#as someone on the aroace spectrum
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harvey is really connecting me with a side of femininity i always felt out of touch with because tell me why do i think of this fictional man every time i listen to touch tank by quinnie
#as someone on the aroace spectrum#i feel enlightened like i lowkey get it now#even though i may not want this irl#sdv harvey#man really said u are SOFT#if this has any relevance.. i'm an aquarius#i don't know much about astrology but if u do u know how we can be :')
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Good luck during pride month to all the aroaces who are gonna be blasted with "love is love" everywhere
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This post includes aplatonic people, loveless aros and any other people who fall anywhere on the aro and ace spectrum.
Stop saying "but theres platonic love and familial love-"
#nothing wrong with love is love but pls being queer isnt just about loving someone#it can also be about the lack of love im certain aspects of peoples lives etc.#idk if that explains it very well but whatever#pride month#lgbtqia#aroace#aromantic#asexual#this goes to anyone on the aro and/or ace spectrum btw#anyway have fun during pride month everyone i hope you have a great time#im turning the reblogs back on#but if i see one person say any shit abouy platonic love im disabling it agaain
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Translation: Junior, I have told you several times that Lily prefers to be single, remember?
Lily is the new aroace icon. That's all.
#Lily#duolingo#aromantic#asexual#aroace#yeah I know she had a crush on a drummer once#but that was just a one time thing#she can still be h/c'd as someone on the aroace spectrum#she has literally never been interested in anyone in that way other than that occasion#spanish duolingo#pride month#aroace pride#first post to reach 1k jeez#it always is a shitpost isn't it#personal headcanon#<- I thought it was clear enough before#apparently not looking at some reblogs#guys this is a headcanon post that I made#nowhere did I say that it was official#the only officially queer characters on Duolingo are Lin Bea and Oscar#Lin is lesbian Bea is bi and idk about Oscar#He never goes out on dates. just likes to paint and platonically hang out with Lucy in his free time#He's also most like aroace. Again: MOST LIKELY aro/ace.#like I know he's one of the “canonically” (officially from the website) queer characters. But Idk what his sexuality actually is.#this is a SHITPOST
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happy pride month. if someone is pressuring you into a romantic or sexual relationship you have the right to kill them with hammers
#if someone says your identity isn’t valid. this also applies#aromantic#aro#aromance#arospec#aromanticism#aro spectrum#ace#asexual#aroace#grey aro#aromantic pride#aro pride#pride month#lgbt pride#queer pride#queer#transgender#trans#asexuality#aromantic asexual#asexual aromantic#allonormativity#alloace#alloaro#qpr pride#qpr#the a isn’t for ally#lgbtqia#lgbtqia+
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The Hazbin Hotel fandom’s issue with accepting aromanticism and asexuality
Now that it is officially Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, I want to talk about this!
I find that, as an aroace myself, I am constantly grasping at good representation and coming up empty— it usually ends up in one of two ways.
One: the character is portrayed as emotionless, cold, and robotic in nature. It’s the question aromantic and/or asexual people are often asked: “Are you heartless?” The answer is no, of course, but general media makes it out to be the opposite.
Or two: Their lack of attraction is seen as something to “fix” because they “haven’t found the right one yet”, and they end up with a partner as a “happy ending”.
It frustrates me greatly because of how little people actually see aromanticism or asexuality as a true part of the LGBTQIA+ community.
So when I watched Hazbin Hotel, and I found out about Alastor being aroace, I was over the moon. I was on cloud nine. I also saw how his voice actor has looked up the term as an attempt to learn about aroaces, which makes me OVERJOYED?? Amir is truly a blessing, and I love that he’s proud to embody a character that’s part of our community. It’s so beautiful to finally have a proper character, a fan favorite at that, who just so happens to be aroace— and that’s another thing I love about this.
It’s never explicitly stated in the show (though it is stated in interviews), but it’s rather clear when you’re watching, isn’t it? Alastor’s aversion to any sort of sexual advancement, coupled with Rosie’s blatant “I know you’re an ace in the hole” comment sort of spell out his asexuality pretty clearly, as well as what side of the spectrum he falls upon. In addition, his Valentine’s day card was strictly platonic, which caters to his aromantic side. It feels so validating to finally be represented, to finally have a character in media who shares the same lack of interest in romance and sex as I do.
