#aspec pride flags are so pretty

[justarandombrit]

More colour picked pride flags: aspec edition

[nebulousjoy]

I've recently learned that an aroace-spec flag exists and I love the color palette:

[aaaroace]

The aroace flag looks cool!!!

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[stars-n-spice]

Happy Pride!

Would've posted this earlier in the month but unfortunately I just didn't have the motivation to draw :/

But happy pride everyone!

Especially to queer people of color and/or anyone who identifies as being aspec! I know how alienating it can be as someone who is both, so, of course, I project onto my faves (hence why the Bad Batch are all aspec one way or another in my eyes) and create characters that are pretty much always POC.

I know how confusing, damning, and frustrating it is to be in a community that doesn't seem to always accept you. But I want you to know that you are seen and you matter! Your feelings, thoughts, and identities matter regardless of what others might say or make you feel. 🩵💫

Close up + Bad Batch ft. Ace flag & POC Pride Flag under the cut!

[papier-ciseaux]

What's in my Magician Maker picrew?

I will try to answer this to the best of my abilities!

Skin colours

There are 16 different skin colours! Regular human colours and some more alien-like! Yellow and Green are dark because they're meant for specific fandom characters. Grey is here for all the homestuck trolls

2. Ears

Normal ears, elf ears, mermaid fins! And earrings that fit each!

3. Vitiligo, freckles, scars, etc

Vitiligo comes in 6 different faces pattern, with the possibility of extending it to the whole body. There are three density of freckles in 6 colours to accomodate the different skin colours. There are also cheek scales, beauty marks, simple birthmarks, acne, and two attempts at portraying rashes/eczema in my style.

All of those are in one category so can't be combined

Wrinkles and scars are in different categories tho! Scars include: various facial gashes, tiny cuts, cleft lip, lichtenberg figures, burn scars, punch cheeks/black eye, frankenstein-like sutures, fantasy cracky of the skin! Each of the option actually hide a second scar in the colors

4. Facial features

Noses and mouths are pretty classic and their preview showcases what you'll get rather accurately. Eyebrows change in thickness/shape/colour when going through the colour option.

Colour options on the eye shape will change the mascara, or make it wink. The 3+ eyes offer a different set instead of winking. The sclera can be changed to different colours. The iris section helps show the various eye shapes.

5. Eyewears

Once again, some digging through colour options is necessary to find all of the eyewears (24 total with colour variations + 8 eyepatches)

6. Hijab

There are 7 different head covering with 6 unique colours for each! Some have very cool patterns if I may say so

7. Hair

There are different facial hair available in various colours, including some funny moustaches

Hair is very customisable, with straight, wavy, curly and kinky hair, all available in 18 colours, including a rainbow and a bicolour (blonde/black) options. Some hair can also have a gradient dye of black, red or blue. Examples:

8. Prosthetics

In the body section, it's possible to not have any arms, but there's also the robot arm option in the sleeve section. There's also a hook hand somewhere in the items. This is probably the most lacking section of the picrew ^^; If you have suggestions on things to add, send an ask.

9. Hand gestures

All of those come with gloves (short, long and fingerless) options, black nailpolish, and rings if possible to show. Also LOVE HATE knuckles tattoos. The 6th and 9th gestures are made to hold something: the main goal is to hold a wand because this is called "magician maker" but you can hold flags, flowers, or even a bird

10. Wands

A magician needs a wand! This is where the "gloomverse" aspect of this picrew comes in: I'm sure not everyone would call those things "wands", but in the lore of the comic, they can be! Canonical gloomverse wands examples:

But you can do so much more, if you explore a little ;)

11. Hats!

As important as wands, the hat of a magician! They can look like anything and have a lot of decoration on them. Hats can be created by choosing the brim and top's shapes, or you can choose already made ones:

Decorations are sorted by types, so I encourage exploration! They can make for fun add-on to a character, like the ears and horns:

12. Clothings

Each clothes come in 5 different "body types" with various cup sizes. That is the best I could come up with without quadrupling my workload.

