#buddist approach

[boyjumps]

No need to try to overcome death.

You were just born by chance. There is no need to seek 'meaning' or 'value' in life. Life is like crossing a river in a boat called 'self'. It is only a tool for the duration of the crossing.

'Self' is like a boat that we must tentatively use in order to exist in the world. As long as we are in this world, we must ride. That is the boat called "I". Even if you don’t want to, you cannot live without getting into that boat.

Many people believe that the boat itself is also valuable. However, the boat is valuable because it can cross the river, not because the 'boat itself' is valuable. If the tool is no longer useful, it is acceptable to throw it away. The boat is also disposable. If it is no longer worth it, it should not be at all regrettable to abandon the boat. So when you get across the river and life comes to an end, there is no need to be afraid or sad. You can quickly descend to the other side of the river without any unresolved feelings. It is said to be "an irreplaceable life", but in the end it's all in our own minds.

What is the greatest task in life is to die. The reason why it is such a big task is that no one knows what "death" is. If you know what death is, you can do something about it. But we don't know what the big task is at all, and as long as we are alive, there is no way of knowing.

The most popular image of death is that of going somewhere other than this world. The story goes that those who do good go to heaven and those who do bad are sent to hell. Because you are 'you' from birth, even after your body is gone, your 'you' continues somewhere other than here, and a transformed you remains. We all have that illusion.

The Buddha maintains an attitude of the “unanswerable questions” regarding the afterlife.'We don't know if there is an afterlife. We don't even know what will happen" is the only answer of Buddha. At this point, however, one thing is clear. There is no doubt that everything becomes meaningless there.

No need to worry. We can all 'die' without doing anything special. So you don't have to try to overcome death. Nor is there any need to seek 'meaning' or 'value' in the end of a life that was just born by chance.

[postartademia]

glennstone museum visit

thgis past 7th day, i went ot the glennstonew museum with some folks from my local meeting hgouse in rockingham. Another friend and i had just ggotten stephen d moore's book: Mark & Luke in post structuralist perspectives. my friend commented that the opening sure was a zinger with: Jesus might have escaped decomposition but not deconstruction. Most contemporay art lives and grows from the ideas of postmodernism, constructivist, and post -structuralists. Really, these idiologies have affected everything in our world to the point some say we now live in the Metanarrative but I digress onto theory without the art talks. The first major piece of work we spent time with was Andy Goldsworthy's dirt ball and then later his voids. The third work was closed due to the weather, but the docentsd assured us that you didn't need to see all three to understand or relate to the work. I might disagree for all threse field stone huts or sheds implied unifrmity. However, their insides were all quite different. The first was a dirt ball about 6' in daimter, without any realt skelton so it had slowly been cracking since installed in 2007 and would eventual crumble back to dust. The other room had a hole in the back clay covered wall with consetrict circles going inwards with raised ribs between each decent: about 10 deeper layers into the void, mailstrom, blackhole, or whirlpool. Goldsworthy bio implies some buddist leanings but i couldn't help to think about Christianity within the work, plus is the artist present? how does modernity allow the artist to exist in the work: especially when there's a big pond bertween? So do the three huts repreent the trinity? might we all have uniformity outwards but swirling differences in ourselves? some might take shape, other a void, or something in between that hasn't grown or taken shapen?

after seeing andy goldsworthy, we went up to the main museum and wandered into one of serra's concentric twists called sylvester. one of the friends with us joked that this could make an interesting meeting space. Our conservative friend group typically meets every 5th sunday in a new space, void of tech, to have a bit of an unplugged experience. Installations for meetings isn't new to quakerdom when thinking of James Turell's entire oveture and career. I entertained the idea as yet another new approach to Serra's work as a place for holy gatherings and meetings. There is a nice wandering labryth into the center of the sculpture along with some shielded privacy: no windows just sky. So maybe, it could be a space for worship? I am new to the conservative quaker world so not sure that appeal but can't think that we are called to witness and pray everywhere.

we headed indoors to warm up in the Ironclast exhibnition at Glennstone. This exibit is some of the major icons of the collection and it didn't disappoint. The first piece we encoutered was Duchamp's Fountain: inverted urinal from the Dada period that really open up the posibilities of what could be art: we just call it art and it is. Maybe its like Christians who say that are Christians so they are, even though they don't seem like it but mearly act like readymades? What transformation has occured in their lives for that? Duchamp signed a fake named to the urinal and inverted it, maybe that happened too in the Christian's life to get a signature from Jesus and their orientation changed from the bodily to the artful spray of water fountain?

speaking of fountains, outside in the snow was another piece by Felix Gonzalles Torres: two large marble pools. Sadly they were covered for the winter to prevent cracking. I have bveen often to the museum and none of the docents ever seem to know anything about them or their context and design: alost seemingly forgotten even though they take up 20 squ feet or more? The first docent didn't really know anything about them but the second one in the building did. He made an interesting statement comparing them to pools, tubs, and baptism ponds. I was intrigued to think about a queer artist making these items, especilly considering his Catholic exposure. His other work revolved around two similar objects like Clocks paired to gether yet how even that samenes can change over time with batteries die, time changing between the two, oppsotie of being in sync, and general drift. So how might therse ponds change? Could the water get allergy blooms, one evaporate quicker, one be warm, birds land in one and not the other? How might our baptisms also different? we might all go into the same literal or spiritual waters but the drifting from there goes afar from that moment of sameness.

Ater seeing the Irconclasts show, we wandered into the Larger museum section to see some newer work of 'found' poems by Lorraine O'Grady and Cady Noland. Grady's exhibit essay was inspiring as a counter to the intersectionality of identity that blackness brought to surrealism: for some don't get to go above reality but below it. Her poems were quite intriguing with their dsualities and phrasing usagess from the same source text of the NYC times. I wondered again about Christians and their selections from scripture of simple verses and coupling them together. There can be some seemingly disjointed conversations happening in scriptuire wqhen taking things from contexts yet they still live on together. how might be take the words and sentances together and understand their larger contexts? Is that the role of the light in our lives and the word: jesus to lead us together and with the scrupture as guidance?

The other artist was Cady Noland. I had kinda forgotten about her work since grad school and she's not really been making work for the past 15 years, either: can't blame me. I knew I kinda knew it but not the keys to its understand. Maybe I would have better relation or first impressions if I had remembers to read more but walking into her untitled 2023 exhibition was quite a mystery. It was kinda like a crime scene but more like a clean hoarders situtation. Dont' we seem to encounter more hoarding and clean up in life than active crime scenes? The crumpled beer cans, resin encased grenades, and industrial vibes implied something harsh. The walker with gloves and a sherifs bad implied a retirement of justice or aged justice but still couldn't get a full understanding or relationship to the work. The next room has even more of her haunting industrialism. The entry was 3 tires hanging by chains from an armature. It seemed kinda cute like a tire swing in the yard but the starkness of the gallery and the materials had a sinsister vibe. That would continued into the room with stainless steel stoakages, images of lee oswald, etc. I later learned this osswald sculpture was famous for being the most expensive piece of art ever sold by a living female artist: $6.7 million. i couldn't help but have this art linger in my mind, there had to be more, deeper meaning.

over lunch, folks talked about the fact this was the hardest work to grasp, seemed overated, and obtuse to understand. Even one of the docents struggled and thought an unknown indutrial part might be the key to understanding. Thanksfully, christianity isn't as obtuse to understanding or entry into belief. Yet, the more we did into it, the more understanding and relationship we develop with the Lord. There might be seeminly sinster componets like in revelations or leviticus and crucifiction but the contexts of love, care, and continutity prevail throughout the scripture. I have found myself as a 'new quaker' similiary perplexed sometimes in my walk. I don't really know this George Fox fella. I don't really know about the lack of rituals. But I can see the sense of calm and piece, and I can feel the spirit stronger at meetings and life. I've spent many an evening looking over Fox' s journals and reading letters of Old Friends.After the Glenstone visit, my brower still had tabs open to Cody Noland and Ohio Yearly Meetings' queries and advices.

