#bisexual oppression

[emeldiir]

It’s so crazy to me how even in shows that are supposed to be progressive and queer focused, bisexuality is so misunderstood and misrepresented. I’ve been watching Batwoman with my boyfriend, and the way they handle bisexuality in the show is quite frankly, a fucking travesty.

the show centers on a sapphic couple who have been broken up for a few years, and one of the women (a bisexual) is now in a relationship with a man. Her whole identity is portrayed as if she’s betrayed her lesbian ex girlfriend by being with a man (despite the fact that they’ve been broken up for years) and is seen as an obstacle that needs to be overcome.

The show also passingly conflates bisexuality with polyamory as if this isn’t one of the biggest negative stereotypes that affects the bisexual community.

this sort of treatment happens a considerable amount with queer focused shows and movies, another one of which is can think of is Orange is the Black, in which in the main character, Piper, is bisexual. Pipers bisexuality is a huge part of the storyline, but she is only outrightly labeled as bisexual a handful of times throughout the entire show, and when she IS labeled bisexual it’s accompanied with the description of shallow.

Bisexual representation is abysmally handled in queer media, and I need writers to start actually researching what it means to have a bisexual character, and not simply fall into the dozens of negative stereotypes that are out there about us.

[bi-sapphics]

found this worthy read on twitter and had to share for a potential reference that bisexual people over here can look at too!!

[museumofferedophelia]

Massive trigger warning for mentions of sexual abuse.

These men are predators. They are rapists. They are not women, they are sadistic autogynephiles who force people to partake in their fetishes.

[spitblaze]

gnc and butch women (cis AND trans) and transmascs are punished for performing masculinity past certain thresholds of arbitrary attractiveness because people that cishet society categorizes or clocks as 'women' are not supposed to perform masculinity. hope this helps 👍

[tiredyke]

lesbophobia does not invalidate, negate, or take precedence over biphobia. biphobia does not invalidate, negate or take precedence over lesbophobia. both forms of discrimination coexist and deserve to be discussed and taken seriously. neither is more important or more valid than the other. our experiences being different does not mean that they are contradictory, or that the existence of one means the other is erased. stop positioning us at odds with each other. if we can’t have meaningful conversations about how lesbophobia and biphobia both manifest in different ways and how they affect us, we aren’t going to get anywhere.

[watermelinoe]

essentially what's frustrating abt being a bi woman on here is that if you bring up the fact that our statistics reflect the markers of being an oppressed class, despite a large percentage of us being partnered with the other sex, it's treated as if you're arguing that heterophobia exists

[bi-dykes]

Bisexual Feminist Blinkies! 🩷

All blinkies made by me, but I found all the formats on blinkie.cafe!

[shit-my-asexual-friend-says]

So, I recently reblogged a post about the asexual experience and realized that my addition was twice as long as the two other comments combined. This feels a little weird, since of the three posters, I am the one who is not asexual.

However, I am fairly confident that I know why.

The asexual community is regularly shunted to the side in other sex-positivity and queer-positivity movements, which is horrible. One of the side-effects of this, though, is that allosexuals who experience these same types of love and lifestyles - for example, my own bisexual queerplatonic ass - are not only shunted to the side, but basically invisible to the community at large. This isn't just harmful to me. If you read the post, I talk about @why-are-the-allos-like-this and my's shared experience of feeling that our relationship is lesser than any romantic relationship I might be a part of. Which is bullshit. It's not.

Love is love is kind of the slogan of the entire Queer community, but I know I'm not the only one who has had this experience. So I'm telling it to everyone: love is love is a radical idea. Love is love applies to everyone. It applies to me as a bisexual woman who is in love with a man; my love for him does not negate my bisexuality. It applies to me as an allosexual person who is in a queerplatonic relationship; my asllosexuality doesn't destroy that relationship.

When you shunt one part of the community to the side - asexuals, bisexuals, whichever trans identity we're villainizing today (it's always somebody), people who have detransitioned but remain allies, literally anyone - you are erasing a lot more experiences than the ones you have decided are lesser or unimportant. You're also erasing the ones that you literally do not know exist, because you never made a space for them.

To be clear, it is correct and important to give special attention to people who are going through specific extreme challenges. It is also important not to pretend that all of our challenges are the same; I have never faced violence in the way the trans women I know have, for example. Amplifying voices that need amplifying does not need to come with a side dish of invalidating and shouting down the voices that you don't think need amplifying.

[knightingael]

Sat in a restaurant yesterday with a lesbian listening to their recent experience with a straight poly couple. It was rape, but neither of us used that word. I've also met the bi chick who lured them into the situation - she boasted to me about how much her boyfriend loves sleeping with a lesbian. How he loves violent sex, how she loves taking it and making lesbians watch.

