#cissexism cw

[fictionkinfessions]

Seeing Black Clover fans call Nacht Faust the "mom" of the black bulls makes me mad. Not just because, from a shipping perspective, it enforces the heteronormative gay couple trope, with Yami being the masculine gigachad and Nacht being feminine to mimic a woman in the same sex relationship. Not every same sex relationship needs to mimic a hetero relationship!

But also. In my canon, he was trans. And he was a seahorse dad. Him being my bio dad didn't make him any less of a man in my eyes or anyone else's. And it feels like fans are misgendering him when they call him the "mom". Stop calling my dad the mom you are misgendering him! >:[

- Hikari Sukehiro(noncanon Black Clover character)

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[genderstarbucks]

Alt Cissex Flag!!

Cissex, also known as Cissexual, is a sex label to refer to someone whose current and desired sex characteristics match their natural/original sex characteristics. This means that their, genitals, gonads, and other secondary sex characteristics have not been altered through hormone replacement therapy, or surgery, and they have no intention to do so.

The other one was so dull man 😭 we cissexuals need at least a decent flag

[happilyvaliantkitten]

I absolutely hate how cissexist the conversation around abortion is. I'm trans, and I had an abortion. My experience is important. Trans people deserve competent and compassionate abortion care. Stop erasing us from the conversation. Stop saying that it's okay to erase us and talk over us since we're "such a small minority." When the fuck did that become an acceptable argument in progressive spaces?

On the flip side, stop turning the conversation into "people with penises" versus "people with vaginas." "People with penises" are not the problem; cis men and the gender marginalized people who support them are the driving force behind these laws. There are way more anti-abortion cis women than there are anti-abortion transfem people. You know who was there for me during my abortion? Trans women and transfem people. They listened to me. They provided so much emotional support. They walked with me into the clinic. Trans women and transfem people have been my allies every step of the way. All of us trans folks know that bodily autonomy is a key part of our liberation; the vast majority of transfem people support abortion because they understand that.

As a token of my undying gratitude to all the trans women and transfem people out there, y'all get first dibs on my uterus once transgender uterus transplants become a thing.

[cobwebbed-crow]

A transmasc nonbinary person could:

-Cut off all their hair

-Change their name and pronouns

-Go exclusively by masculine terms

-Wear only men's clothing

but people will still say: "You can't complain about being misgendered. You're AFAB and FEMME presenting. Of course you get misgendered."

Just because that person can't/doesn't bind and/or medically transition.

[samaspic31]

I don't understand how globally most of fandom has understood giving head wasn't a bottom or a sub thing (to the point where it's rare for me to find fics where it's even implied, and I've only had only one where it's the case it was addressed clearly as a sign o internalized homophobia ) but bottoming? Still considered by so many fucking writers that it's obviously the sexual role of the least traditionally masculine partner (who always gets headcanoned as trans more) and all the gender essentialist and sexist assumptions of submissiveness that goes with line of thought

Like you guys know that's the same rhetoric right. You know you guys sound like DJ Khaled right. You know switches are a thing right. Please tell me you know that. Please tell me you've done the most basic research about irl queer sexuality before you write about it

[trisockatops]

Okay I lied, one more post about the blatant antisemitism that isn't getting as much as attention as the creator's cissexism.

Thread from Unsidhe, Artist&Vtuber|Illust/Live2D OPEN on Twitter:

cw: antisemitism 1 of the 'goblin artifacts' you can find in That Wizard Game is literally just a shofar, a Jewish musical instrument, described as being 'used to annoy witches and wizards'. In it's description is the year 1612, which was when the Fettmilch uprising took place.

This uprising was followed by an outright massacre of Jewish people. If you STILL think it's just "a coincidence based on unfortunate folklore about goblins" and not literally an antisemitism propaganda simulator, fucking BLOCK ME. I want nothing to do with you.

People are trying to tell me "but it's not a shofar because it's painted" like, you're grasping at straws for excuses at this point.

Learning that they wrote 'stuffed with gorgonzola to silence it' about the horn, and finding out that gorgonzola specifically is not a kosher cheese... when they could have just written 'stuffed with cheese' for the Haha Funney Points really says a lot someone had to think.