One advice that stuck to relvancy in the day was #19: Be zealous that education shall be continued throughout life. Willingness to be used in mind as welklk as in body, anbd to be equipped in both, is a needfull part of the Christian Character. Our service to God is incomplete wiithout the conttribution of the intellect. As a recovering conservative anabaptist attendee--black bumper variety--I have really appriciated this advice. in my previous church setting, i was typically the most educated in the academic sense with a BA, MA and MFA. Many of my fellow brothers and siters had stopped education at a 8th grade level or done mail school to 12th. That might not be much different in our contempory world with ever lower test scores. Yet, it did leave a void around some conversing with the quality of man, lock vs hobbes, or the strugle of languages and its universalism, or even thinkg about the allegory of the cave. So to be in a setting that encourages learning and doesn't distrust it has been a new breath of air.

I have been curious about that advice especailly for its use of zealous. that terms comes from the jewish zealots who had their last stand against the romans to the point of holding out in Masada against the romans. I wonder how our education and its pursuit relates to this Jewish trradition, especially since they were likely the ones to most call for crucifiction?

But yes, to wonder though a museum while talking a contemporary theology book keeps things alive in your mind. The artist might be dead, the viewer is present, and the Lord is everywhere. So it cvan bring a new encounter to the works. It's not really in vogue to bring theology within into a museum but what a bore!

[mahayanapilgrim]

Ratnakarashanti

Ratnakarashanti

Ratnakarashanti,

from Buddha's Lions

Ratnakarashanti (Skt. Ratnākaraśānti; Tib. རིན་ཆེན་འབྱུང་གནས་ཞི་བ་, rinchen jungné shyiwa, Wyl. rin chen 'byung gnas zhi ba, or Skt. Śāntipa; Tib. ཤན་ཏི་པ་, shan+ti pa) (roughly 970 - possibly after 1045 was a famous Indian scholar who held the positions of gatekeeper of the Eastern direction and abbot at the great monastic university of Vikramashila at the beginning of the 11th century. He was renowned as the 'Omniscient One of the Degenerate Age' (Skt. kali-kāla-sarvajña). Under the name of Shantipa, he was also one of the eighty-four mahasiddhas, the great realized masters of the Vajrayana teachings.

He was a prolific writer and about forty of his works have been preserved in the Tibetan Tengyur. He wrote extensively both on sutra and tantra, which he interpreted consistently according to a particular Nirakara Yogachara doctrine. Because of this, despite his tremendous importance and influence in India and Tibet, he has been vilified by sectarian Tibetan Madhyamikas, which subsequently diminished his influence in Tibet. He wrote several works on the Prajnaparamita and Hevajra Tantra, and a commentary on the Guhyasamaja Tantra. He wrote two texts which contain in their title Madhyamakalamkara, where he argues against Chandrakirti and Shantarakshita.

Taranatha mentions he studied with Naropa. He was a contemporary and a teacher of Atisha and Abhayakaragupta. Other students include Maitripa, Shraddakaravarman (Skt. Śraddhākaravarman) and Drokmi Lotsawa.

There is a famous story that when Ratnakarashanti passed away, Atisha, who was in Tibet at the time, knew that and was grief stricken, saying that now no one in India was able to distinguish anymore between the Buddhist and the non-Buddist

Ratnakarashanti, also known as Shantipa, was a remarkable Indian scholar and master who lived during the 11th century. His contributions to Buddhist philosophy and Vajrayana teachings were profound, and his unique interpretations of key Buddhist texts left a lasting impact on the tradition. While I can't provide direct quotes from him due to the limitations of my training data, I can offer an overview of his teachings and contributions based on historical records.

**Teachings and Contributions:**

**1.** **Interpretation of Nirakara Yogachara Doctrine:** Ratnakarashanti's teachings were heavily influenced by a particular Nirakara Yogachara doctrine. This interpretation provided a unique lens through which he approached both sutra and tantra teachings. He consistently applied this philosophical framework to his writings and discussions.

**2.** **Commentaries on Key Texts:** He wrote extensively on several significant Buddhist texts, including the Prajnaparamita (Perfection of Wisdom) and the Hevajra Tantra. His commentaries and explanations helped elucidate the profound concepts and practices found within these texts, making them more accessible to students and practitioners.

**3.** **Guhyasamaja Tantra Commentary:** Ratnakarashanti authored a commentary on the Guhyasamaja Tantra, a pivotal text in Vajrayana Buddhism. His insights and explanations in this commentary contributed to a deeper understanding of the intricate practices and principles within the tantra.

**4.** **Engagement in Philosophical Debates:** He wrote two texts with "Madhyamakalamkara" in their titles, in which he engaged in debates against prominent scholars like Chandrakirti and Shantarakshita. These debates centered on Madhyamaka philosophy, showcasing Ratnakarashanti's intellectual rigor and philosophical prowess.

**5.** **Legacy as a Teacher:** Ratnakarashanti's influence extended to his students, who went on to become significant figures in the transmission of Buddhist teachings. Notable among his students were Atisha and Abhayakaragupta, both of whom played pivotal roles in spreading Buddhism, particularly in Tibet.

**6.** **Recognition as a Mahasiddha:** Ratnakarashanti was also recognized as one of the eighty-four mahasiddhas, the great realized masters of Vajrayana teachings. This designation underlines his spiritual attainments and mastery of esoteric practices.

**7.** **Influence and Controversy:** Despite his tremendous importance and influence in both India and Tibet, Ratnakarashanti faced opposition and criticism from Tibetan Madhyamikas due to his distinct interpretations of Buddhist philosophy. This led to a decline in his influence in Tibet, although his teachings continued to be valued by some.

**8.** **Story of Atisha's Grief:** A famous story surrounding Ratnakarashanti's passing is worth mentioning. Atisha, who was in Tibet at the time, was deeply grieved upon hearing the news. Atisha's sorrow stemmed from the belief that with Ratnakarashanti's passing, there was no one left in India capable of distinguishing between Buddhist and non-Buddhist philosophies. This anecdote highlights the esteem in which Ratnakarashanti was held for his expertise in Buddhist philosophy.

In conclusion, Ratnakarashanti, also known as Shantipa, was a significant figure in Indian and Tibetan Buddhism during the 11th century. His teachings, extensive writings, and unique interpretations of Buddhist philosophy enriched the tradition and continue to be studied and appreciated by those seeking a deeper understanding of Buddhist thought and practice.

[gunpowdergelatine-katsu]

@shisui-uchiha-anon

Another day, another successful “demolition”. Deidara grinned, thumbing through her payment from her last freelancing while walking through the dark forest. If she had known that terrorism was such a gainful profession, she would’ve left Iwagakure years ago! Not only that, her and her artwork were finally getting the recognizance deserved. After confirming the payment plus tip, she stashed the bills in her Iwa robe and kept navigating through the thicket towards the abandoned Buddist temple she had recycled into a hideout, far, far away from civilization and Iwa headhunters.

However, upon approaching the dilapidated structure, the blonde sensed something was off. She wasn’t alone. There was someone else here. No, someones. She didn’t know how many though. Were they hunter nin sent by her grandfather or an unfortunate bunch of terrorists which got themselves lost, deep into the woods? Either or, she did not take the unwelcome presence lightly as she plunged each hand into the clay pouches buckled to her hips, letting the extra mouths happily munch upon the cold clay within as she cautiously crept towards the building.

Through the blasted wall--handiwork of yours truly--did she spy three individuals inside, all bizarrely dressed in matching black cloaks ornated with red clouds. Maybe she should just blow them into oblivion but she was curious of the why and who they were. “Oi! What’re you doing here, hn? This is a costume party!”  

