#but im also a poc and disabled. Im so fucked lmao

[lanfan]

Took a nap that lasted 12 hours and woke up to trump as president again. The last time I woke up to news this bad was when I was told I was terminally ill lmao.

[bonezlyy]

SILLY GUY INTRO‼️

Hello gays in my phone, my name is Ezra and I am a huge fan of the utmv

But the skeleton part specifically

Shocker I know mate, my wattpad got deleted because wattpad is ableist so my headcanons are going to be put here instead

I don’t really know how to explain myself so I’ll do a character intro thing instead because I’m a lazy little shit 🫶🏼

Okay the sheet looked ugly so Im gonna write it by hand

Name: Ezra/Ez

Age: 15

Pronouns: He/him + neos but I cant be arsed to make my card so they dont really matter

Gender: Trans ftm, genderqueer

Sexuality: Aegosexual, Cupioromantic (aroace), gay

And this silly thing

the pet name kinda things aren't romantic in any way btw, I call ppl pet names platonically

If I do this and you dont like it just tell me and I'll stop :3

This blog is a safe space for:

Queer people, I am gay and Aroace myself

Trans people, including xenos. Again, I am trans and use xenos myself

Disabled people, I am autistic myself

Poc people, I am mixed race

Furries/therians/otherkins

Age regressors (sfw)

Systems

‼️DNI IF YOU’RE QUEERPHOBIC, TRANSPHOBIC, RACIST, ABLEIST, A PROSHIPPER OR ARE DISCRIMINATORY TOWARDS ANYONE WHO IS JUST EXISTING AS THEMSELVES‼️

Oh and if you’re that transphobic identity that I can’t remember the name of, where you dont date trans people and ur flag is the PH colours

And any stupid labels like that (mangasexual, dreamsexual and shit like that)

No, this blog will not include nsfw headcanons, they’re teenagers

It will definitely have nsfw/dark jokes because that is most of my humour but no headcanons/scenarios.

This blog is gonna be messy asf but in a hot silly gay way

Anyway I hope you enjoy my blog, there will probably be a lot of shitposting and I might try writing stuff but it’ll be mostly headcanons I think (or hope)

Also, its gonna be a highschool au

Because gay angry teenagers in a big gay friend group

My fucking dream.

Also Toriel is a teacher at this school

Asgore is the head master

And Frisk, Chara, Chris, Asriel, Suzie, Noelle, Alphys, Undyne; and X Chara who will just be called X, are all students too but they kinda just float in the background

And all of the papyrus siblings are either dead, missing, non existent or little children

All the Papyruses will be like 6-12

OH WAIT

and I can’t draw very well but Im trying to learn so I this au can be an actual comic thing

Well it’ll be an AO3 story first but I want to make outfits/designs for them and draw some scenes from it :3

MKAY BYE, HOPE YOU ENJOY THIS FAGULOUS SHITSTORM 💕💕💕

Holy shit this thing is long

I need to learn when to stop talking lmao 💀

[whomst-the-hell]

i was thinking about it and i realised that i had sort of subconsciously been under the impression that atla was one of those star wars situations that tells you anyone can be magic but in actuality every major plotpoint just ties back to one single family every time (some of you may be saying “but rey wasnt a skywalker!” to which i respond “who was the primary antagonist then wiseguy” but this post isnt actually about star wars so fuck me ig) anyway what im getting at is, other than zuko, whose major theme is his relationship with his family and therefore with his nation as a whole (and also he was actual royalty so it was inevitable tbh), every single other main character’s parents were not explicitly benders, or were nonbenders. aangs parents arent ever even shown! i mean for a show where its canon that magic is genetic, they do a waaaayyyyyy better job at delivering the “anyone can be a hero” storyline than media that actually textually tells that story lmao

not only is the show about children, its also about lots of marginalised groups. all the characters are POC, toph is blind, katara is a girl (toph is obviously also a girl but her character doesnt really explore misogyny like katara ykwim?), sokka is just some guy even in the context of the magic system, even aang — the literal chosen one!!!! — is just a random kid who also happens to be the reincarnation of the most powerful spirit in the galaxy or whatever (thats a recurring theme of the show actually), and zuko ,who is the most nepo baby protagonist, isnt actually the prodigy of his family and is instead frequently upstaged by his little sister lol

