#but yeah this post is abt butch lesbians

[wettestwraith]

it's so weird to me that transphobic lesbians exist especially ones that want nonbinary people to be excluded from lgbtq+ spaces, like they do know that gender nonconformity is a big thing in lesbian culture right?

[snoopybutch]

This just in folks: being a fat, loud, and opinionated butch lesbian is recommended by medical professionals the world over.

[harbingersglory]

miko is SO REAL for that, two switches fighting over who gets to dom is the best dynamic. if you have time/want to i'd be curious to hear any sub headcanons you have for lisa, ei, ningguang and/or kafka!

this is so incredibly self indulgent because i see ningguang, ei and kafka in the same sentence and explode. everyone pretend i didnt accidentally pick a fav here um

ningguang i already see as a pillow princess more than anything she fits this so well. absolutely adores going slow + worship. treat this woman like royalty and lord you will not regret it. she goes all out to make the night as perfect as possible. will not let you have a hand in any of it sorry!! this is her turf. perfect atmosphere suited to your tastes (tons of candles, if you like that, or just going by moonlight is also her style). incense, taking a few minutes beforehand just to really get settled in the mood (usually by cuddling, but shes not against just taking a moment for some tea or even a game of chess).

you'll also probably need all that extra time to sort through whatever shes bought this time. when i said she goes the whole nine yards i mean it. she has money and she will use it. very expensive lingerie for herself (and you, if thats your thing.) and literally anything you could ever want. it heavily depends on what you both want out of the night but she spares no mora making it the best she can.

the non-sexual intimacy before hand (and especially after) is important to her she takes it very seriously (for the both of you). you'll probably get dragged into taking a long bath afterwards before actually going to bed. hope you arent too tired! because its gonna be a while before you actually sleep.

because this woman has stamina. technically. she's just really pent up and theres no better way to get that stress out then soft sex with her partner. shes not picky about positions really but she has a soft spot for laying on her stomach with a pillow to prop up her hips (really accentuates the pillow princess part, huh /j). if you start massaging her she's gonna wake up the entirety of liyue. she's normally quiet but lord knows she needs it and she cant keep quiet for the life of her.

genuinely just very soft and gentle. she just needs some good pampering after a long day to unwind (preferably with a glass of wine, but thats for later).

ei..is very awkward about it. she probably gets embarrassed if you bring it up but shes not. opposed per se. she's just used to domming that she has no idea what to do. genuinely a mess the first time around but she gets the hang of it quick (shes a quick learner :])

also you just really get to see a side of her you usually never do! she's usually big on topping and shes pretty calm and composed about it (usually). not cold, just..she doesn't outwardly express things often. except when shes subbing. its like a switch flipped

just dont tease her about how visibly flustered and awkward she is about it. because she is. horribly so. shes still pretty quiet but thats just ei, to be fair. its like a cute, nervous puppy. call her a good girl though and she might short circuit so badly the shogun comes out

though i also see ei as someone who prefers giving even when subbing. a dangerous combo considering her body is a puppet and, yknow, cant get tired. you will have to pry this woman off you shes lowkey insatiable when it comes to pleasing you. 100% less of a brat, though. you give her an order shes following through with it before you can blink. efficient!

kafka is similar to miko, imo. maybe yelan too?? she gives off big brat vibes when she subs. she wont use suggestion in bed unless your 100% cool with it and even then its usually when she doms but when she subs? shes a menace. bit of a masochist, to be honest. she'll push your buttons until you crack and decide to punish her but woops, thats just what she wants so she wins anyway!

she cant feel fear but she certainly enjoys a good thrill. specifically sensory deprivation. cover her eyes with a blindfold and keep her guessing. its probably her favorite part, the closest she can get to fear. especially if you add a bit of pain into it.

choking, spanking, bit of blood..this woman is smiling through it all like she's the happiest woman in the world. especially if it makes you frustrated. shes like it desperate and rough.

if thats not your speed, though, she can get that thrill in other ways. semi public sex is her jam so sandwich her against a wall in some random supply closet and make her scream. shes not quiet even in the comfort of whatever room shes booked this time and you'll have to physically shut her up if you dont want to get caught. shes still a brat at heart, though. put your fingers in her mouth and she'll bite. your gonna need the patience of a saint to dom kafka.

