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pisshandkerchief · 10 months ago

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the obvious double standard with which we as a society treat amab nonbinary people and trans women who don't fit the level of feminity that they're expected to is actually disgusting.

#I see it every day in the way my gm (and closest friend at work) is constantly misgendered without anyone apologizing #but everyone uses the correct pronouns for me and quickly corrects themselves if they mess up.#I see it in the way my nonbinary dad #couldn't be friends with women in our old homeschool group #without rumors being constantly spread that they were just trying to get in the women's pants.#I see it in the way my mom was disgusted and disturbed by discovering my dad's early forays into crossdressing #but is proud of me for being my authentic self.#I see it in the way my dad is still scared to wear a skirt despite frequently expressing a desire to #for fear of being seen as “an ugly man in a dress".#I see it in the way my theatre director is constantly called they or he despite clearly having she/her pronouns on her email.#I see it in the way my mom refuses to use the correct pronouns for my dad even though they are out to her #and constantly “forgets” my gm's pronouns even though I've used they/them for them for months.#deep down I know if I was born with a penis my mom would think of my transness much differently.#when “women” embrace masculinity they are seen as empowered at best and at worst as victims of the patriarchy.#confused little girls who don't know any better.#when “men” embrace feminity they are seen as predators. traps. manipulative freaks.#I see it every day. It's so deeply ingrained in our society it seems like there's no escaping it.

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aeolianblues · 4 months ago

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was kinda thinking about this when I saw Renee Rapp live recently-- I didn't know her visual vibe, I'd heard a few songs here and there but I hadn't really *seen* her, and her attire at Osheaga was really casual, a jersey (baseball/basketball?) and slacks. And that was so amazing! I couldn't help thinking, the work Billie Eilish has done for how women in pop music are allowed to dress is incredible. Seeing her up there all comfortable you just know that Billie walked in her oversized tops so that Renee in her slacks could run; Billie walked through all the critcisms about how she dressed slobbily and having to assert that she didn't owe anyone a display of skin, so that Renee could be comfortable and unquestioned running up and down the catwalk in front of 10,000 people. How iconic.

And I don't think we even realised at the time how much something as simple as letting Billie dress the way she as a (then-) 17-year-old teenager dressed, could end up meaning for a future generation of women in music.

Obviously there is still way to go, there were weirdos complaining about how 'plain' Dua Lipa's Glastonbury outfit was this year (in 2024!!), l have to ask, are you at Paris Fashion Week?? She is the musical HEADLINER of an entire day of music at one of the biggest music festivals in the world, and you can't grant her the space to exist as an artist, you have to moan about her dress not being excitingly revealing enough. There's work to do, it's still dismal out there. But the space Billie Eilish has created for a most ordinarily-dressed woman popstar is still heartening.

#music #rambling away; I'll log off #man. I remember how on the other hand when I was going to my first ever gig my guitar teacher said to me #notice how plainly he's dressed? No frills. His music speaks for himself.#(The musician in question was Slash and apart from his very recognisable hat and sunglasses; he was wearing a plain white t-shirt with a #minnie mouse graphic print in the centre. I think sometimes about how not even women in rock music are afforded that.#Like this is a thing across genres #With the exception of Franz Ferdinand for whom Alex has actually said in interviews that they treated FF gigs as nights out #and so dressed like they'd be dressed for a club night out--#most other guy bands are like *picked a tee off the floor*#whereas the girls in bands I've seen-- even literally just local musicians-- the girls in our local rock bands feel compelled to #dress like it's graduation day #Like we had this really cool local band-- singer's a girl in second year of uni #keeping up with the fact that they were playing like RHCP and Muse covers on stage; fast stuff--#she was up there in a delicate dress and heels and stomping across stage n all #and the rest of her band; dudes; were quite comfortable in their t-shirts #like of course she made a choice herself and was more than capable of stomping in heels--I mean I've seen Phoebe from Lambrini Girls #JUMP OFF a 5-ft platform stage while wearing 3-inch block heels. And in a party dress!#But then again Lambrini Girls genuinely are freaks of nature and I envy anyone who's going to see them open for Amyl & the Sniffers rn #bc that's an EXPLOSIVE combo. Nonetheless. I was saying.#Part of it certainly comes from a normalisation of just superhuman strength; balance + praying there's no malfunction with your skirt #which DOES happen at rock shows more frequently than you'd imagine. It's just if you're in a good crowd they'll pretend they saw nothing #but it's certainly more practical to gig in sneakers and trousers lol. From experience!#billie eilish #renee rapp #women in music #pop music #dua lipa #Also like Billies doing it for the pop lesbians #lesbian

