#coersion

[protoslacker]

There’s something pathological about how coercion sucks in vast resources when care is more economical, not to mention humane, but is nonetheless starved and derided. This pattern is so obvious and ubiquitous that you’ll have noticed it too. I point it out because although it is everywhere, and supported by both UK political parties, it is not sensible, and nor is it inevitable.

Maria Farrell at Crooked Timber. Coercion versus Care

[adulting-figuring-it-out]

Breaking Free from Coercive Control. Reclaiming Independence and Empowerment

Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse characterized by manipulation, intimidation, and domination, often employed to exert power over another individual. This insidious form of control can permeate various aspects of a person's life, leaving them feeling trapped, helpless, and stripped of their autonomy. However, breaking free from coercive control is not only possible but essential for reclaiming one's independence and well-being.

Recognizing Coercive Control

Identifying coercive control can be challenging, as it often occurs gradually and subtly, making it difficult to recognize for both the victim and those around them. Some common tactics used by perpetrators of coercive control include:

Isolation: Restricting the victim's access to friends, family, and support networks, thereby increasing their dependence on the perpetrator.

Gaslighting: Manipulating the victim's perception of reality, making them doubt their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

Intimidation: Using threats, both explicit and implicit, to instill fear and compliance in the victim.

Financial abuse: Controlling the victim's finances, restricting access to money, or sabotaging their employment opportunities.

Emotional manipulation: Employing guilt, shame, or other emotional tactics to maintain control over the victim.

Steps to Breaking Free

Breaking free from coercive control is a courageous and often challenging process, but it is achievable with the right support and resources. Here are some steps individuals can take to reclaim their independence and empower themselves:

Recognize the Abuse: Acknowledge that you are experiencing coercive control and understand that it is not your fault. Recognizing the signs of abuse is the first step towards breaking free from its grip.

Build a Support Network: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can provide emotional support and guidance. Having a strong support network can be invaluable in navigating the complexities of leaving an abusive relationship.

Seek Professional Help: Consider seeking support from therapists, counselors, or support groups specializing in domestic violence and coercive control. These professionals can offer guidance, validation, and resources to help you break free from the cycle of abuse.

Safety Planning: Develop a safety plan to protect yourself in case of escalation or retaliation from the perpetrator. This may include identifying safe places to go, setting boundaries, and establishing a code word to alert others if you are in danger.

Legal Assistance: Consult with legal professionals who specialize in domestic violence law to explore options such as obtaining restraining orders, filing for divorce or separation, and pursuing criminal charges if necessary.

Financial Independence: Take steps towards financial independence by opening your own bank account, securing employment or accessing resources for financial assistance. Financial independence is crucial for breaking free from the economic constraints imposed by the perpetrator.

Focus on Self-Care: Prioritize self-care and prioritize your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, practice self-compassion, and seek out opportunities for personal growth and healing.

Moving Forward

Breaking free from coercive control is a journey that requires courage, strength, and resilience. It may not be easy, and setbacks are common, but know that you are not alone and support is available. By recognizing the abuse, building a support network, seeking professional help, and taking proactive steps towards reclaiming your independence, you can break free from the cycle of coercive control and embark on a path towards empowerment and healing. Remember, you deserve to live a life free from fear and oppression, and reclaiming your autonomy is a powerful step towards that freedom.

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[tenth-sentence]

But in a number of state mental institutions, inmates, especially women, were not released unless they first submitted to "voluntary" sterilization.

"In the Name of Eugenics: Genetics and the Uses of Human Heredity" - Daniel J. Kevles

[stfujayyy]

I didn’t think this would happen to me. And it happen to me from 10pm to 4:27am

I’m glad he didn’t enjoy it because I kept getting away but I think I’m going to crawl back into the hole I was in.

I was bleeding so much after he was done and we supposedly became friends after he said the sex was bad because of me.

I want to crawl back into a hole because I felt sick to my stomach. I haven’t showered because I’m supposed to wait to see a doctor.

Coerced sex is not the same thing as consent!

[lashton-is-my-drug]

4.21.23

Looks like Calum caved into The Man and is forking out the cash for the checkmark.

5sos lost their twitter verified check-marks! 04.20.23

[bindibites]

Some fellow perisex trans people make me really... embarrassed?

How are you going to live a life in a way you don't want to then turn to someone who's intersex voicing against the fact they were forced and/or coerced into transitioning in a way they did not want or agree to and call them privileged.

We should be standing for bodily autonomy for everyone, and that means transitioning should be a choice someone makes. What someone does with their own body is their choice to make, not one that a doctor makes when they are born, not one that medical staff decide is right for them despite what they think.

Fuck you if you think getting HRT and surgery by force, against your will, is privilege.

[is-this-fascism]

got in my first internet argument with an ABA therapist the other day. they avoided the question when i asked if they're ABA, spammed their own comments section with puzzle piece emojis, didn't make any scientific points and basically just kept pushing their website and book as 'proof' of how well their 'treatment' works, and called me an 'autism zombie' and told me to stop 'the thumb vomit' and all i can say is i feel bad for whatever kids have been trained to understand what that means because what the fuck

[theyellowhue]

But this Prapai actually 👀

I refuse to let anyone forget how Prapai looked the moment he saw Sky

(one) because he looked good and (two) he was introduced as a red flag but he pulled through and became the man that Sky needed in his life

Like look at his smug look catching the eyes of a cutie in distress. He decided then and there that he was gonna be the knight in shining armor thats gonna swoop in and save the kid.

He opened his mouth and it just went downhill from there. Like sure, he got a good lay out of it but the kid lives rent free in his mind now and he knows their initial introduction is not gonna put him in the boy's good graces but he just cant forget those fierce eyes that remained defiant despite receiving pleasure.

[landhinlove]

today is such a good day

the sun is shining, I’ve finished my exams, and all of the One Direction boys unfollowed Simon Cowell

[princehendir]

I swear to god da:o dialogue is just better when you're a f!warden

[arlathen]

i love writing a deeply fucked up couple. "this is abusive" yessir it IS !!!

[iamthepulta]

Don't want to read the papers

[556betrayed]

History lesson from 2015: heavy handed intimidation tactics from TWU 556 union leaders during the colossal failure of TA 2013.

[monsterlimbs]

My vibes for Mordriel and Gortash pre-tadpole lol "like yeah we've fucked and all, BUT will you hold my hand. that's the million dollar question. i want to hold YOUR hand do you want to hold MY hand. say yes. if you say no, i might take your hand does that encourage you to say yes i think it should :)" and late night fantasies driving Mordriel insane, not about sex but of simply. holding each other. Like truly the most mundane things for the average man, while he's having a near mental breakdown over it all

i love you intimacy in reverse order. yes we've had sex before and i know all the details of your pleasure, but i don't know anything else. i don't know what it feels like to embrace you carelessly. i can barely hold your hand, the grip is so slight it makes me lose my breath. i want to kiss you but what pressure is the right one? how much is too intimate? yes we've had sex and i've done all these things before - but without the guise of mutual pleasure, can i be sure you won't turn me away? will you allow me the delicate feeling of your hand in mine when you know it is me asking to hold it? i know i've held you before with our clothes off, but can i hold you even tighter? may i listen to the steady sound of your heartbeat? is it alright to look for it in front of everyone? yes, yes of course we've had sex before. i know what you look like naked, ive touched you with the lights off. is it alright to want see you with them on? in the morning, with the sun flitting through the blinds?is it alright to want you when the sun is up? yes we've had sex before but have we ever been intimate? can we be? tell me that it's alright to hold you. no, not like that. just like this.