[ghostlylicious]

my contribution to lesbian week happy birthday lesbians 🎉🎉

[delarverie]

this site isn't normal about butches. like at all

[iinryer]

long post abt women and fandom. good morning

sorry this is a little bit ramble-y, and I don’t normally post stuff like this but bear with me, i am processing gjfhdhffh

first of all: this is NOT directed at anyone in particular. this is not about anyone or anything anyone has done. this is me, a lesbian, having some dialogue with myself about representation and the way people think and talk and engage with fictional lesbians! this is not a blast on anyone, just general mindfulness, and wanting to work through some of my own hesitation abt things.

im having a difficult time engaging w the grander audience turning the boys into dykes, because i can never be sure where they’re coming from, yknow? like why i was hesitant to post before (it took me over a year to post my butch buddie silhouettes) and why im not sure if i want to post some other for-fun doodling ive done…

bc there Are lesbians on the show. there are specifically Black Lesbians, canonically, on the show

and like. idk. i dont want the things i say or post to be fuel for anyone being weird yknow? My Fake Lesbians Are Not Better Than The Real Lesbians Already On The Show

and i know that, and i know my friends know that but. I don’t have control over how people take the things I make. and i don’t want that to inadvertently make someone get enthusiastic in the wrong way that makes like, for example, black fans of the show, or specifically maybe black lesbians who watch, see an influx in people being 10x more delighted by these white boy reduxes than the real actual lesbians on the show. and yeah, sure, we could say “it’s just because they’re like a shiny new toy!” but we all know that isn’t all of it.

LIKE. MAYBE THIS IS IRRATIONAL. but. idk i have a sizable audience, i get a lot of traction, the things i say and post travel sometimes! people see what i post. people engage with and build off of things that i post. and, historically, this fanbase is Really Fucking Weird About Women And People Of Color

for the most part, playing in this sandbox is just a fun exercise for me, a lesbian. don’t get me wrong, i LOVE blasting characters with my Dyke Laser Beam and making them into women who love women. I’ll do it all day every day. i had soooooo much fun drawing butch buddie. i live for that shit. but! idk! im happy kicking around my own funhouse, but i feel like i need to take all of that into account if i make any of that public. yknow? community responsibility or whatever. i know it’s not on me if someone takes it in a bad direction, but! if i was the one who inadvertently facilitated that! i will feel awful! and tbh, there’s no guarantee that I haven’t done that already!

im just having fun, and you should be too! but this stuff makes me nervous! i don’t have any control over other people, and i just don’t want to be the cause of easily avoidable discomfort for others.

this isn’t some great declaration, and I don’t really have a moral or a call to action, there’s not a real solution in this stream of consciousness post—in the grand scheme of things, this is all make believe and for fun! im just. idk. it feels really important to me to acknowledge that this could spiral in a way that’s actually kind of awful for Real Life Fans who have to see the way other fans engage with and talk about lesbians and black women.

this is something I’ve been thinking about for a while, and it’s been on my mind recently, but with the influx of chatter about it i just felt like it was maybe worth talking about.

anyway. i love u lesbians. im drawing more henren soon <3

[hairscare]

okay im going to be brave and post my habitch redesigns bc i mainly wanna explain the ideas behind them

