#as if you are entitled to my blog space and my followers' dashboards

[brothuania]

"Don't like without reblogging!!" Ok well now you're getting neither

[airbendersource]

hi, i don’t want to mean or anything bc i like ur blog a lot. It’s just I kind of wish you guys would decrease the rate of posts in ur queue bc i follow so many blogs however my dashboard gets a lot of atla posts due to ur account. So maybe instead of x number of posts per day you can do less. I know it’s a lot to ask but your blog is very heavy. I’m sorry for being a bother.

hi! thanks for the ask. our queue isn’t scheduled to post that frequently throughout the day - about every three hours or so over a 24 hour period. if you’re seeing our posts take up a lot of space on your dash, maybe try adjusting your dashboard settings. another reason for this could be that when we are tagged in a post, we immediately reblog it when we see it to prevent any duplicate posts when we can. there could’ve been a queued post and then a tagged post right after it.

of course, if that’s still too much content on your dash, you can always unfollow without any hard feelings from us! we created this source blog to help spread content for the series, and by extension, have that content on our follower’s dashboards consistently. that being said, we won’t be changing our queue’s schedule right now, but may keep that in mind later on; we do appreciate the opinion or any constructive criticism, but we’re entitled to run our blog as we would like to.

[blodreina-noumou]

Fandom Etiquette 101 - Top Five Rules For a Fun Fandom

When you first enter a fandom, there can be a lot of unspoken expectations you might not be aware of. Fandoms are self-policing and self-moderated, so certain “rules” form about what to post, how to tag, and how to be respectful to other people in your fandom, even if they don’t agree with you.

Whether or not you follow these unspoken “rules” is up to you - however, be aware that some people may unfollow you or block you if you aren’t willing to help keep the fandom a fun, low-stress place for everyone.

Here are some very basic things you can do to create and keep a fun fandom experience on tumblr:

1 - Tagging

Use tags liberally! Tumblr has a blacklist feature. This allows people to censor posts with disagreeable or triggering content from their dashboard. If you’re going to vent your negative feelings about a character, ship, or your show/movie/etc in general, be sure to tag it #antitopic. For example, if you wanted to complain about Disney, it would be polite to tag your post #antidisney or #anti disney. (My understanding is that tags which include spaces will appear in the search results for that topic - so ideally, you want to use tags without spaces. However, there is very little consistency about this across tumblr, so it’s your choice. I personally use both now, just to be safe.)

What do you not include in your tags on negative posts? The character or show. To go back to our previous example, complaints about Disney are better off not tagged as #disney. That way, people who just want to reblog positive content don’t have to wade through a lot of hate to get to it.

2 - Self-Censoring

In more extreme cases, it may be considered more polite to avoid mentioning the topic at all within your post. This is especially helpful if you’re talking directly about shippers or stans that irritate you. For example, if you are posting about a ship you don’t like, misspell the ship’s name - i.e. C/exa, Rey/o, De$tiel, etc. This also prevents hate from showing up in the search results for a topic. You can be salty and complain all you want, just try not to put it in the search results. Most people know to search anti posts if they want to rant.

Additionally, don’t be afraid to tell your followers a little bit about you in your blog’s header, or in an FAQ post. This lets people check out your blog and decide whether or not they want to follow you. If you know you’re going to be posting a lot of complaining or venting or criticism, make note of it somewhere people can see!

Finally, don’t add negative comments to gifsets, photosets, moodboards, or positivity-specific posts/meta. People work hard on those things because they love those characters, and it can be really disheartening to see negative comments in the notes. Make your own post! 

3 - Unfollow, Block, and Scroll

Someone in your fandom getting on your nerves, and you feel like you want to confront them about it? Hit that unfollow button instead! See a blog that you know will bother you if you interact with it? Block ‘em! See a post that you don’t agree with? Scroll on! You don’t need to fight every fight. Sometimes it’s just better to live and let live. If you really gotta vent, make your own post.

