#anon advice

[vee-dmsr]

Mrs Vee, do you have any advice for a freak going through a bit of a rough patch? I've been in a bit of a rut recently but I'm not wholly sure what to do - no pressure to answer ofc!

Thank you for all you do for the freak community, you're a true inspiration <3

i think u should read a weird fucked up book or watch a weird fucked up movie to get ur freak juices flowing. if u need recs, read tender is the flesh and watch swallow (2019). good luck anon im sending u all my strength

also in case i am misinterpreting the kind of rut u are in, doing physical activity always makes me feel better (walking outside, weight lifting, etc)

[glowettee]

Hey girly~~

I'm a writer and blogger recently navigating Tumblr. Sometimes I worry that no one will really care what I have to say, or care about my ideas. What's the best thing to focus on when I feel this way? I think I'm just looking for a little encouragement💗. I hope this makes sense!

hey sweetheart, so sorry i've been extremely inactive. finals have been draining, exhausting, and overwhelming!! i'm almost done, but i wanted to answer your question because it made me sooo freaking happy!!!

this question literally touched my heart because i've been exactly where you are!! that feeling when you pour your thoughts and creativity into your writing, hit post, and then wonder if anyone out there is actually connecting with your words? i completely understand that vulnerable feeling, bestie! 

first of all, i want to say how brave it is to create and share your writing in the first place! putting your thoughts out into the world takes so much courage, and the fact that you're doing it already shows how much passion you have. that's something to be proud of regardless of the notes or reblogs!

when those doubts creep in (and trust me, they visit all of us, even people with thousands of followers!), here are some gentle reminders and perspectives that have helped me create my blog:

1. remember why you started writing

   ✧ was it to process your own thoughts?

   ✧ to connect with others who feel the same way?

   ✧ to create something beautiful?

   ✧ to document your journey?

   returning to your original purpose can be so grounding when the external validation feels uncertain. i keep this in mind whenever i'm planning ideas, writing my posts or even when i feel unmotivated to write a bunch of words onto the tumblr word processor. this generally just helps you focus on the purpose for your blog/writing.

2. focus on quality over quantity

   ✧ one genuine connection with a reader who truly resonates with your words is worth more than hundreds of passive scrollers

   ✧ some of my favorite writers and bloggers have smaller but incredibly devoted followers

   ✧ meaningful engagement > follower count (always!!)

3. celebrate the uniqueness of your voice

   ✧ no one else has your exact perspective, experiences, or way of expressing things

   ✧ the internet doesn't need more people trying to sound like everyone else

   ✧ your specific voice is exactly what someone out there is looking for

   ✧ authenticity always shines through and attracts the right people

4. remember that growth takes time

   ✧ most "overnight successes" actually took years of consistent posting

   ✧ tumblr especially works on connections and community building

   ✧ your words might be quietly collecting in someone's bookmarks even if they haven't engaged yet

   ✧ some of my posts that got almost no notes when first published suddenly found their audience months later!

5. create for yourself first

   ✧ write what brings you joy, healing, or clarity

   ✧ if you're excited about your content, that energy will naturally attract others

   ✧ when you love what you create, external validation becomes a bonus rather than a necessity

   ✧ the posts i'm most proud of aren't always my most popular ones!

   ✧ make sure to utilize aesthetics in your post, ones you enjoy are always a bonus, and it's so fun to design your post according to whatever aesthetic/vibe

6. engage with other writers/bloggers and creators

   ✧ leave thoughtful comments on posts you love

   ✧ reblog with your own additions

   ✧ join writing challenges or community events (example: tag games)

   ✧ respond to asks and messages

   ✧ community building is a two-way street! this is my favorrrrittee part of being a girlblogger.

