#bi oriented

[what-shitfuckery-is-this-ew]

Hey don't mean anything bad by this but I assume your Muslim from your pfp, but you also give queer vibes. My gaydar broken?

Nope.

I'm a queer Muslim!

[epiceneandroid]

radiomogai experiences questions so far

1.) so, for the first question, are you asking "us" or are you asking "me"? because i'm SOME kind of disordered system, and "us" and "me" are partially blurry, partially distinct entities. personally, as ashren, i'd describe myself as some sort of bi oriented, greyrose, panabinary agender mxsc and fxm genderblank person. that makes most sense to me. our system collectively identifies as genderfluid and epicene, even if i don't personally feel the whole epicene thing strongly, and a lot of us, especially me, are objectum. most of us that front regularly have a gender hoard aside from like...sprinkles who feels really uncomfortable labeling pup's gender identity beyond pupgender and epicene and butch.

2.) my personal experience with names as a system is like...names kinda pop into our head for us and they stick. francis george and bonett were both named after a h*talia character (unfortunately), i named myself completely randomly vibes based, etc. our system has a vague fascination with names, so we enjoy seeing a lot of varying names we could've called ourselves. most of our system feels comfortable with they/them except for bonett, who prefers he/him and any neos, and i generally just prefer they/it/null so far.

3.) i guess one of my favorite gender terms would be agender and genderblank, for different reasons. agender is partially kind of a political thing; i want to be treated like a person, after being treated like something to be feared as a former persecutor and current mental illness holder in the system, and genderblank resonates with me because like...whenever i try to actively THINK about my gender, personally, it comes up a blank, empty space.

4.) lol i can't really express my identity through clothing and style i want to buy men's clothes but i can't! i'm semi-closeted and my mom KNOWS our system is some form of transgender but we can't socially transition because she's afraid it'll make us "want a sex change" our desire to get t varies lol most of the time we just want to pass for a sexless, generic person.

5.) i mainly plan for social and legal transition, like, our system's blanket name changing (though i don't know what name we'd use irl; if we can find a suitable one for all of us that we feel drawn to we'll eventually use it), and maybe either estrogen blockers, progesterone, and SARMs or estrogen blockers, progesterone, and low dose t. i'm not sure.

6.) okay, i'm gonna get a little bit critical for a moment, but i'm not fond of the mogai community's pervasive transmisogyny. i understand that there are certain intersex experiences, such as those who are assigned female at birth due to ambiguous sex traits but end up being transmisogyny affected if they desire to still remain women as they were raised (see: eggs at 12 syndrome), that would fall under "afab transfem", but i'm a bit irritated at fellow people who are possibly intersex also like possibly myself, with possible congenital adrenal hyperplasia AND pcos, considering themselves transfem when transmisogyny, unfortunately, and a lot of ways transition relates to gender, relies on assigned sex. it's actually kind of frustrating. at the same time, i feel ostracized from a lot of transfeminist communities for accepting that there are transfeminine nonbinary people who are not perfectly binary, perfectly dysphoric, and perfectly wanting a binary transition, and it irks me because there are so many people i care about who are tma and nonbinary and as a tme nonbinary person, i want to protect them and ally with them as much as i can, and people treat tma women like dirt already so tma nonbinary people are treated like dirt doubly and...people don't get it. and the mogai community isn't very welcoming to the tma nonbinary people who are ostracized from certain communities but ostracized from the mogai community because of this...permissiveness? lack of consideration to tma experiences? it's frustrating.

7.) i don't necessarily think i'll ever find a label i feel comfortable with, but it's like...theoretically, i'd say i'm bisexual, but i and a lot of our system genuinely seems to prefer nonbinary people of any transmisogyny exemption status or even birth assignment rather than cis men, cis women, trans women, or trans men. it's like...nonbinary people 60-80%, binary people 40-20%. but it's not like i'm not attracted to binary identified people, i am, it's just...somehow nonbinary people are far for attractive to us. yet we distinctly feel very multi gender attracted. i don't have a name to put on this label and i don't know if i'll find one i feel more comfortable with than bisexual.

@radiomogai here's mine so far

[glbtrx]

I just can't believe that I JUST now discovered that technically you can't be bisexual (or of another orientation) AND aroace. In this case you should be bi-oriented aroace. How the frick did I not know that. And the flag is like

I struggled remembering the order of the fucking BISEXUAL flag and now I am supposed to remember this? I hate life

[critterwithtoast]

i dont have to be into men to identify as bi (oriented) !

[orientation-archive]

PT/men-pref bi

woman-pref bi.

masc-pref bi.

fem-pref bi./end PT

Man-Pref Bi

For any bi oriented person who have an attraction preference for men

….

