#but idk i do not see children/offspring as something one has a natural right to or over.

[stackslip]

i simply do not believe people have a right to biological parenthood sorry

[islamicrays]

I know that Allah is how we think of Him, but with every passing year my fear that I'll spend the rest of my life alone grows more. I dont talk to guys and I dont use social media. Im an outcast even in my own family. Im so different that I fear no one will choose me, or want me. Idk how to place unwavering trust in Allah, that He will indeed send me someone. Im afraid that by the time a man comes I'll have gotten used to my loneliness and will feel uncomfortable with him. I'm so scared.

It's natural to have the desire to be loved and it will remain even if you get used to loneliness.

“Alot of single people think that marriage is the solution of loneliness. It’s not. The solution is on the inside. Filling your heart with something meaningful. Prophet Yusuf/Joseph (as) was single but contented. He went through a lot of trials but he didn’t give up. Sometimes in life, people may not value us but God values us. People cannot see the qualities in us but God sees the qualities He has placed inside each and everyone of us. If you’re still single, invest this time to develop your qualities. Ask Allah to show you the signs. Be open to the signs. Ask God to direct your heart.”

— Ust. Mizi Wahid

When you get anxious and have fear of future then recite this

“Hasbunallahu wa Ni’mal Wakeel” “Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs (for us).” (3:173).

Marriage is something that will happen when Allah Subhanahuwa ta’ala wills. So keep trying to find a righteous spouse and leave the rest to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. Ask your friends and family. Don’t get depressed and don’t lose hope. Always remember Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala plans are better than our wishes. Marriage is not the purpose of life; it’s a mean to get closer to Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. This is the best time to work on your relationship with Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala. As you get married your responsibilities will also get increased. So prepare yourself for that responsibility, gain Islamic knowledge, and read about the rights of husband, wife and children because when you say yes for the marriage, you have agreed that you are ready to take the responsibility.  Remember this life is a test and we are all tested through different trials. It’s also a test that you have to abstain yourself from haram and be patient.

Make lots of dua and while asking Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala always say “if it’s good for me” because we don’t know what’s good for us only Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala knows. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala loves us more than our mother so His decisions are always for our own good and we have to trust Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.

“But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” (Quran 2:216)

Always remember this:

“No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by the decree of Allah. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come on your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from you it cannot flee.”

Umar ibn al Khattab (Radi Allahu Ta’ala Anhu)

Recite Astaghfirullah as much you can. He will open door for you in shaa Allah

Following are some dua for marriage

1.“Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.“ (Quran 25:74)

2.”Rabbana aatina fi’d dunya hasana wa fi’l aakhirati hasana wa qina `adhab an-nar.” [O Lord! Grant us good in this life, and good in the next, and save us from the torment of the Fire] (Qur’an, 2: 200). Recite this dua’ with the intention of marriage as it is included in the phrase “fi’d dunya hasana” (good in this life).

3.My Lord, do not leave me alone and You are the best of inheritors. (Surah al-Anbiya` 21:89)

4.  Rabbi inni lima anzalta ilayya min khairin faqir (Quran 28:24)

I hope it will be helpful. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant you a righteous spouse who will be the coolness of your eyes.

Allahumma Ameen

[johnnydora]

okay but,, let’s talk for a moment about jake and amy,, ive been thinkin bout this for yeARS but for some reason recently it just won’t leave my head and guys just,,, hear me out okay

i’m fascinated by their work dynamic like not their relationship i mean that def plays into it as well but literally HOW each of them work and how they fit so well together bc of it

we’ll start with amy, yeah? she’s a nerd without a doubt her father is a cop and she’s been living with cop stories for years probably grew up on shitty cop shows too and fell in love with it (a bit similar to jake right? besides the point but a fun fact to throw in) HERE’S THE THING my girl puts an emphasis on studying and hard work. she wants to be a cop? she gotta focus every little part of herself to getting there (also there’s her art degree which is so cool but unfortunately will not be talked about rn) so here’s the thing, aight? she is not a naturally gifted cop (see the latest ep where she mentions you can’t be good at puzzles. oc you can. some people see the world differently and can piece things together like that. but she makes up for all of that in HARD WORK AND FOCUS) and i could go on but this brings me to....

