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Always a good idea whenever possible to do the CorporalPunishment of your man in the presence of other women who may like to watch, participate, or learn.

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What "Parents' Rights" REALLY Means

Zoe Bee The first 1,000 people to use the link will get a 1 month free trial of Skillshare https://skl.sh/zoebee09231 “Parents’ Rights” has been a rallying cry for several political and social groups in the past few years. But what does it really mean? Let’s find out. SOURCES (chronological order): — Moms For Liberty Pledge: https://www.momsforliberty.org/pledge/ — Red, Wine, & Blue:…

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Beat the Sri Lankan into your Children!

So this one time I stabbed a kid. It was when I was six years old, soon to turn seven, and attending St.Joseph’s College which as most of you know is a prominent Sri Lankan Boys’ School. I wasn't the most well adjusted of children, my parents had enormous difficulty conceiving, and they miscarried twice before me. Subsequently I was incredibly doted upon and sheltered in my early life, spending most of my time alone reading or in the company of adults.

Anyway, one day while our class teacher was out of the room a boy in my class took my ruler, and then proceeded to taunt me in that way that somehow all children seem to know how to do, you know:”Naa Naaa Naa Naaa, you can’t get it, you can’t get it.” And indeed I was unable to ‘get it’, so I stabbed him in the fore-arm with a pencil and then took the ruler back.

By the time the teacher arrived he was bleeding considerably, and with an incredulous ghastly look upon her face she took me to the head teacher on that floor.

The head teacher was a thin older lady, who peered over her glasses threateningly as she asked me why I did it. When I explained that it was because he took my ruler and was taunting me, still obviously convinced that I was justified in stabbing him, she seemed shocked. She rhetorically asked me if this gave me the right to hurt him… and then proceeded to cane me.

I don’t remember much from that age, but this has always remained a vivid memory. See in Sri Lanka hitting children is considered the responsible thing to do. Corporal punishment is one of the pillars of great Sri Lankan parenting. I was hit by both my parents, and by several educators.

Another vivid memory I have of my childhood is learning to withstand blows from different instruments of corporal punishment: wooden rulers were pretty easy, there’s only so many times you can hit a child with it till it breaks, cane’s are a little harder to break, wooden spoons harder still. Non-wooden weapons were the worst because you could get hit with them for ages and they never broke (slippers, belts, etc., lots of give you know?). And so when my parents were ‘correcting me’ I would continue to do that which they told me not to do, and get them to escalate the beatings.

See I was what I would call a determined child, but you may call a stubborn child. And the one thing I knew had definite fallibility was my parents. Sometimes it took an hour, sometimes hours. But eventually, once many weapons had been broken over my body, they were always more upset than I was. I still clearly remember escalating numerous episodes that ended in me bleeding and my mother crying.

I don’t believe this was abuse and I know my parents loved me dearly. It’s just that once you start a punishment by hitting, if your kid is mocking you, you don’t have a lot of choices on how to proceed except harder hitting.

I was about nine years old the first time I ever heard someone suggest that hitting your kids was wrong. This was after I moved to Australia. In Australia, corporal punishment, particularly the severe brand of weapon based corporal punishment practiced by Sri Lankans, is considered abuse. There are all these helplines and other forms of social outreach based around ending it.

Still many Sri Lankan parents living in Australia continue to practice it, and more importantly, in true Sri Lankan patriotic fashion, consider Australian children to be poorly behaved and attribute this behavior to their parents’ unwillingness to hit them.

Now I don’t really want to enter a debate about culture clash or racially divergent parenting methodologies, and I’m not asserting that one is better than the other. But I think about that day in St. Joseph’s all the time. So let me ask you this: if you consider violence to be an unacceptable reaction to someone not behaving the way you deem appropriate, why would YOU enact violence upon THEM?

Why would you return violence with violence and expect any reaction other than more violence? Specially when we as a nation have seen a mistreated minority of our people band together and kill soldiers, leading Sri Lankans burning innocents in the street. Thus leading to suicide bombings, which then led to a near 3 decade long brutal and bloody conflict. Even when we all know and live with police corruption and brutality as a norm. And despite the fact that we have lived through generations of murder as a political currency, and seen Buddhist monks abandon meditation for punching people in public.

Why are we so damn convinced that hitting our kids is a great idea?

