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On todays episode of āIām Avoiding Editingā I made sunflower butter chocolate chip cookies and they did not turn out looking good but they do taste good.
#burnt around the edges#a little too soft in the middle#so flat#and thin#but somehow still fall apart???#tastes good! but my goodness. they look bad š¤£
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Does anyone else think about breaking up with their self-ships? Like scenarios for when, how or why it might happen and for how long. Whether you remain friends or cut each other off completely, and if fate will bring you back together later?
#Iāve just been having a lot of thoughts about this lately#like breaking up with Bakugou because things arenāt working no matter how hard we try#conflicting work schedules paired with external factors trying to pull us apart#he thinks Iām saferā better without him#and thereās nothing that can change his mind#so we go our separate ways and itās hard esp when we share the same friends#having to be together at gatherings when youāre not really together#and it hurts#maybe we both try other relationships but itās not the same#and maybe itās years until we rekindle#but somehow the love is still there and itās just as strong#idk the falling in love again trope hits so hard I love it#like just knowing thereās no one else in this world for you?#and even though years have passed you still find each other
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Gonna be honest, I know they're meant to help, but my particular brand of suicidal ideology doesn't like these 'you have to live and persist and blah blah blah' messages out there.
I am struggling anyway. Every day has been a fight for years. Finding hope has been rare and delicate. Being told, impersonally, you're not allowed to die because this bad thing happened when you have no idea about the series of bad things a person has already been through. And now we're looking down the barrel of a gun of either people at best more concerned with the price of hamburgers than safety, at mid the efforts of a united coalition of assholes that needed us for a scapegoat, and at fully worst the slow decline of the environment.
Yeah, I mean, at least we get to see the consequences. The old folks will lose their social security and health care, but so will we. Environmentally charged hurricanes and ice storms and floods and fires will ravage the declining landscape and destroy their cheap ass housing in even the safest of places, but we also live in that landscape. We're going to be subjected to invasive treatment to make sure we're staying in our assigned lane. We're going to see friends trapped in the worst kinds of relationships if they overturn no-fault divorce.
And some of us are so goddamn tired of being strong. "You have to be strong, you have to persevere!" Like we WEREN'T BEING STRONG! Like we weren't hoping for a breather and instead we see a steeper hill?
For those of you on my slim little list, I understand why you're considering. I'm not going to judge you. I'm choosing moving, personally, because maybe starting over will save me, because the last time I tried to kill myself it was horrifying. Your body, no matter how sad your mind is, is trying hard not to die and it will react as such and boy your mind filled with horror is so much worse than a mind filled with sad. It's absolutely nightmarish, and I'm glad those weren't my last thoughts. For those that share my brain-type if you try to make it, do it for yourself and not anyone that says you have to.
#i feel kind of guilty#whenever i try to help with something#it falls apart#i feel like me trying to help cursed it somehow#i know that's not true#we were fighting an uphill battle against rich folks and putin crafted media#no one would get the fuck off twitter/x despite knowing what it was#no one would give up Amazon#too many people were too idealistic#and even if she'd won I would still know the hateful things half the country thought
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I never imagined trying to clean something with a cat nearby would be so hard
#nana talks#so like I have an ancient 10 year old bike that has been unused for 3 years that I wanna start using again#and like I had to clean it of course so I had a bucket of soap water next to me right#panther decides to sit next to me which is super adorable but I had to stop him from drinking the soap or falling into the bucket#literally every 5 minutes#he was getting too close to the bucket I was not risking an accident taking place#worst part was I couldn't pet him because my gloves were all dirty and covered in soap#and the bike is somehow still in pretty good condition for being so ancient#she's pink I'm not giving up on her unless she's literally falling apart#also bikes are expensive I could spend that money on shoes instead
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the team rwby dynamic is so funny to me because we have a silver eyed warrior, the heiress to the biggest company in the world, an unofficial princess whoās father founded a major civil rights group, and then theres just this lesbian farmer
#and the way yang is still somehow the most important member#like shes the heart of the team#rwb falls apart without her#the end of volume 8 being a good example#rwby#Team RWBY#ruby rose#weiss schnee#blake belladonna#yang xiao long
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"Both intuition and past research suggest that whether people deem someone trustworthy depends on that person's past behavior and reputation for betrayal. In a series of experiments, psychologists found that subjects regarded those who previously exhibited that behavior as less trustworthy. However, when the betrayal benefited them or had no effect on them, participants regarded the betrayer as trustworthy. This pattern was largely consistent across the types of relationships studied: friendships, romantic relationships and professional relationships."