HAZBITCH/VIVZIEPOOP FANS DNI PLEASE GOD DONT LOOK AT THIS POST PLEASEEEEEE I HATE THAT DAMN SHOW

okay everyone lets be normal abt these

charlie: i think an inherent flaw in her design ppl dont often change is her being a white woman which really affects the tone of the plot. instead of it being a privileged white woman saving the slums, i wanted her to read as a more down to earth humanitarian princess who isnt white. i also made her look like a goat bc from what i understand shes kinda supposed to be based on one? i also wanted her outfit to read hotel manager

vaggie: i find it weird and gross that the lesbian is named vagina so ideally id like her to have another name. ive seen ppl call her aggie/agatha and i think thats wayyyyy better. anyways i wanted her to be butch + alt since shes like rebelling against a gross misogynist. shes also bluer to show that shes not originally a demon but she has red tones to show her connection to hell. also her and charlie have each others colors to show their connection. ideally these two would fuck nasty instead of having a weird chaste relationship while the men get to have explicit gay sex

angel dust: i hate angel dust so fucking much so this one was hard for me. i wanted him to look more 1940s but also slutty so his outfit is based on mobster clothes from the time but also is tearaway. i imagine hed be significantly less grating and hed still be a sex worker but this time his trauma would be handled normally

alastor: uh yeah i had to throw out 95% of his inspirations since. yknow. the significant racism and disrespect inherent to the multiple things hes based on. anyways i leaned into 1930s radio hosts and radios themselves, but also made him based on an alligator since hes supposed to be from louisiana i think. also he doesnt have that bullshit bob undercut thing bc hes a black man in the 1930s

overall i wanted to make their colors different but i tied them together w the red to show theyre all united w the hotel. i also wanted the designs to be less cluttered and more animation friendly. um yeah i think thats everything please dont harrass me. also please dont repost these anywhere the last thing i need is ppl finding it without context

[apoli-meow]

!REUPLOAD!

Sorry to the person who commented on the original, I see you

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Still listening to Cult of Dionysus.. My parents are worried

Shoutout to that one guy who keeps encouraging me in the first few hours of posting I love you sm

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Sylviaaaaa (tbh she's like the least developed character cuz she's my least favorite (she's just kinda boring ig) but she does have somethings!!)

Name: Sylvia 'Zee' Zbornak

Age: 16

Sexuality: WOMEN- I mean lesbian (butch ofc)

Pronouns: she/her

Race: Mayan (mayan women are so beautiful istgggg- 😭😭💓💓... Sorry just my inner lesbian acting up)

Height: 173 cm (5'7 feet 🙄🙄)

Personality: tired jock, has braincells, is quickly losing them. The only thing that's keeping her from going insane is wander.

~ Random facts ~

• Has 3 younger brothers (triplets, age 10, idc abt canon at this point), her father is dead (yay for me inflicting trauma on my characters)

• Loves motorcycles

• MCR, G.L.O.S.S., Dream Wife (tbh I don't really know any of them at all, but I listened to a couple of their songs and they sound like something she would listen to lmao)

• Gym bros with Hater, they beat up eachother a lot (and beat up other people too)

• Was the one who bullied Peepers in middle school

• Now it's just awkward cuz she feels guilty but also takes no shit

• They are lowkey pissed at eachother but are forced to hang out together since they have the same friend group (hater and sylv becoming friends, wander and peepers kinda reconciling), so they have this sorta agreement to just not address their history (which is working out terribly but anything is better than communication ig)

• She was kind of a terrible person in middle school ngl

• Wander helped her change tho

• Dating Domi obv cuz these two are meant to be

• Her love language is being protective and putting pins on her bag for you. So a couple of them are actually not for her but for her friends ;)

• Her aesthetic is obviously punk but she's definitely more on the chill side.

• Not sure what else to say. Her tattoo is a quetzal bird, a symbol of freedom so I thought it would be perfect for her! Also it's really pretty <3

• Oh, I just remember - her water bottle is a gift from Wander (which is why it's so bright and colourful). She couldn't refuse a gift.

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Yeah, that's basically it. I definitely had fun with this drawing.

Who should I make a post about next? Wander, Domi or Hater? (be warned, Hater is kinda ooc (I'm doing my best here))

Plz respond 🥲 (asking people to respond worked before right?..)