Now I have a very high tolerance for pain. Anyone who has ever waxed me, tattooed me or pierced me will attest to this. The only sport I have ever been remotely successful at is cage fighting, and that is also probably because I have a positive relationship with physical pain.

I also have a proclivity for hitting people, I spent a lot of my childhood in Australia getting into fights. This particularly wasn't helpful to me since I was much smaller and weaker than most of the other kids. Additionally I think I have an affectionate response to physical pain, you can ask my exes about this, but please don’t.

Finally, I have an automatic ingrained distrust and disdain for authority figures. This is something I have worked very hard to rid myself of since it has caused me a lot of problems in the past, but I still struggle with it today.

So if your dream is for your child to turn out like me, then hit em, hit em good.

And if you see our country’s perpetual cycle of violence and your eyes swell with tears of patriotic pride. If you can’t wait till the day the fruit of your loins is a fully grown rioter, corrupt cop, street brawling monk or gun fighting politician then you take out that cane and you beat the Sri Lankan right into them.

But if not… well, maybe it’s time you questioned that conventional wisdom.

Either way you’ll have to be brave in your convictions, because how will you know the difference between the results of your ‘parenting’ and what your kids have managed despite it?

[cunningdan79]

#Abuse is the #corporalpunishment

There are those who crave assaulting kids.

They feel prudence is what strength forbids.

They say, "It's discipline!

That's how they're saved from sin...

Because they're unwanted invalids."

[narcissismunveiled]

7 things you' ve learned from being falsely accused.

1/ You'll find out who your real friends are.

2/ You'll learn a lot about your family.

3/ You'll lose a lot of faith in humanity.

4/ You'll realize that the system is designed to destroy men.

5/ You will never be the same again.

6/ You are stronger than you think

7/ You will rise and defeat the false allegations by the hardcore truth

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[familythings]

Punished Children Turn Out to Be Violent as Adults

Punished Children Turn Out to Be Violent as Adults

Last night I found an article in Facebook at ‘Bright Side’ about the educational ways for children. The title of the article spoke about 5 Reasons why Corporal Punishment does not work. There were thousands of comments to the article and I started to read those before even opening the article.

I was surprised. Almost all parents that commented were saying Corporal Punishment (or using…

[wcegtalkradio]

Stay Tuned for FALL SEASON 7….. #issuesandanswers on WCEG TALK RADIO with host Hon @valenciastovall on Monday, September 19, 2022 at 4-5pm EDT. Topic: Recount Ga2022 and Corporal Punishment in Schools. Watch Livestream: FB YT TWR IN - @wcegnetwork @wceg_talk_radio www.Wcegtalkradio.com www.WcegRadio.com #wcegnetwork #wcegnetworktv #wcegtalkradio #wcegradio #issuesandanswersonwcegnetwork #recount #corporalpunishment https://www.instagram.com/p/Cil4Yb-uZW8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[legalupanishad]

Corporal Punishment in India: Concept and Laws

This article on 'Corporal punishment: Concept and laws in India' was written by an intern at Legal Upanishad.

Introduction

It is very common for people, especially parents and teachers, to use some sort of physical violence to “induce discipline” in their children or students. It can be something minor like having him stand on a bench or using force and beating the child. This method of “inducing discipline” has been banned by the government under several laws. This article will take a look at the concept of corporal punishment and the laws regarding the same.

What is Corporal Punishment?

Corporal Punishment is when a type of punishment that involves physically hitting someone. The punishment intends to inflict physical pain on someone, commonly minors, so that they do not repeat the mistake which caused the punishment. It is commonly used for prisoners as well. The most common types of physical violence against a prisoner are caning and whipping. Violence against both a minor and a prisoner has been abolished in most countries. However, a few of the former British territories and Muslim-majority countries still use corporal punishment and it is still legal in a few countries.

