#and it's just immature + inappropriate to behave like that.

[babeydoll]

cis people will do a full fucking circus routine jumping through hoops to defend their misgendering of a trans person because “oh i didnt look at your profile! how was i meant to do that!! youre expecting too much of me!!” or “im friends with trans people and they think youre overreacting!” or “(insert blatantly gendered term) is gender neutral to me which means you also have to be fine with me calling you it!” is apparently a much better answer than “oh sorry i didnt see that. i wont do it again”

[flameswallower]

yesterday i didn't think it was sprained, but now it kind of looks like someone stuck a golf ball under the skin there, so maybe! fwiw i stamped my foot because i was having an argument and got frustrated that i didn't feel i was being listened to/wasn't being allowed to finish my sentences before getting rebutted/dismissed. the floor was carpeted, i was indoors. on sunday, i spent several hours clambering over steep, jagged rocks above the sea while high on acid and was completely fine no injuries no close calls even

stamped my foot so hard i partly dislocated/injured my ankle. not beating the rumpelstiltskin allegations

[hermajestyimher]

One of the things I've been pondering often on lately has been the overt level of infantilization of adults in our societies, not just Western but across many areas of the world.

This intrigue led me to read this amazing peace on the matter which I wholeheartedly agree with.

Throughout my life, I've often been referred to as "very mature for my age". That characterization may have been accurate and perhaps flattering during my early childhood and teens. Underneath it, there was a sea of trauma that forced me to grow faster than my peers. However, now at 24 years of age, I continue to get the same sort of comments, with many people being amazed at my intelligence or perspective of life at my age. I don't find those comments flattering but rather amusing at best and uncomfortable at worst. After much consideration, I've come to realize that as an adult entering my mid-20's I am not in any way "very mature for my age", instead, I simply do not behave in ways that are childish and inappropriate. That should be the standard and not the exception.

I often see around me how people, mostly men, in their mid 30's and 40's behaving like absolute children with no understanding of boundaries, wholly attached to unhealthy vices showcasing a total lack of self-control or discipline, with no regard at all for their physical appearance, with no ambition to grow as a person or getting educated by consuming truly edifying content. They resent many women for not giving them the time of day and the world around them for their shortcomings. They have no sense of accountability and self-awareness. They remain in this never-ending limbo of mediocrity and child-like ways that upon close observation ends up being extremely depressing.

I've also noticed similar patterns among some similarly aged peers of mine, and this time including women. It's genuinely shocking to see grown people derive their entire personality out of TikTok or Twitter trends, being unable to think about things critically and instead parroting the popular talking points they see having the most retweets and engagements, thus joining a hive mind as if they were still in high school following what is popular and requires little effort and independent thought.

Even our popular music is becoming more and more immature with lyrics and beat patterns designed to be consumed in numb and almost irrational ways. The kind of music we listen to dictates a lot of how we view the world.

Our politics have become a soap opera that drive with them hoards of cult-like followers behind the most stupid and caricaturesque ideas that lack the sophistication politicians used to have in the past. All while the decisions of the inept clowns the immature, and dumbed-down masses end up putting in power end up having negative consequences in our general lives. See people like Trump, Matt Gaetz, or Geroge Santos being elected to high positions in the most influential government in the world.

My belief is that if you know you are someone who strives for excellence and greatness in your life, you cannot succumb to the ways of the masses. You cannot emulate the trends and habits that are popular around you because those same habits are designed to keep you in a toxic loop of immaturity and stupidity. If you know you are destined for greatness, don't fall short of your potential by wanting to be like the rest. Those who stand out do so because they are different. Keep improving yourself, hitting your goals, continuing to grow and evolve, and rejecting stagnation and regressivism. You are above that.

[artist-issues]

On the Percy Jackson series, now that the season has concluded, do you have any thoughts on it, whether standalone or as an adaptation, about what worked and didn't work in it? I ask partly because I want to analyse it as its own thing but I can't stop getting hung up on the changes and I'm not completely sure why.

