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strab3rr ยท 3 days ago
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hi love,
How did you induce pure consciousness xx
i know u guys love big stories -i love those things too- but im sorry i donโ€™t have any
but i can try to make it seem bigger 4 u.
it was a sunny day
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it was a normal day
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at least i thought it wasโ€ฆ
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i make a brunch w my mom and then we go buy some groceries
did i mention it was a sunny day..
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there was so much sweat blood and tears(i was on my period)
then we got home
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i dayreamed while i study russian and math(tears again)
than i watched my fav show(supernatural)
and finally dinner time w my family ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰
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i got dishes and go straight to my room
usually we have some tea after dinner
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but i had cramps so i just go to bed w a pill
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when i realized the pill worked i tried to sleep and get some rest
but i couldnโ€™t so i thought i can do pinteresting๐ŸŽ€
i add some pins to my silly little boards(therapy)
then i saw a pin/tumblr post(wait im gonna try to find that)
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after reading this pin, i remembered the posts i was readin on tumblr (b4dprincessโ€™s posts)
then i opened tumblr and continued to read those
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when i was done w reading i was like ๐Ÿ‘ ok this is it
its my reality how hard can it be?
i put my phone down and take one deep breath
(oh noooo theres only 10gif/image allowed on mobile, i was havin fun aaaaa)
life saving emojiiiss
๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ
and thats it
i did nothing but taking that one deep breath (physically)
i focused on everything but my body
i think about the dates i will have w him
i think about my house, neighborhood
i daydreamed my pets
the clothes
friends and the more i think about these things i was feeling closer
some point i felt like im levitating and drowning at the same time, this is the part i got scared but be cool abt it
affirmations ive said while being cool:
i am detached from any realities
i am here and there, everywhere and nowhere
i am everything and nothing
i am, i am, i am
i am nothing but my soul
i am beyond of any physical world
i am i am
i induced my pure consciousness within seconds
i am
i am
i am
i said โ€˜i amโ€™ till i felt nothing
for a second i thought i didnโ€™t make it but again be cool abt it (bc: dont let them know ur next move)
i felt ready and opened my eyes and finally i was there and just as i imagined i felt everything and nothing at the same time
it felt forever and not even a second at the same time
guys
it-was-awesome ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป
(for the clarification: i didnโ€™t mock w anything with all those gifs)
its just im trying to tell you, i mean u want a recipe but there isnt any
thereโ€™s nothing literally nothing to do for enterin your void
well theres one thing: relax.
just relax, you got this, stop overcomplicating it. its inside of you not in the space, not in the underground not in the air not in the fuckn atmosphere its within you, so you dont have to worry about anything because its there. its always there and it will always be there
stop searching for some magic key. because you are the key. you are the void youโ€™re searching for.
i know, having a lot with your life and everything is hard and you have goals to achieve, moments to live
well good news
you can change this and you should because you deserve better
only you can change this
(i talk a lot and most of them are nonsense but i am right abt one thing, and that is, you deserve better. so act like it)
loves, siena.
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darcytaylor ยท 1 day ago
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Nicolaโ€™s message is a reality check that everyone should listen to. We can - and need to - do better. (Harper Bazaar Woman of the Year Awards)
For a while now, Iโ€™ve been saying here on my blog: speculation is not fact. We donโ€™t - and never will - know the ins and outs of anyoneโ€™s private life, especially when it comes to someone like Nicola Coughlan. Yet so many people see her holding hands with someone and jump to conclusions, acting like theyโ€™re gospel truth. Can we please take a moment to think about why holding hands with a guy is somehow โ€œevidenceโ€ of a relationship, but when she holds hands with female friends, no one bats an eye? (and no this is not where I want you to go into detail about all of your reasonings why she is dating someone, the point is WE DON'T KNOW - because we don't actually know her! And if someone says otherwise, they are lying!)
Even if Nicola is in a relationship, letโ€™s remember that we donโ€™t actually know anything about it, which is exactly how it should be. And for those hinting about pregnancy, even if theyโ€™re trying to be subtle with terms like โ€œdelicate positionโ€ - itโ€™s beyond invasive, and itโ€™s honestly FUCKED UP! People know exactly what you're suggesting, and Nicola called that behaviour out directly in her speech. If youโ€™re focusing on her body rather than her work, youโ€™re part of the problem. (You can read my pinned post where I go into more detail why speculating on pregnancy is fucked)
If Nicola doesn't like the way the media is portraying her, it's unlikely she would appreciate fans doing the same thing. Sometimes, people try to justify their actions by separating the media from fan behaviour, but the impact on her is the same. We need to remember that our assumptions, even if you think they are innocent, can be damaging.
What fans talk about often drives what the media focuses on, because theyโ€™re chasing clicks. If people werenโ€™t feeding into it, the media wouldnโ€™t have as much to go off.
What the fans talk about and what the media produces, go hand-in-hand, and ignoring that is a big part of the problem. Trying to justify it doesnโ€™t change the fact that it can still affect Nicola - especially if sheโ€™s made it clear sheโ€™s uncomfortable and hates these narratives.
Nicolaโ€™s speech was a call out to reconsider how people engage with her personal life. I know Iโ€™ve been working on doing better, and I think everyone else in this fandom could stand to do the same. Instead of spinning theories about her relationships or appearance, maybe we could all step back, respect her boundaries, and celebrate her for what she wants to be recognized for: her achievements and her talent. Let's try not to make her whole personality about a guy.
Nicola took a stand on the insane focus on things like her relationship status, age, or dress size - topics that constantly overshadow her career and accomplishments. You can tell it's exhausting for her to be boxed into these labels, and she deserves better.
One of the best parts of her speech last night, for me, was when she praised her longtime inspiration, Victoria Beckham, who was right there in the audience. Nicola talked about how much Victoria meant to her growing up, especially for how she handled herself through nonstop scrutiny. Both women have had to deal with some of the same pressures -where fans and the media feel entitled to critique and dissect every aspect of their lives.
Nicola made it clear sheโ€™s tired of being defined by these things. People are more interested in latching onto rumours about her relationship status (even though we have zero confirmation of who sheโ€™s dating) or making guesses about her body, including potential pregnancy, all because of how she looks on any given day. This rush to define her identity based on whether sheโ€™s seen with someone or holding hands? Itโ€™s reductive and invasive.
Honestly, Nicolaโ€™s message is a reality check that everyone should listen to. We can - and need to - do better.
To the bigger creators: you especially have to do better because I can see some of you fuelling everything that Nicola hates. (I actually donโ€™t think itโ€™s the people who ship Luke and Nicola because that is part of her job, that is part of Bridgerton and her work, itโ€™s a testament to how good of a job both her and Luke did, Nicola understands that). But the people who are shipping her with people outside of her work? DO BETTER!
And yes, I am also putting myself in the category of doing better. I think itโ€™s imperative to look at past behaviours and strive to do better and be better.
EDIT: THIS PICTURE IS GORGEOUS! The flowers, the lighting, the vibe. It's perfect!