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butchnavi · 9 months ago

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good GOD can we stop gendering everything. I swear some of y'all just took the futch scale and decided to run with it as gender roles 2.0 (yassified edition)

#like use whatever labels you want for yourself and your communities idc! i love femmes i love butches im happy for you #my issue as always comes when yall start imposing those labels on anyone and everyone unsolicited #and ESPECIALLY when you tear apart other people for not being femme/butch enough #me personally i dislike both those labels because i know i will never be enough for them even if i try #plus i dont see the correlation between how a certain article of clothing or way of wearing my hair makes me more masculine or feminine #for ME that is. like if a skirt/kurti makes you feel more femme thats great. but that doesn't mean it has to universally be feminine #and telling me im femme because i like skirts is just reinforcing a universal gender to a piece of clothing #me personally i can't wear pants cause they're uncomfortable #anyway tangent aside. those “this is the most butch woman twitter can handle” posts were funny at first #but then they devolved into “HAHA twitter thinks girl with long hair is butch they don't know what a real butch is”#which is so annoying. what makes you butch. who gets to decide that #there is a problem when characters who express their butchness a certain way canonically get miscasted with traditionally femme stuff #and i get that butchphobia is very real #but also when that's not the case just let people express themselves man. you don't have to be dragging everyone all the time #liveblogging.pdf

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aforgottenthing-in-space · 1 year ago

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Ok so. Miles Edgeworth is trans. Gregory was definitely a trans affirming father so when Miles told him he was like “sure son. What name do you want to go by?”

And so all Manfred von Karma knew was that Gregory Edgeworth had a son. When he gains custody of Miles, he just. Does not realize that the kid he’s now in charge of is a trans boy. (Maybe Miles already had a name change. Idk. Somehow legal name wise, von Karma just. Does Not realize.)

So Miles grows up being raised as a boy and von Karma just. Doesn’t realize. Until puberty begins.

And he notices something, that Miles isn’t experiencing puberty the way he would have expected and he’s like hmmm. I am not sure what is happening.

And then like preteen Miles, incredibly nervous, comes to him and he’s like, “excuse me, Mr. von Karma, sir, but would I be able to start puberty blockers please?”

And von Karma’s just like “WHAT!”

He’s so caught off guard and so used to thinking of Miles as “Gregory Edgeworth’s pathetic son” that he just… kinda lets Miles medically transition bc he’s so caught off guard by the realization.

And for his entire life, Miles is like. Unable to wrap his head around von Karma being surprisingly trans accepting???

#especially because von karma was decidedly NOT accepting of the fact that miles is gay #for the rest of miles’ life he is forever confused about this. and he never realizes that von karma just. didn’t know he adopted a trans kid #in my headcanon franziska is also trans and basically i think that like. von karma was so shooketh by having one trans kid in the house #that he was like. I. I. I don’t know what to do #and also Franziska would TOTALLY weaponize the fact that miles had transitioned without comment #‘why does miles edgeworth get to but I don’t??’#also also. Manfred von karma probably has some toxic ideas about what it means to be a man. that were definitely taken to heart by miles #especially bc he wanted to prove himself as being ‘valid’ in the eyes of bin karma #I like to think that as he let go of the other ideas von karma taught him he also let go of this ideal and let himself embrace #less ‘traditionally manly’ things #this is the ‘not traditionally masculine transmasc’ in me coming through #I feel like that’s such a specific thing to work through when it comes to reconciling masculinity ESPECIALLY if you’re someone who’s #felt like they’ve had to fight to be accepted for it #wow. that got actually serious on my stupid lil post.#anyway miles as of chief prosecutor wear jewelry and makeup and maybe sometimes skirts #also fun like trans kid headcanon: Phoenix comes out during the year he miles and Larry were best friends and his mom went to Gregory #for advice about how to support your trans son :)#ace attorney #miles edgeworth #phoenix wright ace attorney #manfred von karma #trans miles edgeworth #miles edgeworth is trans dammit #and so is Phoenix Wright #Phoenix Wright #mention #gregory edgeworth #franziska von karma #tw transphobia #like. Hinted but tagging just in case

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spyres · 3 months ago

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huh......