like it would have been so easy to do a “and guess what the reason toph is such a great bender is because she’s secretly king bumi’s great niece!!!!!!” reveal, which is such a classic plot twist that tbh its barely a twist these days, but instead toph was a badass specifically because of the unique perspective she gained by being disabled and the way that allowed her to connect with the world around her ie the badgermoles — thats a way stronger story! the only relationship reveal we get (other than i guess aang learning he’s the avatar which kind of maybe counts??) is zuko learning he’s related to roku which. i mean he was already a nepo baby so it doesnt detract from his agency really and in fact reinforces his recurring “there are two wolves” conflict, which up to that point was mostly shown through azula and iroh (think his ba sing se fever dream wherein there were two dragons inside him voiced by azula and iroh respectively one advocating good the other evil, foreshadowing the final conflict of the season where he must choose between azula and iroh and he backslides in his moral arc by choosing azula which is a really cool narrative choice that tbh now that im thinking about it i probably should have made this tangent its own post but we’re here now ig)

also i was thinking about how bending is genetic but also skips generations (neither kya nor hakoda is a bender, and we dont know of any grandparent other than gran gran, who is a nonbender, and i think its a dominant gene bc ursa wasnt a bender to my knowledge but zuko and azula are, so probably neither kya nor hakoda had bender parents, but obviously katara is a bender, but sokka isnt, plus there were identical twins in the volcano episode where only one was a bender which does confuse me scientifically but i dropped science so whatever) and bending is shown as common enough that probably everyone has atleast one ancestor who is a bender so tbh it sort of circles back to being random lol

this post is really just me thinking out loud (well not. out loud. bc its written. you get it) so it might not be coherent but idk its another way that atla is very clever and has effective storytelling and creates themes subtextually etc etc ok thanks

[littlebabycrybtch]

honestly tho what the fuck is up with blaming the ace community when people realize they identified as ace because of internalized homophobia like,,,, do you seriously think people talk More about asexuality than they do internalized homophobia, even online,,,, and do you seriously believe that aspecs (a community where overlapping lgbt+ orientations are the Highest Majority) just Never discuss internalized homophobia,,,,,, and you believe this when ur exclusie asses are literally obsessed with making sure you never actually interact with or listen to the ace community unless its to talk shit and then leave like,,,,,, godddd we literally do all we can to make sure ppl in our community are being healthy yall are the ones who shoot down literally every single word we fucking say to make sure we’re hardly allowed to Have a community lmao you have no idea what ur talking about just say you ran out of excuses to hate the acey wacies and Go

[ablednt]

yeah and we also need to talk more about the edgy "jokes" to overt bigotry pipeline esp in cluster b spaces. i feel like alot of it is kinda waved away bc ppl will go "that's just how i am and i cant help it. if you disagree youre ableist." like they conflate ableism with being held accountable and non cluster b ppl that dont know better just eat it up. and those same ppl will be the ones who talk about how they had a bullying phase but they grew up. like sorry but you dont just get to usse other other kids for your growth. like its such a white mindset to objectify others like that. and kids of color and intellectually disabled kids are already subjected to enough w/o being treated like. idk almost like pets and then being told, "its just a joke" we didnt hurt you that bad, get over it etc. like no i will always be angry about that shit. and you cant hide behind symptoms either not only bc life doesn't work like that but also. the ppl they did that shit too had the same symptoms they did. they can't be like " you just don't get it you don't understand my struggle" bc we dealt with the same shit and didnt use it to abuse our peers.

