#anne theriault

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[etakeh]

I'm completely unfamiliar with this phenomenon.

Bitch.

[zonotrichia-albicollis]

[magdolenelives]

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[rthstewart]

Source

This is so embarrassing.  I feel so seen.

[palecrepegold]

Even little kids in Quebec have Luka on the brain.

[soracities]

Fairy tales are women’s tales. They’re bent-backed crones’ tales, sly gossips’ tales, work-worn mothers’ tales and old wives’ tales. They’re stories shared, repeated and elaborated on over mindless women’s work like spinning or mending or shucking corn. These stories are the voices of those who were, within a social and cultural context, so often voiceless; they’re women’s whispered desires and fears, neatly wrapped up in fantastical narratives filled with sex, violence and humour. Fairy tales speak of the things that women most hoped for – a prince, a castle, a happy ending – and those that they were most afraid of – that their children would be taken from them, that men would hurt them or take advantage of them, that their family wouldn’t be provided for.

Anne Thériault, “Fairy Tales Are Women’s Tales”, pub. The Toast

[autumnrory]

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[idkyoubutiprobablyloveyou]

“The Belle Jar October 10, 2016 · 

CN: mental health, coerced hospitalization, ableism

Today is apparently World Mental Health Day, a day for "global mental health education, awareness and advocacy."

I have lived with mental illness since I was in my early teens. If there's one thing that I've learned in that time, it's that psychiatry as we understand it now is both the best hope that people with mental illnesses have for treatment and a field of medicine that is so far from what it should be that it's almost laughable.

I've also learned that no diagnosis is set in stone and, in fact, can be changed on a doctor's whim depending on whether they like you, how they happen to be feeling that day, and which direction the wind is blowing. I've had doctors try to punish me with what they think is a "bad" diagnosis if they don't like what I'm saying. I've had doctors discard a diagnosis that's noted in my charts because ten minutes after meeting me because they've decided I don't fit the criteria. I've had doctors twist my words and coerce me into saying certain things so that I fit the diagnosis they want to give me. I wish I was making that up.

I've learned that there is a hierarchy of diagnoses that everyone participates in. Doctors consider some disorders to be curable, some manageable, and some incurable. Of course, when someone decides your condition is incurable, it follows that they no longer try to cure it. The two diagnoses that have stuck with me - depression and anxiety - are at the top of the hierarchy, a fact that makes it much easier for me to about outspoken about and taken more seriously when I discuss mental health.

I've learned that most people working in psychiatric medicine don't really seem to view their patients as people. At best, we're a puzzle to be solved with the right combinations of drugs and various types of therapy. At worst, we're manipulative, drug-seeking malingerers who cannot be trusted to accurately report our own feelings or experiences. I've never had experiences as belittling and dehumanizing as those I've had with mental health professionals. Their treatment of me has ranged from benignly ignorant ("you're a pretty young woman, life can't be that bad!") to downright traumatic ("well, of course everyone at work thinks you're weird, you have a personality disorder and people like you are VERY hard to get along with!"), but none of it has made me feel like a person who deserves to get better.

I've learned that accessing mental heath care is next to impossible. Yes, even in Canada, this promised land of socialized medicine! The wait list in Toronto to see a psychiatrist is an average of six months. Six. Months. Imagine being so sick that you are struggling to function but you can't see a doctor who might be able to help you for six months. And almost the only way to jump that line is to be a threat to yourself or someone else.

I've learned that our healthcare system has nothing in place to help maintain good mental health. Instead, it works on a binary of "fine" and "crisis." If you're not in a crisis, then you must be fine. And your status will remain fine until you hit the crisis point. So many people end up in crisis because the system missed a thousand and one opportunities to provide them with help or resources.

I've learned that when you go to the emergency room at the mental hospital they lock you in. For your own safety, of course.

I've learned that you can be accused of faking your mental illness if you tell a new doctor that you don't want to take pills. Even if you patiently explain that you've taken many pills and none of them have worked and all of them have had undesirable side effects. She counters that if you were really sick, you would be willing to do anything to get better. Including taking pills. When you ask if there's some kind of therapy program you can try instead, she tells you there's a nine month waiting list for those. There is no waiting list for pills.

I've learned that if you go to the doctor armed with information and the names of pills you think might help you they will write you off as drug-seeking.

I've learned that you can admit yourself voluntarily to a psychiatric ward and then when you try to leave have your status changed to being held there against your will.

