#creepos

[thatbadadvice]

I (15f) am slightly worried that I led on some guys I did not mean to lead on.

There are two guys that I've hung out with over longer spans of time or regularly.

1. Hung out with him for several hours non-stop cause he was fun to hang out with, and we took a walk in the forest aswell, he got (slightly) touchy but not that much.

2. Works in a shop in my small city and I go there almost weekly just to hang out but always buy something, he sometimes offers me drinks for free (twice by now) or reduces the price.

They both got my insta too

However, the problem is that a) I'm not looking for a relationship and, more importantly, b) they are both in their 20s.

I took care to mention that I am only 15 to both of them but idk if that changed anything. Any advice? I also don't want to confront them directly cause I might have just interpreted it like this.

Hello, anonymous!

Thank you for writing in. I am delighted to inform you that you have excellent judgment for wondering what the hell is going on here, and for questioning these guys' behavior toward you.

Grown-ass men — and that is what dudes in their 20s are — bear the burden of not being weird to, for, or about young women of your age. It is the grown-ass men of the world who are obligated not to make you, or young women like you, feel weird about literally anything. In fact, grown-ass men should go out of their way, on purpose and with gusto, NEVER to get even within ten million football fields' worth of "(slightly) touchy" with a gal of your age. So that's my read on Mr. Walk In The Woods. I have less to say definitively about Mr. Free/Cheap Drinks, but I trust your judgment: if you feel like Mr. Free/Cheap Drinks is sending some ~ signals ~, you're right about it.

It sounds like both of these Grown-Ass Men are trying to make pretty creepo moves, so let me be clear: nothing you could ever do could even possibly in the most remote sense amount to "leading them on," because you are not responsible for the behavior of Grown-Ass Men.

I think you know this, or you wouldn't be asking the Bad Advisor this question. You know they're being weird. You know you haven't done anything beyond exist in these dudes' general sphere, which you are entitled to do! You are allowed to exist in the world without having to swat off the advances of older guys! It really sucks that girls and women can just be living our regular-ass lives and have dudes be at us like this. But you're not responsible for their decisions — whether it's a decision to offer you free/cheap drinks (with strings attached, implied) or to get (slightly) handsy during a walk in the woods.

The fact that you told both of these Grown-Ass Men explicitly that you are 15 years old should have sent both of them spinning back into the sun with shame and embarrassment, not that they probably needed it spelled out, but GOOD ON YOU for making it so clear. That is actually terribly brave of you, and they should have fallen all over themselves to not fall all over you subsequently. They should be mortified about their behavior.

You did not misinterpret their actions; and if you did, who cares? Some dudes who weren't hitting on a 15-year-old will continue to not hit on a 15-year-old? Girl, your self-preservation instinct is INTACT and WORKING. It's on them not to be creepos. Any Grown-Ass Man who is on the level and not a weirdo would 1000000000000% never need to be told "Hey dude, I'm 15" in the first place. You have good judgment. You are reading these men correctly.

So what do you do about your good judgment? Well, first — no more walks in the woods. Suddenly you have an urgent appointment that precludes all walks in woods! The benefit-of-the-doubt ship has sailed. Dude got handsy and you dislike it. Dunzo. You are unavailable for future walks in woods (or anywhere). You've got a test to study for, a practice to go to, some buddies to hang out with elsewhere. So sorry, no-can. Dude can find a 20-to-90-something-year-old woman to paw up under the canopy if that's his jam. There are scores of women his age and older who'd be glad (i guess?) to get felt up while some dude shoves them ~ romantically ~ against the bark of a moldy Hackberry.

As for Mr. Free/Cheap Drinks — look, I appreciate the appeal of a discount beverage — but I think you gotta be prepared to aggressively (politely) pay for your drinks. Dude says "This one is on the house" and you DGAF, because you've got $5 cash and you're laying it on the counter with a smile and saying "I really appreciate it, but I'd like to pay for my drink — you get it!"

It's the "you get it!" that's really the key here. It's polite, but clear. It demands that these Grown-Ass Dudes do the work of not getting it and saying so if they're gonna be that dippy about it. You can use it on Mr. Handsy In The Woods, too. You can't do X, Y, Z because Reasons -- "Gotta get back to piano practice, it would be weird if I stayed here, since we're just friends! You get it!"

You shouldn't have to do the work of offering these dippos the "you get it" out, but it's a safe and reliable way of making it clear that they better the fuck get it. Like, they better the fuck understand that you are 15 and they are being weird about this whole deal.

Practice:

"Oh, I'd like to chill but doing another big long hang alone together would make it seem like we're going out or something, and that would be weird -- you get it."

"I appreciate the discount, but if I keep taking these drinks, it'll seem like you LIKE me or something. That's weird, right? You get it!"

