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𝔐arriage 𝔦n 𝔚esteros
MARRIAGE:
A marriage is a legally or formally recognised union, typically between two people. In most cases, it is a religious ceremony between one man and one woman who should not be more closely related than first cousins. The union involves the exchange of vows in the presence of sacred witnesses, such as a septon (for the Faith of the Seven), a heart tree (for the old gods), or a priest or priestess (for the Drowned God). The ceremony is followed by a feast where the bride and groom celebrate with their guests. The event concludes with the bedding, during which the marriage is consummated.
WEDDING CEREMONIES:
In Westeros, the wedding ceremony is a religious affair. The bride's father, or someone standing in for him, escorts the bride to her future husband and those officiating the marriage.
⋆ ─ Faith of the Seven: A septon presides over the ceremony, which includes prayers, vows, and singing, and takes place in a sept. The bride wears a maiden’s cloak in her house’s colours. The bride's father, or his representative, removes her cloak, allowing her husband to drape a cloak in his own house colours over her shoulders. This act symbolizes the bride’s transition from her father’s protection to her husband’s. The bride and groom then exchange vows, with the septon declaring them man and wife, proclaiming they are "one flesh, one heart, one soul, now and forever."
⋆ ─ Old Gods: The ceremonies are much shorter and involve no priests. The bride is escorted to her groom, who waits in front of the weirwood tree in the godswood. A ceremonial exchange follows, confirming the identities of the bride, the groom, and the person giving the bride away. The bride is asked to accept her husband, and upon her agreement ("I take this man"), the couple joins hands, kneels before the heart tree, and bows their heads as a sign of submission. After a moment of silent prayer, the couple rises, and the groom removes the maiden's cloak, placing his own cloak around the bride's shoulders. He then carries her to the feast in his arms. Some northmen believe that snow on a wedding day foretells a cold marriage.
CONSUMMATION:
In Westeros, the bedding occurs after the feast. The bride is escorted to her bedroom, often by the male guests, who undress her along the way while making crude jokes. The women at the feast perform the same for the groom. Once the bride and groom are in the bedchamber, they are typically left alone, though guests may gather outside the door, shouting suggestions. In some cases, witnesses may be present for the bedding, but the extent of their involvement remains unclear.
Women, especially noblewomen, are generally expected to be virgins on their wedding night. After some weddings, the bedsheets are displayed to show blood, proving the bride's virginity.
Although it is rare for a marriage to take place before the bride has had her first flowering, it does occasionally happen. However, bedding a bride so young is considered perverse.
Lords in Westeros once held the right to the first night, allowing them to bed newly-wed women before their husbands. Queen Alysanne persuaded King Jaehaerys I to abolish this practice, but it continues illegally in some parts of the North.
DIVORCE:
Vows spoken at swordpoint are not considered valid, and in theory, a marriage can not be declared if either person refuses to say the vows. However, issues of consent can still arise even when the vows are willingly spoken. In cases where lands are at stake, a lord might still claim the marriage as legal, even if it occurred under duress.
In the religion of the Drowned God, it is possible for someone to be married by proxy, without their consent, or personally saying the vows. However, if the marriage has not been consummated, it can easily be annulled.
In the Seven Kingdoms, marriages can be ended in various ways. A king has the authority to set aside his queen, even if she has borne him children, in favour of marrying another.
Under the Faith of the Seven, a marriage that has not been consummated can be annulled by the High Septon or a Council of Faith. Even if the marriage has been consummated, it can still be annulled, regardless of its length or whether children are involved. An annulment can be granted in the absence of either spouse, though it must be requested by at least one of them. The exact procedures of a Council of Faith remain undefined.
Another way to end a marriage is for the bride to join the Silent Sisters. Similarly, when a man takes the vows of the Night's Watch, his marriage is considered null and void.
POLYGAMY:
Before the Andals arrived in Westeros, Garland II Gardener, a King of the Reach known as the Bridegroom, had multiple wives. To marry the daughter of Lord Lymond Hightower, he set aside his other wives. According to the songs, Ronard Storm, a Storm King, had twenty-three wives.
Followers of the Drowned God may have only one rock wife, with whom they have trueborn children, but they are permitted to take multiple salt wives. Children born of salt wives are not considered bastards and can inherit if there are no heirs from the rock wife.
