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dq9 · 8 months ago
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Hey I gotta ask.
How do you find all of this yuri on ice art?
You reblog/queue/save so much of it and yet I wonder how you keep finding new stuff. Do you just have a super deep scroll on a tag permanently open? Did you queue it all in one like 48 hour scroll? Some secret third option? I gotta know
a few options, theyre all at least partially true!!
there are a bunch of active yoi blogs!! harocat, jewishvitya, neutronice, cecebeanie, vityascielo, and blended-ice of course all come to mind, but theres plenty more i havent mentioned that i can get all sorts of yoi art from. i have a fairly consistent stream of art to queue/draft/reblog/etc which keeps me queue goin
a lot of (anime) blogs active around the 2016/2017 era of tumblr will have smth yoi related on it. this includes my own old blog for instance, but plenty of ppl have tags taht stretch back years with plenty of new stuff for me to explore. or even just stuff i havent seen in awhile
theres blogs from back in the day, for instance, that got permission to repost art from other sites like pixiv onto tumblr, like story-kat!! story-kat posted fairly consistently up until this past year, and they have SUPER extensive tags with plenty of stuff to look thru
when my drafts were in the 4k range, most of that was done in a few concentrated bursts. id find blogs w yoi tags, like story-kat or neutronice, and look thru people THEY reblogged from, look thru their tags, look thru Their reblogs, so on and so forth. sometimes if someone didnt have tags but they did reblog lots of stuff at that time, id go thru their archive to see if there was anything new or fun or exciting.
yoi was super popular when it came out!!! theres nearly endless art and writings and meta, and lots of it is still being made now!! i follow the tag as well, so i see meta posts from people such as thegirlwhorideslikeasamurai, neutronice regularly gets art commissioned for their fics, blended makes fantastic art with so much heart and love. theres a lot to sift through, and all of it is great
thsi is like a super detailed answer but like tldr: art-cheology at work god bless tumblrs tagging system
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waning-star999 · 5 months ago
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The creator of this blog (aka, me) is a minor and is not comfortable with odd or suggestive comments on posts that aren’t meant to fit into those categories (cosplay images, art of minor characters, etc). Also, due to my age, expect me to be uneducated on many topics (sorry in advance!)
Most content will be of art and fan fiction, whether it’s my own or recommendations and reposts of others’.
I am not an artist. I have never been taught art and am fully self-taught (if it can even be called that). Hate or unwarranted/unwanted advice will not be tolerated and will be deleted.
There will not be any direct NSFW posts (highlighted scenes, art, reposts, etc will not show NSFW content) but the origin of the post may have NSFW scenes (originating fan fictions or art series may have NSFW elements)
There will be spoiler posts. This blog is not spoiler free! Sorry not really sorry for those who get spoiled
The main fandoms this blog will surround will rarely stay consistent. The ones that have stuck around the longest are as follows: Omniscient Reader’s Viewpoint (ORV), Heaven Official’s Blessing (TGCF), Scum Villain Self-Saving System (SVSSS), and Your Turn to Die (YTTD). These may be updated.
Some things I repost from other platforms may come from creators that also have Tumblr. I probably won’t tag them, but I will credit the original.
I will take mutuals of similar interests! But you’ll have to talk first most of the time, only until I get comfortable :)
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mdzsartreblogs · 1 year ago
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hey! i'm so glad i found your blog, its like a blessing to me! not exaggerating! i wanted to ask, do you have all official art from mdzs in your collection in your blog? like from the donghua, novel, game, and novel and all? i'm looking to make my own private mdzs art collection, so a reply would help!
also what would you suggest as the best sources for collecting mdzs official art? any twitter acc or zerochan?
Hi! Thanks for getting in touch!
I don't have all the official art, because there's just so darn MUCH of it, and because it's actually much more complicated to curate than most other art.
See, I try not to post duplicates, and usually I can easily ensure that by just searching for the artist and checking what of theirs I've posted, and/or by looking at the notes and just seeing if mdzsartreblogs is already in the "reblogged with tags" part of the notes.
But official art mucks that system all up because multiple people post it! I might have reblogged that piece, but not from that OP, and not in that post version. So if something isn't brand new, I'll often toss it in my likes for a later date when I can check if I've reblogged a different version of it, but I've been so busy recently that said later date really hasn't been coming, oops.
I also haven't been super consistent about reblogging art that's only on merchandise - sometimes I do, sometimes I don't, without much rhyme or reason. *sweatdrop*
There's also the complication, from the curation point of view, of where to draw the line on what counts as "art." So like...the donghua is composed of cels of drawn art, so should I count every screen cap I see of it as "official art" and reblog it? Or what about the manhua, the entire manhua is "official art," so should I try to collect every single panel? I've decided to draw the line on "no" for treating donghua screen caps as art for this blog, and I don't (usually) count comic pages from the manhua (though I've definitely made exceptions) but I'll reblog more "arty" stuff, like promo posters for the donghua, or chapter lead-ins for the manhua (or the incredibly sexy stuff that the manhua artist has been posting on Twitter of late, coughcough). But you may choose to draw the line in a different place, so what I have may not include whole categories that you'd want to collect.
That said, I've reblogged approximately 500 posts with official art over the almost three years I've run this account (three years this September!). And I can probably help a little with your question!
Resources from Me:
#official art on mdzsartreblogs: https://mdzsartreblogs.tumblr.com/tagged/official%20art
My (six months out of date) organization spreadsheet: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1nrSuFDL12MZ4O9_LFcbm7Tq47z_aiOl6I-xj8BNHs-c/edit?usp=sharing
This is the sheet I've used to organize these blogs and to keep the tags organized, though during 2023 I've had no time to maintain it. The reason I'm sharing it now is because the last sheet is a list of official artists (now a couple years out of date) with examples of their work and select links for finding them, so that might help.
Other Resources:
I don't really use twitter and have only vaguely heard of Zerochan, so I'm no help with those. Tumblr is my primary social media account, though I did recently make a Lofter account and I'm gonna try to find some official accounts there to follow directly. I can report back on that if people want, my Chinese isn't great tho so it's slow going and, as I've mentioned, I'm stupidly busy rn so it's hard to find the time.
For other Tumblr blogs that have a lot of official art, here's a few I know of that post it often:
@hanguangjunn - especially active recently, has done a lot of compilation posts that I don't always reblog because I often have some or all of the pieces as solo posts already
@t110n - posts a decent amount of MDZS, and posts official art for a huge range of danmei fandoms. One of my favorite blogs for that kind of thing; I super appreciate how much work they've put into sharing manhua art from a huge range of danmei fandoms.
@fluff-crt - also doesn't post everything, but is still active and has been active since before I joined the fandom; they also have posted some scanalations/translations and reposts with permission, though not as much recently.
@shandian-go - this is a Group Order account (the one I use personally, in fact, highly recommend) but from an art standpoint they're also a great resource for finding official merchandise art, as Mel always posts about the new merch with pictures and doesn't delete the posts advertising closed GOs.
@mdzs-equine-archive - posts official art that includes any equine (Apple, Lan Wangji's horse, etc.)
@minmoyu - in general, Minmoyu is one of the most incredible, helpful people I've found running a danmei account, and I've used resources they've written to help me buy print books, to find new danmei to read, and more. They also fairly regularly post official art, and have done so since the early days of danmei fandoms on Tumblr.
@p-h03n1-x - not active anymore, but used to post a lot of official art.
@zam81 - not super active, but basically all their posts are official art and/or photos for MXTX fandoms.
Those are the ones that spring to mind; if you scroll back through the tag on mdzsartreblogs and see who I've reblogged from, you'll spot some more; if you go back to waaaay in the beginning you'd probably be able to spot some folks who were more active once upon a time and are less around now (@aliceindanmeiland springs to mind, they haven't posted official MDZS art in a long time as far as I know, but were very active in the period when MDZS first hit Tumblr as a fandom, around the summer of 2018. Note that I personally joined the fandom in the fall of 2019.)
Hope this helps! Happy collection building!
-unforth
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unforth · 2 years ago
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I posted 1,378 times in 2022
363 posts created (26%)
1,015 posts reblogged (74%)
Blogs I reblogged the most:
@unforth
@subtlybrilliant
@ltleflrt
@foxofninetales
@fangrui
I tagged 1,376 of my posts in 2022
#art - 435 posts
#unforth rambles - 374 posts
#spn - 122 posts
#tgcf - 104 posts
#cql - 87 posts
#meme - 84 posts
#dmbj - 82 posts
#random - 81 posts
#destiel - 70 posts
#svsss - 57 posts
Longest Tag: 132 characters
#dear tumblr thank you for treating me like a fucking adult and letting me call bullshit and swear like the new york city native i am
My Top Posts in 2022:
#5
My five year old just said "don't they know lava is good? It makes new islands" while watching Moana and with a single sentence completely changed how I see a movie I've watched about a billion times.
450 notes - Posted February 10, 2022
#4
Every time I see a "Wei Wuxian isn't morally gray!" post I kinda want to interpret it as "He's morally black!" Because the alternative is to believe that so fucking many of you read "Wei Wuxian forced Wen Chao to self-cannibalize his legs" and went "this is a morally white action because I like Wei Wuxian and I don't like Wen Chao and also Wen Chao was mean first" and like literally drive me to despair that I share a fandom with so many people who think that's completely okay because Wen Chao was a bad guy so any level of harm to him is justifiable.
589 notes - Posted June 18, 2022
#3
Heyo Danmei Fans and Twitter Refugees!
Do you love danmei? Do you love fanart?
WELL HAVE I GOT THE SIDEBLOGS FOR YOU!
Hi, I'm unforth, and I also love danmei and fanart, and I wanted to just make a huge gorgeous pile of art and roll around in it so I've made and run for years eight, yes eight, side blogs of danmei art, all with the kind of organization and searchability that twitter can only dream of.
So, if you want to flood your dash with fanart (or if you're an artist and want a little assist getting more eyes on your work now that you're posting here - you can DM me or @/me), why not consider giving a follow to...