P.S. here's her tattoo ik nobody needs it but I spent an hour on it

[biracy]

abt your post abt bi women belonging in the wlw community just as much as lesbians : i was reading the replies and youre so right abt how ignorant people are abt what comphet really is. im a lesbian and like yea i think we would experience comphet in the most intense way since were not attracted to men in any level, but comphet isnt only abt that, its a symptom of the patriarchy forcing women to center men in their lives and hell even straight women experience comphet, let alone bi women. people just have thrown around the word comphet so much they dont even know the true meaning

I was actually gonna post abt this soon LMAO so yeah!! I think it's also a misunderstanding of what "heterosexuality" as a dominant social force is to say that lesbians who are not attracted to men can experience "comphet", but bisexual women who are attracted to men cannot experience it. "Heterosexuality" as it is defined by dominant social forces is not only "a relationship between a man and a woman" - it's almost always a relationship between a "masculine" man and a "feminine" woman, and quite often a relationship between a man and a woman that results in monogamous marriage and childbirth. When people write about comphet, they're not talking about how movies and TV and fairy tales and children's books and my parents and my teachers and my religion all came together and told me to want to fuck genderfucky bi guythings. There is a specific kind of man centered in the heterosexuality enforced onto women, and a specific kind of role that a woman is expected to take on in that heterosexuality. I think the idea that bi people (women especially) cannot experience "comphet" overlaps a lot with people who believe that all bisexual people have the capability to become "straight-passing" if they enter different-gender relationships, which is in and of itself based on, in my observances, the belief that "gay/lesbian culture" and "bisexual culture" are completely distinct and that bisexual people are in some way innately less capable of being gender-nonconforming (or as some Tumblr scholars will call it, "visibly queer"). Bisexual people often date each other, we're often trans and/or visibly gender-nonconforming, and that's not something that we can just turn off the minute we enter into a quote unquote "heterosexual relationship." I'm bisexual, I'm nonbinary and id as both a man and a woman (so I take part in all these "sapphic" conversations etc etc u know the drill), I'm weird and kinky and switchy, I'm polyamorous, right now I'm dating a cis butch bi girl and a trans + nonbinary pan guy. At this point in my life I have absolutely no interest in relationships with cishet men, I don't want to get monogamously married, I never want to have children. I have not performed heterosexuality any better than, idk, a "gold star lesbian" has, and I FEEL it, I'm given shit for it, every relative I have pressures me already about boyfriends and grandkids and whatever. I do think there are bisexual people sometimes who do conform more to Straight Society but a) I think there are an equal amount of gay guys and lesbians who conform to Straight Society tbqh and b) it doesn't cover the breadth of bisexual people who do exist and who do feel the pressure to conform to the mainstream, dominant social system of heterosexuality and who CANNOT conform to it any more than you, anon, probably can. So yeah TL;DR bi girls can definitely experience "comphet" lmao and people are probably gonna hate that I said that

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

So if you ship burgertron(aka Ronnie) with Bonz-eye then who do you ship Frostferatu with?

(in the same tone as a dad standing up from his chair to do something) aaaaaallllrighty (CRACKS KNUCKLES AND PULLS OUT THIS BAD BOY)

i present to y'all, the SHIPPING CHART 4 POLYCUTS (also dubbed "Choice Cuts" by a friend!)

YEAH THAT'S RIGHT. THERE'S A POLYCULE AND THEY'RE ALL KISSING EACH OTHER. YURI SURPRISE 💥 BOTTOM TEXT

For those of you in the audience who are THOROUGHLY confused by the chart or simply can't read the key correctly, i'll break it down under the read-more (as to not make the post too long) (and btw i completely understand that this Looks Insane to any passer-by in the botbots fandom who is unaware of how queer my fanfic gets) To answer your specific question though: I don't really ship Frostie with anybody. BurgerFrost in a romantic context is adorable, don't get me wrong, but it's personally not my thing and I see them more as queerplatonic partners than anything else. if you like it though, that's valid as hell 👍 For context on why I pair them this way + have these headcanons, I'm a multishipper, nblw, & polyam myself, that's why they're a very intertwined sapphic polycule with a qpr included, instead of just being paired off with one or the other! can't fight over what's canon if they all are in a way /lhj ( and also projecting my sapphic identity onto characters i like is my favourite hobby ) And these are just my headcanons/personal opinion -- as MUCH as I am passionate abt them, they are Not canon and you are not obligated 2 abide by them if you don't agree with them! (This doesn't mean you can be a dick about it though. queerphobes and cringe culture losers DIE MAD and preferably Die Quickly tbh)