There are a lot of way to customise the clothes. There's the clothes under, over, the collar, the sleeves, pride buttons/pins, logos, etc. Mostly homestuck references. Pride flags that aren't on the pins are in the background options*. Pronoun pins include: He/Him ; She/Her ; He/They ; She/They ; They/Them ; Ze/Hir ; Ze/Zir ; Fae/Faer ; It/Its

*(flags have been sorted in sexual orientation / gender / aspec at first, but due to people requesting more flags, it's not as clear cut. There are also blue version of pride flags due to fandom stuff, they're not official at all)

There's a lot more that could be said, but that's more than enough already!

[necroangelz]

you just reblogged the post a few mins ago so i imagine you want these requests but it also says your inbox is full so i’m a lil confused?? sorry- what’s up with the 🌈 requests? and if they are open despite ur inbox being full maybe empires s2 lizzie please? feel free to delete this or just say no if these aren’t open- sorry if i’m goofing this up hehe^^’ ty either way!!

the 🌈 posts don't count as actual requests!! I'm just doing this for fun, to celebrate pride month, and to show off my hcs fur different characters so anyone is free to send 🌈 in my inbox regardless if my requests are open or not

『 🌈 』

icons with my pride headcanons

✦✦　FAESARI BI-ORIENTED AROACE LIZZIE (ESMP2) !! ┈ ⟢

read more for 　 𝄈 　 my notes 　 🐈𓈒

bi aro ace flag found here.

god the faesari flag is so pretty what????? anyway i really love the idea of bisexual Lizzie (THE CHARACTER!!!!!!) but also i feel like as a nonhuman she wouldn't feel attraction the same way humans do?? so thats why i made her aspec (specifically aroace spectrum) and faesari just makes sense for her i think :3

i didn't feel like finding fanart so i just used photos of her skins... and i threw in mystic Mary for the sillies

[disventure-rewrite-takes]

for when u get back:

I'd make Jaiden t4t. bc that would be pretty rad and also it would be nice to have a canon trans character that isn't the skinny white twink named Aiden

like don't get me wrong, I know tguys like Aiden, I know tguys called Aiden, but like. the very stereotypical trans guy being the Only trans character period is. weird. i don't like it.

also while I'm here... let's see... Gabby, Alec, Rosa, Lake, Grett and Kai. All trans. Also also we should have a canon nonbinary and/or genderfluid or bigender character. gimme enbies who use multiple sets of pronouns pretty please!

like if ONC are going to claim that like half the characters were super intended to be LGBTQ and have pride posts filled with a bunch of characters they 100% just. decided were queer for brownie points so the posts would have more than 4 characters... then we might as well go all the way!

- 👽

YES TO ALL OF THIS!!!

jaiden being t4t would solve every issue in the world ever i think . make this canon ONC pls.. actually dont bc you’ll fuck it up horribly. keep your hands off trans james.

i’m glad you think, just like me, that they announced some of the cast as queer just for people to call them progressive and praise them. i’m fine with having a few characters not mention their queer identity and still be queer - i’m basically doing this with my own original story - because it can sometimes get exhausting to hear everyone outright stating their identity. it’s not in-character for everyone.

but when you have over half the cast never mention or show queerness then they just appear in the pride posts... red flag. trevek is a MAJOR example of fan service and stuff like this: they had zero chemistry, derek was always a dick to trevor, and now, somehow, for some reason, trevor is in love with derek AND we have a SECOND LOVE TRIANGLE. another few examples: huntessally never got together and never once mentioned queerness despite being set up to do both, and guess what? they’re portrayed in official art always together, with bi and pan flags respectively, despite never ever mentioning anything. karol was there for 0.2 seconds, but ONC realized they don’t have enough lesbians and forgot about trans and aspec people and decided to make her a lesbian. dan was probably made asexual just because his color scheme is purple, and emily is “part of the LGBT community” because the majority of fans hc-ed her that way so god forbid they are let down. they didn’t even tell us if she had a specific label, was unlabelled, or simply labelled herself as queer. what a slap in the face.

if you want to represent queer people, do it well. do your research. don’t make your characters gasp at the mention of a trans person (seriously what the FUCK). don’t include a kissing challenge because romance-repulsed/touch-repulsed people and/or aspec people simply could not do it. if you want to have a stereotypical queer character, that’s fine as long they have a personality outside of it and there is at least another character with the same label who does not adhere to the norm.

