#but this felt important for me to share

[iguessitsjustme]

I want to talk about hope.

In June of 2021, my house burned down. I was living with my parents and my two younger siblings at the time. My younger sister was set to move out in a few days, and I had just put my two weeks’ notice in at my previous job and was working my final day (I worked remotely). Around midday, I smelled burning followed by the smoke alarms going off. Only my siblings and I were home at the time. As I came out of my room, one of my siblings ran up stating the house was on fire. All three of us fled as quickly as we could. We all made it out with plenty of time and none of us were hurt. But because we fled so quickly, none of us were wearing shoes.

My siblings and I tried desperately to reach the rest of my family. My mother was about an hour away visiting her father as she did every week. My dad was at work in a different city. And my older brother lived across the country from us. The area we lived in was rural and we all had very poor cell reception without the use of internet. It was incredibly hard to reach anybody. It felt like the three of us against a giant monster that consumed everything we had. But as we struggled to use our useless phones (luckily all of us had our phones on us when it happened) and as we watched our house become consumed by flames, the most miraculous thing happened. People showed up.

These were not people that the three of us knew. They were all people from the community that came to see what was going on. They saw the three of us trying to call our parents and lent us their phones. They sat and watched with us as the flames engulfed our home and as the pops and bangs of the house being torn apart hurt us to hear. And the thing that I remember the most is the family that looked down at our feet, saw that we had no shoes, and took off their own shoes and gave them to us. They did not think about it for a second. They simply removed their shoes and gave them to us. They did not fit perfectly, but they were a comfort that we did not have that was given back to us during an incredibly difficult time.

I know right now is tough. I know things look bleak. I know it looks like there is a monster consuming our home. But there are people out there that will sit with you. There are people that will offer you their phones. There are people that will offer you their shoes. There are people that will return to you a piece of comfort that was stolen. They are there. And you will not have to look very far to find them. Hope will be found in those people. In the little moments and the little acts that they do. Even when you feel so alone and like you're watching your house burn down, hope can still be found.

[julijbee]

girlbossing too close to the sun.

[pirateprincessjess]

Hey you openly trans person, we know you are trans!! Somehow i think this is an insult!!

Honestly, it’s because they assume we are ashamed of being trans, and in my experience this misconception has actually been one of the best starting points for convincing someone to change their mind about transgender people, and to start to accept us.

Shortly after I came out a cis friend of mine told me that he thought being trans was a sin. He said that people are ashamed of being trans and that meant transness was a sin because we are instinctively ashamed of things that are sinful.

Now obviously this is complete bullshit. Shame is a learned behavior. We learn shame early in life. It’s a thing that we develop by experiencing rejection, disapproval, or criticism from the people around us. When our parents or peers make us feel unworthy or flawed then we develop a sense of shame.

I was seven years old when I told a therapist that I felt like a girl, and that I hated being a boy. I was seven years old when that therapist told me that this was a bad thing, and that I needed to keep it a secret. I was seven years old when I learned to be ashamed of my transness. There was nothing instinctual about my shame.

It took me along time, but I eventually managed to work past some of that shame, and at 25 years old I came out to a small group of people and started HRT. By the time I was 26 I was out to the world.

And there I was, nineteen years years after learning to be ashamed of my transness, listening to a friend tell me that my shame was a natural instinct.

Nineteen years after learning to be ashamed of being trans, I was able to say, honestly, that I was not ashamed.

This didn’t immediately change my friend’s mind, but it was the first time he stopped to reconsider his views. This conversation was the turning point that lead to him asking me questions in good faith, instead of asking me gotcha questions to try and convince me to stop being transgender.

Five years later we are still good friends, and he is one of my staunchest cisgender allies.

[nyoclosmom]

my brain belongs to her only

[voidzphere]

do not harass or interact with said user.

hey so i find it rlly insane that youre telling me to "let go" when im literally a victim of your abuse and sexual harassment ?

not only would you constantly misgender me after being the first person i ever came out to as transgender, you also stalked me as soon as i started posting on tumblr again, and even had the nerve to reblog my posts. etc.

you cant tell a literal VICTIM to "let go" and "move on". i dont care if youve "changed" that much in two yearz, and im glad youre aware that your actions were awful, but that doesnt change what you did.

i havent said shit while you claim that i have. i have only told my moots and the people i care about for their and my own safety, because to me, you are a threat. while you, on the other hand, are draggin this out into public lettin the audience you have witness this with zero context so they can defend you going only by your word. and you say i didnt allow you to "give your side". okay ! you dont deserve a platform, you dont deserve mootz or followers, and you dont deserve being online in the first place.

screenshots for proof

[crescentfool]

having the hc that minato is ace is incredibly funny sometimes when you think about how ryoji is oh so very bi because it's like. "ah. death stole my ability to be attracted to people," in the same way that ryoji stole minato's eye color and energy level. like wow, thanks ryoji, you just keep finding things to steal from minato!