I've learned that saying "it's for your own good" to a patient can cover a multitude of sins.I've learned that the names of your illnesses and the illnesses of people like you exist to be tossed around like insults or jokes. I've learned that every time some public figure does something shitty, you get to watch a billion people try to diagnose them remotely with whatever mental health disorder is the buzzword du jour. And if you try to explain that no, it's actually not ok to say that so-and-so DEFINITELY has a personality disorder, they'll condescendingly respond that it's actually fine because people with personality disorders are monsters.

I've learned that there's no quicker way to get a doctor to take you 100% less seriously than to say that you're mentally ill. And it comes up every time I have to fill out any kind of intake form that asks what medication I take. And then I get to watch the doctor's face change when they read "zoloft & seroquel" printed in my neatest printing, the kind of handwriting I think a not-crazy person might use.

I've learned that disclosing mental illness is humiliating regardless of who you're disclosing to or what the circumstances.I've learned that everyone gets exasperated when you don't get better. Especially doctors.I've learned that waterproof mascara actually isn't really waterproof, by the way, if you cry enough.

I've learned that people would rather yell about the evils of political correctness than to hear why the words crazy or psycho or insane are hurtful to you.

I've learned that education is great but it doesn't do much for the marginalized if it's an endless cycle of the oppressor educating the oppressor.

I've learned that advocacy is great but it's hard to advocate for people our society doesn't really consider to be people.

I've learned that mental health awareness doesn't mean shit when no one is actually listening to the people living with mental illness.

Happy World Mental Health Day.”

- Anne Thériault, The Belle Jar

[kimkimberhelen]

Not only has witchcraft historically offered women power that they might not otherwise be able to access, but witches offer girls and women an alternative role model to the ubiquitous young, beautiful Disney princess. A witch can be any age; a witch does not need to be conventionally attractive; a witch does not wait for a prince charming, nor does she rely on anyone but herself. Given that, the witch’s appeal is easy to appreciate

'The Real Reason Women Love Witches' by Anne Theriault

[ruknowhere]

Lying in wait for happiness

- - Yehuda Amichai

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On the broad steps leading down to the Western Wall

A beautiful woman came up to me: You don't remember me,

I'm Shoshana in Hebrew. Something else in other languages

All is vanity.

Thus she spoke at twilight standing between the destroyed

And the built, between the light and the dark.

Black birds and white birds changed places

With the great rhythm of breathing.

The flash of tourists' cameras lit my memory too:

What are you doing here between the promised and the forgotten,

Between the hoped for and the imagined?

What are you doing here lying in wait for happiness

With your lovely face a tourist advertisement from God

And your soul rent and torn like mine?

She answered me: My soul is rent and torn like yours

But it is beautiful because of that

Like fine lace.

Queen Anne's LaceJessica Theriault by Jessica Theriault

[miazeklos]

The narrative of Jaime "breaking free" from Cersei is bad because it delegitimizes the experiences of mentally ill women (especially relating to relationships, sexuality, etc) and falls back on the good woman/bad woman dichotomy. I hate with the burning passion of a thousand suns the implication that he’s better off without Cersei because she’s “crazy,” which unfortunately seems to be how many fans view it. Mentally ill women are gaslighted and abandoned and taken advantage of by men all the time in the real world and it’s hugely harmful that Cersei, who’s the prime example of a mentally ill woman in ASOIAF, is treated the way she is by GRRM and the fandom. She’s damaged, as a result of the patriarchy, sexual assault, rape or other abuse by men.

There’s this quote which I think about when regarding relationships with mentally ill women, it’s by Anne Theriault, bolded mine:

“The Sexy Tragic Muse fetishizes women’s pain by portraying debilitating mental health disorders filtered dreamily through the male gaze. The trope glamourizes addiction and illnesses like depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia – diseases that are distinctly unglamorous for those of us who live with them. The Sexy Tragic Muse is vulnerable, and her vulnerability is sexualized. Her inability to properly care for herself or make decisions on her own behalf is presented as being part of her appeal.

And perhaps this is the most frustrating thing about the Sexy Tragic Muse – the fact that this character type seems to be a neat way of removing a woman’s agency without the film or book or song coming across as overtly misogynistic. She occupies the intersection of ableism and sexism, and her mental illness is portrayed in a way that makes it commendable, even necessary, for others to care for her. We feel gratitude to the men that step up and save her, because she obviously cannot save herself. We feel empathy for the men that break up with her, because we see that she is difficult and volatile. We never get to see things from her perspective; often it is implied that this would be impossible, because her perspective is too confused and fractured.”

