#anyone who starts the 'queer is a slur' shit on my post WILL be blocked i will say now

[drop-dead-dropout]

NEW USERNAME local-queer-disappointment -> drop-dead-dropout

unpinning my other post because i want to talk a little about me and this space that i've created! hi i'm alex and i dropped out of high school twice lol

i think a dni is stupid because people never listen anyways, which is why i haven't had one, but i still see the value in at least telling people who this little corner is for.

also YELL AT ME ON DISCORD I'M woahits_alex.mp3 IF U ASK ME ABOUT FIC RECS FOR MY FANDOMS I'LL CRY WITH HAPPINESS

anyways opinion stuff under the cut. you don't have to read it, and you don't even have to listen if you do, but i might argue with you (<- serial arguer) so if you want to avoid the Discourse here ya go.

you are welcome here:

- ALL queers. trans men, trans women, nonbinary, intersex, poc queers, xenogender, "contradictory" labels like mspec gays/lesbians lesboys/turigirls/sapphileans (omg it's me!!), slur reclaims, detransitioners (who are not transphobic), mspec lesbians, aro/ace and all variations thereupon, unlabeled, questioning, etc. i love all of you. i love the community that we share. we are family, whether or not some of us want to be, and exclusionism is Not Funky Fresh!!

- pro Palestine!! i don't always rb posts as much as i used to (i am scared of spreading misinformation) but i think i'll start doing that again! (don't forget your daily click guys)

- jewish people. i am specifically adding this one to say that because of the shitty Everything, i've seen a lot of concerning antisemitic stuff recently so i'm just, yk, putting this out there.

- disabilities/systems/cluster b disorders/AAC users. i am not any of these things (except maybe plural??) so if i say/do something out of line please tell me! but i love you guys and you're absolutely welcome here.

- proshippers (if this bothers you block and move on)

- furries. not personally one of y'all but i think you're neat and you make cool art :]

- literally, like, anyone, as long as you're not a dick

you are not welcome here:

- terfs, transphobes, exclusionists, anti-mspec, anti-lesboy, and people who think transandrophobia is "fake" or whatever. go away i don't like you (or at least be prepared to be blocked or yelled at)

- similarly to last, anyone who starts queer infighting or hates on less visible queers/strangers who don't "look" queer, the whole "bi girl's straight bf" nonsense (i don't care if you think someone is cishet. you have no way of knowing that. let's stop hating people for immutable characteristics and start having thoughtful criticisms of people's actions thanks)

- ZIONISTS. BYE BYE

- (but also antisemites because come on now let's notttt. judiasm ≠ zionism)

- ableists, fatphobia, racists/bigots, general dickheads

- antishippers (again, you can either leave now or expect to be argued with)

other general stuff:

- i accept anonymous asks! and also non anonymous ones. ask me shit idk

- i am autistic and VERY gullible. if i reblog a "bait" post, or something that's clearly fake or a joke with a genuine reaction, i'm probably not playing some 5d irony chess i'm probably just stupid. sorry y'all i'm trying :\

- i don't rb nsfw. not as, like, a rule, i just don't see the value in doing so lol. if i ever did i'd tag it and probably update this

UPDATE: thought i should clarify, i don't rb nsfw but i do rb nsfw humor, like dick jokes and stuff. hope there's no confusion

- i argue with people!! i enjoy arguing with people!! usually it's in replies and not reblogs but still. if you are allergic to stuff like that maybe don't follow me? i also rb "discourse" posts, mostly transmasc support stuff and callouts of transandrophobia, general solidarity stuff with the trans community or lgbt community as a whole, proship stuff, politics, current events, that kinda thing.

- this is, shockingly, supposed to be a fandom blog! (i got carried away; i always do.) current fandoms include: ace attorney (the one this blog was supposed to be about), doctor who (childhood hyperfixation come back to bite my ass), and splatoon (no excuse). also mha is basically my abusive boyfriend stockholm syndroming me to stay at this point but i'm trying to get better (not). you can find the records of my failing recovery at @alex-is-losing-sleep-over-krbk /hj (i also sometimes shamelessly rb this blog's posts over there lol)

and i guess since i'm mentioning fandoms, here are my fav ships: wrightworth, klapollo, franmaya, thoschei, pearlina, agent 24, & cuttletavio.

anyways, that's about it. love you all :]

[anendoandfriendo]

Okay, yeah, I'm probably going to say it since nobody else will: beings who coin bitchgenders but then somehow are like "but this is totally not ever supposed to ever be used in a sexual way I promise I am a Completely Safe Person" -- are...are you all okay?

Not everyone needs to identify as a bitch sexually or in a kink way (yes...these are different...talk to any asexual person [a Hailey: this part has been redacted for reasons we discussed below under a cut — sorry Raymond!!!]. Like, hello? Source: I am literally a bitchboy who uses it/he/they and that's just who I am regardless of my, uh, preferences. My being uncomfortable is not worth depriving someone else of a community or label that could benefit them.

I would really like anyone and everyone to fuck off who thinks looking good is somehow a better idea than being good. I don't exactly know what else I could say here that other headmates couldn't also tell you.

I've seen it with a lot of other coins too. Like, there was someone coining freakgenders who wanted everyone to tag the reblogs as "fr slur" and we are all like no, no we will not. You're an overly-controlling jerk and we'll do whatever the fuck we want.

