#ask a nonbinary person

[bamsara]

Hello :P tiny reminder that my Lamb and Joon (my yellow cat) both use They/Them pronouns :P

[bunnieswithknives]

Can we possibly get your version of osma? I'd be interested to see what you did with her

Here you go!! I was putting this off a bit cause, I'll be honest, the way the reveal/transition scene was handled was actually kinda upsetting for me.

I did read on her Wiki though that she's apparently a fairy which is awesome as hell. I haven't gotten to that part in the books yet but I'm glad to have something to chew on in my time of need.

[httyd-art-requests]

May I request a nonbinary colored Terrible Terror? Love those little guys!

I love that the first pride request is also one of my own flags <3 Shaking your hand

Dragon #87 - Non-Binary Terrible Terror

[blueskittlesart]

PLEASE tell me the prof roasted them

unfortunately no, i'm the only other openly/visibly trans person in the class and we made direct eye contact and i could FEEL the discomfort physically but basically what they ended up saying was "hey I'm really not a fan of jkr but I will do my best to remain impartial about your work" which was what prompted the idiot who was pitching to use the "complex feelings" line. Given the fact that the prof is adjunct and my school has rules about freedom of speech or whatever i don't think they would have won in a confrontation about whether the subject matter was appropriate, so I think making it awkward and voicing their discomfort was probably the best thing they could have done. unfortunately the hp fan was so fucking out of touch they chose to ignore the fact that multiple people were visibly uncomfortable and insist on the project anyway. so

[cursedyuri]

sometimes all u can do to maintain your sanity is smoke some weed and blog about lesbians

[potatobugz]

some equal rites tomfoolery.. i really liked this book

[novelconcepts]

Sophie Nelisse saying in an interview that she didn’t take “slumber party makes outs” as JackieShauna being cannon because, and I quote, “all girls have a friend growing up that they experiment with a little and then it gets a little ambiguous  because you know where you stand but aren’t sure if your friend feels the same way and it creates tension between the two of you” was not on my 2025 BINGO card.

I fear that might not actually be something that ALL GIRLS go through Sophie 🫣

lmao oh sweetie. Wasn’t there a video with her and Melanie last season where one or both of them were saying something about being straight, and then amended it to “like 75%”? I feel like this is not the first time this has happened.

[our-queer-experience]

Not sure if there's a better blog to post this ask:

The trans experience is not thinking you pass, and asking people who have known you pre transition if you pass, and when they tell you, yes, you don't believe them, so you ask people who hadn't known you pre transition if you pass and they also say, yes but you still don't believe that you pass because the dysphoria runs deep.

thank you for sharing! this happens to me with a bunch of “guys” who are About To Realize Something- i keep thinking i pass as transmasc, say something that outs me, and then they have a lot of questions totally for no reason bro and then. um. no more guy

[thurio-edau]

me when i find two perfect labels for myself but theyre microlabels that NO ONE FUCKING KNOWS

[mammoth-clangen]

that ask was yikes a little invasive but I hope it was cming from a good place, but it sounds like you may be trixic :3 :3 its attraction to women or fem/fem-presenting non-binary people, I myself am trixic and aro, Also didn’t know you were ace, it’s nice to see acespectrum creators, I feel like they get erased a lot

also nice to see it being incorporated into characters

Yeah, this ask was certainly a bit... Hmm.

I err on the side of politeness when answering things like that, because I'm never sure if it's just someone whose first language isn't English, or they struggle with tone, etc.

As I said in the reply to that ask, I'm not terribly bothered either way regarding labels! Though, I think I have met someone who used trixic before? Some time ago but still! I think it's a neat term and has a really pretty flag, though I don't personally self-describe as it c:

Also yay! AceSpec represent! ♠️

You better believe there will be at least one confirmed ace character in Kindred. And not just because i default to ace for everyone unless otherwise confirmed, bc im not good at writing romance n stuff lolol

[corviiids]

hi rook sorrgy I'm back but I've been thinking about your akeshu as girls genderfuckery tweet for 20 million years. idk if you can share anything in good faith here on the Tumblr corner of the internet (if not then by all means ignore this) but if you did I'd owe you perhaps my entire soul!! thank you very much either way :3

i would LOVE to talk about this thank you so much for asking

[under the cut in case anyone would not like to see genderfuckery stuff]

okay so first of all.

