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god made me a lesbian because she knew I'd be a menace if I wasn't
#I went for drinks with my daddy dearest and was like eh I want one more drink and just stayed on my phone cause fuck everyone#then left the bar at closing to chill for a second before walking home and I was too drunk to turn this dude down#so I guess I gotta figure out how to turn down this coffee invite. ''you seem deeper than other girls'' If I Am A Woman I Am These Girls#but that's a problem for sober me#the fact I'm a fucking slut? if I was into dudes this would be a disaster of tsunami proportions#reminder to sober me: he asked me if I lose weight from kickboxing. so fuck him don't give him anything
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tagging @nellslions @gabriestat @creaturecannibal @lovelaceisntdead @elcctra @nsewell @whiterthanafishsthroat @brigittefitzgerald @andreacantillos @shirleyjacksons @magicoleanders @thefinalpaperheart @elizabugz @c-dollanganger @lightsinthemist @persephonesque @prairietrashdotcom @goticoamericano @waitingroomphoebebridgers @seawilde @marywshelleys @cryptidlark @childofchryses if you haven't already done this, and anyone who wants to ♡
#sorry for doing it after a month or sth i hadn't seen i had been tagged!#honourable mentions (aka i would have put them there but it says only 10): elizabeth richmond (her lizzy and betsy versions specifically)#amanda (thouroughbreds)#ginger and brigitte fitzgerald (ginger snaps)#and eventually cersei. sorry but her repressed lesbianism gender issues paranoia drinking problem impulsiveness hatefulness and the fact#that she has zero (0) friends have enraptured me#i love evil outcast women sm <3#also just realized most of them have a let's call it very strained relationships with their mothers#+ are not beating the incest allegations#and yes lestat is claudia's mother obv#also of course shauna shipman!!!#but these in the poll are the top. 14. sorry couldn't choose only 10 it's like making a mother choose between her children#no actually turns out i saw that i was tagged?? so chances are i was either drunk or was sober and forgot anyway
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It’s not a huge deal because it wasn’t like I was this big drinker, I just didn’t like how it made me feel especially the last time I drank, but today is 1 year with no alcohol and that feels pretty good!!
#can I say 1 year sober or is that not appropriate since I don’t feel like I really had a problem?#I did drink during the pandemic to numb myself which is why I kind of stopped and only did it with friends#and then after the last time with friends I was like oh I don’t like how I feel#so I said I’m done#I won’t say no to other activities#but I am happier not drinking!!!!!#give me a Diet Coke instead
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More Apollo fic excerpts for you all, because I'm on a roll:
Looking at Father is hard. Apollo has learnt this early on, but Apollo is also either incorrigibly foolish, or insurmountably stubborn. Either way, he tries and tries and tries; the truth is his, and he will look into the King's eyes while he gets it.
Lightning crackles around Zeus's lashes, fine white scars upon his dark skin. He sighs unhappily, and somewhere around Cretan Ida, rain-black clouds are blown away. "Why do you ask that, child?"
"Hekate thinks it is unjust."
"Did she say that to you?"
"No."
Apollo does not mention that she said that to his sister and his mother, because that was not what Father asked. He does not speak of her grief either - the King is a forge of hot power thrumming with ill-supressed rage, a rush of deadly cloudstrike and bitter ozone under his tongue - and Apollo is... apprehensive, if not afraid.
Zeus sighs again. The rain clouds return, and drought is averted. His beard droops, and the riot of spiked hair curls into itself. "It is fate," he says. "There had to be a safe place for you to be born."
"And fate is greater than justice, then?"
"You know the Fates. You know Fate is greater than everything."
Apollo says nothing. In the following silence, father and son stare at each other, picking away at the other's minds.
As always, Father breaks first. "I could not lose you," he says. "You are to be a great god."
Perhaps Apollo should be kinder, perhaps Apollo should be blind. But he is not. Here too the Fates are unfair - he can see Ares' quiet pain, he can see Hera's righteous rage. And his memory is terrible in its divinity - a hundred thousand words of fatherly love will not wipe away all those days of his mother's tears.
Or perhaps it is not fatherly love at all. Apollo is to be a great god, a mighty cog in the automaton that is Fate, and like Hephaestus, Zeus its builder cares little for who the cogs are, or where they come from. They must only exist.