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familyislam ยท 1 day ago
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appeal Disease spread in Gaza
Diseases It destroys our children's bodies This is because ๐Ÿ‘‡
The spread of garbage, dirt, missile exhaust and war bombs.......
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Because of the siege and the war that has been going on for more than a year This has led to the spread of many diseases such as hepatitis C, Meningitis, rash,Scabies, lice, chickenpox, and Corona....
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The risk of further disease outbreaks remains high due to several factors, including wars, missiles, overcrowding, lack of water and sanitation, disruption of routine health care services, and a faltering health system.
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This is the life of our children in Gaza, without education, without health, without treatment...
(War, bombing, burning our bodies due to bombing, siege, famine, poverty, cold, widespread diseases)๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’”
Our children deserve a better life and to live in safety and peace. โ™ฅ๏ธ
I ask all of you to contribute the amount you can, even if it is small. There is no small donation. Every drop of water means a lot to me and my children who are trapped in these difficult circumstances. Please support and share my campaign with your friends, family, and social networking sites. Together we can change the lives of my children and my family, achieve a better future for us, and restore hope and happiness to my family. To donate,
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fictional-apologistt ยท 1 day ago
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letโ€™s talk about One Direction
ONE DIRECTION RANT!!
(this is just my opinion, let me know yours in the comments!) โ™ฅ๏ธŽ
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One Direction was, and still is, one of the most popular boy bands in history. Thereโ€™s a reason for that: a group of talented, charismatic young men who could sing remarkably well and release hit after hit. For many people, myself included, One Direction was an essential part of our childhoods. We grew up with their music, their personalities, and the excitement of each new album, tour, and interview. Itโ€™s an experience that shaped a generationโ€”something the newer generation might not fully understand or ever get to experience in the same way.
As fans, itโ€™s natural to have a favorite member or two. We connect with each band member in different ways and might think one has a stronger voice or a unique style. This is true in any group, whether itโ€™s a band, a cast of a TV show, or a sports teamโ€”we have favorites. That doesnโ€™t mean we dislike the others or think they lack talent. The same goes for One Direction. Fans might lean towards Harry, Louis, Zayn, Niall, or Liam for different reasons, but itโ€™s the combination of all five that made the band special in the first place.
Over the years, thereโ€™s been plenty of debate about who has the โ€œbestโ€ voice or is the most talented. While some members may have a vocal range or style that stands out in certain songs, it doesnโ€™t make one better than the others. Each member๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝZayn, Louis, Harry, Niall, and Liamโ€”brought something unique to every song. Whether it was Zaynโ€™s high notes, Louisโ€™ emotional tone, Harryโ€™s powerful vocals, Niallโ€™s warm voice, or Liamโ€™s versatility, each voice was crucial to the bandโ€™s sound.
Today, Harry is undeniably the most commercially successful and widely recognized member, with a solo career that has propelled him to incredible heights. He currently has the highest number of Spotify monthly listeners at around 48.5 million, followed by Zayn at 27.6 million, Niall at 15.1 million, Liam at 11.7 million, and Louis at 3.1 million. While Harryโ€™s success is well-deserved, itโ€™s unfortunate that his achievements sometimes overshadow the others. All of them are incredibly talented and have made their own mark, both as solo artists and as members of One Direction.
Itโ€™s okay to have a favourite. But itโ€™s also important to recognise that One Direction wouldnโ€™t have been the global phenomenon it became without each of themโ€”Louis, Niall, Liam, Zayn, and Harry. Each member played an irreplaceable role in creating the songs and experiences we loved.
A lot of the fans were and are girls. The mediaโ€™s focus on Harry, especially during their time together, did play a part in making him more visible, calling him a womaniser at 16 years old, which is absolutely disgusting and young Harry never deserved that label.
This attention wasnโ€™t always fair to him, and it took attention away from the contributions of the other members.
Additionally, when you listen to a lot of One Directionโ€™s songs, youโ€™ll notice that Harryโ€™s voice often stands out during the choruses. This isnโ€™t because heโ€™s trying to outshine the othersโ€”far from it. Itโ€™s likely an artistic or production choice made to make the song sound cohesive. The slightly louder presence of Harryโ€™s voice, especially in the chorus, might unconsciously draw people to his vocals. Over time, this likely contributed to his increased popularity and set the stage for his successful solo career.
However, itโ€™s unfortunate that the voices of the other members were sometimes overlooked because of this approach. I have observed that in many of their songs, it was more common to hear Harry, leading to a perception that some voices were โ€œbetterโ€ than others. Yet each memberโ€™s voice had something unique to offer, and every fan could connect to different qualities of their singing. Take, for example, the song No Control from their FOUR (Deluxe) album. In this track, you can clearly hear Louisโ€™ vocals during the chorus, and it makes the song distinct. His voice brings a raw, emotional quality that many fans love. Another clip that has resurfaced is Liam hitting the You and I high note, and doing it well. This shows how much potential the other members had when given the chance to shine.
Unfortunately, One Directionโ€™s management reportedly played a big role in these decisions. There are documented moments where certain membersโ€™ microphones were turned down or even turned off. One infamous clip shows Niallโ€™s mic being turned off by management during a live performance, which prevented him from singing certain parts. Myself have noticed that without Niallโ€™s or Louisโ€™ voices, the songs lacked a certain balance and harmony that made the band special. Similarly, thereโ€™s a clip of Louisโ€™ microphone cutting out mid-performance, and the song doesnโ€™t sound quite right without his vocal input. These moments highlight the importance of each memberโ€™s voice to the overall sound of the band.
In live shows, itโ€™s evident how much each memberโ€™s vocals contribute when they sing together. The tech crew and management likely had to adjust microphone levels to highlight certain voices at different times, which is common in the music industry to enhance the overall performance. However, these choices sometimes led to Niall, Louis, Liam and even Zayn being overshadowed by Harryโ€™s vocals. This wasnโ€™t a reflection of anyoneโ€™s individual talent; it was simply how management or producers chose to structure the songs.
Itโ€™s also worth noting that choosing who sings which part is a normal part of the music production process. In any band, itโ€™s common for certain members to be assigned particular parts that best suit their vocal strengths, just as actors are cast in roles that align with their talents. For One Direction, this often meant that Harry, with his powerful voice and broad appeal, sang prominent parts, while Louisโ€™ unique tone and Niallโ€™s warm vocals added essential layers in other sections. This doesnโ€™t diminish the other membersโ€™ contributions; rather, it reflects the decisions made to create a cohesive final product.
In the end, One Direction was a blend of five unique voices and personalities, each member bringing a special touch that made the band unforgettable. They werenโ€™t just background singers for one standout star. Every voice was essential, and the magic of One Direction came from the harmony of their combined talents.
At the end of the day, One Direction was a band, a collective experience that connected us as fans and changed music history. The bandโ€™s magic was in its mix of voices, personalities, and the bond between them. And no matter where each memberโ€™s path takes them, fans will always remember that One Direction was truly something extraordinary because of all five members together.