[shawn7xu]

入深法界 pratice dharma deeply #buddhism #Zhenjiang #镇江 出三界，入法界。抛弃欲望，尽力而为。 As approaching the top of the hill, this Zen word appeared. Give up desire and do your best. Pratice deeply. #travelinchina #architecture #archway #buddisttemple #temple #buddist #travel #travelgram #journey #traveller #wheretonext #travellife #china #instadaily #daily #instapic #pictureoftheday #photooftheday #travelinasia #chinese #discovery #travel2china (at ZhenJiang, China) https://www.instagram.com/p/CMGWOXcH7ol/?igshid=1kg6vgzfm23ke

[dbt-skills-cheat-sheet-xo]

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💾 ►►► DOWNLOAD FILE 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 This is a list of the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills and other information you will find on this site. DBT is about practice and repetition. Great Cheat Sheet for therapists or clients who are in / have taken DBT, designed to help people with borderline personality disorder, anxiety or depression. Load image into Gallery viewer, DBT Cheat Sheet - DBT skills - DBT coping skills Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT): DBT is a cognitive therapy also. This DBT Cheat Sheet includes all the Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills, and allows you quickly reference all your DBT skills on a nicely organized sheet. 9 In addition to a trusting relationship between a therapist and client, a big part of DBT is skills-building: literally learning about, committing to memory, planning, and practicing specific ways of responding to an internal or an external crisis. Many people find this therapy model helpful, and the specific, actionable steps DBT offers appeals to many people. DBT acceptance skills combine elements of time-tested Buddist meditation with the cutting-edge science of Neuropsychological research on the power of mindfulness to help brains cope. DBT can be considered a resource-heavy therapy model. While many approaches to psychotherapy like psychodynamic therapy emphasize the healing capacity of therapeutic relationships and emotional presence in the here-and-now, other models, like CBT can incorporate- or even heavily rely on- worksheets and homework. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, when done in compliance with DBT therapist training, utilizes all of these therapeutic tools:. These three aspects combine to help develop in DBT-participants the following elements: improved interpersonal skills to build the kind of relationships that support long term wellbeing , mindfulness, distress tolerance i. Many clients struggle with the homework aspect of DBT therapy. Although a good DBT therapist can help people understand and work with the internal and external reasons they may struggle to finish diary cards or homework on time, for some highly reactive people, failure to complete assignments may contribute to dropping out of the therapy due to feeling guilty about not finishing or be triggered into a shame response for not meeting the goal. Accessibility matters. I believe that some resources used in Mental Health treatment are unnecessarily cold, clinical, or technical. These hard-to-relate-to resources may risk pushing people away instead of inviting them to engage in both a healing relationship with their therapist and with information that could help their recovery. My work seeks to offer resources like worksheets, visuals, and handouts that bridge this gap. Too often, homework, worksheets, or handouts used by a clinician to help a client actually have the opposite effect: instead of helping a client understand that information and use it to inform healthier thoughts, choices, and behaviors, clinical worksheets can make it harder for some people to move towards their recovery and their mental health goals. Sometimes, therapeutic worksheets can feel cold and impersonal, triggering feelings of rejection, isolation, or hopelessness. For others, clinical worksheets look like academic homework, which can be difficult for those with educational trauma or shame around performance. Even people who are deeply committed to their DBT treatment may struggle with how clinical diary cards and DBT worksheets might make them feel sicker. My DBT printable resources are different. Consciously designed to integrate the fundamental concepts and package them in an approachable, non-clinical, non-threatening way, these DBT inspired worksheets can make diary cards, homework printables, and skills-practicing as easy and fun as activity books, bullet journaling, or filling out a relationship quiz in a teen magazine! Click a worksheet below to jump directly to the download, or keep reading to learn more about these resources. Download now or read on to learn more about how to use this DBT skills tracking resource. For more information on the allowed uses that each of these license types include, click here. Dear Man: Learning and using the Dear Man skills can help us grow our ability to communicate and function in healthy relationships. Dear Man is an acronym that stands for:. Vitals: the Vitals DBT skills can help us in achieving personal goals, in our personal and professional lives. Vitals stands for:. Mindfulness: This refers to a practice of awareness and acceptance of what is occurring in the present. Check out more resources on mindfulness. Refer to my Emotion-Sensation Feeling Wheel or articles on Emotional Regulation for more information on how practicing recognizing, expressing, and naming emotions are part of mental health recovery for many people. Master y : When we do things we are good at- or practice until we improve at something hard- it feels good! Getting better, stronger, faster, more skilled, etc. Doing activities or tasks that make us feel competent and in control can be a practice that helps other aspects of DBT be more effective. Give stands for:. Opposite to Emotion Action: This is a skill that involves learning to recognize when our automatic response would be unhelpful, and intentionally choosing the opposite of what our initial urge draws us to do example: you want to isolate, but instead, you reach out to a friend, or you want to retaliate against someone who was inconsiderate, but instead you pause and describe how their actions made you feel. TIPP stands for:. By using this skill can make healthier decisions that take into consideration more than just how we feel in the moment- and these thoughtful, more reasoned responses can help preserve and strengthen our important relationships. It stands for:. Explained A Skill to Someone: Studying and practicing DBT skills works, but often learning is enhanced and becomes more integrated into our own brain when we explain or teach something to someone else. To scratch off this DBT bingo square, teach a son or daughter about using TIP when they are upset, or explain to a friend why Radical Acceptance works to reduce stress. For those of us who experienced modeling of dysfunctional behaviors, we may have adopted behavior patterns that work against us. FAST stands for:. DBT and specifically dialectical thinking can help us make space for complexities within the world, our relationships, and within our own internal experience. DBT is a therapy model that combines treatment with an empathic therapist with classes on specific skills for problem-solving and mindful presence for ourselves and others. Together, these two aspects help improve emotional regulation i. By giving participants skills to increase the quality and satisfaction of personal relationships, DBT can help build support systems that support long-term recovery. DBT approaches treatment through individual therapy, group skills training, a consultation team, and regular phone coaching. In terms of theory, dialectical behavior therapy DBT is an adaptation of cognitive behavioral therapy CBT that allows for acceptance-based techniques and dialectics i. Dear Man is a skill-set that can help us grow our ability to communicate and function in healthy relationships. Through Patreon, you can get instant access to download all printable PDFs, licensing for professional use, and early releases- all while supporting the creation of more resources. Purchase Checkout Added to cart. What happens in DBT therapy? What makes DBT different from other therapies? What is DBT therapy good for? It is a form of therapy that is considered helpful for more complex disorders. Click here to cancel reply.

