#besides romantic relationships
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also the way shelby was literally so understanding of and kind to martha is really important. martha's obviously a very sweet, gentle, beautiful, and kind creature, but because of her somewhat shy introverted nature (and also like the general atmosphere of high school and the fact that teenagers are a little shallow) she doesn't get the romantic attention/relationships that she desires. she's somewhat insecure and very vulnerable (which is such an understandable and almost universally relatable part of the teen girl experience), and like a lot of other heterosexual girls, she wants to be romantically desired.
and shelby sees this and doesn't belittle martha for wanting to be desired by male love interests the way most people, especially not-like-other-girls "feminists" would. shelby doesn't have the context of martha's life before the plane crash, she doesn't know why this is so important to martha, but that doesn't matter. martha is shelby's friend and a soft, good soul with many attractive qualities, and while shelby knew her for a very short period of time, she sees how special martha is. shelby kindly and enthusiastically reassures martha, promising her that she will get the romantic attraction and the desire from males that she wants - and not as a way to placate or humor her, but out of sincere fondness and from a place of genuine appreciation for martha and all that she is.
#just thinking about how good these interactions are#and how it reinforces the important theme that girls have the capability to experience intense romantic attraction#and have these extreme yearnings to be desired and validated by others#obviously with characters like leah those kind of situations can become dangerous really quickly#but even so girls that crave affection and desire and love from the people/boys they want aren't the problem!!#there's nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and desired and receive romantic affections!!!!!!!!#it's when a) bad men like leah's author bf take advantage of that desire and young girls' vulnerability#or b) this yearning becomes problematic and completely consumes the person#which is clearly not the case with martha?? she has so much energy and love and she cares about/prioritizes a lot of things#besides romantic relationships#shelby goodkind#martha blackburn#the wilds#martha x shelby
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Listen im a mike defender through and through BUT MIKE WTF DUDE, go give your girlfriend a hug or reassurance or literally any comfort my goodness😭😭
#Like the way he was attached at the hip with will and the most he was able to do was look back at el for a second#He didn’t even look overly concerned or worried either😭like maybe a little but cmon the least you could do is sit beside her#As much as I dislike romantic moccasin there were so many missed opportunities to develop their relationship in s4#Like or just the possibilities of the romantic scenes we couldve gotten#Makes you wonder…#byler#byler endgame#anti mileven#Ps i love mike i really love mike trust but mans was not a good boyfriend at times-#In his defence a little el wasnt a good girlfriend either- oop
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god what really gets me about dead boy detectives and what i think i love so much about the show and the relationships in it is that like. the romantic and sexual relationships aren't portrayed as being more unique or important than the platonic relationships. they're all just RELATIONSHIPS.
charles and crystal's attraction to each other and eventual hookup isn't this big end-all be-all relationship that shatter charles and edwin's friendship and draws charles' attention away from edwin; it's just a THING that happens. they're just two people that care about each other and happen to also be attracted to each other, and a hook-up happens, then they decide that neither of them are in the right place for it and it's nothing awful. crystal kisses charles, but it isn't some big spectacle of her declaring her love for him; it's just her saying goodbye and that she cares about him, like her hugs with niko and jenny and her handshake with edwin.
edwin realizes he loves charles romantically and tells him, and charles says he doesn't really love edwin romantically BACK, but it's okay, because they still love each other so much in so many other ways that this one tiny difference could never change them—and it doesn't!! they're still just as close, still care for each other just as much, still SHOW that care for each other just as much. their relationship didn't completely end because edwin loved charles in a way charles couldn't reciprocate, but at the same time it isn't "solved" by edwin getting over it, because there's nothing TO solve. it's just another type of love, added to everything that already exists between them. and they have LITERALLY FOREVER to figure out what it means.