Yeah that makes total sense! Also not as extreme (though it's connected imo) I noticed a lot of cluster Bs (and not always white but I'd say it's majority white) tend to fall pretty heavily into exclusionism and harassing other mentally ill people + systems and such because of that "I'm reclaiming being evil(tm) by being an asshole to everyone" phase and yeah the like. complete dismissal of their "bullying phases" as if that wasn't also intense bigotry that they need to unpack lmao. Like I feel like a lot of them go like "oh well I'm different now" and then turn around and are like "ok but I can be racist and also ableist as hell against anyone I want as long as I have a justification for it such as they're inconveniencing me <3"

And then there's the equally bad flipside that's like. The goddamn obnoxious thing white NDs do (that I very much did in the past and absolutely have to take accountability for cause it's cringe as all fuck of me/srs) where they're all like "i'm so Nice being too nice and empathetic and sweet and kind is my whole personality haha" and then when they're racist and someone points it out they're like hhow could u :((( my rsd is going off!!!! :(((((( im always so nice to everyone how dare you. And it's like please shut the fuck up if you were genuinely a kind person you wouldn't have to reassure everyone and yourself every other minute and you'd be actually listening when people are uncomfortable around you.

I guess either way it's just that white people are raised thinking that we deserve to be coddled and that the privilege we have is somehow something we earned or something we're owed when it's so very much not lmfao

And yeah!!! Like it's actually so goddamn infuriating that we're always like "well you don't know what it's like!!!!!!" as if POC aren't often neurodivergent and also like they don't go through things that we will never have any semblance of a clue about just because of the way that racism and ableism intersect. Like just? the audacity that a lot of white nds have to act like mental illness and neurodivergency is a white people thing or like it somehow cancels out their privilege and like it's not entirely our responsibility to make sure that mentally ill and neurodivergent people of color aren't being silenced/talked over in our spaces. ESPECIALLY when so much of the rights we have now we owe entirely to y'all like it's really ungrateful and cringy.

Like the state of the wider nd community and especially the cluster b community is honestly just fucking embarassing and I think a lot of that is due to racism and that's not really surprising since so many forms of bigotry are directly tied to it in the first place. Like it's just a lot and I can't even imagine what it must feel like to have to bear the brunt of that.

All that said I hope that you're able to take care of yourself/g and that you have the support that you need you deserve so much better than you've gotten from us that's for sure/srs

[loracarol]

White Trans Woman: People keep stealing packages off of my porch so I made a zine as a package trap asking why the thief keeps stealing and including an email where the thief can email me anonymously if they want to open a dialogue. Then after I posted it on twitter, people asked if they could buy a copy so I put it up for sale.

People on Twitter being Totally Normal: This has big "can I speak to your manager" energy, actually it's about ethics in zine making, you need to think about how race/class lines tend to fall w stealing, just talk to your neighbors, the fact that you won't talk to your neighbors means that you're probably gentrifying, OP should have included their cashapp in the zine and/or just put money in the package

tag yourself, I'm the person claiming to be anti-racist while simultaneously assuming that the package thief is a POC...

More rambling + image descriptions under the cut.

Image descriptions:

all images are of twitter conversations, and all have had the names blocked out

Image One:

Purple: idk this rubs me the wrong way ! like why do you think people are taking packages in the midst of mass death, unemployment, evictions... im sry your packages were stolen but this has big can i speak to your manager energy and now they are selling this zine ! ugh feels gross to be clear, i am not saying that people cannot be upset about getting packages stolen. also i'm not sure why my tweets are being read as personal attack on the OP? just naming my discomfort + how we should all strive to think about race+class and how our indiv actions fit in

Image two:

this is what happens when you lose sight of zine ethics and the radical socialist traditions from which zines emerge

Image Three:

Blue: i feel like that would depend on where you live and what you're ordering through the mail. I took this as an attempt to start a dialogue with someone who might be taking things this person really needs.

Purple (again): i guess that my first thought was that usually stealing packages is not personal + thinking about who might feel the need to steal, how race/class lines tend to fall w stealing. staring dialogue makes sense but to me this reads as scornful + insensitive, esp bc she's selling the zine

Image four:

Teal: peak passive aggressiveness lol, this seems like way more effort that just talking to your neighbor but idk reminds me of this roommate i had in college that printed off notes and taped them to my door instead of just talking to me lmfao

Lilac: yeah but you roommate actually knew you lmao it wasn't a stranger you can't even contact, projecting much?

Teal: huh?