/end thread

Thread from Yonah Gerber on twitter:

For those saying Hogwarts Legacy isn’t antisemitic, the game devs made it canon that goblins use shofar

“Generally annoy witches & wizards” literally the text in the game is that Jewish practices are just an annoyance like what the fuck

To address the dumbassery in my responses: assume good intentions must be earned. If this was the first time a Rowling property has been antisemitic, that's a woopsie. But it's not.

Here's the facts as they exist: - The object is a war horn - The artifact in the game is located at a place named after a pig & stuffed with dairy products to stop its music - The year of its most famous use is also the year major antisemitic pogroms happened in Germany

If ONE of these things were true, but Rowling & the franchise otherwise hadn't made any major missteps, that's when we give the benefit of the doubt. But I'm not willing to give said benefit when considering all the in-game context AND ALSO prior antisemitism in the franchise.

At a certain point, "benefit of the doubt" becomes "any plausible deniability is sufficient to ignore all context to the contrary" & to me, & to many Jewish folks, we are way past that point.

Hogwarts Legacy is not the first time the Harry Potter franchise has been accused of antisemitism. If the franchise & its creators wanted to avoid further accusations, they could've done some basic historical research to make sure these alleged coincidences were not included.

Once you have harmed a marginalized demographic, it's on your as a creator to prevent *further harm*. If you're using an IP that another creator once used to harm others, then I'm sorry, you do have the responsibility to undue that harm where you can in your own work.

EVEN IF these are coincidences, had the development team made a point to avoid antisemitic caricatures & educated themselves on that history, this wouldn't have happened. They chose not to care. And that's not much better, really.

Obviously I don't know what the team at Avalanche thinks or believes & frankly that's not my business. What matters to me is the end product & that end product either is purposefully antisemitic or was made by folks who don't care if they're accidentally antisemitic.

However you twist this, there's a tremendous lack of care going on here, & a choice to perpetuate cruelty that didn't need to happen.

Don't yell at folks in my mentions who genuinely don't understand the layers of context here. This is a great education opportunity. Block the obvious trolls, I sure am, but some folks have only seen a piece of the whole, & education is the best solution to ignorance.

Deleting my last tweet because I saw the point on Mastodon, but I can no longer find the post. I don't want to share what I can't currently verify.

To add, though: - The shofar is located at the Hog's Head (aka pig) Inn - The music of the shofar is prevented because a wedge of gorgonzola was used to stop the music, & while many cheeses are kosher, that one is not Take from that what you will.

/end thread

Thread from moby dickgirl on Twitter:

// CW: antisemitism; discussion of Islamophobia Concerning Gorgonzola (expanding on a comment in Yonah's thread) N.B. Once again, I am speaking as a gentile

It's a really common trope in right-wing propagandistic fiction for the "heroes" to desecrate the graves of religious enemies by putting profane items in them. The example I'm most familiar with is endless post-9/11 masturbation about putting pig products in Muslims' graves

I understand that there's a prohibition, deriving from a law given by Moses at Sinai, on seething a kid in its mother's milk, and that this is generally interpreted pretty broadly as meaning having meat and dairy in the same meal, or otherwise combining them, is unkosher

Some cheeses are kosher. Traditionally, Gorgonzola is not. This is because the production of Gorgonzola requires the use of a complex of enzymes called rennet. Using animal-derived rennet to make cheese is unkosher because of the prohibition mentioned above.

Now, this doesn't always apply to Gorgonzola today; you can get Gorgonzola made with non-animal-derived rennet which I understand may be kosher. However, this was unequivocally not the case in 1612. Gorgonzola made then would have been made with animal-derived rennet.

It's also been noted that the year of that goblin rebellion is 1612, the first year of the antisemitic purge called the Fettmilch Rising in Frankfurt. Both the real Fettmilch Rising and the fictional rebellions may have been based partly on allegations of financial misconduct.

There is, however, a shorter path. A distinctive quality of Gorgonzola — unique to it as far as I can tell — is that it's made with unskimmed milk, that is, milk with the milkfat still in it. The German word for "milkfat" is "Milchfett" — "Fettmilch" with the syllables reversed.