Now, I hate men. But honestly? I hate bisexual chicks who act as unicorn bait more.

[gender-critical-analytical]

the way some of you clearly think bisexuals don't experience actual attraction and feelings for people, but rather decide ahead of time if they want a man or a woman this time and then just go and pick whoever comes into their line of sight next is so obvious and definitely makes me think you all don't need to speak on things you don't know about

[spn-renaissance]

i don’t think we will ever comprehend the damage the supernatural cast did to parasocial relationships. like its worse than youtubers. half the fucking time THEY were the show.

[chlotual]

the rampant biphobia on tiktok needs 2 be addressed

[museumofferedophelia]

The same men who deny women their reproductive rights are mortally terrified of having their own reproductive rights violated.

They're terrified by the idea of a "crazy girlfriend" who pokes holes in condoms or lies about being on birth control in order to "baby trap" them into marriage or child support.

They're horrified by the idea that someone could use them and their bodies without regard for their rights or opinions. That they could be denied control over whether they want to have a child or not. That someone could force them to become a parent and they would have no say in the matter. They're never shamed for these fears.

The assertion that one should have control over their reproductive rights is only considered valid when it comes from a male.

[orangerosebush]

What I find darkly comedic about this tweet reposted on here is that this anglophone Twitter user somehow reverse-engineered one of THE most common forms of homophobia/biphobia in France!

(Like, even down "le wokisme" being invoked, which is a dogwhistle for purported "American/Anglo" influences on French society. "Le wokisme" is often invoked to derail discourse around the place/role of LGBTQ+ individuals in French society)

"«Un silence nous entoure» : biphobie, la double peine" (2023) by Miren Garaicoechea for the journal La Libération delves into this form that biphobia often takes in French society. Specifically, the ideas that non-heterosexual sexual identities are an anglocentric cultural import, that bisexuality particularly is a cultural import, and that a focus on the struggles experienced by LGBTQ+ individuals is anglocentric frivolity.

Original French text: «Femmes, hommes… Il va falloir choisir !» Nous sommes en 2006, et Jann [Halexander], alors âgé d’une vingtaine d’années, est assis dans un hôpital parisien, une aiguille dans le bras pour une prise de sang. «L’infirmière s’est permis de donner son avis personnel. Sur quoi ? Ma bisexualité, ma vie privée.» Quinze ans plus tard, le chanteur franco-gabonais de 40 ans est toujours agacé d’être perçu comme «une bête curieuse».

English translation (by me): “Women, men… You're going to have to choose!” It's 2006, and Jann [Halexander], then in his twenties, is sitting in a Paris hospital, a needle in his arm for a blood test. “The nurse took the liberty of giving her personal opinion. About what? My bisexuality, my private life.” Fifteen years later, the 40-year-old Franco-Gabonese singer is still annoyed at being perceived as “a curious beast”.

[femgoddess-hecate]

(Potentially controversial post given the current atmosphere but pls bear with me 💗 i debated about posting this for weeks)

When I see women on here constantly fighting over being bi and being lesbian it rlly makes me sad

Like i fully understand where both sides r coming from. I know you've been hurt in so many ways, and yes, by men. Yes, by ppl u thought u could trust, even within ur own community

But to me, fostering and encouraging this micro splitting of the feminist community (or radfeminist) isn't productive at all. It doesn't make meaningful change to say "well we should ignore so and so" or "you'll NEVER get xyz to understand so why bother"

And yes. I know you're tired. Tired of explaining yourselves. Tired of having to defend yourself not only from within radblr but outside it as well. And I think that's where a lot of this discourse and snapping at one another stems from. It's honestly just a reactionary response to something being perceived as a personal slight. And I get why!!

To me, the only way we truly achieve fenale liberation is together. And yeah maybe that means you have to work with and listen to someone you may not like. Or someone who, at first glance appears to oppose everything you believe in*. We desperately need to extend more grace to one another. A lot of women who come here are really new to everything.

I don't hate ANY of you. I don't hate lesbians, or febfems or bisexuals or even het partnered straight women. Even if you hate me. Because that isn't what feminism is about to me. I know my betters have said it more eloquently but this should be about loving women MORE than you hate men. If your biggest beef is with another woman, something has gone awry.

I know I sound like a big naive child but I really do have hope that this is achievable 💖 take my hand. We can do it.

(*note: i mean between lesbian and bi women specifically! This isn't including men)

[allwomenjointhe4bmovement]

A gentle reminder that "biphobia" is not a real form of oppression and bisexuals are in fact privileged🥰