#bwark #anipoke lb #anipoke is so fucking baffling #it'll be pretty progressive by having brock do what's considered to be traditionally feminine household chores like cooking and sewing #and it's never treated as a joke. it's a strong point of his character to show how much he cares for his siblings despite he desire to #adventure out #and then it'll have some transmisogynistic episodes where the entire joke is ''haha look at ash wearing a dress''#and then it'll have moments like this where this minor character is clearly an effeminate gay man who even wears a skirt and make up #but he's not the butt of any joke. he's just a normal guy with an interesting character quirk #the main characters treat him the same as everybody else #can they make up their mind when it comes to handling gender nonconformity. preferrably in the Not transmisogynistic direction #(not saying brock or ash are gnc but like. that sort of thing in general ya know?)

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artanogon · 3 months ago

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thinking more about being trans

#because i want the voice drop of testosterone because training my voice has not been enough for me. i want some of the body shifts with it #and i want top surgery at some point #half because aesthetics + dysphoria and half bc they're just inconvenient #but i dont want to be a “man”#i dont want the capacity to grow a beard or a bunch of hair and have to shave all the time to keep up my looks the way i want #i dont want to “pass” the way some people do #i dont want bottom surgery for sure and i don't have any desire to have a dick or anything. ideally i would be like a doll with no features #i certainly have no plans to stop dressing feminine #i like being my androgynous twink self #and theres certainly a lot of aspects of femininity i do enjoy #jewelry makeup skirts certain aestheitcs long hair etc #i just want to be able to wear those things in a way that i am no longer a woman but a feminine man instead #i want to be one of those weird 80s twinks who would steal your boyfriend while wearing your dress and looking better in it #or like half the men you see in regency shows with the long hair/fine features/gentle manner etc #idk. i dont want to be a man. i genuinely feel like im putting on the wrong skin saying im a transman #genderqueer/agender is the closest i think ill ever find #but god i just wish id been born a man and then had the freedom to explore looking like a girl #little fucked up freak femboy stuck in some body that doesn't feel like its mine #maybe going on t will help me feel comfortable with growing out my hair again tho #idk. spitballing #it doesnt even matter that much rn. i have to delay my t appointment because of other medical shit #but man are there a lot of thoughts up here that will never in any way make sense to most people or be accepted by greater society

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blujayonthewing · 5 months ago

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relatives you barely talk to will extrapolate your entire personality out of a single anecdote from your childhood that they are remembering wrong

#double checked with my aunt how old I was when I was the flower girl in her wedding #which she keeps inexplicably telling everyone I was bashful and nervous to 'wear a dress for the first time'#I was TEN #lol and also lmao?? what an insane thing to just invent inside your own head. ma'am what are you TALKING about #I can vividly remember the dark blue velvet dress I wore at a big y2k new year's eve party (nine and a half)#there are jcpenny portraits of me in little dresses before then #I wore sundresses? a lot??#there is a ZERO percent chance I would have been Weird about Wearing A Dress (for the first time ever owo!!!) in a WEDDING at TEN.#lady you made that up!! what are you TALKING about!!!#like not that I was never a tomboy or never had a preference for shorts/ pants over dresses/ skirts or Girly Things™ in general #but at MOST maybe I was like ':P' about it? I honestly can't remember but it absolutely was not my first time ever WEARING a dress sgdjkfshs #anyway now she still like... weirdly ribs me like 'oohoho look who's wearing A DRESS' if I wear a dress around her #yeah man I do that sometimes. it's not unusual actually. you know nothing about me #about me

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againaweasel · 19 days ago

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Modern top/bottom discourse is just the Pederasty discourse from 500 BC repackaged without the glaring (and disturbing) age differences.

This is what Plato would have wanted

#no serious Plato has a dialogue where he's like obviously Patriculous was the erastes I said what I said #but any person who thinks it make any of the HETEROSEXUAL is a fucking moron #as is anyone who thinks it's about whether Sirius Black wears skirts or eyeliner #let the man wear skirts you fucking cowards

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core-augur · 29 days ago

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Yeah, suuuure.....