the relationships between edwin & niko, crystal & niko, and crystal & edwin aren't given any less weight for being solely platonic, just as charles & crystal's relationship and edwin's feelings for charles aren't given (that much) MORE weight for being romantic. crystal and charles' conflict in the closet is about EDWIN, about how they're BOTH his friend and BOTH want to get him back; it has very little to do with the feelings between THEM, romantic or otherwise. similarly, the weight of charles' and edwin's relationship isn't diminished in the LEAST by charles not reciprocating the romantic side of his feelings (or SAYING he doesn't reciprocate, at least—we can all argue about the legitimacy of that in the notes).
i'm sure there are more examples than this, as well as probably some examples that CONTRADICT this, but like... by and large, it feels like dead boy detectives is a show where all the relationships are given equal weight regardless of platonic, sexual, romantic, or familial status, and as someone on both the asexual and aromantic spectrums who has struggled time and time again with shows casting out the importance of all other relationships in favor of prioritizing romance, that is INCREDIBLY refreshing to see.
#this might be a lot of run-on sentences and me repeating itself because its 2 am rn (sidenote how the HELL did it get that late last i chec#-ed it was like 11???) but i hope u enjoy anyway 👍#magpie thoughts#dead boy detectives#ik before watching the show i saw a lot of people were annoyed by charles and crystal's relationship and thought it felt forced and like#-they had no romantic chemistry#but honestly. having watched the show. i don't see that at all?#like maybe it's just me being aspec and not getting what ''romantic chemistry'' even IS but like. they were people. they were two fucked up#-people that happened to be attracted to each other and they hooked up when both of them were in low places and agreed to not go any furthe#-after. but beyond all of that they are FRIENDS and they STAY friends and like. they just felt like PEOPLE#the way they were written and the way the actors ACTED IT felt like ten times better to me than the dozens of pinacle romances i've seen in#-other tv shows#(and also i gotta say i love the other CASUALNESS with which sex was mentioned in the early episodes. it wasnt made out to be this big thin#-that only happens when tied to romance; it was just a THING. theyre both hot and in different circumstances they totally would have had se#-about it (and eventually they did but thats besides the point). that's it)#they're people. this is a show full of ghosts and demons and witches and crows-turned-into-boys but they are all fundamentally just PEOPLE#beautiful and fucked up human beings that feel attraction and hurt and fear and love in a million different ways.#AUGH i love this show so much#paineland#payneland#crystal palace#charles rowland#edwin payne#niko sasaki#dead boy detective netflix#dbda
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i do think there are valid reasons why some may dislike charlastor (chaggie & aroace rep erasure, though i personally don’t care as much even as an aroace fan because it’s fictional shipping)
but if your reasoning for considering this a “proship” is because “alastor said he sees charlie as a daughter in episode 5!!!” then i’m just gonna assume you’re a stupid 14 year old child with zero media literacy who should pay more attention in school
here’s a hint: bro does NOT see charlie as a daughter lmao
#im not even a charlastor shipper n these dumb takes got me defending them like a mother 😭😭#besides their relationship is arguably THE most important one in the story#ofc theres gonna be chemistry#i just dont think its romantic at all#hazbin hotel#alastor#charlie morningstar#hazbin hotel alastor#hazbin hotel charlie#charlastor#and op is telling ppl who understood the show correctly that they misinterpreted what happened 💀 no u
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Genuine question to the people in love, how do you go on with your day working and doing other stuff without losing your mind craving to be in their arms all the time?!
#like it would be impossible for me to even breath without being beside them#i know I'll be the clingiest gf to ever exist#my man would have to have me on his back at all times idc#relationship#lover#lovers#desi romantic academia#desiblr#desi shit posting#desi tumblr#dark academia#aesthetic#couple#couple goals#love story#desi kids#desi humor#desi#why am i like this#this is what makes us girls#this is a girlblog#the things i do for love#just girly things#im just a girl#tumblr girls#girlhood#girlblogging#girl problems#spilled ink#dumb stuff that nik says<3
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I love Fabian and Riz's relationship because it's just like my relationship with my best friend. I'm aroace she's bisexual. She's richer than me. I'm obsessed with her. I'm scared of losing her to romance. She's the coolest person I know
#We also pretend to be in a romantic relationship sometimes but that's besides the point#Hi icouldbeaduck luv u <3#fantasy high#dimenson 20#fabian seacaster#riz gukgak
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Whatever Chris and Wesker have going on needs resolving whether it's romantic or not; either Wesker dies permanently or both of them die, they apologise to one another or at least Chris apologises, TALK to each other for once, beat and rip each other bloody and to pieces or just kiss/hug/fight/fuck it out.
