#chaotic but like not on topic

[a-chaotic-dumbass]

i know were like the feminism website and all but i dont think ignoring plain evidence bc u favor a rich white american bc shes a woman is gonna win u brownie points

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Vibes based grading system.

(for @epistemologys, who wanted some post-canon, teacher WWX)

[miraculouslbcnreactions]

What's your opinion on malewife/house husband Adrien posts? I asked this to another blog, and like I said to them, I find them a guilty pleasure: The concept is cute, but I know that would be the last thing Adrien would ever wanna be after all his dad put him through.

I don't think that it would be the last thing that Adrien would ever want. I actually think it suits his character in a lot of ways, you just have to handle the topic with care.

First let's talk about why it suits him.

Miraculous has totally failed to give Adrien any sort of career-based passion and - if we ignore the senti complication - I honestly love that for him! I want more characters with no major life ambitions to balance out the Marinettes of the world!

I think that society places way too much pressure and value on finding the perfect career that fulfills us in every way while also allowing us to put food on the table. Most people will never find that and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you've failed or that you're lesser. For most people, the goal is to find a career that pays the bills and that you enjoy enough that you don't hate doing it 40hrs/week. Along similar lines, for most people, your passion will be something that doesn't make money. It will be something like a hobby or spending time with those you love or analyzing badly written French TV shows.

This brings us back to Adrien.

Adrien seems to get a great deal of joy from being around his loved ones and making them happy, so I can absolutely picture him finding a lot of joy in running a home. This is extra true because Marinette is pretty clearly career driven and she's planning to go into a creative field, so she'll probably have a pretty crazy schedule and struggle to stay on top of it all. Having a loving husband to take things like cooking and cleaning off of her plate would be a blessing and a gift that she'd greatly appreciate, but that would feel unbalanced if Adrien was working, too. (Yes, they could hire staff, but that risks the secret identity thing, so I don't see them doing that.)

If they both have power careers, then they'd barely see each other and I hate that for them. I think that it would make Adrien incredibly sad and depressed. Plus, while Marinette thrives off of competition and staying busy, only needing occasional breaks before diving right back in, Adrien seems to hate busy schedules and heavy work loads.

Given all of that, I think that there's a lot to be said for Adrien stepping away from the working world. Especially since he's been in it for years and being a child celebrity is no joke! I think it would be nice for him to escape from strict schedules and expectations. Dinner fails? Order takeout!

While we're on the topic of food, I really like the idea of Adrien falling in love with cooking. Dude needs a creative outlet and that's honestly a great one (I hate it when people write characters as unable to figure out cooking like it's some cute quirk. While an initial struggle is believable, it's not a mystical art that takes years of practice. Between YouTube, the wider Internet, and maybe some classes if he wants to get fancy, I think that he'll be fine.) There's so much variety with what you can do in the kitchen and the end result gets to be shared and appreciated by those you love. It just seems like a perfect fit for him, but I would never make him a professional chef because the hours are insane and the pressure to be perfect is high. I only see him loving it as a hobby where he can go at his own pace, take days off, and make lazy meals when he's not feeling like being a show off.

The big concerns that come with making him a homemaker are a lack of financial independence and a lack of socialization. I don't see the first thing as an issue for Adrien since he comes from a wealthy family, so that one doesn't phase me.

The isolation could very easily be an issue, but it could just as easily be a problem if he started working, too. It's not as if a job is a sure way to have friends or even just consistent positive social interactions, which is another reason why I don't really see a need to give him a traditional job. You can get a vibrant social life in lots of other ways.

Here are the two big things that I keep in mind when writing an Adrien-as-a-homemaker or similar setup as it is where I tend to have Adrien land for all of the above reasons:

Adrien needs to be active in some organization or project. Volunteer work is a good fit as is being an active stay-at-home parent or some combination of the two. Voice acting is also on my radar, but my default is to have him act as the head of team miraculous' out-of-battle activities. Scheduling meet and greets. Going to see sick kids. Jetting around the world for humanitarian aid missions. Basically let Chat Noir be his "career" which gives him a lot of much needed flexibility for making his own schedule, especially if he's a stay-at-home parent to any eventual kids. I also like the poetic nature of Adrien finally being proud to be the face of a "brand" via his hero side while his civilian side becomes just some guy that people kind of remember from old ads.