Woman-Pref Bi

For any bi oriented person who have an attraction preference for women

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Masc-Pref Bi

For any bi oriented person who have an attraction preference for anyone of any gender who present’s masculine

….

Fem-Pref Bi

For any bi oriented person who have an attraction preference for anyone of any gender who presents feminine

[pickles4nickles]

Hi I got a piece for pride done

They're infiltrating the Tarzhay CEO's palace

[lgbtqtext]

[aceofenbies]

not even half of 1st june is over and i'm already seeing people call it "gay month", i hate it here.

i don't care if it's a joke because a) queer exclusionism isn't a funny joke, b) the centring of allo, cisgender, perisex gay people has already happened at pride and is still happening, we do not need to bring it back and c) there are currently active movements working to exclude anything after the B from the community, do you really think playing into that by calling it "gay month" is a good idea.

my nonbinarity, my bi-ness, my aceness, my demiromanticism all deserve to be seen and celebrated this month (and all year), not flattened into a term that doesn't include me whatsoever. queer people don't constantly need to be measured against the most visible in our community. my queerness is not and will never be about "how gay i am".

[shiningstarr15]

FYI if I see a ship involving a character that I hc as ace/aro/aroace, IM NOT GONNA BE MAD OK. It is a spectrum after all and people can and will feel differently on how their identity affects them. So do what you feel is right. As long as YOU don’t disrespect the fact that I might NOT ship it or only ship it as a qpr

Anyway happy international asexuality day everyone 😬🫶💜🤍🖤

[crying-in-converse]

How can you be aro/ace and bi?

Not trying to be rude btw just curious

ohh yess good question. and there are actually multiple answers.

so the definition of aroace is little to no romantic or sexual attraction. so you can be bi with that little attraction.

there are also a label oriented aroace which is where someone doesnt experience ANY romantic or sexual attraction but experiences other attraction that is significant enough to label. so you can label yourself as bi oriented, lesbian oriented, gay oriented, pan oriented, etc.

aroace is an umbrella term for anyone under the spectrum of aroace. so demiromantic/demisexual, grayromantic/graysexual, etc. if you fall under the spectrum of aroace you can use the label aroace. (only if u are on both spectrums though!) so you can be bi and demiromantic/demisexual, etc

[yourfaveisintersex]

Gerard Keay from The Magnus Archives is an intersex aromantic bisexual butch trans woman using she/her pronouns, and her variation is XXYY Syndrome!

Requested by @milfsodo

[critterwithtoast]

There was a girl in my class this year

and she tried to spread a rumour that i was bi (it’s an incredibly bigoted school. Like not just LGBTQ+phobia-sucky people on all fronts)

and it didn’t work because of a lot of things its a bit of a long story but basically everyone just went “that’s stupid” and didn’t believe her

and I will never cease to find that entertaining

because unintentionally

SHE WAS RIGHT

[kristianasquill]

Anyone else with this aroace experience?

I know the aroace community is not a monolith. I know we all have very diverse experiences. But I was thinking about how so many aroace folks had the "I think I'm bi or pan" moment because they felt the same/nothing for all genders.

I had the "I think I'm bi" moment too. But for me it was because I DID feel something for different genders. I felt incredibly strong tertiary attraction to boys and girls (this was 10 years ago and I was queer-sheltered so I had yet to meet an out nonbinary person), and bi felt like the right descriptor. I didn't have to "fake" crushes like so many aroaces. I just confused my squishes for crushes and blended in.

Even after I realized I'm aromantic asexual, bi still feels part of my identity. I relate to a lot of the bi experience. I feel strongly for several different genders, but I'm attracted to them differently. The way I'm attracted to guys is totally different than how I'm attracted to girls and nonbinary folks.

This is why the term "bi-oriented aroace" means so much to me. It describes my experiences with tertiary attraction perfectly.

[kissesandarsenic]

What do you think about frotting two subby boys?

An image I would love to see in person. Bonus points if they're both straight or questioning their sexuality just because my forced bi kink is acting up like crazy.

Hearing their little whimpers and moans. Both of them refusing to look at each other outright due to the embarrassment. Forcing them to anyway. Maybe making them kiss too and pretend it's me instead.

Ooooo or making them look into each other's eyes and spout out gooey praises. You're so pretty, you feel so good, your moans are my favourite. Until they're just outright saying I love you over and over again.

This went insanely off topic but, yes. I'm a voyeur. I love it. Super hot. Gimme.

[lgbtqtext]

[pride-stars]

Bi Gay : someone who is both bisexual/biromantic/etc. and gay.