#GAHD *throws desk*#starting out on the ship I thought it was a simple 'they're enemies that hate each other' situation#but the more i learn about them as characters and their relationship and finding out detail after detail it's turned out to be more complex#regardless if it's romantic or not there's SOMETHING going on under the surface with them#chris hasn't been normal since Wesker died and he's still having ties to him and doesn't seem to make any attempt to severe them#why use replicas of his weapons if he's haunted by wesker? there must be other reasons besides them being just good weapons to use#and he seems to regret or feel guilt for killing him to the point he'd tell jake to shoot and kill him for it#WHY???#wesker has an obsession for him and rants about hating him and killing him but he never does and he had PLENTY of chances#he talks shit but it's clear he still has a fondness or weakness for chris that makes him hesitate#WHY????#chrisker
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Josuke being the single gay aroace cousin™ of the Joestars might actually be my favorite thing about him. I wish I were him, actually. Bloodline keeps going so no need for romance or kids. Only money from deadbeat dad and nepobabyism. Mr.Gucci-Vogue-LouisVuitton-Prada-Chanel-Balenciaga-RalphLauren-Versace-Armani-Moschino-Dior. His mom's like "are you not going to have kids or get married" and he's like "I'd rather wear thrifted clothes than dating". He actually lives with Okuyasu and everyone thinks they're dating and please don't ask them because they don't know either but what they do know is that Josuke has a flight the next day to go to Italy because his modeling agency asked him to go and Okuyasu is having a breakdown because "what if you like their cooking more than mine" and Josuke won't stop rolling his eyes and going "they could never be better than you" and then he comes back with a thousand of millions of bags saying he did "a little shopping over there" and half of the bags are just shoes.
#aroaspec josuke i love you i love you#he's an icon he's the moment he's the best jojo actually#forget all the times i said joseph is my favorite jojo i like his son better sometimes#the concept of josuke being a model has me crying and sobbing and wanting to hug him he deserves this#let him do absolutely nothing for the rest of his life besides being rich and cool and pretty#what do you mean studying he doesn't do that 💀💀#his relationship with okuyasu is a qpr to me btw#or it's romantic but it sort of falls in an aroace umbrella#maybe he's demiromantic who knows THE POINT IS#the point is josuke is the gay cousin#all jojos are gay but he's the gayest i promise#jojo's bizarre adventure#josuke higashikata#okuyasu nijimura#josuyasu#< they have a thing going on don't ask me what exactly i will give you a different answer every time
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hi, hello, yes, if you ever use the word "deserve" with regards to romantic relationships between fictional characters (and real people, honestly) then i kindly invite you to go fuck yourself
#kotlc#this is a post about sokeefe#<- i should make that a tag#“keefe deserves sophie because he-” what if i stop you right there. what if i killed that. with fire.#people deserve /rewards/ /not/ people#way to objectify a character by making them out to be a reward#also this isn't just a sokeefe thing i've seen it in the atla fandom/other fandoms too hm should i tag atla too#eh i already did#atla#this post isn't necessarily anti sokeefe i just hate the way people talk about them sometimes#reminder that trauma/bad experiences/your life being shit does /not/ entitle you to a romantic relationship#and also doing a good deed/saving the world/being a hero /also/ does not entitle you to a romantic relationship#and /also/ also worshipping/adoring/loving/caring about a person /also/ doesn't entitle you to a romantic relationship with them either#fandoms love to forget that#even if you have good reasons to ship a ship besides that don't say objectifying shit like that please and thank you#goodbye
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my review of the umbrella academy season 4 is that it's not as good as season 1 or 2 (i'm also ambivalent about 3) and there's definitely some parts i Did Not like but overall it was messy in a fun way. i had a good time