Or perhaps it is just him - Apollo, the Destroyer. Under his hands is the ruin of a hundred women, and then some more, and Hekate is one notch among many others. Perhaps Apollo blames fruitlessly, for it is his father who chased his aunt, and his birth that holds her down. Perhaps his father loves them - him and Artemis and Mother Leto, and has only sought to turn fate in their favour through his ruthlessness. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps. So many chances, so many answers.
Apollo looks at Father, and does not believe even one.
"I see," he says. "Thank you for your time, Your Majesty."
Zeus-King frowns. He holds out a hand as if to call out, then drops it and turns away. "You may leave," he says, and Apollo does.
#I'm turning around the asteria metamorphosis problems in my head like a mad scientist so.#we have 💫issues💫#no but no way apollo and hekate got as close as they seem right off the bat#you're telling me apollo's dad chased her mom into metamorphosis#and then delos largely turns out to be apollo's (or artemis's in cases where it's ortygia) main base#and she wasn't even a little resentful?#also zeus and apollo have so many issues#i think it's very interesting how most works i read say zeus loves apollo#and apollo is “obedient” (minus that 2 times he tried to stage a rebellion but eh stuff happens)#apollo is maliciously compliant when he's upset - you told me to leave??? you didn't give me answers??? well I'm going to hyperborea#have fun handling the oracles with your other son (it's dio. dio is always either drunk or high. if he's sober he pretends he isn't#so he can get away with his pranks and shenanigans)#anyway this is apollo fic no. 3#apollo#zeus#hecate#hekate#greek myths#greek gods#greek mythology
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the places he has that id put that meat flower into holy shit thats some mad drawing material this new official material goes hard.
not to be horny on main tho
#ultrakill#im so normal#this goes into main tag fuck it#im ready to be judged#suggestive#i will regret posting this when i get sober#thats a future me problem
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10 things I learned from 10 months of sobriety
(in no particular order)
1. Feelings can't hurt me as long as I don't do anything self destructive to make them go away. They'll pass - like clouds blowing over the sky.
2. Everything good that I thought being drunk and high helped me do - socializing at parties, making art, emotional intimacy - I'm actually better at when I'm sober.
3. Getting intoxicated was a shortcut (a maladaptive coping mechanism) to silence my self-criticism and shame.
4. It caused more problems than it solved.
5. What I really needed was to practice self compassion and let myself be vulnerable with others sober. Scary, but the rewards are great.
6. If I satisfy my loneliness by getting drunk and high, I will be too busy with my addiction to seek out real love or accept it when it comes. I feel lonely for a reason; if I just keep numbing the hunger, I'll starve.
7. I have to take all of the energy I may spend wishing for others to change for me and just change myself.
8. Withdrawals were uncomfortable but my fear of them was much worse. When I look back, I felt more joy and relief in the first few days than pain. Like swimming in the ocean: once I stopped struggling and just let the current pull me under and toss me around, trusting that eventually I would be pushed to the surface, I knew I would be alright no matter how strange and sick I felt. It was such a relief to stop fighting what I knew deep down was right and true: that I had to quit today - not tomorrow, not in a week - or I'd be using for the rest of my life.
9. Denial is a powerful and terrifying thing. Nobody is too smart to be an addict. If anything, it makes you better at coming up with excuses.
