#besides romantic relationships
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also the way shelby was literally so understanding of and kind to martha is really important. martha's obviously a very sweet, gentle, beautiful, and kind creature, but because of her somewhat shy introverted nature (and also like the general atmosphere of high school and the fact that teenagers are a little shallow) she doesn't get the romantic attention/relationships that she desires. she's somewhat insecure and very vulnerable (which is such an understandable and almost universally relatable part of the teen girl experience), and like a lot of other heterosexual girls, she wants to be romantically desired.
and shelby sees this and doesn't belittle martha for wanting to be desired by male love interests the way most people, especially not-like-other-girls "feminists" would. shelby doesn't have the context of martha's life before the plane crash, she doesn't know why this is so important to martha, but that doesn't matter. martha is shelby's friend and a soft, good soul with many attractive qualities, and while shelby knew her for a very short period of time, she sees how special martha is. shelby kindly and enthusiastically reassures martha, promising her that she will get the romantic attraction and the desire from males that she wants - and not as a way to placate or humor her, but out of sincere fondness and from a place of genuine appreciation for martha and all that she is.
#just thinking about how good these interactions are#and how it reinforces the important theme that girls have the capability to experience intense romantic attraction#and have these extreme yearnings to be desired and validated by others#obviously with characters like leah those kind of situations can become dangerous really quickly#but even so girls that crave affection and desire and love from the people/boys they want aren't the problem!!#there's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and desired and receive romantic affections!!!!!!!!#it's when a) bad men like leah's author bf take advantage of that desire and young girls' vulnerability#or b) this yearning becomes problematic and completely consumes the person#which is clearly not the case with martha?? she has so much energy and love and she cares about/prioritizes a lot of things#besides romantic relationships#shelby goodkind#martha blackburn#the wilds#martha x shelby
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Listen im a mike defender through and through BUT MIKE WTF DUDE, go give your girlfriend a hug or reassurance or literally any comfort my goodness😭😭
#Like the way he was attached at the hip with will and the most he was able to do was look back at el for a second#He didn’t even look overly concerned or worried either😭like maybe a little but cmon the least you could do is sit beside her#As much as I dislike romantic moccasin there were so many missed opportunities to develop their relationship in s4#Like or just the possibilities of the romantic scenes we couldve gotten#Makes you wonder…#byler#byler endgame#anti mileven#Ps i love mike i really love mike trust but mans was not a good boyfriend at times-#In his defence a little el wasnt a good girlfriend either- oop
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god what really gets me about dead boy detectives and what i think i love so much about the show and the relationships in it is that like. the romantic and sexual relationships aren't portrayed as being more unique or important than the platonic relationships. they're all just RELATIONSHIPS.
charles and crystal's attraction to each other and eventual hookup isn't this big end-all be-all relationship that shatter charles and edwin's friendship and draws charles' attention away from edwin; it's just a THING that happens. they're just two people that care about each other and happen to also be attracted to each other, and a hook-up happens, then they decide that neither of them are in the right place for it and it's nothing awful. crystal kisses charles, but it isn't some big spectacle of her declaring her love for him; it's just her saying goodbye and that she cares about him, like her hugs with niko and jenny and her handshake with edwin.
edwin realizes he loves charles romantically and tells him, and charles says he doesn't really love edwin romantically BACK, but it's okay, because they still love each other so much in so many other ways that this one tiny difference could never change them—and it doesn't!! they're still just as close, still care for each other just as much, still SHOW that care for each other just as much. their relationship didn't completely end because edwin loved charles in a way charles couldn't reciprocate, but at the same time it isn't "solved" by edwin getting over it, because there's nothing TO solve. it's just another type of love, added to everything that already exists between them. and they have LITERALLY FOREVER to figure out what it means.
the relationships between edwin & niko, crystal & niko, and crystal & edwin aren't given any less weight for being solely platonic, just as charles & crystal's relationship and edwin's feelings for charles aren't given (that much) MORE weight for being romantic. crystal and charles' conflict in the closet is about EDWIN, about how they're BOTH his friend and BOTH want to get him back; it has very little to do with the feelings between THEM, romantic or otherwise. similarly, the weight of charles' and edwin's relationship isn't diminished in the LEAST by charles not reciprocating the romantic side of his feelings (or SAYING he doesn't reciprocate, at least—we can all argue about the legitimacy of that in the notes).
i'm sure there are more examples than this, as well as probably some examples that CONTRADICT this, but like... by and large, it feels like dead boy detectives is a show where all the relationships are given equal weight regardless of platonic, sexual, romantic, or familial status, and as someone on both the asexual and aromantic spectrums who has struggled time and time again with shows casting out the importance of all other relationships in favor of prioritizing romance, that is INCREDIBLY refreshing to see.