Purple (different): Your room mate knew who you were. Eve doesn't know who the thief is, which is why contact them by leaving a note where they're likely to find it. Can't you read?

Teal: i'm unsure why she can't just talk to her neighbor, i guess, if someone in my building was stealing my packages, i'd just ask someone about it?

Image five:

it's almost as if the only people who think this is a good idea are w h i t e When white trans women think that they're above critique for being racist and will get their followers to harass POC and call them transmisogynist... You already told on yourself bc you won't just talk to your fucking neighbors in a city that you're probably gentrifying but okay.

Image six:

Pink: I am not assuming the race of the thief, I'm acknowledging that the OP went about packing stealing in a way that my comrades and I do not agree with. Their approach is lacking intention and does not consider mass death/disabling and scarcity. Zine as a gotcha? Give them money???

Purple (different): If the person wants money then they can contact the email op put in the zine. It's a harmless little project, It's not malicious, its ASKING for an anonymous conversation with the thief. Putting money directly in the box would further incentivize them to continue to steal from the op

Pink: She could've made a zine about resources, put her cashapp and asked that person to request $$ if they need some, not encourage more white people (esp. in cities) to engage in things that don't change material conditions of their marginalized neighbors.

Purple: IDK we just don't know enough about the situation to assume the thief is even impoverished or something. There's no use in making a fuss over it.

Rambling

In all seriousness, going through the retweets on the original thread, I found it fascinating how so many people concocted this story in their heads about how the package thief is definitely impoverished/probably POC and thus the OP has privilege over the package thief they created in their heads.

On top of that there was the way that the OP shouldn't be worried about getting their packages stolen (in a way that kind of came off as victim blamey ngl) + this idea of Schrodinger's package; the package is simultaneously something someone needs to steal while being something that the OP can afford to have stolen. (As someone who has my meds delivered to me, I had a raised eyebrow at this.)

Lastly, and IDK if I can phrase this correctly, there was this weird idea I saw floating around that the OP's whiteness canceled out the fact that she is a trans woman. Like, okay, I'm not trying to argue that being white doesn't give you privilege because it does, and being LGBTQA+ doesn't cancel that out, but there was this weird vibe to a lot of the comments that the fact that she was white meant that she didn't have to worry about transphobia. For example, the number of people saying that she should just go talk to her neighbors. I want to call it transphobia, but a lot of it was coming from people who ID'd as trans themselves (them used bc multiple people not meant to degender people). IDK, it was just weird. Like, the flip side of "white trans people still have white privilege" isn't "being white means you never face transphobia" but so many people were treating it like a "get out of transphobia free" card

(Also I'm personally not comfortable with the idea that if someone steals from me it's because (1) they need it more so (2) per socialist (??? if that's what it was supposed to be???) praxis I need to just suck it up, do nothing and give them more money. I mean, the OP made a zine and included her email so that the package thief could contact her if the thief wanted. She didn't put up cameras and then put the pics of the thief all over the internet, she didn't call the cops, she didn't booby-trap the package, she just made a zine with the option for the thief to open a dialogue, and somehow that was still not good enough.)

(And no, the people aren't trolls; I tracked down a couple before posting and they're all either really good at playing the long game at trolling or they're all very sincere.)

[khaleesiofalicante]

bestie do you really think it's funny to make me cry?

OK WHERE DO I START AUJHUJHDSDUJHFV

deep bre-INCOHERENT SCREAMING

That's it. that's all I have to say.

THEY PASSED THE CHILD PROTECTION BILL I'M GONNA BE CRYING IN A CORNER IF ANYONE NEEDS ME

All those shadowhunters who ran back to Idris I hope you starve to death there. have fun!

Anjali is so awesome OH MY GOD I LOVE HER ALREADY

Rafael is THAT kid I see...it suits him so well.

It had been two very long years stuck in this small office room. But every time Alec saw the way David giggled when Lexi called her father Jalapeno poppers or some other equally ridiculous name, Alec knew it was worth all the trouble.

THIS OMG I'M NOT OK

Alec wondered if that’s why so many leaders before him had been awful. It was easy to be a bad leader. But it took effort to be a good one.