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💾 ►►► DOWNLOAD FILE 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 This is a list of the Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills and other information you will find on this site. DBT is about practice and repetition. Great Cheat Sheet for therapists or clients who are in / have taken DBT, designed to help people with borderline personality disorder, anxiety or depression. Load image into Gallery viewer, DBT Cheat Sheet - DBT skills - DBT coping skills Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT): DBT is a cognitive therapy also. This DBT Cheat Sheet includes all the Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills, and allows you quickly reference all your DBT skills on a nicely organized sheet. 9 In addition to a trusting relationship between a therapist and client, a big part of DBT is skills-building: literally learning about, committing to memory, planning, and practicing specific ways of responding to an internal or an external crisis. Many people find this therapy model helpful, and the specific, actionable steps DBT offers appeals to many people. DBT acceptance skills combine elements of time-tested Buddist meditation with the cutting-edge science of Neuropsychological research on the power of mindfulness to help brains cope. DBT can be considered a resource-heavy therapy model. While many approaches to psychotherapy like psychodynamic therapy emphasize the healing capacity of therapeutic relationships and emotional presence in the here-and-now, other models, like CBT can incorporate- or even heavily rely on- worksheets and homework. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, when done in compliance with DBT therapist training, utilizes all of these therapeutic tools:. These three aspects combine to help develop in DBT-participants the following elements: improved interpersonal skills to build the kind of relationships that support long term wellbeing , mindfulness, distress tolerance i. Many clients struggle with the homework aspect of DBT therapy. Although a good DBT therapist can help people understand and work with the internal and external reasons they may struggle to finish diary cards or homework on time, for some highly reactive people, failure to complete assignments may contribute to dropping out of the therapy due to feeling guilty about not finishing or be triggered into a shame response for not meeting the goal. Accessibility matters. I believe that some resources used in Mental Health treatment are unnecessarily cold, clinical, or technical. These hard-to-relate-to resources may risk pushing people away instead of inviting them to engage in both a healing relationship with their therapist and with information that could help their recovery. My work seeks to offer resources like worksheets, visuals, and handouts that bridge this gap. Too often, homework, worksheets, or handouts used by a clinician to help a client actually have the opposite effect: instead of helping a client understand that information and use it to inform healthier thoughts, choices, and behaviors, clinical worksheets can make it harder for some people to move towards their recovery and their mental health goals. Sometimes, therapeutic worksheets can feel cold and impersonal, triggering feelings of rejection, isolation, or hopelessness. For others, clinical worksheets look like academic homework, which can be difficult for those with educational trauma or shame around performance. Even people who are deeply committed to their DBT treatment may struggle with how clinical diary cards and DBT worksheets might make them feel sicker. My DBT printable resources are different. Consciously designed to integrate the fundamental concepts and package them in an approachable, non-clinical, non-threatening way, these DBT inspired worksheets can make diary cards, homework printables, and skills-practicing as easy and fun as activity books, bullet journaling, or filling out a relationship quiz in a teen magazine! Click a worksheet below to jump directly to the download, or keep reading to learn more about these resources. Download now or read on to learn more about how to use this DBT skills tracking resource. For more information on the allowed uses that each of these license types include, click here. Dear Man: Learning and using the Dear Man skills can help us grow our ability to communicate and function in healthy relationships. Dear Man is an acronym that stands for:. Vitals: the Vitals DBT skills can help us in achieving personal goals, in our personal and professional lives. Vitals stands for:. Mindfulness: This refers to a practice of awareness and acceptance of what is occurring in the present. Check out more resources on mindfulness. Refer to my Emotion-Sensation Feeling Wheel or articles on Emotional Regulation for more information on how practicing recognizing, expressing, and naming emotions are part of mental health recovery for many people. Master y : When we do things we are good at- or practice until we improve at something hard- it feels good! Getting better, stronger, faster, more skilled, etc. Doing activities or tasks that make us feel competent and in control can be a practice that helps other aspects of DBT be more effective. Give stands for:. Opposite to Emotion Action: This is a skill that involves learning to recognize when our automatic response would be unhelpful, and intentionally choosing the opposite of what our initial urge draws us to do example: you want to isolate, but instead, you reach out to a friend, or you want to retaliate against someone who was inconsiderate, but instead you pause and describe how their actions made you feel. TIPP stands for:. By using this skill can make healthier decisions that take into consideration more than just how we feel in the moment- and these thoughtful, more reasoned responses can help preserve and strengthen our important relationships. It stands for:. Explained A Skill to Someone: Studying and practicing DBT skills works, but often learning is enhanced and becomes more integrated into our own brain when we explain or teach something to someone else. To scratch off this DBT bingo square, teach a son or daughter about using TIP when they are upset, or explain to a friend why Radical Acceptance works to reduce stress. For those of us who experienced modeling of dysfunctional behaviors, we may have adopted behavior patterns that work against us. FAST stands for:. DBT and specifically dialectical thinking can help us make space for complexities within the world, our relationships, and within our own internal experience. DBT is a therapy model that combines treatment with an empathic therapist with classes on specific skills for problem-solving and mindful presence for ourselves and others. Together, these two aspects help improve emotional regulation i. By giving participants skills to increase the quality and satisfaction of personal relationships, DBT can help build support systems that support long-term recovery. DBT approaches treatment through individual therapy, group skills training, a consultation team, and regular phone coaching. In terms of theory, dialectical behavior therapy DBT is an adaptation of cognitive behavioral therapy CBT that allows for acceptance-based techniques and dialectics i. Dear Man is a skill-set that can help us grow our ability to communicate and function in healthy relationships. Through Patreon, you can get instant access to download all printable PDFs, licensing for professional use, and early releases- all while supporting the creation of more resources. Purchase Checkout Added to cart. What happens in DBT therapy? What makes DBT different from other therapies? What is DBT therapy good for? It is a form of therapy that is considered helpful for more complex disorders. Click here to cancel reply.

[brittaneypeacoc]

I share this with my Sisters that of who are already know Christ and those that do not yet know Christ. Jesus approached a daughter and said to her daughter your faith has made you well. What does this mean exactly? It means your faith in him has made you well, go in peace meaning have a peace of mind and your sufferings are over meaning you are not to suffer anymore. It other words go in peace my daughter your long sufferings of sins are over and sin no more. Don’t fear anymore I am here with you every step of the way. This is all God wants each of his children to know both his daughters and sons. #God #Jesus #Christians #Jews #Muslims #Hindus #Buddists #Atheists #NonBelievers #JesusLovesYou #EachOfYou #GodIsForAll #Peace #Forgiven #CalmWaters #CalmMind #CalmHeart #CalmLife #GloryBeToGodInTheHighest #Mark534 #Bible #Hope https://www.instagram.com/p/CZpPOZYuWHc/?utm_medium=tumblr

[nadiapies]

The relationship of Thais and Laotians to animals is connected directly with another topic, their confession, and it is the buddhism. Buddhism in practice is far from my vestern imagination. The Western view of this faith is very insightful and conscientious. From my observations, it appears that Thais and Laotians treat their faith neglectfully - pray to statues (or even to the figure of Buddha, which is in my sense is unnecessary), which, by the way are very popular and are very impressive. Their approach to suffering is also puzzling, returning to the previous topic, followers of Buddhism do not respect animals, sometimes I had the impression that they completely do not understand that animals are sentient and respectable beings. The funny thing is that the Laotians were outraged when I did not want to treat their delicacy - which are chicken’s feet - because I do not want to eat the body of another sentient being. This was unthinkable for them - as Buddhists they were obviously aware of what vegetarianism is, but polite derogations because of culture are much more important to them. Another thing is the cages - "how supposedly Buddists keep animals in cages ?!" said a recently met english guy freaky about spiritualism (Asia is full of this type of people). Well, how? And they keep it and they earn by it. Also on various types of sanctury, (I warn against these miserible tigers for stroking) that grow like mushrooms after rain, responsible for this is beautifully responding to the needs of consumers tourism industry. My beloved, these sanctuaries in realit are places where they not long ago kept hire elephants to ride on them, it has nothing to do with respect and love. Let elephants do the program, execute commands and then come back to the chain. The myth says that there are real sanctuaries for elephants somewhere in Asia, but most of them are the same cages as the one for the unfortunate Gibbon. Elephant is the national symbol of Thailand. It is a terrible filth. The elephant is even on a bottle of beer that Thai people drink. Thailand - a land of elephants, and no elephant is free there. At the end of the visit, we got a questionnaire as we liked individual activities with elephants, which is proof that they really do not realize what the client would like. Another thing is a popular custom in Laos is to release a bird from the cage after reaching the temple. Little birds closed in small cages made of leaves can be bought a few meters before entering many of them. It would seem that this is a beautiful gesture, but probably only very naive, and such things happen in the plural, because every instagramer would like to have a unforgetable moment of liberation on its account. Feel free bird.However, the most striking event took place in a cave temple, to which one I had to climb the stairs. There were groups of children waiting for me, offering products of their own hands - dolls, pendants, learned their questions, touching and sweet, and their mothers, like stations on individual floors with smaller children, watching and pointing to potential customers. Then, a bit tired, with my eyes fixed on the ground, I saw this bird. First, I thought that the poor got tangled up in some vines, but no, it turned out to be headphones. Just a few children ran up to me, one pulled and tossed the bird by the foot, explaining to me that if I want the bird to be free, I have to pay. It was not nice at all.Please do not make this mistake if you were in my place and do not choose any attraction associated with animals while being in Thailand.

[templesinindia]

Buddha Temples in India

Born to a royal couple from Kapilavastu, Siddhartha who is popularly known as Gautama Buddha grew up in an environment that hid the fundamental realities of life. His father never wanted his son to be touched by human sufferings and raised him luxuriously. But Siddhartha was destined to detach himself from materialistic life. He chose to lead a life that would inspire the world. In this photo-feature, we will take a look at the four main places that are associated with the life of Gautama Buddha. Thousands of devotees from across the world visit these Buddhism pilgrimage sites. There are five places that are considered to be the main place for the followers of Lord Buddha worldwide.