If either of these Grown-Ass Men gets sketchy about these very polite brush-offs, that shit is on them and will only confirm what you know: you have great judgment. These dudes are weird. If they're going to be weird, you can be so polite that they have to explain why, specifically, they are being weird and don't understand what you are politely saying, which is that their interest in you is weird.

You have not led these Grown-Ass Men on by existing in their universe. You have not led them on by being polite to them and tolerating their inappropriate advances to preserve your own safety. The concept of "leading on" is bullshit, fucked up, heteronormative dipshittery that puts the burden on women, mostly, to account for the crappy behavior of men who can, do, and should know better. I assure you these men know better, and they think you don't. That's why older guys pursue younger and teen women in the first place — they think they get to be the big men in charge, because they're afraid they can't manipulate women their own age.

Here's what, though: they can't manipulate you, either. You are clever, self-possessed and a great self-advocate. They're being weird. You're being smart. Make sure they know it.

[gabyell]

For @cigankamala 's #JanuHorror2023 I offer my interpretive #PencilSketch of the #Creepos that feature in the film #TheyLive This one is super patriotic (at Devil's Arrows) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnoGSU7Kmn7/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[shiftythrifting]

found at goodwill

[mybeautifulwifearcane]

lowkey already despise smeech his voice sounds like he ate velcro for thirty consecutive years

[nekromaxxing]

hopelessly devoted

to your swollen contempt for me

addicted to your neglect

and pure lack of empathy

[a-scary-lack-of-common-sense]

New tf2 AU time besties <3

Major gore warning for the story!! Seriously. It's kinda bad so keep reading with caution ⚠️

Cheavy realizes what he has done, and deems it pointless to keep having Medic around anyways. So to ensure the man dies he confiscates the medigun and leaves Medic to bleed to death. Which he does, very quickly and painfully.

Okay so basically, this is a barely thought out (as it often is) shitty little au where, early on during Medic's recruitment into the TFC team, Cheavy snaps after having to endure misdemeanor after misdemeanor from Medic, and rips his tongue out in a fit of rage for "talking too much".

Idrk what happens between Medic and the Devil, but what I got so far is that the Devil decides eternity in Hell isn't a suitable punishment for Medic. Instead he sends him out back to the mortal plane as a ghost, unable to interact with the people and the world in any way, cursed to watch his team move on without him and spend centuries isolated into a slow decent to further madness.

And then the TF2 comic events happens, and Medic finds out holy shit, he can interact with people, but only with his teammates and through possession. Turns out the time he spent dying and coming back to life in the Respawn machine with the others kinda fucked up the ghost logic and he found a loophole, yayy 🎉🎉🎉

He cannot speak as a ghost (because no tongue, duh) so he uses his teammates as his voice, and sometimes Archimedes, which is very horrifying to hear and see for everyone concerned <3

No blood version:

[must4rds33d]

one of the many scenes i wish to be adapted is the part when mr. rochester was watching jane the ENTIRE time when she and adele was in the gallery the day after the horse incident. literally THIRTY MINUTES of just looking at her from a distance—completely unnoticed!—as she was doing her own business. and then he was all "i didn't like it when you were out of my sight so i asked mrs. fairfax to invite you in the drawing room that night… mind you i impatiently waited for our second meeting so i could ask you a bajillion of questions in hopes of getting to know you better :)”

(i know he only told jane this incident but given his ULTRA vivid description... i think it warrants a visual too lol)

[grimark]

the way emily’s opinion of vedek bareil turned on a dime after we watched the scene where kira had That orb vision

[asmallcafethatslove]

I am yet reminded by the fact that jubilee by japanese breakfast is so underrated for such a good quality album… my goodness

[bugeyedfreaks]

It’s the PPG witching hours and I’ve been looking through old posts and was reminded that it’s gonna be this blog’s 10th birthday on February 13th (yay!). But, boy… like, I am so glad the era of the reboot is over with. I cannot even begin to tell you how miserable I was some days. So many unenjoyable moments (a lot of good ones too, admittedly, but boy… just, yikes). I’m just glad that right now I get to blab about what my blog was always supposed to be about: the weirdness of this kooky, fun show from the 90s-00s that I continue to inexplicably love. 💖

[theyjusthowl]

I'm not about to jump onto someone's post to hate dump but somehow it has become a popular opinion on my feed (?????) that if something happened to Chris Eddie would go full blown helicopter and drown in his guilt and like. No. We are not Eddie understanders, not with that headcanon.

He's the undisputed king of gentle parenting we've literally seen him on the sidelines kicking and screaming internally but he always lets Chris do his thing. He never ever has and never will put him in a gilded cage or let his unresolved teenage angst bleed over his son. Eddie Diaz is a Good Dad TM and a big chunk of that is recognizing his own fears should never cripple or shape his son's opinions and desires.