#this might be a lot of run-on sentences and me repeating itself because its 2 am rn (sidenote how the HELL did it get that late last i chec#-ed it was like 11???) but i hope u enjoy anyway 👍#magpie thoughts#dead boy detectives#ik before watching the show i saw a lot of people were annoyed by charles and crystal's relationship and thought it felt forced and like#-they had no romantic chemistry#but honestly. having watched the show. i don't see that at all?#like maybe it's just me being aspec and not getting what ''romantic chemistry'' even IS but like. they were people. they were two fucked up#-people that happened to be attracted to each other and they hooked up when both of them were in low places and agreed to not go any furthe#-after. but beyond all of that they are FRIENDS and they STAY friends and like. they just felt like PEOPLE#the way they were written and the way the actors ACTED IT felt like ten times better to me than the dozens of pinacle romances i've seen in#-other tv shows#(and also i gotta say i love the other CASUALNESS with which sex was mentioned in the early episodes. it wasnt made out to be this big thin#-that only happens when tied to romance; it was just a THING. theyre both hot and in different circumstances they totally would have had se#-about it (and eventually they did but thats besides the point). that's it)#they're people. this is a show full of ghosts and demons and witches and crows-turned-into-boys but they are all fundamentally just PEOPLE#beautiful and fucked up human beings that feel attraction and hurt and fear and love in a million different ways.#AUGH i love this show so much#paineland#payneland#crystal palace#charles rowland#edwin payne#niko sasaki#dead boy detective netflix#dbda
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i do think there are valid reasons why some may dislike charlastor (chaggie & aroace rep erasure, though i personally don’t care as much even as an aroace fan because it’s fictional shipping)
but if your reasoning for considering this a “proship” is because “alastor said he sees charlie as a daughter in episode 5!!!” then i’m just gonna assume you’re a stupid 14 year old child with zero media literacy who should pay more attention in school
here’s a hint: bro does NOT see charlie as a daughter lmao
#im not even a charlastor shipper n these dumb takes got me defending them like a mother 😭😭#besides their relationship is arguably THE most important one in the story#ofc theres gonna be chemistry#i just dont think its romantic at all#hazbin hotel#alastor#charlie morningstar#hazbin hotel alastor#hazbin hotel charlie#charlastor#and op is telling ppl who understood the show correctly that they misinterpreted what happened 💀 no u
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Genuine question to the people in love, how do you go on with your day working and doing other stuff without losing your mind craving to be in their arms all the time?!
#like it would be impossible for me to even breath without being beside them#i know I'll be the clingiest gf to ever exist#my man would have to have me on his back at all times idc#relationship#lover#lovers#desi romantic academia#desiblr#desi shit posting#desi tumblr#dark academia#aesthetic#couple#couple goals#love story#desi kids#desi humor#desi#why am i like this#this is what makes us girls#this is a girlblog#the things i do for love#just girly things#im just a girl#tumblr girls#girlhood#girlblogging#girl problems#spilled ink#dumb stuff that nik says<3
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I love Fabian and Riz's relationship because it's just like my relationship with my best friend. I'm aroace she's bisexual. She's richer than me. I'm obsessed with her. I'm scared of losing her to romance. She's the coolest person I know
#We also pretend to be in a romantic relationship sometimes but that's besides the point#Hi icouldbeaduck luv u <3#fantasy high#dimenson 20#fabian seacaster#riz gukgak
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Whatever Chris and Wesker have going on needs resolving whether it's romantic or not; either Wesker dies permanently or both of them die, they apologise to one another or at least Chris apologises, TALK to each other for once, beat and rip each other bloody and to pieces or just kiss/hug/fight/fuck it out.