[tiger-moran]

Please shut up about how we have to separate asexual and aromantic, please shut up about how they're 'totally separate identities that need to be acknowledged as separate and need separate representation!'

For SOME people they're separate, SOME. Not all. Some people are both and they are separate for them. Some people are one and not the other. Those are all great and valid ways to experience attraction (or its lack) and yes absolutely we need more representation for all aspec identities! But not everyone fits under those! Nor are we going to see ourselves represented in characters where the identities are clearly separated.

But this is the constant message that I'm seeing, that they're separate, that they have to be treated as separate, that they basically don't overlap even for people who are both, and also that not only the attraction but the experiences we have because of those identities don't even have any real overlap or similarities, and I'm sick to death of it. I'm sick of practically every single 'aspec positivity' blog or post making it sound as if I HAVE to separate them when I can't. I'm sick of it being made out I'm 'using labels wrong' or that I'm 'experiencing attraction wrong'. I never see any real acknowledgement of people who are both and can't separate them, I never see any acknowledgement any more of people who are asexual meaning both because the SAM does not apply to us and also we don't see why asexual unlike pretty much every other orientation HAS to be assumed to be neatly and clearly split and actually some of us are pretty resentful both that a split has basically been forced on every aspec person now and also that if ever we try to assert that we're asexual meaning both our aromanticism gets erased and we're just assumed to be alloromantic or we get treated like 'fake aromantics' who aren't really aromantic at all and only actually care about our lack of sexual attraction (and I do wonder if a similar thing happens to those who also don't use the SAM but call themselves just aromantic). Even that aroace flag which I don't even like anyway but that was supposed to sort of represent people like me who can't separate our asexuality from our aromanticism still gets used by people who insist basically I've got to see asexual and aromantic as separate identities. I've had to block so many blogs for doing this (because actually, I hate confrontation, I hate arguing, I don't want to confront people over this so I'd rather just block them so I don't have to see it any more) - because they keep posting content, even so called 'positivity', that is basically just erasing and excluding people like me from what are meant to be my own communities and they really do just make me feel like shit over something I've never felt like shit about ever before until this insistence on using the SAM and neatly and clearly splitting up the identities started to happen. (And yes I'm also sick of this overall sense that people are trying to shove everyone in the queer community into all these totally separate boxes and act like there's no overlap between the identities and/or the experiences of any of them. I still think this insistence on a neat and precise ace/aro split is symptomatic of a wider issue.)

I'm not even saying that asexuality and aromanticism can never possibly be experienced separately or never have separate experiences or issues sometimes even for people like me, but there is just no point where my asexuality clearly and neatly splits from my aromanticism, there is no clear divide between my lack of sexual attraction and lack of romantic attraction. But it's like... just fuck everyone who's both asexual and aromantic and can't neatly separate them I guess. That's the message I've been getting for many years now (and it gets even worse every time Pride Month comes around).

I'm sorry for sounding angry about this and repeating myself about this too but the reality of this is it's shoved people like me out, it's left us nowhere we feel like we belong. And sorry too but I was IDing as asexual meaning both before a lot of the people doing this, insisting they have to be viewed as separate, were probably even born, so I am pretty annoyed that it got to this stage when basically everyone started acting like we're not allowed to do that and that you have to use these neatly split terms instead. (Also this is in addition to there being rather too much actual genuine negativity - not simply repulsion towards the idea of having sex themselves but actual real negativity - towards not just sex but people who have sex coming from some asexual people, which is both unpleasant and also alienating to a lot of aspecs, or the proliferation of ideas like 'aces love cuddling' which are treated like the singular asexual experience when they also don't apply to many of us. Plus the general ignoring of/erasure of older asexual people as well. A lot of the time it does feel too like the aspec community or communities forgets anyone over the age of about 25 or so even exists in them.)

