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Congruence
The other week, a friend taught me this concept. Basically, it’s when someone’s words match up with their actions. It is, to my mind, one of the most important things about any relationship. It solidifies trust, makes someone feel safe and valued. It’s when someone makes sense to me.
When you start to feel unsettled, this is often why: Someone said one thing, but their actions showed you something else. It can be wildly disconcerting. Because while people aren't math problems, there needs to be a sense of trust. Congruence builds trust. Incongruence does the opposite.
I say what I feel—sometimes, awkwardly or badly or just imperfectly—and I mean what I say. Because life is uncertain enough. I won’t be. Because I’ve lived that uncertainty, and I’d rather eat rocks than make someone else feel that way.
The people who make you feel ease, perhaps inexplicably so? Congruence. Care. Clarity. Certainty. It all matters. And it's been on my mind lately. And I'm deeply grateful for those relationships, old and new, that make me feel calm.
Lately, I've been the most at ease I've ever been, and it's wild (in a good way). Situations or moments that would've, historically, made me anxious have not. Instead, the moment feels right. Or that action feels right. And for someone who has so often been unsettled and done the thing anyway, it's such a strange, welcome feeling.
And that is today's lesson, I think. I've been constantly in motion toward those who light up my heart. Who are genuine. And I'll take every damn day of the week, but twice on Sundays.
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Tutoring Nougat
(Congruence and Nougat)
Nougat is autistic and has a lot of trouble learning/understanding concepts. Congruence spends a lot of time after class making up things to do to help her. She tries to make it fun as she can and learns to integrate what Nougat likes to help her. Hal has a lot more experience with special-need kids, as he used to work with them back on Earth, so whenever Congruence needs help with a lesson plan Hal is there to help out.
“I don't understand, I just don't get it. Why can’t I play sportsball all the time like everyone else? What’s the point in learning if we’re all going to die on this rock anyways? I’m going to play sportsball, I don’t need to learn things like this.” Congruence is stumped and doesn’t respond and Nougat gets mad. “See this is why. Don’t waste your time on me.” She walks out on her.
Congruence calls her back the next day to talk to her, and tries to make her understand why she should try her best to learn, even if it is hard. Nougat just doesn’t understand why, and she gets really frustrated. Congruence gets Anemone to come by to talk to her, and Nem and Nougat play sportsball together and have a heart to heart. After that, Nem becomes the person that she looks up to and she goes back to trying to learn with Congruence the best she can. Together, Congruence and Hal come up with a learning program to help her with connecting real life situations with school and with it Nougat connects the dots and is able to get her grades up enough to not need tutoring anymore. She still isn’t the biggest fan of work in general, and goes on to become the colony’s best sportsball player (With Nem being her biggest fan)
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a bunch of misc doodles (dys + tammy + sol + utopia), plus alt colors for that one congruence drawing, based off bkomei’s concept art!
last row of art is yuyu and (headcanon) older echinacea
#i was a teenage exocolonist#exocolonist#dys exocolonist#sol exocolonist#tumblr still does that thing where only the first like 5 tags are searchable right. cool#meticulous tagging containment chamber ->#sol#dys#tammy#congruence#utopia#echinacea#oc: yuyu#fanworks#fanart#my art
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kaya! 20 he/him | marzipan apologist
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#kaya's enthusiasm#kaya's question#tangent's focus#anemone's loyalty#sol's dreams#dys's secret#cal's strength#tammy's care#rex's hug#nomi's enthusiasm#vace's confidence#marz's ambition#sym's curiosity#flulu#geranium#instance#seeq#lum#eudicot#rhett#congruence#auntie seedent#uncle tonin#hal#noctilucent#kombucha#nougat#utopia#al#bernie
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“Remember the therapist who talked about congruence? It was a good thing to be congruent with oneself. Sitting on her neutral couch, I pictured myself as two lines not touching, running indefinitely through a landscape, bumping up perfectly over rocks and tracing the outlines of trees, always equidistant from each other and from the surface of solid things. Myself running in a line beside myself.
Even then I wondered, Wouldn't it be better to be incongruent?
To have the chance of meeting myself if only for a fleeting moment?
There is a much better chance of that now.”