Types of Corporal Punishment in schools

Even though corporal punishment is banned in India through several Acts and even fundamental rights, teachers still use some sort of physical punishment on their students. Below are the three types of corporal punishments used in schools. - Physical - This type includes all types of physical violence or punishments like hitting the child with a belt, a shoe, or a stick, pinching and grabbing ears, or hair. It also includes a few things which might not seem obvious but it does come under physical corporal punishment like making the child stand on a bench or making him stand in an uncomfortable position while making him hold his ears. Teachers also cannot make him stay back during recess or the games period. - Mental - Insulting him in front of his peers, scolding the child and calling him with insulting adjectives, saying that the child is suffering from a mental disease and insulting them for a poor score in their exams, and making fun of a child who is suffering from some sort of mental illness or stammer. - It also includes discriminatory corporal punishment which means treating the child differently because of their caste, creed, gender, or financial background

Corporal Punishment in India

A survey conducted by the Ministry of Women and Child Development revealed some shocking truths about the physical and mental abuse of children in India. Nearly 12500 students between the age of 5-18 were interviewed from 13 different states.  The study found out that out of the 65% of the students who faced physical abuse, 54% were boys and 45% were girls. More than 50% of the participants said that they faced sexual abuse. The study also named a few states where corporal punishment was most prevalent which were Uttar Pradesh, Assam, and Mizoram where Goa, and Rajasthan reported low numbers of punishments. It was also found that on average at least 5 students faced beating per school per day. Moreover, the study also included emotional abuse of students. 1 in 2 students faced emotional abuse in school. Parents were the primary abuser in this type of abuse. Nearly half of the girls wished they were boys. Children between the ages of 5-12 were most vulnerable to abuse.

Corporal punishment in India: Concept and laws

Laws that the usage of Corporal Punishment violates

Article 21 of the Indian Constitution Article 21 of the Indian Constitution says that “No person shall be deprived of his life or personal liberty except according to procedure established by law.” Corporal punishment violated Article 21 as the dignity of the child is forsaken when a teacher ridicules or beats him in front of his peers.  Further, it also violates Article 21-A of the Constitution which says that all children between the age of 6 and 14 shall receive free and compulsory education. If any child faces humiliation or violence at school, he might be encouraged to miss school regularly. Children can even drop out of school out of fear of punishment.  Indian Penal Code (IPC) Several sections of the IPC may be violated, depending on the severity of the damage caused to the child. Some sections which are violated are below- - Section 305 -  Indirectly encouraging a child to commit suicide - Section 325 - Causing severe harm to a  person voluntarily - Section 352 - A grave provocation, assault, or using criminal force - Section 506 - Criminal intimidation of a person - Section 354 - Assault or criminal intimidation on a woman which can outrage her modesty The Right to Education Act, 2009 This Act includes a wide range of issues like compulsory and free education, the quality of education, the ratio between teachers and students, and corporal punishment. The Act prohibits every type of physical and mental abuse of children. It also prohibits discrimination against students on the basis of caste, creed, gender, religion, and financial background The Juvenile Justice Act, 2000 This Act also deals with a wide range of issues. It sets guidelines on how to deal with or counsel a juvenile who conflicts with the law. Section 23 of the Act mentions the punishment for the cruel treatment of any juvenile by the person in charge of them. Section 26 provides the punishment for the employment of a juvenile in an environment that can be hazardous for them. The Act also requires that there should be at least 1 child welfare officer in every police station and they should also have the aptitude and all the required training for the job. It also created Special Juvenile Police Units for the same purpose. Authorities that keep Corporal Punishment in check There are two main bodies that have been established in India for the sole purpose of cracking down on corporal punishment. The first is the National Commission for Protection of Child Rights and the second is the State Commission for Protection of Child Rights. Both of these bodies are tasked with making sure that the children are treated by the Right to Education Act, 2009 (RTE). They also examine the rights provided under this Act and also make any recommendations that might be relevant to the Act. They can also launch inquiries into the complaints which claim the violation of the RTE Act

Conclusion

The Government has indeed brought in some laws and statutory bodies which are major in protecting children’s rights. Despite all the governmental efforts, corporal punishment is still a big issue in India. These incidents are extremely frequent and children are sometimes afraid to report them. Even if they do report it to their parents, they chalk it up and say that “it isn't a big deal” and the teacher was only disciplining the child and there was nothing much they could do about it. It is a big deal and children should be encouraged to report physical and mental abuse and they should also be taken seriously.

References

- Dhruv Bharadwaj, Is corporal punishment legal in India, https://blog.ipleaders.in/corporal-punishment-india/ accessed 1st August, 2022. - Corporal punishment 'widespread' in Indian schools, https://www.bbc.com/news/world-south-asia-11617206 accessed 1st August, 2022. - Over 53% children face sexual abuse: Survey, https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/over-53-children-face-sexual-abuse-survey/articleshow/1881344.cms accessed 1st August, 2022. Read the full article

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3 Positive Discipline Strategies That Are Best For Your Child 👨‍👩‍👧

I’m old enough to remember how the cane at school was used for punishment. My dad is old enough to think that banning corporal punishment in schools resulted in today’s poorly disciplined youth. With all of this as my early experiences, there was a time when I would have been better assigned to write about how to negatively discipline your child.