PART 2 COMING
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aquarri ยท 2 years ago
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#anon#there are very few people i truly hate on the earth and louis is not one of them#really my 'hate' for him comes from a place of love and the want for them to do better#because they deserve better! and they can achieve that#yeah recently i've been hating on him and have been 'unsupportive' but thats how i deal with people who are in my eyes being stupid#making poor decisions#its very hard for me to see something and brush it under the rug#(not supporting the doc bc i dont want a doc that isn't truly authentic or made without the public lies)#im not someone whos gonna sit back and laugh when i see something i dont like ya know?#(please dont call me a solo harrie bc i think you missed my hating harry holivia era :D that was a shit show and harry was acting stupid#and i said that and didnt support that either lol)#not that i need to justify anything but i complain about hshq and tour all the time#im not gonna hate on harry bc hes not pissing me off rn? lol#its tough love sorry anon ik my worth and what i deserve to give to people based on what they give back#is that parasocial? idk but i also dont need to blindly follow and act happy when im not?#also i hate the word โ€œstanโ€ im just here observing the drama talking on my little blog about millionaire men that annoy me sometimes#i really do want better for them thats why im here at least thats what brought me here#i do like louis or at least i liked what he stood for in previous years but idk both of them seem to be kind of lost at the moment#this just turned into a ramble but anon im not a solo harrie nor will i ever be#i would like to be called a hater larrie.#why would i be directing hater energy at harry when he just sang woman after louis did ~that~#im not gonna praise him for stunting with a 22 y/o playing daddy and releasing a copy lg doc lmao
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here-there-were-dragons ยท 4 months ago
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i have to wonder what super hardcore militant vegans think should be done about obligate carnivore animals, because in all my painfully-rapidly-approaching-30-years i've literally never actually seen anyone give a clear consistent much less halfway feasible answer on that
#mostly i've just seen like โ€œhow dare you ask questions you just want an excuse to murder you're sealioning ectโ€#or worse some vague and wildly improbable nonsense about like. fake robot animals covered in beyond meat or something equally convoluted#which is a thing i did see someone suggest as a serious answer#i mean i already know they think i'm a genetically inferior hateful vampire that should starve to death for the greater good#because my exact combination of health conditions make meat basically the only semi-safe way i can get close to enough nutrients#i know this because they have repeatedly told me that i'm either evil or should be sacrificed or both#and yelled at me for asking questions by bringing up the whole disabled thing and then they're like#โ€œa lot of vegans i know are advocates for disability!โ€ as if that ever means jack shit in the society that results from anything#no matter what you do a vast majority of people in any given society will *not* be advocates for the disabled. i'm sorry they just won't.#and what do you think public perception of people who physically can't survive like that is going to skew towards#in a society founded on the belief that non-vegan diets are evil?#at absolute best we're looking at being a heavily marginalized class generally seen as something like vampires and our existences taboo.#(as if these type's own insistence that they should be allowed to harass and shame people doesn't disprove their assertion that we won't be#thinking it could possibly go any better than that is a fucking fairy tale. human nature doesn't work that way.#you simply cannot eliminate the human desire to designate and abuse a class of have-nots. the absolute best you can do is mitigate damage.#take it from someone who's been multiple kinds of disabled and chronically ill all my life. people will not โ€œjustโ€. ever.#i get this even from people who are otherwise very aware of and VERY GOOD at avoiding this sort of thinking#โ€œi'm a disability advocate!โ€ no you are not. you are a poster. my experience has taught me that what people advocate for in their free time#means precisely jack shit for how they will actually act when faced with the situations they make otherwise rational posts about#and the fact of the matter is even if you somehow really are the perfect disability advocate a majority of people WILL NOT BE YOU.#a majority of people in society will be margrat from accounting who clutches her pearls when she sees the gays and thinks autism isnt real#and who has never had a nuanced thought in her life and actively does not want to#a vast majority of people in your Vegan Utopia will not be you and your friends who march with wheelchair users and volunteer at the shelte#a vast majority of people in your Vegan Utopia will be jenny who starved 8 cats to death on broccoli because she can't be bothered#and who thinks that โ€œcarnivoresโ€ are actual nazis and don't deserve healthcare because she saw someone say that online.#ALWAYS assume your society will be made up mostly of the worst kind of person it can because it WILL ALWAYS BE TRUE and you can't change it#most people seek the low-effort option. and evil is most often banal and low-effort.#i'm just so fucking tired of every single even vaguely lefty-adjacent political movement simultaneously acting like i don't fucking exist#and at the same time that i need to be sacrificed to achieve Utopia. god. at least conservative whackjobs are upfront and honest about#how they think that i'm a burden on society that needs to be Eugenics'd . rather than trying to morally gaslight me about it.
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dogearedheart ยท 2 months ago
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#the thing is I'm not proud of many things I've done. It's actually the exact opposite.#I kinda suck most of the time if I'm honest. but getting sober and doing it all on my own...#it's one of the only things I'm proud of when it comes to myself. sure.it's my third attempt but 1 year and 3 months...#it's the longest time I've ever managed to not try and deal with myself in a way that slowly but surely fucked me up in a very different way#I still struggle. some days are easier than others#but I'm still doing it.#being sober doesn't magically solve all my other issues but I don't spiral as much as I used to.#i don't think I'll ever be someone people can be around. which is like i don't blame people. i know how i am and how fucking difficult it is#to deal with that. the fear of abandonment that makes me push people away until they leave. the self-fulfilling prophesy of it all#the way i push and when i get the result i was expecting the immediate pull the fear and irrationality#the emotional disreggulation the self-pity#it's gotten better since i stopped drinking. less frequently and all that... but it's never gone not really#sometimes i think about the what could've beens.#what if my childhood went a little differently. what if my dad was there for me when i needed him. what if i wasn't me.#my ex best friend once told me that I'm to desperate to be saved. that nobody can do that anyway.#I'm not sure if I'd deserve it anyway. i have dreams in which I'm still me still dark and ugly and selfish and cruel at times#but i am trying i like to believe that i am already trying. i am. I'm just scared that it'll never be enough.#I'm not proud of many things but I'm 1 year and 3 months sober#only a few days and it's gonna be 1 year and 4 months#i didn't achieve much in my life but I'm here and i am trying every day i am trying and i hope on day it'll be enough#i hope one day i won't cause pain but build something good#sorry... I've just been thinking about it lately#because it is an achievement and i didnโ€™t let myself be proud of how far I've come#alex talks#I'm still scared that people will look at me differently when they know... sometimes i feel like they can see the my rotten core anyway#to delete
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luvevee ยท 2 years ago
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Scarlet and Violet, performance wise really lacking to the point where it's obvious there needs to be changes to how staff need to be treated better and given more time to work, are really some of the best games in the mainstream series I've ever played and I just really want to talk forever about how amazing it all is
#my switch is getting repaired for drift but man am i itching for it back#I was in the middle of the champion assessment too#but omg I really love the game and the writing and grgrgrgr#I want to bite sada/turo until they blow up#i want to hold arven nemona and penny for being such well written characters with their struggles and bonds together#i want to shake clavell's hand for being an older man in a very gen x/z environment trying to be hip but also wanting the acadamy to-#actually be safe and welcoming while taking accountability for how bullying was ignored and his own dismissal of team star#i want to cry because the teachers are so nice and understanding and actually educate their students while being open to help#and how miriam is an example of someone who tries so hard to achieve their dream for it to be just out of reach#and how the gym leaders have so much personality and how the e4 are so close-knitted together with a little girl in the middle of it all#how koraidon/miraidon thrive under the love the get from the protag and how they act just like giant dogs with the attention they want#and how they're considered low on the ladder in their species in terms of power and size but still have lots of pride and power#i wanna learn more about the crater grgrg#just really really love this game and i miss my lite neee come back to meeee#and yeah i've played from firered to now in terms of mainstream so yeah def i'm being serious#but for real the staff deserve more respect and time literally everyone can agree the game could've waited if it meant better treatment#I really appreciate the love that went into it despite the crunch but it's still shit about the obvious rush#like we know it's not the switch please lengthen the time for people to work on the games so both parties can actually enjoy things#but yeah#pokemon sv spoilers#rosebud posting ๐Ÿ’
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i-am-a-fish ยท 2 months ago
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I don't think women can be funny. I wouldn't consider myself a misogynist or even transphobe, as so often comes with my ideology (All genders deserve equal pay and voting rights of course.) Transgender people in my eye are a little complicated because there is nonbinary and such, but generally "binaries" in regards to transgender people fall into their cisgender counterparts' categories. This is also a possible way to determine someone's "true gender" (if a man is not funny it is likely she will come out as transgender in the future.) I have seen female comedians and such but they have a different way of carrying themselves that tells me they do not know how to make a joke. Discovering your blog has been interesting to me because you seem to understand comedy much better than other females. Maybe you're not quite to the gold standard that men have achieved and perhaps your prowess is due to the Internet being a different medium but you have merit that many don't. Consider a career in screenwriting.