Mo Dao Zu Shi/Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation/The Untamed: @mdzsartreblogs
Tian Guan Ci Fu/Heaven Official's Blessing/Eternal Faith: @tgcfartreblogs
Ren Zha Fanpai Zijiu Xitong/Scum Villain's Self-Saving System/Scumbag System: @svsssartreblogs
Erha he Ta de Bai Mao Shizun/The Husky and His White Cat Shizun/Hao Yi Xing and Yuwu/Stains of Filth: @erhaartreblogs
Daomu Biji/The Graverobber's Chronicles/The Lost Tomb/Too Many Other Names to List: @dmbjartreblogs
Zhenhun/Guardian: @zhenhunartreblogs
Tian Ya Ke/Faraway Wanderers/Word of Honor and Qiye/Lord Seventh: @tykartreblogs
Literally Everything Else I Can Find (especially works by Meng Xi Shi, works by Priest, manhua on Bilibili, books by Fei Tian Ye Xiang, books by Please Don't Laugh (so yes, baihe too!), and so much more): @cnovelartreblogs
All blogs run on a queue; I post at a "the queue will last for 7 days" rate that changes more-or-less every day and varies from 30 to 40 posts a day (mdzsartreblogs) down to 1 to 2 posts a day (zhenhunreblogs) and everything in between.
Note that these spaces are all ship and let ship, don't like don't interact, and pro-kink. (I won't reblog everything, but I do reblog almost everything, and even if I'm personally too uncomfortable with something to reblog it - I SUPPORT YOU.) I tag extensively - you can check the pinned post on each blog for currently used trigger warnings (they're consistent across all the blogs) and many of the other tags I use for characters, ships, etc., and I strongly encourage you to use the tags to find That Rare Thing You Love, and also to blacklist anything that's not your thing. Antis kindly fuck off challenge.
Welcome to Tumblr (or welcome back, as the case may be), don't be a stranger, like and reblog works to support artists, and have fun!
(help signal boosting much appreciated. <3 )
668 notes - Posted November 7, 2022
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Saw a pic that reminded me of my favorite head-canon-i-forget-isnt-canon for TGCF.
Hua Cheng chose the San Lang form because that's how he wishes he looked when he first met Xie Lian. Like, Xie Lian is 17, a prince, an amazing martial artist, dressed in the finest robes in the kingdom of Xianle which specifically esteems luxe stuff. And fucking Hua Cheng has to meet him as a ratty little bandaged boy who just fell off a building. Way to fuck up the meet cute huh?
So when he gets a second third fourth look ive lost count okay chance to meet his idol he's had 800 years to imagine how he wishes it could have gone. And he ends up having two competing fantasies:
Fantasy 1: the suave mysterious stranger who sweeps Xie Lian off his feet and leaves him wanting more.
Fantasy 2: the sweet good-looking boy next door, about the same age, knowledgeable enough to impress this prince who's strengths are physical and social.
And Hua Cheng, being the extra ghost king he is, decides - ¿porque no los dos? - and enacts BOTH those fantasies.
(Something something not all eggs in one basket?)
And that's why San Lang Looks Like That.
905 notes - Posted August 14, 2022
My #1 post of 2022
Sometimes I think this is the darkest timeline and then I see the New York Times literally sharing Goncharov fanart
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(art is credited to Elena Asofsky, no idea what their Tumblr name is, sorry. Article is here.)
...and I realize that the timeline can always get darker. (but it will never be as dark as the end of Goncharov, wtf was up with that?)
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ggukkiereads · 4 years ago
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Hi 💓
It is the month of Ramadan and I want to avoid reading any smutty/steamy fics for the month. Which is why I was wondering if you have any Jungkook or Taehyung non smut fic recs? It can be fluff or anything just no explicit sex scenes. Thank you for your recommendations you are literally my favorite page on this platform 💜✨
🌷 Hello @dhabatae101. First, I wish you and other followers a happy, safe, and blessed Ramadan. Ramadan Mubarak! ✨
I decided to answer this right away so I tried compiling my reblogs (plus those fics I haven’t reviewed yet) and authors that “specialize” in fluff/angst. However, the list went on and on 🤭. So, I will split this post into two:
Part 1: authors that have more SFW content in their catalog (you are here)
Part 2: non-smut fics (my reblogs + other recs) - Taehyung | Jungkook
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(Fluff/Angst) Smut-less Fics | Taehyung & Jungkook
🌷 Part 1 (Recommended Authors)
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@jimlingss - Kina’s masterlist is just a dream. No two stories are the same and every fic is just memorable. A truly prolific and consistent writer. Usually witty, fluffy, and charming but the angsty fics are also deadly. I posted my fave JJK and KTH fics -  the Worshipers Series can be read independently but better if read sequentially to better understand the “universe”. The Slice of Life Series  is also a must, but you can read the KTH and JJK fics on their own but I seriously love ALL 💖.
Worshipers of the Sky - KTH | series [3/3] | 35k | God AU, Goddess!OC, Sacrifice!Taehyung, Worshipers Series | F, some A
Worshipers of the Sea - JJK | one shot | 16.3k | Pirate AU, Mermaid AU, God AU,  Worshipers Series  | F, A
President’s Son - KTH | series [20/20] | 80k | Bodyguard AU (reader), Slice of Life Sereis, Slow Burn | F
Sugar and Coffee - JJK | series [23/23] 101k | Patisserie School AU, Best Friend AU, Enemies to Lovers (slight), Slice of Life Series | F
Love So Shallow - KTH | series [3/3] | 34.8k | College AU, eventual Roommate AU, Best Friend AU, Humor | F, slight A  ⭐ #holygrailfic
Black Waltz -  KTH | two shot | Butler AU, Historical AU | F, A (ah I love Taehyung’s characterization here)
Moirai - KTH | series [8/8] | 46.9k | isekai au, fantasy au, reborn as a villain in a video game | F, A
Rent a Boyfriend - KTH | I noticed this is a crowd favorite, it might end up yours too =)
A Fairy Crime - KTH | one shot | Fairy godmother OC to grant someone a happy ever after  | F, A, crack
Date in a Box - JJK | one shot | 9.7k | Date Planner (like wedding planner but make it a service for dating) | F, F, F
His Name - JJK | series [8/8] | 52.4k | Multiple Personality AU, based on Kill Me, Heal Me (this is one of my favorite Korean drama series so I really enjoyed this fic series too) | A
A Piece of Moonlight - JJK | one shot | 22k | Warrior AU, Mulan AU | really angsty though
*didn’t include Chess of Ice (since this is in the Jungkook Jock AU list)
@inktae - If you’ve been following me I always rave about this author. Mostly her work is of fantasy genre but has a slice of life tone. Her fics are just masterpieces - just beautifully written and viscerally gripping. They remind me of Ghibli films for some reason (like the tone). You can check their fics here (just avoid those with M, usually with sexual content but honestly it’s not explicit). I love everything but if you want to start somewhere, you can try:
Blue Orchids, Moonlight, Home After Rain -  JJK Soulmate AU, Hanahaki AU, Angst  ⭐ #holygrailfic
First Light - KTH x R x JJK | raved about it here (angst)
Away From the Sun - KTH | soulmate AU
The train of lost souls - JJK, feat JHS | fantasy AU | A
The swirling Ways of Stars - JJK, fantasy | A, F
@gukyi - for your enemies to lovers needs. This is one of my favorite tropes so I just love that there is a writer that ‘specializes” in this. Please check their masterlist and take note of fics with (smut). Try:
Four Weeks - KTH, College AU, stuck in campus for four weeks during Christmas
Good Luck Charm - KTH, roommates, actor AU
Moonlight Melody + Part 2 - JJK, fake dating, orchestra AU | F, A
Coffee Shop Contract - JJK, fake dating, college AU | F
If I Told You - JJK, college, unrequited love/pining | F, A
Midas - JJK, magical realism | F, A
Love Project - JJK, comedy, photography assignment | F
@koorara - ugh I just adore their writing. Tooth-rotting fluff seems effortless with her drabbles/short stories. You can check their fics here. My faves:
Driving Me Wild - JJK, demon au, roommate au, ongoing drabble series but you can read it (not cliffhanger-ish), soulmate au | my review (tooth-rotting fluff)
His Dandelion - KTH, someone sent an ask about this you can read the description | A
Down and Down - JJK | MMA fighter, slight making out | A, F
The Pitter Patter of the Heart - skip the drabble with mature content, husband au, lecturer jungkook, this is super cuuuute | tooth-rotting fluff
@suhdays - it’s just amazing to find a writer with a non-smut catalog. Writing is just pure and focused on the plot and emotional/character development. Please give their masterlist lots of love. My faves:
Access Granted - I like hacker Jungkook. SMAU format
A Cinderella Story - JJK | also based on the movie | F, A
Wherever You Are - JJK | vampire, ceo (I love this) | A, F
Terms of Endearment - JJK | poet jjk x artist reader | F
Bucket List - JJK | friends to lovers (this is adorable! my review of this is still in the drafts like the rest of the fics 😥) | F, slight A
Camp Crush - KTH | brother’s best friend (this is funny like I was just smiling all throughout)
Made of Honor -  KTH | SMAU, recently completed! Like the movie
Baby I’m a Fool - JJK | Fake Dating, Co-worker AU, E2L | F, A
@vanaera - her Yoongi coworker E2L series is something I’m always waiting for and  I don’t think her other fics contain smut. Please check The Prince and His Rose (bestfriend AU, College AU, childhood friends, football player x writer!reader Jungkook, fluff/angst)
@namjoonchronicles - so I recently binged on this author’s writing (still bingeing on her other members’ fics). Their catalog has a lot of Domestic AUs which are beautiful slice of life pieces. It could be as simple as folding the laundry but it would be so meaningful. I said in one of my reviews that their domestic fics has same vibes as illustrator Puung’s Love is in Small Things. I would like to post my favorites here but I think I recently just reviewed/reblogged tons of their work (you can search my blog for the reviews). Please check their masterlist. Granite Glow is my ⭐ #holygrailfic
@rosaetae​ - if you like angst that hurts but it all makes sense why the situation had to be angsty, then her masterlist is something to binge on. Not all are angsty, just mind the tags for pure “fluff”. My favorites:
The Bedtime Contract - KTH, roommates, enemies to lovers, sort of cuddle buddy?, fluff but there’s slight angst | F, A
Dream a Little Dream of Me - KTH, soulmate au, could hear soulmate’s voice, waitress x songwriter | 
Lavender + Vanilla - KTH,  a story about a boy who had forgotten his memory of you
Chrysanthemum Effect - KTH (JJK has a side story too), Hanahaki AU
Among the Evergreen  - JJK, Christmas AU, E2L | F
Sweet Apple Biscuits - JJK, receives letter from their future self asking to save one boy ⭐ | A, slight F
Best Thing He Never Had 01 02 03 04 05 06  - JJK, bestfriends to lovers | A, F
Better Late Than Never - JJK drabble, exes AU, fake dating (I love this scenario, there’s one funny moment here with Jungkook saying his feelings through a door) | A, F
@justimajin - another favorite of mine - her fics actually try different genres/scenarios and are usually series. I find it fun to wait on episodes weekly. A consistent writer too. See masterlist here. Selected works:
Catching a Case of Doctor Blues - KTH, medical AU, enemies to lovers, slice of life
Swapped - JJK, body swap, really fluffy! I reviewed it before and screamed at how fluffy this is 😍 | tooth-rotting fluff
A Lone Wolf’s Howl - JJK, werewolf AU, sort of enemies/rivals, hunter AU, bestfriend. Note: there is a chapter with smut, you can skip that portion | A, F, S
@bubmyg​ - oh wow her works are just tooth-rotting fluffy goodness too (especially the Yoongi drabbles/one shots). But please check her fics for Tae and Koo. My picks:
Can’t Fake a Feeling - KTH, F2L, Fake Dating, College AU, Fuckboy (not smut)
Extra Cheese Sauce, Please - KTH, F2L, College, friends keep setting them up
Strawberry Boy - JJK, I just reblogged this weeks ago so you probably have read this | tooth-rotting fluff
Wonder - pool boy!jungkook x journalist!reader | F
Not a Date - JJK | one shot + drabble series, kinda E2L. cute |  tooth-rotting fluff
Dare to Begin - JJK | college au, idiots to lovers, broke college students |  tooth-rotting fluff
gcfguk + idcilh - a youtuber!jeongguk drabble series | F
you can check their masterlist for the other drabbles and fics I haven’t read/included
@cupofteaguk - a writer whose fics end up in my fic rec lists regularly. When I get asked about certain tropes, I always remember one or two of her fics. Their Reputation Series is binge-worthy but they also have plenty of scenarios/tropes to choose from. You can find a lot of KTH or JJK fluff-based fics here (or other members too):
the maze to you - KTH |  soulmate au | angst
along the boardwalk - KTH | skater boy/college au | fluff
it’s all fun & games - JJK | fake dating au | fluff
say you won’t let go - JJK | soulmate au | fluff
on the road (to you) - JJK |  road trip/strangers to lovers au | fluff
new romantics - JJK | hogwarts au, quidditch player, enemies to lovers | F, A
@crystaljins - another writer with fics that have well-developed plot, great angst and great endings. I recommend all (check other members’ fics here). Extra love for:
Take a Chance - JJK | series [7/7] | 63k | Hanahaki AU, Coworker AU, Boss!Reader, Wedding Planner AU | A, F | My review  ⭐ #holygrailfic
Schemes and Tricks to Win Her Heart - KTH | series [5/5] | 22.5k | Fake Dating, feat Chaebol/Rich Seokjin, Taehyung is Jin’s Little Brother, and OC is Tae’s bestfriend
I haven’t read the new Taehyung Christmas fic yet but give it a spin =)
@springbean - I love her story concepts and ideas! When I discovered her, I just binged on their work and I enjoy every new fic she releases. My personal favorites are listed below, but you can also check her masterlist here:
Onyx - JJK | cyberpunk AU, abo dynamics (it is sooo interesting to use abo dynamics this way. Usually abo is associated with werewolf aus but this is like a social classification system in this fic. It is still ongoing but it’s the type of story you can read and remember easily so in case it gets updated you can jump into the next chapter)  ongoing | A, F
Wolfsbane - KTH | Werewolf AU, college, soulmates (included in my KTH werewolf fic recs)
Cursed - JJK | Prince x Mage/Witch, Fantasy, Medieval, E2L, action (basically has all AUs I like) ongoing
Enshrined - JJK | this is new! fantasy, fae world, isekai, childhood friends, eventual smut (?) but since we’re not there yet you can still read it smut-less  ongoing
@army-author - another prolific writer with a catalog you can binge on. I recently reblogged/reviewed some of my favorites but believe me there are more (I am just lazy with reviewing and such). Personal faves:
Gamomania - JJK | childhood friends | tooth-rotting fluff, slight S
X and O - KTH | fake dating, single parent, teacher AU
A Monster Crush - KTH | childhood friends, angst, fluff, horror, implied S   ongoing
All This Stigma - KTH | fwb au, unplanned pregnancy, arranged marriage, divorce, really angsty but I love it!
The Village Idiots - JJK | soulmate au, childhood friends, they’re soulmate-less (or are they?) |  tooth-rotting fluff
The Alchemy of Amor - JJK | fantasy au, royalty au, enemies to lovers (new) | F
Fire and Ice - JJK | oh this is probably the first I’ve read from the author, E2L but make it fluffy rivals (he’s fire and she can yield ice), fantasy au, magic | F
Black and White Christmas - JJK | Office AU | F
@thedefinitionofbts - I love how emotionally invested I get when reading their fics. Most of their fics are smut-less but deeply rooted in emotions so I remember the story a lot even if I’ve read some years or months ago (I said in my werewolf fic rec list that there’s this Jungkook fic of theirs that’s really sad and I still imagine him waiting for OC.) Just powerful storytelling. You can check their masterlist and mind the fics with smut. I wanted to list my favorites here but I’ll end up listing everything. If you want to start a fic, I recommend:
A Story that We Paint - KTH x R x JJK | Sci-fi, College AU, Lucid Dreams AU | A, slight F
Our First and Last - JJK, VMIN | Soulmate AU, Sci-Fi | A, F
Kingdom of Crystal Snow - KTH | Christmas, Royalty (yay something purely fluffy)
Corner of the Universe - KTH | Reincarnation AU
other fics I like have S content or too sad
@threeletterslife - I love her fics because they make me dwell and ponder on things but themes are very heavy (I think she has one crack fic though). No smut and you can try all her works if you are in the mood for angst, some pondering, etc. Masterlist here. You can read the Love Chaser Series (though you have to read the Yoongi series first before reading Jungkook’s, it’s one universe).
Whipped with a Cherry on Top - KTH | friends to lovers, crack
The Time Traveler’s Playbook - KTH | time travel AU | F, A
Cuss Out - JJK | High school AU, crack | F
@artaefact - just feel good scenarios and I love her drabbles! I’ve reblogged and oohed aahed over the drabbles that are short but powerful scenarios.
incandesce + warmth drabble - JJK  (safe to say, you can read all their drabbles) | F
Aeturnal - KTH | fantasy au, royalty au (I loooove this. it has inexplicit S though, you can skip)
A Letter in Roses - KTH | husband au, valentine au
Calling You Mine - JJK | College AU, S2L, tooth-rotting fluff 
@augustbutwinter - a writer to watch out for. August delivers so much even with minimal word count; they can get you emotional (fluffy or angsty) and it is so easy to visualize the image she is trying to describe. Just wonderful. The words just flow easily too so the fics are not difficult to read/imagine. I recommend the ff:
My Tears Ricochet - KTH | ghost AU, roommate AU, fluff (sometimes angsty), drabble series ⭐⭐
Rose Coloured - JJK | post college AU, some sort of reunion with an old flame | F
@akinnie75 - What a wonderful storyteller. I would binge on her fics for their plot/storylines. Usually it feels as if you are reading a tale. Several of their fics ended up in my #holygrailfics (the namjoon and jimin ones). You can try:
Ghost Marriage - JJK | fantasy, idol au, kind of arranged marriage | A, F
Until Spring 1 | 2 - JJK | Romance, Fantasy, visited the Freesia Island for Spring but taken for Arranged Marriage instead | A, F
Moonchild - KTH | a tale about the legendary Moonchild, a mythical creature known for its ability to heal life of all sorts
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I’d also like to recommend checking the fics in each of the reading lists and Fic Recs by theme. You’ll find these lists in the NAVI page. Fics/Titles included per list are usually tagged for A/S/F content.
I will update this once I remember other authors that focus on A/F
Part 2 (Fic Recs) - linked top of this post
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eternal-moss · 2 years ago
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Hello! This blog is now pretty much exclusively to reblog things from, I doubt I’ll be posting (art at least) on here anymore I’m afraid.
Things I like: -Genshin impact -Dunmeshi (Dungeon Meshi/Delicious in Dungeon) -Boboiboy (mainly the galaxy/comics) -Tgcf (Heaven’s Official blessing/天官赐福) -Comic aurora (webcomic by OSP Red) -Stex (Starlight Express, all iterations) -Vnc (A Case Study of Vanitas/Les memoires de Vanitas)
I always have my asks open! Although I’m scared of talking to people, I enjoy getting asks :D
Information!
-18 B)
-You can call me Moss :D (internet pseudonym, don’t come at me for not using my real name lol)
-She/her
-Ace ♠️💜, and a lover of women 🧡💖
-I <3 Linguistics & languages- I’m only confident in mainly posting in English, but I have some ability in Mandarin, Welsh, Spanish and Latin.
-I have an ao3 account (EternalMoss) [I do use it a fair amount! Mainly for reading and sometimes for writing too~]
I’m not the most active person online in terms of posting things, due to disorganisation, having little free time and just general fear of other people online 😅
Tags:
I try to keep a fairly consistent tagging system. I always tag characters as [First name][Last name], or vice versa depending on language naming conventions, so you can search for them that way. I also tag Chinese names in Chinese.
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katnissdoesnotfollowback · 3 years ago
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hi! 👋🏻 Ur a really awesome writer! i was just wondering if I could ask for some tips? maybe some advice or insight on how to deal with it when you’re not receiving the response you wish for?
Dear Anon,
I'm afraid I'll be making a few assumptions in order to answer this, so please forgive me if I'm way off. I'm guessing you're speaking about fanfiction writing specifically, and perhaps are fairly new-ish to posting your fanfic? Or maybe you've been posting for awhile and are getting discouraged from a lack of response.
Fair warning, pretty much none of this advice is easy to follow, and I still struggle with it sometimes too, but I do think it has helped me. It may not help you, as everyone is different and most of this is pulled from my own personal experiences. I truly hope it does help you though, because posting something you've worked so hard on and put so much love into, only to get little to no response, really sucks.
Something to remember before I dive in is that all of this advice is based on the idea that everyone fandoms in their own way and at their own pace. This includes you the writer -- we're always talking about don't pressure writers to update or make them feel bad if they can't produce because there's a person on the other side of the screen who isn't getting paid for this and is dealing with their own life... But Fandom is a community and a relationship. So you have to allow them the readers the same courtesy.
So here we go:
1) Timing can have a HUGE impact on the response you get. Sometimes you post right before or right after an established writer posts a long awaited update. Sometimes literally everyone in the fandom is posting on the same day. It can often feel like feast or famine around here when it comes to fan created works. There's no giant publishing companies staggering our releases so everyone's gets some kind of attention. Instead, we're a milieu of posting and yours just... might get shuffled to the bottom. How do you deal with this? Give yourself permission to reblog your own stuff at different times. It's okay to plug yourself a little. You worked hard on it and maybe somebody just missed it.