#GAHD *throws desk*#starting out on the ship I thought it was a simple 'they're enemies that hate each other' situation#but the more i learn about them as characters and their relationship and finding out detail after detail it's turned out to be more complex#regardless if it's romantic or not there's SOMETHING going on under the surface with them#chris hasn't been normal since Wesker died and he's still having ties to him and doesn't seem to make any attempt to severe them#why use replicas of his weapons if he's haunted by wesker? there must be other reasons besides them being just good weapons to use#and he seems to regret or feel guilt for killing him to the point he'd tell jake to shoot and kill him for it#WHY???#wesker has an obsession for him and rants about hating him and killing him but he never does and he had PLENTY of chances#he talks shit but it's clear he still has a fondness or weakness for chris that makes him hesitate#WHY????#chrisker
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men love to try and tee me up for their next relationship while they’re still dating their current gf and i am never interested. NEVER.
#i don’t even fuck w men like that#mind you i’ve told this man that i am NOT INTERESTED in dating SEVERAL TIMES when he’s asked ab my romantic life#but he’s saying some suspicious ass stuff#like today he was like ‘yeah and it’s hard bc i’m starting have feelings for….this isn’t about anyone in particular….others outside#the relationship. and it’s making me feel guilty’#and i’m like hm. um. okay.#and he’s being weirdly cryptic with me in the way men get when they think they’re being sly ab their feelings for you#😭😭#he’s texting me a bunch lately too like ‘you just really inspire me to be the best version of myself i can be’#and ‘i had a really bad week and i just wanted to thank you for being so kind and funny and awesome’#mind you i didn’t do anything out of ordinary for him#mind you he’s my coworker!!!#i see him every day!!#i’m not stupid idk 😭 you complain ab your gf to me and the shower me in praise like pls stop im uncomfortable 😭😭#i’ve already told him i don’t really want this dynamic with a coworker and he kinda just continues and idk what to do anymore!#like we work closely on everything!#he sits directly beside me in the office!#BLAH#cielo rambles!
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Josuke being the single gay aroace cousin™ of the Joestars might actually be my favorite thing about him. I wish I were him, actually. Bloodline keeps going so no need for romance or kids. Only money from deadbeat dad and nepobabyism. Mr.Gucci-Vogue-LouisVuitton-Prada-Chanel-Balenciaga-RalphLauren-Versace-Armani-Moschino-Dior. His mom's like "are you not going to have kids or get married" and he's like "I'd rather wear thrifted clothes than dating". He actually lives with Okuyasu and everyone thinks they're dating and please don't ask them because they don't know either but what they do know is that Josuke has a flight the next day to go to Italy because his modeling agency asked him to go and Okuyasu is having a breakdown because "what if you like their cooking more than mine" and Josuke won't stop rolling his eyes and going "they could never be better than you" and then he comes back with a thousand of millions of bags saying he did "a little shopping over there" and half of the bags are just shoes.
#aroaspec josuke i love you i love you#he's an icon he's the moment he's the best jojo actually#forget all the times i said joseph is my favorite jojo i like his son better sometimes#the concept of josuke being a model has me crying and sobbing and wanting to hug him he deserves this#let him do absolutely nothing for the rest of his life besides being rich and cool and pretty#what do you mean studying he doesn't do that 💀💀#his relationship with okuyasu is a qpr to me btw#or it's romantic but it sort of falls in an aroace umbrella#maybe he's demiromantic who knows THE POINT IS#the point is josuke is the gay cousin#all jojos are gay but he's the gayest i promise#jojo's bizarre adventure#josuke higashikata#okuyasu nijimura#josuyasu#< they have a thing going on don't ask me what exactly i will give you a different answer every time
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hi, hello, yes, if you ever use the word "deserve" with regards to romantic relationships between fictional characters (and real people, honestly) then i kindly invite you to go fuck yourself
#kotlc#this is a post about sokeefe#<- i should make that a tag#“keefe deserves sophie because he-” what if i stop you right there. what if i killed that. with fire.#people deserve /rewards/ /not/ people#way to objectify a character by making them out to be a reward#also this isn't just a sokeefe thing i've seen it in the atla fandom/other fandoms too hm should i tag atla too#eh i already did#atla#this post isn't necessarily anti sokeefe i just hate the way people talk about them sometimes#reminder that trauma/bad experiences/your life being shit does /not/ entitle you to a romantic relationship#and also doing a good deed/saving the world/being a hero /also/ does not entitle you to a romantic relationship#and /also/ also worshipping/adoring/loving/caring about a person /also/ doesn't entitle you to a romantic relationship with them either#fandoms love to forget that#even if you have good reasons to ship a ship besides that don't say objectifying shit like that please and thank you#goodbye