Of all things, Gabe is the big one for me. They turned him from a repulsive abuser to a pathetic manchild who lacks the power dynamic of his book counterpart and was so consistently treated as comic relief that I actually pitied him. The fact that he shares the fate of his book counterpart actually kind of angers me and it's hard for me to look past that. It left a mean-spirited taste in my mouth.

I don’t think I’ve talked enough about what did work, and I do think there’s a place for talking about that, so I’m glad you asked!

I think Walker Scobell could play a really excellent Percy Jackson. And I think Leah Jeffries and Aryan Simhadri are both very endearing in their roles.

I’m not going to throw shade on 14 year-old actors and actresses. There’s no shade to throw. Acting is vulnerability combined with introspection and understanding. No teenager is going to have the same level of vulnerability, understanding, and introspection, expressed with the same skill, as we’re used to seeing in adults, period. And the show doesn’t do them any favors by giving them very adult lines and very adult-behaving characters to play.

Which segues nicely into—the character’s “arcs” are completely different in the show, but they feel more like…”alternate universe” characters than “out-of-character-rewrites.” For the most part.

I already touched on how Grover is a completely different Grover in the TV show. His fear is both too serious and not extreme enough. He’s not comedic. Instead, he is a voice of reason, and he does have a maturity the other two don’t have. He’s written to talk to the other adults differently than Percy and Annabeth are—more like equals, less like teen-vs-adults. You can easily believe that Grover is a 24 year-old in a kid’s body during those scenes, like the ones with Ares.

But there’s a reason he’s not like that in the Percy Jackson books; he’s comedic, and he’s Percy’s best friend. Percy’s only 12 when they meet; it’s weird for a 12 year-old to be best friends with a 24 year-old—who BEHAVES like a 35 year-old, with all the gravity, and maturity, etc. But if the 24 year-old is a magical creature who, for his species, is still pretty young, and has a comedically immature personality, then the chemistry works much better. Anyway. Not my point.

My point is, Grover might not be Grover, but you can still see trace elements of Grover in him. Like how you can see echoes of Spider-Man in Spider-Gwen’s story. It’s an alternate-universe, not a do-over.

Grover still wants to be a seeker.

Grover still feels guilty about not taking better care of Thalia.

Grover still gets the most outraged and cares the most deeply about nature and crimes against nature.

Grover is still a peace-lover at heart, so he’s the most gentle in relational interactions.

‘That kind of stuff is still there. It’s just re-contextualized and…made less fun. That’s all. More serious. More grit.

Same thing with Annabeth:

Annabeth still wants to prove she’s the best of the best.

Annabeth’s still given up on her normal family and is most comfortable in life-or-death strategizing.

Annabeth’s still smart, but specifically wise enough to notice Percy’s heart of gold while everyone else is busy being afraid of or disappointed in him.

Same thing with Percy:

Percy still has the stubborn rebelliousness we all know and love.

Percy’s still a guy who goes with his gut first and foremost.

Percy’s still willing to sacrifice the future for the present, if the present means saving the people he loves.

Percy still makes wise-cracks at wildly inappropriate times.

And I think some of the show is really well written. Some of it. Two parts in particular stand out. The first is when Annabeth and Percy have the post-killing Medusa conversation, and they have that, “she tried to get me to betray you. What did you say? I killed her sister. What did you say? I cut off her head.” exchange. That’s great. The point of that conversation is “you can trust me because no matter how I might be tempted, this is the line I won’t cross.” But they don’t come out and say that. They have the characters say it without saying it, if that makes sense.

The second bit of good writing that comes into my brain was Luke’s conversation with Percy about being small and scary. It was such a good way to introduce the important concept of why gods need demigods/why gods fear demigods, while also lore-dropping things like “Annabeth is afraid of spiders” and “this fantasy world does have rules.” And on top of those boxes getting checked, you can also see the conversation from Luke’s point of view—he’s bitter about being thought of as a small thing to the gods, but now he’s starting to embrace the scariness part.

So some moments are good, writing-wise. Especially if you tilt your head and say “this is an alternate universe.” I just think they’re not always the right moments for Percy Jackson.