#the parts i didn't like were the ending#and five and lila's relationship#age-related time travel weirdness aside it just doesn't work for their dynamic#they had good chemistry as bickering (sort of) colleagues but i think if you have to put the whole romance in montage#and then break them up and not really have them interact as a couple besides a couple of scenes after the montage is over#perhaps it doesn't work as a romantic relationship yk?#the umbrella academy#tua#tua season 4
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okay there we go i cleaned it up. accurate (to the best of my knowledge/memory) map of all the family ties on this fucking server
only part that’s not wholly accurate because if i tried to map it out i’d cry is gegg because he’s also canonically slime but he has different relationships to slime and i just. they’re just gonna be two seperate characters now i don’t care. also i think the baghera and forever siblings thing is fanon? but i don’t know? i included it because i think it’s fun . whatever [edit: it is apparently canon! i’m more in the know than i thought lol]
#.txt#qsmp#sorry i didn’t list all the french people it would’ve taken up far too much room#and besides baghera i don’t think there’s any specifics there anyway#this is Just how people are related not like. romantic relationships or flirting or anything
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Late Night quick thing (New Age Sillies)
Bad news: That joke post about including Reset + Orchid is definitely not canon. (I legit got sad thinking about Reset being in a universe where Orchid isn't- because their stories are so so intertwined- but Nightmare 100% would NOT risk the whole twins exploding Error's soul thing.)
Good news: This means I COULD include Kane (Reset's older brother who usually dies in timelines where Reset is born) and use it to develope his character a bit more! Also! Perhaps a Blue × Dream kiddo is finally in the stars for me to design?
#new age au#really enjoying the idea of Reaper + Geno having an heir at some point (and them sending that heir over to Night's kingdom for#exposure to other places as well as to hang with his third cool knight dad who's hard at work 🙏)#Kane has little to no development besides being a perfect angel (foil to Reset's eventual turn to poor choices) so I'd love to do#to him what I do to every oc of mine. (Namely: Throw them into the Kingdom and see what they do.)#oh! and I could see Blue and Dream (beloved boys) listening to the warnings of possible complications if they try to have a lil babybones#and Dream deciding he'd take the risk and carry the growing soul#(<- though tbf this is MANY years into the future and they'd be well established knights of the realm)#i'm not evil so they *would* manage to avoid the twins curse and have a singular beautiful babybones#they'd get raised partially on the move but stay behind with Night and Error if the two had a more dangerous mission#and grow up to be an obnoxiously powerful warrior following after their dads#(but they'd probably be hesitant to follow into the footsteps of being a knight and might go on a quest with friends before choosing a#final path for themselves)#<- Most spoiled rotten kid ever. courtesy of Nightmare and Error and all their extended family <3#oh last note. Ancha has me cracking up w/ ideas for Cross potentially meeting someone and I was beamed w/ an old ship request post I saw and#I think it'd be funny to include Lust in here somehow... (probably call him smth else as a nickname but y'know-)#like. He works in the city around the castle as some sort of... idk tailor? and he's been making things for Nightmare for years without#knowing because Ccino always was discreet about the orders and providing measurements + always tipped well so it was none of his business#but one day it's like. before a big announcement ceremony or smth and Ccino drags Cross in by the scruff because no one can get him to get#clothes that actually fit aside from armor (hc he steals the others clothes a lot and wears 1 shirt until it's threadbare)#so Ccino makes him go to Lust and Lust is able to get him fitted for sone new outfits because. well. Lust doesn't do much but he's very very#handsome and Cross is super easily flustered and shy around new people and he's awkward and aughhh.