10. At some point you will be more afraid of staying the same forever than you are of changing.
#i smoked all day every day and binge drank if i still felt too sober or i couldnt get enough weed#drinking was my first problem but i got more into thc because it didnt make me feel so sick#at least at first#this blog is just more focused on weed bc i feel theres a lack of information and content about thc addiction on Tumblr#goodbye mary jane#weed addiction#addiction recovery#marijuana addiction#recovering stoner#cannabis addiction#stoner#drug addikt#clean and sober#recovering addict#alcoholism#alcohol abuse
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🎶 they tried to make me go to rehab and i said PLEASE PLEASE HOLY FUCK I FEEL SO BAD WILL NOBODY HELP ME I CANT STOP WHY DOESNT ANYBODY NOTICE HOW BAD IT IS PLEASE HELP
#IM SUCH A LIGHTWEIGJT NOW AND I FEEL SO STUPID I ALWAYS FEEL LIKE IM FINE I CAN HANDLE IT WHAT'S ONE BEER YOU CAN DO IT YOU LIKE BEER#AND I HAVENT HAD WATER OR EATEN ALL DAY AND IM LIKE WHEEEE I KEPT MY TAB OPEN (DUMBASS) ORDER A SECONS#even a second is too much#i cant stop#like actually i dont know what to do bc i know even if i went to rehab WHICH I CANT AFFORD AND NONE OF MY FAMILY WILL HELP i just would#return to the same shit bc no matter how sober i get i cant stop bc that's how fucking addiction works#and im too scared to tell anyone i actually need help#the people who know i need help are just judging me and watching me fall into this fucking pit#i dont know what to do#im just gonna pass out drunk now#i hate feeling like this it's so fucking humiliating#i dont even like it#and im admitting defeat to WHAT? A LITTLE GLASS OF JUICE? YOURE KIDDING ME#prolific linguistics researcher and author cant stop.. why do we always treat academics like we're the pinnacle of society#im fucking awful man im a schizophrenic with an addiction problem#but im so much more than that! anyone who knows me knows that! but i cant stop#i want to stop#and im trying and then every few months I think ive tried enough and i expect it to go away but that's how the cravings trick you#fuck this man#drugs tw#sobriety update#lessons of the hand and the mouth
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its crazy to think abt the alcoholism stuff I put my partner through and Im so happy to be out of that. they really got to see me at my absolute lowest with no way to help and that makes me so sad :( they were so good and gentle with me and tried their best to find what was right for me the whole time and I really really appreciate it…
#like obviously Im sad for me as well but I was causing the problem yaknow#I tried to pretend like it wasnt a problem soooo bad and I really genuinly thought it wasnt ‘bad enough’ until. well until *gestures*#speaking#the strugglerrr#8 months sober tomorrow 🫶
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i'm kind of amazed how most of the stardew marriage candidates just want you to be their manic pixie dream whatever by agreeing with everything they like and plying them with compliments or praise or whatever (which is fine but a bit. Much) but for shane his romance is just you being there for him while he figures his own shit out... dunno why i never wanted to romance him before he's so good
#i'm usually a sebastian kinda guy but i do think it's silly you have to say you like scifi to gain friendship points w him like cmon man#i will say though that. my bestie's baby daddy being named shane kinda does make it hard to like him 😭 unfortunate but not his fault#ik a lot of ppl are weird abt his recovery and his messy ass room bc they play stardew to make things look pretty or whatever#but i'm actually kind of glad he's a realistic depiction of addiction... the problem is his dependence on indulging in alcohol when he's#depressed not the fact that he drinks period... i think that a lot of ppl are unrealistic abt alcoholism (including me abt my dad's)#but concernedape did really good w him imo. anyways all this to say that i'm really glad shane never expects someone to be a certain way#i know most of the candidates are like. archetypes or whatever and i think that's fine they are very sweet and cute regardless but#i think maybe i didnt romance him before bc i related to him so badly that it hurt seeing myself reflected LMAO dead end life and being#suicidal about it like. i've never had a drug dependence but i'm not really in a position where i can ever make my own decisions anyways#but regardless. there is smth to someone who slowly warms up to you when they can't ignore your kindness any longer and have no reason to#act like an abused dog anymore which. does make me sad just to say but that is how he acts beforehand#idkkkkk idk i think people are always too caught up with his addiction and his messy room to actually see him without realizing that#getting better is a lot harder than it appears and that having a dirty room doesn't mean you aren't trying to be better. sigh#besides it's not like. the end of the world that he has a beer sometimes. have you tried going thru life completely sober? it sucks#ok im done LMAO but yeah i've found myself gravitating towards him this time around when i've romanced sebastian literally every playthru#til now. hmm!#ACTUALLY ONE MORE THING. i like how he's basically a twist on the classic useless husband trope in media where they love sports and drinking#but he's not a bad person and the only reason he's mean to you at first is because he hates himself and his own life and he makes an effort#the more you get close to him instead of the opposite. i like that a lot. ok now i'm done