[aseriesofunfortunatejan]

it's scary in the dungeon meshi tag right now....................... like.................... i feel like the writing of this episode was brilliant in how it included so much information and gave us a clear history of shuro's experience, a clear view into his feelings of resentment, and made it extremely and plainly obvious, with its use of the theme of being well-fed, that this is him at his worst.

the fight between him and laios was entertaining in how it was presented in contrast with everything and everyone else, but having it be a childish fight between two people who suck at communicating in different ways and for different reasons, didn't have bad intentions, and yet hurt each other, did wonders for their respective characterisations. shuro finally eats a bite of the food that senshi, "the guy who teaches everyone about being well fed", kept for him, and with a clearer mind not only treats his companions better (showing how touched they are that he thanked them is a perfect example of "show, don't tell": he doesn't usually do that or hasn't been doing that, but right now he did!) but also takes one of these clear headed, mature decision that laios earlier complimented him for.

laios hit him first - it was inappropriate. shuro hit him back - that was an immature decision. the fight wasn't nasty, it was equal amounts of childish on both sides and it led them to communicate with each other, which was what was missing between them. it was something that they both needed, it was something that was just for the two of them, which is why everyone else left them to it. once he ate something, shuro immediately behaved much better, so it's easy to picture - especially when laios has described his past self in a good light - that when he is in good condition, he has other qualities as an individual. i'm not saying this because i want people to look at a character i like in a good light - i'm enjoying him because he's very pathetic - but because it seems so clear that this episode's writing screamed "this is this man at his worst". the use of food guys. remember the food

of course i don't think you should use physical fights as a mean of communicating with your friends but i don't know if you guys (saw the big dragon woman) noticed that their situation is a little bit messy and scary and tiring .

etc. etc.

[byyliss]

okay I read the doc and I have thoughts yeah!! I still believe that some of Alex’s behavior was admittedly inappropriate and a person like him should take time off the internet and get help+I believe it is possible for a person to have 20+ victims, and I think their mindset was “people Alex perpetuated a parasocial relationship with” like idk. groupchat members or smthn. but good lord are people handling this in a really immature and extreme way. I understand being so livid and angry about someone who caused you pain. but that level of just. Everything is so. Yeah!! I’m giving the plaintiffs the benefit of the doubt on the stuff that’s not confirmed yet, but mitchas public statements are just. Not excusable!! Ive personally spoken to these people before, so maybe I’m giving them the benefit of the doubt but like. idk it looks like donut just doesn’t wanna believe that their friend could be acting like that yknow. still weird of them to brush that off though.’Idk. No clue who doctored that Alex photo. I’d like to believe it was a random person stirring the pot, but honestly like. who knows!! sorry if this is all incomprehensible but it’s such a difficult thing for me to believe that these people would go to such lengths out of genuine malice to de platform some ex friend of theirs who behaved kinda shittily. But that doc doesn’t make shit look good!! it really doesn’t !! this whole thing is just awful. Thanks for sharing that document, I’ll have to look more into all this. For right now, it seems like a bunch of young people having an insane high school drama falling out that was publicised in an extremely inappropriate way. just. wild

Hi! I understand fully where you are coming from.

Mitcha's behaviour is one I've been following up close for awhile since this all started. And I don't believe they were a victim if anything other than their own poor mental health.

Mitcha accusing anarchist of faking the sh photo makes no sense. Someone looked it up using reverse image search and found the account.

I genuenly believe Alex is a woman with poor mental health and was suffering from it. She tried seeking validation from a group she thought she could relate with as a Trans woman but due to miscommunication and and people not drawing boundaries, feelings were hurt.

If Alex is a predator, then ven knew and kept it a secret up until it was convenient.

If Alex is innocent, then they all falsely accused someone.

If you want you can DM me to discuss it or just post here. I want to look into different perspectives

[0rb0t]

ACTUALLY I HAVE MORE TO SAY on that Planetina episode. (Warnings for Rick Sympathizers, I go hard against him in this, even if I love him)

I noticed people were saying that they felt like the writers were more lenient on Planetina because she was a woman, but I don't actually believe that was the case.

The episode is extremely creepy but the thing is, we are seeing it from Morty's perspective. We have spent most of the series seeing stuff from Rick's perspective. This episode was uniquely NOT from Rick's perspective in either plot. It was Morty's or it was Summer's.