7. trust the timing of your journey

   ✧ some days will be quiet, others will surprise you with connection

   ✧ consistency matters more than immediate results

   ✧ your words might be exactly what someone needs to read tomorrow, or next month, or next year

i also want to remind you that even the most popular writers and bloggers have moments of doubt! it's part of the creative process to sometimes wonder if what you're making matters. but just know your perspective is inherently valuable. your experiences are worth documenting. your creative expression deserves space in this world.

when i first started my blog, i would sometimes post things that got almost no interaction. but then i'd get a single message from someone saying "this was exactly what i needed to read today" and it would remind me why i started in the first place.

keep nurturing your writer's heart, keep showing up for your creativity, and keep sharing your unique voice with the world. the right readers will find you, i promise. and in the meantime, take pride in the courage it takes to create and share in the first place!

sending you all the creative inspiration and confidence vibes!! hope this helps <3

xoxo, mindy 🤍

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[rubenesque-as-fuck]

Put the date off with person #2 until after the second date with person #1. It's definitely not taking the cowards way out. Then you can talk a bit with person 2 before the second date. Then i think you'll feel better about choosing one or the other. Or at least choosing if there's enough of a potential with person 2 to try a date with him.

(And stop texting with D, said as friendly advice no judgement. Just personal experience) also hopefully this makes sense I'm high af

So I decided to message #2 back and tell them that I could *maybe* do Friday or we could push to next week. Partially also just because it's been a weird week at work (our entire computer system has basically been down for multiple days) so I've had to go back in a couple of times way later than normal and if the shenanigans continue through Friday then I won't have the spoons for a date anyway. If they say they'd prefer Friday, we'll go from there I guess. That's all assuming they even respond. If not, oh well! Still got a cute date for Sunday in any case.

And yeah you make sense, I'm just terrible at being sensible 😂 In a weird way, having D to talk to makes me feel more confident while navigating the rest of it? Not that we're even discussing my dating life all, but it's just like this reminder that this other person that I was really into thought that I was cool and pretty and worth wanting back, at least for a little while. And now even though we aren't romantically/sexually involved any more, I'm still worth talking to. Is that dumb? Probably. But I am also not claiming to not be dumb.

[violent138]

I write fic summaries two ways. Either a section of the fic that grabs you but also gets along the general premise. Or I go with a plot without the main twist, then the twist. Like a lead up.

So like if it's like a Wings AU.

"Hey, DumbWing, would you move it!? Your blocking half of Crime Alley with those things!" Jason barked, shoving him aside.

"Well, you try spontaneous growing wings, and then tell me how easy it is to keep them in check!"

Or for the lead up

Dick always loved flying through the air, on the trapeze or a grapple. Sure, he could be a bit superfluous with the flips and all, but he loved it!

Out of all the spells Dick could have been hit with, he's not so sure how bad this one could be. After all, now his hero namesake makes sense! If only these wings were meant for more urban life.

Hey that's really good advice (and a hilarious set of dialogue if you winged it ;)). Now to find this leading dialogue/draft the lead up...

And dude, now I'm going to be looking for Wings AUs (first I've heard of them, but that would be so cool to see the Batfam figure out). Thank you!

[hybrid-confessions]

.younger sister keeps trying to pet me without even asking first

.she’s a kid so I don’t want to get too mad but also I hate physical contact when its not of my accord

Hm. Yeah, that’s tough—my usual go-to when I’m touched by others is some sort of warning swipe/growl, but that might be harsher than you’d like with your own little sister.

Another option could be acting as if you’re scared or hurt by those attempts, but that might also cause guilt you’re not looking for…

All that to say, if you have the time and energy to teach her, you’re probably best off with a simple book on boundaries, aimed towards humans and Pokémon alike. My favorite to recommend for younger kids is “Don’t Pet Pikachu!”

[missathlete31]

While instagram followers don't mean anything for his career, I want to reassure everyone that people in Hollywood won't give a single shit about this whole "scandal". Glen handled it gracefully, and it wasn't scandalous enough for producers to care. Seriously, don't worry about it.

I’m taking this as law anon because I need to focus on the good news of having more Glen on our screens!!!! Please let this whole nonsense fade away and Glen be happy again!