⋆ ─ All my information comes from the A Wiki of Ice and Fire page!
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really i think the red wedding is perhaps one of the best moments in modern literary history because its soooo much more than just that one scene ive said it once and ill say it again nothing in asoiaf is a complete and utter shock twist everything is foreshadowed like being woven into a great tapestry of everything that happens. the red wedding is foreshadowed so much you feel it looming over every narrative involved and i really do believe the cultural consciousness of the spoiler that it will happen improves the reading for the red wedding. you know that sickening feeling that everyone here involved is doomed and there's nothing youu can do to stop it. daenerys's vision of a king with a wolf head surrounded at a feast of the dead a whole book before it even takes place. the emphasizing of how you should never ever ever ever violate the laws of hospitality its a crime against the gods and catelyn continuing to push that they should eat first no more matter what. the legend of the rat cook and the gods anger over it. and then you realize not only is the red wedding a tragedy but it is just the beginning and a narrative device that will span every house involved and their downfalls. it is by design that tywin lannister plans it and he's dead by the end of the same book along with his grandson. oh red wedding you will always be famous i love you so dearly and i cannot wait to read the fabulous horror of the demise that lord walder frey will meet
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the young wolf
#robb stark#game of thrones#a song of ice and fire#got#asoiaf#mine.png#feeling despondent about the stark siblings again#like hey wdym robb was only 16/19 at the red wedding. how am i supposed to just go on with my day after remembering that#also i was tryin something new with this its like 50/50 colored pencil and digital#i kinda fuck with it this was a lot of fun#blood tw
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it's giving king baela and princess jace
#in other words: welcome back jonerys#like shes giving king of the pirates elizabeth swann#and hes giving i love my wife shes the boss of me#i love it#i hope we'll see a wedding#a little happiness amidst all this war#baela targaryen#jacaerys velaryon#jacaerys targaryen#jace targaryen#jace velaryon#jace x baela#house of the dragon#hotd#hotd s2#got#asoiaf#fire and blood#sid posts
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Bride of Winter | Catelyn Stark, née Tully
#asoiaf#asoif fanart#catelyn stark#ned definitely commissioned a kokoshnik embossed with the Tully sigil as a wedding gift for her
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You know what, props to Jon Snow for being the greatest wedding planner of all time. My boy managed to arrange a wedding that broke like every social norm in the north, between groups that have warred for MILLENIA!! and officiated by a foreign religion! Crazy that no one died like there wasn’t wasn’t even a lil scuffle. Some people can’t even get through a wedding without murdering their guest which btw indicates a lack of skill on the planner’s side I'm afraid. After the events of the past year, his services are desperately needed because how were people getting anything done before him??
#jon snow#asoiaf#valyrianscrolls#I know a lucrative career for ol boy if the whole nights watch thing doesn’t work out actually#yalls wanting your faves to make it to the end and have happy weddings#better pray jon makes it out alive so he can plan them 🤨
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No, don’t, don’t cut my hair, Ned loves my hair.
Inspired by Catelyn Tully at The Red Wedding {2024}
#catelyn tully#game of thrones#catelyn stark#the red wedding#GOT#asoiaf#a song of ice and fire#house tully#game of thrones art#game of thrones fanart#asoiaf art#asoif fanart#house stark#art#art on tumblr#artist#digital art#artists on tumblr#artwork#fanart#my art#illustration#character art#gotedit#fantasy art#red wedding#candles#medevial#ned x catelyn#valyrianscrolls
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Tywin Lannister's greatest trick was convincing everyone he was more clever than he actually was.
People are still quoting him in this as if it's a great question and he was in the right.
Except people forget, Tywin Lannister convinced people to forget -
They didn't just kill a dozen men at dinner.
Yes, they killed the wedding party, but everyone forgets that Robb Stark had a third of his army at the Twins with him that the Frey's and the Bolton's slaughtered.
Tywin didn't choose between killing a dozen men at dinner or 10,000 in battle, he did both.
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ASOIAF AU where Theon rescues Sansa from kingslanding, Red Wedding never happens, Sansa and Arya reunite about 3 years into the series
I added color!