This is so true...I'm so proud of him...

Dani...bestie THAT IMMORTALITY CRISIS WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT TO ME. I know it's gonna happen but I was having a very good day. why do you hurt me in such ways... (I'm pretty sure my family thinks I'm mentally unstable after the way I screamed reading)

“Anjali,” Diego sighed. “What have I told you about doors?”

“Knock them down?”

“I said knock on them!” Diego corrected, shaking his head. “Not knock them down!”

I'm in love.

HUHYUHKSDYKFVYUFVYU ALEC'S CONSUL VOICE I'M SCREAMING

SIMON BESTEST!! HIM SORTING THE STUDENTS INTO THESE GROUPS I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!! AND ANJALI BESTIE GOOD LUCK AT BEATING THE SEELIES!! (good luck with stealing the weapons)

well, Rafael do you perhaps have a little crush? (Grammarly ik I'm writing in lowercase stfu)

ok ok I know this is pretty sad but every time someone gives Magnus or Alec the "you haven't talked to him yet?" look I start laughing-

ALEC'S SO CLUELESS ABOUT MAX AND DAVID I CANT-

“So, you are just going to leave me here and go to York then?” Max demanded now; all puppy dog eyes. “Like my mom left me at the academy?”

Yeah. He took the news a little too well.

MAX PLAYING THE ADOPTED CARD I LOVE HIM SO MUCH

“Is it because you don’t like me?” Max pouted again. “Like my mom…Who left me all alone.”

“You can’t play the adopted card with me, you lil shit,” Rafael laughed. “I’m adopted too.”

I'M SO IN LOVE LEAVE ME ALONE

AWW MAX SEEING THE INSTITUTE AND IMMEDIATELY GOING "David would love this" ISTG THIS KID I LOVE HIM SO MUCH

“Weren’t you listening to a podcast on Mayan Civilization during breakfast?” Alec raised an eyebrow.

“Bapak said it’s historically accurate!” Rafe argued.

“Bapak is not that old!” Alec countered.

“Maybe he is,” Max said, analyzing the paintings on the walls. “Maybe you don’t know it.”

“Excuse me, I know how old my husband is,” Alec said indignantly.

“Then where are the receipts dad?” Max asked. “Show us the receipts!”

Where are the receipts, Alec? EXACTLY!

THANK GOD SOMEONE ELSE HAS CAUGHT ON TO MAX'S VERY OBVIOUS CRUSH

“I think he likes David,” Rafe whispered.

“Of course he does,” Alec whispered back. Why were they whispering? “David is a sweet boy.”

“No. I think he ‘likes him’ likes him,” Rafael giggled.

Alec looked at his son sharply. “But-He is..Da..They are children!”

“You’ve never heard a childhood crush?” Rafe grinned.

“No, I was too busy…studying,” Alec sniffed.

“That’s not what I heard,” Rafael bit his lip. “I heard you had a thing for boys in motorcycle jackets.”

“Okay that’s it! You are not allowed to hang out at Hotel Dumort anymore,” Alec said.

Really Alec? Studying? REALLY???

MAX AND RAFE RACING TO THE TRAINING ROOM!!!

the reference to the infernal devices...I'M GONNA KILL THE ALREADY DEAD STARKWEATHERS! I'M ABOUT TO DO SOME NECROMANCY SHIT TO BRING THOSE FUCKERS BACK JUST TO KILL THEM SLOWLY

Hugs max it's gonna be ok buddy.

In that moment, Alec remembered all the talks.

He remembered how his mother had lectured Izzy about not going out alone late at night, but she hadn’t said anything to Jace or Alec.

He remembered the way Jem spoken quietly to Mina in soft Mandarin about how people might call her names, but he hadn’t said anything to Kit.

He remembered the way Julian had told Ty to be careful about kissing his boyfriend in public, but he hadn’t said anything to Dru.