Planetina's creepy relationship with Morty was absolutely meant to parallel Rick and Morty's creepy relationship. The episode literally starts with Morty rejecting Rick to be with Planetina-- and not only rejecting Rick, but casting off "immaturity" in order to be with someone he idolizes but also wants to be mature for.

Yes it was mentioned that in the Toxic episode, Morty was with two older women, but you need to think about what that says about Morty at this point. His ideal Healthy was someone who was seen as mature, who wanted to be looked up to, who had confidence. Morty thinks that being a scared kid is toxic and that his ideal healthiness will be a man who has confidence and is mature and will have a mature woman with him. He's literally a middle school boy, this is not abnormal for middle schoolers, and it definitely gets worse when their needs aren't met.

Morty spends the entirety of the Planetina episode falling for this woman he admires, idolizes and thinks it's love, and Planetina takes advantage of that, both by having aspects of the "born sexy yesterday" trope but also because she's really kind to Morty and always says yes to him-- but let's examine that trope for a second here. In this case, Planetina is an adult woman who behaves in a childish manner that is appealing to Morty and makes her seem cute and he wants to do anything for her.

Hm. Rick is literally an adult who behaves in a childish manner that allows him to get on well with teenagers and kids but not so much fellow adults. Rick can also make Morty do almost anything for him, except he's not kind. His kindness is conditional.

TO MY BAD FAITH READERS: STOP RIGHT THERE CRIMINAL SCUM

I'm not saying here that anyone who is an adult that behaves childishly is automatically a predator. Rick and Planetina both are predatory towards Morty because they engage with him in highly inappropriate ways because he is a minor and they are adults. Boundaries are broken and reassured it's okay, there's a lot of "don't tell your parents about this" sometimes in actions and not words but Rick has LITERALLY said that out loud-- It's how you treat others that can make you predatory, and Planetina literally keeps encouraging this out of Morty, too.

In reality this episode is kind of an extension of the Toxic episode, because it shows that side of Morty that craves maturity because he can't connect to ANYONE around him, but also he wants so badly to be wanted, to be accepted, to be told he's good and perfect just the way he is. He wants to be loved so badly. So of course he latches onto the first woman who seems to be saying all those things to him because he HASN'T been taught how to avoid these creeps. And then when Beth finally starts stepping up as a mother for Morty, of course he sees this as betrayal-- because in his experience, his family has NEVER had his back. And the entire time, Jerry is playing a childish game where a little guy throws up everywhere LMAO Like, the writing and direction of this episode is so on point, it's Morty going "everyone around me is immature and they do not understand me and they don't want me to be happy" and Planetina takes advantage of that.

It really does not matter if she was genuine or not-- Morty is 14 and she is an adult who is going for the affections of a little boy HJSDFK LIKE. IF YOU FELT CREEPED OUT BY IT, IT'S BECAUSE IT'S CREEPY and it NEVER SHIED AWAY FROM IT. It just feels extra bad because we're getting it from Morty's perspective.

Morty finally puts his foot down when Planetina turns to outright murder--and she even tries to turn it around "You murdered my kids" EVEN THOUGH SHE BASICALLY TOLD HIM TO? She didn't use the words directly but she did tell Morty, KNOWING he was desperate for validation and love, that she was going to be taken away... Morty goes all out, arming himself to prevent that. As badass as this scene was, this entire episode really shows how middle schoolers (esp boys) are able to be groomed and radicalized by dangerous people they admire.

The original post said that the writers are lenient on women groomers but wouldn't act this way if it were men-- Morty likes girls, idk what to tell you. But also the EPISODE was from Morty's perspective. the Mr Jelly Bean episode was not-- it was horrifying but we were still generally from Rick's perspective. And as great as it was to see Rick kill that guy for trying to sexually assault Morty, Rick has not stepped up in a single way SINCE to help teach Morty how to protect himself, to safeguard himself from predators, etc. In fact, all he really aimed to do was make Morty more dependent on him.