2) Kind of goes with the first... Exposure. AO3 has a great tagging system, but it also shows things in the order of posting, newest at the top. This means that if you post something to AO3 and it gets buried under things that post after yours, then it is less likely to be seen. Now, there are readers who will scour the tags and read literally everything in them and still be ravenous for more. Bless those sainted readers for their time and enthusiasm. BUT most readers aren't like that. This means that you can't always just put it up on AO3 and be done with it, and the readers will pour in!!!! Maybe... but probably not. This is one of the reasons why I still have a tumblr. It's another source of exposure and I have a little more access to more eyeballs/ears. Post here about your work. People get intrigued if you have inspiration pictures, songs, little snippets up on your blog. Part of the fandom experience is that ability to interact with the creators in a way that the vast majority of us simply cannot do with the creators of the source material.
Participate in challenges or group blogs, if there are any available and you have the time. In terms of the Everlark and THG fandom... it's an older fandom with very little to zero new source content. Which means the activity will be in constant ebb and flow. Famine or feast... and this is going to include reader response. If the rate of creation of fanworks fluctuates, then people will wander away and return. Don't even try to find consistency in the level of response you get because you won't get it. For example, there was a drabble I posted well over a year ago that barely got any notes. Well, someone reblogged it recently and it's suddenly gaining notes, and not just from people who are new to the fandom either. From people who simply missed it the first time around for one reason or another.
Understand that even if you do this, even if you directly ask people to read your stuff, they might not do it. They might read it and not like it. Just like you are under no obligation to produce fanfiction at the rate the fandom wants, they are under no obligation to read and like your stuff at the rate you want. :/ The fandom door swings both ways.
3) And this one's not easy.... accept that sometimes... it is not about you. Everyone fandoms in their own way and at their own pace. This means there will be readers who read everything they can get their hands on. They might miss your works anyways for one reason or another because they're still human too. There will be readers who will not like your writing, either because there is something in the style or the content that just isn't their thing. This is not an insult towards you or your writing style. It is merely a reflection of the widely varying tastes we as readers have. Examples!
Someone once told me that they liked my fanfiction so much because there is something about the way I use the English language that made it easier for them (a non-native English speaker) to understand the story. I can't even tell you what it is about my writing that apparently gives it this quality, only that it worked for someone. I say this only to point out that for the most part, you have ZERO control over how people react to your writing.
Preferences are a BIG THING to fandom readers. I am not a big fan of huge age gaps or huge power differences. Student/teacher? Nope. Not my bag. Really not a fan of dubious consent being treated as romantic. Now I've read some of those pieces, but very sparingly because it's not something I really enjoy so finding one I do like is difficult. There are writers who I've tried and I just can't... either because of the tropes they frequently use or the way they characterize the characters just doesn't jive with me, or because they (SERIOUS PERSONAL PREFERENCE HERE) heavy load the exposition up front in their stories which leads to them telling us what's going on or what the world is like rather than SHOWING us. But that's my preference. I don't read anything that's even close to something I'm writing myself because we're already all playing with the same source material. The last thing I want to do is inadvertently pull inspiration from another fan writer and make them feel like crap for it. So right now... I read zero Olympics, zero witchcraft fics, zero shapeshifters... I can't say other people do that but hey, maybe they do.
These are my personal preferences in what I read. Does that mean that if you write those things, I think you're not worthy of recognition or response? Hell no. Because there are readers out there who want those things. But I am, as a reader, very unlikely to even spend the time reading your work if it falls into those categories. As a writer... this means that when I write anything that I know people might be averse to, I CANNOT TAKE OFFENSE. I have to, as the writer, accept that it isn't necessarily about me, acknowledge that there are A MILLION REASONS why someone might not be reading my writing and accept it as being OKAY. Does this make sense?
My point in speaking about my own preferences is merely to highlight that all of us are different and fandom differently. So chances are pretty good that someone out there will like what you write but you will never ever EVER please everyone. Don't even try. You might only appeal to a few people, but I'm willing to bet if you're writing niche then those people are going to be OVER THE MOON for it. But again... If I am allowed to have preferences in what I read, then I have to allow everyone else in the fandom that same right. I have to allow and accept that there WILL be people who don't like my writing. Who think it's awful or overrated or awkward or incomprehensible. That is their opinion and they are allowed to have it. Now, of course, fandom etiquette says you shouldn't SAY that to someone but that's a whole different post. ;)
Also... there are readers who do not read fics unless they are complete. That's their preference and you have to allow for it. Now, it makes it discouraging for a newbie writer who doesn't have a fic under their belt so... either try to spit out some drabbles or oneshots to garner interest in your writing or.... have some patience.
4) So... write for you. Yes yes I hear everyone groaning and complaining, really kdnfb? That cliche???? Yes. Really. So here's the thing. Let's say you've got a birthday coming up. You're stoked for this birthday. It's going to be EPIC! You've asked for this way cool jacket you saw in a thrift store and tickets to see your favorite band in concert. Your birthday rolls around and... your Mom gives you cash to go buy the jacket, but not the tickets. Is your birthday ruined? Is it the worst birthday ever? Heck no! Look at your bad self in that awesome sauce jacket! You rock!
What I'm saying is, find something in your writing that YOU like. That YOU are proud of. "I really love my world building in this piece." "I wasn't sure I could pull off that character alteration but I really think i did." "I actually posted smut *GASP!*" Whatever it is, bask in it. But don't hinge your happiness on other people on this one. I'm trying to say, want more than one thing out of your writing. Wanting something for yourself makes it easier to handle when you don't get something from anyone else. Is this easy to do? Nope. It sure as shit is not. But this is why we writers are always freaking complaining about how hard writing is. Onward!
5) Respond. Fandom is an interactive community and people can be shy, nervous, feel awkward, a thousand things. This is again a personal preference of mine, but I try very hard to respond to every comment left to me on AO3 and every ask sent to my inbox. The exceptions are the blatant bullshit hate and someone who is clearly trying to start a fight. Hopefully you're not dealing with that and never do. ff.net is a hot mess and I haven't even logged on in years because they never make anything easy, so I haven't answered those reviews in ages. And I always get turned around responding to comments left on tumblr posts and in the tags so I'm bad about that... But I will eventually, religiously answer every comment in my AO3 inbox. Anyways. My point!
You've already bravely put yourself out there by posting your work? Bravo! Somebody takes the brave step to comment on it? THANK THEM FOR IT. No seriously. I'm convinced I've got at least half a dozen regular commenters who stuck around in part because I THANKED THEM FOR IT. Community. Two way street. Show love to the readers who worked up the courage to give you the love and it will multiply. Now, not everyone does this, I know. Some people will say that posting your writing is showing enough love to the fandom, you shouldn't have to do this extra step... and they're not WRONG, I'm simply offering this as a piece of advice that I think has helped me gain an amazing level of response.
6) Nobody likes to feel guilty or like they're being guilted into reading something/liking something. It's okay to say that you're not getting the kind of response you want, or that you feel like you put a lot of effort into this and got very little traffic on it. Because it's a valid feeling and it sucks to feel that way. BUT if you're constantly posting about it or complaining about it, then that is going to drive people away... it is. I'm sorry. So maybe temper how often you do this. It's a balance between expressing your frustration and alienating people, and it's not simple. I wish I could tell you it was.
6) Try not to be jealous of other writers. I'll admit this is one of the top two hardest bits of advice I'm going to put on this list. There is always a bigger name writer. There is always someone out there for whom a lot of people in the fandom will drop everything to go read their updates. And it's frustrating to witness that and not have that kind of attention yourself. It's especially difficult if you're a fandom reader and you don't see the great things in those uber popular writers what everyone else seems to see. But again... everyone fandoms at their own pace, in their own way. Readers have preferences and that's not necessarily a reflection on you. You cannot expect them all to respond the way you want them to. Easy to do? Nope nope noooooope.
7) Expect exactly zero people to read your material. That's right I said zero.
ZERO. NONE. NADA. ZILCH! THE BIG FAT GOOSE EGG!!!!
Is this easy? ahahahahahahahhahahahahaha. This is probably the hardest piece on the list, and I'm sure a lot of people are going to be infuriated by my even suggesting it. But you asked my advice and this is an attitude that I have worked very hard to cultivate in myself. I'm still not always successful, and I'm also aware that I'm saying this from a position of extreme comfort in terms of reader response. I've been in this fandom a long ass time, through A LOT of ebbs and flows, and I'll be the first one to admit that I likely gained a large portion of faithful readers because when the initial dip of creator activity happened after the movies were done being released, I was still writing... A LOT. That era was perhaps one of my most prolific and since a lot of creators lost interest and moved on, readers flocked to the few writers still producing. So yep. I gained readership by fandom attrition. It's okay, it happens. Can't tell you how I kept so many of them for as long as I have...
EDIT TO ADD: If you expect nobody to read it, imagine how ecstatic you'll be when somebody does. But the point is, since so much of this is out of your control, and because there are a thousand reasons why you might not be getting the response you want, this attitude happened to work for me. Maybe it'll work for you too, maybe not. Worth a shot, though.
8) Give it time. You cannot cannot CANNOT expect immediate attention. And if you've been here awhile and you're still not gaining the response you want? Well... hopefully some the advice here helps you deal with that. Try to shift your attitude and perspective, as difficult as that might be. Because you can't force people to read, to like, to respond. You can't. So again, if you tie your happiness in fandom writing to the level of response you get, it's only going to end badly.
I hope this helps, Anon. I know it's not easy. Trust me. I started writing for Everlark in 2013, the year Catching Fire the movie was released. My god that was a chaotic time of just furious production. And I was one of the little newbie fish in a huge pond of Big Name creators. Hang in there, love. Because if it's something you love to do, then you can weather some discouragement.
Happy Writing!
<3 kdnfb
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lonestarbabe · 5 years ago
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do you have any lone star or 911 blog suggestions? i just ditched me 911 side blog and started tumblr life fresh with a whole new main blog, so i'm looking for new people to follow, also do you have any suggestions for just getting involved in the fandom altogether?
Hello! I do have some suggestions, but I will warn you, my list is pretty limited because it’s very hard to find good 911 Lone Star blogs because many are multifandom and harder to discover. Anyway, all the more reason to share what I have.
It’s exciting that you’ve broken from your side blog. I will be stuck here as a side blog forever, which can be limiting, so I’m glad you’ve made the switch. 