JAKE PERALTA offspring of a douchebag and an arT TEACHER we all know our girl karen she’s a mess but a girl has passion and little boy jakey here knows nothing about cops except buildings exploding!! chasing german bad guys!!! propelling from roofs!!!!!!! and that’s enough for him to follow his dreams. but here’s where he lucks out. this boy can solve a fucking puzzle. we don’t see it all too often in canon (i cant even think of any examples rn jus trust me) but he hella cares and jus,,, hella wants these cases solved. he doesnt work hard. he doesnt know what paperwork is. but he can,,, jus do it.

the thing about police work tho is u cant get there on luck OR hard work alone. and u can see that, even tho jake and amy approach their job comPLETELY differently, theyre very evenly matched (the bet, anyone?) which is why it’s pretty impossible to say which one is the best detective bc theyre,,, best together (was that sappy enough)

no but here’s where it gets fun, bc u can rly imagine the places this dynamic takes them.

like jake working late on a random case bc he can’t figure out the solution and it Bothers him especially if it was something a bit more high profile with a few more stakes bc my boy cares sm

not to say amy doesn’t care but she has a p professional line like when she’s not working she can let go (unless jake is the victim which is like evERY OTHER CASE NOW dont mind me) but she can go home and not worry about it theyll get him tomorrow its fine cases like these dont solve themselves overnight anyway they still have time

but then u can imagine jake getting so stressed over not knowing the answer to like,, idk say a home robbery and he let the little girl use his computer for a sec to play games something that gets a little personal yknow (also jake has such a weak spot for children dont get me started on this) and he can’t!! stop!! worrying!!

and amy, gods blessing to this earth, goes over the case with him at home bc she knows he’ll lose sleep over this and she offers angles that lil jakey never could think of bc he’s just so weirdly invested and she just keeps talking bc theyve gotten to the point where they know how they each function they know how to help each other out and eventually something she says will match up with something he was thinking except, like, from another angle and it!! MAKES SENSE!!!! and jake GETS it and tada!! all solved!! except jake, sweet child, wants to go to the precinct Immediately to solve it and amy has to be like babe its 11pm it can wait lets go to sleep

and just etc etc etc etc

of course it works the other way around as well. bc amy can bury herself in her work and forget to breathe sometimes. bc she needs to get thru all her paperwork and ALSO jakes to spellcheck it meanwhile going thru all the open cases and dealing with the weird shit that comes in and also sometimes (always) its hard to focus with jake just across from her so she kicks herself a little on particular days she just Cant and jake!!! knows he’ll talk about her cases with her just casually (she talks out loud when she’s solving cases its Cute) and oc his perspective is hilarious so he’ll come up with the most ridiculous scenarios and it just,,, calms her down,,, gets her to think outside the box a little

(oc sometimes he doesn’t catch it until she’s in a full blown panic attack and that’s a whole different thing it requires less talk about cases and more kisses)

anyway that’s all i love my dumb children and how much they love and support each other thanks for coming to my ted talk bye

[theonlyjelly-iwillput-inmybelly]

Light Sides, Dark Sides, and Instincts Theory

So I’ve seen a ton of really awesome theories floating around after the introduction of our first Dark Side, the Snake Boi, Driving-a-Lemon, 1-800-Lemon-Law, whatever you want to call him. I’ve seen a TON of theories that Virgil was once a dark side who ‘saw the light’, if you will. These theories also say that he has had a past with Deceit because Virgil was once a Dark Side. These theories are so cool and I’d love it if that were the case! But I’d like to offer you my own theory on the taxonomy of the sides: Virgil is neither a light side or a dark side. Instead, he is his own category: Instinct.

So, the sides we have now are Logic (Logan) , Morality (Patton), Creativity (Roman), Anxiety (Virgil), and Deceit (???). Before I get into why Virgil is his own category, let me try to define what I believe Dark Sides and Light Sides are.

What the fuck is a Light Side and what the fuck constitutes it?: The Light Sides are the parts of Thomas and hopefully us all that have been instilled in us by societal norms as ‘good’. These are traits that are learned and are generally seen as being good/beneficial to possess. Of the five sides, I believe that Logan, Patton, and Roman fall into this category.

Why Logan?: While it can be argued that Logic isn’t inherently good or bad, I believe that in Thomas’s case it is good because it is employed to further Thomas’s education/help keep him alive. Logan is, I believe, closely linked to the fight-or-flight response. My view on the manner is that Virgil, as the canonical fight-or-flight response, is the will to survive, the will to fight and or flight while Logan is the means of doing that. Virgil is the raw material for survival and Logan is the program or processor that makes survival, or whatever task that is necessary for survival and or happiness (these things often go hand in hand) happen. He helps Thomas solves his problems. But the most important factor as to why I categorize him as a light side is the fact that he was learned. 