#breaking news: man who wears a skirt that looks suspiciously like his ex is definitely over his ex #mtg #magic the gathering #tezzeret #doodle #my art #jintezz #yes i do chibi art sometimes

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teecupangel · 8 months ago

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Sorry if this is random and off topic, but what pronouns do you use? I was talking about you with a friend (we both follow your blog) and I was like "yes, they're great- she? He???" And now we're stuck lol sorry again

I usually use she/her or they/them. :)

#me and my best friend (who also go for she/her)#call each other 'dude' all the time #so almost all of my college friends have called me dude #and the occasional 'bro' and 'my man'#many times before #the funny thing is that i usually wear skirts when i go out XD #so i won't be offended if you've called me he/him before #i just assume it's the same vibe as being called dude #oh and the alchemist that sometimes pop in this blog uses they/them #if anyone is curious

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loki-zen · 11 months ago

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part of the reason i find it interesting to construct this hypothetical fictional sexist matriarchal raider culture is that I’m fascinated with the idea of specifically feminine equivalents to emasculation and machismo

#they’re definitely a warriors wear skirts culture like the romans #Shrike (who is Listening and Learning or attempting to) would be all #like imagine her reacting to the idea of men fighting in *trousers* like it’s the way we habitually dress action movie women #that’s a garment for showing off a man’s assets IYKWIM #to her

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jonathanbyersphd · 9 months ago

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SORRY I AM THINKING ABOUT NANCY SAYING COPY/PASTE FOR HER AND JONATHAN'S DAUGHTER AGAIN AND IIIII

#Jonathan of course is like this is fine actually #I'm having BIG FEELINGS about their future again #ALEXA PLAY FOREVER BY NOAH KAHAN #also just big feeling about Jordan Byers in general like that's my baby #certified weird girl but in different ways than her weird parents #my little cinematographer who “accidentally” brings home a stray dog at nine #and then conveniently cons her parents into letting her keep it #BECAUSE SHE'S HER FATHER'S DAUGHTER #but ALSO she's getting into trouble for breaking dress code rules #her NYC HS has uniforms and she thinks the skirt is itchy #and then she revolts so they can wear pants #BECAUSE SHE'S HER MOTHER'S DAUGHTER #She made Jonathan take her to the Eras Tour nevermind that she's 24 #she wanted the good “my dad works for Rolling Stone” seats #little nepo baby #crazier still HE WENT HAPPILY because he loves seeing his girls happy #man wore ear protection for everything expect the folklore/evermore sets #UGH GIRL DAD JONATHAN BYERS MY BELOVED #anyways i'm rambling #... pls ask me questions about the jancy children I BEG #my favorite OCs #peace and love Maggie #jancy #jonathan byers #nancy wheeler #Jordan Byers #my ocs #jancy kids #future verse

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princessbunniedoll · 2 months ago

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hmm

#i jus think its Funny how 🤨#y’all didn’t hate an ‘aesthetic’ until the coquette aesthetic came along #n a lot of y’all might be mad by this but i Never Gave A Fuck #once that aesthetic came along all of a sudden instead of it just letting girls be girls without bein afraid to be that way n instwad #always worried about not appearing like ‘other girls’ in order to appeal to men #the coquette aethetic is a return to womanhood if u will #its not infantalising or sexist or demoralisng #its just girls being girls #the way they wanna be #so what if i wanna wear pink bows in m’hair?#so what if i see bunnies bein’ sillie on the internet n think to m’seld #bcuz that izzz so me #if u get it u get it #if u don’t u don’t #lik .#when the earth girl aesthetic was going crazy y’all didn’t say nothing about it capitalising off of indigenous/afro indigenous cultures even #tho it did #when ‘90s model was back in #y’all didn’t assume every girl who dressed n acted in that way was doin’ hard drugs n starvin herself did u?#so why when i want to wear short skirts n pink n layers of lipgloss n i wanna smell like a faerie that suddenly means #m jus ‘trying to submit myself to men’ n ‘infantilising myself for p——s’ or not being a feminist #like no.#this was never abt men n it never will be #if a man happens to compliment me wearing this certain aesthetic thanks i guess but its not for him #never was #this was for me #this IS for me #the little girl who adored being called princess by her mummy n papi #who had a tiara collection that gathered dust and disuse as the years went on.#who felt the need to lie about her favourite colour being pink after a table of her classmates erupted in laughter at that revelation.