I hate this so damn much. I hate it. It sucks how there will always be people who will be targeted for being born the way they are. Whether it be skin color, sexuality, body type, or anything, people will always fucking talk and make the world unsafe for certain people just because they aren't generic male cishets. If you're a girl you're in danger. If you're a POC you're in danger, If you're neurodivergent you're in danger. If you're a member of the LGBTQ community you're in danger. If you're disabled you're in danger. If you're part of any minority you're in danger. If you dare to be different you're in danger. Fuck people. I'm a queer POC female and it's scary. I don't want to be always checking my surroundings when I'm out. I shouldn't have to feel this scared walking out of my own house but I do and it sucks. Ok, I feel like I'm derailing from the main point here.

Sorry for that just got really heated for a second there.

NO NOT THE NIGHTMARE. BABY NO

DAVID MY CHILD!! OMG, HE'S GONNA TAKE UP ARCHERY SOMEONE HOLD ME WHILE I CRY!

“This is who you are,” David said, his voice oddly soft now. Softer than usual. “And you’re beautiful.”

Alec blinked at that.

“Blue,” David said quickly. “I meant you’re blue. Uh, yes.”

BESTIE I SAW WHAT YOU SAID THERE. WE ALL DID

Also, alec sitting outside max's room...IM GONNA-

“David is in there,” Alec whispered. “I just wanted to…check…if everything was okay.”

“Alexander, are you spying on our child?” Magnus demanded. “Without me???”

“What? No! I-”

“Move over!” Magnus sank down next to him. “What are they saying? Are they kissing?”

“WHAT? They are not kissing!” Alec said in alarm. “Wait. Are they???”

He couldn’t hear anything now. Alec panicked.

“I haven’t talk to the kids about kissing yet,” Magnus pointed out. “We can’t talk to Max without talking to Rafael first.”

“Wait. Is Rafael kissing people???”

“Rafael is not kissing people,” Rafael replied as he walked past them to the kitchen. “Also, you guys are shit at whispering.”

Alec rolled his eyes at him and turned to Magnus. “It’s stressful enough that we need to talk about racism in the shadow world. Now we need to talk about kissing??”

“And other stuff,” Magnus chuckled.

Alec groaned into Magnus’ shoulder. “By the angel. Fine. We’ll just tell them there is no kissing. Until they are 30.”

“Hypocrite,” Rafael coughed into his hand as he walked back to the table with a bag of chips.

THIS WHOLE SCENE OH MY GOD.

And srsly alec? 30? really? whips out the extract "kissed" from cassie's website According to my files here-

“And David?”

“Yes, sir?”

“The bedroom door stays open from now on.”

David blinked, his cheeks pink. “I…What?”

“Door stays open,” Alec said, lowering his voice, just a register. “Is that understood?”

AYY ALEC DAD MODE YUCDUHDFHFUHJIUHC THIS IS SO AMAZING IM GONNA SCREAM

Alec advising David with the bow is so close to my heart...IDK WHY IT JUST IS

That conversation...PEOPLE FUCKING SUCK I HOPE HUMANS GO EXTINCT BECAUSE I SURE AM READY TO DIE SO LET'S TAKE THE EARTH DOWN-

“Why don’t shadowhunters have acne?”

"What?" Alec blinked.

“Their skin is like so freaking perfect and smooth and they can just freaking go through puberty without a one freaking pimple and don’t even get me started on the freaking dimples and then-”

Magnus started laughing. Alec felt a little confused.

EXACTLY MY THOUGHTS !!!!! THAT DAMN ANGEL BLOOD

That part about how we normalize these little things which are actually hurtful...I didn't realize that. I guess we really do, huh? This just made me want to be more careful with others and if I feel others do this with me, to stop them and correct them.

I loved this chapter so much. You're such a great writer.

I wanted to share something of my own now!! I FINALLY GOT MY COPY FOR RWARB!!!! I told my parents it was a thriller about how the first son and the prince forge a friendship and discover secrets about the government and the monarchy-

The place I bought it from sent me a very cute bookmark. It's a pride bookmark and it's just my first ever pride merch and I'm close to tears. Let's just say my family isn't the most accepting so this bookmark's really precious to me

Sorry, the quality isn't the best. I was in a hurry. It's almost 4 am now I'm gonna try and sleep (I'm gonna reorganize my bookshelf). See you on Tuesday!!