I hope this helps, anddddd enjoy my elaboration below!! 🍔✨

Ulf, Burgertron, Lady Macaron and Bonz-Eye are all romantic partners with each other, and Burgertron specifically is in a queerplatonic relationship with Frostferatu. They're not dating, they're just good pals, but they do partake in traditionally romantic activities-- holding hands, kissing, cuddling & flirting, etc. It's also worth noting Lady M. either has a crush/squish on or is in a QPR with Lolly Licks ! (I haven't quite decided which one i'll adopt in2 my belief system, but either way they're fruity)

This chart also contains my pride headcanons for them, which are as follows: Frostferatu: Nonbinary & Vampiregender, Bisexual (He/Vamp) Burgertron: Genderqueer , Transfemmasc & Catgender , Butch Lesbian (He/She/It/Nya/👑) Ulf: Genderfluid + Bungender , Demisexual Futch Lesbian (She/Bun/Citrus)

Lady Macaron: Pandulcigender , Sapphic Pansexual (She/Sweet/Pink)

Bonz-Eye: Nonbinary & GNC, Butch Lesbian (She/They)

(seen vaguely is the polyam flag in the background, as they're all polyamorous <3)

[piqued-curiosity]

About your last rb from me- God right? Radblr loves to talk abt being open minded +uplifting lesbians but once we critique butch/femme shit we get shut down IMMEDIATELY.

One of my first popular posts on here was me asking what butch and femme means and I literally couldn't get a clear answer besides it being a word for how you present yourself....or reclaiming femininity and masculinity as a lesbian somehow....but isn't the point of radical feminism to destroy those two very things 🤔

I’m just happy to know I’m not alone in being iffy about the whole thing!! But it’s very frustrating that radblr is all “we love lesbians!!” But once we have something to say that doesn’t follow the script, it’s over.

I’ve heard that butch/femme originated as roles for protection…but in the modern (western) world, that doesn’t seem to be what they’re here for. It really does seem like fancy words for masculinity, femininity, and heteronormativity to me. “I just want to put on lipstick and cook for a nice strong butch!” Just sounds like lesbians trying to reword the heteronormativity they’ve been fed since childhood, and trying to fit into it the best they can instead of just rejecting it.

I’ve also heard the point that if we’re to believe butch/femme are something innate, then we also must believe that “femininity” and “masculinity” themselves are innate…which is exactly what radical feminism and gender criticism/abolition stands against. That really got me thinking about the whole thing differently, because yeah, how can I simultaneously believe that a woman can be innately “butch”, but not innately desire to wear makeup and be submissive? They contradict each other so one has to go…and I’m certainly not going to start believing that the oppressive concept of femininity is innate.

This is probably a spicy take but I have a hard time taking femmes seriously tbh…we seem to all agree that it doesn’t matter why you’re performing femininity, it just matters that you’re performing it (submitting to gender roles). Why is that true and an acceptable rebuttal for choice/liberal feminism, but when a femme says “I perform femininity for women!!!” It’s not treated the same way?

It’s late so I’m not sure how well I expressed myself here…clearly I had Things To Say lmao so thank you for giving me the opportunity to do so. I guess it’s just hard for me to not be side-eyeing butch/femme with my deep hatred for gender roles. It just feels like more roles to play, but lesbianified.

[dyke-stuck]

ummm. yeah i dont have anything to say abt this one ! i like how they both turned out hair+design wise though!

please use she/her or he/him for tavros and they/them or goat/goats for gamzee on this post! they are butch transfem and transxenic lesbians respectively!

