#anyway- it’s the misogyny for me as i always say.

[essence-inked]

Yep, this. Misandry is absolutely a thing, and it's not okay to swing past the "people from this group hurt me" territory into "everyone from this group is bad" rhetoric. As a very quick aside, this changes when the status as a member of the group is a choice you can make, and that choice involves hurting people - e.g., being a billionaire, being a Trump supporter, etc.. There's an argument there for being a victim of the harmful movement in an of itself (such as Trump supporters who exist in environments that make it nigh-impossible to even understand why said Trump supporting is bad), though my general stance is that of course there's always an explanation for how people got to where they are, but that doesn't excuse you from the responsibility of being a shitty person. If you choose to do something harmful, that's still on you, and you are still responsible for your actions, and one of the consequences of those actions is that people will not like you on account of you being a massive fucking asshole.

Anyways, I digress, just wanted that out of the way.

The idea that women are at fault for the alt-right radicalization of men is really fucked up, because it shouldn't be the job of a group of people who've been oppressed and hurt to make the discussion of that palatable and preceded by reassurances for the privileged group who has to hear about it now. Does that make it okay to say "kill all men"? Absolutely fucking not. But as OP said, it seems like a lot of the people putting this responsibility on women are taking issue with open discussion of sexual harassment and assault, with women being increasingly unwilling to put up with misogyny, and with women calling out gender inequality when they see it.

This shifting of blame sounds disturbingly similar to rhetoric like "she rejected me harshly, so it's okay for me to harass her," or "it's her fault she was raped for dressing like that in the first place."

No matter the circumstances, you don't get to offload the fault for your actions onto other people. This applies even when the other people in question are doing wildly unreasonably things (e.g., actual for real misandry). You are still responsible for your own choices regardless of what other people do, and it especially isn't the job of the people you hurt to take that burden from you.

Nooo mutual don’t put that “men fall down the alt-right pipeline bc women/feminists are too mean” post on my dash nooo mutual don’t try to say women need to be nicer when dealing with misogynistic men nooo mutual nooo

[mytearsbuckochet]

What's your most hated Bummy scene?? I'll tell you mine. It has to be the kiss in the hospital lobby and buck getting outed because of his soot covered mouth. Never hated a 911 episode more than that. I love Buck. They just made a mockery out of him by that scene.

Where do I even start.. Couldn't agree more about the soot scene, although I'm more angry at the writers about that one than I am at Tommy, given how important it was to Buck that he came out to Eddie and Maddie on his own terms and how much weight he gave those interactions I feel like even though that one was supposed to be a cute little "hehe look this is very Buck coded", it fell short in that I would've liked everyone else at the 118 to find out in a more heartfelt way ya know??

In terms of my least favourite(s), the whole arc with billy boils was a very interesting play by the writers in that it highlighted the differences between Eddie and Tommy in a meaningful way. On one hand, Eddie, who has presumably been with Buck in the hospital the whole time he was being treated for his boils, is used to Buck's hyperfixations and Wiki deep dives, and finds them wholesome and cute. I reblogged a post a little bit ago where Buck told Maddie about how her and Chim always finish each others sentences and that theyre basically already dating, and then contrasted with how Eddie was finishing Buck's sentences in that scene. Buddie fanatic aside (I will admit im obsessed with these two idiots), THIS is the kind of domesticity I've always wanted for Buck's partners, where they acknowledge and love those little moments that he has.

Now lets go ahead and look at Tommy's side of this whole thing: Tommy's reaction to seeing the boils + how he treated and viewed Buck's obsession as exactly that, an obsession + the graveyard scene??? You can break it down into "oh well Buddie have known eachother since s2, Bummy have been together 6 months", but from my perspective the fact that Buck didn't even realise Tommy didn't like women until their 6 month anniversary (???) just goes to show that they don't really know that much about one another. Tommy was completely right in the breakup scene; he was definitely not Buck's last, and the poor guy is definitely in need of some self exploration (#letbuckfuck) before I'd be happy to see Buddie honestly (and thats not even considering the work that needs to be done on Eddie, my guy is going through it rn with Chris). Anyway; I just read this amazing fic by playinginthundestorms (on ao3) and I think the way they described Tommy (slightly Tommy bashing), was overall how I imagine he sees Buck. It never really felt like Tommy was fond of these little things Buck does in the way that Eddie (and the rest of the 118) are, more seeing him as childish or juvenile as the fic described. And it makes sense, tommy is older than Buck. A whole other can of worms and probably the icing on the cake for me was the Abby debacle, the misogyny really showed??? like man you have not changed since Hen my lord. Calling Abby out for running off with some "himbo half her age" was wild considering thats what he is currently doing with Buck? Especially with all the shit she had to go through with her mum at the time? Like what on earth is your excuse Temu? Anyway, to cut a long rant short, I actually have given you like 50 reasons, but i definitely think that Tommy was a well placed plot device and it was obvious from the start. Also, ABC could've chosen ANYONE to be Buck's first experience with a man and they were like yep lets use the racist homophobe from Chim and Hen begins cos why not?! I probably would've had a far less negative opinion of him if he was a fresh character, and I think that's on purpose, I think it would be really interesting if they go down the road of hen and chim sharing their experiences with Tommy now that they've broken up, and that they didn't say anything cos they just wanted Buck to be happy. Definitely after that heartfelt scene with Hen especially, that I didn't get cos of that bloody soot scene.