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imjustheretotrytohelp ยท 1 month ago
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Hey people on Tumblr, I have a question for you : do you contribute to your community ? Do you take the initiative to make things better for the people around you ?
Iโ€™ve brought up many times about Shahed Abumousa. Sheโ€™s a 20 year old Palestinian who is studying dentistry and she is doing her best to survive a whole year of horror and violence. Since October last year, she has gone through the bombing of her house, the multiple displacements, the hunger and thirst, the shootings and diseases.
Despite it all, Shahed has dedicated her time, energy, and effort for everyone around her. She has volunteered as medical aid when hospitals were being destroyed one by one, distributed food with her family when she is starving, and taught children who couldnโ€™t go to school in between her classes. Speaking of which, she continues with her education to achieve her degree while fundraising for her family of 7 peopleโ€™s survival and supplies for her students. She is carrying a lot on her shoulders when she is only 20!
I am asking you once again:, what are you doing for your community? The truth is that most people are doing the bare minimum, if anything at all. So if you want to make a difference, please donate and share. Your contribution will not only help Shahed and her family survive, but it will also help give back to her community. So give what you can because she's stagnating at the halfway mark that she reached only recently after 7 months. She deserves all of our support.
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phantomrose96 ยท 17 days ago
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Tumblr can never be my main means of engaging in politics and it comes down almost entirely to Tumblr's pathological need to distill The Right Opinion:tm: from any complicated issue.
It's always the most important thing. Not because it helps solve the issue or helps the people impacted, but because The Right Opinion:tm: is a proxy for you, morally, as a person. And every issue needs to be broken into the language that sets the stances of Make You Good or Make You Bad.
And I don't mean this in any generic statement about echo chambers or virtue signaling. Those are separate but related concepts. What I'm talking about is how people are nervous about a topic until one doctrine is crafted which defines the Sports Team Color of our Sports Team, so we can be identified as being on the Us Sports Team, and absolutely not on the Them Sports Team. Because this issue is actually about you and the proxy for you as a person and how people should perceive you so, really, the sooner we figure out the Home Sports Team Colors the sooner you can stop feeling worried.
The moment something new happens is usually the first and last time you'll actually see a range of opinions on it. And some of that is fueled by misinformation! Some in bad faith! When dust settles and clarity is achieved, this helps combat those things, but it's also the moment when the Loudest and most Articulate voices craft the Zeitgeist Opinion and everyone comes to roost around it.
You get people on this site pissed off at AI models that can diagnose cancer from a research paper in 2019 because The Right Opinion is that AI is bad. If you even see a post trying to articulate good uses of AI, well that's someone wearing Packers colors at a Vikings home game, and if you wanna make a point in the "wrong" direction you better be damn articulate about it.
A well-defined set of actions are transphobic. Another set are actually not transphobic, and you'd be transphobic for thinking so. Are you trans and actually your lived experiences differ? Get articulate real fast or shut up. You might be able to eek an exception for yourself, but it's going to require a 10-paragraph post justifying your claim. If you're REALLY good at it though, you might be able to rewrite the Zeitgeist and now anyone who disagrees with you is transphobic. Teams switch uniform styles every now and then, after all.
And it's such a farce because so often it's not actually about the topic at hand. It's about why you should be allowed to be perceived as a good person while toeing outside the fringes of The Right Opinion, why you aren't actually quitting the faith or committing blasphemy or deserving of exile for going off the written word. Or if someone really IS trying to make it about the topic at hand, the ensuing slapfight in the comments needs to be about whether OP has sinned against the covenant.
It's not helpful.
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midnightcitymoon ยท 1 year ago
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I feel loved and adored every day.
People always speak well of me in rooms Iโ€™m in and not in because everyone admires me & makes me feel valued.
Every bad word spoken about me or against me will fail & only look bad on the speaker tenfold.
11:11 โ˜†MiracleMakeAWishComeTrueSpell๐ŸŒ™
Eleven-Eleven, This is a call to all angels in heaven, give me a miracle and make my wish come true!