(Sans the last portion of this post, my vent is not inspired by anything, any post, or anyone in particular but I'm vaguely remembering seeing something like the bitchgender. While I could have just imagined that, I think it might be safer to just...get the frustration out. I would still consider blocking us if you're one of the assholes that are described herein if you cannot handle this is not an invitation to debate us.)

~ Raymond

Re: the above — while we don't like playing into respectability politics, we also do think maybe Raymond could have worded the initial post better. Initial post said something that could have been taken out of context to mean asexuals are not real queers ("talk to any asexual person who's actually queer, not whatever the fuck this regressive shit has been that we're seeing").

We think it meant this in the way you can have non-queer gay people, non-queer nonbinary people, non-queer xenogender people (anyone trying to appeal to the hand of the majority and intentionally diminishing our community, throwing us under the bus is...NOT queer, by our definition of queer, so you can be xenogender and still be non-queer)...and probably wasn't as around or awake during that time we looked into/started noticing some parallels between asexuals being scapegoated and endogenic systems being scapegoats.

Oops.

As in, very, very oops.

The situation would either be that or he just very much expects the site that pisses on the poor to read his post in good faith and have a basic knowledge of how words work.

Lots of thanks to @wolfboy-butch for just...pointing this out to us.

- Hailey (Admin, Academic)

[shatteredhourglass]

Hi! What do you love most about Our Flag Means Death? The best aspects of the show. I'm curious. 😊

It'd be great if I had a clever heartfelt answer to that, wouldn't it? Alas. I don't know. I'm not gonna get it all down here, but I'll try;

I am indescribably horny for men in black leather (Ed in that first reveal scene nearly took me out for good.)

Blackbeard's crew is like. They look and feel like my people. Idk. I feel some kind of home in the way they dress too but also just their personalities and who they are (don't look at this one too closely, you've already seen me Izzyposting.)

I am SO americanised. I am so tired of americanising myself for the fandoms I'm in and for my friends (I love y'all, but.) I'm Australian, not a Kiwi, but it's close enough that I feel like I don't have to edit myself as much. Relief.

Frankly I expected another show where the fandom goes "oh they're SO gay" and it was all subtextual. I am so sick of those. It shocked me.

It hits that exact sweet spot of angry/violent/fucked up and funny and romantic that I love and try to write.

*gestures wordlessly at every character except for Calico Jack*

Everyone is queer. Everyone. My god. It's not just a token "yeah we put a gay couple who you never see onscreen so y'all shut up" and there's a startling lack of bigotry about it too. I'm not watching queer trauma. It's not like when I watched TCAOS (regrettably) and spent every second Theo was onscreen with fear/nausea clutching my heart

Their silly little muppet faces (affectionate) make great emojis for my server with @trashkingtater (pay no mind to my unfunny server name)

They all kind of suck. This should not be a good thing. It is. I love them.

I immensely enjoyed making fun of Izzy for the entire show and then accidentally got brainrot over him.

The amount of trans!Izzy content my God it's delicious. And a lot of it is written/drawn by transmasc people, which is fantastic. There's so much that it feels like... it's not just one "oh hey" fic every now and then. It's fuckin' prolific. (and it will be more prolific, he says, slightly threatening)

You can tell I've been in Marvel for a while with this one, but: BODY HAIR! CHEST HAIR! BUTT HAIR! (probably.) People who are not 7-pack musclepads! They are people-shaped.

Yeah there's probably more than this but I'm not very good at thoughtfully translating my emotions nor interpreting them in the first place so I don't know if this is a good answer. Take it anyway.

[barley-st-band]

ok terf

im not joking when i say this i am 100% serious a bi woman and a bi man dating is a gay relationship

[genderfuckfreak]

welcome to genderfuckfreak.

im michael, i like making flags! it/he.

nonbinary, weird dog. mlm + pan + poly + t4t.

i decided to make a xenogender blog because ive taken a liking to making pretty flags and coining new labels. this is a hobby that i don't take seriously :-3

read below for whatever!

𖤐 this blog welcomes:

multispec lesbians/gays

he/him lesbians & she/her gays

systems

neurodivergent people of all kinds

sfw age/pet regressors, but note that this blog may not be entirely kid-friendly

𖤐 this blog does not welcome:

people who dont experience dysphoria & people who do

radfems, transmeds, gendercrits, etc.

(no)maps, aams, zoos, transx, profic, etc.

anti-self dx

𖤐 other stuff b4 you follow:

cishets. sorry! this blog isn't for you. you can reblog other posts to show support, not my custom flags.

i actively use slurs, but i stick to ones i can reclaim. if you dont like slurs, dont follow me. i do not consider “queer” or “femboy” to be slurs & i will not tag them. use your filters.

i block very very generously. if you give me the tiniest hint of rancid vibes, i will block you and all of your alts that i can find. it is a hobby.

i block harry potter & dsmp fans on sight. the communities and discussion of them makes me uncomfortable.

i don't know what's up with the discourse around MOGAI, so dont start shit abt it. im not a radqueer or whatever, i just use mogai tags.

labels and flags and pronouns dont matter, i dont care what fuckery you identify as. have fun with your gender. you're shitclowngender? alright good for you i love you :-)

this is not a discourse blog.

the stripes of my flags will not have set meanings, theyre up for interpretation - i just make the pretty flag, its your identity.

anyone can use my flags. anyone. that means lesbians can use masculine flags and vice versa, etc.

credit is not required, but it's highly appreciated.

please do not repost my flags for clout - if you want them on your mogai blog or something, just reblog.