#science#trump#yet somehow i think they'll still stick w him even after their lives fall apart#'he's fine as long as i'm not the victim'
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23 for clem and crystal. i can guess the answer to the others but i have to know this one.
Will they ever love again?
Yes they do in fact!
In my future au Crystal gets with Phoebe and Clem with Quentin ( obvs during/post his redemption arc )
Itās also a polycule thing too since Quentin and Phoebe are dating
Hereās a visual representation ^
#idk how/when Phoebe and Crystal get together#but regarding Clem and Quentin I do have some ideas#for starters after Raz and Crystal go through Clems mind and help him Clem needs a place to stay#bc he canāt go back to his parents ( or well more specifically his mom bc his dad is.. well yknowā¦ )#and the motherlobe doesnāt have a proper place for him to stay at due to the dorms mainly being for interns and junior psychonauts#( and also Raz has a dorm even when heās a full fledged agent )#Crystal offers to let Clem stay at her place but he refuses bc 1. thereās still a lot of stuff they have to work out#and 2. he doesnāt want to be a burden to her or end up fucking up her mental health since heās still struggling with that#and somehow Quentin hears abt this through the grapevine and offers to let Clem stay at his apartment#since he has an extra bedroom#and to have some company around the house while Phoebe is doing her psychonauts duties#Clem is hesitant at first but ultimately agrees#and after a while he ends up falling for Quentin#but thereās a lot of internal conflict bc Clem knows Quentin and Phoebe are together#eventually it culminates into Clem confessing his feelings and Quentin reciprocating#and telling Clem that he and Phoebe are poly#cosmic chatz
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my birthday week is like a fight for my fucking life.
#like i dont like my birthday bc i dont like attention and also bc the fact i am still alive when i never planned to be is so heavy#which makes it feel like all of a sudden i have a timer and i need to kiilllmyself#but mostly. The biggest issue is i think of my exbest friend bc it was our week always even if they treated me horrible#and i would just go along with whatever they wanted even if i hated it and i just think about them think about them think about them#and i dont want them in my life but i will talk myself into missing them#and feel guilty like its my fault like i deserved everything they did to me like i should never be allowed to move past it#and then i get so embarassed over how i let them rule my life and ruin so much for me and made me break away from people i care about#but then its like im so lonely at least they were always there even if they hated me#even if they wanted me to be so miserable even if they just wanted to know they would always have someone to push around#And i still have trouble when it comes to food im still scared of opening up to people im still scared of my friends of buying new clothes#somehow everything they said to and about me was true even though none of it is and it hurt me and ruined so much#but i must have deserved it. they were supposed to know me best. and i never have known myself#so everything they had said about me has been true for so long.#every time i have the thought that i miss them i think i need to crash my car#every year it gets better every week it is easier but its been so bad recently its been so bad i feel like pieces of me are falling apart#i dont want to manifest this year it being bad bc its just starting to get easier after my total depressive state but god#im looking at are they made for me years ago and i want to rip it apart but i cant every time i try i almost throw up.#i think im going to throw up right now.#deeply pathetic.#news with isaac
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idk how to start this so this post is ab individual action, trying to motivate positive change in the world, etc etc
a lot of growing up in the US for me makes things feel more scary than they are. like itās actually not that difficult to go out of your way to get a bottle of water or iced cup of water from some random drive through if you think you should do it. either fast food conglomerate or local actually, itāll usually be cheaper than 5 dollars to get drinkable water. i try to have 5-10 dollars i can justify spending on water, and asking for change, because sometimes when iām out driving i need to go grab water.