As a society, we’re conditioned to feel more empathy for Jaime than for Cersei because she’s the crazy bitch and he’s the proper man who’s doing the right thing for himself. And like, I really really really hate that we didn’t get Cersei’s perspective until she’s on her downward spiral because it’s not inherently misogynistic that we see her downfall so vividly but it just feels that way when comparing how GRRM writes Cersei compared to how he writes Jaime (or Tyrion and Tywin for that matter). Look at how Euripides wrote Medea.

This is a wonderfully apt quote, thank you for sharing it! And yes, this is literally it: part of what makes me mad about that whole thing (and also makes me as invested in Cersei as a character, since I identify with her in a lot of ways) is that people will do that to you allll the time IRL face to face if you're a specific brand of unstable. Explosively angry women with a plethora of only halfway concealable issues exist at a weird intersection of 'I can fix her' brand of men who think that their (obviously asked for and needed, duh) empathy (which is rarely that, tbh) will simply put you to rights and the anger of those same men when you tell them you're more than capable of caring for yourself without their help.

GRRM's decision to only include her POV when she's supposedly ~descending into madness~ (and even then, she's right about the majority of the things going on around her even if she's heavy-handed int he way she deals with them) can be fuelled by things others than misogyny, but to tell you the truth, I don't think it is.

There are times when I think he criticises that same treatment of such characters through Jaime's POV when he's being profoundly unfair to her in his own mind, but then I remember him writing his fave Tyrion talking about how 'all he wants' is to kill and rapе his sister' and GRRM saying that he needed a shower after writing her chapters or w/e and it's like.... yeah. Sentiments such as these are part of the reason why I dread the way he's going to write her ending and also why I was so profoundly pleased by her show ending. All I wanted for this character was to be allowed to have her end in dignity and I was astonished when it happened and that's all you need to know about how media usually handles characters like her.

As for Jaime and his supposed betterment through leaving her behind, I'll combine this answer with the one to another ask, because YES:

I am once again asking about the specific ways in which Cersei is worse than either of her brothers.

[etakeh]

anyway we live in hell and I am just trying to get through it like everyone else lol

Anne Thériault

[bisexualdisasterbuckley]

This book 😍

[bookclub4m]

12 Architecture books/publications by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Colour) Authors

Every month Book Club for Masochists: A Readers’ Advisory Podcasts chooses a genre at random and we read and discuss books from that genre. We also put together book lists for each episode/genre that feature works by BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, & People of Colour) authors. All of the lists can be found here.

My Life as An Architect in Tokyo by Kengo Kuma

Zaha Hadid: The Complete Work by Zaha Hadid

The Surreal Visions of Hernán Díaz Alonso/HDA-X by Hernán Díaz Alonso

Architecture by Hiroshi Sugimoto

Hattiesburg: An American City in Black and White by William Sturkey

The Black Skyscraper: Architecture and the Perception of Race by Adrienne Brown

Black Built: History and Architecture in the Black Community by Paul Wellington

Race and Modern Architecture: A Critical History from the Enlightenment to the Present edited by Irene Cheng, Charles L. Davis II, & Mabel O. Wilson

In Praise of Shadows by Jun'ichirō Tanizaki

Indigenous architecture through indigenous knowledge : dim sagalts’apkw nisiḿ [together we will build a village] by Patrick Robert Reid Stewart (thesis)

The First Nations Longhouse : our home away from home by Verna J. Kirkness and Jo-ann Archibald (WorldCat)

Voices of the Land: Indigenous Design and Planning from the Prairies edited by Reanna Merasty, Naomi Ratte, Desiree Theriault, and Danielle Desjarlais

[soracities]

The [Brothers] Grimms’ deletion of all things sexy from the second edition [of their Fairy Tales] could be taken as a sort of Teutonic prudery, but when we look at it in context with some of the other alterations, there begins to emerge a pattern of marginalization and disempowerment of women. Not only did they remove any mention of sex, the majority of it both consensual and premarital, but all sorts of other details defining and limiting the female characters were added in. With each successive edition, the Wilhelm Grimm added in more and more adjectives describing what they thought was the perfect Christian woman; female characters were suddenly “dutiful,” “tender-hearted,” “god-fearing” and “contrite,” where once they had simply been “beautiful” or “young.” Wilhelm also began to alter the structure of the tales, introducing moral judgments and motivations that previously hadn’t been there. Traditionally, fairy tales had seen luck and chance count for more than hard work and obedience, but Wilhelm put a stop to that – instead the sweet, well-behaved, godly women were rewarded, and those who deviated from that mold were punished.

Anne Thériault, “Fairy Tales Are Women’s Tales”, pub. The Toast