๐ŸŒœโ˜„โญ๐Ÿ•ค๐Ÿ•™๐Ÿ•ฆโญ๐Ÿ•ฏ๐Ÿ•ฏ๐Ÿ“ฐ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ†๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ–๐Ÿ”œ๐Ÿ”๐Ÿ””๐Ÿ•ฏ๐Ÿ’ฐ๐Ÿ“ฐ๐Ÿ’ณ๐Ÿ“ง๐Ÿ“ญ๐Ÿ”ฅ๐Ÿ—๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ›ก๐ŸŒŸโ˜„๐ŸŒ›๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒˆ
Like to Charge, Reblog To Cast spell
#everything always works out for me exactly how i wanted or better#i always have people to do all the things i want to do and they invite me#i am always invited everywhere & included in everything because i am everyoneโ€™s favorite person#i am a master manifestor and a magnet to all good things bc my life is better than a rom com#i am a magnet to successful opportunities and loving relationships#i am a successful womenโ€™s lifestyle journalist and have the job of my dreams#i can have a bm in 45 minutes bc my digestive system is back to how i was when i was 11#i am everyoneโ€™s favorite person & all my friends & ex friends & ex love interests miss me & reach out to me wanting to reconnect#every day i get healthier & wealthier & happier & luckier because i flourish & grow in abundance&love&success&wellness with my every breath#i am friends with a bunch of celebrities and rich and famous people so i get invited to and included in events#i have a pretty pest free apartment with 1.5 baths & in unit laundry & sun & roof & fireplace & elevator in a hood i like & bubbys delivery#jo and i become friends & he helps me get a job at dotdash meredith#people always choose me over stas including molly & kelly & vic because thatโ€™s the way it is & thats what i deserve#i have that magic it quality & am as charming & charismatic & popular as stas is or more so to everyone who meets or knows me or hears of m#i have more โ€‹concert buddies so i donโ€™t have to rely on kelly to see them#my digestive issues are resolved and do not interfere with my quality of life or social activities#i buy whatever i want because money for fun things comes to me easily in abundance#i have financial abundance everything i spend comes back to me hundredfold#I have such an amazing life I make stas overwhelmingly jealous frequently#i am not lonely & am surrounded by multiple loyal considerate friends & love interestswho adore me & make me feel loved & seen & valued#more fun opportunities with friends that make me feel loved#I have fun things to do with friends every weekend#all my workings will be successful and accomplish what i intended without backfiring#all my wishes come true and the universe/powers that be grant me all that i ask for or better#every bad word spoken about me or against me will fail & only look bad on the speaker tenfold#people always speak well of me in rooms Iโ€™m in and not in because everyone admires me#I feel loved and adored every day#every day i lose weight from fat and am achieving my ideal body of a tiny waist and hourglass figure and toned arms#i am happy and healthy and lucky in all areas of my life all the timem#more loyal loving friends that love to dance
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elysiansparadise ยท 27 days ago
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Ruler of the 1st house in the houses
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๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Throughout their lives, these natives experience experiences that make them very clear that they themselves must be their own priority, that they should never put other people's needs first if that means putting their own needs aside. They are focused on knowing themselves better, increasing their knowledge of themselves and always keeping their priorities in mind so as not to stray. They stand out for being very independent people who may even be uncomfortable having to ask for help from others, in fact, it is likely that they have learned to be independent from a very early age. Many of them have a great ability to lead groups or at least inspire others to empower themselves and do things their way. They never hesitate to say what they think, but they can be more reserved when it comes to opening up emotionally to others, as they have very high walls between themselves and others. They do not like to interfere in the lives of others and hate when others feel they have the right to tell them how to live their lives or how to act, and they won't hesitate defending their points of view fiercely. It bothers them when other people don't take them seriously or when their boundaries are ignored, and believe me, they won't allow themselves to be trampled on by someone, because they stand out for their courage and strong sense of self. Their immediate environment sees them as people with a strong, almost unbreakable self-esteem, they exude power, strength and can give the impression of being invincible, even being able to easily intimidate other people. They do not like to feel or appear weak. They constantly seek to improve either in the skills they have or as people. They have initiative and do not sit back and wait for things to happen, some can be impatient when it comes to seeing the fruits of their work. They don't like to feel unproductive. They are people who will always prefer to be authentic rather than hypocritical in order to fit in or be surrounded by people, and since I mentioned it, many of them can be rather ambiverts. They are very selective with the people they surround themselves with and being alone is not a fear for them.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ง๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
These natives prioritize finding stability in their lives, in every possible sense, from economic stability to mental and emotional stability. Throughout their lives they embark on a path of self-worth, working on their self-esteem and learning to recognize their positive sides. They are focused on making their lives something they can enjoy and do things that they consider valuable to invest their time and energy. They are very attractive people, they can be seen as naturally elegant. They aspire to have a quiet life in which they have everything they need and did not need when they were younger, they know what they deserve and do not settle for crumbs or little. These natives stand out for being calm and rational, they don't like to rush into things, but they know how to give their all once they make a decision. They highly value their authenticity and independence, however, they do not hesitate to support their closest circle. It is very likely that from a young age they have been a strong support, whether for a parent, other family members or even friends. They give the impression of being very stable, of having things in order in their lives and of being almost unbreakable, they project a strength that is rather approachable and people can feel safe with them, even drawn at them. For them, tangibility is crucial, that is, actions before words, from showing their love and affection with actions or gifts (as well as enjoying being shown affection in this way), to not promising things that they know they cannot. achieve. They are people who work hard and progressively in everything they consider important, whether in the workplace, personal or love sphere. They believe that small details are always important, small efforts that are constant and significant. There are little things about these natives that are considered attractive, often things that are not under their control such as mannerisms or their voice. They take care of their appearance and like to dress in clothes that they feel comfortable in, they prioritize their own comfort when it comes to this. They may easily attract money into their lives or be naturally good at managing finances.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ‘๐ซ๐ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
For these natives speaking their minds is the most important thing, they like to be clear with what they think, want and even feel. If they have something to say they will not hesitate to do so. They stand out for being very rational people, capable of seeing things from different perspectives. Their minds can be restless and that can lead them to be people with a tendency to multitask and even have many diverse and different interests among them. Speaking of which, these people love to learn new things, the idea of โ€‹โ€‹knowing everything they can about a topic that catches their attention fascinates them, although sometimes once this task is finished they can get bored. They need constant mental stimulation and to stay busy. Many of them have a strong tendency to overthink things and be somewhat anxious, worrying about the future. Despite this, these people know how to adapt very well to changes and constantly seek to make small changes, whether in their rhythms of life, activities or even in their appearances. These people can read well the environment in which they find themselves and easily adapt to it as well as to the people who are there. Your relationship with your siblings or cousins โ€‹โ€‹can be very influential, or they can even be a great influence on your siblings or other younger members of your family. These natives are quite cunning and intelligent and give the impression of being not easily fooled and very cultured. People tend to listen to what they say more easily, because they have a lot of charm. For them, communication is key in any relationship, especially those that they consider important to them, and they could not be with someone who does not have a topic of conversation or who does not let them talk/does not listen to them. They like to maintain a calm and bearable environment, jokers, witty and very funny, they love to entertain themselves and amuse others with their stories and occurrences. There is a playful and slightly mischievous appeal to them, and it should be added that as the years go by, they seem to look younger. It is easy for them to follow a conversation since, as I mentioned, they adapt very quickly to people, no matter how different they are from them. They stand out as good communicators, whether orally or in writing, and also for their creativity. They like to learn how to do many things and it is no surprise that many of them have a wide variety of skills.