i do not do this for me as much as i try to do it specifically when i see someone whoās most likely homeless on a street corner. iām sure one day i might do this and they might not be there when i come back, but what have i lost really? a bit of time and a bit of money that wouldāve meant more to them, that i can hold onto until i see them next.
the pressure that a lot of people feel when they think āwhat can i doā comes from this grand narrative that the average citizen can singlehandedly fix the housing crisis. rich people? maybe. nonprofits? not in a day, not all one person still. what can i do is a question i ask a lot. what can i do, not just because it feels bad to move along like nothings wrong with the world, but what can i do that will do anything. what can i do that makes even the smallest change.
i feel like it took me too long to figure out a personal method to what i consider individual action. itās taking time to get to my own financial stability to be able to do more. but for now itās as simple as water and cash. not water and food, but water and cash.
individual action means a lot in small steps, go get a bottle of water bare minimum and the price of a meal if you can and then just give it to them. if it wasnāt such a miserably hot place where i live i would keep a pack of water in my car, which i still want to do for the sake of having immediate access to water to give someone who might need it- hot or cold sometimes wonāt matter. but when itās hot out, get cold water, if itās cold out, a warm tea will hydrate more than coffee will as long as itās not super caffeinated.
#very genuinely iāve always felt paralyzed by the idea i cannot doing anything to help and on the grand scale i kind of canāt#i canāt give someone a house to stay in where i could take care of the space enough to get someone back on their own feet#but i can give someone water and some money for whatever they need#one day iāll be able to do more but for now. water bottles and cash.#what i want to say here is everyone knows bare necessities and everyone knows ways to get them#i also have an opinion that you should sit with and hold the harsh feeling of seeing the world fall apart and help people survive anyway#idfk man#iāve met some extremely fucking jaded people in my time at college who seem to have no way to piece together that they can do SOMETHING#one of my classmates once complained about feeling bad about not doing anything for a guy on a corner and i recognized who#because iād seen him too and done nothing at least 5 times before one day on the way home i gave him all the cash i had on me#sheād said sheād do more if she wasnāt so scared and anxious of being hurt. i donāt see how he could even look harmful or dangerous#he blessed me and offered a hug and asked me to have a good day and said thank you and i still canāt see why she was scared of him#at the same time i hadnāt done anything until i saw myself in someone else and thought it looked nasty. looked uncaring.#i saw him again today and gave him a water bottle and all the cash i had on me. i told him the weather seemed hot#he agreed with me and he took the bottle of water#i think i interrupted him opening it to hand him the rest#he got up and he blessed me again#offered a hug and more thank youās and itās so simple but i felt us both human in that moment. talking about the weather in a brief exchange#wishing each other well as we go different ways#he wouldnāt stop thanking me and wishing me well#i told him it was the smallest thing i think anyone could do and i still walked away hollow wishing to have done more somehow#to suddenly own an apartment complex nearby for him and anyone he knew that needed it too#not a rigid shelter but a place to make home#blah blah blah talking too much about a deed done because i get emotional about humanity#tauto talks
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The summer cannot come fast enough
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The next semester is going to KILL me. Bachelor thesis which idk what I want to write about AT ALL and if my adhd brain is even able to do it, two seminars that are probably gonna be super boring bcs the seminars this semester all suck for some reason AND immediately after that I have to do a work experience and write a report abt that. Oh and the semester starts NEXT WEEK
#plus still a lot of work until we can reopen the bar#im soo scared i wont be able to do it and everything falls apart bcs i didn't care enough and then i wont have any qualifications at all#also have to get a legal name change SOMEHOW very soon so my degree won't have the wrong name on it. for which i have to go to court#(in my birth city. it's pretty much a tossup if it's gonna work or not)#maybe i should try to get back on adhd meds that might help but i got heart palpitations and gi issues last time which sucked#god. literally every week I'm like what the FUCK is wrong with me why can't i just care and get things done why am i so lazy#but i guess it's adhd. or depression or the absurdity of having to have aspirations for myself when people all over the world are suffering#anyway I'm grumpy and feeling hopeless. but it will be ok i can do it. maybe. either way it's gonna work out some way or another
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You know what, joining that Discord show club was a great idea, like half of my favourite PKC folks are there. And is there anything more wholesome than someone going '1!! hey, I remember that dog!! she's adorable, I'm glad she's doing well!' about a little pixel friend they made for you years ago?
