I had a massage yesterday and the masseuse would not stop talking about her son's personal medical information. (Which I will not detail here because I don't think I should have the information in the first place, but she told me extremely detailed information about his experiences, including how he and his wife feel about him becoming disabled.) She then went on to talk about her own surgeries and health.
It was really inappropriate. And she asked me really personal questions about my life that were not relevant to the massage. This was a fancy relaxing massage place, not a massage therapy place. But she said that her dream job was to work with people who "really needed it" rather than the "fufu fancy ladies" and she wasn't into doing the relaxing types of massage. (Funnily enough, I could only afford to be there because of my hard-working "fufu fancy lady" mama who kindly paid for me to get a massage.)
And every time I tried to shut down the conversation, she asked another question. Because of how vulnerable I am when someone massages me, I didn't feel comfortable telling her outright that I wasn't comfortable with the conversation. Especially because my mom purchased future massages for me there.
The masseur I had in the past didn't talk much besides remarking on areas that needed more work and asking questions about how comfortable I was with the level of pressure. I could focus on deep breathing to get through the discomfort because my muscles were so tight. This woman did not ask me one time about the level of pressure.
Please, if you are a masseuse do not do this! I am there to enjoy my massage just like anyone else. I don't want to hear about your whole family's medical history just because I am disabled. I do not want to detail my entire medical history, and tell you where I live, and if I live with my parents. It is weird!
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you know what boils my blood.
over the last 2 weeks, i've seen countless patients walk into my urgent care center, symptomatic for so many things, refusing to get tested for covid and flu, citing that they don't want to knowingly bring it to their holiday tables. i had a patient tell me, verbatim, "i don't want to test for covid, because i don't want to be the asshole who brings it on a plane."
i understand that - i understand that holidays are times where people look forward to meeting loved ones that they might only see once a year, or where they get a break from the hectic back and forth of their lives.
but here's the thing - whether they get tested or not, they will bring whatever they have to their holiday tables. it's pure recklessness to know that you're sick, and walk into someone else's house spreading the disease.
today, january 2, i saw 91 patients, many of them who have tested positive for covid and flu. many of these patients are the same ones who didn't want testing 3 days ago, until their events were over, and now, they will have to reach out to everyone they know to let them know that they were positive because they were showing symptoms well before their event.
the next week or two? we're going to see many, many more, all people with symptoms that started around christmas. these are the only two viruses we test for rapidly in our office, but they are potent and can be fatal in many people.
so here's why i wrote this post, and maybe it's a little late, but - if you care about your loved ones, please get tested if you know you're sick. it doesn't have to be at a clinic if you don't want it to, because the over-the-counter tests work just fine too (if you test within 5-7 days of symptom onset). just...please don't try to run from the knowledge that you might have covid, because immunocompromised people, elderly people, people with co-morbidities like asthma, pregnancy, diabetes, etc...many of them may not recover. and they may not be sitting at your holiday table in the future because of it.
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Penetration is a gender-neutral act. Topping is gender-neutral. Bottoming is gender-neutral. You are not more or less of a man or a woman depending on how you fuck. You are not “fake trans” for having sex a certain way. You are not any less masculine for bottoming or any less feminine for topping.
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i love your riddle design so much, he's so pointy and british. so gracious. do you think he would enjoy a brazilian goiabada
thank you! ❤️🖤❤️ it's just. important to me on a level I can't explain that Riddle have an extremely pointy nose that he can stick into everyone else's business.
also goiabada is sweet and fruity and red, I think he would like it very much indeed!
not me stealth-editing because I forgot his antenna whoops
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tbh if a girl fell asleep on me she’s getting the full cat experience like i’d die before disturbing you “oh just wake me up” like stfu no i will sit there with my locked up joints for hours making this face at you🥺
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