I LOVE THESE CHARACTERS BUT I HAVE NO ISSUE SAYIN THIS SHIT CAUSE IT'S TRUE I'm glad Rick is trying NOW but the boundaries between them have long since eroded. Morty is used to being treated like this, and Rick is used to being able to get away with it.

That's why Evil Morty's finale was so poignant-- "I'm not evil, I'm just sick of him" Literally every single time Morty has pushed away from Rick, we get this perspective that Morty is bad and is being mean to Rick. HECK NO-- Morty is showing agency and trying to protect himself.

This episode is no different, he literally DOES break up with Planetina, and she (despite causing all of these situations and having the power in the relationship) blames Morty and acts like he did this to hurt her and leaves. And Morty wails openly into his mom's embrace, because Beth is there to comfort her son who is BROKEN over it.

And then these parallels are LITERALLY MET in the pre-finale episode where Rick is like I DONT NEED YOU MORTY I CAN REPLACE YOU WITH TWO CROWS--

The Planetina episode is MEANT to be watched with the finale episodes.

I don't think it's fair to blame the writers for something that they were really REALLY smart about writing in these episodes. To say that the writers didn't make it blatant is... frankly untrue... This show does not work as well when they have to look at the camera and go "THING BAD" because the entire show has had Rick grooming Morty into becoming exactly like him and that ends up being more acceptable to a lot of people because a lot of people are biased towards Rick.

And I understand the pull! I love Rick Sanchez! He's very relatable! But he's also quite literally a "do not be me" type of warning character LMAO He's a cautionary tale, at all times.

This show is entertainment first, it's not meant to be watched as education, its primary focus is to tell stories. If you learn something from it, GREAT! But the most bad faith interpretations because you're uncomfortable about how something is shown isn't actually conducive to anyone's learning.

Next time you feel uncomfortable while watching Rick and Morty, ask yourself why, and be prepared that those feelings of discomfort MAY BE MIRRORED IN ASPECTS OF RICK AND HIS GRANDSON'S PORTRAYAL. This is how I learned to stop believing anything Rick had to say about Jerry, because it's usually projection.

[writingsofwesteros]

Moon's Witness: Baelish takes Ned and Catelyn's daughter wherever and whenever he wants, not caring if Robin's in the room or not. He makes it a competition to see how long it will take Robin to notice him slowly pumping his cock inside the Stark girl, haven walked up behind her as she painted with him doing the same, just seated at a table. Baelish loves watching the boy's eyes widen and face flush when he realizes what they're doing, before racing out of the room when he mistakenly thinks they don't notice he saw. Robin soon sees enough of his cousin's creamy pussy and soft perky breasts that he can picture pleasuring her himself, this skill often keeping him company during a lonely night and saving him through puberty. She tries to develop a way to clue Robin in faster so he can get out faster, but the boy always seems to forget the code and even becomes "less aware" to it, often sitting in long enough for Baelish to start releasing inside her. When Baelish is done having his fun and sends Robin to be fostered at Runestone, she tries using blow jobs and willingness to try new positions as a way to convince her husband of letting her stay to care for the boy. She's denied and is only allowed to see him when Baelish chooses to stop in on a progress check, often wearing an inappropriate dress that shows much of her cleavage as Baelish thought it fun to tease him. Especially since he knew Robin would notice how easily the dress shows her growing milk stains, taunting the boy further with his past and the knowledge Petyr'd bred his beautiful cousin likely in the same room as him. After Petyr's death, she is free to travel back North to reunite with her remaining siblings and introduce them to her young ones. The next time she meets Robin, he is a man grown. She was standing and nervously massaging her hands together, awaiting the start of the trial while nervously wondering how her children were faring after being away from her for the first time, when he comes and wraps his arms around her smoothly. When she jumps in his arms, he chuckles breathily and gently runs a hand over her cheek to make her eyes turn his way. His eyes meet hers and he smirks handsomely like he'd practiced in the mirror before saying "miss me?" She gasps and hugs him tightly, him practically purring as her heavy breasts press against him so nicely. Robin makes sure to pull his widowed cousin into his lap to await the trial together and "make up for lost time", subtly bucking his hips up to grind against her pussy lips. She doesn't say anything when she starts to feel the nice stimulation, thinking Robin was only trying to get comfortable and feeling embarrassed to admit his dick was pressed practically right on her cunt. He begins bouncing his leg to give her more to work with, coaxing her wordlessly into moving her hips back against him as she greedily searched for release during the trial. Robin hums in her ear that she's being naughty for a woman that's supposed to be teaching her young children how to behave, making her still as he grinds into her harsher and makes her shakily cum right as everyone's agreeing to Bran being king. Bran was definitely side eyeing them and smirked knowingly at his poor sister that didn't know how to control herself after so long of not being in charge of her own pleasure. Robin keeps her there longer than necessary to help her ride it out, before asking innocently if this means she wants to be his wife now. She flushes and immaturely runs away from the younger man to say goodbye to her siblings, later being approached by Bran who confronts her about not being honest with her own feelings. She brings up them being cousins and Bran just raises an eyebrow before telling her it's not frowned on, somewhat pushing her to go be happy with Robin. Robin is so happy when she agrees to marry him that he cums way too fast in her that night before making it up by absolutely destroying her pussy with all the positions he's been wanting to try with her 👑💀