on the topic of boobs

this is important to lead with do you understand. most of the akeshu as girls stuff ive seen around has akc as flat-chested and ren as boobed. and that's valid i support that. but personally. personally to me. i think it's the opposite. tbe reason (well one reason) i think it's the opposite is because i think girlren is a little rat of a creature and akechi who is prim and feminine and perfect is so FUCKING angry about her crush on ren like she's barely surviving it and then this is the nail in the coffin. she's like why can't i stop thinking about that messy unassuming thing. she doesn't even have boobs

my other reasons for tihs are that i think joker is more androgynous charm while akechi is more feminine/masculine duality i think this makes sense to nobody else. i think ren regardless of agab is riding the rail of the gender spectrum 🛹 while akc is collecting extremes of gender presentation like they're pokemon do you understand. are we on the same page here. ren being into drag is important to me for this reason (again regardless of agab). meanwhile akechi having very clear feminine secondary sex characteristics but presenting gradually more and more masculine in terms of clothing/hair/personal style etc. is also extremely important to me. and that includes being biog of tity while her style veers more and more into masc as time goes on

ok

the detective prince

i think girl akechi (at 17-18) presents very femininely because it's what's effective for her. i would call her style................... kawaii corporate chic. does that make sense for everyone. it's like schoolgirl girlboss. she has a bow instead of a tie but it's a very classy one not a kitschy one. smart blazer, uniform pleated skirt, patent leather shoes, u know the drill BUT. people still call her the detective prince. this is VERY IMPORTANT to me. no detective princess. only detective prince. do you understand the importance of the genderfuckery of a super feminine girl being called by masculine terms. to me. we're continuing the legacy set by my hero naoto shirogane bigender queeng. bigender kin. bigender genderneutral non-monarchical ruler

i think by third sem girl akechi is starting to dress more androgynously/masculinely. more pants. i think her third sem outfit is unchanged from canon. just a smart coat, sweater, buttondown, slacks. postcanon she gets a haircut.

just trying to live an honest student life

ren is like so fundamentallyuncomfortable with the fact of his existence at the beginning of canon so to me girlren is like... she dresses like she's trying to hide in her clothes. messy hair. i have no strong feelings about whetehr her hair should be long or short, or whether it's loose or pulled into a tail, but i know it's messsy. untamed curls. and she uses it to hide her face. none of her clothes fit. she's in oversized everything. i have a very clear image in my head of a ren idle animation where she leans down to pull up her leggings because they keep falling down. she also has terrible posture. she's androgynous at this stage not on purpose but because she's too self conscious to like... exist... and present... in any notable way at all

i think as she gets more confident and as the year progresses she starts to dress more distinctively. i like the idea of her getting more comfortable prettying up. maybe working at crossroads helps her with this 🤔 i dont know how to explain this but i think she's still feminine in a gentlemanly chivalrous way rather than a girly cute way. girlren has that same steady calming vibe that guy ren does

joker & crow

crow has a magical girl skirt. i have a drawing of this but im too self conscious about my own lack of drawing skill to show it off so i cropped out the key part and put it into an ms paint void in the distance as my visual aid

there. i hope this is illustrative

i think given girl akechi's use of her feminine charms to gain popularity, her hero complex would be similarly gendered given we have confirmation that robin hood represents not (only) heroics for altruistic reasons but also the theatre of being seen doing good. there's a real drama element to the idea of a magical girl transformation that i honestly wish we got for male crow too. i always am depressed that we don't get to see much theatre for akechi's initial appearance as crow and summoning of robin hood, anyway, girlcrow has ribbons and a capelet that flap in non-existent wind.

black mask's outfit is unchanged from canon. i'd like it to look a little less stupid but that has nothing to do with gender i just want it to look a little less stupid.

joker's outfit is also unchanged from canon. listen. im back on my bullshit. in the metaverse her behaviour gets more feminine and more sly and confident than in reality. she's got that femme fatale shit going on. however, she is still a gentleman thief. she has the long coat. she has the poofy trousers. she has the waistcoat. she's still smirking and fixing her gloves and flipping her knife and doing that thing that canon ren does where he lifts his chin and does the little "come on" thing with her fingers. do you understand? do you understand me

[gigamuffinsofie]

people keep they/them'ing him

[uncanny-tranny]

r u chill w non transitioning ppl?

Why wouldn't I be? At one point, every trans person who is transitioning was once someone who wasn't (whether or not that was a choice or their need is a separate discussion).

Hatred of any kind of trans person is not a Righteous or Good Thing - every single trans person has their place, their entitlement to safety, community, and respect of who they are

[jax-interacts]

opinion on your fangirls and fanboys 🔥🤑

I only like the antienbies (nonbinary people that hate me)

[fluviusevos]

ive been a vaguely transmasc version of genderqueer for almost four years now but after employing a few changes to what i can control about the way people refer to me as well as certain stuff in the way i think about myself then living with it for a while, i think i like the idea of agenderism

[rockybloo]

do you happen to have any aro and/or asexual spectrum characters? Literally out of pure curiosity

Putris is the only one coming to mind who doesn't want any romance of any sort because they find no interest in it...and the conditions of their reanimation makes me uncomfortable with the idea of pairing them with anyone.

There's also Nana who is demisexual. It takes her a good while to warm up to Jack and she only started to catch feelings after being friends with him for a bit.

But besides those two, I don't really have any OCs I can say with my whole chest are aro or on the asexuality spectrum.