Most babies do not come straight outta the womb with logical thought; there’s an app for that! We call it school. Logan is common sense. If you’ve spent any amount of time around newborns, you know that nothing really logical is going on in that head. Sorry baby lovers. You have to teach them everything. When you do that, you’re instilling in them logic! While humans have the capacity to be some of the most advanced creatures on this planet in terms of brainpower, that capacity is not full from birth. Logical thought is not born, it is taught. People have to go through years of training in order to gain logical thought and common sense; some still fail to do that. 

Why Patton?: Patton represents Morality, and if you encounter an infant, oftentimes they possess no or a very slight sense of right and wrong. Again, you have to teach babies everything (’BUT DAAD WHY IS IT BAD TO PUNCH THAT MEANER???). Children, I believe, aren’t exactly born with a sense of right and wrong in them. Sure, they know eventually not to touch hot things (even then they have to be reminded), but that is because that shit hurts. That’s another response. In Patton’s sense, right and wrong is in terms of morals; for example, it is generally accepted that is is wrong to kill, but good to treat others with respect. While hopefully the offspring you encounter aren’t plotting murder, children do not know this upon birth. This is not instinctual. It is instilled in them by the lessons of society. They are taught what is right and wrong. Kindergarten or its equivalent is basically ‘ alright fuckers this is what is right and wrong’ school. We are taught this information on repeat for our entire lives that it seems instinctual, or second nature, but if we detach ourselves from our views and think critically, we can see that we have been thoroughly jaPED. In the case of Patton and Thomas, Patton is used to steer Thomas along the mapped out ‘good path’ of society; Patton is the one who tells Thomas not to lie, and to be nice and all of that. His job is to be good, to do the societal right.

Why Roman?: While many argue that we are born with innate talents (I have been told many times that I have an innate talent for writing), the level of creativity seen in Thomas is most definitely not from birth, but taught. Sure, people might possess certain inclinations for certain creative outlets, but holy shit do they have to work and work and be taught and be taught in order to reach mastery. You think William Shakespeare came straight outta womb-ton being able to write like he did? Hell to the no my dude. Certain types of creativity are also praised or shot down based upon societal standards: (See: ‘Don’t Hug me I’m Scared”). Creativity is taught to most in some form; only some of those students retain the talent and work to nurture it. In Thomas, Creativity is good because he uses his creative whimsy for good things like acting, singing, and writing, and not bad things like fighting and killing. So in the case of Tomothy, Creativity is good!

Conclusions: Logan, Patton, and Roman are Light Sides because they are taught facets that are used to the benefit of Thomas and they keep him in society’s good books. 

What the fuck is a Dark Side and what the fuck constitutes it?: As of now, the singular Dark Side is the part of Thomas instilled in him by societal norms as ‘bad’. These are traits that are learned and are generally seen as being bad/detrimental to posses. Of the five sides, I believe that Deceit falls into this category.

Why Deceit?: (Bitch have you seen him how can he not be a dark side???)  Deceit is at his bare minimum Thomas’s desire to lie and his ability to dupe. Going back to Morality’s argument, children are not born with a sense of right and wrong. They are born with a sense of hunger and scream. The babies I have encountered don’t understand why it is wrong to punch my arm when I hold them, and the slightly older ones don’t entirely grasp the whole ‘lying is wrong’ thing. While I don’t believe there are courses in schools entitled “How to Lie”, children are nonetheless taught about lying. They may learn it through parents, older relatives, school, the media, whatever. It is all around us, and hard to avoid.’Monkey see, monkey do’, if you will. Maybe they see an older sibling escape punishment for eating mom’s chocolate by saying that the dog ate it and placing the wrapper near the dog bowl prior to confrontation (bad analogy, I know). They then might try to lie to escape punishment as well. It is learned that lying is a possibility, but, depending upon the environment, is generally shot down as being bad because of the societal mandate that lying is wrong. Liars are made, not born.

Conclusions: Deceit is a Dark Side because he embodies a socially deemed wrong trait that is learned and not instinctual. Also, it’s canon that he’s a dark side because the others said so (blows gently raspberry). 

Light Side and Dark Side Conclusions And Shit: The main thing I am trying to get across here is that these four sides all, in my opinion, largely embody traits that are not instilled in humans from birth. While it may not seem like it at times, these traits are pretty much taught to us and drilled in our heads at a very young age (and yes, this includes Thomas!).  

AND NOW, INSTINCT

What the fuck is an instinct, and what constitutes it?: According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, instinct is “an innate, typically fixed pattern of behavior in animals in response to certain stimuli”. What I translate that load of flim flam into is a metaphor; they’re a set of codes and instruction in humans that is extremely hard to eradicate and ignore. The instinct people are most familiar with is the survival instinct, which is exactly as it sounds. An instinct side, to me, embodies a trait that is not taught and cannot be removed. Of the five sides, I believe that Virgil falls into this category.