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Sally's apology to John really struck me as a raw, meaningful parent-to-child apology. She didn't dumb anything down, she didn't lie to soften anything, she claimed all of her actions... he was so young, and Sally reacted to his age not by talking down to him, but by finding a way to describe the whole truth so he could understand
Most importantly I think is how she kept saying that John is a good person. Like...she thought she was about to die. And she didn't spend that time asking John for forgiveness or to remember her in a good light. She dedicated her words to making John feel loved. She spent that precious time giving him something to make sense of it all, to heal somewhere down the line even when she's not there
#HHHHHHUHHHHHHHHHH#i know that Sally & John's interactions at the college indicate a bunch of fucked-up-edness#ie him saying 'i love you' & her not hearing it. her asking him for reassurance#but i see the apology scene & her concern for him after the shooting#as evidence that she's going to give him SOMETHING good as his mother.#call me what u want but i have faith in them.#She's not perfect and they've got SOOOO much shit to live with. the both of them.#but amongst all of her motivations there is a genuine desire to see her son safe & happy#and i'm crossing my heart & hoping to die that -- now that Barry's not there -- that love for John comes through. and that he feels it.#the fact that they had an easy conversation outsite the theater; there was no indication Sally is using substances; John is sober;#and that John has friends.... I'm choosing to take these as indicators that -- despite the genuine problems that Are there --#John & Sally are reasonably healthy and so is their relationship.#oh god. this show. takes a fucking Lot out of me#barry hbo#sally reed#john berkman#barry finale#barry meta#pyra speaks
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sometimes i want to make vent art of hrhs and my ocs and post it on here but like im also soooo shy and i dont want to be perceived by the public but i rlly be going in circles all day…
#so many conversations with friends i want to refer to#being sober is kinda taking me out#and i hate having to consciously think abt what im doing so i have self control#im too young to be dealing w addiction problems#I SHOULD BE AT THE CLUBS#im cooked
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also i hate saturdays on this app. why do all y’all have lives smh
#rambles.#/j i’m glad y’all are living life#it’s a me problem i’m a non M-F gurlie and also a hermit so. skill issue#oh and it’s 4/20. once again i am the loser sober gurl
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anyone got any suggestions for how to explain mysteriously having another blade that does not involve it being taken away or me being put back on suicide watch
#personal#tw sh#tw suicide#started using the i am sober app again recently finally and discovering how often i self harm is somewhat damning#i mean it's not bad or whatever it's very mild so from a clinical perspective it's not concerning#one time someone was telling me how much i downplay problems because i'm approaching them from a clinical point of view#well you see. if i don't i will go insane. so.#anyway#puddleglum hours#sorry for depressionposting this much i should stop
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Heyy for the requests, maybe Rosaria giving a piggyback ride to Kaeya, when they go home from drinking? I love your art btw and thabk you <3
he ends up falling asleep so quickly after this lol
(also tysm <333)
#hopefully its legible lmao#todays been a day for real squiggly sketches#and i wanted this one to be very squiggly bc theyre wasted soooo#im weirdly proud of kaeyas shoe in this one#genshin impact#rosaria#kaeya#its them#the two pretty best friends#rosaria would be able to carry him no problem when sober but when drunk.....#they mean sm to me auugh#love the tavern trio <333#genshin impact fanart#my art#doodle#wahhh out of reqs again RIP#can yall pwetty pwease send character n pokemon duos or smth#ive been thinking sm about pkmn aus today help#sorry do i sound desperate
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Ray is the worst character on this show and I hate this man like he poisoned my water supply and burned my crops. I don't even care.
This man is looking right in Sand's sad eyes and saying "but you make me happy" while still pretending Mew wants him and stringing Sand along as a backup option. He’s the worst kind of person you fall for in your early adult years because they don’t love anyone but themselves, but can fool you just enough that you fall for it every time, then hate yourself for falling for the obvious bullshit.
He really was out here trying to have Sand do his mandatory community service. I know he said he’d be there, but he wouldn’t be the one teaching the kids, which he even admitted. He’d just be sitting there watching Sand, probably after pregaming before, with doe eyes because he’s never actually worked a day in his life. He doesn’t respect Sand or his time in any way at all. He’s a spoiled brat that uses his daddy’s money, or whatever and whoever he can, to get his way.