Oh bran could be so deliciously dark and we are just seeing the moments of it ;)

Robin being there as she's slowly broken in by the pleasure is hot and i'm here for it. Baelish really thought he would have her forever but oh how the tables have turned

[thestrangestthing89]

Mike Character Analysis: Season 3- Part 1

You can find the rest here:

Season 1. Part 1 Part 2 Part 3

Season 2. Part 1 Part 2 Part 3 Part 4 Part 5

So now we are up to season 3 and it's about 6 months after the Snow Ball. The kids are 14 and it's the summer before high school. It is made clear early on by the party that Mike and El have been going off alone together "all summer" and they are annoyed. But here's the thing - all summer means about 2 weeks. Because school lets out mid-June (early June sometimes) and it's July 4th. It's implied they weren't going off alone during the school year (Dustin is surprised by their behavior so he missed it during the weeks he was away) and this makes sense because they were in school. El has some things from the party around her room so it's also implied that they came to visit her together. (Correction: Dustin has been away at camp for a month. However there is something weird happening here with time. Because Hopper later says that Mike has been over every day for 6 months but the part says it's just been the summer.)

So it's really just been 2 weeks of Mike and El alone making out all day - incredibly inappropriate behavior for their age and stems entirely from their co-dependency and trauma (more on this later). So Mike and El really weren't bonding for months and we are told they do nothing but make out. So add the 1 week they spent together in season 1 and these two have spent very little time together. Which makes all their making out even more inappropriate - because they are 14 and all we see is them making out and they don't know each other. They never talk and everyone who interacts with them, ABSOLUTELY NOTICES THIS IS WRONG AND SAYS SOMETHING. There is not one member of the party or one adult who thinks the way Mike and El are behaving is ok. Will, Lucas, and Max have clearly been talking about it together - they are annoyed and rolling their eyes. Dustin calls it bullshit. And we all know how Hopper feels. Joyce, while not nearly as dramatic as Hopper, is in agreement with him. She advises him not to be a cop about it because it will backfire and gives him great advice about how to talk to them about spending time apart (that Hopper only sort of follows). She does clarify that it's just kissing but she also recognizes that Hopper is making a good point and helps him because no mature adult who has ever been in a healthy relationship thinks that Mike and El's behavior is cute. Which is why most of the people who ship them together are young. Because at this point in the story, a lot of the audience is getting annoyed. Not only at the immature middle school relationship dynamics of Mike and El (and Lucas and Max) but at Mike specifically. We don't see Mike's point of view on the show like we did in the first two seasons and now he has gone through yet another major behavioral shift. He isn't as quick to lash out as last season (though he still does) but he's also not acting like himself - a point Will will make later. But here's where a lot of the disconnect with Mike comes from: people are once again simply dismissing his behavior as him being a teen and not looking deeper. Only now, part of this is because they are struggling to understand him. Because now his behavior is a problem, so labeling it as hormonal teen behavior doesn't quite fit since other characters are calling it out as abnormal. And we all know at this point that the audience believes what other characters are directly stating. In this case, though, unlike in the past, the characters are correct (look at what they are showing and not just telling) which introduces a complex problem and one that is making people uncomfortable to look too closely at. What is going on with Mike? Because it's something. The Mike we know wouldn't ditch his friends. The audience doesn't have a frame of reference for why Mike is acting like this with El so they once again go with the easy answer - he's a teen. His attitude with Hopper - he's a teen. Only now those answers are fitting even less but the audience isn't understanding it because they aren't understanding what internalized homophobia is and how it makes people behave. Because that's the thing that's going on with Mike. And it's the only thing, THE ONLY THING, that explains his behavior in a way that allows for his character to be complex and emotionally intelligent without dismissing his feelings and trauma. The only way I can think to explain this behavior in a way that people might understand is by referencing Dawson's Creek here. The Duffer's have mentioned this is their favorite show (and it is for most of us millennials) and there are many comparisons I could make between the two shows. I debated putting this in an entirely different post but I think it needs to be said here. Because part of the reason people don't get Mike is because they haven't seen this behavior depicted much in media. And if they haven't experienced it personally or seen it, it's going to be difficult to identify.