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my review of the umbrella academy season 4 is that it's not as good as season 1 or 2 (i'm also ambivalent about 3) and there's definitely some parts i Did Not like but overall it was messy in a fun way. i had a good time
#the parts i didn't like were the ending#and five and lila's relationship#age-related time travel weirdness aside it just doesn't work for their dynamic#they had good chemistry as bickering (sort of) colleagues but i think if you have to put the whole romance in montage#and then break them up and not really have them interact as a couple besides a couple of scenes after the montage is over#perhaps it doesn't work as a romantic relationship yk?#the umbrella academy#tua#tua season 4
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okay there we go i cleaned it up. accurate (to the best of my knowledge/memory) map of all the family ties on this fucking server
only part that’s not wholly accurate because if i tried to map it out i’d cry is gegg because he’s also canonically slime but he has different relationships to slime and i just. they’re just gonna be two seperate characters now i don’t care. also i think the baghera and forever siblings thing is fanon? but i don’t know? i included it because i think it’s fun . whatever [edit: it is apparently canon! i’m more in the know than i thought lol]
#.txt#qsmp#sorry i didn’t list all the french people it would’ve taken up far too much room#and besides baghera i don’t think there’s any specifics there anyway#this is Just how people are related not like. romantic relationships or flirting or anything
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Late Night quick thing (New Age Sillies)
Bad news: That joke post about including Reset + Orchid is definitely not canon. (I legit got sad thinking about Reset being in a universe where Orchid isn't- because their stories are so so intertwined- but Nightmare 100% would NOT risk the whole twins exploding Error's soul thing.)
Good news: This means I COULD include Kane (Reset's older brother who usually dies in timelines where Reset is born) and use it to develope his character a bit more! Also! Perhaps a Blue × Dream kiddo is finally in the stars for me to design?
#new age au#really enjoying the idea of Reaper + Geno having an heir at some point (and them sending that heir over to Night's kingdom for#exposure to other places as well as to hang with his third cool knight dad who's hard at work 🙏)#Kane has little to no development besides being a perfect angel (foil to Reset's eventual turn to poor choices) so I'd love to do#to him what I do to every oc of mine. (Namely: Throw them into the Kingdom and see what they do.)#oh! and I could see Blue and Dream (beloved boys) listening to the warnings of possible complications if they try to have a lil babybones#and Dream deciding he'd take the risk and carry the growing soul#(<- though tbf this is MANY years into the future and they'd be well established knights of the realm)#i'm not evil so they *would* manage to avoid the twins curse and have a singular beautiful babybones#they'd get raised partially on the move but stay behind with Night and Error if the two had a more dangerous mission#and grow up to be an obnoxiously powerful warrior following after their dads#(but they'd probably be hesitant to follow into the footsteps of being a knight and might go on a quest with friends before choosing a#final path for themselves)#<- Most spoiled rotten kid ever. courtesy of Nightmare and Error and all their extended family <3#oh last note. Ancha has me cracking up w/ ideas for Cross potentially meeting someone and I was beamed w/ an old ship request post I saw and#I think it'd be funny to include Lust in here somehow... (probably call him smth else as a nickname but y'know-)#like. He works in the city around the castle as some sort of... idk tailor? and he's been making things for Nightmare for years without#knowing because Ccino always was discreet about the orders and providing measurements + always tipped well so it was none of his business#but one day it's like. before a big announcement ceremony or smth and Ccino drags Cross in by the scruff because no one can get him to get#clothes that actually fit aside from armor (hc he steals the others clothes a lot and wears 1 shirt until it's threadbare)#so Ccino makes him go to Lust and Lust is able to get him fitted for sone new outfits because. well. Lust doesn't do much but he's very very#handsome and Cross is super easily flustered and shy around new people and he's awkward and aughhh.#and then he thinks about the interaction for the next month before deciding he's going to ask Ccino to go back there again.#and Lust likes dressing Cross up in new outfits (everyone thinks it's great Cross is loosening up and meeting new friends cuz Lust introduce#s him to people in town) and it takes forever for Cross to get over his worries and ask Lust out to a ride on his horse (romantic. of course#) and Lust agrees because he's charmed.#and the best part would be Cross *actually* manages to keep it a secret. like. no one finds out until one morning Killer bursts into Cross'#room to wake him for surprise training and it's Cross. the weird Dog. and- holy shit did Cross have someone over???#Cross pulls the cool ones frfr 🙏#it's just a casual thing between them with little plot relevance or drama I think. just a chill lil relationship 🙏
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If Be Cool Daphne and Mystery Inc. Fred met, they would be the best friends.