What changed? Thankfully, my wife showed me different approaches for discipline that were very positive. Plus, I was open to learning.

What has not changed is that kids are full of problems with impulses and emotions that flip from sad to happy, then angry in a moment. Though we’re not that different as adults with stress, anxiety, lack of sleep, and stimulants such as sugar and caffeine in our diets.

Punishment as Discipline?

What this means is that we usually take the easy path when a child misbehaves and punish them. Punishment may solve an isolated problem, but it’s not really teaching the kids anything useful in the long term.

Probably it’s time for me to be clear about what I mean by punishment and discipline as these terms are often used interchangeably, but they are quite different.

Discipline VS. Punishment

Punishment is where we inflict pain or suffering on our child as a penalty. Discipline means to teach. They’re quite the opposite, but you’ll notice that teachers, parents, and coaches often confuse the two words.

So, as parents, we have to have clear goals to teach our kids. It’s a long-term plan—using strategies that will have the longest-lasting impact on our kids are the best use of our time and energy.

If you’re clear about what you want to achieve, then it becomes easier to find the best strategy. The better we are at responding when our kids misbehave or do not follow our guidance, the better the results are going to be.

3 Positive Discipline Strategies for Your Child

Stay with me as I appreciate that a lot of people who read these blogs do not always have children with impulse control. We’ve had a lot of kids in our martial arts classes that were the complete opposite. They had concentration issues, hyperactive, and disruptive to the other children.

The easy solution is to punish their parents by removing the kids from the class or punish the child with penalties such as time outs and burpees. Yes, it was tempting to do all of this, but one of our club values is that we pull you up rather than push you down.

This means it’s a long-term gain to build trust and confidence, which is destroyed by constant punishments.

Here are the discipline strategies we used to build trust and confidence with these hyperactive kids.

1. Patience

The first positive discipline strategy is to simply be patient. The more patient you are, the more likely you are to get results. Remember I said that we need to build trust and connection. You’ll get further with this goal using patience.

As a coach, sometimes I was not the best person for this role, but we had other coaches in the club that could step in here. As a parent, you may not have this luxury, so it’s really important to recognize any improvements that you see and celebrate them.

2. Redirection

The second strategy we use is redirection. It’s important with a redirection to take “no” out of the equation. Choices are a great alternative.

Imagine a scenario where you’re in a restaurant and your kid is wailing. The hard part here is getting your child to stop screaming long enough for you to build a connection. Most parents have calming strategies and if you practice them with your child, they are more likely to be effective.

In the first moment of calm, you can say “Your choice to scream and cry in public is not a good one. It would be best to say, Dad. What can I do to get ice-cream?” You can replace this with an appropriate option.

The challenge with being calm and redirecting is that we need to be clear-minded, focused, and really engaged at the moment. If you’re on your phone, talking with friends or family, thinking about work or the bills, you’ll miss this opportunity to discipline in a way that has long-term benefits.

3. Repair and Ground Rules

The third positive discipline strategy is to repair and use ground rules. Once you’ve given the better option and it has been taken, you have a chance to repair this behavior to lessen its occurrence to better yet, prevent it from happening again. And by setting appropriate ground rules, you can make this a long-term win by helping your child improve their behavior.

It’s these ground rules that help you correct the poor choices of your child and direct the behavior that you want to see.

Consequences Versus Ultimatums

When I was a child and being punished. My parents worked in a busy business for long hours, so their default was to go to ultimatums. “Do that again and you’re grounded for a week,” or “If I catch you doing X, you’ll go to bed without dinner”.

Looking back, this worked to a point. But the flip side is that I remembered more of the ultimatums than the happier times. I’ve learned through trial and error with my own kids that consequences are more effective while not breaking down trust.

What to Do When Ground Rules Get Broken?

It’s on the consequences that you use when the ground rules are broken.

In the martial arts class, when the hyperactive student breaks the ground rules. They would miss a turn in a game or go to the back of the line in a queue. We do not want to shame the child by isolating them. But on the flip side, there should be clear ground rules and proportionate consequences.