Be so fr right now I know a lot of people hate Eddie and they try to conflate him with his trauma like they can't exist separately in the same universe and they like to think that Eddie is boring when he's not brooding.

That's not Eddie. Eddie is a goofball. He's sassy, and opinionated, and hot headed, and he has such a strong will to persevere and find the good things in life because he's on a healing journey. He's not torturing himself because he's undeserving of love ffs, he might have a somewhat skewed set of rules and self expectations he wants to fulfill because it's The Right Thing To Do, and that ultimately has to do with his parents' shortcomings, but that right thing has included loving and being loved from day one y'all, if there's one thing he's looking for it's love, not approval.

Some people are just opposed to seeing Eddie in a positive light because they dislike him. It's okay, you can say so instead of writing essays on Eddie's many flaws and why he's not right for Buck etc etc. They don't have to be right for each other I mean have we seen each other's love interests? They couldn't have been more mismatched if they'd tried.

Whoever these people think Eddie is, he's not. They're fundamentally misunderstanding my good friend Eddie Diaz, and it shows.

[t4tails]

opinions on wave 2 of the MH creepos? I got Ghoulia but I’m indifferent to the others.

i didnt get any of them bc im broke but tbh i think all of the creepos are pretty good, though the biggest change is this time around is i think spectras hair, which... is a little subjective, but imo does look worse than the original 💀

[roomifune]

chuggaconroy news is so gross and disappointing but also so funny. men online gotta be the funniest creatures ever, how do you just embarrass yourself this much with no self-awareness. how do you send messages like this to fellow content creators with zero hesitation. how. why

[trollsarecute]

OOOO Broppppppyyy!!!!!

Branch: *after a long day of hard working stretches*

Me: *notices his abbs and how thick he is*

Branch: *notices and winks*

Me: *blushes and thinks* damn! he gotta to do that to me?!

Branch: *walks over to me in my direction*

Me: *notices but keeps head down trying not to show any signs of blushing*

Branch: *sits next to me* ( Hey Ik this isn't a part of this story but I just about a couple minutes ago I was busy dyeing because....Listen to this. I was busy typing on this and I got a call and my phone was flipped so I didn't know who it was, I thought it was my dad cause he went out and I got of have to phone close to me in case he needs something quick. I thought it was him, then when I Turned it over Instead of it B Dad "don't wanna say the last name cause it's ours" so Instead of that It was a bit bolky text and my vision wasn't that clear then when I looked at it more I read scam Likely I did an evil smirk and In my head I kept saying "do it! you have the chance to finally do something you've been wanting to do cause everyone does it around you and YOU know you wanna be a part of the fun" I ended up doing It. as soon as I picked it up there was nothing so I put the phone to my ear and I said "hello" ...........This is what scared me a little.......There was a deep voice that belonged to a man that said HELLLOOOO BACKKKKKKKKK😭😭😭😰. Then I did it........Quickly I said...."YOU SUCK" then I hung up🤣🤣😭😭😭😰😰😰BUT THE VOICE WAS SO DAMN DEEEEEEEEEPPPP.)

Me: *heart thumps a million times a minute*

Branch: I hop your not simping over him. *Points over to creek*

Me: Aww hell nah bro! He's disgusting!

Branch: *smiles while signing and placing his hand onto his chest* good, that's good.

A moment of silence.

Me: Yes I'm gushing over you.

Branch: OOOOOOO You gonna sing a song about how much you hate em?

Me: I have a bad voice, not sure if you wanna let me sing....

Branch: I'm sure its great!

Me aww thanks. But I'll do it for you.

Branch: *sits and waits*

Me: 8starts raping a song*

The creepo comes over....

Branch: *glares to the right of me*

Me: *notices and looks and eyes widen as he gains closer to the both of us so I then sit not wanting to be up next to em*

Creek: Oi mate! Were you...just talking about me?

Me: hm!? I'm sorry I'm death I can't hear you!!!!!

Creek: *tries to do sign language but fails*

Me and Branch: *laughs*

Me: All's I got was hand moments.....If I were you I'd take some sign Language classes ..

Creek: *glares at me*

Branch: I mean.........*laughs*

Me: Ik I can't help that I'm funnier then creek....Oh shoot sorry CREEP!!!-

Creek: *Is taken back and collects himself before walking away angrily*

Me: *smirks and laughs and looks over at branch who's face Is cherry red and laughs at that as well*

Okay guys Ik this may look like a gip but I'm not feeling well and I got a cold and I really don't feel like it and I didn't want to keep you guys waiting and concerned. Anyways. I'm not going to check it cause I just don't feel like it. Anyways Odios!!!!

[thresholdbb]

Me when someone casually mentions Star Trek

[dragon-pawz]

I wanna be able to enjoy things without worrying about hidden sexual connotations honestly. Can people just stop making things weird for my ace ass