When I entered the fandom to look for more content, I kind of expected to see the same respect for Alastor’s orientation there too. But that… wasn’t the case? I am fully aware that aromanticism and asexuality are both spectrums— of course, aromantic and/or asexual people can enter those kinds of relationships. I’m not denying that and they belong in the community as much as anyone else on the spectrum.
But, the more I see the same line again and again and again, the more it feels like an excuse to just ship what you want.
Usually I don’t mind shipping? I’m often a firm believer in people shipping what they like as long as it’s harmless and they don’t go crazy over it. I also know for a fact that Viv doesn’t have a problem with people shipping her characters. They are fictional, after all.
But in this case, people are ignoring the very thing that makes Alastor a part of the aroace community! People are ignoring his lack of romantic or sexual attraction!
Is this not the same as changing a gay character’s orientation to suit a straight ship? If not, how so? I’m told that we are a part of this community, so why aren’t we being treated like it? Why is it so hard to accept the people on the end of the spectrum who aren’t interested?
Something I’ve been noticing throughout my life is that society has not exactly progressed very much on the idea of accepting asexual or aromantic identities. Maybe we have, a little, since the old days— but hell, people in “the old days”, which in truth wasn’t very long ago, believed that asexuality was a medical condition to be “fixed” by taking the right medication or having sex. That’s a pretty low bar to clear. And on the romance side, you’re seen as a “late bloomer” or “boring” if you don’t express interest. These days, being friends with someone is treated like a gateway to them possibly becoming a lover. Not getting married, not going on dates, not wanting a partner— it’s all treated like a crime when it’s not.
Maybe I’m selfish, or sensitive, or I’m butthurt over nothing, or I’m making it all about me. Maybe I’m gatekeeping or whatever the term is. But please, please, please, I just want an aroace character like me who simply is not interested in sex or romance.
And I want fandom to respect that. I admire the creations that fans make— the art, the animatics, the writing and the character analysis. And I want people to keep creating because creation is indeed a beautiful thing.
But I really would like people to treat aroace identities like they’re important. Like it’s more than just a spectrum to get wiggle room to wrangle in another ship.
#aromantism#aromantic#aroace#asexual#hazbin hotel#alastor#hazbin alastor#lgbtqia#alastor aroace#PLEASE i just want people to LEAVE HIM ALONE#“but it’s a spectrum” STOP USING IT AS AN EXCUSE#RESPECT AROACE PEOPLE WITH ZERO INTEREST IN ROMACE AND SEX#let us have this#we barely get anything as it is#but just to clarify i don’t believe that most people are being intentionally rude about it#nor am i discouraging people from creating fan content because it is FAN CONTENT and you can express yourself#i just would like people to understand a little more that#yes it is a spectrum and it covers an extremely wide range of orientations#yes ANYONE who identities as someone on the spectrum is completely valid#if you wanna argue with that i am showing you the door and kicking your sorry aphobic ass out#my point is that the spectrum is not a loophole. it is not an excuse and it is NOT okay to just use it willy nilly for your convenience
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Kissing on the lips. No. Why? I don’t get it. Truly? What is so enticing about putting your lips together? Don’t even get me started on tongues…
#aromantic#aro#arospec#aromanticism#aspec#aroace#aromantic spectrum#aromantic thoughts#that’s not a tag?!#i love kissing people on the forehead or whatever#but I will NEVER kiss someone on the lips
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happy asexual awareness week! I made a drawing of the flag to celebrate!
it's not much, but I felt like doing something haha! feel free to use it for whatever!
#you can use it without credit btw#I don't think I really deserve credit since it's nothing impressive lmao#I'd already be surprised if someone actually wanted to use it 💀#i did not cook lol#it was supposed to look like clouds but I dont think it does haha#asexual#ace#aroace#alloace#acespec#pride flag#ace flag#ace week#asexual pride#asexuality#asexual spectrum#asexual awareness week#asexual week#ace awareness#ace awareness week#aspec
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Post-Flashpoint comics have been trying to push the idea of Jason as a ladies man and each time I have just not been convinced I say this with all the love in my heart I will concede to the fact that Jason Todd has had sex maybe 3 times. If I’m being generous
#I am not even an aroace Jason truther the way a lot of my dc mutuals are I just don’t see sex/romance as something he necessarily would#seek out. He’s too allergic to vulnerability for that#I don’t see him as completely asexual but def on the spectrum somewhere and he’s got low libido#New earth Jason was too busy being insane to engage in romance and that’s exactly how it should be methinks#too busy scheming to hook up#Jason Todd#dc#also he should have no rizz when it comes to someone he actually likes. I think rhato made that canon actually
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When I tell you I fucking sobbed my eyes out.