I tried to focus on blogs that have recent and consistent 911 Lone Star content, at least during the season, and many of them happen to multifandom so keep that in mind. Many of them also love 911 OG! I’m sure I missed important people I follow because it’s hard to weed through my follow list, so I’m sorry if I do. I’ve also provided some reasons why I love these people, mostly to give these wonderful humans some much-deserved love. (in no particular order just thrown out however my jumble mind sees fit)
First of all, @mybaby-tk, I love your blog and am always glad to see your posts, so you’d definitely make my list of blog suggestions. Lots of good takes. Lots of 911 Lone Star content. I cannot wait for more of your stuff.
@buckleystrand is a must. Some of the prettiest gifs, cute fics that make my heart leap, and just an overall really cool person. I think we’re blessed to have someone so talented in this fandom. 
@evaneddie is the #1 Marjeo fan (and I’m glad about that). They are a great contributor of gifs and also 911 OG content. I’m so glad to see them on my dash and to have someone providing good writing as well as gifs.
@bluestar22x a real fandom hero who always engages with posts. I love seeing this blog and their comments pop up because you always have interesting things to see. Such a great person and has a great tagging system for those who like that kind of thing (would be amazing if Tumblr liked to make tags fully functional haha).
@eveningspirit is also excellent. A wonderful writer (one of my faves) and I think we tend to like the same kind of stories, so TASTE! Seems really sweet and she just has 10/10 vibes. Is great at enunciating thoughts. A real fandom gem.
@bucktks Loves Ronen very much. Makes pretty gifs that I could spend hours looking at. Seems like a very cool human. Aesthetically pleasing blog.
@tylerkennedystrand is one of the first people I found who posted Lone Star content. Lots of multifandom content but still and excellent person in the Lone Star fandom.
@itsnotamarriageproposal TARLOOOSSSSSS I mean that’s pretty much all I have to say and you can feel my passion for this blog.
@lovelessmotel not fully Lone Star, but enjoyable all-around content that seems to fit well with things I like. Very pretty theme. Seems like a cool person.
@reyesstrand this is a Lone Star side blog so you can expect pretty much all lone star content. Wonderful posts. A writer. Just a great blog overall that I enjoy looking at.  
@homeinda-blue has a lot of great thoughts. Multifandom. Mostly text posts sharing these thoughts. Has some good insight that never occurred to me before. A really wonderful person!
@daybreak96  Multi-fandom. Shares lots of cool Rafa content. I just really like this blog. I found this blog looking through the tag, and I’m so glad that I did because I really enjoy it.
@adrianintown Lots of great ideas that I love seeing. A blog that has a good mix of different kinds of posts. Seems like a super smart and fun person. Also likes Animal Kingdom. Writes good stuff.
@soclosebutyetsofar is a blog that mostly focuses on Tarlos but also is in other fandoms such as the 100 and Roswell NM. Great content. I haven’t been following long, but I’m really glad I did.
@911lonestarweek For all the fun of 911 Lone Star Week to keep us entertained during the hiatus. 
@mattcasey AMAZING GIFS. Reblogs  A LOT of Lone Star content. A real friend to content creators and I’m glad to see it. Excellent taste in content. You’ll see 911 mixed in as well as some other fandoms.
@harvestleaves LOTS of 911 Lone Star content. Super supportive of content creators and REBLOGS. Lots of cute writing that I love seeing. I’m so glad that I found this blog.
@bellakitse is one of my favorite writers in this family. Creates excellent content. is multifandom, but I really love this blog a lot and I’m appreciative of all the amazing writing we are given.  
@ronenrubinstein a variety of content, but lots of Lone Star love, and Ronen love, and Ronen as a Harry Styles stan love. Really, I saw Harry and 911 Lone Star in one blog and thought it had to be good. I was right.
@spookycass A nice bright theme that is very sunny. Really great content. Seems like a nice person and I’m glad I follow this blog.
@tkandbuck A variety of content, but the 911 Lone Star stuff is really excellent, and I mean, TK and Buck… how could I not love this wonderful blog?
@tarloses A must follow for all the Tarlos lovers out there. A good balance of content that I enjoy very much.
@marjanmarwanis is allergic to poor leadership ;). I enjoy all the icons that she makes of the characters and cast. Also posts 911 OG icons. 
@a-gay-fish More 911 OG but also just a great blog that has excellent vibes and amuses me. I’m glad to have finally found this blog (better late than never). 
@onceuponatarlos A blog dedicated to Tarlos prompts, so does amazing work. 
@thompsonconnors Multifandom but a lot that I like, so it works for me. Makes nice gifs that I appreciate very much (excellent Grace gifs woooo)
@tylerkennedysstrand  lots of interests, but a fun blog to follow. Not to be confused with @tylerkennedystrand which I did for a while, but I have seen the light now and have realized that this excellent blog is a blog all of its own and worth checking out.
@pikku-myy Probably more of a 911 blog, but also posts Lone Star content and I enjoy the energy of this blog. 
@meneatyoghurt I read this url as me neat yoghurt for far longer than is acceptable, but I understand now and am enlightened. I also just love this blog. Lots of interesting thoughts. I love seeing this person pop up.
@embersinashes Another OG fan who I’ve seen write some really good thoughts on the show, and I love seeing on my dash. 10/10 content. 
@paul-strickland Might’ve been the first 9-1-1 Lone Star blog I followed, so clearly top-notch content and lots of it. Very cool edits. Also likes 911 OG and writes. She is a great addition to the fandom.
@tarlosgifs It is what it says on the tin, which is why all Tarlos lovers should give this blog a look.
@xtarlosx 911 and lone star (and some other fandoms). Lots of Tarlos love. Just accidentally pressed unfollow as I was writing this, but I followed again so we’re good lol. In general, just a great addition to my dash and posts just the right amount. 
@hearteyesemergency 911 but also lone star. This blog has a really good flow. Nice to look at with excellent content. 
@probiechavez  Also OG 911 fan. But is a 911 Lone Star side blog. Great content. Love seeing it on my dash. Probie Chavez, as in Mateo, and this blog deserve so much love.
@guesswhofern before starting this I said to myself DO NOT forget @guesswhofern because in my follow list this one is tucked between a bunch of other non Lone Star follows. Anyways, all the Lone Star content on this blog makes me happy, and this blog supports creators a lot, which is amazing.
@mtngirlforever a multi-fandom blog, but one you have to follow because of all the Lone Star talk that goes on there and a bunch of excellent content. One of my faves. Also, some Tarlos RP is that’s your thing. If it’s not, it’s tagged so fear not. Can’t say enough about this blog.
@actuallytkstrand multifandom.  Mostly 911 and Lone Star. A good balance of text and non-text posts. Just the right amount of content. Some good lone star memes (we don’t see enough) and good takes.
@thegayfleet a blog dedicated to gay things. Provides pics from lots of Ronen’s photoshoots. Also has a lot of other gay content and gifs from Lone Star and other shows with gay characters.
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1-800-444-tune · 5 years ago
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I have cancer ...PLEASE DONATE !!😫😪😔😞
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This is my main blog, I mostly do Tarot and other divination services on here, and most often it is for FREE. Which, this is NOT fair to me, but none of ya 'll know about my struggle.. bug it is real hear me out, yo.
ABOUT ME
I am nearly 30 years old now and I was actually first off diagnosed with Ovarian cysts at the age as young as 14 yrs old, yes, I was 16 by the time it went untreated and had spread all through my ovaries and to all the fallopian tubes and my uterus... then untreated still another couple years (because of poor health care in my smaller rural communities including my hometown) then at 19 my whole entire uterine lining was xomething of a mess, the doctors said basically all there woukd have been to prevent it from dpreading the cancer elsewhere would have been a full out take of my sexual organs , i believe the term is a hysterectomy....but on my paperwork i see here that it says that I was to undergo something else... + + The removal of an ovary together with the Fallopian tube is called salpingo-oophorectomy or unilateral salpingo-oophorectomy (USO). When both ovaries and both Fallopian tubes are removed.
But that did not happdn due to complications. So now, its spread to my other organs as youd guess, spleen, liver, kidneys, etc...it is a shitttSHOW I knowe.
This is why I would appreciate it if some one, any one would stand up for me ..just have a say in whether I eat today or not, or whether I stay in this residence without having to move this winter, I mean, Winter, its settling in.,,
I do not always feel totally blessed to be me; But ai I cannot complain when the bills is caught up and I gots good food at home(and the fight food, I am on a special expensive diet)
Cancer is expensive…AF!  If you have cancer, this is no news to you. But until cancer happened to me, I had no idea how expensive it truly was.  I think it’s safe to say that that seeing how much it will cost to undergo treatment is almost as frightening as getting the actual cancer diagnosis.  My diagnosis has definitely opened my eyes to the shocking reality of the financial burden that cancer causes for an individual and their family.  The astronomical expenses that accrue from treatments, tests, surgeries, scans, integrative therapies, etc are outrageous! While there are both public and private health insurance that defray medical and drug costs, huge out-of-pocket costs can be devastating to patients and force major changes in their lives. I’ve had to make several changes and my life has been affected indefinitely due to the financial burden that cancer has caused. The financial stress it causes for people during treatment until remission alone is hard, but imagine living with cancer where the treatments, doctor visits, tests and lifestyle adjustments are ever enduring, like when you have metastatic cancer.  It’s life altering… to say the least.
HOW MUCH DOES CANCER TREATMENT ACTUALLY COST?
This is an impossible question to answer. The cost of treatment obviously varies from individual to individual based on their diagnosis, the type of treatment they will require and the longevity of the treatment.  However, the “typical” cost of breast cancer looks a little something like this according to recent studies.
“For patients covered by health insurance, out-of-pocket costs for breast cancer treatment typically consist of doctor visit, lab and prescription drug copays as well as coinsurance of 10%-50% for surgery and other procedures, which can easily reach the yearly out-of-pocket maximum. Breast cancer treatment typically is covered by health insurance, although some plans might not cover individual drugs or treatments. For patients not covered by health insurance, breast cancer treatment typically costs $15,000-$50,000 or more for a mastectomy or $17,000 to $35,000 or more for a lumpectomy followed by radiation.”
New cancer drugs are being approved at a fast pace.  Numerous are approved each year and new drugs are constantly in trial and in the pipeline to be FDA approved. In the past, these drugs might cost around $10,000 for a year’s treatment. But newer studies have found that newly-approved cancer drugs carry price tags between $120,000 and $170,000!  One of the drugs I take as part of my daily cocktail, is a newly FDA approved drug called Ibrance… for heavily pretreated ER+ metastatic patients.  It has worked wonders for me but a month supply of this drug is over $12,000.  I am blessed to have good coverage, but not all people are as fortunate.