Mahabodhi Temple Complex-Bodhgaya, Gaya, Bihar, India

Bodh Gaya is the location where, under the sacred pipal tree, Gautama Buddha attained enlightenment and became the Buddha. Gautama Buddha meditated, preached and attained enlightenment under this tree. A simple shrine was built by the emperor Ashoka to mark the spot, and this was later enclosed by a stone railing. To know more click below link

Mahabodhi Temple Complex

Sarnath Buddhist Temple-Sarnath, Varanasi, Uttar Pradesh, India

Lord Buddha gave his first sermon here after attaining enlightenment at Bodh Gaya. During his reign, Emperor Ashoka came to Sarnath to spread the message of love and peace of Lord Buddha and built a stupa here in 249 BCE. To know more click below link

Sarnath Buddhist Temple

Mahaparinirvana Stupa-Kushinagar, Uttar Pradesh, India

Kushinagar is this place that the Buddha had chosen to free himself from the cycles of death and life and, therefore, it occupies a very special space in the heart of every Buddhist. This houses a 6.10 meter long statue of the Buddha in a reclining position represents the dying Buddha reclining on his right side. To know more click below link

Mahaparinirvana Stupa

Mukutbandhan Chaitya(Ramabhar Stupa)-Kushinagar, Uttar Pradesh, India

This is where Buddha’s body is said to have been cremated. Architecturally, this half-ruined 15m-high stupa is little more than a large, dome-shaped clump of red bricks. The excavations led by General Cunningham have revealed structures and artifacts related to all sects of Buddhism. To know more click below link

Mukutbandhan Chaitya – Ramabhar Stupa

Jetavana Sahet Mahavihara Monastery-Jetavana, Shravasti, Uttar Pradesh, India

Lord Buddha performed the greatest of his miracles to confound the Tirthika heretics. These miracles include Buddha creating multiple images of himself, which has been a favorite theme of Buddhist art. Shravasti is a huge complex full of Buddhist stupas, viharas, and temples. To know more click below link

Jetavana Sahet Mahavihara Monastery

Sankassa Buddhist Site-Sankassa, Farrukhabad, Uttar Pradesh, India

Buddha went up to the Tusita Heaven, spent three months there teaching the Abhidhamma to his mother and then descended back to earth at the village of Sankassya. King Asoka erected one of his pillars here. To know more click below link

Sankassa Buddhist Site

Vishwa Shanti Stupa-Rajgir, Nalanda, Bihar, India

Buddha often visited this place, seeking the solitude and tranquillity of the Jivkamaravana monastery and preaching and meditating at the Griddhakuta hill. At this hill, he converted one of the celebrated followers, the Mauryan King Bimbisara, to Buddhism. When Buddha arrived at ‘Parinirvana’ his devotees held the first Buddhist council at the Saptaparni cave. It was here, that his teachings were penned down for the very first time. To know more click below link

Vishwa Shanti Stupa

Vaishali Buddist Sanctuary-Kolhua, Vaishali, Bihar, India

Buddha announced the approaching of his Mahaparinirvana here. During one of his visits there, Buddha was offered a bowl of honey by a monkey; this incident is mentioned as one of the eight great events in his life. It was at Vaishali that several people embraced after Buddha had displayed divine presentations of his spirituality. Vaishali is also very important for the fact that it was here that women were made part of Sangha for the first time in the history of Buddhism. Mahaprajapati Gautami, who was Gautam Buddha’s foster mother, had also joined the order at Vaishali with 500 Shakya-women. To know more click below link

Vaishali Buddhist Sanctuary

[gatewaygeek]

I'm gonna do a little Christmas two-parter One shot...

With Christmas fast approaching, the Earthling Space Voyagers touched down on a planet to celebrate, hoping the Irken would abide by the traditions of war. It was a night to be merry, be close to friends, family, loved ones. It was particularly hard on Dennis, not bring able to see his son in person, but it was getting easier, especially with Eliza. He had ordered a present for Elijah and sent it to his sisters house, so he would get a present this year from his Dad. Dennis and Eliza made sure of that.

Ferran and Brian got a lot of baby stuff leading up to Christmas. They got three papooses (Dennis, Saadiya, and Eliza), a nightlight (Saadiya, again), basic baby necessities (baby food, diapers, formula, toys, teething ring, parent books, all thanks to Dennis), a hand-stitched baby blanket and matching stuffed animal (Nya, turns out she dabbled in sewing), their own family quarters (Greenwell), a space mobile (Dib), an early childhood development toy that would supposedly increase Logic (Zim), but perhaps the greatest gift of them all was the last one.

The one that no one thought would be coming.

Milano, in his will, left Ferran and Brian's child a gift, "for when those two finally get pregnant and are forced to go public". It was a necklace, with an Earth pendent, and a letter, addressed to the child.

It made Brian amd Ferran that much more excited about the arrival of their child.

Greenwell and Dib found themselves in a similar situation, telling them all about Christmas, and the traditions, the ones to take seriously (spiked eggnog, feasts, presents, cookie making) , the ones that people don't get offended by if they don't take it seriously (caroling, prayer, Santa), and how to prepare themselves. Zim found it all so odd,as he found most things, but Nya was excited.

"Prepare for the most Christmas-y Christmas to have ever Christmas-ed!" She said, taking her mates hands.

"Well, no. We don't even have a tree - and there are plenty of Jewish soldiers, Muslim soldiers, Buddist, Hindi, Atheist, Agnostic-"

"Well, then I won't make it so public. But I will make this memorable. I promise!" They smiled and leaned forward, pecking her lips.

Zim however, who sat on the bed of his and Dibs quarters, raised his non-existent eyebrow.

"Sounds dumb."

"Zim, c'mon-"

"You act good all year, for what? For some fat smelly human to break into your home, eat your food, and do the exact opposite of rob? And then keep it? On Irk, that's breaking and entering."

"You are ridiculous. Just this once, for one day, could you please just... just enjoy a holiday with me? Please?"

"...Fine." He got up and kissed Dib briefly. "But you owe me!"

"Oh, I know. Don't you worry. I'll pay you back." He winked.

See, Dib knew exactly what to get Zim. Zim would not be satisfied with just one gift, and Dib wouldnt get him only one gift. Oh, no.

First, he would take Zim to lunch, next to the lake where the water was clear enough to ses the silver beds below.

Second, he would give him his first material gift - a weapon. It was one that he fashioned to do an array of damage, and he named it The Hybrid.

Third, he would take him to an anti-gravitational skate rink. That sounded like it absolutely had to be fun.

Four, he would take Zim to the viewing point to see the nickel falls.

Five, he would take him to dinner. The most fancy, the most expensive, the most delicious restaurant he could find.

Six, he would give his second material gift - an armoured red tunic that he could wear in battle. It was light-weight and form fitting to stay out of the way.

Seventh, when they got back to the ship, while Zim was distracted by Ferran (he had spoken with her beforehand), Dib would wear a particular article of clothing that he had kept hidden for months since he got it - dark red, lace, and sexy. He would be Zims final gift, handcuffed to the bed, eager. Hopefully thst would meet Zim's expectations.

Zim had no real clue what to get Dib.

It made him feel horrible, Dib was his mate for Irk's sake, he should know these things! What would make Dib so happy that he would weep tears of joy? What would please Dib so much that whenever the thought about him, it would be a prominent moment, and he would smile? What could possible be so powerful-

Oh.

Oh that is a perfect idea.

With a grin, Zim set out to get his gift.

Just you wait, Dib.

[therabydskald]

"Athiest Spirituality" - Odin's Eye

“Athiest Spirituality” – Odin’s Eye

Happy Woden’s (Odin’s) Day.    

Discussion:

Spirituality is a very broad term and even among those who believe you have to define what perspective is being used in regards to spirituality.  Christian Spirituality, Pagan Spirituality, Islamic Spirituality, Hindu Spirituality, and Buddist Spirituality all have their various difference in how to approach the spiritual nature of humanity in…

[risingpakistan]

Malakand

Malakand (Pashto: ملاکنډ‎) is a district of the province of Khyber Pakhtunkhwa in Pakistan.