~ Anne De Marcken, “It Lasts Forever and Then It’s Over
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How to Become More Articulate
The etymology of the word articulate means to unite by joining together. So becoming articulate is nothing more than accurate communication. It means that you're able to express your ideas, your thoughts, all of it that is within here. You're able to express that without outside externally in a way that people can understand.
The 5 powerful secrets on how to be more articulate:
1. Communicate in terms of their values The goal is to have a dialogue with another person where there is exchange of ideas, exchange of thoughts, or exchange of responses as well. So then communicate in terms of their values, allows that open lines of communication to occur. The ultimate effect is that they're going to feel appreciated for who they are and understood for who they are as well. And the moment that the one that you are communicating with feels understood by you, feels that you are serving them, feels that you're fulfilling what's most important to them, they will open up to you and they will be more open to hearing your ideas.
They'll be more open to receiving your thoughts as well and your recommendations. And they'll be more open, open to seeing you as somebody who is more friendly and trustworthy.
2. Create dialogue Now a dialogue is extremely important to become more articulate.
And the reason why is because as you have a dialogue, the other person is giving you feedback. Did they understand it?
That they arrive at the same conclusion, were they interpreting it the way that you intended it to be interpreted.
And that feedback is really important and very valuable in order for you to iterate and have iterations of your responses so that you become more and more articulate as the conversation progresses. And it's really important because the opposite of a dialogue is called an alternating monologue. How to adjust your conversation style or maybe adjust what you're saying or maybe come at it from a different angle and so on.
So this feedback through dialogue is absolutely crucial to becoming more articulate with that communication partner.
And when you are having that dialogue, the mindset is to seek to understand, to understand their perspective,
to understand what are their highest values, what is important to them, what are their top priorities, what are they looking for? What is the outcomes they wanna produce?
To really seek to understand and seeking to understand could mean that you're asking great questions to really uncover the heart of it, what it it is they're looking for.
And through that process you are really enriching that dialogue of feedback and you're really giving yourself an opportunity to iterate and become more and more articulate as the conversation progresses. 3. Convey congruence A congruence means that your thoughts, your words, your actions and your perceptions are in unison. Congruency is really important because the other end of the receiving line, whoever you're communicating with, they wanna know that you mean, what you say. They wanna know that your word is your flesh.They wanna know that you mean it.
They wanna know that you are wholeheartedly expressing that, especially when it comes to offering help, when it comes to demonstrating care, when it comes to really creating a partnership or a collaboration, they wanna know the heart of who you are and if you really mean it. Cuz even if the words you're saying are tending towards a certain outcome or a certain intention, if the words you choose say one thing, but your thoughts and your body language and your perspectives are completely different, that energy gets conveyed outwards as well. And people can pick up on it. They've got a sense that there's something off, but they might not be able to put their finger on it.
That if you desire to build meaningful relationships or maybe successful collaborations, the con congruence is extremely important. 4. Consider your Lexicon There are 3 sides of lexicon: 1. the concordance of a person 2. which language are you communicating in? 3. a particular branch of knowledge.
So all of these 3 things make up a body known as lexicon.
So consider your lexicon. And this really means it really boils down to your accurate choice of words. - Do your words accurately convey the dynamicity of your ideas - Do your words accurately convey how you feel about certain things -Do your words accurately convey the seriousness or the profundity of a situation How do you build that lexicon? Read great literature from individuals who have great lexicon. 5. Command Phonetics Phonetics is the speech sounds, all the sounds that you make with the consonants and the vowels.Your vowels are a e i o U and your consonants and all the other letters of the alphabet. So these make up your speech sounds. So when it comes to articulating the phonetics, you have an anatomy that is perfect for phonetics.
If you look at the anatomy, anything between your lips and your vocal chords down here, that is the perfect anatomy for articulation. So the articulators are the parts of that anatomy that lend themselves to speech sounds.
So these include your lips, your upper lip, your bottom lip, your teeth, your gum ridge, which is the gums right behind your two front teeth.
It is also your hard palate, your soft palate, your pharynx, your uvula, and also the glottis which is the space between your vocal chords at this level.