“Depending on the individual case and the type and number of treatments needed, the total cost of breast cancer treatment, on average, can reach $100,000 — or, in advanced cases, $300,000 or more. This includes the cost of the chemotherapy drugs, additional drugs to help manage side effects, administration of the drugs and medical care for chemotherapy-related complications.”
And again, if you are anything like myself and are living with a metastatic diagnosis, treatments and care is endless with no foreseeable light at the end of the tunnel.
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WHY IS IT SO EXPENSIVE???
The never ending list of cancer expenses looks a little something like this:
 🎗Frequent doctor visits with surgeon, radiologist, oncologist.  I personally see my oncologist once every 3 weeks and check in with my surgeon every couple of months.
🎗Lab Tests.  This includes blood tests, urine tests and more. I get my labs done every few weeks when I see my oncologist to check my levels and tumor markers.
🎗Clinic visits for treatments. When I was on IV treatment I would be in the treatment center every few weeks.  Currently I take an oral chemo and only have to be in the treatment clinic once every few months for my Lupron injection. But many people are in the treatment clinic, daily or weekly to get their infusions and injections.
🎗Procedures for diagnosis or treatment. Such procedures can include biopsies, room charges, equipment..  I’ve had a few biopsies and had to get lung taps done frequently when I had lung mets.
🎗Imaging Tests. These tests include X-rays, CT scans, MRIs and PET scans which may mean separate bills for radiologist fees, equipment and any medicines used for the test.  These tests are extremely costly too…yikes!  I get PET/CT scans every 3 months, consistently for the past 6 years now.
🎗Radiation Treatment  (implants, external radiation, or both) I have never had radiology but as we know, it’s a very common treatment for most cancers.
Drug🎗 Costs. (inpatient, outpatient, prescription, non-prescription and procedure-related) The cost of chemotherapy drugs is crazy!
🎗In-Home Nurse Care (if you need it, and I do actually, yes) and its freaking insane how much these so called "nurses aids -assistants" want an hour!!
Hospital 🎗Stays. This can encompass many types of costs such as drugs, tests and procedures as well as nursing care, doctor visits and consults with specialists. I have been admitted twice, each time for a week stay for cancer related issues.
🎗Surgery. Costs can accrue from surgeon, anesthesiologist, pathologist, operating room fees, equipment, medicines…  I have had 3 lumpectomies and 2 other surgical procedures related to my cancer diagnosis.
🎗Fertility.  If you are blindsided and diagnosed in your 20’s or 30’s with a cancer diagnosis and want to have a family, freezing your eggs is an option, but a costly one.  You will be required to pay for tests, and medications leading up to the surgical procedure to remove your eggs.  I paid about $10K out of pocket to cover the cost of freezing my eggs.
While these are examples of the clinical costs associated with cancer, there are other adjustments you may want to make that will also prove to be costly.  I personally changed my diet and started to eat all organic foods and sought integrative therapies to add to my clinical regime.  You can read more about the therapies I have incorporated here.  All of these expenses add up and certainly are a financial strain.
🎗🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟And of course we need to pay... Rent, heat/hydro, car/transportation/ambulance bills , always bills bills bills billsssss.....and wifi/internet/television/mobile phone znd/or tablet or computer and gaming systems... camera.....im z girl so clothes..makeup,(I'm thrifty ricky tho) and always last, maybe maybe get sweets healthwise branded cookies or some type of peanuts(unsalted).
I never get go, go nowhere, do anything, get a coffee from a coffee shop, i can't afford to do just about anything a normal individual such as yourself yourself would do, i just cannot do it its not in my budget ... I currently own ONE lipgloss, and one broken eye liner , that is my makeup beauty kit, who the heck wants to even go out or take pictures thenn? Ugh....
Www.paypal.me/believeitxxnot is the link to the Cancer Fundraiser🎗the email for it is [email protected]
Anyways, do not feel bad for me. I am here to service YOU for ever I know this . TY so much ily guys , please please if you will not donate to my awfully painfully really urgent cause then PLEASE SHARE POST ..... BOOOST POOOOST !! PLZ !! XOXO
I need the supporters !! Yo yo ! DOOOONAAAATEEEEE!!
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donttestmeblog-blog · 5 years ago
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A COMPREHENSIVE REVIEW OF SMART TV, SMARTWATCH AND BEST VLOGGING CAMERAS
What comes into your mind when you hear the term “technology”? Perhaps, you would think of huge medical equipment or jet planes while others would infer to machine learning algorithms, smartphones, smart televisions or smartwatches. Regardless of your thoughts, it is definitely clear to appreciate the underlying importance and the role of smart devices, which has almost become unavoidable in current society.
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Technology is truly changing the world and shaping how we live. Since a lot more products are continuously developed while further improvements are made to existing ones, keeping with this pace for timely and accurate information might prove to be a tall order for many consumers. It is within mind that Don’t test me is here to bridge existential gaps in information relay by offering comprehensive reviews on a wide range of consumer products. This post, therefore, serves to provide inclusive information on selected products: smart TV; smartwatch and vlogging cameras for informed choices and value for your money when buying products.
So who doesn’t love fine things? Well, your guess might be as right as mine. A close look at the television making industry reveals a huge paradigm shift towards the production smartTV. Apparently, the term “smart” is so common in many lips thanks to a raft of smart devices currently in the market. Smart TV, just as the name suggests has intriguing features that one can need in a television set.
From the ability to support internet connections for streaming live programs and films to supporting other entertaining platforms like Netflix, a smart TV has innumerable useful features that one cannot simply avoid. In fact, when smart TVs first arrived in markets, their prices were stratospherically tagged, hence, they could only be owned by a few individuals. However, there is good news. In recent years, the situation has since changed and more of these screen televisions now throng market platforms at competitive prices and outstanding features.
Mass production of smart TV at affordable prices from a wide range of manufacturers is a blessing in disguise for some consumers. Together with continuous adjustments to specifications and capabilities, it is increasingly becoming hard and confusing for the buyer to choose such products. It is from this backdrop that a comprehensive analysis of most of these smart technology devices remains indispensable. Therefore, using specific examples herein, we shall debunk some of the doubts by furnishing you with accurate facts on choosing smart TV.
Undeniably, 32-inch smart TV still remains popular in the market despite downscaled production by manufacturers. Perhaps, if you have a small room or lean budget or just dire love for small screen TV, then there are still plenty of 32-inch smart TV just waiting for onward delivery to your desirous drop of point. It is apparent,55-inch screen television is becoming flagship size for most of smart TV, however, there exist a number of reputable and top-not brands of 32-inch smart TV that is relatively pocket friendly with quality image resolution and unique features that best fit your needs.
Comprehensive research from our TV experts has consistently demonstrated that the best 32-inch smart TV still in the market. Even though not all the TV models have been physically tested, we have applied our extensive knowledge and expertise within the TV industry to assess available brands and use this information so that consumers get the best value for every penny spent on the product. For example, 32-inch smart TV we highly rate and atop other equally leading models would easily be the Samsung- UN32M5300. Just to highlight a few magnificent features that make this television set outstanding is ability to show high-quality pictures (due to high contrast ratio), broad color gamut, exceptional motion handling, and high definitive resolution. However, a few lapses exist. It only supports optical audio and has two HDMI ports. However, if you disregard the whistles and the bells then why not try the best 32-inch smart TV in the market?
On the other hand, have you ever thought of becoming a vlogger? Then you must be ready to acquire some of the finest and best vlogging cameras for your prospective career. The industry is increasingly becoming competitive as many people have shown that it is possible to actually earn a living out of vlogging.
Therefore, together with other essential aspects, the best camera is key to slicing and entrenching vlogging market share. Crystal-clear footage and off course super content would contribute to a huger chunk of your success in this particular industry. To this effect, the best cameras for vlogging must have megapixel of around 12 or more, key qualities that can only be found in some of the latest cameras in the market.
For example, the best camera that would help you grow your Video Blog or YouTube channel is Canon G7 X Mark III. So why Mark III version of the Canon G7X? Well, this can be described as the best of this series since it comes with a 4k sensor and nearly unmatched image stabilization capability among other great features that would surely propel you to greater height in your vlogging work.
Undoubtedly, the world of digital life wouldn’t end without highlighting a revolutionary gadget in the name of Samsung smartwatch. For sure, this product has consistently proven to be the finest smartwatch model. It can carry out numerous tricks such as internet voice search capability, GPS location tracking or heart rate monitoring for general wellbeing.
In terms of key features, design, specifications, battery life, competitive price, and other significant considerations, Samsung smartwatch lead others in this category. Precisely, Samsung Galaxy Watch is the most refined and impressive out of other smartwatches in the market. Unimaginably, this Samsung smartwatch has a remarkable 4-day battery life, a rotating bezel and above all, a Tizen operating system that makes it the easiest to navigate and operate among many more fascinating capabilities.
In light of the above, it is more evidence that smart TVs, smartwatches and cameras have significantly been improved in the recent period. Consumers are faced with the challenge of keeping up with this ever-changing technological industry. But one thing for sure, Don’t test me offers comprehensive information for the product you need and hence greater value for your money in products you purchase.
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https://donttestme.com/blogs/news/a-comprehensive-review-of-smart-tv-smart-watch-and-best-vlogging-cameras
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istrugglewithphilosophy · 3 years ago
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Goodness! Tagged by two wonderful mutuals, @maria-de-salinas​ and @zealouspickleeggdragon​. Thank you both kindly for the invitation to join in on the fun.
1. Why did you choose your URL?
I truly do.
2. Any side blogs?
Absolutely not. I would like to start up a content-producing Star Trek side blog, but... all the good blog ideas and personas are already taken. No shiny new side blog for me until I come up with a new concept.
3. How long have you been on Tumblr?
Four years is my best guess, and I don’t care to verify that. Missed Dashcon, but was here for the final season of Sherlock (or was it?), so that’s all that really matters.
4. Do you have a queue tag?
No. I have no consistent tagging system, either. My blog looks rather like my room, and while I pretend I can find my things in both, it’s a lie.
5. Why did you start your blog in the first place?
To participate in some Inktober challenge, I believe. I never do get very far on any of those.
6. Why did you choose your icon/pfp?
It means something to me! I drew it at age 13, at the height of my Transformers phase. It is a happy reminder of my first fandom.
7. Why did you choose your header?
I wanted something on my blog to reflect my love for a special place. Granted, its not the highest-quality picture, but I’ve got some good memories associated with that lake and the day I took that photo. 
8. What’s your post with the most notes?
A Transformers drawing challenge yielded me 20-something notes (it was my very first blog post, made during a fandom event). Hashtag LostLightFest, anybody? I’m generally a 2 note-per-post blog, 3 on a post that reaches the right audience, and perfectly content that way.