𖤐 i create:

pride flags

labels for genders / orientations

𖤐 i make flags for:

pride flag edits featuring fictional characters (i will not do characters from media that makes me uncomfortable)

genders / xenogenders

sexualities / orientations

pronouns / neopronouns

microlabels

species (for therians, otherkins, nonhumans, kintypes, etc.)

redesigns of pre-existing flags

labels you made up/ideas you have for a label

joke labels (eg. taxevasiongender or smth)

"conflicting" labels

overly specific labels

𖤐 i do NOT make flags for ...

cisgender / heterosexual / heteroromantic / straight or cis ally

ages / races / disabilities / disorders / etc.

[character]sexual / [animal]sexual / [age]sexual / [race]sexual / etc.

MAPs / AAMs / zoos / babyfurs / etc.

trans-x terms (eg. transrace, transabled, transtrauma, etc.)

ships / pairings

[character]kin / IRLs

yandere, stalker, or certain crime related terms

personal terms (personally coined terms you dont want others to use / see / ID with)

exclusive / hateful / anti-[x] terms

kinks / paraphilias / fetishes / explicitly nsfw things

religion-related terms (excluding angels, demons, etc.)

politics-related terms

𖤐 submission info

you can submit flags, ideas, & terms that you've created / coined

if you want me to redesign a flag, use the ask box instead

put inspiration images for requests in the ask box, not the submissions

𖤐 ask info

you can just say "hi" or start up a convo if you want

if you have questions, be respectful and ill answer, even if it seems like an offensive question

send requests, inspiration, or pre-existing flags as asks

keep it SFW

you dont have to BE a term to COIN a term. if you arent gay but want my version of a gay flag, go ahead n ask!

anons are off to minimize hateful asks. hateful or critical asks will be deleted.

[maximumsunshine]

There is a side of tumblr that will content warning a post as swearing for, I'm assuming, a singular use of the word "shit", not a single f-bomb in sight. And I've clicked through to some of those blogs and I think I can see why they are offended by "shit" because they all are very public about what they have in common. And while scrolling their blogs for a few moments each doesn't lead to any huge red flags (nazis, homophobes, transphobes) I still just get the overwhelming feeling like I need to start preemptively blocking people who tag my Pikachu man post with the content warning that there was a swear. When that swear is the word shit. There is just... there is so much wrong with that post. The utter chaos of us figuring out what Pikachu man was all about. If the use of the word "shit" is your takeaway of a post you otherwise find funny enough to reblog... I just feel like I'm probably not safe to drop the fact I identify as queer in front of you.

Have i lost my mind? Am I being paranoid? Or is this an accurate assessment of tumblr in 2022? Feedback seriously welcome. But I won't hesitate to block anyone who calls the word queer a slur where I can see it, such as the notes of this post. Like that one is a given to me.

[uno-writing]

Welcome!

Hello everyone!!!!!

My name is Berri!

Please dont call me something else unless I give you permission. I tend to get uncomfy with repeated use. Once or twice is fine for a joke, but after that I start to get uncomfy dsaj;hgdsaujfa

I primarily use she/her pronouns, but I'm comfortable with all pronouns!

Im almost 21

I comment using @ragingpiesexual!!!

I swear a shit ton so be warned <3 <3

I call people bro, dude, my guy, ect. I use them as gender neutral terms but if it bothers you in any way, lemme know and I'll make sure not to use them for you :D :D

My posting is inconsistent and I'm very chaotic so dont say I didn't warn you. Turn on notifs for me at your own risk

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RULES!!!! READ BEFORE PROCEEDING!!!

I write headcanons, matchups (rules here), scenarios and oneshots! I have a strong preference for doing x readers but I’m not opposed to doing ships. I also prefer doing platonic character x character instead of romantic character x character.

NO NSFW!!!!! The majority of these characters are minors plus there's enough nsfw shit on the internet. Just do fluffy and angsty shit here. I don't mind to do suggestive or slightly steamy but nothing past making out.

I don't do requests for S.H, E.D, suicide, abuse, or other super heavy topics. I have touched on those before in the past but I dont feel comfy doing it anymore. Thanks for understanding <3 <3

I have a ZERO TOLERENCE policy on rudeness. Idc what your opinions on characters or ships are, just be respectful about stuff and others opinions and be open to potential discussions. Anyone who's mean or disrespectful to me or anyone else on interacting on this blog is getting an immediate block.

I'm going to block over people using the c r p slur in asks/comments. Here's the post with a list of alternatives you can use if you'd like ideas!! I use null but you're welcome to use anything thats not a slur.

DNI!!!!! Homophobes, racists, bigots, terfs, proship/maps, jimps, any hard core antis, etc. Fuck off no one wants you here.