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Throughout their lives, these natives experience experiences that lead them to always seek their own emotional comfort, to worry and take care of their emotional needs, but above all their inner peace. They are naturally perceptive and caring people when it comes to other people's emotions, they seem to read them very well and never try to make others uncomfortable. They are internally very sensitive people, although they create a shell that protects them from getting hurt or from others taking advantage of this emotionality and their hearts. The family gave great lessons to the native and their relationship with them is quite important to them, whether because of how close they are and how well they get along, or because of the scars they may have left. These natives do not forget easily, and may find themselves constantly thinking about the past. They do not hesitate to go deep inside themselves and analyze themselves, they are quite self-aware, but it will always be a process that they prefer to do on their own. Many of them may have this bad tendency to repress their feelings, always wanting to appear strong or simply preferring to break down when they are alone. They are very supportive and warm people with those they love, always respectful of their emotions and boundaries. They have a strong protective instinct towards all those with whom they form strong emotional bonds. For them it is crucial to feel safe and secure, there is nothing they want more than to keep their inner child happy, avoiding repeating situations from the past that previously hurt them. There is something about them that makes people feel naturally comfortable, people can open up to them more easily and tell them very private things. They may feel a strong interest in the past of the people they care about, from family or friends. It is likely that these natives are very similar, either in physical appearance or behavior to ancestors or older people in their families. Home for them is a place where they feel like they can be themselves, where they don't have to have their barriers up and where they feel protected and comfortable. They may find comfort in being with themselves, although at times the loneliness can become overwhelming. What is clear is that they value quality in their emotional ties with people, which is why they prefer to be on their own rather than calling the wrong person family or friend.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ“๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Over the course of their lives, these natives embark on a path toward self-love and self-acceptance. They are people who can place many expectations on themselves and can be very demanding, although very few people see it and realize it. This happens because people tend to see them as very confident, charismatic and incredibly attractive people, since these natives have the ability to attract the attention of others with ease. A mix of attractiveness and sensuality. Throughout their lives, they learn to love and appreciate each other, to never let disrespect pass or be with people who do not love and respect them as they deserve. These people have a very intense way of loving, for them it is all or nothing, they are not people who commit halfway, and despite their flirtatious yet independent appearance, when they find someone with whom they want to be in a relationship, they do not hesitate. They really like romance, details and they love the idea of โ€‹โ€‹having a relationship in which love and passion abound. They like emotional intensity in their relationships, someone who adores them and loves them madly, who is crazy about them and shows the same degree of devotion as them. These people know what they want in a relationship, and they would rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't meet the requirements. They are usually lucky enough to be liked back by their crushes and can attract many hidden admirers. These people like to show themselves as strong, confident and empowered, as people who do not depend on anyone or the opinions of other people, because the experiences they have lived have taught them to be authentic and true to themselves.These people may excel deeply in some skill or talent, and may be seen as great at this. They are really passionate about their interests, beyond romance, if they have hobbies they can put their heart entirely into them. They have the ability to charm the people they interact with. They are very honest and open people with what they want, they do not hold back their opinions and can have a lethal bluntness on many occasions. Deep down, they are very expressive, emotional and loving individuals, never leaving any room for doubt about the love or appreciation they feel.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ”๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Throughout their lives, these natives experience the constant belief that to be worthy of something they have to work hard, although this leads them to be dedicated and responsible people with everything they consider important in their lives, it also influences the way they relate to their environment, believing that they have to be something specific or achieve things in order to feel good about themselves. These natives have a strong need to be productive, to do something constantly, and they can feel bad about themselves when they are not being efficient. They are demanding of themselves, they stand out for their intelligence and observation skills. Their independence is one of their strongest characteristics and despite being very capable individually, they know how to work as a team and are quite efficient and collaborative. They like to feel like they are doing things with purpose, meaningful things, and they think very carefully about what they want to use their energy for, making sure not to waste time on things they consider meaningless. They are very helpful and empathetic people from a rather practical approach, from giving advice to being easy to solve issues of any kind. They can be very nervous people, they have a tendency to worry a lot about things, from their own performance to possible outcomes. For them it is important to have a job for which they feel passion, a job that allows them to have a certain individuality and that allows them to grow and continue learning, this placement makes it likely that they will work in something that they really like, even from a very young age. They are people who respect all living beings, whether people, plants, animals, they can have a strong bond with their pets and manage to connect with animals in a unique and wholesome way. Even if they like fun and variety, these people prefer to have a rather stable life, putting their mental and emotional peace before anything else. They are people very focused on their well-being in all areas, taking care of themselves and doing things that give them a sense of fulfillment. They stand out for their high level of devotion and loyalty in everything they consider important in their lives. They have a great work ethic that allows them to grow quickly in the workplace.
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๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ•๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
One of the most prominent lessons in the lives of these natives is about relationships, learning that it is better to be alone than in bad company. Many of these natives develop this balance in learning to be on their own, but also in learning to relate to other people. These natives greatly seek quality in their relationships and put a lot of their energy into making them positive and equitable for both parties. They are people who are very easy to understand and read other people, their attitudes, feelings and needs. People find them very alluring, graceful and people who are generally pleasant to be with, because they are not judgmental of others and when they accept someone into their lives they accept them genuinely. Despite this, they are people who are very clear about what they do not want to deal with in relationships and tend to be quite assertive in them. These people appear polite and approachable to other people, they have a certain charisma that others quickly perceive and it is precisely this subtle charm that attracts others. They will never stay in relationships in which they feel that they give more than they receive, because that search for stability and balance that they have applies in all areas but specifically in their relationships. This placement assures us that the natives will be able to feel that they can be themselves in the presence of their partner, feeling more authentic than when they are with other people. They are very romantic, dedicated and passionate people in their relationships, and they can attract a future spouse like that. Marriage will bring you a lot of self-discovery and can be very beneficial for your lives, giving you not only happiness but fulfillment. They can more easily gain the support of other people and in addition to knowing how to work very well as a team, they manage to connect and really make others feel heard and understood. It is likely that when they were young they gave a lot of importance to what others thought of them, and this is precisely one of the issues that they learn to deal with as time goes by. These people do not hesitate to take the first step in love, they are driven and very direct. Their personality in them may be dominant, however, they may be attracted to equally dominant people.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ–๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Here we meet natives with a certain aura of mystery around them. They do not usually reveal much about themselves so easily, they choose to keep to themselves everything they consider important or very personal, they are observers, and will always deeply analyze whether someone is trustworthy or not, trusting their instincts and being right most of the time. They seek something more than the reality to which they are accustomed, they seek to break the barriers of the predictable, mundane and superficial, entering the core of things and people. They look for the genuine, the raw and the authentic. These people are aware of the beautiful sides of life, but also the most tense and that is precisely why they remain alert, attentive and careful not to get hurt again. They hate feeling too vulnerable, showing their weaknesses, their sadness or points that others can use to hurt them. They are people surrounded by a lot of enigma and magnetism, many people recognize in them a survivor, someone whose strength and reserve makes them feel strangely drawn to them. They may find themselves attracting attention even when they want to go unnoticed. Loyal by nature, these people stand firm to their words, although they are not usually too open with what they feel, they feel intensely, they are quite intense in fact, and capable of giving themselves completely. It is difficult for them to trust other people, many times having trusted and been betrayed at their earliest ages, they have learned to rely on themselves and it can be a difficult task for them to let others in. The world is a complex place for them, full of bittersweet memories, some that they would like to return to and others that they would like to erase, yet their strength makes them reborn stronger and wiser. They do not hesitate to provide support and guidance, but it is difficult for them to accept when someone wants to do the same for them. They long to know themselves completely, even if it makes them face things about themselves that are difficult to accept, they are not afraid to know themselves completely, which makes them want to know others with such depth.