#communication style!

[andersunmenschlich]

Reminds me of a miscommunication last week at work.

I do overnight stocking in a local grocery. I'd just wheeled a precariously stacked U-boat (this thing, not a military craft) into a far aisle, and looked back to see a much younger coworker nearly lose a bunch of stuff off another U-boat.

There was a shopping cart in his way: he'd tried to swerve around it and a section of the stack on his boat had begun to topple.

As I came up, he rebalanced everything—good as it ever was, which wasn't very. I pulled the cart out of his way, but he didn't move. "We'd better take some of this stuff of the top before I move it," he said.

He was directly in front of the aisle that stuff went into, so I started pulling product off the top of the cart and moving it into the aisle.

The kid (who still wasn't helping) shouted at me.

"No!" he said, as though I were deliberately doing a thing different from what he'd specifically asked for. "Put it in the cart!"

I raised an eyebrow.

He looked slightly embarrassed, but still seemed to be wondering why I would move product into the aisle instead of into the aisle-occluding cart. I didn't have time to untangle the situation—the delivery truck had been late, and we had only a short while to get everything on shelves before the store opened—but the puzzle keeps coming back to me.

I am autistic. Perhaps he "said" where he wanted his boxes with his eyebrows or something. All I know is that he certainly didn't say it with his words.

Me and my boyfriend grew up with very different styles of communication. I learned early that if someone asks you a question, you should quickly assess what the asker actually wants to know, and answer with that information, so you won't bore them with stuff they don't care about or annoy them by telling them things that they'd already know. And the problem with the way you were raised is that you always kind of assume that everyone looks and thinks about things the same way you do.

As mentioned earlier, my boyfriend and his family are not like that. He does not start to troubleshoot for the most likely "real" question behind the general one being asked. The first assumption is what goes, and if those tracks don't lead anywhere, that's too bad because there's no such thing as the second most likely option. I've had to learn how to ask more specific and less open-ended questions, because he isn't accustomed to the kind of most-logical-option leaps as I've grown up with.

His father is not autistic, but he does work in IT. I frequently need to remind myself that he does not hate me. If I ask him a question that can be interpreted in two different ways, it's best to assume he didn't pick up on the one I meant. So if I ask a question but get a different answer than I expected, his thought process is "you asked me a question, therefore I answer this question", and not "this question can be interpreted two different ways, one of which is practical for the time being and a sensible thing to ask in this situation, and the other one is a fucking stupid question. I will answer the stupid question because I've concluded that you are fucking stupid."

[blumencia]

[wanologic]

yo danny fenton he was just 19

[morxwar]

[stealingyourbones]

There’s a new drug in Gotham making the rounds, one synthesized by Two-Face’s people; if you take it you will have a 50/50 chance that you’ll experience the greatest high of your life or that you’ll die.

Batman is desperately trying to find the main lab and cut off the production from the source and hasn’t been able to find a lead in weeks.

That’s when Gordon gives him a file that was given to him by a “white haired ghost kid”. It’s a detailed report written similarly to a scientific journal with detailed sources that are mainly first hand accounts from deceased victims of the Two-Face drug.

At the very end of the paper there’s an address to a Gotham University dorm room with a sticky note next to it that says “if you need help with death or the undead. Yours truly; Danny Fenton.”

[callmemossbrain]

brushing your hair, aroace style. holding your hand, aroace style. leaning on you, aroace style. laughing with you, aroace style. cuddling while going to sleep, aroace style. braiding your hair, aroace style. dinner together, aroace style. long hugs, aroace style. inside jokes, aroace style. "babe, love, dear," aroace style. making fun of things together, aroace style. giggling at three am, aroace style. driving to see you, or you see me, aroace style. meeting each other's friends, aroace style. meeting important people in your life, aroace style. dropping off a coffee while at work, aroace style. opening the car door for you, aroace style. comforting hand on knees, shoulders, head, back, aroace style. sleepy drives, aroace style. "I have ibuprofen," aroace style. "don't forget your meds," aroace style.

platonic swag, if you will.

[ac1d-rainz]

i love my puter all my friends are inside it

[dadvans]

the silliest fandom problem to have is curating my online space so carefully and so vigilantly that when mentions of a truly delusional post break containment and intrigue me, i have to use quantum physics and enter the fifth dimension just to find that post because i want to have a vicious little popcorn moment

[vanessas-bookereport]

one thing that so many students forget is that, a win is a win. if you planned on doing english homework but instead you finished your history essay, celebrate that, don’t be upset that you didn’t sick to your plan, at least you got SOMETHING DONE. a win is a fucking win and don’t let anyone tell you different.

[umblrspectrum]

infinitely funnier visuals in my head, likely because they werent subject to my actual skill level in art

[farfallasims]

Styling Denim Skirts 🏷️

01. Sunglasses | Coat | Sweater | Belt | Skirt | Boots

02. Sweater | Tote Bag | Skirt | Loafers

03. Sweater | Cardigan | Skirt | Purse | Boots

04. Scarf | Denim Jacket | Skirt | Purse | Boots

Thank you to the CC Creators! @serenity-cc @charonlee @sentate @seoulsoul-sims @magic-bot & others!

[tahbhie]

How many drafts should you go through before deciding your novel is ready?

There's no specific (official) number, but to create a foundation that ensures you don't burn out quickly, overwork yourself, and get tired of your work, I'll say four. It's the same number I use for my students since most of them have other engagements outside writing that take up a copious amount of their time.

1. Initial or Zero Draft:

This draft is also called the 'just write' draft. Focus on putting that idea down. As the creative juices flow, let it all out. Don't worry about perfection or coherence; the goal is to capture your raw ideas and get the story out of your head and onto the page.

2. Second Draft:

This is the plot draft. Read through what you have written to see if every detail you added was meant to be. Here, you focus on the structure of your story. Ensure that the plot makes sense, the pacing is right, and there are no major plot holes. This is where you might add, remove, or rearrange scenes to improve the overall flow of the narrative.

3. Third Draft:

Character development draft. In this stage, you look deeper into your characters. Make sure their motivations, backgrounds, and arcs are well-defined and consistent. Flesh out their personalities and relationships, ensuring they are compelling and believable. This is also a good time to refine dialogue and make sure it sounds natural and true to each character. That's for this drafting stage.

4. Fourth Draft:

Grammar and punctuation draft. This is the polishing stage. Focus on correcting grammatical errors, punctuation, and spelling mistakes. Pay attention to sentence structure, word choice, and overall readability. This draft is about making your manuscript as clean and professional as possible.

Keep in mind that the goal is to define what completion means for each draft. Once you reach the goal, take a break and return to it for the next drafting stage.

Some writers pay people to carry out some of the drafting stages for them, so if you fall into that category, you might have fewer drafting stages to handle yourself!

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Thank you all for the support 💜!

[bugbugbugfish]

so you can take care of our leftovers !

[kebowyre]

hello tumbling app uhmmm new art style

wow!!!! also im taking requests, though mainly scene redraws

[morxwar]