#asexual phil

[aroacearchangel]

i’m going to say something that might be controversial and i’m sorry if this is cringe or whatever but i can’t sleep:

dan and phil are like. the perfect example of my ideal qpr. have they kissed. maybe. irrelevant. did they form an almost instantaneous soul binding connection within days of meeting in person. yes . are they literally soulmates, as proclaimed by mr howell himself. also yes.

did they design a house to live in together and still have separate closets. also yes . when they’re apart for even a few weeks they are soooooooo sad. i’m just. hooollyyy shitt.

in response to the age old question “are they dating or are they friends?”: does it actually change anything? they’re dan and phil :]

[sing-me-under]

[sisterdanielstits]

how did tumblr manage to sum me up in three tags

[questionmarklive]

You know what type of relationship I want as an aroace person? I want that mid 2010's closeted Dan and Phil shit

Give me totally platonic besties who've lived together 10+years

[jazzyispeachless]

I got so blindsided by all the shoulder touches and the fucking?? japhan wedding mention???? that I fully didn’t process Dan’s “or like asexual let’s just binge Netflix and talk about how much we hate people” my guy you get it that is The Dream

[dansdoom]

asexuality and dan and phil are trending at the same time, the earth is healing

[tommyssupercoolblog]

i love your post about dnp’s relationship!! i feel like people don’t really understand the true level of love people can have for each other outside of just a regular romantic relationship

we live in a society that constantly shoves the concept of romance down our throats, that we are all made to believe that people are either in a romantic relationship, or they’re not. we can all agree that everything is on a spectrum, so why can’t we do the same for relationships?

dan and phil very obviously love and care for each other in a very special and beautiful way. there is no more that needs to be said.

another thing that i find kind of annoying is when people say that “the only reason they call each other ‘best friends’ is cause they haven’t hard launched yet, and they call each other boyfriends/partners/husbands/etc in private”. i say this so many times, and ill keep saying it, everyone has their own definitions of labels. “best friend” can feel so much more intimate, meaningful, and personal to them than any other label, and that is beautiful! of course, like you said, this isn’t to say that they’re “definitely not” saying those things, it’s just something to consider

i could also very much be projecting, as i’ve been slowly figuring out i may not be as alloromantic as i initially thought, but i digress

i could also be totally wrong!! the beauty of having such a caring relationship with another person is knowing that no one can ever truly know the extent of your relationship besides each other. that is a remarkable thing, and should be enough for everyone to understand, and respect everyone’s theories/opinions/experiences without hate ❤️

i’m sorry this is so long, i really hope it made sense, i rambled for quite a while, but oh well, thank you for reading :)) <33

No I get it! That's why I said something haha

Thing is they absolutely could be dating in private and to be completely transparent I do have some suspicions they might be. But it seems to be a very black and white, and very CERTAIN, issue with a lot of people. Some folks said they were worried about Dan and Phil being all "no homo" about the conspiracy theories as if it'd destroy the relationship they have if they did, and it made me think about how...if they don't consider themselves a couple that doesn't mean they don't consider themselves soulmates and very important to each other- they obviously do, they've said it over and over. Nothing can erase that.

I did have someone say they think the idea of a QPR is unlikely because they never expressed interest in one and while I don't think they have actively said that, they also generally have kept things private until necessary, and also....QPRs are not in the public consciousness. Do you have any idea how many people found out about the aromantic and asexual spectrums for the FIRST TIME EVER from Jaiden Animations' coming out video? And that didn't even mention QPRs. Queerplatonic relationships are NOT common and they aren't visible to a lot of people, even other queer people.

Talking about a queerplatonic relationship would require a lot of setting groundwork and sitting down and EXPLAINING, similar to how Jaiden had to explain things in her video. It's not enough to go "this is a queerplatonic relationship" if no one knows what the fuck that is, you have to thoroughly debrief everyone, so if that is what going on I could see why it wouldn't be so casually brought up. Like, they would need to feel comfortable and ready to sit down and explain it to people.

There's also the fact, as they mentioned in the tags as well, that if they were a man and woman people would already assume they were together as fact; but that's just as much amatonormativity as it is homophobia. That assumption, that a man and woman who act like Dan and Phil would be together, shouldn't go unchallenged. The difference in assumptions often comes from homophobia, but the assumption wouldn't exist in the first place without amatonormativity.

(Same person also mentioned they aren't aroace but I'm going to discount that critism entirely as you don't need to be aroace to have a QPR in the first place, they just come up more in those spaces because people are already critiquing the idea of relationships and what they mean.)

I just don't want anyone to lash out if it's a QPR, and I also want people to remember (or learn!) that QPRs are an option, because it's not discussed often and this is a pretty good opportunity to broach the topic. They could be dating, they could be in a QPR, we don't know. And the thing is, we can't know- that's what I'm saying- unless they elaborate we'll never know and that's...okay!! :D

I have no problem with posts calling them a couple or anything, I reblog those a lot, I just felt I should mention this option too.

Regardless they're still our silly gay little YouTube blorbos and that's incredible :3

[thegirlinprague]

"i've made all of the lesbians ace" some of us already are tyvm

[dailydccomics]

give him time 🖤🩶🤍💜 Green Arrow vol 3 #15

[the-girl-lost-in-fandoms]

Thanks Phil 🖤🤍💜

[locamotivednp]

see the thing is,,, sister daniel is 6'3' which i-

[sundewhasaudhd]

I made a lotta things on picrew :3

SUNDEW (ME :D)

WILBUR

QUACKITY

RANBOO

CLEMENTINE

PURPLED

CHARLIE

FUNDY

TUBBO

PHIL

KRISTEN

TECHNO

MISSA

MICHAEL

SHORUD

YOGURT

BUG

TALLULAH

CHAYANNE

That’s all :3

[malin-la]

Possibly the best top 5 tumblr has had in a while

[justify-my-reasons]

Hey

Since it's June, Pride Month and also almost Dan's B-day, I gave myself one You Will Get Through This Night book translated in portuguese, yay!

I'm struggling with bad thoughts, had burnout and also came out as ace/pan/NB person in pandemics. It's gonna be interesting to read, at least.

Portuguese below

Eu sou Calegari, tem alguem que é Phannie aqui do Brasil? Eu quero amigar. Entrei nesse mundo não faz nem 6 meses só não quero ficar sozinha no meu buraco negro conversando com as paredes já que ninguém se importa com os meus hiperfocos. Pelo menos elas me escutam, ja que respondem com eco hahaha

[themarsbar]

call this a millennial take but seeing dan and phil in their comeback era sprinkling mentions of asexuality so casually and so often in their videos is healing something in me that i never thought would get the chance to heal