that death isn’t portrayed as this horrendous and terrifying thing; it’s a rite of passage. and at the same time, suicide or wanting to die is NEVER glorified or seen as a divine way to go as it has been in other media before.

SLIGHT THE GRAVEYARD BOOK SPOILERS UP AHEAD!!!!!!!

neil gaiman’s death is calm and just, she will carry everyone when it is their time.

at one point, the main character wanted to die because all of the people who loved him were also dead (ghosts) but instead of being brushed off or encouraged, another character tells him very wisely that when you die, you might still be able to experience things, but you’ll never experience or create anything NEW.

SPOILER RISK OVER

when you live, you are filled with potential. you can put that energy into anything you desire. but when you die, that energy disappears. you still EXIST but your life is over. your era of creation and potential is over.

and it’s not a bad thing to have that time be over, but it’s only something that must happen in due time. and it wasn’t the main character’s time yet.

death is a hard and scary topic for a lot of people, it scares them and brings up the pain they’ve experienced related to it a lot of the time. and that’s completely understandable, and a human reaction. but personally it just made me feel less terrified of death when it was portrayed less as an inevitable doom and more of a rite of passage. ok that’s all

[reallystellacadente]

Hey!

Sorry to bug you. Is there a tag you use when you reblog visuals of death? Aaron’s protest was tragic and brave but I’ve been avoiding visuals of this and other graphic images on my blog for a long time. If there’s not a tag or you’d prefer not to have to tag, I understand and I can unfollow.

Thanks!

I am sorry, there was a tag on it but it might have gotten lost in the reblogosphere. Also, I am a bit stymied by Tumblr's workings on mobile; I rely on Xkit on my PC. I will try to remember to use "tw death" and "cw death" if there are depictions of death, especially if they are unblurred. Sadly, it will be needed.

[lostjudgmnt]

hi good morning. this post is the cain (my oc) post ever

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[id: a tumblr post by user meershweinchen1993 posted on january first that says: “came back from death wrong trope? you can easily avoid this by just never dying at all (stays alive wrong stays alive wrong stays alive wrong stays alive wr)”. end id.]

and im gonna talk about them and im not even putting it under a read more this time

so cain is my first ever dnd pc who’s life i’ve expanded way beyond the campaign ve was in (and i also have a billion aus with ver — including, coincidentally, the world i originally created ver for which doesn’t really feel like vis canon anymore 😅). ve’s a half-elf druid and shepherd who got roped into this big journey after an attack from a hill giant kind of scattered vis family and flock that originally started with like that pre-written “storm king’s thunder” campaign and then sort of spiraled out from that as our party got more well known in the world and stuff. but from the very beginning, cain didn’t think ve should have been alive. ve thought ve should have been killed by that giant. so ve was kind of “alive wrong” from the beginning.

but as the campaign progressed the party got more and more involved with the undead and people seeking out immortality through undeath and at the detriment of the living around them — including cain’s father, who tried to get cain to join him — and cain really resented the concept of cheating death and achieving immortality in a way that was unnatural hurt other people

but the craziest thing about cain is that, you know, ve’s a half elf and a druid — specifically, by the end of the campaign, an arch druid. which gives them an insanely long natural lifespan anyway? but during the course of their story, cain ends up basically being adopted by a goddess and becomes her holy champion and through her essentially becomes, like, an angel, or a demi-god, or something along those lines, and pretty much becomes immortal through that. so basically they achieve immortality in a way that doesn’t interfere with the forces of nature and doesn’t harm other people.

and they still hate it! they don’t really want it! they accepted the gift from their goddess and she is basically their mom they love her to bits and they do… i feel weird saying “serve” her considering they have a really personal relationship you know but they’re whole thing is that they carry out her wishes in the material plane essentially (she’s a goddess of natural cycles + life & death so essentially cain’s job is to help lost souls pass on and stuff). but ve’s alive wrong now because ve still hardly feels like ve should be alive in the first place. ve feels like there have been many times ve should have died but havent, and ve feels hypocritical being immortal after rejecting vis father’s path to immortality despite vis father’s path involving essentially destroying the material plane and feeding off of the living and cain’s just. here. and also didnt ask to be immortal in the first place. and because ve’s lived for eons and eons, repeatedly ve’s witnessed practically the entire lifespans of vis loved ones, and spends years and decades and centuries alone because ve’s alive and shouldn’t be.

anyway i dont know how articulate that is but. yea. cain my beloved

[dragonofeternal]

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My grandmother (but not the one with dementia) died last night. My main thought right now is that I'm glad we *know* because she lived in the middle of nowhere away from the rest of the family, and I was really worried that when she passed away we wouldn't know until weeks/months later because no one lives near her and she has no friends in the area either.

Also got some great wow projecting much from my mom talking about how sometimes death is a blessing for the elderly like yeah okay we know you're suicidal because you ruined your life in your thirties and refused to ever take agency or try to fix things.

[crescentmp3]

ah

[incorrectjane-andthedragon]

Look. He has the money. He is skilled with secrecy. All I’m saying is that hiring a hitman skilled in making it look like an accident would be an excellent way for Gunther to avoid a lot of kerfuffle. 

...typing that out, I realized he probably knows this. And he probably knows that hiring a hitman to carry out plans in secret is exactly the kind of thing his father would do. 

And if there’s one thing Gunther doesn’t want to be in his life, it’s being like his father. 