[rebelcliche-archive2]

can someone explain to me why people love to claim that their muse is “bisexual” but try their damnedest to exclusively ship them with the same sex if they’re a male muse, but shipped with the opposite sex if female. at that point you might as well make your male muse gay and your female muse straight. and i know that you can have preferences and lean more so one way than the other, but that’s not what i’m talking about. i’m talking about people who claim to have a bi muse but treat them as anything but. like, are y’all…….allergic???? do you hate female muses THAT badly???? bc people are more than happy to ship with a muse with a dick, but let them have a vagina and y’all shy away. and the amount of “bi” muses i’ve seen who LOVE to smut if their partner’s muse has a dick but won’t touch the smut if their partner’s muse has a vagina is WILD.

it’s a disservice to bi people everywhere to claim to have bi muses but treat them as if they’re gay or straight. and note i’m talking about biSEXUALS, not biROMANTICS. bc i’ve seen plenty of people not mind claiming that their muse is bisexual but only in the romance sense, never sexually.

and don’t even get me STARTED on people who shy away from shipping with muses who aren’t cis-gendered…

[separatist-apologist]

Feyre: Rhysand is my mate and I'm telling you this to your face.

Also Feyre: If you try and break my mating bond, I'm going to ruin your life.

Also Feyre: If you drag me back to Spring against my will, I'll destroy everything you love.

Tamlin: Break her mating bond so I can drag her back to Spring and we can start over.

Also Tamlin: I can't believe you destroyed everything I love and ruined my life!

[contagious-watermelon]

if i hear one more person unironically identifying themself as afab or amab I'm gonna start biting

[moreclaypigeons]

No like seriously ARE we ready to talk about the misogyny in fandom spaces

[againwiththeturtles]

katara spends the whole show searching for acknowledgements of her grief from others to get closure of some kind, or to gain a sliver of peace. but it never sticks. talking about it doesn't ease the pain. time didn't ease the pain. action doesn't ease the pain. the war is still going and the wound is still growing, so of course she still hurts. her story doesn't end with her resolving that pain, but she does accept that she's always going to be angry and sad, and the empty space where her mother was will always be there. and of course it will. of course it will. but she's strong enough to always be aware of that emptiness, and to stop trying to fill it in.

[shimenchus]

it's so telling when someone says radical feminism is "white woman shit" and you bring up the fact that in many places such as africa or asia, the only feminism that prominently exists is radical feminism, and for those places it's just considered regular feminism that you get told those women live in places that aren't progressive enough for them to understand their actions properly. to say these women are too dumb to realize that their beliefs are "bad" simply because they don't align with western mainstream liberal feminism is rooted in xenophobia and racism, not to mention a lack of understanding of the struggles and violence women from these countries regularly go through, which can range anywhere from fgm to men rubbing and wiping their cum on the back of women's clothes in trains. but of course, as usual, there's no intelligent response to this so you just end up getting blocked or get rape wished on you.

[littencloud9]

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[bookwyrminspiration]

hits shannon with my kills you laser

[starlooove]

So which is it? Did Bruce treat everyone like that or was he only super mean to Steph bc of the writers? Like I’m tired of the excuses being made, if it was one and done whatever but the way Bruce treated steph did impact her story and then changing stephs personality to golden retriever blond doesn’t change that at all lmao

[youssefguedira]

the problem with me and nolan is that i ALMOST love a lot of his movies (that ive seen) except in almost every one there's 1 glaring aspect that i hate (it's usually misogyny) that makes it hard to like the rest of the movie

[mrgaretcarter]

I need a pretty significant degree of commonality (both subjective and objective) between characters to ship them and I think that's why it's so hard to find f/f ships that draw me in. It's like people making media want to create the polarity that would usually be there through gender by making these women so starkly different that I just become unable to connect.

[nowendil]

thinking about. womanhood again

[tarotmantic]

in a constant battle against internalised racism and fatphobia i don’t get gender envy from skinny white men i don’t get gender envy from skinny white men i don’t ge-