[girlyteeth]

Japanese Fetishization in Landmine-Kei Communities

As landmine culture is a hot topic for discourse in the j-fashion community, I can't help but put out this criticism about it's popularity among western audiences.

Larping as an East Asian person isn't a new concept, and it ties into things like anime and/or kpop becoming popular. however I can't help but notice that it is very prevalent in the Western landmine community. I'll often see people in this community completely going out of their way to look, act, and even Google Translate their sentences to make them seem more Japanese. It's not just white people too, I see many East Asian people trying to appear in this manner as well. And I can't help but question...what is this obsession with trying to look like a different ethnicity than the one you are born with? This seems to stem from the belief that "Any information on j*rai-kei coming from Japanese ppl are always correct no matter what, therefore if I look like one then people will listen to what I have to say about it." I also see this argument where it's like "Oh actually, I LIVE in Japan so anything I say about this specific thing is correct, and I speak on behalf of the people living there." One person doesn't speak for the entire community, and many people have different opinions on the landmine-kei stereotype in Japan. Searching up the term in its Japanese writing can either give you girly makeup/dress up challenge videos, psychiatrist articles, or really offensive videos about girly fashion and the landmine stereotype.

I've always had this strong feeling that if landmine culture were to originate from any other country, no one would be interested in it at all. Some people may even feel repulsed, and worried by the thought of it. But since most "landmines" are young women in Japan who likes wearing cute frilly fashion, all of a sudden it's super trendy, cool, and "kawaii" to be a "landmine" in a self-destructive community.

It's not wrong to self-identify as a landmine if it's helpful for your personal coping. However, if you larp as Japanese and genuinely romanticize the harmful aspects of the culture as something cute, please reflect as to why you think these things. Japanese people struggling with these issues shouldn't be seen as a monolith, but as individuals of their own.

[eternatuslesbian]

this video just came across my fyp and i felt the need to share this and this family's gofundme. this is what was posted with the gofundme:

"Marquis Rivera

Hi, my name is Katiana Edwards and I am fundraising for my brother Marquis Rivera, who was killed by Columbia Police Department in Missouri. The money raised will be used for lawyer and private investigator fees... Please read his story below.

My brother, Marquis Rivera, was 22 years old, and lived in Columbia, Missouri. During the time, Marquis faced overwhelming challenges. Relationship issues and personal issues led him to a point where he felt he couldn't continue living but desperately sought help.

On August 4th, 2023, at 3:05 p.m., Marquis made a distress call to the police, expressing his urgent need for assistance. When officers arrived at his residence, they found Marquis seated outside his apartment. He openly admitted to being a threat to himself, expressing his desire to end his life. Despite his plea for help, the officers didn't offer adequate support beyond repeatedly questioning him.

Despite knowing that Marquis had a gun in his home, and intended to harm himself, the officers, inadequately trained in handling mental health crises, left him without proper intervention. Instead, they contacted his ex-girlfriend, making assurances they failed to fulfill. This left Marquis feeling abandoned.

Later, at 3:57 p.m., Marquis called 911 again, this time outside with a gun. Marquis fired rounds into the air, emptying his gun. The same officers returned and confronted him, urging him to put the weapon down. Marquis, in his distraught state, told them to shoot him. The situation escalated, leading to more officers arriving, guns drawn, surrounding Marquis.

For about 15 minutes, Marquis, without a weapon, received no proper intervention or attempt at de-escalation. Although the officers were aware he had no ammunition, they maintained their stance, not detaining him. Marquis went back into his apartment and retrieved more bullets. After a brief moment when Marquis reloaded his gun and fired into the air again, multiple police officers opened fire, fatally shooting him.

Marquis was left on the ground, handcuffed, in the rain for hours before any action was taken. Not a single person from the Columbia PD reached out to our family to relay the news. I got the devastating news through a phone call from Marquis’ roommate, and I personally had to give the news to the rest of my family. The lack of outreach or support from the Columbia PD compounded the tragedy. All of this information was took from the body cam footage that was released to my family and I, and from neighbors who witnessed the whole interaction.

The loss of Marquis highlights the urgent need for better-equipped, extensively trained responders to handle mental health crises. His cry for help was not met with the care and understanding he desperately sought, leaving a void in the lives of those who loved him.

The prosecutor working his case has decided not to press charges on the officers.

My family and I want to sue the PD for negligence.

Anything will help, Thank you all so much!"