#someone also said they liked one of my older petz that I got from a member of the Polish Petz community back in the day#and we went on to reminiscent about how the community used to be back then#honestly? in a way that talk is the closest thing I'll ever get to closure in regards to what happened with the PKC#and I think that with that I can actually try and move on#even though it's pretty damn tough when a niche site that's been around since you were born just...... falls apart due to technical issues#but I've done it before. SHiR felt like it would never go away too after all#and I was there with PTI practically since the very beginning and until the very end#anyways the Petz community is still so vibrant and cool#it hurts but it'll heal. It somehow hurts way more now that I'm an adult though.#maybe because now the Polish Petz community basically /has/ no home? and I've known some of those people since I was 11?#still.... all good things must come an end and I can accept it. I feel I'm slowly getting closer to that point.#maybe I'll slowly warm up to the concept of using my RKC account ahahaha.... the RKC people were always really nice after all#the Petz community at large won't die anytime soon I don't think. Most of us have been here for at least 10 years after all.#a huge chunk of them for 20+ years#again. some people have been here longer than I've been alive#it's not something that can entirely disappear
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the way one of my friends offered to get people drinks. one of the others asked for a rum and coke, so i asked for a vodka lemonade n then they stood right behind me and went 'is olive allowed to drink?' it killed something inside me a little bit. like i wasn't episoding i've been responsible about my drinking recently don't take away my autonomy when i'm capable of looking after myself please. i know i barely can but don't. don't make this one of the few things people will actually talk to me for
#sorry but i just feel so isolated in the friend group#like no-one's leaving me out its just everyone is coupled up and the only other single people are in a qpr and go home together to watch#korra everytime we hang out and it kills that i'm the only one who has to go and be alone. everyone else skips off all happy and i'm left#to go back to my little den of depression and fight through the panic abandonment response that i get every time i leave them#but if i isolate myself completely i will be even worse. my therapist told me to make myself socialise as much as i can and i've been tryin#and it's usually alright for most of the time when we're together. like nice even if its heartbreakingly lonely and i dont have the spoons#to contribute consistently to conversations#vent#sorry i'm just. i feel like i'm falling apart slowly#catching bits as they fall and shoving them back into me but still deteriorating faster than i can fix myself#i want to stop.#i can't be a human anymore#i can study and live in literature but i cannot be human#i can't be loved.#i just want to beg one of my tutors to let me camp out in their office for a few hours so they can help me somehow do my essay#like. i can't do it on my own. i can't think enough to scrape up my memory of the books i'm writing about#and i don't have time to reread them to find quotes#i just. want to be a cat hiding under people's tables with the occasional pet from people who are kind enough to like my type of creature#but be left to sleep and do what i need to at my own pace#is that really so much to ask? can i become smaller please. take away this body of mine and give me something that fits the shape of me
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#can i just rant for a second pls#about life#I hate to be the kind of person to do this I donāt want ppl to worry or just be nice to me Iām not doing this to get anything in return on#Iām just doing this bc I need to get it out somehow and feel like its at least been said#bc I have no one I can say it to#I just really donāt know how to hold myself together at the moment#I donāt know how to have the strength to push to do all these things I need to do and want to do while still holding together every other#single fucking person in my life and being the person that gets all their stress loaded onto while not knowing how to fix any of it#I wanna be that person I wanna be someone you can go to but when itās everyone all at once and itās all these people around me that canāt#seem to communicate and make bad situations worse and I get they donāt have the strength to keep themselves together and face things with at#least a bit of a better mindset but god I canāt do that for everyone#it feels like everyone is falling apart and Iām the person in everyoneās life thatās trying to hold them together#and I really care about these people but I canāt seem to find the space for it all#not when on top of everyone having things that are shifting