#asexuality is a spectrum man

[diamondzart]

I’ve seen the Jayvik nation blowing up today because Christian said that Viktor is ace solely because he keeps trying to establish that Jayvik is not canon so bad. And it kinda made it more confusing to headcanon Jayvik being asexual because the dude probably forgot that not having sex doesn’t mean the same people can’t be in romantic relationship. Because they absolutely fuckin can, okay? I was headcanoning them as an ace ship before Christian decided to use asexuality as a tool for his borderline homophobia regarding this ship. I don’t agree with him in any way, I will keep seeing them as a romantic couple and I have absolutely nothing against people who see them as active sexual partners and draw and write smut, it’s completely fine, and I headcanon them as ace solely because I myself am an ace and this is simply my comfort zone. I hate to see it suddenly being used as an argument like that. I send love to all Jayvik shippers out there!

[bizarreaizen]

i will always dislike the stereotype that cisgender men are just beings who only think / care about sex, so my cis men out there who are asexual or just genuinely don't think sex is that important, you are seen and will always be valid :D /gen

[show-us-kaidenshenandoah]

every time i watch anything with him in it (admittingly, predominantly from the Dropout app), i am reminded that Lou Wilson is the most handsome man to have ever lived. like, objectively. he just is. i will hear no arguments for any other person to be ranked higher. Lou Wilson: whose face single-handedly shows humanity can go no higher in beauty. he is THE most attractive man in the world. argue with the wall lmao

[angelic-transsexual]

i'm not very vocal about being asexual, however all of the misinformation surrounding asexuality just frustrates me. i'm not broken or wrong. it's not a medical issue. i DO NOT have a "low sex drive." it's not a choice either, i am not "celibate" or "pure." it's not just cis-het people who have said these things and have made these assumptions about asexuals and asexuality. it's also a lot of queer allosexual folk. I'M STILL A GAY MAN STILL BEING ASEXUAL.

[factual-flittermouse]

So many options :)

[genderqueerdykes]

as someone who is asexual and a trans man (amongst other things, i'm agender and xenic but also a man and prefer calling myself a trans man over masc + don't like calling myself under the non-binary umbrella label), seeing this massive wave of transandrophobia pop up has only made me feel more afraid online. 2016 alone was a detriment to my life, as i had just figured out what asexuality was and how that label fit me perfectly. only to find a wave of people who don't find me "queer enough" to call myself queer! i feel like i'm reliving those days again, as i've noticed a lot of trends in how people who are aphobic and/or transandrophobic tend to have similar arguments. "this side has it so much worse so you should shut up and stay in your lane" rhetoric has made me a lot more frustrated to exist in queer spaces. i don't have the space irl (due to where i live as well as my age being an issue in this regard) and having the space online just feels like this massive argument of erasure and negativity where i do not exist to these people, you know? apologies for the vent about this, at first i was going to try to articulate some sort of point about this and how trans men and asexual people are often put into this little erasure and confused person box but i sorta lost the point. mb

yeesh, i'm sorry you've gone through this. it really does seem like there's another wave of mass aphobia and aphobia, as well as transandrophobia coming to an all time high. it's really disturbing. i'm a trans man who's aromantic and on the asexual spectrum but that doesn't erase the fact that i'm queer. i've never understood why people say that aromanticism and asexuality aren't queer identities. like how? society expects very specific kinds of relationships out of all of us. if we don't fall into those types of relationships, or don't have the same kind of relationship with sexuality and romance, we're treated like shit and dehumanized. how is that not something that falls outside of the cultural norm?

people are just proudly being assholes again at this stage. it feels like rude ass people simmer down for a while and then get pissed the fuck off again in a never ending cycle. people don't like change. they don't want to have to change how they see other people. people become very attached to the versions of other that live in their heads and their heads alone. i don't really get why people who aren't/weren't a queer identity feel like they get to tell other people what it's about.

if you aren't or weren't that thing, how would you know? that makes no sense. it's just talking over people at this point. i hope things improve for you, and everyone in general. this is just sad behavior. it's toxic and abusive. it's hurting people in real time

[fuckingmentallyilly]

Hey @staff , feel free and do your job and hunt down the fucking sex bots on the #asexual and #transgender tags!!

[monochromatic14u]

Im so goddamn touch starved and it’s not funny. If someone were to just gently hold me or gently rub their hand up my arms, I would fucking melt man. I just wanna be held and coddled and my brain left into mush. I wanna kneel but me able to rest my head on someone’s leg and be pet and caressed like a beloved pet and not have to worry about human things. I wanna game my hands tied behind my back so I don’t even have to worry about using my hands to do anything. I would be taken care of no matter what. Just being able to be adored and touched non-sexually. The only thing I have to be concerned about is emptying my mind and letting myself just feel and relax.

[abysmalarts]

this is MY asexual agenda.

[newtscamandersbf]

i feel like not enough people talk about how different and awful it can feel sometimes to be in the aroace spectrum but maybe thats just me idk

[prettyboythings-blog]

Got my hair trimmed (and yes I'm 19 ik I have a stupid baby face)

[vuelode-irbis]

Finally drew something on time for the International Asexuality Day!!

I hope everyone gets to wake up feeling happy with their identity, and happy special day to all aces today!

ID: a digitally draw comic that consists of six panels. The color palette has the colors of the asexual flag. First panel shots an alarm ring getting cut by someone in their bed. Second panel shows an anthropomorphic cat waking up, still sleepy and with their hair messed up. Third panel is the cat in the same position, except they look startled. The fourth panel shows the cat with a happy expression, and a speech bubble that reads "I'm very happy for being asexual". The fifth panel is the cat getting out of bed with a smile on their face. The last panel is text that reads "Happy International Asexuality Day", each word is in a paragraph and has the colors of the asexual flag. The background is also the asexual flag.

[angelic-transsexual]

Just had a cis gay man tell me that discussing genitalia of others is “apart of being a gay man” and his example was “gay men send each other dick pics first thing.” I need you bigoted cis gay men to get a grip please. Not every gay man goes on grinder and exchanges dick pics. Not every gay man experiences sexual attraction in general.

[ti-girl1226]

Gambit is on the ace spectrum. More specifically demisexual or gray-asexual. he although may be very flirty, but like It doesn’t mean he wants sex. Anyway these are my thoughts and i wanted to show them.

[toomanysubcultures]

since it’s ace week I feel the need to spread acespec Frank castle propaganda

[cheesecakeislazy]

Being bisexual is really funny- Cause most of the time I have a preference for men and then I remember that girls are super cute and wanna kiss one.

The cute girl trigger is always something weird too- Like my most recent one was fucking Class of 09, I dunno bro I got 2 whole options and I’m still single.

Also Femboys are possibly the perfect thing for Bisexuals. Well- it depends on the person, but Femboys need love too.