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stardust-moth · 2 months ago

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looking at some takes on characters or relationships or scenes in which things happen between them and just thinking,

How in the hell are people interpreting it this way??? But then i step back and realize that the story or character in question is fundamentally and extraordinarily different from the average person's life experience and I go,

ah,

you guys just... don't have a deep enough understanding of trauma responses...

#mine #vagueblogging again i guess but this applies to many things #its honestly okay that the general public doesn't grasp the deeper layers at play because tbh theyre not often explored in media #to that degree at least #ive known someone with deep. Deep. DEEP traumas #shit that no human should ever go through and sounds almost cartoonishly evil #and the truth is #healing from that is UGLY. the impact it has on how a person interacts with their life is unimaginable #and it often makes NO SENSE AT ALL to someone who hasn't experienced the same shit #it's not as simple as 'i'm sad or scared and i cry easily but if youre nice to me and love me it'll go away'#in my own experience of loving someone like that #you sometimes have to work at helping them rewrite their entire philosophies.#things you wouldnt even think of #sometimes expressing sadness or pain is the hardest part about it because they're so used to turning the other cheek to survive #sometimes theyre so used to being manipulated that they reject any kindness you offer in the most viscerally violent way #and it hurts!#communication is HARD!#receiving love is HARD!#i was listening to Raon Lee's cover of Kokoronashi #and thinking about how raw the emotions are in the lyrics #and how so many average joes out there wouldn't be able to make any sense of it but those who do get it really get it #(essentially like... 'i wish you would just get it overwith and tear me apart #bc it would hurt less than the confusion i feel at how you're kind to me and holding me and promising to never let go...#at least i know how to handle the pain of dying #this is so confusing and frightening what youre doing to me. i hate it i hate it but please... don't leave me alone')#(its such a gorgeous song)#sHIT AND THEN 2 SECONDS LATER I FIND KOHANA LAM'S COVER OF IT AND IT'S SO MUCH MOR E #for the love of god look up that song and turn on lyrics captions

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nondelphic · 3 months ago

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“you’re a writer, can you explain your process?” yes. first, i panic. then i procrastinate. then, in a fit of productivity at 3 a.m., i create chaos.

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tremendously-crazy · 5 months ago

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"Do you want a boyfriend/girlfriend?" no i want a best friend/roommate/soulmate that I can go on silly adventures with and hang out with and have deep intellectual discussions with and we can be life partners without any of the romance stuff

#its so hard trying to explain this to other people so maybe the aspec community gets it?#john watson #sherlock holmes #sherlock holmes/john watson #aroacespec #aroace #aromantic #asexual #acespec #arospec #queerplatonic relationship #qpr positivity #qpr #queerplatonic #1k #5k #10k

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buddieinmybeddie · 5 months ago

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LGBTQ+ folk what was your gender/sexuality pipeline?

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aledommty5 · 10 days ago

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Moaning "You're my fucking girl. All fucking mine." while pumping you with multiple loads of cum.

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inkskinned · 2 months ago

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having good & true friends will literally save and protect you in a million unfathomable ways. like okay we have written so many times about lovers. but the way a platonic friend laughs and cries with you. the way they hold your hand at 14 years old and at 34. the way they keep a little silver tie to you, touching base over and over and over. how you can go years without talking, only to re-meet and discover: oh shit! you're still cool!

there are people who have been in my life for more than half of it, and i have loved every version of them. do you know how fucking beautiful that is. yeah love will save the world. but the way friends love you is gonna save the you.

#and before one of u is like '' i have no friends :(" i used to be there too actually #abusive partner cut me off from ALL of 'em. i didn't think i was lovable #it made me EXCEPTIONALLY shy. i still am actually!!!!#i just ... started saying ''yes.''#i would take pictures of flyers in my library and go to whatever events they had #i started taking community classes #if someone mentioned like ''i am gonna start x group'' i actually took a deep breath #and approached them to be like . okay i want in.#i started making the first move with new people - a small compliment #a smile or a little joke. just to share the space with them.#i have MASSIVE social anxiety. bad parent and bad relationship will do that to ya.#but i just... kept going. and going. and going. to each of these little things. and then...#like. .... idk i just am very blessed. i have a STUPID number of friends #a lot of which i reconnected with. bc it turns out love is never wasted. adult life just.#like. gets in the way. but also... i loved u as a weird little kid. i love u now as a weird big adult.#i promise i PROMISE ur friends are out there. u just have 2 find them. and btw #i didn't make friends with everyone. but i did get a lot of people to smile or laugh.#aint that something.#this process took me something like 2 years. it was HARD!!!!!!!!!!#i love u!!! hard things are often worth it!!!

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chloesimaginationthings · 2 months ago

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The REAL lore from the FNAF survival logbook,,

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veronicaleighauthor · 2 months ago

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#writing humor #writing #writing is hard #writing community #authors #indie authors #writblr

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princess-moon20 · 3 months ago

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i need some big veiny hands arround my neck 🩷🥺

#cnc slvt #attention wh0r3 #needy princess #stupid slvt #bd/sm kink #bd/sm community #bd/sm little #cnc sub #daddy's good girl #praise k!nk #daddy k!nk #hard k1nk

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quinnjgraham · 3 months ago

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I know this is the website where we talk about artists and writers doing anything other than making art or writing, but man, we REALLY undersell how good it feels to actually work on your stuff.

Like you hit your word count for the first time in a week and its like

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nondelphic · 4 months ago

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"just write the story you want to read!" they said. well, guess what, now i have 14 unfinished drafts because apparently, i want to read 14 different stories at once.

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jimmycarterghostland · 10 months ago

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Me writing a scene with two or more people of the same gender and trying not to get the readers confused, while also trying not to overuse the characters' names or epithets