#Brennan Lee Mulligan and Brian Murphy creating the most gutwrenchingly brutal depiction of ace tragedy#I spent my whole life thinking someone who wasnt on the spectrum couldn't really grasp what it's like growing up ace#and then these two (to my knowledge) het guys come through an utterly NAIL that feeling on the head#words can't describe the seen it made me feel#me going into this podcast: Oh? This has ace rep? Fun!#me now: hey please remove the knife from my sternum#god I have SO MANY thoughts#words and cringe fanart to follow#dimension 20#d20#fantasy high#fantasy high sophomore year#fhsy#riz gukgak#asexuality#aromantic#aroace
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Twicord my beloved <3 Using my redesigns this time!
Fun fact! This was basically my first real ship, basically ever! I was never too into shipping growing up and I was very confused about just how much discourse surrounded it and how absolutely feral some people got over their ships.
But Mlp was what would open me up to stuff like multishipping and crack shipping and how to enjoy a good rare pair- so at one point I just decided I was going to ship something I didn’t see anyone else really shipping. Thus! Twicord!!
At a certain point it stopped being a “joke” and this pairing has since owned my heart for the last decade <3
Sketch and flats under the cut because why not- I tried rendering this a bit differently and I like how it came out
#mlp g4#mlp#mlp fim#my little pony#my little pony friendship is magic#twicord#discolight#mlp redesign#mlp fanart#mlp shipping#i do like to examine how my headcanons around their relationship has changed over the years#because as someone who is aroace spec I claim both Twilight and Discord as being on the AroAce spectrum#idk there’s just something about the whole opposites attract thing and how Discord seems so ready and happy to mess with Twilight at-#ever given opportunity#but I would say that he also has this underlying respect for her- at least by trying to give her a confidence boost in his own “discord” wa#I think their dynamic can be really interesting and fun#crow.art#crowverse mlp
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Alastor Shipping Discourse is so weird to me, because, on one hand, I get where people are coming from when it comes to being against shipping him.
But on the other hand, I'm pretty sure that a good percentage of the artists I follow on Insta who do ship him with other characters are some flavor of aro and/or ace.
#“god I hate that these allosexuals/alloromantics are out here shipping Alastor”#Like excuse me...but what kinda circles have you been hanging around?#because from my point of view...the call is coming from inside the house lmao#genuine discoursers dni#I just found this funny as someone on the aroace spectrum who witnessed this discourse twice.#radiorose#(I don't ship the rest of these I'm just tagging them for the engagement)#radiostatic#radiohusk#radioapple#radiodust#hazbin alastor#hazbin hotel alastor#hazbin hotel#asexual#aromantic#nyanbles
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@pokenoire 's lgbtq+ headcanons for my childhood OTP gave me some ideas ^^
#satosere#Amourshipping#Queerplatonic!Amourshipping#Ash x Serena#Qpr!SatoSere#Queerplatonic!SatoSere#Or Romantic Amourshipping but with a little kick#Ash Ketchum#serena pokémon#Yes Ash is going to be my personal AroAce character I'll still ship romantically with someone as an exploration of the spectrum#I'd probably put him to the microlabel demiromantic or grey romantic but just aroace as an umbrella term is fine enough#Mostly because there were occasions where he wasn't feeling repulsed by signs of romance and was slightly interested in other characters#(as seen in the Indigo League for example or the Pokémon 2000s movie a little little bit or sth)#But he probably doesn't search for any romance in his life from his standpoint. If it happens it happens if it doesn't he doesn't care#because he doesn't think/plan anything in that direction)#But that's just my headcanons because I like projecting my own aroace experiences onto him#As for Serena#Ace headcanon because I am ace that's the only reason tbh xD#Included the bi Serena headcanon in the second part because it still seems kinda popular? Not as much as for other characters but I see it#more often than ace Serena lol#Also because I can see it
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I desperately need someone to explain aromantism to me. The Google definition is not enough. I know what it is, obviously, but for some reason, it is SO difficult for me to understand. Whenever I read about aromantism, I feel like I'm only reading about aroace's, not aro's.