[scarletlizzard]

Coming here to rant because i love you

My ex and i talked a little montttthhhs after our breakup. To me, she was everything and it seemed to be the same for her but she stopped loving me slowly and eventually left me, then came back and left me again. She admited not really caring about my feelings for a while AND OKAY that was hard for me. It was hard to get over her and feel likable again. But as i said, we talked after few months not as friends but just.. Exs i guess

Anyway, she told me about her guy ex and her girl crush and it felt devastating because it was like.. 8 months ? And she got over me SO FAST fell for two people and i was there, still dealing with the fact that i wouldnt be with her anymore 🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️🤸‍♀️

I felt so sad all over again, and embarrassed. I didnt really fully answer those texts and she hasnt tried to talk to me again

It feels like she just came back to say "look, i got over you so easily" and left again

I dont love her anymore, i feel sad tho. She was my first girlfriend it was very serious, our relationship lasted 2 years

Thanks for being cool with me to rant anon!! I probably give terrible advice but I'm sure someone will post back with great words lol. I'll give you this

How they did you was totally wrong. It's not okay to just drop people whenever you want just because you can. The most important thing in a relationship is to be honest and open, on both ends. There's no excuse for how they treated you. I'm truly sorry to hear that! And then to come back and brag is really shitty.

Another thing, people love at different paces. It's hard but it's true. Sometimes people fall fast and hard, others need time and patience. Both still have to have the human decency to be nice. It's not hard!

You deserve the world, anon! A first love is very powerful, but that's all it is. A first love. There will be a second, maybe a third, and so on. There are sooo many people on this planet all over. Someone out there is going to treat you right and make you feel like you're important, you matter, and you're loved.

Anyone else who treats you any type of way is not the one for you.

Feel free to reach out with anything. You're a beautiful human! I hope you have an amazing night 💕💕💕

[blizzardfluffykpop]

Have you ever been talking to someone and it’s going good but then they ghost you then block you but you two had a good friendship? That’s what happened to me but the thing is I don’t know what I did to him he just blocked me and didn’t told me why or anything

I've never been in that type of situation where someone just blocks me of out of the blue. I can't say for certain why he did that. But I don't think it had anything to do with you. Some people are just like that... If there was no reason given, then imo you did nothing wrong. If someone doesn't tell you what's upsetting them and then leaves you in the dark, then there's nothing you can do. Without knowing what's going on, you can't talk it out/change. Which leaves you both empty-handed. My best advice to you is to let it be/let him go. It's what he wants/has chosen. So, no matter if it was a budding friendship, it can only be a good friendship if you're willing to talk matters out. And it seems he would have shut down instead. And that's not good for a friendship, discussions that are tougher need to happen if they arise.

I'm sorry this happened to you, but the best advice I can offer to you is to let it be/let it go. It's not worth beating yourself up over it, okay? You're fine, he should have discussed it. And remember sometimes people are just like that. So, it's best to let it go. I'm sorry this isn't prolly advice you wanted to hear but it's the best I can give.

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[vee-dmsr]

Vee, the world is so scary right now honestly I’m not sure how to cope

my advice:

jack off more

get more unhinged with ur friends about ur interests

put horse blinders on to avoid the news

focus on the things in ur life that currently bring u joy

get like 5 new kinks

treat urself and indulge in that vice a little 🤏🏼🤏🏼🤏🏼 bit more (alcohol, weed, nicotine, etc)

get weirder

[i-will-write]

The thing nobody tells you is that you can just write down that one scene you've been replaying in your head with no connections to anything. You don't have to wait until the plot get there or until you come up with the rest of the story around it that makes that scene makes sense. You can just write that one scene.

you are so right

[glittter-vamp]

I know I’m not apart of this conversation but to that anon with the boy advice right now, how is it that Kim here can answer your asks today but that guy can’t text you back accordingly?