#asoiaf#game of thrones#a song of ice and fire#asoif/got#asoiaf fanart#asoif fanart#house stark#sansa stark#theonsa truther#sansa stark x theon greyjoy#theon x sansa#theonsa#theon greyjoy#house greyjoy#arya stark#red wedding#asoiaf au
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Ten million ways you could contextualize this but for simplicity: Sansa and The Faith in some way
#asoiaf#asoiaf hair and clothing#like…#wedding headdress#southern spin on the northern style kokoshniks#idk just some symbolism#possibilities r truly endless
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Saint Robb of Winterfell, King in the North, patron of soldiers and the betrayed.
#robb stark#house stark#asoiaf#a song of ice and fire#game of thrones#got#red wedding#rains of castamere#king in the north#my art#fanart
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"no, don’t, don’t cut my hair, Ned loves my hair."
#art#illustration#asoiaf#a song of ice and fire#asoiaf fanart#catelyn stark#red wedding#asoiaf art#game of thrones#robb stark#a storm of swords
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Am I making you feel sick?
Elia Martell you will always be so famous to me.
#elia martell#valyrianscrolls#asoiaf#asoiaf art#asoiaf fanart#house martell#looked at her wedding art again. throws up like cat on the carpet and weeps#anyways detailing on this is it's all based on her house colors#the hand can be seen as Rhaegar's veiling her#bc I was looking at her wedding art and her padme veil is so. wah.#smth smth symbolism
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her firstborn
..so ugh you know how once there's been only cat and robb in her scary and not very promising newly married life... and how robb was her whole world
and how he really is her whole world in death???
#asoiaf#my art#a song of ice and fire#asos#catelyn tully#catelyn tully stark#robb stark#lady stoneheart#normal#the first one is a loose study of a leyendeckers modern madonna#i feel like lsh looks too neat and theatrical in the second one#i just wanted to give her cut throat jewelery-ish look to mirror her necklace... but idk#and literally giving her robbs head to hold .. umm#kind of tasteless now that i think about it... it looked better in my head#a storm of swords#the red wedding#so... no head :|#(sorry.)#valyrian scrolls
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Hello bestie I am curious as to your thoughts on the "Rhaegar saw Dany while she was having a vision of him and mistook her for a future Visenya" theory, if you're willing to share them? I can't decide which side of the fence I'm on (seems like a misinterpretation to me, but does do the whole reinforcing the tragic themes of prophecy thing, which I do love)
eh im not super into it being that literal i think prophecy works best when it’s a bit more thematic and metaphorical because the whole point is interpretation and misinterpretation. i also don’t think rhaegar ever saw dany and mistook her for a daughter, i think it would make more sense to mistake dany for himself, just like she mistakes herself for rhaegar in her own visions.
the version of this theory that i really like is that daenerys bringing the dragons back is such a powerful moment that returns magic to the world that it sort of reverberates out and wraps the timeline around itself. to the extent that people who are dreamers are getting snippets of it like hundreds of years earlier as well. but people see what they want to see and turns out a lot of targaryens who saw someone walking out of a fire unharmed or hatching three dragons from stone or melting a bunch of ice soldiers with dragonfire or crossing the trident and they said thats ME i am the prince that was promised in order to get the dragons back i have to do those things. and they killed themselves trying to accomplish this because it was never going to be them it was daenerys, someone who they would have denied all power and agency and never suspected of greatness if she had been around in their time. i think thats neat
#I think the red wedding is like this also where it just warps the timeline around itself because it is such an atrocity#asoiaf#i wrote something abt this way earlier let me find it
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lost and led by stars — the titles of alyssa snow
"I’ve been given many titles throughout my life. Bastard, Lady, Princess. I have no desire to add Queen amongst them." —Alyssa Martell, 302 AD (inspo)
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#fyeahgameofthronesocs#fyeahgotocs#ocappreciation#asoiaf oc#ochub#allaboutocs#alyssa snow#got oc#game of thrones oc#oberyn martell x oc#oberyn martell x ellaria sand x oc#fic: lost and only led by stars#that is grey wind in the last gif he survives the red wedding for reasons and alyssa adopts him in her north arc I love that gif so much#this set literally took months lmao#honestly it was the quotes that were the trickest but I'm so pleased with them now#finally posting this so joey stops yelling at me (affectionate)#but seriously thank you dear friend for all the help!#rei edits
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