Whenever I think of aromatic, I can't help but think negative about it, because it involves sexual attraction. I'm a fool when it comes to sexual attraction because I don't feel it, so I don't know what it's like. And I also suffer from sexual trauma..but I don't know if that's a valid reason. Throughout my life, I've seen sexual attraction as kind of a messy thing.
By thinking negatively about aromantism, I mean: Do aromatics only care about sex in a relationship(if they happen to be in one)? Or: Do aromantics just want sex, and no fully committed relationships? Those questions has been on my mind ever since I found out about aromantism.
And I know aromantism is a spectrum, the whole Aroace community is. But I'm talking about the iconic, original aromantic flag we all know and love.
I'm asking because I feel terrible for feeling like this about people of my own community, and I feel like I'm dehumanizing aro's because I can't understand how their sexual attraction works.
Don't worry, I will NEVER hate or be aro-phobic to anyone for the way they feel a certain attraction, best believe that.
If ANYONE, could answer my questions, I'll make you a nice dinner.
(please, it's stressing me out— I cry when I'm stressed out—)
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i personally don’t like shipping characters outside of their canon queer identities but can we talk about the double standard of it
you ship a gay man with a woman and people will riot
you ship an aroace with someone and everyone goes “erm actually it’s a spectrum 🤓☝️ so this is okay”
LIKE 😭😭 just say u don’t give a shit about queer identities that expand outside of romance and sex
#you are using the spectrum as an EXCUSE#AND ISTG IF SOMEONE ARGUES WITH ME IN THE REPLIES 😭#aromantic#asexual#aroace#lgbt safe space#aromanticism#asexuality#lgbt vent#lgbt discussion#aroace rep is important#lgbt representation#lgbt ships#aroace representation#representation matters
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Me reading a fic where the person had an identidy realization that they were in he aroace spectrum and now they were figuring themselves out(I finally found something that understood me and a romance I could relate to after all these years)
#love loses! you're on the aroace spectrum and you dont fucking know what you are but you're definitely on the spectrum#but it's so hard to explain bcuz how do youve never had a real crush on someone but also have had platonic feelings for someone#and dont want to do the romance thing but also still want to have a queer platonic relationship and do romance things?#YOU DONT#IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE TO ME BUT I JUST KNOW#ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I CANT JUST GET CRUSHES ON PEOPLE IT TAKES YEARS I'VE ONLY HAD 1 CRUSH THROUGHOUT MY LIFE#AND I JUST WANTWD TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM#I thought that was just me but the author was projecting and explained perfectly what i was going through#and ik i say “I cried” a lot when talking about something but i did actually cry#had to put my phone down bcuz it felt so nice to be understood#idk just venting and rambling lol#aroace#ace spectrum#gotta keep a journal on this bcuz i want to explain to people but it's so hard for even me to grasp#and i feel like they won't believe me anyways bcuz ive tried to himt st it but i just get weird looks#its annoying but it is what it is#aromantic#asexual#lgbt#queer#talking#rambling
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hiiii doctorrrr :3
its me again and i dint really have a question i just wanna say YAY!!!!! cause im also aroace and it makes me super happy seeing an aroace person in a relationship cause some folk seem to think aromanticism/asexuality is a strict monolith (or something like that) when its a huge spectrum
anyways yeah have a great day doc [ALSO I HOPE YOU DONT MIND ME SPAM-LIKING!!! WHOOPS…]
aha yes, unfortunately being aroace is something that tends to be very heavily stereotyped in many cases. not that other identities dont have stereotypes of course, they do, but i do think both asexuality and aromanticism can be very unknown and misunderstood to a lot of people (among other things, even within the aroace community itself in some specific cases) which also often leads to a lot of generalization about what these things are and what they can mean for each person.
regardless, all of that said, yes i am aroace and very happily in a relationship! even though that is not something every aro and/or ace person will want or even entertain the idea of, it is something that is possible!
#i could go on and on#but the point is#as with most things its a spectrum#and as with most identities you shouldnt assume you suddenly know every little thing about someones preferences or identity#just because you might know a label they use#or something like that#grins#and i dont mind the spam liking by the way#i enjoy it#aroace#asexual#aromantic#important#the doc is in
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