I'm just so tired of this.

[cookie-waffle]

nah cuz the lgbt community on this site fucking sucks, man. We are currently facing one of the worst times for the community in modern history. Russia considers us extremists now. Half of the united states wants us dead. Kids are being taught by their parents and social media to openly hate us. We’re constantly being accused of pedophilia simply for being lgbt. I don’t even remember seeing this much vocal hatred for lgbt people in 2010 COD lobbies.

And what are the issues ya’ll are most worried about on this site? Thinking that nonbinary people are some sort of threat? Accusing aro and ace people of being “less oppressed” than you? Arguing with bisexuals over how valid their orientation is? And now there’s fucking discourse about intersex people????

I’m gonna tell ya’ll this straight. This discourse does not fucking matter outside the internet.

You’d be pretty hard-pressed to find any irl lgbt safe space that excluded aspecs, nonbinary, or intersex people. All of their pride flags are hung up with everyone else’s because they have ALWAYS been apart of the community.

So why the fuck are we fighting over something so stupid when the literal fucking world is falling apart around us? Maybe focus all that energy you use to act like a boot-sucking pick-me into something that actually makes a difference for lgbt people. You could donate clothes, volunteer, donate to pro-lgbt charities. Fucking anything aside from acting like you’re some kinda cop online who has to police anyone who isn’t binary trans or cis gay.

[flipclock]

Playing with the aceflux flag colors because I’m not a fan of either the old flag or the new one

How I’d redesign the eyestrain-y original flag:

I used the new flag colors as a starting point and just changed the three middle stripes to become a gradient. Personally, I think a gradient is a very good representation of being aceflux. Not that I hate the new flags! I like the aroflux flag redesign a lot because it keeps the same vibe as the original flag, but I feel like the new aceflux flag is missing the same effect.

Attempted to try to capture the feel the redesigned aroflux flag:

I still prefer the vibe of the old flag compared to this but this is a bit better. I think it’s important aroflux and aceflux flags work together though

B-b-bonus round

Colorpicked colors from other pride flags I use:

The desaturated purple is the worst lmao but I’m kinda digging it otherwise

Color picked from Pinky Pie and Twilight Sparkle because why not

Pretty terrible. 0/10. These ponies are very inconvenient colors. Embarrassing

And that’s all I’ve got! I identified as aceflux when I was 14/15 and then the aphobia in the 2015-2017 era kinda put me back into the aspec closet. I just recently realised I’m still aspec so I’m trying to reconnect with that part of myself.

[svartalfhild]

I want to take a minute to talk about something regarding what it's like to be ace in the queer community. This is very much addressed at allos, so please listen.

We constantly have to deal with the fact that many people in the queer community don't want us there and don't really pay attention to or care about us, if they're even aware of our existence at all. This is incredibly disheartening and isolating. It keeps us from finding help and comfort and acceptance.

Every time I see a space designated for queer people, I have to wonder if I'll even be acknowledged, let alone welcome. I have to wonder if I will be politely tolerated at best or actively harassed at worst. I have to wonder if there will be any resources for people like me. I have to wonder if it's worth my time to be there. Even when it's an explicitly pro-aspec space, I have to wonder how much of that is just lipservice. All that wondering keeps me away.

It's in the little things too, and boy are there a lot of little things. Do you have any idea what it's like to go to Pride and have to ask vendors if they have any ace stuff only for them to very awkwardly tell you they don't? And to feel how off-put they are by you? Do you have any idea how it feels to go to a queer section at a bookstore or library knowing there will be nothing there for you, but hoping anyway, only to be proven right? It wears on you.

I think a lot of allos don't realize how bad it can fuck with you to be so hated by other queer people that you basically have nowhere to go, no community to turn to. The aspec community is comparatively small, rarely spoken of, and quite fractured, thanks to exclusionists. We have a hard time finding each other, let alone helping each other, and getting our voices heard without allo help is next to impossible. You may not think of yourself as an exclusionist or think you have anything against aspecs, but I invite you to examine how much you actually acknowledge and include us and how you behave around us. If you truly want to help us, it's on you to make sure we know we're welcome and supported. This doesn't just mean slapping our flag on merch or putting books on shelves. It means being there when we need you and not being shy about it. Ace person getting the old "I could fix you" in the group chat? Fucking handle it. Ace person trying to speak out about an ace issue? Lift up their voice.