Thank you so much. I love reading your comments. They are so honest and full of life. You are going to LOVE rwrb. It's such a good book and it's so romantic and raw and perfect. Lmao about your parents. What they don't know can't hurt them ;) And I loooooooooove your bookmark. Be gay. Do crime.

PS -

"It sucks how there will always be people who will be targeted for being born the way they are. Whether it be skin color, sexuality, body type, or anything, people will always fucking talk and make the world unsafe for certain people just because they aren't generic male cishets. If you're a girl you're in danger. If you're a POC you're in danger, If you're neurodivergent you're in danger. If you're a member of the LGBTQ community you're in danger. If you're disabled you're in danger. If you're part of any minority you're in danger. If you dare to be different you're in danger. Fuck people. I'm a queer POC female and it's scary. I don't want to be always checking my surroundings when I'm out. I shouldn't have to feel this scared walking out of my own house but I do and it sucks. Ok, I feel like I'm derailing from the main point here."

THIS IS THE MAIN POINT. YOU GOT IT. SO CONGRATS <3

[sunsetsover]

Hey! Im very excited about Bens new storyline. I know a little bit about the deaf community but not nearly enough and I would love to learn more through this storyline. Im just worried that in my excitement I might say something stupid or disrespectful due to my lack of knowlegde. Ive seen you post about that so I was wondering if you could tell me what to look out for and especially some tips on how to learn and understand more. Thank you in advance!❤ I really hope they do the storyline justice

hey!! first of all let me say that i realize that maybe i was a bit TOO defensive the other day so i don’t want you (or anybody else) to think that if anybody fucks up and says something a little off i’m going to completely bite their heads off lmao (although that said i do still stand by everything i’ve said)

also i’ve gotta be honest idk much abt the deaf/hoh community either! i’ve got to learn too!! so if you’re looking for information in that sense i’m unfortunately not the person to come too :-(

however i DO know what it’s like to be disabled and specifically what it’s like to have a disability that affects amd changes your whole life and limits what you can do both now and in the future. i won’t go into details but my disability affects my left leg, which ofc affects my mobility. thankfully i can still walk, but there is no cure or treatment for what i have. there was also nothing that triggered it - no accident or person to blame, it just Happened - and so it was a case of my life seeming normal and then one day it hits you that your life is completely different from everyone else’s and that it’s never gonna be the same, which i imagine may be similar to what ben is going to be going through (whether it’s temporary or not, if he doesn’t KNOW it’s temporary something like that is completely life shattering).

anyways now i’ve realized you Did Not Ask let me get actually answer your questions

literally the most important thing u can do is just listen to disabled people and don’t talk over them!!! this is the case with literally any kind of thing you don’t know abt/experience urself, u know? the way you would listen to and learn from a poc talking abt their unique experiences as a poc, or a muslim talking abt their unique experiences as a muslim etc etc, listen to and learn from disabled (specifically deaf/hoh people, in terms of ben’s sl at least) when they speak!! if they tell u something u said is wrong or a little off, don’t get defensive. just do ur best to listen and learn!!

don’t feel too bad if u do fuck up lmao we all fuck up we’re all learning we’re all trying to be better you can’t possibly know everything, u know?

specifically in terms of ben’s sl, just don’t reduce it down to ‘omg think of the ballum content’. like it’s ok to enjoy the sweet moments this sl might give us obviously lmao but don’t forget that it’s bigger than that, both to ben as a character and in terms of deaf representation !! like !!! a disabled lgbt character!!! that’s a big deal!!!

basically just don’t reduce ben’s suffering to angst porn, u know? bc what u gotta remember is that yeah ok ben isn’t real but he IS a representation of what people have been through and are going through. i’m not deaf or hoh so i won’t be able to relate to that part of it either, but i do know what it’s like to have your life drastically altered bc of a disability and how hard it is to cope with that and accept the way that your life has changed like it’s hard and u get angry and upset and push people away and go into denial and breakdown and think you’re dealing with it only to breakdown again and if ee DO do a good job of it (which judging from last night’s ep i’m hopeful abt!) then they’ll show at least some of that, so just try not to reduce that very real pain and struggle that people experience to ‘omg but callum’s gonna look after him tho’ you know what i mean??