[cruelsister-moved2]

Honestly seeing your post abt how fem4fem stuff does nothing for u was a huge relief bc I thought I was the only one lol. People on here will post a pic of two wispy long-haired super feminine girls in skirts and go “Doesn’t this make your lesbian heart want to explode? 🥺” and I’m like…uh…no? Should it?

And ik ik ik that searching for “representation” that’s just a perfect mirror of you is always setting yourself up for misery and it’s good to try to relate to different kinds of people but maaaan it feels so alienating that everything is just fem couples as far as the eye can see >:/

GOT ANOTHER ONE<3 yeah here on cruelsister.femmephobia.org.uk a lot of people feel very much the same. I have like a cerebral relationship of solidarity to all lesbians and for that matter all women and all lgbt people but those kinds of couples feel like, no more closely related to what ive personally got going on than like a gay couple. in fact less if the gay couple is gnc. I think youre exactly right bc like I still have that connection to gay men even without seeing myself in them, i think our standoffishness to those fem4fem couples is mostly motivated by 1. being expected to see ourselves in them and failing to do so and 2. often sour feelings about the oversaturation of those couples and/or direct mistreatment from those couples etc. whereas for me just not trying to see them as a reflection of myself makes it easier for me to engage. maybe the ones that seem to have some very personal feelings towards butch lesbians could take a leaf out of my book even:)))

[munamania]

gonna complain again even tho i already spent time on it yesterday immediately after having to hang out with this person (oh my god i ranted for so long this is going under a keep reading)

so i hung out with my fun cool stoner friend and our one roommate from when we were in la last night and i mostly put up w her for the sake of my other friends but she’s sooooo annoying in that she’s someone that’s impossible to hang out with as a dyke im sory but there are the other issues too. like ok for instance her idea of being bisexual!! and having her gay AND straight media taste!!! (first of all huh) is like heartstopper and the summer i turned pretty. girl in neither of those situations are there women and especially lesbians at the forefront i mean yes ik heartstopper but like thats for two seconds. and im annoying and brought up my lesbian media to resounding silence shockingly whatever. and then. this part burned me and insulted me to my core. bc you know how kit connors kind of like a baby butch to me and im so serious sorry like he contains multitudes. and i kinda made a little comment abt that affectionately and she shows me this prettyboy from like whatever fucking show and tried to be like ‘abby just imagine him as a butch’ and i flat out was like im sorry he is Not giving. like that is just an annoying toxic skater niceguy blonde. whatever. like do not ever ever ever disrespect butches like that in front of me ever again. and then shes also just sooooo hyper consumerist and like. she brought up the low committment long distance etc joke from barbie and didnt even know it was from barbie and was like haha need me one of those i guess. i was like girl why would you want someone that disrespects u and ur time and uses u like purposefully. that was meant to poke at how toxic men get away with being to girls in modern dating. want better for yourself!!!!! and then i was sooo fucking stoned from a bong rip having the time of my life doing a little bit with the other friend and our buddy on facetime and she just kept going on about this person shes going on a date with except the other friend was like oh! they use they/them pronouns. and she was like right sorry i keep screwing that up!!!!! and then continued to use he/him. so im mostly non verbal cause shes like exhausting just going on and on and im high but i keep trying to be like. yeah they seem cool. hope it goes well with them. like. i felt like i was being microaggressed not necessarily in that instance just as a lesbian. shes bi but very much not past her internalized misogyny and homophobia. clearly. it’s exhausting!!!! im sorry i cant talk about men for that long and then i try to be excited about my attraction too and u get all funky............. like. ok. or making weird comments alluding to me just being wildly sexual abt women. like. yeah ok sure. for sure thats normal. like. this is also the girl whos a marketing major and uses ai all the time and pisses me off with her hella hyper consumerism grindset mentality bc it’s like she always wants us to comment on how productive she is and if i try to nicely be like You should give yourself a break sometimes too! she’ll be like Yeah haha guess im being a bit self destructive. girl it’s not sillyquirky like!!!! we all have our struggles but you gotta work on getting better abt it... and she also just gives ‘haha what drugs were they on thats so crazy’ about like everything i say or like or whatever and its like babe its really not even that crazy like. u are just so boring and you speak solely through references to memes. but you wont even just bring it up and joke about it in the present moment with your friends like. she spent a while finding a screenshot of a tumblr post that i was like haha yeah i saw that! it’s totally - u know whatever. and was not satisfied until she could prove she like saw it idk u get what i mean like. i understand i literally reblogged the post. its a silly little joke yes i relate. say something true and beautiful. idk. thanks if u read this ig i couldnt tell if my one friend was prompting me today to see if i was annoyed last night bc i thought she might also be too (bc it got so awkward silent with her going on and on abt the date and that fucking show and we were all like yeah. mhm. no for sure yeah. like how do u not get self aware idk) but we’ve all spoken abt this girl like shes some saint and ive just kinda been like haha sure... but i dont want her near my work and art and etc cause shes so shallow and has social media brain disease. she freaked out about twitter being weird now and how she prefers threads perhaps. like u have threads??? ok... it was so hard for me to be nice guys