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Into the Berriverse

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Current Concessions and Gift Shops Items Given to Readers that are supplied by anons:

*🍿🥤supplied by Popcorn Anon (she/her)

*🍭🍬🍫supplied by Candy Anon (auroraaes) (she/her)

*🧋supplied by Boba Anon (queer-verse) (she/her, they/them)

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*🐇 supplied by Rabbit Anon

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*🥖supplied by Baguette Anon (feyn231) (she/her)

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*🌻supplied by Sunflower Anon

*🥒supplied by Cucumber Anon

*🍰supplied by Cheesecake Anon

*🌮 supplied by Taco Anon

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Tag Guide (all tags mentioned here are also tags on this post so you can use them easier <3 except the anon tags bc i ran out of tag room lmfaoo-)

#unordinary - on any posts related to unordinary

#unordinary headcanon - any uno related hc

#unordinaryxreader - anything uno x reader

character tags - any posts relating to a canon character (ex: #unordinary seraphina)

#berriverse - on all posts relating to my ocs (feel free to block if you dont want to see oc content <3)

berriverse character tags - any posts relating to a berriverse character (ex: #berriverse yennefer)

#berriwords - on the majority of posts

anon tags - all posts relating to a specfic anon are tagged with their name (ex: #popcornanon)

#notunostuff - any of my bullshit that's not uno related (feel free to block if you don't want to see it <3) (also be warned that i often forget to add this tag)

[skeleton-monarch]

We really need to talk about how unsafe it has gotten being transmasc in queer spaces is.

We’re pushed aside, told that we have male privilege, told we oppress women because of our identity, and that our oppression isn’t as bad as others. It makes us easy targets to manipulate, to abuse, to ridicule.

TERF talking points have been spread over the queer community like soft butter on warm bread. It’s melted in.

I see so many think pieces and posts about how trans men as a whole are drowned in toxic masculinity and how it harms women. How passing trans men are basically cis men. You see pieces like this

[Image ID: a cropped screenshot of an article that says:

Although they are transgender, Ashley and Man’s medical transitions have allowed them to conform to traditional standards of beauty and thus access cis-male privilege. They both fail to recognize that, as cis-passing folks, they are not in fact pushing society to accept new beauty standards. it’s more like they are implying that the trans community needs to conform to cis-typical beauty to be accepted.

End image id]

(source: https://gender.medium.com/14-1-context-of-abuse-1b14effa72aa)

I really do want to stress that these men were just talking about being openly trans and modeling. And how that was pushing the boundaries of beauty standards.

In addition to this transmascs who are abused have nowhere to go. nowhere to turn to. [links: https://medium.com/the-establishment/finding-nowhere-to-go-when-youre-transmasculine-and-sexually-assaulted-de360054cdcc

https://www.advocate.com/commentary/2015/07/23/op-ed-trans-men-experience-far-more-violence-most-people-assume?amp]

Most shelters who help with these issues are focused on women and only accept women, which harms all men. This part is purely an opinion and has no backing other than personal experience, but, I think this is due to a conservative-christian-turned-TERF idea, bio essentialism and gender essentialism. “All men are rapists. All men are abusers. Women are soft and pure and need to be protected from the evil abusive men.”

The online queer community is especially hostile to transmascs. Constantly downplaying our experiences. Claiming we cant call our experiences certain words. Claiming we’re talking over women. Claiming we’re raging misogynists at every turn. I’ve been afraid of talking about my own experiences, in fear of being told it’s all “misdirected bigotry”.

The other day an ex-coworker of mine called a trans man the t slur. I wonder if he has anyone to turn to when the transphobia gets too much. or if he’s isolated. And it brings up another point. that ex-coworker? He was gay. People constantly talk about the transphobia within lesbian communities (which frankly turns lesbophobic extremely quickly.) but rarely is it mentioned the extreme transphobia within the gay community. The chasers, the abusers, the plain transphobes.

None of this even touches the double standards, the misogyny, the self-loathing and self-flagellation transmascs are expected to preform, the racism inherent in these ideas, or the lack of research on transmascs experiences. but I’m burnt out and I don’t think I can read one more account of the bigotry we face. And I am not the person you should be looking towards to learn about racism.

Please listen to us and support us. We need to stop fighting with each other and start fighting for each other.

(if you shit on transfems while replying to this or adding onto it you will be blocked and reported.)

[personinlovewiththeimpossible]

Just had to block a fuck ton of expcusionists on one of my other accounts so here’s y’all’s periodic reminder

Do not follow me if:

You’re openly homophobic or transphobic. That’s a given. Why were you following me in the first place.

You’re “””gender critical”””” (also just call yourself a transphobe sweaty. You aren’t fooling anyone with that euphemism)

You think gay men can’t be attracted to trans men or vice versa

You think lesbians can’t be attracted to trans women or vice versa

You think straight men can’t be attracted to trans women or vice versa

You think straight women can’t be attracted to trans men or vice versa

You’re truscum, transmedicalist, anti-nonbinary, or you’re binary and feel the need to speak over enbies on nonbinary issues

You think being transgender is in itself a mental illness, or you’re against nondysphoric trans people. Also, do us all a favor and research “gender euphoria” and “gender incongruence” and maybe read the DSM while you’re at it.

You’re anti-MOGAI or anti-neopronouns

You have ever purposefully misgendered another person out of spite or disrespect

You’re an ace exclusionist

You’re an aro exclusionist

You’re a biphobe, panphobe, omni exclusionist, abro exlusionist, or ply exclusionist

You feel the need to dictate what labels another person uses . You are not in their head, you do not know their experiences. Labels are made so people can feel comfortable with themselves and their identities, and it’s not up to you to tell people that they can or can’t call themselves something. Just because you don’t understand it, doesn’t mean you can’t respect it. Go reflect on your own life instead of dictating others, you piece of shit.