(I've heard that "Fettmilch" is literally a dialect German word for "unskimmed milk," which would make the link even more direct, but I don't have a sufficiently comprehensive German–English dictionary on hand to confirm this. German speakers are welcome to chime in.)

/end thread

Not to mention that the basic plot of the game is suppressing the rebellion of a canonically oppressed race that has always been an antisemitic caricature (hooked nose, beady eyes, hoard money, apparently control the wealth, manipulative, sneaky, greedy). We didn't need to look far to find the antisemitism, and yet here it is, ratcheted up times ten.

[rollerska8er]

I genuinely have no idea how you read Cordelia Fine and came to the conclusion that being transgender is a "chosen identity" but, okay.

I do wish "uwu I'm a radfem but I'm not a yucky TERF, I just use the exact same patronising rhetoric about trans people as TERFs" accounts on here would cut the shit.

you think being trans is a pitiable and abominable condition which prolongs the existence of misogyny, and while you may not have the outward contempt for trans people that J. K. Rowling has, you still, ultimately, wish trans people didn't exist.

do i believe trans identity is "innate"? no, because gender is not innate. but the conclusion you seem to have arrived at, based on Fine's work, is that how trans people feel about their gender is the product of a conscious choice, like picking a hairstyle. in fact, and Fine's work quite literally supports this, it is likely to be the result of a confluence of social, biological and cultural factors, which emerges in early childhood.

this hews extremely close to the "oh, the poor delusional flowers, if only they knew the Truth that Sex is Real" shit i see TERFs peddling all the time, only with the added insult that you're claiming to be pro-trans.

this is paternalistic, mealy-mouthed crap which claims to be on the side of trans people but quite simply treats them like they don't know themselves.

gender isn't real and sex, at least in the sense of a rigidly defined binary, isn't real.

either you are on the side of bodily autonomy, or you are a fascist. no exceptions.

Have you ever heard that claim that transgender people have brains of their chosen gender? Or the claim that men and women have completely different, dimorphic brains? Well, neither of those statements are true! Here's the explanation as to how neurosexism and bad science have hijacked our understanding of brains & sex/gender.

No information in these infographics mean you can't respect transgender individuals' chosen identities. It just means that "brain sex" is a neurosexist myth and neuroscience studies are insuffiecient to defend transgender identities as innate.

Feel free to repost these images or repeat the information next time you see someone claim that science has proved that brain sex is real or neuroscience explains why transgender people are the gender they say they are. Also, these take me a long time to make so a reblog is always appreciated :)

[buggybestfriend]

wgat did amanda palmer do ? frowns

link (cw for slurs, ableism, suicide, transphobia, rape, child pornography, eating disorders, anti-gay slurs, cissexism, misogyny)

[beansprouts]

toby fox, probably: people keep thinking my nonbinary character is “ambiguously gendered,” so in chapter 2 I’m going to be very clear to have a lot of characters who know them use their proper pronouns. also their dream bed literally has a trans pride flag on it

this clown: yeah but, uh, Kris’s brother, shares a room, so like, can’t be nonbinary, obviously, i am very intelligent and this has nothing to do with transphobia i swear-

[aeide-thea]

just thinking about like. the violence that's done to us that we're told we don't get to understand as violence, because what constitutes respectful treatment of us isn't measured by our feelings—that would be absurd!—but rather by other people's impatience with them

[rollerska8er]

You don't have an automatic right to any job you want to have, you moron. If I decide I want to be a pilot I can't just climb into the cockpit of the nearest 747 and get going.

If you are in a position where you will be working with vulnerable people and you cannot keep your "philosophical beliefs" separate from your work, which this prick clearly can't, then no, you do not have an automatic right to that type of work.

I'm not saying you don't have a right to work per se, I am saying you don't have a right to any type of work that takes your fancy. Therapists have a duty of care to their clients and there are important safeguarding considerations.

I don't know why I'm even giving this the time of day, given that you've done the classic well-poisoning tactic of saying "men can't become women", which is a fallacy so easy to refute that it's taught in first-year philosophy classes (it's called begging the question - I don't believe "men can become women" because trans women aren't men, and furthermore, one's identity does not spring from one's chromosomes or organs, it springs from socially-imposed patterns of behaviour, this is backed up by research, read Cordelia Fine), but given that you are arguing that therapists should be allowed to fucking abuse their clients, I felt the need to respond.