Things are a little better than they were ten years ago, but it's still pretty damn clear how much bias there is against us in the queer community, to put it gently. To put it not so gently, we know y'all fucking hate us. It hurts more than I can say and does damage well beyond the scope of just us. Aspecs are one of the softest targets for the fashies right now, because we have so little support and just enough visibility to be on the radar. We are one of the corpses they will be stepping over on their way to you. Abandoning us just helps them achieve their goals faster. Stop trying to cut off a limb that was always there just because they told you that you'd look more acceptable without it.

[umbrecrunch]

When darkness falls, the rings on its body begin to glow, striking fear in the hearts of anyone nearby ｡ daily clicks ｡

pt:When darkness falls, the rings on its body begin to glow, striking fear in the hearts of anyone nearby. daily clicks(link). end pt.

TRAINER INVITES YOU TO CRUISE ! REQUESTS ARE CLOSED x / 5

pt:Trainer invites you to cruise! Requests are closed x/5 end pt.

POKEMON CENTER ! what i do.

pt:Pokemon Center! What I do. end pt.

flag coining pride flags awareness flags attraction flags pokegenders etc.

FAVOURITE POKEMON ! whitelist.

pt:Favourite Pokemon! Whitelist. end pt.

moot reqs bats cats puppies martens creepy-cutesy 80s/90s RE stray Pokémon Minecraft FNaF transman lesgay butch mspec aspec t4t nonhumanity otherkin fictionkin neurodivergent slavic croatian

TRADING ! when reqsing.

pt:Trading! When requesting. end pt.

make sure: no. stripes colours symbols name/definition dont use typing quirky nor coloured text specify full media nd char. name

HATCHING EGGS ! to-do.

pt:Hatching eggs! To-do. end pt.

bat butch bat lesgay bat polyam meow polyam meow lesgay meow trans boy holy autism witchbian batomni joker omni

DO NOT STEAL POKEMON ! do not interact.

pt: Do not steal Pokémon! Do not interact. end pt.

rad//queers pro-contact harmful paras are here to bring discourse pro//shippers / com//shippers M-APs / p-edos / z-oos anti good faith

TRAINER CARD ! about me.

pt:Trainer card! About me. end pt.

main is @chargedeck . names korvin or any names of my fictionkins && use he/it along with neos . i am a butch trans boy whos lesgay mspec polyam pretty much queer . im also 18 so yeah .

[spectordameron]

10 for the pride themed oc asks for emilia and then also 18!

i am kissing your cheeks love thanks for the asks 🥺

10. Does your oc celebrate Pride? How?

I think Emilia winds up going to a parade semi-annually for Pride - not always though, because crowds can be very overwhelming for her. She takes Marc with her one year and they probably end up sitting in as quiet a corner as they can while watching the festivities.

Emilia also has a pin collection: she's a little obsessed with them, and sticks them on her bags or her jackets - or her shirts when she's doing shifts at the bar. So in June, she probably reorganizes her selection away from fandom things she's into, to more Pride themed ones: various ace and nonbinary pins that she keeps front and center, plus a rainbow one because she loves the rainbow flag.

18. Do you prefer to give your ocs specific labels, or keep it unspecified? Why? If applicable, do you change their labels depending on circumstance?

All of my OCS are some flavor of aspec - that's the default I land on for them because they're all* partially self-inserts. Volya started off aroace, and I largely expected her to stay non romantic because pairing her with anyone in clone wars verses didn't go well at all, but then when I paired her up with Poe, she ended up falling for him and falling hard (she is a self-insert). So it kind of became that Volya was aroace but Poe was her one exclusion to that rule, he was just her person.