You’re against polyamory, or you’re a monogamous person who talks over polyamorous people in conversations about polyamory. This includes conversations about marriage equality

You think “queer” is a slur. Do some research, please. It was largely terfs and exclusionists who started spreading that rhetoric on this website that No One Can Ever Say The Bad Word. If you actually knew the history of the word “queer”, you’d know it was reclaimed on the same level words like “gay” and “lesbian” are. Any one can say queer, anyone can refer to the lgbtq+ community as the queer community, anyone who is in the lgbtq+ community can call themself queer. It’s only a slur when said in a derogatory manner, just like how lesbian, gay, and homosexual are still slurs when said in derogatory manners. I recommend you read this and this

And don’t even bother starting discourse on this post. I do not have the patience, energy, or tolerance for assholes to hear it at the moment 🌝

[bubbelpop2]

Gay and Tumblr etiquette: a guide

This is a compilation of rules that keep the lgbt community a safe space for all. A lot of the older gays are getting sick of seeing recycled bigotry, and we’re here to tell you what the general opinions are in the real world. Some of the content in this post contains not necessarily gay content, but cay culture. Gay culture is all about the lack of heteronormative toxicity, the promotion of critical thinking, teaching the youth that they need to rely on themselves and friends instead of the government, because the government doesn’t really care, and the abolition of White Christian ethics being forced onto people.

You need to read this essay. [x] You need to know your history. It’s important, you need to know it. This is the baseline you need to know. ACAB.

If you want to know more than just the baseline: [ here ]

Don’t debate transphobes, racists, or n@zis. Don’t debate them, block them. Do not reply. You are giving them a place to express themselves. This emboldens closeted racists and transphobes. Don’t do it.

If you disagree with someone who isn’t any of the above, carefully consider their argument. Could they be right? Is it a lesson that you’re just not ready for? Block them, ponder their words, and consider your stance on the subject. Only a fool walks away from an argument more convinced than ever that they are correct.

Pedophiles are not in the lgbt community. Pedophilia is not a kink nor is it a sexuality. It has been proven to be a mental illness in which the brain is shaped and ordered incorrectly. 

“Queer” Is not an inherently harmful term. It is a term that the community has reclaimed, and many people identify as queer. By calling someone who is queer “gay” or policing THEIR right to be called queer, you are erasing history. Queer is a term that people have used in the lgbt community since before stonewall. Queer isn’t your term to take away, especially if you’re not queer. 

“Gay” Is an umbrella term. If someone LIKES being called “gay”, no matter what the complex rules of their attraction are, respect it. Don’t insist that they belong in a certain box according to your definition of different sexualities. 

If someone is questioning their sexuality, don’t push them. The point is for them to FIND OUT what they’re attracted to, and what they like best. Whether they turn out to be gay, straight, bi, or ace, leave them the hell alone. Especially if they’re a kid.

“Terfs” used to be called “political lesbians” because people who were not wlw would take over lgbt spaces and advocate to “kill all men” and would point actual wlws against men. This is terrible. Bisexual wlws deserve to express their sexuality fully without judgement. Trans lesbians deserve to express their gender without judgement. ANYBODY who is amab or trans, or attracted to amab or trans people, deserves a safe place to express themselves. We got rid of these “political lesbians” and stopped them from poisoning the minds of bisexuals and trans men. We can do it again. 

(” queer is a slur “ was started by terfs. stop saying it if you’re not a terf.)

Nonbinary is not a fad. Nonbinary people have always existed. It is not new, and you are not allowed to police other people’s gender.

There are a lot of things to gender as a whole. Your gender, what you identify as, is a large part of your identity. Some people identify as female, some people identify as male, and some people identify as neither, both, or any combination of any other genders! This may be confusing, but that’s okay. You don’t need to completely understand someone’s gender, and someone may not even understand their own! What IS important is that you respect their gender expression.

Gender expression is mostly just two things. Pronouns, and Presentation. Pronouns (He/She/They/Xhey/Ect) are for the person who has them. Pronouns don’t have to “match” your gender. Your presentation doesn’t have to “match” your gender, either. It’s all about your comfort. You don’t have to understand someone’s gender identity, but you DO have to respect their name and pronouns. Always.

Mogai is a great term, even if it’s not popular. Mogai is an all-inclusive term for all people who are not allocishet.

Being ace does not make you straight. Being aro does not make you straight. Straight = You are actively and wholly attracted to the opposite gender. It is the lack of attraction to the opposite gender that includes them in the community, as well as the constant harassment from both straight and gay people for being “broken”

“Femboy” Is not an inherently harmful term. Calling a trans woman a “Femboy” without her permission is. People who use the term to refer to themselves, or to refer to people who are comfortable with the term, are not infringing upon anybody. You need to stop taking away terms from gay people because of what transphobic pieces of shit do. Yes, shitty transphobes refer to trans women in porn as femboys. This doesn’t mean that who the term was ORIGINALLY meant for, which is, gay feminine men, can’t use it to describe themselves. This is far too similar to “queer is a slur” for me to change my mind on this. A lot of people identify as femboys, and use the term for their comfort, leave them alone.

Truscum and Trumeds are gross. Their entire personality is built off of policing other trans people’s identities. They want trans people to act like they’re cis, and conform to heteronormative societal standards. Their opinion is that it’s flamboyant trans people’s fault that cis people are transphobic. Which is simply not true. Transphobes are Transphobes because they’re bigots. It is never, in any shape or form, the fault of the oppressed for being oppressed. Ever.