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ—๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Gifted with great curiosity, these natives have a way of seeing life that is quite out of the box, not settling for everything they are used to seeing in their daily lives. They have the need to find themselves and their authenticity in a huge world full of possibilities. They are not conformist people, and they are constantly in search of information, knowledge and experiences that bring them positive sensations or that are enough to satisfy that desire to discover. Discovering goes beyond the earthly plane such as traveling or interacting with people from other countries (which may be possible), but rather also encompasses the spiritual, emotional and/or internal terrain. They have a high intrapersonal intelligence, which gives the impression of being rational, self-aware and wise people, and also allows them to get to know others in a more personal way. They stand out for their open mentality and their ability to delve into seeing things from different points of view. Many of them possess a certain charm and natural charm, there is something about them and their nature that makes them attract others and rewarding experiences throughout their lives. They always prefer to live a life with passion and purpose, and they are in constant search for theirs, to do something important or at least satisfactory in their stay in this life, they do not like to do things just for the sake of it, they long to give it life, give it a meaning to things. They do not allow themselves to be prejudiced and prefer not to have them in the first place, they appreciate the beauty in differences and do not like to make others feel uncomfortable with who they are. They are people who have a mindset of not worrying but rather taking care of themselves, they do not seek control over what they know they cannot control and on many occasions they know that it is better to let go and let go, having it easier than other people to do this. They may have interests that people consider unconventional or that are very different from those of the people around them. They are people who take pride in being different but don't feel the need to flaunt it. They have an interest in other cultures and may have plans in their dreams to visit different places in the world to which they feel connected in one way or another.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
These natives are perfectly clear about what is important to them, what they want to achieve and who they are. From a young age they know that they have to work hard to get what they want, and from a young age they show themselves to be responsible and dedicated. This is an indicator of a person who had to mature since they were children, carrying issues or responsibilities both personal and from others, and in some cases, from people older than them. They tend to easily attract the admiration, respect and attention of people, likewise many of them can be successful in jobs in which they either have a position of authority or in which they are in constant contact with people. They can easily gain recognition simply by being themselves or pursuing one of their passions or talents. Their image matters a lot to them, so they do not hesitate to defend themselves and fight to maintain everything they have achieved throughout their lives. They have a strong need to feel proud of themselves, they often place high expectations on themselves, and it may be a behavior they have learned from a very young age. There is nothing they want more than to make their inner child proud, and be the adult they would have liked to have by their side. They believe that only they themselves can solve their problems, that no one will come to save them and that they have to make things happen, however, deep down, they wish they could have guidance and support. Many of them are not very open with other people, but what is certain is that having them in your life guarantees you a partner, friend or partner who will always be blunt, supportive and shared with you, never making you feel vulnerable or unprotected. It can be easy for these people to relate fluidly with bosses or authority figures, and it should be added that they can be quite good bosses themselves thanks to their decision and practical and fair vision of things. They like to surround themselves with productive, hard-working people who motivate them, these people being partners, friends or family. People who make excuses, who take advantage of others, and who are hypocritical earn their disdain. They are people who, although open and direct with what they think and want, are difficult to get to know deeply.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
These natives are in a constant search for belonging, they are likely to feel that they hardly fit in with their peers, that they have problems connecting on a deep level with others or forming bonds of friendship. Although it is difficult for them to call anyone a friend, once they give that title, these natives stand out for being very supportive, encouraging and honest people. Precisely because it is difficult for them to form friendships, when they have one that they consider genuine they attach great importance to loyalty to that bond. These natives are interested in deeper and more personal ties, they feel that to form a good friendship, both need to be themselves and adore each other in that way, authenticity and openness are things they look for. They are independent people, very firm in what they believe and what they consider fair, they have their own criteria and do not feel the need to follow the masses or act according to what others believe or expect. Many of them have great charisma, and it seems to grow the older they get, they have a knack for inspiring other people, often motivating them to be themselves and go towards everything they aspire to. Since I mention it, they stand out for being not only creative people, but great dreamers even from a very young age. They stand out for their intelligence, cunning and for being able to learn many different things regardless of how different each topic is from the other. They like to remain rational and act logically and without causing so much drama. They do not like to live in the past, do what everyone else does or feel like one of the crowd. These natives seek to do what seems important to them, but above all in their own way. Sometimes they can think too much about the future, facing tendencies to overthink or worries about what is going to happen. Some are somewhat nervous and thinking about the future either excites them too much or causes them some anxiety. These natives can have great economic stability if they decide to pursue that career that attracts their attention. Many of them may enjoy spending a lot of time on social networks and may become influential, popular or well-known on them. People can admire them quite a bit and even come to appreciate them.
๐‘๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ž๐ซ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž ๐ข๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ž
Here we find people who, due to life circumstances, have learned not to reveal much about themselves, including very personal aspects. These people may have experienced a lot of stress or difficult events to process at a young age, causing them to mature prematurely. They have great intuition that makes them realize what others go unnoticed, they sense people's moods, their emotions at the moment and even whether they are trustworthy people or not. They can seem mysterious and very reserved to the people they interact with, they decide what to show and what not to show. They are very empathetic people and sensitive to the moods of the people around them, they are capable of putting themselves in someone else's shoes. They are understanding, sensitive and much more emotional than they show at first glance. These people long to find either a place where they feel like they belong or a group of people that makes them feel understood, since many of them have the ability to make others feel accepted, supported and loved, even when they throughout in their lives they may feel that they do not connect so easily with others. They may have abilities to inspire, care, heal or make others feel better, and people can trust them more easily. These people look for a deep meaning not only in life, but in general behind everything that surrounds them, they prefer depth, that which has a true significance, one that marks them and contributes something to their lives. Many of them may have a strong tendency to doubt their intention, often fearing that their fears will get in the way and cloud their judgment. They are people with a very beautiful and resilient soul, often carrying wounds that people are not aware of, and that is precisely what makes them want to really see inside people, make them feel as seen as they would like to feel. Throughout their lives they experience identity crises, or long periods in which they are searching for themselves, often alone. Many of them seem to be in their own world, because they do not seek to get involved in other people's lives. Things hardly remain hidden for these natives, they have the peculiarity that information always reaches them, even if they do not look for it.
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star-anise ยท 4 months ago
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Currently getting my socks clean blown off by Rethinking Narcissism, by Dr. Craig Malkin. Which I found, in a roundabout way, from this video on Midsommar, grief, and narcissism.
Tonight I woke up from a nap and accidentally took my morning meds, so I'm going to be up for a few hours because of the meth. In place of sleep, I'll try to roughly sum up some basic ideas proposed by the research the book is based on:
That traits of "narcissism" like entitlement, grandiosity, and feeling special are not inherently toxic. There are times and places they are appropriate and beneficial. If you show up at a hospital with a gunshot wound to the chest, you should not sit and wait to be seen after people with earaches and coughs. (Actually, medical systems are designed to prioritize people with more urgent needs, and you qualify under that system. You are special and are deserving of different treatment than those others, which is why making your needs known, even insisting on it if you're not listened to appropriately the first time, is an extremely good idea. It keeps you from bleeding to death on the floor, and keeps the hospital from getting its pants sued off by your heirs.)