9. How many mutuals do you have?
Four. Four? Five? A handful, and they are all special to me. You can tell by my ability to recall exactly how many of them I have.
No, hold on, I just checked. Twenty-two. What?
10. How many followers do you have?
136, mostly bots, although I’d better check that again and see if I ought to follow back any actual people. Manners on social media are so difficult to keep up!
11. How many people do you follow?
Unashamedly, 562. They’re like pretty rocks. I just collect them and can’t put them back.
12. Have you ever made a shitpost?
Yes, a couple hundred posts ago. Et voila.
https://istrugglewithphilosophy.tumblr.com/post/163595088014/spiderman
13. How often do you use Tumblr a day?
Depends on how much dopamine I need. More, recently. I sit and wait for new posts from the 562 blogs I follow. I only check a couple times a day or less when I’m otherwise occupied.
14. Did you have a fight/argument with another blog once?
Never, and I hope to stay out of these things. I don’t want a failing grade on social media.
15. How do you feel about “you need to reblog this” posts?
Unnecessary! But I suppose for some people, they bring a measure of comfort to reblog? I tend to stress out for a hot second upon seeing one, then forget about it entirely the next second.
16. Do you like tag games?
Oh, they’re lovely. So positive!
17. Do you like ask games?
Well, they’re only fun if one receives asks. I see people start them up, make a mental note to send an ask, and then move on, having contributed mental vibes to the game.
18. Which of your mutuals do you think is Tumblr famous?
Uh, all of them, I feel like. Anyone who enters my sphere of orbit online tends to make me feel a little starstruck.
19. Do you have a crush on a mutual?
The kind of crush that makes me want to feed all of them brownies and pecan pie. Bless their hearts, every one.
@snapespizza​, @joylodoodz​, @madameblake​, @mizzadamz​? No, we haven’t interacted before, yes, please join in if y’all’re in the mood for a tag game!
Tag Game!
tagged by the very talented @maria-de-salinas
1. Why did you choose your URL?
Uru is for Uruguay, my country of origin (and also where I live!). Potter should be self-explanatory.
2. Any side blogs?
I have one from when Tumblr accidentally shut down my account way back when it was first started. Ultimately unnecessary though.
3. How long have you been on Tumblr?
Half a year I'd reckon, or just about.
4. Do you have a queue tag?
No. I don't really queue anything tbh.
5. Why did you start your blog in the first place?
I wanted a place where I could lay down my various thoughts about Harry Potter, and this seemed the best site to do it.
6. Why did you choose your icon/pfp?
I like football, and the men in my profile pic are both icons of the sport. I also think it looks pretty cool
7. Why did you choose your header?
Same reason I chose my pfp.
8. What's your post with most notes?
A post about how Snape's unusually high grades where explained by his being the Half-Blood Prince. It kickstarted a discussion about Snape's teaching, and pedagogy in general. If I'm not mistaken it has about 1100 notes, or just about. Really insightful too.
9. How many mutuals do you have?
I cannot be arsed to find out. A good amount, to be sure!
10. How many followers do you have?
247. Here's hoping for 250!
11. How many people do you follow?
51. I don't really follow a lot of people.
12. Have you ever made a shitpost?
A good amount.
13. How often do you use Tumblr each day?
More than I should
14. Did you have a fight/argument with another blog once?
Arguments definitely. Fights I don't think so. Does that time I got swarmed by libertarians count? If it does then I guess so.
15. How do you feel about “you need to reblog this” posts?
I tend to ignore them. Tumblr is not a reliable source of information, nor should is it the most effective place for activism.
16. Do you like tag games?
Yes!
17. Do you like ask games?
Depends on the ask game, but sure! Any Harry Potter related one is a game I'm down for.
18. Which of your mutuals do you think is Tumblr famous?
Absolutely no clue. I have a couple of fanfic authors as mutuals, but I don't know how much that translates to Tumblr fame
19. Do you have a crush on a mutual?
Tumblr is no place for love to blossom
tagging @owlswithfins @toujours--pur @slytherinsnekxvii and anyone else who wants to do it!
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kiss-me-im-plegian · 8 years ago
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Grand Reopening!
It’s been about 2 and a half years, but guess who decided to dust off the cobwebs and get this old engine running again? Your friendly neighborhood Scoutchen, that’s who. It’s been a long time, and a lot of things are kinda different, so I thought I’d make a big post about what I’ve got planned and explainations for why I did things a certain way in the past.
For the VERY FEW people who were still here when I first picked up this character, if you don’t remember me playing this Aversa character, it’s probably because you weren’t supposed to know. I asked the mods if they would be willing to let me pick up the character, but not announce that it was my original blog’s (Henry, at the time) second muse, and they agreed to that. I did that for a lot of complicated, dumb reasons, mostly attributed to my poor self image at the time and lack of confidence in my own abilities. But there’s no need for that kind of subterfuge these days. I hope you can forgive me and find it in your heart to bless me with your kickass muses sometime soon!
To really sell the idea that it was a different person playing this character, I employed the use of a lot of weird tagging systems that I have no interest in using anymore. So chances are that my tags and whatnot will change drastically to resemble current trends I have going on with my Gaius and Yen’fay blogs, instead of trying to be consistent with how things are on this blog already.
If you’re playing a character that’s stayed more or less the same over the past few years I’ve been gone (I counted 5, and you’re all super precious to me), and we had a thread going before I suddenly disappeared into the void, and you’d be interested in restarting it, just ask! I would love to take a trip down memory lane with you again.
That’s all I’ve got for now! I’ll be making some minor tweaks to my layout and whatnot (holy shit, how did I ever think text this fuckin’ TINY was EVER acceptable), but I’ll be making my open starter and doing one of those “like this for a starter” posts too... with a very Aversa-ish twist, meh hehe... Thanks to everyone for your support, and I hope we all have a lot of fun in the future!
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unforth · 2 years ago
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Heyo Danmei Fans and Twitter Refugees!
Do you love danmei? Do you love fanart?
WELL HAVE I GOT THE SIDEBLOGS FOR YOU!
Hi, I'm unforth, and I also love danmei and fanart, and I wanted to just make a huge gorgeous pile of art and roll around in it so I've made and run for years eight, yes eight, side blogs of danmei art, all with the kind of organization and searchability that twitter can only dream of.
So, if you want to flood your dash with fanart (or if you're an artist and want a little assist getting more eyes on your work now that you're posting here - you can DM me or @/me), why not consider giving a follow to...
Mo Dao Zu Shi/Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation/The Untamed: @mdzsartreblogs
Tian Guan Ci Fu/Heaven Official's Blessing/Eternal Faith: @tgcfartreblogs
Ren Zha Fanpai Zijiu Xitong/Scum Villain's Self-Saving System/Scumbag System: @svsssartreblogs
Erha he Ta de Bai Mao Shizun/The Husky and His White Cat Shizun/Hao Yi Xing and Yuwu/Stains of Filth: @erhaartreblogs
Daomu Biji/The Graverobber's Chronicles/The Lost Tomb/Too Many Other Names to List: @dmbjartreblogs
Zhenhun/Guardian: @zhenhunartreblogs
Tian Ya Ke/Faraway Wanderers/Word of Honor and Qiye/Lord Seventh: @tykartreblogs
Literally Everything Else I Can Find (especially works by Meng Xi Shi, works by Priest, manhua on Bilibili, books by Fei Tian Ye Xiang, books by Please Don't Laugh (so yes, baihe too!), and so much more): @cnovelartreblogs
All blogs run on a queue; I post at a "the queue will last for 7 days" rate that changes more-or-less every day and varies from 30 to 40 posts a day (mdzsartreblogs) down to 1 to 2 posts a day (zhenhunreblogs) and everything in between.
Note that these spaces are all ship and let ship, don't like don't interact, and pro-kink. (I won't reblog everything, but I do reblog almost everything, and even if I'm personally too uncomfortable with something to reblog it - I SUPPORT YOU.) I tag extensively - you can check the pinned post on each blog for currently used trigger warnings (they're consistent across all the blogs) and many of the other tags I use for characters, ships, etc., and I strongly encourage you to use the tags to find That Rare Thing You Love, and also to blacklist anything that's not your thing. Antis kindly fuck off challenge.
Welcome to Tumblr (or welcome back, as the case may be), don't be a stranger, like and reblog works to support artists, and have fun!
(help signal boosting much appreciated. <3 )
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kiddiemom-blog · 6 years ago
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Single parenting 101
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It’s been over a year since I became a full-blown single parent. The hows and whys of the divorce don’t really matter. As I’ve said before, no one gets married to one day get a divorce. It’s hard on everyone and believe me, while people will judge, it should be known that marriages don��t fall apart without first extensive trying and hoping and praying and self-convincing. But eventually, people have to choose happiness.
The hardest part for me relates to my boys, ages six and nine. It was heartbreaking to lose the family unit. Until you’ve been through this, you have no way of knowing how it will all feel, but the loss of the marriage and the loss of the family unit are two entirely separate experiences. I’d already grieved the loss of my marriage, even when I was still in it. But at that time, I still had the family unit, so even though the marriage was struggling, I still loved having the family together.
A weird and unintentional confusion happens when couples stay together for the children. Because there is a disconnect between the adults in the house, all of the energy, focus and attention goes toward the children which then makes the family unit even harder to pull away from. What ends up happening is the children get a shell of who you really are and they also get a non-existent model of what a fun-loving marriage looks like, but they also become accustomed to both parents being solely child-centered. Then once the divorce happens, you go from being with your kids 100%  of the time with maximum effort to spending multiple days without seeing them at all. It’s all very jarring to the psyche.
Nevertheless, as humans do in every situation, we adapt and figure it out. We learn to find a new normal. As I think about the past year, I’ve learned a number of things regarding how to be an efficient and positive single mom.
7 Helpful Tips for Single Parents
1). Be a good planner: There’s a quote that says, “Fail to plan, plan to fail.” This is my constant mantra. And I’m not just talking about planning out the week, I’m talking about long-term planning as well. When there’s only one parent in the home, there’s no tag teaming. The one parent has to do everything, so planing is imperative. I try to plan weeks and months in advance so I can figure out my work schedule, custody, childcare, doctors and dentist appointments, etc. On a weekly basis, I’ve found if I plan the week’s meals and coordinate my workouts with the boys sports’ practices, everything goes more smoothly. When I don’t plan accordingly, we end up at the grocery store every day at 6:00 p.m. and this does not make for a happy, productive evening. Also if I don’t plan when I’m going to work out, it doesn’t happen and then I’m grumpy and feel guilty for not exercising. If you plan well, you can spend quality time with your children instead of constantly scrambling around playing catch up.