Your love for the oppressed should come before your hatred of the oppressor. This does not mean that you expressing your hatred is “performative” in any way. You’re allowed to hate the oppressor, verbally, and often, so long as you, personally, know which is more important.

It is not okay to call people out. Calmly talking to people, or simply blocking them, is best. It is not okay to send hate anons. It is not okay to interact with bigots willingly. It is not okay to do something that is mean-spirited.

Be gay do crimes. (As in, fuck the police, they’ve always been against every minority. Including us.)

Disabled people are beautiful and loved. All gay spaces should be accessible.

The people that lead the protest that sparked lgbt rights across the world were black trans women. Remember that. Remember it good and well. 

Autism isn’t shameful. People with autism are worthy of respect and admiration.

Punk culture is antifa and gay culture. Bigots like punk fashion, and dress in punk fashion. We call these people “posers” and they should be beaten if spotted being a bigot at a punk function. Punk culture is all about being against the systemic oppression of the lower class and marginalized. Many punks go to protests for human rights and better work qualities. 

It is neve okay to police someone else’s identity. Period. 

It is never okay to police someone’s kinks. Pay attention to actual abusers and rapists, not fictional and 100% consensual scenarios.

Child touchers get their heads bashed in with baseball bats.

It’s not okay to bully people for shipping anything. Yes, anything, including abusive ships. Quit telling people to kill themselves over fictional people. What you SHOULD be worried about, is straight white boys who romanticize REAL abuse towards REAL people, not people just minding their own business and expressing themselves via FICTIONAL characters. Don’t tackle ships, tackle rape culture in real life. Go outside. 

It is never okay to police someone’s writing, art, or artistic expression. Yes, dark and violent content included. The idea that you can be punished for thoughts or expression of thoughts, regardless of if you’ve ACTUALLY harmed anyone, is white and Christian purity culture. If you think this is okay, read this: [x]

The above is in the same mindset of soccer moms that say “people who play video games are inherently violent” which is simply not true at all. Here’s an interesting post on a similar topic that will interest you: [x]

Just follow lace code. Doc martens have a lace code in the punk community, If you’re not a racist, follow the lace code. 

mosh pit etiquette [x]

more about gay punk: [x]

That’s all I could think of for now! Any other queer elders wanna have a stab at it?

[catgirltoes]

Before You Follow

I use the block button freely; if you think I blocked you unfairly, send me an anon with your url and i might unblock you to dm you.

If you are a minor, block the tag "minors dni."

Install Shinigami Eyes and block at the very least these tags:

gender critical

terf friendly

terf safe

terfs please interact

terfs do interact

radical feminism

radfem safe

radfems do interact

Blocking these tags will filter out the majority of posts by trans-exclusionary radical feminists, and make it obvious that they should not be reblogged.

Read this article about anti-semitism.

Understand what dogwhistles are.

Reactionaries will often couch their racist and anti-semitic rhetoric in dogwhistles to obscure what they mean to "normies" and liberals. Don't fall for it.

I know asking this might be a lot, but I am primarily concerned with the safety of the trans people, jewish people, and people of colour following me.

Please keep in mind that I use queer for myself and other people in my community because it's commonly used where I live; it is functionally no longer a slur for us despite living in a regressive hellhole of a province because we reclaimed it. I will not use queer for people who do not wish to be called by it, but I will otherwise refer to the queer community as an umbrella term.

Ace exclusionists and tankies and radfems and "anti-antis" are on thin ice; I'll allow y'all to follow me, but don't start shit.

I flat-out block blank blogs.

Otherwise, Do Not Interact:

Truscum and transmedicalists

Anyone against DIY HRT

Canadian exceptionalists

Biden supporters

Military supporters

Anyone against sex work

Harry Potter fans

Y'all are annoying at best and I have no desire to interact with you.

[miss-kitty-fantastico]

Queer Discourse

For the first time in my Tumblr life, I have blocked someone who isn't a porn blog. Because they told me to "die" for pointing out that QUEER is a word that LGBTQIA+ people reclaimed a long time ago (a photo of this is below). They also tried to tell me "it isn't LGBTQIA+ it's LGBT."

To be clear, I never at any point said they were queer, it was a discussion about the fact that people say "queer history."

I did a quick scan of the notes on the post, and it looks like they do not believe that Ace or Aromantic people should be a part of the community, because they can pass as straight. Oh, and trans straight people too... and you know what? No. Fuck that. One of the things I love about the queer, Rainbow community, is our acceptance.

The whole "queer is a slur" shit was started by TERFs and A-Phobes who don't like the fact that queer is an inclusive term which accepts everyone...I describe it as "anyone who doesn't fit the hetero-normative mould".

As a bisexual, I have experienced plenty of fucking discrimination for being "straight passing"... and if straight passing people and straight trans people aren't welcome in your community, what you really fucking mean is, "it isn't LGBTQIA+ it's LG" cause that's all you fucking care about. I mean, based on that criteria, my sister who is in a polyamorous relationship wouldn't be a part of the community cause both of her (current) partners are male. And that is not what this community is about.

IT WAS RECLAIMED by us, and we, in the QUEER community, will shout it from the rooftops over and over again.