this might be one that’s just a personal opinion tbh but like... just try not to enjoy ben’s suffering too much??? like i know some ppl really revel in angst n i get that but at the end of the day this is a bit TOO real to be like ‘omg i love it when breaks down’ ygm?? like ofc i’m not saying don’t enjoy the storyline for what it is but i know as someone who has been thru very similar suffering i KNOW it’s gonna rub me up the wrong way if i see people ENJOYING seeing ben upset or suffering. idk i feel like im not articulating this very well but i think it goes back into the whole angst porn thing like it’s one thing to like and enjoy the storyline and another to enjoy seeing ben suffering, does that make sense??? like just don’t let what ben will be going thru become angst porn basically

remember that all disabled ppl are different and things that upset/offend me might not upset/offend other ppl and vice versa

also i’m not deaf or hoh so they might have a different opinion on stuff and if so you should always listen to what they say over what i say bc obviously they’ll always know better

try not to worry too much, i’d say that as long as you’re not viewing this sl solely through the lens of ballum or being outright offensive or derogatory towards the sl or ben’s disability bc it’s not what you want or it might affect ben/callum’s relationship then u should be alright?? but the fact that you even took the time to send me this message and ask what to look out for tells me that you’re clearly a conscientious person who’s heart is in the right place which is the most important part so!!! i wouldn’t be too worried if i was u!!

plus my ask is always open if u have any questions!! obviously i can’t answer anything in terms of deafness specifically, but if u have any questions abt disability in a broader sense i’d be happy to answer them for you 💖💖💖

[ungracefulace]

So... theres no URLs or anything first of all. So I have no idea of context, if the account is a troll, or anything. These dont read like trolls so im going to take it at face value but thats like the worst way to try to prove your point.

Anyways, from what you are showing me theres literally nothing wrong with the first one. Marital rape was legal until the 70s. Hell marriages literally had to he consummated with sex, including arranged marriages. And people definitely treat people as somehow lesser if they dont show an interest in sex or relationships. Regardless of gender too.

The second one is worded weird and is probably on the same vein as your OP, but they arent saying not having sex is oppression. Theyre saying sex having relationships are considered more real than relationships without fucking. And without the idea of it being a privilege thats true too. People do put more value on sex having relationships, to the point where people dead ass wont consider you in a real relationship until you fuck. Its gross and its definetly not something theyre pulling out of their ass.

No one is saying "giving me depressants because they think I have a low libido is opprssion!!" People are saying "hey my doctor literally forced a diagnosis and treatment plan on me regardless of my identifying as asexual because they felt like that was an excuse". People are saying "I was literally told how that, that being my identifying as asexual, was fake and had to be trauna induced so ~fixing my asexuality~ is literally a part of my treatment plan. People are saying "hey I came out as ace and my parents literally took me to the church to try to convince me not to go down this path". People are saying "my parents are forcing me to get therapy when theres nothing wrong with me because I'm a minor and legally they can do that shit". People are saying "endocrinologists are literally fucking with my E dosages because I let my therapist know im ace". These are the stories that aces are talking about, but yall would rather ignore it and think "huh, maybe there IS an unfair system working against aces in the medical field... nah its they aceys wanting to be oppressed lmao"

Laws arent the only system for systematic oppression. Things being legal or illegal is not the only way someone can deal wiith oppression. Theres laws in place that disadvantage lefties. Theres laws against having ice cream cones in your back pocket. Theres no laws that say you have to treat black women worse in the medical field, but doctors still do it. Going "well its not ILLEGAL to be ace!" doesnt really mean anything if theres still systems that work against them.

Also poc and disabled peopel arent oppressed on the basis of gender alignment or sexuality. Asexuality is a minority orientation. Thats a false equivalence and you know it. And the only safe spaces cishet aces would be "invading" are ace spaces and general community spaces... thats it. Do cis LGB+ people belong in trans communities? No? Then want makes yall think its any different for aces?

If not having sex is oppression, then why aren’t nuns and monks the most Opressed Group Ever?