On the flipside, celebrate your favorites! Mutuals, blogs, characters, plots, and ships! Try to be as positive as you are negative, or at least take a little time away from salt-blogging to acknowledge the silver linings. Leave compliments in the tags or on the posts themselves! Follow the people your mutuals follow, if you also like them. Form little communities and you will be a much happier blogger.

4 - Anon Responsibly

Ideally, you never want to use the Anon function as a way to spread hate or negativity. If you disagree with someone, message them privately and see if they’re willing to talk with you. If they aren’t, including if they just don’t respond, respect that and move on. You aren’t entitled to anyone’s time, and no one else is entitled to yours. Be polite, seek out rational conversations, and don’t take the low road when you’re expressing your feelings - never resort to personal insults or putting someone down. In fandom, ultimately, we are discussing fictional topics, characters, and moments. Always prioritize real-life people over made-up ones. This includes sending any sort of hate or negativity to actors, creators, or writers, and also creators of fanfiction and fanart.

5 - The Golden Rule

The long and short of it is - your fandom is what you make it. You are in no way legally obligated to do any of this, and plenty of people don’t. But if you’re having trouble making friends, or feel like your fandom experience has gotten too stressful or toxic, there is one very simple thing you can do - treat others the way you want to be treated. Nobody likes to see people talk endless shit about their favorite things. Everyone likes talking about the things they love. Post accordingly, and you’ll be amazed and how fun this “blue hellsite” can be.

There are others for more specific situations, but these are the top five most common ways you can make your fandom a better place. Feel free to add anything else!

[harry-sussex]

One of my favorite neutral blogs has begun to criticize Meghan for everything she does and it’s so disheartening because I feel as if she can’t win in any situation, i guess she’s upset because Meghan keeps highlighting US charities and pages but I feel as an American Meghan fan that it’s great and she can highlight the US and the commonwealth. I’m stuck I’m not sure what to do any advice?

The only thing I can tell you is to do whatever you have to do to make this a positive space for yourself.  Everyone has their opinions that may or may not match with yours and you have to decide for yourself whether not an opposing opinion presenting itself on your dashboard from a blog you follow is worth the stress it brings.  I’ve unfollowed many of my former favorite blogs because I can’t handle the way they address things, but they stop being my favorites after a while because of that.  If it bothers you, then unfollow and block liberally.  This is supposed to be a positive space curated to your own interests and if you find that it’s not because of a handful of blogs, then maybe that’s the way to go.  It’s not personal and it shouldn’t be - it’s the nature of online communication.  You are as entitled to your opinion as anyone else is - nobody’s is correct or incorrect - you just have to decide whether you can deal with reading something that disheartens you.  Hope that helps, my love!

[dirkxcaliborn]

unpopular opinion, but I... hate that whole "reblog art don't like it" push that's been going on semi recently. Like... how fucking stupid do you think your followers are to think they don't know reblogs spread art more than likes? How entitled do you feel to space on their blog & followers' dashboards that you feel the need to guilt trip them into reblogging your art?? Like idk it might just be me but I like or reblog things for a reason, and I don't need anyone patronizing me like "uumm sweetie don't you know you /should/ reblog it?" It's my blog, and I choose what to put on it. If you're gonna really bitch about how I liked your post instead of reblogging it, then fine! I'm not going to let you guilt me into reblogging, but if you hate my likes so much, I won't give you those either.

[phati-sari]

I’ve been thinking a lot lately, and I have come to a decision.

I’m going to stop creating things for fandom.

I’m still going to be here, mostly on ranjha I think, and the fandom blogs aren’t going away, but I think my time as a person who creates things for fandom is over.

I’m not making a post so people can send me messages telling me how much they love or appreciate or value me. I’m writing because I need to write, and because I have no one in ‘real’ life to share this sort of thing with. It’s why the blogs exist in the first place. I would actually prefer no messages, if that’s okay with everyone.

My decision isn’t about the anon asks and accusations. Not really.

I’ve given 6-8 hours a day, every single day, to fandom for a very long time. It’s time for me to do something else.

I created this blog after my therapist suggested it -- IPKKND was the only thing that made sense at that time and she thought it would be a good idea to write about it because I love writing.