Consider having a non-traditional living arrangement. I am a big fan of hero teams living together, so my default is to take the Agreste mansion and remodel it into a secret HQ for the team. Adrien and Marinette would have their own apartment/wing/whatever, but they'd still be surrounded by their found family on a near-daily basis, so that social isolation is the last thing on Adrien's mind. There's almost always someone to hang out with! You could also just have Alya and Nino or other friends live in the same apartment building so that they're over a lot/Adrien has a place to hang when Marinette is working late because you know that she'd do that.

Basically, Adrien's rich, so he doesn't need to make money and he doesn't seem to have any interest in a normal job, so I really like letting him having a unique life where he doesn't have a traditional job. He is a superhero, after all. Unique career paths are pretty par for the course. You just have to be careful to make sure that all of this feels like his fully informed and carefully considered choice and not like you forced it on him to make Marinette's life perfect (I only brought her up earlier because this is a story and it makes sense to design characters around each other). I usually do this by sending Adrien to therapy in his late teens or by giving him some other parth of self discovery.

Do note that all of the above is inspired by my read of Adrien which may be totally different from your read of him and that's fine! I just can't picture him as someone who thrives in a traditional career path based on knowing people who strike me as similar to him and from whom I draw my understanding of how to write that part of Adrien's character. I think that he'd be perfectly able to have a traditional career path, but I also think that he'd be pretty miserable for a lot of reasons.

I'll also note that I'm not sure what posts spawned this ask, so there may be elements of those that I'd have criticisms of. This post was about the general concept of Adrien being a homemaker. I tend to avoid the broader fandom for my own sanity and the use of the term "malewife" has me concerned that I'm implying support of something I wouldn't actually support because that's a new one for me and it sounds incredibly sexist.

I'm not a fan of implying that the default definition of "wife" is "submissive homemaker" so a man taking on a homemaking role is clearly submissive and acting like a woman does while his aggressive, domineering wife is acting like a man, which is the definition of this word that I'm finding online and yikes! Wife and husband are legal/social status in my book. They are not clearly defined jobs/roles/personality types, so I'm not a fan of using gendered terms to refer to stuff like this especially since I do actively try to use gender neutral words in my own writing whenever I can, though I'm certainly far from perfect on that front.

I also don't see homemaking as a submissive act. It certainly can be, but that's not how I picture Adrien at all! I picture him as relaxed and plesent, but 100% in charge of the home and all choices about how it's run. I also see him being in charge of their finances like homemakers often were in the "old days" since they were the ones in charge of things like scheduling cleaners, buying food, and other things that needed strong budgeting skills while the person who worked wasn't actually spending money or managing the home since they were at work. I like to think that Nathalie would prep Adrien to be a wealthy man and so he'd have strong skills in finance management.

[hanzajesthanza]

i think it would be really funny if regis had a kind of fucked-up haircut

“he could save everyone except himself” but like with regard to the barbery, and not the surgery. kind of like when chefs don’t cook very well for themselves. or when fashion designers wear sweatpants all day.

but moreover. i think the aesthetic effects of a bad haircut would help to dampen his natural lugosian allure and good looks. to reduce any potential suspicions

[maybankiara]

Sarah jumped in her chair a little and bit her lip, clearly trying to suppress a smile. ‘We didn’t want to steal JJ’s thunder.’ ‘We really didn’t,’ added John B. ‘Not at all.’ It was as if the world came to a pause; Sarah and John B exchanged a glance not unlike the one Pope and Marcus had exchanged earlier that day, and the barely-contained smiles on their faces told JJ everything even before Sarah shared the news.

excerpt from stay here, darling chapter 5

[riptidesblog]

Morrotober,day 1

Summary:Young Morro tries to understand what his power is.