[fitzselfships]

I might be taking a slight break from here. My Paranoia this week has been Really bad and today things are a lot worse. I'll be more active on twitter and bsky (both linked in my pinned post) for the time being

[rikitiki-5000]

ily my mutuals and ppl who interact with me, covid and moving stuff has made connecting with others and making irl friends difficult so having you guys really means a lot to me 💖💖

[captainkirkk]

If a fic author deletes their work, what’s your take on people who’ve previously downloaded the fics sharing their copies? I’m personally torn on it - I can understand both sides, but was wondering what others think.

This might be a controversial opinion, but I think it's fine to share downloaded copies of fics in certain situations. For example, if a friend mentions they have the fic and another friend asks them to email it to them. Or someone is desperately looking for their all time favourite fic that was deleted and asks for it on tumblr, I think it's okay for someone else to answer and offer to email it to them. I think, as authors, we need to accept that we give up a certain level of control when we publish a fic. Anyone can download it, even if we later delete the fic.

ALTHOUGH, I think posting it in a more public setting for other people to access (e.g., sending a link to a massive discord server) is probably a no-go?? Also, if the author has come out and explicitly asked people not to share downloads, then I'd say respect their wishes!!

[thatlittledandere]

How many people who followed me after 2018 see me post something about Boueibu every now and again and think it's one of my casual interests and not like, a fundamental component to who I am as a person

[lususnatura]

okay, buttt blamore purposely trying to find ways to be kind of 'over-the-top' and/or inventive with its bone manipulation is something that i live for, if i'm being honest + this is because it ABSOLUTELY suits his personality. like imagine another muse having no freaking idea what blamore's doing during a fight because he threw a bone seemingly nowhere near them... but then the bone implodes and turns into shrapnel.

and it does this with the objective of either injuring this muse heavily or killing them — as it can do this with multiple bones at a time, after all, which would send a bunch of sharp and dense bone fragments flying across the room. like OMG. i can't say that that wouldn't be extra, but it also has the capacity to be really kind of scary to have to try to dodge LOL. and that definitely makes blamore more of a threat. for, i feel like bone manipulation is already such an underrated power as it is, but with someone who can use it creatively?

ahh, well, all i have to say is you better strap in because you're in for one hell of a fight LMAOOO

[bleue-flora]

...Q running in an election, which he was completely allowed to do, during which he played 100% by Wilbur's rules and won fairly according to said rules, means that getting abused by his boss was his own fault?

Yeah your views are definitely scuffed. You don't have to sympathize with a character you don't like but holy shit

Perhaps fault isn’t the right word. Just to clarify, I didn’t mean it was his fault for being abused, not saying anyone deserves that. So, I didn’t mean like he asked for it or like it is karma or comeuppance for running in the election. And by no means am I saying he was wrong to do so in the first place and whether or not he followed c!Wilbur’s rules is irrelevant. So perhaps comparing that with exile is unfair to c!Quackity, after all c!Tommy did provoke Dream and there’s not necessarily evidence for c!Quackity provoking c!Schlatt into that behavior. But at the end of the day, it is a result of his own actions. It is a consequence of his own actions whether or not it was intended or deserved. He chose to side with c!Schlatt so he could win even though it’s not like c!Schlatt was necessarily hiding his true colors, and he chose to stay. Did he know he was going to be abused, did he chose to be abused, did he deserve being abused. No. Of course not. But it happened because of the choices he made and he could’ve always made different choices to escape that. Actions just have consequences whether good or bad, you pay them or someone else does, whether intentional or not. - I forget an umbrella and I get wet and I get the floor wet and then someone slips on the wet floor and falls - I made a choice or perhaps a series of choices whether to put my umbrella by the door or make sure to dry my shoes off… etc. did I know that was going to happen? Did I intend for that? Did I or the person who fell deserve that? No, I made choices and those were the consequences that happened as a result so one could say it is my fault even if it’s not only my fault and even if it’s not like I intentionally meant for that to happen.

So obviously c!Quackity didn’t deserve to be abused, nor choose it, nor mean for it to happen, nor make it happen, nor is his hurt invalid. But c!Schlatt had a bad reputation to start off with, I mean one of the first things he does is betray c!Wilbur and c!Tommy in the first place. So all I’m saying is c!Quackity chose to ally himself with the devil and the devil lived up to his name.

(And I know I said you can call me cold, but that is kinda accusatory. c!Quackity isn’t a real person, these do not reflect my view irl, this is my view on a sadistic, manipulative, fictional character who lives in a world where people stab, kill, insult, harass for a fun afternoon.)

[basrars]

happy @d20exchange!! <3 here's the first of my gifts for the wonderful @concidineart! please enjoy norman, skip, & the complicated art of trying again!

[triglycercule]

a certain someone just went to bed 😈😈😈😈 now its time to get back to my EVIL EVIL VERY EVIL SCHEMES!!!!! archiving 😈😈😈😈😈😈😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