Why Virgil?: Anxiety, as has been canonically stated, is essentially the flight-or-fight response that is instilled in Thomas and hopefully all humans (if not natural selection has got its kiss for you idk what to tell you #bye); true, he encompasses more than that, but for the most part he is a response, one that is a bit heightened in Thomas because, unfortunately, he suffers from an anxiety disorder.  From birth, humans have some form of the fight or flight response; the survival instinct is innate, and shows itself in babies by how they cry at scary things and Scream for the food (idk babies well sorry). 

There is, in my view, nothing inherently good or bad about the survival instinct; while no one gives you a sticker for having it, no one really punishes you either. It’s just something everyone has. It’s the program that is burned onto computer chips, it’s Cortana on Windows 10 (because damn how you remove that bitch). It just is. It’s instinct. No one teaches you how your endocrine system system and brain work together to get you out of dangerous situations; I certainly haven’t seen any power-points on it (’Slide One: How to create adrenaline: step one, tell your adrenals to pay their damn rent...”) Because it’s just natural! You hear a noise that’s spooky and unexpected? Bitch, you probably gonna jump! You ever tried to be a pedestrian in any major city? Gurl, you’re alive because your bitch ass endocrine system and fight or flight response told your ass to run when that car come hurtling at you. Dog snapping at you? You become that ninja because you don’t want to get hurt, because your fight or flight response is telling your ass to fly like the wind, Bullseye! For me at least, all thought and feeling (except fear) escapes me whenever I’m in a life threatening situation; it’s just mind numbing action. That is largely what I think Virgil is, with some added sass and other stuff. For the most part, his core function is not taught. It is not learned. It is born. 

Conclusions: Virgil is neither a Light Side or a Dark Side because he is an innate instinct. Virgil, I believe is both bad and good in equal amounts that they eventually cancel each other out. he is good in that he aims to protect Thomas, and he is bad because holy fuck anxiety disorders suck. He’s lumped together with the light sides I believe because he a) acts for a good reason in Thomas and b) makes for good content. My point is, because he is not taught, he is his own category. 

DISCLAIMER: This is all just my opinion, my take on the matter. I also know nothing, and am probably seeing things where there is nothing. Again, I love seeing how active the fandom is and how many theories are being put out there; I lap up the ‘Virgil is/was a dark side’ theories. This is just me saying “That’s so cool, dude! Want to hear what my headcanon is?’ I’m not trying to say that anyone is wrong here. I’m not trying to say that I’m right. This is just a neat idea that popped up in my head! I’d love to hear what you guys think of this. (Read: please don’t attack me for having opinions I love and respect you all I just want to join in on the theory party). If I somehow offended you, please let me know and I will rectify it. Sorry this is long. I also wrote this really late, so sorry if nothing makes sense XD

Thank you for coming to my TED talk. Have a blessed day. 

[zipsiii]

I ask you to answer 1-100 go!

1. What's your middle name, and do you like it?

It's Inkeri. I don't really have any strong feelings about it

2. are you artistic?

nooo. the most artistic thing I can kinda do is makeup.

3. Have you had your first kiss?

yes

4. What is your life goal?

to be in a situation where I don't have to stress about money

5. Do you have any expieriences with a famous person?

I met Vic Fuentes when I was queuing for their gig in 2013. It was freezing cold so he couldn't take photos with us all but he took one group photo and posted it on his instagram. 

6. Do you play any sports?

nope

7. What's your worst fear?

idk ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

8. Who's your biggest inspiration?

is it wrong if I say Harry Styles

9. Do you have any cool talents?

well I can sit on the couch for two days straight without doing anything special, if that counts

10. are you a morning person?

hell no. I can wake up early if I have to but I prefer not to.

11. How do you feel about pet names?

they're okay I guess

12. Do you like to read?

I do though I've been in a reading slump for a while

13. Name a list of shows that have changed your life.

Queer as Folk, Supernatural, Skam, Charmed, Moomins... 