(Morro here isn't referred to by name because I hc it to take place before he got a name he liked)

He has powers. That's what sensei said when he saw the boy flying the kite. His teacher had explained it then. Apparently the boy had elemental powers. He likely inherited them from his parents whom he neither remembered nor wanted. He had a home now. He had sensei Wu. He didn't need anything else.

"I believe it is air you control,young one." had sensei said when the boy asked, but that sounded wrong. He didn't control. The power he wielded wasn't a puppet for him to pull the strings at. It felt like...he wasn't sure. He couldn't name it. It was a language of whispers and movements to direct the flow, it was a conversation only he and the breeze could understand. How was he supposed to explain that?

What he spoke with couldn't be air. It wasn't his until he willed it to move, because otherwise air was still. Air didn't move and he didn't speak with the air. He spoke with the breeze that always accomponied him, that played with his hair and caressed his face, the breeze that was never still.

He didn't say anything of it until he read the book his sensei gave him. Of hurricanes, storms, flow of air. Of the atmosphere and space void of the air he didn't control.

"To better understand your element, you must understand how it's the part of the world. How it affects others. Your's, air, is everywhere and so, you bear great power that you must wield responsibly."

Together they read it, sensei Wu explaining all the small boy couldn't understand.It was in one of those times that he finally found an answer.

"Wind is the movement of the air that happens due to-"

"Sensei?"

"Yes?"

"I'm not a master of air. I think I'm the master of...wind."

[minaloywhore]

i'm not like other girls, my manic episodes start when i figure out the overarching theme of the two books im reading

[clockworkcheetah]

yknow im surprised there arent more fics with lydia and amanda

[microbialminutes]

i feel like half of the micro posts on here are all med students and productivity blogs meanwhile im fighting the war on infectious disease on the side of the infectious disease.

[a-chaotic-dumbass]

kicked out the club for asking the dj to play legendary from EPIC: the Wisdom Saga

[seaofreverie]

Time for some personal stuff again (please bear with me)..... today was a long awaited coming out to my mum day hoorayyyyy

[simonsezsewart]

Honestly? Fuck keeping this blog neat and presentable. I’d rather go wild tbh :/

[redeemed-wren]

Classic Who explores ideas, New Who explores morals

classic who is like 'i see this trend, lets explore what might happen if that trend continues and let the audience figure out what it's talking about and come to their own conclusions.'

new who is like 'this trend is BAD and i'm going to PREACH A SPEECH about why it's going to RUIN EVERYTHING' and it's so much more exhausting

[welcome-to-green-hills]

Being the devoted husband and father he is, Tom keeps a fold-out collection of pictures of his wife and kids in his wallet (as if the amount of ones on his phone wasn't enough)

Awwwww! That’s a very adorable thought, my dear. I can definitely see him with a plethora of photos. He loves all of the wacky ones where it’s candid shots of them in their everyday life.❤️✨

[the-weeping-dawn]

My feelings on alignment become all the more complicated when you have someone like Minthara who is a good reminder that no, they are something which exist in universe.

[rennerator]

Misha is SOOO CHAOTIC!!! XD Like, I can understand trying it out and wanting to test it and see how it works, but, yeah, I don't blame Jensen AT ALL there for being concern and worried about it!!! Also, I LOOOOOOVE how this feels like a "common topic" of debate between them on their private talks! It is such a "married"/best friends behavior, it is kinda CUTE, not going to lie! :D Also, I think that this topic continues for a little more, right? With Misha saying something more there about them sometimes doing it to rehearse scripts and all that. I wonder if that was when they were living together. But, yeah, back to the whole automatic driving, I would like to test them out too, BUT, I would ALSO be worried and "try to be prepared" too! Thank YOU SO SOO MUCH for sharing this with us!!!! You are INCREDIBLE!!!!! :) <3

i love risking my life.