But obviously, as we've discovered recently, Volya might be/is harboring feelings for Zeph also, so I'm officially keeping it unspecified for the time being simply because in Voy's own words, she never expected to fall in love with Poe, so why would she restrain herself to the same belief again? Anything can happen.

As for Emilia, I mostly have her unspecified because I'm not even sure where she falls under any umbrella. I'm pretty sure she's ace, and sex is kind of a non-issue for her compared to Volya; where sex for Volya is something that happens after a lot of emotional connection, I think Emilia would be willing to jump in much sooner than later, which kind of throws me (I didn't know my ocs had that setting).

*obviously the Dameron kids don't quite count here yet. I don't know what Lumi and Muran's orientations are, but I am leaning a bit towards Muran probably being gay. I can't imagine him with a lady at any rate.

Pride themed OC asks!

[mogaifur]

hi, I'm Caltrops or Rubidium/Ruby! i'm not sure about my pronoun preference, so just use my name for now!

i make flags, terms & edits (although this section is limited for now!)

i may also move this to a rentry sometime to combat the length of this post.

main: @genericsparklefurry

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flag/term request info:

status: open!

slots: 0/10 requested, 0/10 of batch filled.

you can request: alterhumanity, objectum orientation, ficto-spectrum orientation, auto-spectrum orientation, gender, orientations, related to general or MaDD daydreaming, related to general traumagenic or DID plurality, related to ASD/ADHD/OCD/CPTSD/MDD/general psychosis/chronic fatigue, & related to whitelisted fandoms.

will need requester input for this: disability/neurodivergence flags of things not listed above, related to non-general & non-DID plurality, fandoms outside whitelist, maybe other stuff

please don't request: POC related flags (the system i'm from is white, so i don't feel like we have the place to fill this type of request even with input), related to paraphilia, radqueer/transID (additionally, people of this community are also asked to not interact with me directly), nsfw/suggestive/kink (keeping this blog all ages, sorry!)

fandom whitelist: Phighting!, Regretavator, object shows/comics (although I may ask for input if it's one i'm particularly unfamiliar with), Sparklecare Hospital (not comfortable with pre-boot related stuff, I want to respect Kitty's wishes) Pokemon (just the creatures, i've not gotten into the media far enough to be knowledgable on it djdjs).

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edit request info:

types: headcannon doodle (a drawing of a character with either pride accessories or pride flags next to them (please specify which, for acessories it's preferred you also specify what they are)! optionally, you can also specify headcannoned design traits that aren't in the canon design, and a max of 5 additional headcannons in text form!)

status: closed

slots: 0/3 requested, 0/3 filled.

please don't request: paraphilia, radqueer/transID, nsfw/suggestive/kink related flags or headcannons!

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anyone may use my flags & terms, but please don't interact directly or follow if:

pro-genocide/pro-war/zionist (literally fuck off forever)

radqueer/transID

pro/neutral/complex contact on paraphilias the other party cannot consent to

aspec exclusionist/a-spec subterm exclusionist

anti-objectum/anti-ficto/anti-auto

anti-xenogender/anti-neurogender

anti-selfship/anti-furry/anti-sparklefurry

pro cringe culture

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pretty iffy about interaction/following from due to personal beliefs, but if you're willing to put up with my opinions being different, then sure i suppose:

anti-endo

anti "contradictory/complex" self labeling

pro-ship/pro-fic/anti-anti/com-ship

[my-ace-life]

Asexuality & Aromanticism 101

So, I keep throwing the terms around, but what even are asexuality and aromanticism?

I’m glad you asked.

The asexual and aromantic spectrums are a collection of identities that can be described by the larger umbrella term “aspec.” What is key to understanding these identities is the separation of sexual and romantic attraction. Sexual and romantic attraction are two different dimensions to human sexuality. Sometimes they are aligned, like when someone is homosexual and homoromantic (as in experiencing both sexual and romantic attraction to those of the same sex) or heterosexual and heteroromantic or bisexual and biromantic and so on and so forth. However, this is not always the case, and it is perfectly normal for sexual and romantic attraction to be different. It is very important to recognize these different facets of a person’s identity, especially for aspec individuals, as there is a diverse set of combinations of these identities in the aspec community that uniquely influence the life of these individuals (Antonsen et al. 2020, Caravalho & Rodrigues 2022, Scott et al. 2016, Tessler 2023). 