Fuck yourself.

IMO, "gender critical" therapists should not be allowed anywhere near anyone who is experiencing psychological distress.

I'm not even talking about trans people. If you hold "gender critical" views, whatever, but I personally don't think you should be allowed to counsel people if your personal views carry a risk of getting in the way of your ability to impartially provide support and guidance to people who are suffering.

Like, you wouldn't trust someone who thinks black people are genetically inferior to white people and has openly admitted that fact to be a general practitioner - a person who thinks trans people are delusional and being enabled by a misogynist society is welcome to those views in private, but not when it comes to helping other people.

Britain is currently a nation in which you can sue a potential employer for exercising basic safeguarding. Topsy-turvy country.

[fictionkinfessions]

My creator hating anyone who's not cishetallo is really uncomfortable for me but I do take some comfort in knowing that with how UTAU voicebanks are step up, he's never made a cent off of his work. It's exactly what he deserves. - Yufu Sekka

[bengesko]

Me: forgot to mute the word menstruation bc the thing/concept itself doesn't trigger me since I don't menstruate anymore.

Twitter: MENSTRUATION IS FEMININE, IT'S A WOMEN'S PROBLEM, IT'S FEMALE ISSUE!!!!!

Me: Ah, yeah. Now it's becoming a Thing To Mute again.

[boytoykevinday]

Hey! Feel free not to answer this, because it is in no way your job to. I wanted to be a better ally to the trans community, and if you had some thoughts about how that could be done, especially in the hockey community, I would love to learn from you. I'm sending you love. Thank you for being vocal and speaking up.

Hello! Thank you so much, I’m very glad I could start this conversation ha!

There are a lot of resources to check out, and you’re very correct that it’s not my job, but I have a lot of followers that don’t know where to start with every day stuff that I’m happy to help with! 

Okie dokie, here we go! Sorry if this gets long! These are just a couple basic, basic steps, btw! 

Well, the first step - probably most obvious - is to make sure to always use the correct pronouns and names for trans people, unless they’re in a situation where they’re not safe or comfortable with you doing so (if they’re around people they aren’t out to, for example). Then, try your best to not use names, pronouns, or gendered language at all. It doesn’t matter how terrible a person is or how much you hate them, always use correct pronouns and names, unless you’re in an environment where you can’t do so.  

Just because you aren’t misgendering someone doesn’t automatically make you trans ally of the year. That’s just doing the bare minimum. 

One of the hardest (but most important!) steps is unlearning cissexism. This is a huge part of hockey fandom that I don’t think a lot of people are aware of, but cissexism can hurt a lot (for me, sometimes it hurts more than overt transphobia). This is a huge step to creating a safe space for trans people, but it’s also very difficult to do, so don’t hate yourself if you can’t unlearn this overnight.

Cissexism is the assumption that cis people are the ‘norm’ and ‘more natural’ than trans folk and using language/actions to reflect that. Even if you don’t think cis people are more natural or more ‘real’, you probably still use that language/do those things. And if you haven’t had it pointed out to you, or haven’t researched it independently, don’t hate yourself for being cissexist. A lot of people don’t even know what that is.

For example, making statements assuming all women have vaginas and uteruses and all men have penises, like saying ‘women’s health’ when talking about things like childbirth and reproduction, or ‘men’s health’ when talking about things like prostate cancer. 

Things like saying ‘ladies and gentlemen’ (which excludes nb folk), or asking for someone’s ‘real’ name or pronouns (never ask for someone’s deadname in general, and if you know a trans person’s deadname or assigned gender at birth, forget it. Completely wipe it from your brain, unless you have their consent).

Seeing facial hair and automatically assuming man. Seeing breasts and automatically assuming woman. Assuming all trans people can/will adhere to the cisgender idea of “passing” and society’s beauty standards for their gender, or that all of them even want to. A trans woman won’t always be hyperfeminine. A trans man won’t always be hypermasculine. A nonbinary person won’t always be “androgynous”, or society’s idea of what androgyny is. Sometimes a trans person can’t “pass”, or frankly doesn’t want to.