The District was formed in 1970 as a Provincially Administered Tribal Area, It had previously been a Tribal Area known as the Malakand Protected Area, part of the Malakand Agency. From 1970 to 2000 the District was part of Malakand Division.

 Malakand District lies at a strategically important position as it acts as a gateway to Swat, Dir, Chitral and Bajaur. It is surrounded by a series of mountains that were overgrown with different kinds of trees in the past though they have a barren look today. The famous Malakand Pass which connects Mardan to Swat and Dir is located near Dargai, where the local Pushtun tribes fought two fierce battles with the British army in 1895 and 1897.

 The Swat River flows through the District down towards Charsadda District where it falls into the Kabul River. Malakand Districty is bounded on the north by Lower Dir District, on the East by Swat District, on the south east and south west by Mardan and Charsadda districts respectively and on the west by Mohmand and Bajour Agencies. The area of Malakand protected area is 952 km2.

 Demography

The total area of Malakand District is 952 Square Km and has a population density of 596 people per sqkm. The population of Malakand is estimated to be 567,000 in 2004-05. Most of the people are Pashtuns speaking Pashto as their mother tongue. Agriculture is the major source of income, the total cultivatable land being 456600 hectors.

A part of Malakand is occupied by the Uthmankhel clan of Pukhntoons (Pathans), while towards the south, at the bottom of Malakand Pass, live the Ranizais known as Sam Ranizai. Those living beyond the pass towards Swat are Swat Ranizai. This is also evident in the administration division; where one is called the Swat Ranizai and the other as Sam Ranizai.

  Geography

 The soil of Malakand is loamy and moist, and is irrigated by the Swat River which flows from Swat, through Kohistan and joins the river Kabul near Peshawar. The average rainfall is not enough, therefore the soil requires artificial irrigation.

There are rare scenic places and tourist resorts in Malakand like Jabban and Malakand hydro-electric project. Water passes through a three-mile-long tunnel, and has a natural fall of 350 feet. The main income-generating source in Malakand is the two power houses at Dargai and Malakand Khas. There are about 11 other suitable sites for construction of Small Hydel Power projects that needed investors attention.

Malakand as already mentioned is surrounded by high mountains rich with mineral resources which are yet to be exploited. However, deposits of chromite iron, china clay and fuller earth have been found in Malakand. There are vast chances of mineral exploration but due to poor status of the local denizens they are not in a position to invest and exploit the mineral resources in Malakand. If investors from the other districts and provinces diverted their attention towards mineral wealth they can find and get vast mineral treasures.

  History

Main article: History of Malakand

Historic ruins, founded at different places in the agency, indicate that this area was part of Ghandara civilization and Buddhist peoples lived here. The last Buddhist ruler, Raja Gira, seems to have ruled over there about nine hundred years ago. Sultan Mahmood of Ghazni, a Muslim ruler, came there from Afghanistan through Bajaur and defeated the Buddist ruler, Raja gira.

Later, another Afghan ruler, Muhammad Ghauri, invaded the area and Islam began to spread there.

 The Yousafzai Pathan tribe came to inhabit this area is the wake of the invasion. About 400 years ago, successive Mughal rulers attempted in vain to capture this area. After the fall of the Mughals, Sikh rulers tried to conquer this area but we repulsed. The British had always looked at this area with covetous eyes but dared no venture to flirt with it openly. In 1882, The British approached to the elders of Malakand Agency with the request to allow the passage of post to Chitral, which was then in the Administrative sphere of Gilgit. In 1885, the Chitral Expedition necessitated the British intervention in this area. British officer and troops had been besieged in Chitral by Chitralis . To reinforce their forces there, they needed a route to Chitral as the Gilgit-Chitral road, the only route at that time, was covered with snow and they had no option left except to pass through Malakand Agency.

 The British therefore, laid siege of the Malakand pass. The people fought bravely and offered stubborn resistance to the enemy. The British artillery particularly proving more than a match for the old and rusty guns and swords of the natives. To fortify their position and ensure the safety of the strategically Important Chitral road, they constructed two forts at Malakand and Chakdara with many piquet overhead the surrounding hills. One of them Churchill piquet, was named after Lt. Churchill who later on became the Prime Minister of Britain. Since then the British intervened in the politics of the area. A political Agent was stationed at Malakand to mediate between the British and the people of the Area.

[kahayaya]

May 5th, 2020

Here’s my review-ish on the book the five invitations. It was a book a was required to read but the answers had truths to them that I would like to post on here. 1) How did Frank Ostaseski begin the Zen Hospice Project? What about the early days of Zen Hospice resonate with any of the five invitations Frank discusses in the book?

Frank Ostaseski began Zen Hospice Project after his return from serving refugees in Guatemala and Mexico. He returned to San Francisco and saw the AIDS crisis hit. An individual response was not enough to help his friends and community in SF. So he and a close friend started up Zen Hospice Project. In his early days of the Zen Hospice Project, you can really see the invitation, “Welcome Everything, push away nothing”. As stated in the early days, the patients of this place would show how they wanted to die. This opened many ideas for the early days for Frank, where it would not align with Buddist ideas, but rather an invitation to other ideas. 

2) List the five invitations, and give at least one example from the text that supports or exemplifies a way to achieve the invitation. Then, apply each of these to your own life somehow (either personally, professionally, or as a student seeking a job in the nursing/helping professions, from family life, etc). Tell me about what you like about each invitation, and how it might help you in some way in your life. What makes each invitation difficult for you?

The first invitation is “Don’t Wait”. What this invitation is saying is let’s not wait until the end of something for people to act. In the text, he talks about how life is impermanence. In life, we think things around us are always changing, but not us. But in fact, we are changing ourselves and we are not aware of the changes until they are significant. So once we recognize that life is impermanence, we find more freedom and open doorways to new possibilities. For me, this applies to how life is now. Especially after the shelter-in-place, this goes to show that life is impermanent. My life is drastically different from two months ago than it is now. With this invitation in mind, I should be more welcoming of the new change in life. Life is always changing and rather than dwelling on a good life before it, the change is something I can appreciate. I like this invitation because it essentially says to be open to anything and don’t wait on it. Act now because we all have very limited time and we might regret it when the time comes. It’s difficult for me to do this invitation because it means I would have to accept the results of a bad one. While I like having good results, this means that I have to face the reality of a bad result. 

The second invitation is “Welcome Everything, push away nothing”. What this invitation is saying is to welcome everything, even though you may not agree with everything. The book gives an example of a price tag on clothes. There’s a price then followed up with “as is”. Everything in life is how it is, the bad or good. So we should make peace with things that continue to diminish ourselves. If we continue to push away, it forces us to keep pushing away and prevent us from loving. When my relationship broke off before. I continued to find out a reason why it happened. Which in turn also made me push away others. As time went on, I just let go of the idea of why it happened and said it was okay that it happened. Only until I accepted this idea, did I start to love not only myself but others as well. The thing I like about this invitation is that it shows that there are imperfections in life. The good or the bad is something that can prevent us from welcoming others. By making amends to those things that happened, then we can welcome everything. This can apply to me in the future by accepting and managing my suffering, as all humans will go through some kind of pain. The challenge with this is that pain is hurtful. Adjusting to another mindset will be a tough one, but can be done. 

The third invitation is “Bring your whole self to the experience”. This invitation talks about bringing everything about yourself to the table in order to experience everything. In other words, bring the good and the bads of yourself. In the book, he describes Matthew who was raised in a Christian family. Matthew was also gay. In the final days of his life, he finally accepted who he was and released his spiritual superego. He achieved this with love. Love for himself. This reminds me of when I use social media as a way to project the good sides of myself. Recently, I stepped back from social media, as it only brought the good side of me. I wanted to also visit the bad side of me and also let that be a part of me. What I like about this invitation is that it includes everything about a human. The bitter and sweet things in life can make us truly a whole. This makes me think about my future relationship with a significant other, where its not only about the good stuff. It is also about the weak things about a person for it to be a true experience of a relationship. The trouble with this invitation is that again it has to bring the bitter side of things. Which is something I am uncomfortable doing, but with ultimate love, it can be done? 