This section will be a quick-reference guide to aspec identities informed by my personal experience as well as peer-reviewed research. As such, I will not be mentioning every single microlabel in the community, as the microlabels are pretty much always changing. If I miss something that you feel is important to include, please let me know! It was not my intention to be exclusionary, but to create a stable reference guide for the orientations that come up a lot in conversation about aspec identities and thus did not want to include microlabels that aren’t always around. To aid in understanding, I have included a couple of visuals that I created to go alongside definitions.

To learn more about my identities and how they have shaped my life, visit the “My Stories” section of this blog.  

Asexual Spectrum (I will include the pride flags for each of the identities listed):

Asexual: not experiencing sexual attraction

Demisexual: needing there to be a deep emotional connection to experience sexual attraction to another person 

Gray-asexual: being in between asexual and allosexual - whether that means that the person can still experience sexual attraction in some situations or has in the past

Allosexual: experiencing sexual attraction

All of the individuals who identify with the above can also fall into the following categories:

Sex-repulsed: Disgusted or uncomfortable with the idea of engaging in sexual activities of any kind with any person

Sex-neutral: Open to sexual activities in the right circumstances

Sex-favorable: Desires and/or seeks out sexual activities despite not experiencing sexual attraction to specific people

Aromantic Spectrum (I will include the pride flags for each of the identities listed):

Aromantic: not experiencing romantic attraction 

Demiromantic: needing there to be a deep emotional connection to experience romantic attraction to another person

Gray-romantic: being in between aromantic and alloromantic - whether that means they occasionally experience romantic attraction under the right circumstances or they have in the past

Alloromantic: experiencing romantic attraction

All of the individuals who identify with the above can also fall into the following categories:

Romance-repulsed: Disgusted or uncomfortable with the idea of engaging in romance of any kind with any person

Romance-neutral: Open to romance in the right circumstances

Romance-favorable: Desires and/or seeks out romance/romantic activities despite not experiencing romantic attraction to specific people

[skyeglitchflags]

Skye’s Intr0 Post!

Hai fr3nz! Mai nam3 iz sky3, and ai will us3 thiz bl0g to mak3 and shar3 prid3 flagz ai think r pr3tty and/0r us3 mais3lf.

Ai am plural, and Ai run thiz bl0g with mai c0-fr0nt3rz sumtimez, wh0 tranzlat3 mai typing quirkz. (Thankz btw >3)

Thiz bl0g (and mai lif3) haz a v3ry past3l th3m3, s0 if that iz 3y3strainy f0r u th3n thiz bl0g might n0t b th3 b3st fit :(

[Translation: hi friends! Mai name is Skye, and Ai will use this blog to make and share pride flags ai think are pretty and/or use maiself. Ai am plural, and Ai run this blog with mai cofronters sometimes, who translate mai typing quirks (thanks btw :cat smile:)

This blog (and my life) has a very pastel theme, so if that is eyestrain-y for you then this blog might not be the best fit :frown: ]

BYF and tagging syst3m b3l0w th3 cut!

[ translation: BYF and tagging system below the cut]

BYF:

Ai’m an mspec, aspec mono

Ai use first person, second person and third person neopronouns

Ai support all good faith, non harmful identities

Ai support all modes of plurality

Ai am alterhuman and neurodivergent

Tagging System:

#skyecoins : terms Skye coins

#flag combo : combination flags

#alt flag : alt flags

#pastelified : alt flags and/or edits that fit skye’s aesthetic.

#skyesgenders : gender hoard

#skyeshoard : general term hoard

#skyespeaks : personal stuff from skye

#🌸speaks : personal stuff from 🌸 (system host)

#🌙speaks: personal stuff from 🌙 (system host)

#🌸hoard : terms that belong to 🌸

#🌙hoard : terms that belong to 🌙