Daphne's Daphne Du Jour would immediately be traps, she would go all in, picking up rope and reading trapping magazines and going to study at the trap museum. Fred wouldn't even care if she somehow becomes better at it than him, bc he would be so excited to have a person to talk about traps with.
And when the day is over and Daphne switches to learning Portuguese or roller skating or something Fred would be a little sad but he would still be very supportive of whatever she's doing next. He would make her a scrapbook of all of her wacky hijinks (bc in MI he canonically scrapbooks) and then her Daphne Du Jour would be scrapbooking with him.
They would commiserate about how it feels for your interests to not be understood and just wanting to be whimsical in such and anti-whimsy society and when Fred tells her about everything his shitty parents did she puts the fake beard back on and says "I'm you dad now."
Do you see my vision?
#scooby doo#fred jones#daphne blake#be cool scooby doo#is the best scooby show#(besides the original)#and that is the hill that im gonna die on#this isn't romantic in anyway either#just two silly guys#i do ship fraphne#but not this combo#and this isn't BC!Fred bashing#i love him and his relationship with his version of daphne#the same cannot be said for Fred and Daphne's relationship in MI though#anyways
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one thing I love about rtte is how little they try to make the snotlout/ fishlegs / ruffnut love triangle make sense
they really were just like “ no actually we want you to be confused by this <3”
#like up until this point fishlegs is in love with heather#and there is like no reasoning why his feelings would change#and Snotlout had that thing with a wing maiden#( even though I wish it had just been mutual respect instead of ending in a kiss )#and I know ruffnut loves the chaos but they literally had an episode#dedicated to her not wanting a romantic relationship besides to benefit off of#idk IT MAKES NO SENSE#to me they are all best friends who are doing it as a joke#to like mock hiccup and Astrid making out in the middle of a wedding or something#idk what do I know#httyd#how to train your dragon#rtte#httyd ruffnut#httyd snotlout#httyd fishlegs#ruffnut thorston#snotlout jorgenson#fishlegs ingerman
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Growing up is realizing you don't hate shipping, you just really wish the execution of it was less amatonormative
#hot aro shit#actually aromantic#romance repulsed#amatonormativity#like. I roll my eyes at ship culture for the most part. but it really isn't the ships themselves. it's just how weird ppl are about it..#a lot of folks will pair everyone. e v e r y o n e. and it's like.. in doing so they just kinda mix and match who 'works best' with who-#without really considering if they would partner with anyone in the first place. like. ppl are nonpartnering for a number of reasons#besides being aspec or adjacent. it's just weird assuming everyone would get with someone when single ppl exist!#and the way a lot of shipping is set up.. it feels like they're lopping chunks of the characters off. mangling them beyond recognition-#just to fit them into these specific dynamics. specifically romantic tropes. instead of embracing tropes that compliment the character-#and preserve the integrity if you are truly utilizing these characters. and look. I get the appeal of shipping. it's fun to mash characters-#together like dolls and set up these stories with them. but if you have to fundamentally erase every unique aspect of them for it-#or ignore large chunks of what makes them who they are in the first place? are you really shipping those characters? or are you making them-#original characters with the names and faces of your favorites?#pairing everybody is also just incredibly lazy lmfao. like. ignoring the fact nonpartnering ppl (both aspec and otherwise) exist..#you're barring yourself from exploring narratives you otherwise would be able to expand upon with characters- that sometimes-#matches don't really work out. or the pressure to find someone when no one 'fits.' abuse victims relearning who they are outside-#of what they bring to the relationships in their day to day lives. friendships that defy the idea romance is the strongest love.#deconstructing the idea of love being something everyone needs. like. you cannot execute that when you pair everyone!#anyways. ship what you ship. idc. but please be mindful of how harmful the ideas you're pushing can be.
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