14. Do you care about your follower count?

not that much anymore

15. What's the best dream you've had?

the one where I had my life figured out

16. Have you ever kissed someone of your same gender?

yes

17. Do you have any pets?

nope

18. Are you religious?

no

19. Are you a people person?

definitely no

20. Are you considered popular?

no

21. What is one of your bad habits?

overthinking

22. What's something that makes you feel vulnerable

not knowing simple things 

23. What would you name your children?

idk some cool name

24. Who's your celebrity crush?

atm it's Cody Rhodes

25. What's your best subject?

//

26. Dogs or cats?

both, the more the merrier

27. most used social media besides tumblr?

twitter

28. best friends name

//

29. who does your main family consist of

Mom, dad, and a brother

30. Chocolate or sugar

both ofc

31. have you ever been on a date?

yes

32. Do you like rollercosters?

I don't have strong feelings

33. Can you swim?

yes

34. What would you do in the event of an apocolypse?

I'd like to say that I'd try to survive as long as possible but that might be a lie

35. Have you struggled with any kind of mental disorder

yes

36. Are your parents together?

yes

37. What's your favourite colour?

Purple

38. What country are you from/do you live in?

Finland

39. Favourite singer?

There's too many to list

40. Do you see yourself being famous some day?

nope

41. Do you like dresses?

omg yess!!

42. Favourite song right now?

Kingdom by Downstait and Dust Into Diamonds by Lovex

43. Does talking about sex make you uncomfortable?

depends who I'm talking about it with

44. How old were you when you first got your period?

9 I think

45. Have you ever shot a gun?

no

46. Have you ever done yoga?

yes and I love it

47. Are you a horror girl?

no

48. Are you good at giving advice?

hehe no

49. Tell us a story about your childhood.

can't be bothered

50. How are you doing today?

good

51. Were you a cute kid?

probs, idk

52. Can you dance?

no

53. Is there anything you do that you can't remember ever not doing?

tumblr

54. Have you ever dyed your hair?

yes, I don't have purple hair naturally

55. What colour are your eyes?

green

56. What's your favourite animal?

any animal

57. Have you ever made a huge fool of yourself?

too many times to count

58. Do you have a good relationship with your parents?

it's pretty good

59. Do you have good friends?

yes

60. Are you close with anyone of the lgbtq+ group?

well I'm pretty close with myself

61. What's your favourite class?

any class that ends before it's supposed to

62. List all the tv shows you are watching.

Criminal Minds, Supernatural, Code Black, Vikings, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Quantico, HTGAWM, Modern Family, Travelers 

63. Are you organized?

I try to be

64. What was the last movie you saw? Opinion?

Kingsman and I looove it

67. Which tv character do you relate to most?

idk

68. What are some things that stand between you and complete happiness?

anxiety and laziness

69. If you received enough money to never need to work again, what would you spend your time doing?

watching tv probably

70. What would you change about your life if you knew you would never die?

eternal life sounds horrible so I'd find a way to die 

71. What would you do differently if you knew that no one was judging you?

go running or go to the gym

72. If you could start over, what would you do differently?

probs many thing

73. Would you break the law to save a loved one?

yes

74. When was the last time you travelled somewhere new?

I don\t even remember cause it's been so long

75. When you think of your home, what immediately comes to mind?

safety

76. What have you done to pursue your dreams lately? How about today?

studying

77. What did you want to be when you were a kid?

I didn't really have a dream job as a kid but I think I wanted to be a teacher at some point

78. If you dropped everything to pursue your dreams, what would you be risking?

what dreams

79.When did you not speak up, when you know you really should have?

//

80. Describe the next five years of your life, and your plans, in a single sentence

Study and graduate.

81. What would happen if you never wasted another minute of your life, what would that look like?

productive

82. If you could live forever, how would you spend eternity?

As I already said, I'd try to find a way to die

83. How would you spend a billion dollars?

charity and kickstarters

84. If you could time travel, would you go to the past or the future?

past

85. What motivates you to succeed?

the fear of failure

86. What dream that you’ve had has resonated with you the most?

idk I never remember my dreams that well

87. Would you rather live in the city or the woods? Why?

in the city

88. Do you believe in life after death

no

89. What teacher inspired you the most? How did they?

none

90. What’s your fondest childhood memory?

gardening with my parents

91. If you could have dinner with any one person, living or dead, who would they be and why?

Louis Tomlinson

92. What would you have to see to cry tears of joy?

a very good pro wrestling match

93. What is the hardest lesson you had to learn in life?

that life isn't fair

94. What do you think happens after we die?

hopefully we just die and nothing happens

95. What would you do if you would be invisible?

I'd find out all the Larry secrets

96. What's something you can't do no matter how hard you try?

run a marathon

97. Would you want to choose the sex and appearance of your offspring?

what kinda question is this

98. How did your first crush develop?

as if I remembered my first crush

99. Is there a feeling you are trying to ignore? What is it?

Yeah, the feeling that I'm just a huge disappointment to all

100. Do you live or do you just exist?

do I exist. Am I real. No one knows