[dykeyote]

💔 + 🎥 for tpo or rgu (or both!!)

also maybe 📜 for rgu cause i’m trying to get into it

i assume u mean tpp bc idk what else tpo would be tho i may be being stupid ...... so i will do both bc i like to talk >:)

one of my least favorite characters from penumbra and why: oh god i really cannot stand mick mercury . i really cant . i just really dont like himbo characters or anything adjacent ..... unless its handled INSANELY well or in a really new and compelling way i just Do not like cis guy characters where the whole thing is that theyre like incompetent and dumb and thats their main thing and often feels like their Only thing i just Do not like it they immediately get on my nerves and i dont like his voice either so whenever hes on the show i am Displeased ...... theres interesting aspects to him and idk i get why people like him i suppose but i cannot stand him . at all . he just is like the biggest example of a trope i really hate </3

one of my least favorite characters from rgu and why: this ones tricky because like .... i like most of the characters that dont do awful shit . like i can be like "oh i hate akio" and ur gonna be like yeah duh ......

fav scene from penumbra: i did this a while ago in this post but ill also throw in one that i forgot which is that i do quite like juno and cassandra's interactions in murderous mask also .... its quite entertaining and puts an interesting lens on both characters . and also theyre both really fucking funny

fav scene from rgu: okay like.... there are many INSANELY good scenes in rgu . so beautiful so cool so fucking thought provoking it is an AMAZING show . however ngl the scene i think and talk the most abt (i literally was talking abt this to my friend the other day who was thinking abt watching it) is the goddamn scene in the dub (idk what its like in the sub i havent seen it i might after i finish watching the dub thru bc i struggle w paying attntion to captions) where they like . show this like triple angle shot of utena and all the girls are staring at her with heart eyes and shit and then they go in the silliest fucking anime dub voice "Shes So Cool" when it is so obvious that they all want to say shes smoking hot and they need her rn . love that scene . i think abt it all the time . its so funny . why would u censor the lesbians of ohtori academy which is apparently all the girls ever

plotline of rgu and what kind of media it is: revolutionary girl utena is a late 90s anime that was heavily influential on the anime that came later and on animation in general (: the plot surrounds utena tenjou, a teenage girl (ish . her relationship to gender is VERY complex and she is at the very least clearly butch to me . bigender utena 4eva) who wants to be a prince and who is sort of unintentionally drawn into a duel for (among other things) the hand of the rose bride, anthy himemiya, a teenage girl with some magical capacities who is treated more as an object than a person by those who want to win her. utena wins the duel, and continues to have to defend her spot as champion despite not particularly Wanting anthy to treat her as her owner and bride-to-be. things obviously spiral down and get way more complicated from there but thats the basic synopsis of the beginning without spoiling later stuff (: (and obligatory warning for anyone intrigued by that that it gets very heavy later on check the warnings ideally on smt besides does the dog die bc there is a Large amnt and imo the does the dog die doesnt really cover them properly or explicitly explain how intrinsically tied to the narrative some of said warnings Are)

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is that post abt your bf a complaint or. cause it doesnt sound like its fun for u lol

Uhhhh, it's not really intended as a complaint. Things can be frustrating at times, but the point in being intimate with someone is the intimacy, to me at least.