So he takes a deep breath, wipes his face, and puts his nose back to the grindstone. Because nothing will make him feel better than when he looks into his defeated father’s frightened eyes, and sees that Magnus has realized he has been taken down by what he’s scorned for years. Hard work, done out of love for one’s kingdom and loved ones. 

[g3sdogden]

As one who has had multiple family members die, has carried them to their deathbeds, has held their hands as they die, and in my grandmother's case through her death, it's rough to discuss. It's so goddamn rough. But you need to be able to talk about it. You need to be able to process the loss, especially when it's something more complicated than just someone you loved, when it's someone who hurt you, someone who abused you and you loved them still, because that shit's going to be more complicated, and you're going to be dealing with feeling relieved that someone you love is gone. And you need to be able to discuss when you're suicidal. I've been dealing with suicidality basically my entire life, and I'm far more likely to actually commit acts of self-harm when discussion of my suicidality isn't allowed. And you need to be able to discuss sexual harassment, assault, and rape, because a lot of people don't seem to understand what those even are, and seem to think queer people existing in a way that isn't sanitized for corporate palatability is the same thing as sexual violence I have personal experience with all of these things, and we need to be able to discuss them in somewhat public areas so people know how to deal with it

and in the case of like, abuse victims, so they can tell when they're abused, because many people don't realize they've been abused until someone points it out

you gotta be able to say "die"

you gotta be able to say "suicide"

you gotta be able to talk about "sex"

they're uncomfortable topics, YEAH for SURE

because LIFE is uncomfortable. Death and suicide and sex and pain are straight up going to happen. not having words for the way it discomforts you doesn't make it more comfortable, it just makes you less able to reach out about it.

even more vital, you gotta be able to say words like "rape", "abuse", "queer" or "racist". cause we fought fucking hard to name those experiences. to identify "rape" as distinct from "sex" and "racism" as distinct from "acceptable behaviour" and "queer" as distinct from "invert"

like the function of communication is not to minimise immediate discomfort. we gotta be able to talk about stuff that's hard or sucks or causes difficult conversations.

[changeling6]

mortalworkers

Lyrics

mortalworkers is part of the album death and all her memories.

[Clarification: Yes, the song is supposed to be spelled mortalworkers while moralworkers are spelled w/o the t.]

In the story behind the album, moralworkers are people who handle both birth and death as the people of that realm view them as inherently linked. The main character in the story is a moralworker chosen specifically to deal with criminals and traitors. After preparing the body of a rebellion leader, she meets said leader's ghost. The leader cannot move on without the moralworker and they form a pact to save the realm from destruction.

The song mortalworkers refers to morticians and funeral directors. It discusses accepting the inevitability and mystery surrounding death. For me specifically, it's me trying to accept the possibility that there might be no afterlife at all after death. While I practice hellenic paganism and believe I'll go to the Underworld when I die, I still allow myself the acceptance that their might be nothing. It's still a terrifying thought that I could just cease to exist but I know I can't live forever and I'm going to die and there's nothing I can do about ceasing to exist.

[First Verse Analysis]

The first verse discusses the mundanity of life. We have routine, we try to stay alive, we may take risks, or we may avoid anything and everything in fear of dying. Then the verse describes my particular anxiety and a tug of war of trying new things or staying in my bubble and agonizing over missing out of stuff.

Cities of gold and rivers of earth refer to both heaven and the rivers of the Underworld. The cities of gold line refers to religious trauma I endured and how there were two places, two extremes. You either follow the "correct" religion without ever truly knowing if you were good enough to go that city of gold, or you suffer and burn in the fiery pits of hell. And that contrasts directly with my current religion where there are three places: Tartarus, the Asphodel Meadows, and Elysium. Tartarus is meant to be for the objectively bad people like murderers. You directly choose things that lead you to Tartarus. Then you have the Asphodel Meadows where most people go. It's not a life of suffering and it's not a life of glamour either. Then you have Elysium where people favored by the Gods end up; people who were heroes. It just made more sense to me. It helped my anxiety around death and find peace in it. More than anything, the Gods helped me find peace in it. There's a place where horrible people end up and there's a place that people can actively aspire to go to but it's not bad if they can't achieve those things.

[Pre-Chorus Analysis]

The pre-chorus describes the thesis of the song which is the possibility that there might not be anything after death. A lot of people want to know they did good and that they can reach paradise but it's possible they won't have anything. Just the void. Then the line referring to "eight minutes left in eternal sighs" refers to the death of the sun. If the sun died, it'd take eight minutes before the sun's corpse could reach us. So, if you had eight minutes left before you died, what would you do?

[Chorus Analysis]

The chorus is about the anxiety that exists around trying to accept the chance of no life after death. That acceptance is a barrier in trying to decide how to live your life, how to take risks but with the understanding that it's okay if a risk isn't taken. It's a frustrating balance.

[Second Verse Analysis]

The first chorus is meant to be an epiphany that leads to the second verse which discusses the freedom that is accepting death as an inherent part of life. How, even with people who you will never meet in your entire life, we are all connected by birth and death.

[Bridge Analysis]

The bridge is mostly me talking to myself before I finally resolved an identity crisis I've had since childhood. I felt very empty and dissociated then and like I had to please everyone and thus I had to mold myself to do so. But then the pandemic happened and all the isolation brought out the truer parts of me and thus the empty shell I used to be died.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

It's not weird, and it's not hyper-specific, but it's not listed in this poll:

I want my body to be composted ("Natural Organic Reduction"). As of July, 2023, it's legal in six U.S. states: Washington, California, Oregon, Colorado, Vermont, and New York.

Maybe by the time I die, it will be legal, here, too.