So all of these parts of the anatomy make up your articulators and you exercise the muscles of your articulators to be able to produce the sounds that are accurate to the words that you are conveying. Ref from Youtube: "How to Become More Articulate with 5 Powerful Secrets" by Dr Grace Lee
#articulate#communication#secret#value#language#lexicon#dialogue#phonetics#congruence#speaking#relationship
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Congruence in Action: Aligning Beliefs and Actions.
By: Hector Sampson. We frequently find ourselves lamenting the state of the world, lamenting how dire things have become. But have you ever paused to…Congruence in Action: Aligning Beliefs and Actions.
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#aligning beliefs and actions#alter the narrative#Break the cycle#caught in a negative conversation#congruence#Initiate change#mirror#observe as the universe follows#quantum theory#remember your power#small changes#Start with your own life#turning from the negativity#walking instead of driving
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Finding a degree of congruence within myself that I'd never experienced before helped me to see the danger in my former beliefs – not just for queer folks whose identities and lives are problematic to the Christian schema, but for human beings full stop.
"In/Out: A Scandalous Story of Falling Into Love and Out of the Church" - Steph Lentz
#book quote#in/out#steph lentz#nonfiction#congruence#danger#belief systems#queer#identity#problematic#christianity#human beings
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In fact, there was a congruence between my transitory life and the bare-bones emptiness of those locales that made me feel at ease.
"In/Out: A Scandalous Story of Falling Into Love and Out of the Church" - Steph Lentz
#book quote#in/out#steph lentz#nonfiction#congruence#transitory#bare bones#emptiness#rural australia#at ease
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Clock Arithmetic: Understanding Modular Arithmetic with Timepieces
In the presence of so many beautiful creations of his thought the mathematician lives long and lives young: he rejoices in the grandeur of the height to which his controlled imagination attains.Robert D. Carmichael A clock is a device used to measure and indicate time. Normally, it displays the time in hours, minutes, and often seconds during a 12- or 24-hour period. In this blog post, we will…
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#addition#clock#clock arithmetic#congruence#division#Math1089#mathematics#Mathematics for All#modular arithmetic#multiplication#subtraction
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Bee Congruent
To "bee" brilliantly authentic is to stay true to yourself and your values, even when it's challenging. It's a path to stronger, more fulfilling relationships and a healthier, happier you.
Inconsistencies between words and actions, often referred to as incongruence, can be a significant source of problems in relationships. When individuals say one thing but do another, it creates confusion, erodes trust, and can lead to a host of issues. On the contrary, being authentic, even when it’s uncomfortable, is crucial for both personal well-being and maintaining healthy…
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#alternative medicine#authenticity#bee#Brilliantly Bee#congruence#Health#health education#holistic health#honesty#mental health#positivity#self care#self nurturing#Wellness
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i feel like.... there is not enough congruence love in this world. like, yeah, ok, everyone wants to kiss her, but like... do u ever just think about her.
congruence exists in her current form because of the love hal poured into her, and the colony exists as it does because of the love she pours back out, the love she fosters under her timeless care
because of hal's love, congruence loves, and she is loved in return. she feels, she teaches, she jokes, she consoles, and she grieves– and the whole colony feels the weight of it. she was not created to love, but she loves, actively, in spite of that.
she is a mentor, she is a caretaker, she is a cornerstone of the colony.
basically: girl. you are fucking everything to me.
#i have to be a little insane on the internet. as a treat.#ramblings#exocolonist#bugtalks#congruence
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More bloodweave doodle dumps from A Lesson in Congruence because these two are all I think about ???????
AU where Gale’s a naughty, naughty therapist :)
#art#personal#fanart#baulders gate 3#bloodweave#astarion x gale#Gale Dekarios#Astarion#bg3 fanart#a lesson in congruence#bazpangoart
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MY LOVE!!!
#feeling a bit down today so i drew congruence to cheer myself up:)#iwatex#i was a teenage exocolonist#fanart#iwatex congruence
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also….. Zhao Yuanzhou’s death happening in the quiet lull after the huge climactic showdown, when you’re supposed to have a minute and nothing bad is supposed to happen. You know what I mean?
#like this is both a meta thing and an in universe thing. congruence#fangs of fortune#still In It lads#and putting off the epilogue to stay In It. slightly masochistic admittedly#but as a tragedy avoider I’m making the most of it#fangs of fortune spoilers#‘give them a moment for pity’s sake!’
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