WE'RE HERE, WE'RE QUEER, GET USED TO IT

[rachello344]

Anti Blog Spotter’s Guide

I’ve been thinking about making this post for a while, so let’s get this started.  An incomplete list of the (many) ways I identify antis.  A brief note before we begin:  Many of the traits on their own are totally harmless, but more than three or so marks a pattern.  Most of the time, they self identify, which is helpful, but anti ideology is rampant these days.  You can never be too careful.

A secondary note, I advocate for blocking antis, but if any of them change their mind, if they leave the ideology behind, I am all for welcoming them with open arms.  We all make mistakes, and we’re only human.

All under the cut for length

They call themselves an Anti, or in some cases an Anti Anti (Anti Antis are typically against antis in cases where they’re affected, but they might actually be an anti in a different fandom.  i.e. someone who ships Sheith, but is anti-BakuDeku might identify as an Anti-Anti even though they are themselves an Anti )  

Pastel Icon or a character with a particular pride flag overlaid (this one is obviously not always the case, but should be seen in conjunction with other things like username and content)

Character-Against-Thing (Thing = Pedophilia, Incest, Rape, etc.)

“It’s called having morals”

“Why can’t you freaks be normal”

All things they hate in fiction directly tie in to sex and sexuality and romance.  No outrage against regular violence (except “abuse” which is a very broad category when wielded by an anti)

“Kink Critical”

No redemption for any bad characters

You must classify your interest in anything problematic or else you condone said problematic thing

Thinks Ao3 condones and promotes Bad Fictional Content, but still uses Ao3 on the regular

“X relationship is abusive and will always only be abusive”

“X version of the relationship is BAD, I only support the healthier version, Y”

“ya nasties”

“Do not follow/interact” lists; seriously do not interact is like a huge flag for me, no matter who they’re apparently against interacting with them

“X is just another word for Y” (usually X being some Ao3 tag and Y being abuse, rape, incest, or some other word they can use to shut down the argument)

“Queer is a slur”

“straight people are wild” or “all men are X” (X being abusers or something else negative; this is actually recycled exclusionist/radfem rhetoric, but none of them seem to notice that since they’re all “woke” and would never exclude anyone, except “nasty” people who deserve harassment and bullying)

“fujoshit” “fujoshis are fetishizing mlm”

Fetishize, romanticize, and normalize used all the time

“soft sapphic” “pure” “wholesome”

“it’s not censorship, it’s common sense”  (It’s definitely censorship)

“you can write your gross shit in some journal instead of exposing the rest of us to it”

“bad content can be used by abusers/predators to GROOM MINORS”

“think of the children!”

"[Why do you/Just say you] hate [lesbians/gay men]"

Responds to any and all arguments in the same way as all other antis, parroting their lines word for word.  Also, shuts down arguments with insults or pithy one liners.  (Largely performative outrage and virtue signaling.)

“it’s not bullying, it’s justifiable criticism.”

“if you write/draw gross shit, you should be held accountable” but they never go after the mainstream

“fiction affects reality” used as some kind of catchall

“block me if” instead of blocking on their own and curating their blogging experience

An apparent inability to use a tag blocker or exclude tags from the search results on Ao3.  Even knowing the Bad Content is there is apparently too much.

Generally 13-25 years old, genders and sexualities vary, although I’ve never seen an anti ID as queer.  If someone has, I’d actually be interested to hear that.

The two most common ships I’ve seen have been KL and KRBK but I’m sure there are others.

People who dropped Voltron for Dragon Prince and SheRa are almost all invariably antis.

People who think that there are no antis in My Hero Academia

In Voltron specifically:  ships Klance, ships "Leakira", ships Shadam, and/or Broganes Only.  frequently self-labeled as anti Pidge/other Paladins, anti Shiro/other Paladins, anti Shallura, anti Kallura, anti Lotura, anti Shidge, anti Sheith, and/or hates Allurance, Keith/Axca, or any of the above.  Hated Season 7.  Wanted to replace Voltron with their “reboot” (”Leakira” etc.).

[star-fall-system]

about for mobile users

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general info:

they/them pronouns unless I tell you otherwise

genderfluid guy

I started HRT December 2017; I’m 17

panromantic, pansexual, polyamorous

I have DID and STPD. I’m a trauma survivor (CSA, COCSA, stalking) and sometimes I block weird tags or stop interacting with people for my own mental health. About the DID, we tend to try to function as one person, because that’s just how it works best; posts are sometimes tagged with alter names. I’m Max, I’m the host and info here is relevant to me; I use he or they but I would prefer strangers use the nickname and pronouns given in my description. STPD makes it kind of hard to be social, but I really do want to talk to people! Feel free to message me any time!