Don’t gender strangers. Just - don’t assume you know what a stranger’s gender is (or lack thereof, if they don’t have a gender). You can’t look at someone and know their gender. If they feel comfortable communicating to you what they’re gender is, then you’ll know. You won’t know before then.

Don’t automatically say things like ‘sir’ and ‘ma’am’. Say ‘menstrual products’ instead of ‘feminine products’, ‘reproductive health’ instead of ‘women’s health’ in regard to childbirth, etc. Not making sweeping statements about things that ‘all women do’ or ‘all men do’, like all women wear dresses, or all men like sports. Not all women have breasts, not all men have penises.

Like I said, bare minimum and only a couple steps, though don’t hate yourself if you can’t automatically use gender neutral language. Cissexism is deeply, deeply ingrained in society, and literally every person. I’m trans and still accidentally use cissexist language.

Listen to trans voices. Research ways to better yourself, and to help. Teach yourself to use gender neutral language. Use your privilege but don’t talk over trans people about issues that you have no experience with. Don’t get offended if a trans person corrects you, or tries to explain why what you’re doing or saying is wrong or makes them uncomfortable. Listen to trans voices.

[kirksfattitties]

as far as Problematique Episodes go, i think turnabout intruder is seen as The Sexist™️ episode but the sexism of metamorphosis has always bothered me a lot more. maybe it’s because the specific brand of sexism in metamorphosis is laced with heteronormativity and cisnormativity, or maybe it’s because i’m looking at it with my Year Of 2020 eyes, but metamorphosis BOTHERS ME so much more.

like nancy is just minding her own business on her way to her job to PREVENT A WAR and she comes down with a sickness that the federation didn’t vaccinate her for, which shes JUSIFIABLY mad about. and their excuse is that the disease is rare, so it’s okay that the federation didn’t vaccinate her. LIKE?? HELLO?? people vaccinate for rare diseases ALL THE TIME? and she’s seen as A Bitch for being ANGRY about the federation NOT DOING THEIR JOB?

there’s other dumb shit said throughout the episode of male and female being universal constants (untrue and also 🤢🤢🤢) and assuming that all people (esp women, who could not POSSIBLY survive without a Man’s Presence /s) MUST have a heterosexual cisgender romance to be happy. 🙄

and then the episode ends with the cloud thing n nancy joining and it CURING HER??? and her STAYING ON THE PLANET because she’s now IN LOVE WITH THIS DUDE THAT SHES ONLY MET THIS ONCE???? AND SHE WAS SICK THE ENTIRE TIME??? and she basically like???? quits her VERY IMPORTANT job??? just so she can stay here and be In Love with this man?????? idk it seems WEIRD and like it definitely was a sketchy thing that could’ve and should’ve been written better.

idk maybe this is one of those episodes where the Ideals of the time are different, so it was seen as Empowering rather than blatantly sexist, but to me it seems like this episode is a Lot worse than turnabout intruder which basically is just like. woman no captain. woman crazy if think she should be captain. idk

also? zephram cochrane, shaker of vulcan hands, would DEFINITELY fuck a genderless cloud. wtf. you don’t gotta make the cloud Human or give it a Gender for it to be sexy. take a lesson from lemon demon and Fuck That Cloud.

obligatory “this is just my opinion n me just Talking about stuff, not an overarching analysis of the episode or history and im not telling anyone what to be offended/not offended by”

[equalseleventhirds]

i just remembered when i was young i heard the superstition about ‘three times a bridesmaid, never a bride’ and i said to myself oh, if i can be a bridesmaid for 3 friends then i’ll never have to get married and people will understand bcos obviously it’s not my fault then

like. like. this was at a time in my life when i was taught that getting married (to a man ofc) and having kids was the most important thing i as a ‘woman’ could possibly do with my life, like, necessary to get into heaven sort of thing, and i believed it, or i told myself i believed it, and yet i was also trying to fucking. sneak my way out of it.

anyway. incredible that it took me so long to work out that i wasn’t precisely straight huh. amazing.