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bucephaly · 2 months ago

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I keep seeing posts of people saying that a term transphobes stole and are using incorrectly to be transphobes is a Horrible Transphobic Term and Anyone who uses it is transphobic and it's Not Real and Entirely Not True when it's literally an actual anthropological term that has studies about it and is actually very useful for Everyone to think about, cis and trans, and be critical of. I hate seeing people respond to dumb hate by entirely writing off everything even remotely connected to the twisted shit bigots use when the shit the bigots are stealing and twisting is still like... a thing?

#how are assigned genders a thing but 'i was raised as a girl and im trans' isnt ?#like thats what socialization is. i was raised as my assigned gender #its not something that i Am. im not Female Socialized. i was [past tense] raised as a girl #and so raised with certain biases that i cant even put into words cuz they are subtle. but still are something i am learning to be watchful #of and shit?#but guess what? i have spent more of my conscious life being socialized as a man since i came out at 14.#socialization is literally just the way others treat you based on perceived social categories like gender #and obviously not everyone was socialized the same ?? its not smth that applies to everyone at all ??#so if it doesnt apply to you then just... dont use it!#but it can be useful for some people sometimes #and its useful for cis people too!!#a cis woman can remind herself that she was raised encouraged to take up less space and so move to counteract that #like fuck idk. i see posts like 'im on the train and a family is across from me #and the little boys are playing and shit but the little girl is being told 'you cant sit like that because youre wearing a skirt'#so she isnt able to play as roudy as her brothers because shes wearing a skirt and certain 'manners' comes with that“#like. THATS socialization its just a bunch of little stuff like that #a cis man can remind himself that he is allowed to express emotions and be vulnerable even after being raised being told that #'boys dont cry' etc like. idk its a very subtle thing and its just messy and cultural and social #and not easy to describe or study #but there are studies of adult participants asked to play with toddlers #in a room of toys. and they encourage toddlers in dresses to play with dolls and toddlers in overalls to play with trucks #and were told afterwards that the toddlers names and clothing was 'switched'#so these adults who thought they were so open minded realized how biased they still were etc etc etc #its super super subtle shit #'i was bullied for being queer' does not mean you were never socialized ? like. that in itself is socialization #and socialization is a term useful for more than just gender and shit id say. like i was sorta raised in a certain culture #and thats the socialization im accustomed to. and so now as i reconnect to a different culture and enter these social spaces #im.learning a different way to present and go about things #idk idk idk i definitely do not agree with calling a random trans person socialized as their assigned gender or anything #i dont make assumptions about the way others have been raised but like. stop letting bigots poison actual real terms please.

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artnshitposts · 11 months ago

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"oh you wanna be a femboy? you're probably trans and haven't realized it"

I am going to hit you with a stick oh my fucking god have we not learned anything about trying to force people into boxes, let me be a feminine guy in peace

#femboy #trans #idk man I'm just sick of people telling me this #no im not an egg #no im not trans #im just a guy who likes wearing skirts and stuff #ironically wearing stuff like that makes me even more secure in my masculinity

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shmowder · 2 months ago

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why in gods green earth did I just buy a full lingerie set

#It looked breathtaking that's why literally the most gorgeous babydoll dress with a little bow and ruffle skirt #but also I have nothing and no one so who tf am I gonna be wearing it for? I literally have zero reason to get it #BUT GODDAMN #I'm just gonna wear it and walk around my room once a blue moon #like an npc #or maybe steal a page from Eva's book and start wearing it full time as my normal everyday fit #I still remember you early access Eva and your pink silk babydoll lingerie dress #♧other #fuck am I gonna look hot in it ughhhh foshdisjd it's so pretty and AAAAA i want it #I wanna just stare in the mirror and be impressed #not gonna be young forever might as well milk those years for their worth you feel me #controversial but I dislike Victoria's secret stuff #looks ugly and tacky to me #But I also only like elegant lingerie so it could be me having the taste of an old fart and going “these damn youngsters!”#old man yells at clouds style #I also don't believe in wearing bras #I say let it hang!!#but that's a whole other conversation

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