Yes, there are times when we would like to exclude the student from the class, the club, and even the universe. Again, it’s here that patience is so important and probably impulse control too. With an attainable consequence, you can maintain trust and you’re more likely to get the long-term behavior that you’re looking to achieve.

Interestingly, we would occasionally hear a strategy from parents that little Kevin has been misbehaving at home with his sister or something similar. He likes martial arts training, so the parent would react by removing Kevin from the martial arts class as a punishment.

We would suggest that this would remove Kevin from an environment where he is behaving positively. Removing him from this is likely to be detrimental to the change you would like to see. He may even feel shame when he returns to the class and loses all the progress he’s made.

lternatives to Punishment

Another option is to tell Kevin to write a letter to his sister, apologizing for his behavior, and explaining how he is going to behave in the future.

If your child is too young to write, give the apology face to face. For the apology to feel sincere, there is some value to pre-framing or practicing this between yourself and your child before they give it to the intended person.

Don’t expect them to know the ground rules or what you’re thinking! It will be clearer to your child and better received with some practice. You can practice along the lines of: “X is the behavior I did, Y is what I should have done, and Z is my promise to you for how I’m going to act in the future.” You can replace XYZ with the appropriate actions.

It does not need to be a letter or in person, it can even be a video. But there has to be an intention to repair the broken ground rule. If you try these strategies, that is become fully engaged with them and you’re still getting nowhere.

But what to do if these strategies do not work? Then there is plenty to gain by seeking the help of an expert. Chances are that something is interfering or limiting their development.

This does not mean that your child has a neurological deficiency, although this may be the root cause. But it means that you can get an objective view and help on how to create the changes that you would like to see. Remember that using positive discipline strategies is better than mere punishment.

There are groups that you can chat with for help. Family Lives UK has the aim of ensuring that all parents have somewhere to turn before they reached a crisis point. The NSPCC also provides a useful guide to positive parenting that you can download.[1]

Bottom Line

So, there your go, the three takeaways on strategies you can use for positively disciplining your child. The first one is about you! Be patient, be present, and think about what is best for the long term. AKA, avoid ultimatums and punishment. The second is to use a redirect, then repair and repeat (ground rules) as your 3-step method of discipline.

Using these positive discipline strategies require you to be fully engaged with your child. Again, being impulsive breaks trust and you lose some of the gains you’ve both worked hard to achieve.

Lastly, consequences are better than punishment. Plus, avoid shaming, especially in public at all costs.

I hope this blog has been useful, and remember that you should be more focused on repairing bad behavior because being proactive and encouraging good behavior with rewards, fun, and positive emotions takes less effort than repairing the bad.

More Tips on How To Discipline Your Child

How to Discipline a Child (The Complete Guide for Different Ages)Seven Alternatives to Spanking Your Child that Actually WorkHow To Discipline Your Kids Using Words

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Reference

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[nirvanaq]

I am gonna be rich! I was never made to wear a Dunces hat. But I was make to walk with a book on my head, I hope that counts? 😁 #compensation #corporalpunishment #childhoodtrauma #childhood https://www.instagram.com/p/CMjAQxGgTKwzHFX94GNPOWe7PQM5o4rOTlKHr40/?igshid=tjtvssgeezuj

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[madeinchinaassembledinuk]

I was listening to a podcast yesterday and one of the co-hosts mentioned he used to have a teacher who kept a rubber brick on his desk. The other host mused over the fact that if the teacher were to throw it at a student as a form of punishment, it would only work once before the other students twigged it was made of rubber. The conclusion of this story was that the teacher should have kept a pile of real bricks behind his desk and hid the rubber one amongst them; thus making it a much more effective form of punishment. #inktober #inktober2020 #inktoberday9 #inktoberprompts #throw #gossipmongers #corporalpunishment #bricks #rubberbrick #doodles #doodlesofinstagram #doodleformentalhealth https://www.instagram.com/p/CGIqrhFpAup/?igshid=1p7g186dp7h2y

[jakubciezki]

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[humanismtoday]

A Christian “college” tortured students and created a fascist mini-state in Ontario, Canada.

They used Corporal Punishment to create their Fear state

https://friendlyatheist.patheos.com/2020/03/05/christian-college-exploited-and-controlled-teen-students-rules-ontario-judge/