I’m white, perisex, and I’m probably able-bodied (may have some undiagnosed issues, uncertain)

if we’re “discoursing” and you’re being unreasonable I’m not going to respond

ask me for my main if you want it!

things I’m against, in no real order: -“gender critical” or terfs basically -truscum- ie you don’t believe nonbinary people exist, or you believe that there are certain boxes one must tick for their gender to be valid (usually physical dysphoria) -aphobes or people who don’t think aces and aros are LGBT+ -pedophiles/MAPs (I don’t care if they’re “non-offending”), and anyone who supports that -anyone who condones any kind of abuse, including but not limited to physical, sexual, verbal, or emotional abuse; there are no excuses for abusive behavior whatsoever -anti “sjw"s -people who think queer is this terrible slur that nobody can reclaim (its ok if you’re personally uncomfortable with it, but censoring other’s use of it is at best annoying and at worst bigoted) -“pro-lifers” or people who believe bodily autonomy is negotiable -rapists or rape apologists, basically if you believe consent is in any way negotiable… die in a fucking fire

things i have blocked people for, as a general idea of what I won’t deal with: -going too far with the ~discourse~ (easy way to get blocked) -threatening suicide over discourse and the manipulative behaviour that arises from that -defending the person above -being pro-gun (this was supposedly a progressive! and a really popular one on tumblr.com too! shame) -harrassing people over the discourse -general obnoxious text posts (im kind of petty sometimes but it was just the one person) -pedophiles trying to interact with me?? I was 15 at the time?? -anyone who tries to trigger my dysphoria via misgendering or telling me im gross or whatever. i don’t have time for that shit. -most people I block are terfs for the above reason -haven’t blocked, but I have unfollowed everyone who vagued about me so -if it’s not listed here you probably fell into one of the catagories under ‘things im against’ and were stubborn about it if I tried to talk to you about it. since this is a sideblog, i’ll message people on anon to talk about it

for anyone who’s curious as to why i blocked them or just wants to know how petty I am ^

[junghosoks]

ok so i followed this girl who ran an lgbt blog and im fucking queer so it really buttered my bread. a couple days into the Subscription this bitch started posting about how the word "queer" is a slur and how anyone who uses it should be excluded from the community,,, im someone very uncomfortable with my gender and sexuality so "queer" is a word that makes me feel safe n shit u feel me? so when this bitch tried to say that my identity was a slur i dipped lmao :/

what…oh my god I would have blocked her immediately

🌻tell me petty reasons you’ve unfollowed people for🌻

[wlwfiction]

bisexualbooks com/ post/ 164644184779/ aristoteliancomplacency-oodlenoodleroodle

This took a long time to answerbecause I wanted to be sure my sources were correct.

Okayso this is the post

OP is a pedophile apologist (listed as Robotbisexual/Theangrybi/Birobotic)

On the post itself

The entire thing cites no sourceswhatsoever.

“the word is used like a slur” It’snot used like a slur, it is a slur.

OP claims that “queer is a slur” wasstarted by TERFs. Multiple trans women disagree. I have never seen someone who says“‘queer is a slur’ was started by TERFs” have a source and I’ve also never seena trans woman say this.

For a word to be reclaimed, it had tobe a slur in the first place. There’s no one moment where a word is suddenly nolonger a slur because it’s been reclaimed enough. Reclaiming slurs is on apersonal level, not a societal one.

The reclamation of queer is rooted inHIV/AIDS activism, with the formation of Queer Nation and the chanting of“we’re here, we’re queer” but that’s being completely ignored here.

I personally have never seen anincident where someone was reclaiming queer for themselves and was told to stopusing it. What I have (rightly) seen being said is that queer should not beapplied to anyone without their consent and not used as an umbrella term forLGBT.

“it is indeed used as a slur” EarlierOP said it was used like a slur, can they make up their mind?

“queerphobia” We already haveperfectly good words for that which are homophobia and transphobia.

“This is why I block people whosay ‘Queer is a slur.’” Wow the first commenter clearly doesn’t give afuck about LGBT people’s trauma and sounds like an anti-SJW making fun oftrigger warnings. alyesque addresses this comment and theoriginal post, stating “hey can we stop conflating thingsthat have nothing to do with being a trans exclusionary radical feminism withbeing a trans exclusionary radical feminist…especially when there is asizable amount of trans lesbians critical of using queer…literally theonly thing that makes you a terf is being a radical feminist who thinks transwomen are men and have no place in feminism. fuck off with this shit….Theoriginal post was literally unsourced bullshit and just not true. “Terfs” didnot come up with the idea that queer is a slur it just literally is one andlesbians have been the most vocal about it for a long time so you all gottajust slap the term terf on there completely ignoring the plethora of translesbians uncomfortable with the term and then the reply I screenshot just likedoubled down on it with “if you say queer is a slur im blocking you cuz ur aterf” jfc you people are the worst”

The second comment is about QueerTheory. The term Queer Theory was coined by Teresa de Lauretis, who, less thanthree years after coining the term, abandoned it “on the grounds that it had been takenover by those mainstream forces and institutions it was coined toresist…Distancing herself from her earlier advocacy of queer, de Lauretis nowrepresents it as devoid of the political or critical acumen she once thought itpromised.”Make of that what you will.

Also read this

I think it’s important to acknowledgethe history of LGBT people reclaiming queer and other slurs as a form ofactivism. Some people find it empowering to reclaim slurs and others don’t.However, we should also respect the wishes of those who don’t want to see it bytagging it and not using it as an umbrella term.

Also, linking to bisexualbooks reallyisn’t helping your case anon, since they:

believein monosexism/monosexual privilege and are Shiri Eisner’s biggest fans – Idon’t need to link for a source as it’s literally all over their blog

Theirco-founders are both White, yet one of them repeatedly argued with a Blackperson about racism/antiblackness: (x)(x)(x)

I see @captainswiftkent was sent the same ask. Next time, do your research beforeyou send Day or I something that is, to quote alyesque again, “unsourced bullshit”.