#and then he thinks about the interaction for the next month before deciding he's going to ask Ccino to go back there again.#and Lust likes dressing Cross up in new outfits (everyone thinks it's great Cross is loosening up and meeting new friends cuz Lust introduce#s him to people in town) and it takes forever for Cross to get over his worries and ask Lust out to a ride on his horse (romantic. of course#) and Lust agrees because he's charmed.#and the best part would be Cross *actually* manages to keep it a secret. like. no one finds out until one morning Killer bursts into Cross'#room to wake him for surprise training and it's Cross. the weird Dog. and- holy shit did Cross have someone over???#Cross pulls the cool ones frfr 🙏#it's just a casual thing between them with little plot relevance or drama I think. just a chill lil relationship 🙏
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one thing I love about rtte is how little they try to make the snotlout/ fishlegs / ruffnut love triangle make sense
they really were just like “ no actually we want you to be confused by this <3”
#like up until this point fishlegs is in love with heather#and there is like no reasoning why his feelings would change#and Snotlout had that thing with a wing maiden#( even though I wish it had just been mutual respect instead of ending in a kiss )#and I know ruffnut loves the chaos but they literally had an episode#dedicated to her not wanting a romantic relationship besides to benefit off of#idk IT MAKES NO SENSE#to me they are all best friends who are doing it as a joke#to like mock hiccup and Astrid making out in the middle of a wedding or something#idk what do I know#httyd#how to train your dragon#rtte#httyd ruffnut#httyd snotlout#httyd fishlegs#ruffnut thorston#snotlout jorgenson#fishlegs ingerman
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Growing up is realizing you don't hate shipping, you just really wish the execution of it was less amatonormative
#hot aro shit#actually aromantic#romance repulsed#amatonormativity#like. I roll my eyes at ship culture for the most part. but it really isn't the ships themselves. it's just how weird ppl are about it..#a lot of folks will pair everyone. e v e r y o n e. and it's like.. in doing so they just kinda mix and match who 'works best' with who-#without really considering if they would partner with anyone in the first place. like. ppl are nonpartnering for a number of reasons#besides being aspec or adjacent. it's just weird assuming everyone would get with someone when single ppl exist!#and the way a lot of shipping is set up.. it feels like they're lopping chunks of the characters off. mangling them beyond recognition-#just to fit them into these specific dynamics. specifically romantic tropes. instead of embracing tropes that compliment the character-#and preserve the integrity if you are truly utilizing these characters. and look. I get the appeal of shipping. it's fun to mash characters-#together like dolls and set up these stories with them. but if you have to fundamentally erase every unique aspect of them for it-#or ignore large chunks of what makes them who they are in the first place? are you really shipping those characters? or are you making them-#original characters with the names and faces of your favorites?#pairing everybody is also just incredibly lazy lmfao. like. ignoring the fact nonpartnering ppl (both aspec and otherwise) exist..#you're barring yourself from exploring narratives you otherwise would be able to expand upon with characters- that sometimes-#matches don't really work out. or the pressure to find someone when no one 'fits.' abuse victims relearning who they are outside-#of what they bring to the relationships in their day to day lives. friendships that defy the idea romance is the strongest love.#deconstructing the idea of love being something everyone needs. like. you cannot execute that when you pair everyone!#anyways. ship what you ship. idc. but please be mindful of how harmful the ideas you're pushing can be.