2). Communicate clearly with the other parent: This one may be challenging if you and your ex don’t get along or if there’s a lot of bitterness, but even if that’s the case, you have to rise above that and do what’s best for the children. The boys’ dad and I are amicable and good at communicating for the most part. There have been a couple mishaps, but that’s going to happen until everyone gets in a solid groove. If we need a change in a weekend or in the custody schedule, we try to tell each other months in advance. If I learn of a school or sporting event when I have the boys, I let him know, and vice versa. We communicate in a number of ways including talking on the phone, text and email. If it’s impossible for you to talk to the other parent without getting frustrated or annoyed, use another method such as text or email. I’ve found the following tips make communicating easier.
3). Accept that doing it solo is exhausting: The sooner you accept this fact, the better. Single parenting offers zero relaxation, especially if you work full-time out of the home. For 12 hours every day, it’s balls to the wall. Wake up, cook breakfast, get ready for school, drop  boys off at school, work all day, pick up children from school, take them to sports practice, drive home from practice or after school, cook dinner, clean up from dinner, do homework, sign agenda books, make lunches, fold laundry, get ready for bed, put children to bed. Then repeat everything the next day. The funny thing is, I actually enjoy it. It’s mind over matter. I don’t have any delusions that a gnome or fairy is going to appear and help me with some of these tasks so I can sit on the couch and paint my toenails. I love being a mom and I know what my day looks like going into it, so I just tackle it head-on. End of story.
4). Find time to be with yourself: This one is paramount. It’s important to find time to be with yourself on the days you have the kids and on the days you don’t. When I have the boys with me, I get up significantly earlier than them. I’m a morning person so this time works well for me. I enjoy my coffee and either read, journal or blog. It’s my sacred quiet time. When the boys aren’t with me, I try to get alone time working out or cleaning or something along those lines. The quiet alone time when the boys aren’t with me can be hard because I start missing them or wondering what they’re doing. Either way, it’s important we continue to love and befriend ourselves. There is a lot of guilt, grief and regret after the breakdown of a marriage which makes it even more important that you be gentle with yourself and feed your needs.
5). Engage fully: I actually feel like I’m a better, more engaged parent now that I’m divorced. With there being no other adult to pass them off to, I am fully focused on truly being with them. I’ve talked with other single parents who feel this as well. When it’s the just one parent and the kids, a unique bond forms and all parties get to know the others on a much deeper, more intimate level. There’s no longer the adults up here and the kids down there. It all blends together and I’ve really enjoyed this. While I miss having help and having another adult to talk to, I love focusing so intently on my littles.
6). Have fun when you’re not with the kids: The boys’ dad and I don’t have 50/50 custody, but it’s close. More like 60/40-ish where I have them a bit more than he does. Modern research says this is the best set-up if both parents live in the same town. I still see them every day because I’m involved in afternoon pick-up, sports drop-off; however, it’s still grueling going 5 days at a time without their little heads in their beds at my house. To combat this sadness, I do things I can’t do when I have them. I spend a lot of time with my boyfriend Matthew who is also a single parent. He has the 60/40 custody arrangement as well and he is a very engaged father. Together we have five kids. On the weeks, the kids are with the other parent, we go on long bike rides, try out new recipes, travel, clean our houses, read, veg out and watch Netflix, work late if we need to, etc. I know everyone isn’t fortunate enough to have a signifiant other after divorce, but don’t settle just to have a person to hang out with it. The right person will come along. Believe me, it’s worth waiting for. Having fun on your off-days not only diverts your mind from not having the kids but it also fuels your own hobbies and goals which ultimately makes you a better parent.
7). Ask for help if you’re overwhelmed: Some single parents have little to no help from the other parent and if that’s the case, be sure to find a support system. Whether it’s friends, colleagues, church members or neighbors, you can’t do it on your own without eventually burning out. Since my mom’s passing, I don’t have someone who can consistently help me. Our awesome baby-sitter started college this year and my dad has watched the boys here and there, but he still works part-time. I sure do miss having my mom around. I feel blessed that the boys’ dad wants to be in their lives so much, and I work hard to get all my own stuff accomplished when they are with him. That way, they are my priority the rest of the time. Sometimes it’s hard to ask for help but people are more willing than you think, so if you feel like you’re about to lose it, reach out to someone. You’ll be so glad you did.
I’m the furtherest thing from a single parenting expert, but I am an optimist and a good problem solver, so just like any situation in my life, I’ve figured out how to navigate this new season so that everyone I love, including myself, can feel safe and happy. There are a lot of various personalities to navigate, both on the adult and kid front. Each day is truly its own adventure, but I’ve become an expert at gratitude. I am so extremely grateful for my faith, my work and the precious people in my life. If you’re a single parent or will be a single parent soon, you’re not alone. As Glennon Doyle says, “We can do hard things.”
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kenzymirror · 6 years ago
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Dolapo Badmus and Victoria Inyama fight dirty over babymama scandal
Police PRO, Dolapo Badmus who took to Instagram to advise young girls that being a baby mama is not worth it, was dragged into an exchange by Nollywood actress, Victoria Inyama.
According to her, being a baby mama can make ones life miserable, especially when the lady cannot afford to feed herself.
However reacting to the post, Victoria Inyama slammed Dolapo Badmus for sharing a post she claimed debases women.
Sharing the comment, Dolapo Badmus wrote;
This is what I got from one past actress for speaking to the younger ones on how to be careful!!! Since she forgot she’s a public person and decide to go this way then……..
Firing back at the police PRO, Victoria Inyama shared chats between her and Dolapo Badmus. Victoria Inyama;
Part 1. But am I just have to respond to a cacafuego. Her messages to me is ludicrously buncombe so I will reply this ninnyhammer
D fact that no one understands u does not make you an artist This must be fake Opetodolapo cause a sharp tongue does not mean you have a keen mind as your IQ is certainly lower than your shoe size, just in case this is d real person. I just want to ask, are you really this flagitious & quisquilian? What language are u speaking cause it sounds like bullshit, referring to ma 2 lovelies, Where were you in d late 90s when I started staring in Zeb Ejiro’s Ripples I am a mom of 3, Motherhood is my biggest Achievement . I can’t be an Actress forever na. U think life did not treat me well? I am a cancer survivor, many have died & are still dying . I am Alive!!!!!! U honestly should have been born in d Dark Ages cause I see a lot of Darkness in your tone, gosh, U sure look terrible in d light!
How exactly do you guide d younger ones? By scornfully shaming them? Most Baby Mamas are now d best loved wives!! So this advice to them must have been an advice to U! Most got into that situation by mistake, lack of advice & direction but an innocent child is involved, so you advice by abuse?
Hey don’t let your mind wonder- it’s far too small to be let out on its own, it’s truly me, Victoria Inyama Am I a Baby Mama? Yes! My children are my babies! May God bless all d women that are praying for babies. Your messages to me portrays U as seemingly cretin to be honest. U want to help me get help with child support, as a British police officer or with your remarkable benefits of bump & grind U clearly have delusions of adequacy.
U have all d virtues that majority of good people in your society dislike & no vice that they admire!! Listen to d cry of your people & help reduce Police Brutality & injustices. Stop sitting on your high horse, U sit in your supposedly impressive office looking like an envelope without any address on it. I apologise for making you sleepless but I was just being Fearlessly honest. I am too far away for you to send your machineries to hurt me cause tone speak SARS
Elie Wiesel” ‘We must always take sides- Neutrality helps d Oppressor-Never d Victim- Silence Encourages d Tormentor- Never d Tormented ‘ Apart from my 1st degree at D Great University of Lagos Akoka, I did a full 3yrs Acting & Drama performance course in Identity Drama School, Hackney, London. Numerous short courses & have certifications on Drugs & Substance Abuse, Counselling & Mental Health Talking Therapy, I am currently a final yr student of D University of East London majoring in Psychosocial Studies, let me tutor you a bit ma’am.
Psychosocial Studies explores new ways of researching d relationship between individuals & their Society….. psychologically managing individuals in d context of d combined influence that psychological factors & d surrounding social environment have on their physical & mental wellness & their ability to function. This knowledge empowers me to openly, fearlessly without bias defend where necessary & to whom it concerns. So on d contrary I love people & use humanist reasoning in my opinions. Do u know how it feels to be pregnant? Have u experienced d pain of child birth, then with d added stress & torture of being rejected by one who once professed love? Have you ever genuinely been in love especially young love?
U have a voice but you use it ridicule & oppress. U claim u initiated #entertainmentmeetsecurity# I read on blogs how your police & Sars officers constantly kill & maimed some entertainers & hundreds of young people U are supposedly mentoring. How many of those officers have been punished?? Do u want to be mentoring them in their graves??? I can only explain it to U, I cannot understand it for U, U consistently set low expectations & still fail to achieve them. D role of a Police PRO in a summery is communicating with a verity of audiences, particularly d media using management oriented, proactive techniques that are consistent with established public relations models thereby performing a wide array of traditional relations activities that will be instrumental in moving law enforcement from a closed to a more open effective system of communication, engagement & inclusion.
And so as this is your last message, I there-say D police force may not be d best for now but hopefully it can improve…….. soon….. d only constant thing in life is change and Nigerians are changing…. aware of sense / nonsense but hey don’t think about it, it may sprain your brain. U claim U want to make me relevant if I wanted relevance I would climb up your ego & jump on your IQ but that’s too easy.
U understand I am a product of a bitter marriage ….that’s my past, it’s not a life sentence and alas,…….I pray u experience that bitterness too…… I hope you are married with children cause I pray you taste that side of life……and I noticed u just sent me laughing emojis, we both doing exactly d same thing just your laughter gene pool could use a little chlorine.
I live in a sane society & I’m guided by certain laws. I commented on a post on insta blog, I didn’t tag you, I just made a non biased comment but U charge at me at whatever time, U don’t scare me…. I swear down, u are basically being tolerated but it’s not to late to change…… 2019? Elections.. new administration loading. Try & sleep well tonight cause sleeplessness causes psychological hallucinations which could lead to buncombe statements. Good night & God bless you……… And ermmmm did I also mention that u look good in uniform. God bless Nigeria
Dolapo Badmus who reacted to call out posts from Victoria Inyama wrote;
I can’t stop laughing now, when some people think they can speak English and only one response they have gone to obahiagbon for research…. I’m done and dusted with that! Please note blood flows in public office holders too, everyone deserves to be respected regardless of positions positive vibes only because it’s Friday!
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