I started writing fanfiction because it’s how I channel my love for these kinds of things.

I started writing the analysis and recaps because my head was so full of the connections and loops and hidden meanings that I had to get them on paper. I was writing them in a Word document long before I published anything, and at one point was about seventy episodes ahead of what anyone could read, but I have come to understand that I come across on this blog differently to how I think I do when it comes to the recaps.

The anon who said I act like I invented recaps might not have been accurate in their words, but maybe they were accurate in their sentiment. Maybe I do run about thinking that I created something I didn’t actually create. If I have ever made you feel like that, I’m sorry.

I never wanted to be a divisive element. I never wanted to be a person who created drama or did things that made other people hurt and upset. Somehow, I’ve ended up being exactly that person. The person who vague-posts and the person who comes across as an entitled bitch. Again, I’m sorry.

There’s always going to be negativity and drama and fandoms at each other’s throats. But it was never my intention to be a focal point for any of it, to create a situation where anyone thought I was out to get them. I wanted the exact opposite and I thought I was doing a good job of making sure that no one used my space to spread negativity.

I could have never anticipated that this blog would have the following it does. It still blows my mind. I’m just a person with a laptop who watched a show and became obsessed with it. I never went out of my way to tell people what to think or how to interpret the show but years of answering asks have established me as some kind of gate-keeper. So I would like to make it clear that my interpretations were not the only interpretations, and they were not any more correct than anyone else’s. My view was always that if someone came into my askbox and asked for my opinion, they would understand that that’s exactly what they were getting -- an opinion.

But I think I did all wrong. And for that, I’m truly sorry. 

I have a couple of gifsets in my drafts, and a few chapters of Charade, so I might post them in the next week or so. After that, I’ll probably just be reblogging some of my friends or something, if I do anything at all.

Thank you for clicking the little follow button. Sorry it’s been such a crappy experience. But I won’t be dragging down your dashboards and tags for much longer :)

[displeasedmarshmallow]

Rant Ahead - Please Feel Free To Scroll Past

Yesterday I witnessed something on a friend's blog and, for some reason it's still bothering me and I just wanted to get some things off my chest. I never do this kind of thing, so my apologies in advance. Seriously, just start scrolling. :) A dear friend got an anon comment about the content of her blog. You see this friend occasionally blogs about more than one thing that brings her happiness and that apparently makes this follower's dash a LIVING HELL SO PLEASE STOP BLOGGING ABOUT ANYTHING THAT'S NOT KPOP. Now, this broke my heart. Obviously: A) Follower person's scrolling finger was lost in a tragic thresher incident. *deep sadness* B) Follower person has lost the ability to embrace the enthusiasm of those around them and can not explore new topics in this wacky crazy world. C) Follower person is unaware that they are a GUEST in someone else's personal, creative space and they are NOT in a position to tell people what they can and can not post. What level of self entitlement have you reached when you can reach out to someone that you follow and tell them that their content is inconveniencing your dashboard? Someone's blog is their personal, creative domain. I (like many people I think) do this because I like talking about things that interest me. That make me happy and amuse me. The fact that I have found two and a half people on this crazy internet that occasionally giggle at my comments THRILLS ME. But at the end of the day, I'm really doing this for me and meeting people in the process is a huge bonus! But it's still my little creative corner. You don't see me going over to Fox News and telling them to pull their head out of their ass and stop reporting fabricated bullshit and start reporting actual news because it is inconveniencing my brain cells, do you? NO. I am a grown ass woman and I can change the channel because they can report whatever garbage they want. It's their channel. Just like this is my blog and if I decide tomorrow that Yoongi's perfection is too tedious and I want to make this blog about my fantasy hairstyles for Trump's impending impeachment trial I WILL DO JUST THAT. You can unfollow if you like. (Please don't unfollow - I'll make that a side blog - I love my 2 and 1/2 followers) Sorry for the rant. I doubt you're still reading. Apparently I have feelings about trying to tell people what to do in their own personal creative space. Sorry for taking up your space. I love both and a half of you.