I want to sit him down and tell him “Mew doesn’t want to fuck you. He’s only entertaining you because he’s heartbroken over Top. You pretending he wants to be with you because he’s constantly drunk and doing lines with you, when you know he has a problem with your drinking and the fact that you even do coke, is absolutely pathetic. And imagine doing all that, having Mew blackout drunk and high, and him still not wanting to fuck you? Embarrassing. He only even kissed you because he wanted to hurt Top and your stupid ass thought you won something. It would be sad if it wasn't so pathetic.”
And if you thought this man couldn’t get worse, Mew’s been drunk for weeks (maybe? Ray's arm is fine and he's already been convicted of his DUI) at this point, is high for the first time, and puking in the sink, and where the fuck is Ray, who always so loudly and self righteously proclaims he’s the only person that really loves Mew, to take care of him? Forcing himself onto Sand and wrecking his shit because he’s an adult toddler that wants all his toys to only belong to him. And remember kids, he didn’t just cockblock Sand and forcibly kiss him while Sand struggled to push him away, he also called him a whore for the FOURTH time. I fucking hate him. Though I’m proud Sand FINALLY stood up for himself, even just a little bit, because Ray isn’t worth ANY of this sadness and drama. He’s not that cute, his hair is uneven, and he looks dusty.
Ray’s selfish actions, in having coke at all, being so fucking sloppy he's strung out on a couch at a party, and stringing Sand along for months, almost got Sand arrested. I hope everyone that wants this relationship to happen acknowledges that because god knows Sand, and the show, won’t. If Top didn’t bribe the cop, they both would have been arrested and we all know Sand has no money for any type of lawyer or bribe. So slow clap it out for Ray's complete selfishness. And what did Sand get after all that? Ray passed out alone, happily hugging a pillow.
Everyone calls him a burden because he is. He refuses to do a damn thing to change because he doesn’t actually hate his life all that much. And why would he? He’s a spoiled pampered young man that drags everyone (Sand, Mew, Cheum) down with him. And then he sobers up the next day and does it all over again. His daddy’s money always keeps him protected from any real consequences, because that DUI sentence was a slap on the wrist. Hell, even Top’s money protected him because he should have been arrested. And we all know if the tables were flipped, he would have let Top get carted off without a second thought for how that would hurt Mew. Because he doesn’t care about anyone but himself.
In conclusion:
#only friends#only friends the series#I'm a mentally ill addict that's been 5150'd more than once and tried to off myself multiple times#I've never been sober for more than three months since I was 17#my dad has got me out of all the trouble I've ever gotten into as much as he can#so believe me when I say Ray fucking sucks#just a completely selfish character#it's been 8 episodes and he's shown no growth or even regression#he's still there blaming everyone else for his problems while dragging everyone down#if Khaotung wasn't playing him y'all would have a lot more to say on his PEAK assholeness#which is hilarious cause even Khao is like yeah Ray fucking sucks lol#regular clyde
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I’ve been kinda curious since you started posting abt it but what is your job rn? If that’s too personal you don’t have to answer!
Im a field medic for remote oil and gas sites up in the deep north of Canada. I basically gift wrap patients to pass them off to the ambulance or emergency helicopters. Right now we're roughly 4.5 hours drive from the closest city that has a hospital with an emergency room. 6hrs if it closes due to doctor shortages as it does quite often and the only way to find out it's closed is through its Facebook page.
As this year wraps up ive dealt with:
2 rolled trucks
1 suspected heart attack
1 extreme anaphylaxis case from a wasp sting
And a bunch of non-emergency first aids.
#although they kept springing surprise emergency tests with me because i got the reputation of the medic that actually perfect passes them#like. really? im here for 4 days and you decide to do it now?#its 100% up to the foreman when he decides to run that test. and in this industry you can in fact get requested by name for jobs#i know yall need to pass too but you keep on making me clean off the entire stretcher kit every time#the bar is low for medics out here. its so low. like the project boss with literally shower you with praise if you read the safety handouts#its so low.#have you ever showed up to a job and the boss exclaims “wow! you look so sober!”#the problem is even though you make decent money#youre totally isolated. youll have like 2min conversations once or twice a day if youre lucky#but. youre in a truck. or a box office. for 12 hours a day. everyday. 28 days a month.#youre friends and family will miss you real bad.#but itll buy you a house
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