their life for me then to have my own life shifting too#all I wanted was peace just some rest before it all started happening I just wanted the summer to be easy and itās not#I wanted this summer to be normal to be that last summer of family and it feels like I canāt have that anymore and I hate it#I hate that I feel alone#and I hate feeling like I canāt fall apart or put myself first bc Iām always gonna need to and want to be there for everyone else#I hate that I canāt cope#I hate that I canāt seem to live#that I can never muster up the energy or strength to do the things I want bc it feels like every force in my life is just pushing me back#down and I hate saying this bc itās so selfish and mean but I hate being here sometimes#Iām so afraid and nervous to leave but at the same time I think about being out of here and only having to hold myself up for once#and to not be surrounded by this atmosphere that feels impossible to be in#I just need things to stop but they wonāt and I literally feel like Iām out in the middle of the ocean with absolutely no idea of what to do#to save myself and I feel like I need to actually do something about it instead of just moving on and forgetting about it bc what if I just#drown what the fuck then#and yet I feel the overwhelming need to say at the end donāt worry it aināt that deep tho Iām sure Iāll be fine just gonna keep going#lol just gotta get back on being that person with their shit together right fake it till you make it and all that#anyway bye sorry for just dropping this idk when Iāll be back on tumblr thank you to everyone that sent nice messages before they meant alot
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#thats me in the corner. thats me in thr spotlight. rocking from side to side and not contributing to the conversation#which is to say. i made it to thr lab get together with an old lab mate. i really truely did not think i would#i was like 20min late bc of the crying and hyperventilating over a 6min drive down the road#i sorta freaked out while driving too. and almost turned around. its just that i kno i havent been sleeping enough and got overwhelmed#but i made it there. and i dont think i looked like id been crying but i probably looked a bit blank faced and miserable#as i rocked from side to side for like 2hrs listening to ppl talk. i enjoyed it exactly as much as i expected. it was good to see the guy#again but i just dont connect in group gatherings idk. im glad its done. also fucking we were sitting there and a group comes in and whos#in that group?? someone i have avoided seeing for like a loooong time. the guy who tried to be in a relationship with me back when i 1st#started as a grad student. i say relationship. i was explaining to him why i couldnt do any sort of romantic e tanglement and he was very#firm abt not wanting a relationship. and im like bro im explaining u why no romanticly adjacent thing is gonna work. u literally asked me#to physically hold ur hand thru this. u r somehow more emotionally invested in this than me and also are telling me that u just wanna fuck#me. so like u r not slick. whatever. it was so fucking stressful at the time. which i feel bad abt bc it wasn't really his fault#i was just less self aware so i didnt kno i have bad awareness in the moment. like i dont kno a lines been crossed until a week later when#im laying on thr floor falling apart. so like i wish him the best. didnt kno he was still around. hopefully this doesnt trigger stress#dreams. all this to say i was very fucking tense. and when i got back in my car i was like shaky and panting lol#idk looking back its just such a weird situation with that dude. if i was anyone else it woudlnt have been a big deal but#my brain just doesn't process physical touch right. so now ive got these horrible touch memories that like on paper r literally nothing#but for me they were so unfathomablly awful when i 1st aquired them. i literally could not deal with any romantic stuff for like a month#bc it would like trigger me. now thst its been like 3 years its not bad tho. just like gives me thr ick but i dont get#stuck in the memories too much. its so dumb. whatever. point is im all sore now from sitting all tense haha#unrelated
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I have made friends with an nb person irl and I am so happy about it!!
#I may have adopted them somehow#They're 23 and seem kind of insecure and when we parted ways they asked me for a hug which was very sweet#Anyway we didn't talk much about it apart from a bit about their pronouns#And I'm still too unsure about where I fall on the scale and I haven't mentioned it to a single soul apart from here on tumblr yet#But maybe I'll be able to talk about it to them. Eventually. Maybe.#Anyway we had very fun tonight!!#And I think we'll have even more fun if we get more comfortable around each other so I hope we'll keep in touch
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