#bisexual oppression

[emeldiir]

It’s so crazy to me how even in shows that are supposed to be progressive and queer focused, bisexuality is so misunderstood and misrepresented. I’ve been watching Batwoman with my boyfriend, and the way they handle bisexuality in the show is quite frankly, a fucking travesty.

the show centers on a sapphic couple who have been broken up for a few years, and one of the women (a bisexual) is now in a relationship with a man. Her whole identity is portrayed as if she’s betrayed her lesbian ex girlfriend by being with a man (despite the fact that they’ve been broken up for years) and is seen as an obstacle that needs to be overcome.

The show also passingly conflates bisexuality with polyamory as if this isn’t one of the biggest negative stereotypes that affects the bisexual community.

this sort of treatment happens a considerable amount with queer focused shows and movies, another one of which is can think of is Orange is the Black, in which in the main character, Piper, is bisexual. Pipers bisexuality is a huge part of the storyline, but she is only outrightly labeled as bisexual a handful of times throughout the entire show, and when she IS labeled bisexual it’s accompanied with the description of shallow.

Bisexual representation is abysmally handled in queer media, and I need writers to start actually researching what it means to have a bisexual character, and not simply fall into the dozens of negative stereotypes that are out there about us.

[bi-sapphics]

found this worthy read on twitter and had to share for a potential reference that bisexual people over here can look at too!!

[museumofferedophelia]

Massive trigger warning for mentions of sexual abuse.

These men are predators. They are rapists. They are not women, they are sadistic autogynephiles who force people to partake in their fetishes.

[spitblaze]

gnc and butch women (cis AND trans) and transmascs are punished for performing masculinity past certain thresholds of arbitrary attractiveness because people that cishet society categorizes or clocks as 'women' are not supposed to perform masculinity. hope this helps 👍

[tiredyke]

lesbophobia does not invalidate, negate, or take precedence over biphobia. biphobia does not invalidate, negate or take precedence over lesbophobia. both forms of discrimination coexist and deserve to be discussed and taken seriously. neither is more important or more valid than the other. our experiences being different does not mean that they are contradictory, or that the existence of one means the other is erased. stop positioning us at odds with each other. if we can’t have meaningful conversations about how lesbophobia and biphobia both manifest in different ways and how they affect us, we aren’t going to get anywhere.

[watermelinoe]

essentially what's frustrating abt being a bi woman on here is that if you bring up the fact that our statistics reflect the markers of being an oppressed class, despite a large percentage of us being partnered with the other sex, it's treated as if you're arguing that heterophobia exists

[shit-my-asexual-friend-says]

So, I recently reblogged a post about the asexual experience and realized that my addition was twice as long as the two other comments combined. This feels a little weird, since of the three posters, I am the one who is not asexual.

However, I am fairly confident that I know why.

The asexual community is regularly shunted to the side in other sex-positivity and queer-positivity movements, which is horrible. One of the side-effects of this, though, is that allosexuals who experience these same types of love and lifestyles - for example, my own bisexual queerplatonic ass - are not only shunted to the side, but basically invisible to the community at large. This isn't just harmful to me. If you read the post, I talk about @why-are-the-allos-like-this and my's shared experience of feeling that our relationship is lesser than any romantic relationship I might be a part of. Which is bullshit. It's not.

Love is love is kind of the slogan of the entire Queer community, but I know I'm not the only one who has had this experience. So I'm telling it to everyone: love is love is a radical idea. Love is love applies to everyone. It applies to me as a bisexual woman who is in love with a man; my love for him does not negate my bisexuality. It applies to me as an allosexual person who is in a queerplatonic relationship; my asllosexuality doesn't destroy that relationship.

When you shunt one part of the community to the side - asexuals, bisexuals, whichever trans identity we're villainizing today (it's always somebody), people who have detransitioned but remain allies, literally anyone - you are erasing a lot more experiences than the ones you have decided are lesser or unimportant. You're also erasing the ones that you literally do not know exist, because you never made a space for them.

To be clear, it is correct and important to give special attention to people who are going through specific extreme challenges. It is also important not to pretend that all of our challenges are the same; I have never faced violence in the way the trans women I know have, for example. Amplifying voices that need amplifying does not need to come with a side dish of invalidating and shouting down the voices that you don't think need amplifying.

[knightingael]

Sat in a restaurant yesterday with a lesbian listening to their recent experience with a straight poly couple. It was rape, but neither of us used that word. I've also met the bi chick who lured them into the situation - she boasted to me about how much her boyfriend loves sleeping with a lesbian. How he loves violent sex, how she loves taking it and making lesbians watch.