It is more useful to view "narcissism" not as an inherent immutable personality trait, but as a cluster of coping mechanisms. As previously stated, there are times they are exactly the right coping mechanism for the job. However, people we call "narcissists" tend to cling to these ones even when they become detrimental to themselves and others, often because they lack other ways of regulating their emotions and getting their needs met. And that is something they can change, if a person is willing to put in sincere and difficult work. It is not usually fast change; it's a matter of years, not weeks. But a skillbuilding approach turned Borderline Personality Disorder from an immutable curse to a fully treatable (though not quickly treatable) condition, and there's a lot of hope that it can do the same for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Meanwhile, there's an opposite end to the narcissism spectrum, and it is also pathological and destructive to hang out there all the time. It's an aversion, or even a resistance, to expecting yourself or other people to treat your own feelings, thoughts, ideas, needs, or preferences as important. For Greek mythology reasons, its proposed name is Echoism.
Unfortunately, because most of the damage echoism does is, by its very nature, localized to its sufferer and their own personal relationships, its downsides aren't often talked about. In fact, it's often seen as an ideal moral state, a kind of altruism or saintliness everyone should strive for. As a pathological coping mechanism a person is trapped in, though, it's often more a fear-based reflex than a conscious and deliberate attempt to achieve some real and specific good. It's not actually as beneficial as being able to recognize your needs, desires, positive aspects, and areas of competence or excellence, and bring them forward in your relationships with other people and yourself.
To me this has all been a cross between a gut-punch and a cool, sweet drink of water. There have been other ways to describe echoism over the years, but this feels like the most concise and useful one I've seen in ages.
It specifically puts its pin down in the middle of the moral debate a lot of people struggle withโ€”"What right do I have to put myself forward? What hope do I have of being seen and accepted? Isn't it better not to burden anybody else?"โ€”and says that the problem is not feeling in touch with either side of the equation, but specifically, the inability to move from one part of the spectrum to another when it's merited by circumstances.
When I was a child, I thought Echoism was the answer. It was my ideal. I thought it was what would get me the love and acceptance I wanted, and would keep me safe from the pain of rejection or not being understood. I had no idea it would actually, in fact, be the primary cause of alienation and loneliness for the rest of my life.
Now I'm so deeply thankful I couldn't fully achieve it, in practical terms. As hard as I tried to erase myself, there were always things I loved too much to suppress. I still found ways to express and discover myself in the books I read, the stories I wrote, the intellectual work of school and the experience of pursuing hobbies I loved, my ambitions to be helpful even when they demanded I stop being selfless, and the relationships where I felt safe enough to experience love and acceptance even if I didn't think I deserved them.
There's this question I found a while back that echoed in my bones: Who am I allowed to be around you? Because that's what I felt like, as a child. If I wanted to engage with other people and minimize my risk of harm, it was my job to bend into a pretzel and fit the shape they wanted. And thank god, thank god, thank god, I couldn't fully do it. Despite everything, there were parts of me too strong and bright to lop off completely to get my arms and legs inside the carriage. I was able to take care of myself and let them grow in secret until I found social places I could let them out again. Despite myself, I found ways to grow and thrive, well beyond the trauma that said I shouldn't have.
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I believe in a leftist philosophy, but I am finding it hard to join in with some online lefty communities. The purity tests and infighting just do not interest me. There are people who think if you slightly deviate from the proper leftist ideal you are then a "bad" person so then it is okay to harass a "bad" person.
Of course you can call someone horrible names and say they should die. They are a bad person and all bad people deserve that. Right?
Some seem more interested in calling out bad leftists than actual right wing fascists. If I hear "AOC is turning into Nancy Pelosi" one more time my eyes are going to roll out of my head.
And I think this entire voting thing has crystalized how I feel about this. I'm frustrated with how many people seem to be allergic to long term strategy and realistic goals. They value performative actions that yield no tangible benefit rather than long term problem solving, strategic thinking, pragmatic action, and building power over time.
The right to vote is precious but the act of voting is not.
It is not an endorsement.
It is a tool.
I'm using that tool and choosing who I'd rather argue with.
I'm voting for myself as a disabled person and a friend of trans people and as someone who doesn't want to protest migrant concentration camps in addition to the genocide in Gaza. I'm making a strategic decision that I hope will help achieve a better outcome for myself and other marginalized groups.
And on a more personal level, I had to watch my mother die a horrible, painful, lonely death because of an incompetent president. I don't think I can handle the trauma of continuing to see that horrible man in the news every single day. My motivations are multifaceted.
Spending time arguing with other leftists is a really poor use of energy. I'm not up to it and I'm going to spend what energy I have advocating for the best ideas that will help the most people.
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Any other ADHDers out there really identify with being disabled/disability but get scared to call yourself disabled around other people because you feel like yours โ€˜doesnโ€™t countโ€™ and itโ€™s โ€˜not as badโ€™, and like, maybe youโ€™re not disabled enough to have the right to talk about disability?
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#in my experience being open and honest about adhd as a disability#is beneficial to more severely and or visibly disabled ppl around me#because like if someone with ADHD who can reasonably achieve all the normal sociocultural milestones with working supports#who can probably learn to manage their disability mostly independently#if society wonโ€™t even help someone like me; if this common and highly treatable disability#canโ€™t get access to help#then like#damn#if we canโ€™t even do this for ADHD#how can we hope to provide lifelong instensive support for someone who might be more severely disabled#maybe if i call myself disabled its not taking anything away from ppl more severely disabled#but rather setting a standard#saying โ€˜no. you have to support this. this disability is allowed to take up space and need support.โ€™#and every disabled person who stands up and says that#gives our ableist culture one less excuse#stigma affects different disabilities in different ways#but that doesnโ€™t mean we canโ€™t help each other#like thereโ€™s no stigma around taking insulin for diabetes (there are other issues that need solving yes)#but we donโ€™t treat needing insulin for diabetes as wrong the way we treat taking meds for depression and or anxiety as wrong#for every person with insulin that says โ€˜this is the same. we need meds to live we deserve those meds and i stand with you.โ€™#doesnโ€™t that help?#okay clunky analogy but i hope you know what i mean#if we say โ€˜i am allowed to need support and i donโ€™t deserve to have to compensate for my disability because itโ€™s not a flaw to be overcomeโ€™#than thatโ€™s helpful right#because even if im right in the belief that others are more severely disabled for valid reasons#as opposed to continuing to underestimate the impacts of my own disability - realising you have a disability all along and didnt know it is#a helluva TRIP yall#but anyway even if genuinely someone has a more severe disability and requires more intensive support#a world that doesnt help me certainly isnt going to help them#but if i stand up and say i deserve help and so do theyโ€ฆ..maybe we change the standard. maybe we get a little bit better
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