The fourth invitation is “Find a place of rest in the middle of things”. What he says here is that in the midst of craziness in life, find a resting place. There is always a place to rest, no matter how chaotic a situation might be. Frank Ostaseski gives the example of Adele, who is near death. He noticed that there is a pause before she inhales. He advised that she should take the pause as a moment to put all her thought into. This pause with thought was the rest that Adele needed. Life can throw us in a spiral and it's hard to keep up with it. We should find moments of rest and also focus our energy into that rest. As I think about the times I have a stressful project coming, I remember when my mind blanked out, I took those moments as a time for me to rest and just focus my energy on them. After I regain my train of thought, I would continue to work on the project. This invitation is appealing to me because it accounts for us to take breaks in life. Even though life can be tough, we need to find spots in them where we can rest. It’s important to rest as it can cause us to not think straight and also affect another end of things. So the hardest part of this invitation is finding that space to rest.

The last invitation is “Cultivate don’t know mind”. This invitation is essentially saying that we should enter life with curiosity. He mentions this is different from ignorance, where it is a perception about something when in reality it is not. “Cultivate don’t know mind” is something where we are open-minded and open to learning new things in life. He mentions Hob where he practices this cultivate and doesn't know his mind. When Hob developed Alzheimer's, he did not know much about himself. Even though he was in a state of not knowing, he used whatever knowledge he had and he did not restrict his knowledge of what he knew. He simply was open. I can’t think of a specific time in my life where I would practice this invitation. I was most likely in a situation where I thought I knew it all, but I was open to ideas about how to move forward. This invitation can apply to me in the future by being open to anything in life, despite the knowledge I may possess. The difficulty of this invitation would be open to anything, without thinking about what you do not want to hear. 

3) Describe the overall caregiving ethos Frank is suggesting in the text. How is he suggesting we approach treating patients? What do we need to do as friends/lovers/caregivers? What do we need to be mindful of?

The overall caregiving ethos Frank is suggesting is to emotionally connect with the patient, without putting yourself as the frontline. What I exactly mean is that the caregiver should put the patient’s desires as a priority for the best treatment. When caregivers approach treating patients, caregivers should be open-minded and non-judgemental of it. As caregivers, sometimes they like to think they know everything that will make the patient better, but in reality, it's ultimately up to the patients on how they want to be treated. If the patient does not know what they want, it's the caregiver's job to guide the patients to what the patient wants. 

4) What story from Five Invitations affected you, and/or inspired you most? Why?

The story that affected me the most was Frank’s own story about him being abused by the faith leader. It amazes me that he had to endure the struggle and therefore, put up a shield against other people. To add on, he realized that it is what it is and he couldn’t change what happened to him in his childhood. Yet, he accepted what happened and even made it a part of him. He then helped others who have had a similar struggle to him and if not, better than what he had to go through. That to me was the most inspiring. 

5) Describe three ways the text has supported, amplified, or clarified themes in our class.The text amplified the idea of palliative care. There are countless stories in the text where we see the patients that went through palliative care through Frank’s Zen Hospice Project. In those stories, all parties have had an acceptance and a better death than most would like to think. Again in class, we emphasized the importance of palliative care, as it can help us when a patient is near death. Another theme that is supported in the text is the ethical meta-principle of autonomy. The text demonstrates this by the palliative caregiving to the patients. Whatever the patient wanted, the hospice did its best to provide it. For example, there was a story about the man who wanted spaghetti before he was coming to an end. When this person was admitted, he was given spaghetti. The person became more open with the caregiver and had a good death. The last theme that was in the text was a lot of teachable moments. There were countless times where Frank did not anticipate a moment for teaching. Until the moment happened, it was time to teach the patient about life. There was a moment where he said he noticed the patient's breathing and it had a pause. At this moment was when Frank knew he could teach the patient about having a rest, despite the hard times. 

6) Last, watch the following brief TedTalk, and in approximately 300 words, apply the concepts that Dr. Miller presents to things we have covered in our class:

In the talk with Dr. Miller, one of the key concepts that he presents that resembles what we learned in class is comfortability. To add on to this, comfortability is when we die. The institution for healthcare is so focused on curing and preventing the disease, that people tend to forget how to die. In forgetting, we tend to push away death and try to live now. As death slowly looms, we continue to push it away and then death sweeps us, leaving us at a bad death. In this age, we need to change our perspective on death and instead, we need death as a wake-up call to live. But when death is near, palliative care can help us reach the end by making peace with ourselves and to others. But if we are not dying, we can take the moment to live our lives now. In class, as caregivers, we can also be mindful of how patients are. Just like how he was given a snowball, if caregivers can remind the patients that they are living, then caregivers can make the patient's life better.  

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Every connoisseur of artisan beers must try the millet-based Tongba at the snowy hamlet of Tumling, just a hop away from Chamong Chiabari mountain retreat.

Cozy up next to the fireplace, sip on the heady brew and feast your eyes on the dazzling whiteness outside. Just add more hot water to the fermented millet for continued bliss.

Kanchenjunga and Lhotse peaks loom large, Singalila forest is within reach, Mount Everest is clearly visible at noon on the extreme left.

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Narrow paths cut through the coniferous forests with an undergrowth of ferns towards Srikhola. A beautiful wooden bridge hangs over Srikhola River. Numerous colourful Lungta or prayer flags can be found strung overhead at this and other tranquil locations.

A handy suggestion to all backpackers - when you stay at Chamong Chiabari Himalayan retreat on your way to majestic Sandakphu, you can set out after breakfast, bask in the breathtaking beauty of the Srikhola bridge at noon, and return by sundown to enjoy a starlit barbecue party at Chamong.

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Did we mention the gorgeous fall colours of Sandakphu adorned by Buddist Chortens and prayer flags against the backdrop of pristine white Kanchenjunga and the azure sky?

Take the scenic route from Chamong Chiabari luxury mountain retreat on a Land Rover, best equipped for the boulder roads leading to glorious Sandakphu. The colour palette changes from yellow ochre to orange-red as one approaches Sandakphu.

Greenery returns near Kalapokhri lake, but Autumn season usually brings ochre coloured dry grass and bright red shrubs. The ground is moss-covered, small shrubs scattered everywhere, prayer flags hung from long strings line the lake shore.

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Sandakphu is but just one of the many nearby gems that adorn this exotic Himalayan destination called Chamong Chiabari heritage retreat. Come, rejuvenate your soul.

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Handy guide to Japan Culture and Etiquette

As I stood in Kyoto station outside the JR ticket counter waiting for Amrita and Ohanna, all I could focus was at the bakery right across. I dragged a rucksack, suitcase and a small bag to grab the best chocolate croissant we ever had. It was mountain day, and the station was busy with people travelling all across the country. Worlds 2nd fittest country has a holiday calendar with days dedicated to Mountains, Sea, Star, and a Dolls & Girls Festival. It gives you an idea of how well nature and people are synchronised with each other. Japanese are calm and crazy at the same time, with shrines and Zen gardens all around to love hotels and insane fashion trends, it’s all pretty mind-boggling.

It just seems impossible, travelling to a country where they don’t speak your language and your 6-year-old who has a mind of her own and doesn’t care what you say, in my wildest dreams I had not imagined that it would be so easy travelling in Japan. If you leave your passport or purse somewhere and it comes and finds you, nobody is begging, it’s clean, nobody can be more punctual and mind it; it is considered rude if you count the change you get back while shopping. It’s a different world… a place that’s worth exploring. From Monuments and Shrines to Mountains and beaches, Japan has everything to offer, and visiting them is easier than you think. With an incredible network of worlds best trains, buses, trams and flights you’ll be spoilt for choice.

Delhi – Narita Airport –Tokyo – Kyoto

Kyoto, the earlier capital of Japan, intrigued us as much as Tokyo. With a history of more than 5000 years, love for Zen gardens and a mention in Steve Jobs biography, we decide to visit Kyoto first.

So we exchanged our voucher for JR Pass and took the NXT train to Tokyo central to catch the next Shinkansen for Kyoto. With only two subway lines, the best way to travel in Kyoto is by bus. We took a bus from the Bus terminal right outside Kyoto Station to MyStays Hotel located in Downtown Kyoto.