Now, I hate men. But honestly? I hate bisexual chicks who act as unicorn bait more.

[mintharasthrone]

please just get rid of the fucking rainbow at this point

[gender-critical-analytical]

the way some of you clearly think bisexuals don't experience actual attraction and feelings for people, but rather decide ahead of time if they want a man or a woman this time and then just go and pick whoever comes into their line of sight next is so obvious and definitely makes me think you all don't need to speak on things you don't know about

[decolonize-the-everything]

I am in the process of getting a new doctor. And by that I mean my insurance dropped my first one roughly a year ago so I made an appointment with my new primary who was also dropped before a second appointment. Then I had a new one but I then I accidentally double booked my kids therapy for the same day and didn't realize til we were already at her appointment so I rescheduled a new one.

These are 3-6 months apart btw. That's what the wait-list for a primary is like here for me.

Anyway so I have a new appointment in September and this whole time I haven't been working ofc cuz im in pain 24/7 and even when I had a job I'd be sent home cuz I'd just start sobbing in the break rooms or I'd be late cuz I had anxiety and didn't want to go, etc (long list, tldr: I'd be a bad employee if literally nothing else). Besides that I've never gotten passed the interview stage when I was looking for a job here.

So yeah. September is when I see my new doctor who probably won't open my file until I'm in his office.

Remember that.

I go to an appointment about my cash benefits a few days ago, now right? I've talked to these people on the phone, they know what's up with my situation. They said they'd waive the obligations for me, nbd. And every now and then you gotta renew them too, just making sure youre still poor, haven't moved, etc. So I go in think it's a formality thing and they just wanna make sure nothing changed.

Nope. Nobody took notes or filed anything so it just looks like I have been blowing off obligations I had for 6 months :)

All this to say fuck them for giving me 30 days to see a new doctor that I literally I can not see until September when it's literally out of my power to make it happen faster. And I'll be lucky if this new person is willing to sign off on a brand new patients disability forms too.

After 30 days thats half of our money they take until I get those forms signed.

This is life for those of us who are queer, poor, & disabled parents of color.

Lots of people have lots of stigmas about me. And that's creates certain beliefs around me, most often that it can't be that bad or that I'm even making up how bad it is.

I'm telling y'all it's that bad. When my benefits get cut it won't be because I wasn't trying, I already have an appointment.

I can't work. My gf's paychecks are getting garnished (this means debtors are taking money btw). We're both deeply mentally ill even if we can't prove our physical disabilities.

When I tell y'all that these benefits and your help is the only reason we eat after they run out, believe me.

This blog is my lifeline and it's just hits different after the last few days to open my asks and see some dipshit saying more classist shit to me even on tumblr

And I know that someone like me does not have a safe space. Never did. Probably never will. But this blog is my lifeline so can y'all just....not?

Can you just leave me alone instead of projecting your awful beliefs about everything I am into my asks, please?

You don't know me. Quit pretending you do to justify all the hatred you have.

[ratbastardman]

every reactionary leftist needs to be handed a dvd copy of deathnote because like if your first step to saving the world is deciding who needs to be protected and who needs to be eliminated my brother in christ you’ve got the moral compass of a fucked up teenager raised by a cop

[spn-renaissance]

i don’t think we will ever comprehend the damage the supernatural cast did to parasocial relationships. like its worse than youtubers. half the fucking time THEY were the show.

[museumofferedophelia]

The same men who deny women their reproductive rights are mortally terrified of having their own reproductive rights violated.

They're terrified by the idea of a "crazy girlfriend" who pokes holes in condoms or lies about being on birth control in order to "baby trap" them into marriage or child support.

They're horrified by the idea that someone could use them and their bodies without regard for their rights or opinions. That they could be denied control over whether they want to have a child or not. That someone could force them to become a parent and they would have no say in the matter. They're never shamed for these fears.

The assertion that one should have control over their reproductive rights is only considered valid when it comes from a male.

[atreefullofstars]

Boy I sure do love unfollowing people for ice-cold takes about transandrophobia. Anyway here’s your periodic reminder that the oppression olympics is a shitty game that benefits only the oppressors, and it takes nothing away from trans women if trans men are allowed to acknowledge the unique form of transphobia they face and create a word for it, but it sure takes something away from trans men if they AREN’T allowed the language to describe their experiences.

[dansdoom]

maybe its because i'm new but I don't understand the discourse in the LGBTQIA community, like don't you all get we have the same enemy why are we fighting ourselves