A lot of my friends talk about sex as if it's such a prerequisite for a relationship. One mate was saying she doesn't understand why someone she knows would agree to no sex before marriage; she said that, without having sex, you couldn't know whether you'd want to be/stay with a partner. I disagreed, saying you can know if you love someone regardless of if you've had sex. It's silly to think asexual people are any less able to love, so of course non-asexual people who've decided to be celibate for whatever reasons aren't any less loving for their decision. They're not "withholding" anything. By contrast, to expect sex from anyone who isn't enthusiastic about it themselves is about as unloving as you could be.

Another friend relayed a conversation about a woman in the club saying "I think he's really special - he even went down on me, and no guys ever done that for me before", to which her friend replied "That shouldn't be special! Any decent guy would do that, it's entirely normal!" - she agreed. On one hand, yeah; if guys are willing to hook up and actually have sex, and they have no qualms with doing whatever else *specifically except* oral, just from a genuine lack of care about their partner's enjoyment, then yeah, that's annoying. And a lot of guys are like that due to patriarchal brainrot...

But again, sexuality is about closeness and mutual enjoyment to me. It's about finding out what each other enjoys, and listening to and understanding each other. To feel pressured to perform a sexual act is one of the worst feelings. There's a difference between being selfishly unreciprocal and keeping boundaries.

I purposefully used the phrase pillow princess in the post because I found the gendered language pertinent; pillow princess isn't necessarily a derogative term with lesbians, it's a value-neutral descriptor of a person in a specific dynamic. It's someone with certain preferences who pairs well with a certain counterpart (like a stone butch). A woman who wants to receive pleasure but, for whatever reason, doesn't want to give it, isn't seen in the same way as guys are described above. She's attractive to ppl with complimentary desires, and that's appreciated. Her sexual preferences are respected as her choice.

The difference to me seems largely sociological (i.e., aforementioned patriarchal brainrot). Porn, media, social pressures, etc., encourage men (and everyone else for that matter) to see sex in a consumptive way, commodifying the experience. I find it tragic that so many guys basically want to masturbate with their partner's body, that there's an impersonality, and that they don't properly connect with their partner or consider them. I think the fact lesbians have been subject to misogyny rather than benefiting from patriarchy means the choice not to reciprocate seems less entitled.

When I asked my bf once what it was he actually wanted in terms of intimacy, he basically said "I don't know... the point is to have fun, right?". And he's right. That consumptive lens I mentioned affects what my mates said before, too. A sense of transaction, exchange, expectation. Like undetermined portions of the relationship - the dates, or conversations, or foreplay, or idea of a future together - are deposits for an expected return. Or investments. Or loans. To me at least, if your relationship doesn't work unless you expect your partner to perform whatever sexual act, you're not in a good romantic relationship. You need to figure out what each other's needs and desires are, and how you both feel, then find a way to have fun with it.

I am having fun, lol. I know my bf isn't like that in a dispassionate way, he's just doing things at his own pace. It's not out of a lack of consideration, and I know he does love me very much. To go back to the commodification thing, a lot of people see sex acts like a shopping list of wants to check off, or as if they're necessary to feel desired in turn. Fun in sex isn't just quantifiable that way. Experiences aren't fungible like that. I could easily get more genuine enjoyment lying and stroking his hair than I have from some hookups before. When we got together, I knew he was intimidated by all of the expectations that surround sex - the bravado of his mates, the way it's described in media, how it's expected to fit into guys' egos. He was worried I'd think less of him for having boundaries. I'm disappointed in myself, frankly, for having been impatient or frustrated about how he's going about things, not that I'd said anything to him or whatever. Time spent with someone you love is beautiful for what it is. And fun, lol.