Kyoto District Map

Downtown Kyoto is close to most of the attractions in town and travelling with my daughter I wanted to be located centrally.  Next four days we went all out exploring Kyoto’s innumerable shrines and its cuisine at our slow pace. Wherever you might be in Kyoto, Google maps will always show a Shrine close by. Kyoto has options for hikes and cycling routes, and most of the attractions are starting points for these hikes. We checked official Kyoto Tourism page for latest events and found the  Light and sound show on Thousand Demons at Kodaiji Temple.

Exploring Kyoto with a Bus Pass

  Buy a one or two day pass depending on the length of your stay and days itinerary for unlimited bus rides during that period. This will take you to almost all corners of Kyoto. It’s always on time, and the best way to find your bus is to use google maps. They also give a city map to get a better idea of the different route the buses ply on.

  Top Things to do in Kyoto

Temples- Shrines – Bamboo Forest- Food – Culture – History-  Hikes and Cycling

Ginkakuji Temple

Arashiyama – Bamboo Forest & Monkey Garden

Chion-in Temple & Kyoto Station

Kyoto Station building is a sprawling commercial building with train stations, shopping and great restaurants. Kyoto Bus Stand is right outside.  Take a bus or do a 10 min walk to the Chion -in Temple.

Gion & Maruyama Park

Yasaka Shrine

Gion is lined up with fantastic shopping, lanes filled up with fabulous restaurants and eateries alongside Mikasa river. A shrine is never far away, and Maruyama Park connected to Gion has a collection of magnificent shrines and temples. This is a must visit during your Kyoto trip

    Kodai-Ji Temple

We visited this temple during the festival of 1000 demons with a light and sound show

Fushimi Inari-Taisha – The mountain of faith will test yours so go prepared

  Kinkaku-Ji/ Rokuon-Ji- Now a Buddist Aen temple was earlier retirement vill of the                                             shogun

Ryonji

Nishiki market – Street Food, Restaurants & Shopping

Amazing Day Trips from Kyoto using your JR Pass

Kanazawa

Nagahama

Himeji

Enryukuji

Hiroshima

Osaka

Kobe

Hikone

Destination Tokyo 

Tokyo is one of those rare cities of the world which has world-class infrastructure on one hand and temples and shrines on the other dating to more than 5000 years. The normal and extreme walk hand in hand. Buildings dedicated to Karaoke Bars,  Gaming arcades, Love Hotels, fine dining to the best tea drinking ceremony, samurais and sumo wrestlers. Could I intrigue you more?

Travelling with our daughter, we wanted to choose a place which was close to the attractions we had planned to take her on this trip. We took up an Airbnb in Nippori area. This was a blessing in disguise as we were in a lovely and quiet residential area with all necessities within walking distance like the Belgian cafe across the road.

Top Things To Do In and around Tokyo with Kids 

Disney land and Tokyo Sea World– Book the Disney resorts or hotels for comfortable transfers and other benefits. If you are staying out like us, reach the resort at the opening time of 8 am by subway to Maihama station. Also, plan and book according to the footfall on those particular days. Check it here: Disney Crowd Calendar

Ueno Park. Visit this park for:

Ueno Zoo| National Museum of Nature and Science| Shinobazu Pond |Tokyo National Museum| National Museum Of Western Art| The Ueno Royal Museum

Hakone Day Trip

Even on a short trip to Japan, it is imperative to move away from Tokyo to understand the flow of energy, beauty and calm which is part of Japanese life all across the country. The best way to do this is to take a one or two-day trip to Hakone which is less than 100 km from Tokyo. Part of Fuji- Hakone- Izu National Park, It’s a hilly area with fantastic views of Mt Fuji from various locations like Lake Ashi, Ropeway stops, Hotels and more.  Read:  Japan- Complete Guide to Hakone visit from Tokyo – Hakone Free Day Pass

Kamakura Beach

If the weather is good head out to the beaches around Tokyo. Train rides with slightly more than an hour will get you there.

        Hato Bus Tour is perfect to know the cities routes and various famous shrines. We loved the tour and especially our visit to Meiji Shrine located in a 170-acre jungle in the heart of the city.  Click here to Book a Hato Bus Tour

Museum of Maritime Science

Lego land

Boat Tours

Tsukiji Fish Market

Planning the Japan TRIP

Japan Visa (http://www.vfsglobal.com/japan/india/)

At INR 1150 is super cheap if you are applying from India. They would generally give a multiple-entry visa with a maximum stay depending on your itinerary. Document checklist is available online and the whole process takes almost seven working days. Also, check out JAL Airways for Promotional offers.

Japan Railway Pass (https://www.jrailpass.com/)

For travelling within Japan though you have a lot of flight options, I would highly recommend buying a JR pass. If you buy a single ticket, it can be very expensive but a JR pass will start saving you money from the first trip itself Stations are located centrally and are easy to approach. Frequency is enough for you to make a pretty flexible plan just in case of any last minute changes. They have options for 7, 14 and 21 days. Special discounts for kids and senior citizens. If it is a last minute trip, you can buy it from an authorised travel agent in your city too. Insist on the free Japan travel guide with it.

Note: has to be bought outside Japan before arrival.

For more information on JR pass click: Complete Guide to Buying and using a Japan Rail Pass

Travel Insurance

It is one of the most important things for the trip. I’ve sworn by it since the day I started travelling internationally. Depending on the policy, it covers all your medical bills, lost luggage and other emergencies.

I recommend: ICICI Lombard and Bajaj Allianz

Pocket Wi-Fi Modems

They generally work for 10 devices and are very useful. It can save you loads of time, as you can check Train times, Shinkansen Train schedules, bus routes, locating restaurants and last minute Cab Bookings.

Book them on JR pass site or various other providers in Japan. They can be collected at the Airport from their respective counters as you land into Japan. You can also go directly and pay and pick up a device, but sometimes in peak season, they are out of stock. So do pre-book.

Links: https://www.jrailpass.com/pocket-wifi

https://www.econnectjapan.com/

https://www.pupuru.com/en/

Hotel Bookings

With few amazing apps, the process of booking rooms has become super easy.   I always research the things to do in a city and the book as close as possible to them within my budget. Booking in Japan was a little different; there are a few room types to choose from.

Ryokan | Cube Hotels| Vacation Rentals| Standard Hotels (Budget- Mid-range – Luxury)

Booking.com – If you are not sure but want to block the rooms without paying till a cutoff date.

Agoda.com | Expedia.com| Airbnb.com

We stayed at Mystay Hotel, Kyoto and Airbnb, Nippori Area, Tokyo

Tokyo Currency:

Cash is preferred at most places, and sometimes it can be difficult to find ATM machines in some part of the town or as you travel to lesser touristy areas of Japan. We were carrying Dollars, and our first exchange was at Narita Airport and remaining in the city.

1 INR = 1.76 JPY

1 USD = 107 JPY

Average Meal: 600 yen

Food on the Shelves (7 Eleven, Family Mart, Lawson, Daiso): 300 yen

Ramen and Gyoza (Momo/Dim Sum) in most of the restaurants are 300 yen too.

Don’t miss the most amazing bakery products available all across Japan

Apps to make it all Easy :

City Happenings: TimeoutTokyo| City Tourism websites

Finding Food: GoogleMaps|Yelp|Gurunavi|Bento.com| tabelog.com |openrice.com |opensnap.com

Booking Tours and Activities:  Japantravel | Viator |Tripadvisor |Visitacity

Transport: JREastTraininfo| Japanrail|Japantaxi|Navitime|Kyotobus |Googlemaps| Japanguide.com

Conversion rate– xCurrency

Lost in translation:  GoogleTranslate| Duolingo (learn basic Japanese)

Understanding Culture and Etiquette is essential in Japan. By following them, you are able to scratch the surface and get a better understanding of the place and a sense of belonging.   Empty your cup as you enter Japan, It has so much to teach and offer that it changes the way one lives. Read Complete guide to Japanese lingos and Etiquette Handy Guide to Japan Culture and Etiquette

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