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and like sidenote if i can make a post with a target audience of zero. i feel like fhsy was to d20 what aa3 was to ace attorney but aa3 pulled it off better for reasons i cannot explain
#it is. the amatonormativity#^ guy who was REALLY pissed about the sandra lynn stuff#like yknow that bit in the first ep where brennan is like 'oh this drama is going down' and so like the pcs investigate it#probs bcos they think itll like kick off their new quest#and then it turns out to be like. petty romantic drama.#thats kind of a microcosm of the entire season for me#not to say there werent parts i liked (looks at the picture of baron i printed out and hung on my wall)#(and most of the leviathan stuff was brilliant and ayda is a role model for me)#but its all so tied up in the rest of that shit that i dont rlly wanna rewatch it the way ive rewatched fy 6+ times#likening this to aa3 bcos of the rlly noticeable uptick in romantic content in it compared to the rest of the trilogy#like prior to that all that rlly comes to mind is like. 2-3 and pearl's shipping shenanigans and larry existing#but in aa3 both mia and phoenix have past lovers who play big parts#theres a married couple theres tigre and viola (who sidenote i ENTIRELY missed as romantic my first playthru. i am dense)#there's the business with fawles#like it felt like romance played a large part in every case in aa3#where even when it came up in 1 + 2 it was usually ancillary (2-3 excepted but like. ppl regard that case as a fluke in most regards)#you COULD argue that maggey and adrian also inject some romantic presence in the story#but idk it just doesnt feel as central or prevalent as in aa3#like i saw a post abt adrian and celeste being cousins in the aa anime being not just the sailor moon 'best cousins' thing#but like. reinforcing the themes of familiar devotion as aa2's core. and that was rlly foundational to my understanding of the game#even tho its a change that comes from an adaptation#whereas you Couldnt make that change in aa3 without it changing A Lot of shit#where was i going with this. shrug.#the zelda and tracker relationship drama was entirely manufactured as punishing the pcs for not centering npcs#whose relationship issues were ancillary to the overarching plot they were focused on and which hadnt rlly been brought up beforehand#'why didnt gorgug call zelda :/' do u want zac to pause the kalina mystery to roleplay good relationship communication with the dm??#like its one thing looking at sy as a narrative but looking at it as a ttrpg campaign with limited time and a need to split character focus#i dont see what it did for the story besides give gorgug something to angst abt. didnt rlly feel like there was character growth or an arc#sigh. MANDATORY DISCLAIMER its been at least a year since i watched sy and longer before that since ive played aa3#but at the time my feelings were strong and have only calcified. romance as a theme in something not generally abt romance
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I think we should bring back basic etiquette lessons such as shutting the fuck up when you’re watching a movie in a group that is not exclusively your friend group 🙂
#welcome to another Mick Airs Out Their Grievances and by god is it a VERY long one#prob best if u don't expand the tags#am I being maybe a bit meaner about this than I would be for any other movie? maybe but pac rim is one of my favorite movies of all time#so I think I get a pass on this one.#one of the groups on campus is hosting movie nights & I went to this one bc I've only ever watched pac rim on my laptop and wanted to watch#it on a larger screen. yay yippee I love this movie!#there r maybe 10-ish of us in this room and a three person friend group is sitting on the couch one of whom has seen the movie and two who#have not. okay so far so normal.#and then the movie starts and they won't! stop! fucking! commentating! the whole fucking movie!!! I don't have a problem with doing that#when I'm in just my friend group because I know that I can tell my friend to stop talking or pause the movie or whatnot but not when I'm in#a large group w people I'm not good friends with ffs#and the comments aren't even funny or anything they're all oh this is JUST like in iron widow!! oh they're SO gay and autistic!!! and#they're talking so loud about this that it completely drowns out the movie audio which has already been turned up a few times#like. be considerate!! some of us want to yknow actually listen to what's going on and not whatever bullshit you're saying#I nearly walked out three or four times before I actually wound up doing so#I may have been a bit of a bitch at the end but I don't care. I got up to leave because this was not an enjoyable environment and one of#them offered to turn the movie down if it was too loud. this caught me a bit off guard since I expected them to still be so wrapped up in#their convo and. well. I may have said 'it's not the movie that's too loud' before closing the door#this also reminds me a lot about my issues with online shipping culture and it bleeding through into how we interact with media irl#this is probably heavily influenced by my aromanticism but I'm so sick of people constantly reading romantic relationships into everything#AND placing more importance on those relationships than any other form. I don't mind romance in media. I think if done right it has great#emotional impact on a story but when a movie is running and when other people who may not want to hear it are in the room watching it too#is not the time to be loudly saying 'he's autistic!' 'they're in love!' 'she has a crush on him!'#I have my own interpretations of the movie some of which agree with what they said and some of which don't but that's beside the point of#knowing how to coexist politely in public#anyway. I think they were awful and annoying and they ruined my night out.#I think I'm just so incredibly mad about this because I love the movie and I was looking forward to watching it in a group of people who#found it cool as well while still having some modicum of politeness#I almost wish I had been meaner but that's the extreme annoyance talking I think#hater hour over love u guys bye
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