I agree with Kim, you deserve someone who will text you back and not ignore you for a day. Raise the bar! 🤗

[hybrid-confessions]

Not a confession but any advice on hiding pokemon ears and tail? I'm going somewhere I'm worried won't be the most accepting of hybrids

For non-Zors, your mileage may vary based on type of ears and tail (it’s probably going to be difficult to hide if you’ve got a Ninetales’… well, nine tails, short of a literal magic trick).

That being said. Your best options probably vary depending on location and season. If it’s winter like it is in many places, an oversized winter hat is often useful. It may be more difficult to hide ears inside, though. I’ve seen hair styling around ears to hide them as well—wrapped hair buns, for instance. That’s only going to work with longer hair for the most part, but I have seen some people make convincing hair bun covers. Some people also pin down their ears to their head and wear a wig or have them blend in, but I wouldn’t recommend it. Ears tend to be inflexible and pop up. And that hurts.

Tails… if you feel comfortable wearing skirts and they’re a safe option, a long, roomy skirt is the simplest answer. If those conditions don’t apply to you, I suggest very loose pants. It may also be an option, depending on tail length, to wrap it around itself or the width of your body and pin/tuck it (this should hurt less and be less of a challenge than with ears!). With particular short “cottontails”, I’d perhaps carry your Pokéballs or a fanny pack on your back to hide any bulk a tail might cause.

Hopefully those provide some ideas! Your best bet is to ensure you have some rest time somewhere you won’t be seen as well—just so you won’t feel the ache of binding or wrapping body parts too constantly. 🐺🍦

[wolfythewitch]

Hi sorry another question about basira dgdjdh I really want to make sure I'm not misrepresenting a group :'D I've had people bring this up to me (something about her being the only canon poc in the main protags I think? I don't know too much since I'm trying to avoid spoilers)

Hi! Question! Because I cannot find a straight answer online. So basira is normally portrayed with a hijab and I know there are certain restrictions when it comes to muslim women like alcohol and certain dietary stuff. What about romantic relationships :0 like with daisy and basira. Would it be okay to draw them kissing/hugging/doing romantic acts or is that not allowed?

[thinkpink212]

so close to getting massage license! like you i only had to work on a few clients (my school was relaxation only) and then i can take the exam. i am nervous though because i only worked on a few clients ahhhh any advice

Omg, only a few? Hmmm I’d say offer massages to friends/family/network for practice. You can even charge a small fee as a ‘student in training’, that’s what I did!

I’d also look up videos on massage techniques so you have more deep tissue knowledge, for when your future client needs more then just relaxing work ☝🏾

Goodluck!

[scarletlizzard]

Omg thank you 😭❤️

OKAY THIS IS-

A vulnerable anon ask 😔

So.. I have brothers. But they arent like the best brothers

And today, my bestfriend and i were talking about her brother, who's a few year younger than her but he's such a good sibling😭

And i didnt feel jealousy i felt envious, i was wondering why mine are so different and if my bestfriend's brother is actually an exception or the norm ?

I dont think there's a single answer to that but it feels good to talk about this because on the way home i was feeling a little guilty thinking i was jealous

First of all, thanks for sharing with me! Sometimes, it feels good to just rant to strangers and get it all out.

Secondly, I feel absolutely terrible you asked me because unfortunately I am an only child 😭

That being said, I basically grew up at my friends houses (home life wasn't the best). They all had siblings, and each household was a completely different experience.

One house there were 4 kids, and they all fought each other like you wouldn't believe. It was an absolute madhouse every time I stayed the night! But, they all loved each other. They took care of each other when it came down to things. I always loved staying there because of it. Even serious fights wouldn't last.

I remember another friend who had a younger brother. He treated her like absolute garbage, the biggest little shit ever. He never changed. They barely talk to this day, really only on holidays.

So to sum up, I probably have no clue what I'm talking about lol. I think every sibling and every family is going to be different and have different roles! You need to take care of you, do what's best for you. Feeling jealous is okay, just don't let it eat you up!

Again thanks for sharing, hope this helps even a little 😅 If anything you put it out there!