Part 2

[cinderella-ish]

Fruits Basket Personality Types Part 13: Hiro Sohma

I really love Hiro's growth over the course of Fruits Basket. He's the youngest of the main and secondary characters, so it makes sense that he's the most immature at first. I love how important it is to him to be a good big brother. I love how he starts off as a contrarian brat and ends up as a brave and conscientious friend (and boyfriend!). I love that he works so hard to grow and to be the kind of person he wants to be.

I also love that he ends up back at Kisa's side, even though his love for her was the reason Akito gave for attacking Kisa. He'll have a big part to play in the climax of Bloom Within Us for that reason!

Here's how I see his personality!

Hiro Sohma's Enneagram

Wound: His parents are shown to be very loving, and we don't know much about his pre-canon life, so his wound might be that he told Akito about his feelings for Kisa which caused Kisa to get hurt, though wounds typically happen at a younger age.

Wounding message: (If the wound above is correct) You'll only cause the people you love to get hurt. You shouldn't express your desires. Mistakes can have huge consequences.

Core desire: To be the best version of himself, to be with Kisa without causing her any more harm.

Core fear: Not doing the right thing, causing others to be harmed

Defense mechanism: Assert superiority over others

Strengths: Hiro grows to be quite principled and brave. He's clever, understands what makes people tick (for better or worse), intensely loyal to his people, constantly trying to improve himself, and very family-oriented.

Challenges: Hiro is bratty at first. He's hurtful, rigid, critical, pessimistic, emotionally dishonest, insensitive and he knows just where to poke so it'll hurt the most.

When healthy: Hiro is more relationship-oriented, emotionally honest, principled, brave, relaxed, and friendly.

When unhealthy: Hiro is vindictive, mean, rigid, critical of himself and others, resentful, and argumentative.

Looking at all of this, here's what connects when I go back to the Enneagram post:

Wound: closest matches are 1, 6, and 8

Wounding message: 1, 3, 8, or 9

Core desire: 1

Core fear: 1 or 3

Defense mechanism: 1

Strengths: 1 or 8

Challenges: 1, 3, or 8

When healthy: 3, 4, or 8

When unhealthy: 1, 2, or 7

Um. So as a One myself, I did not expect Hiro to be a One. At all. But... it actually does fit him quite well. I'd argue that his greatest strength is his drive for self-improvement and how principled he can be, both classic One qualities. And his greatest weakness is probably the resentment and criticism (both of himself and others) that's typical of Ones. I actually can't believe I didn't think of One for him before beginning this post! 😅

Ones live in the Gut center, and tend to repress anger. Here's the full description of how Ones relate to the three core emotions, from Personality Path:

Anger is typically repressed by Type 1s. Type 1s try hard not to express anger as they associate it as a “bad” emotion. Instead, they report a lot of irritation. Interestingly, when their anger is eventually expressed, it can be intense, with a laser focus. Shame or Sadness can get triggered when they realize they made a mistake or if they feel they have behaved inappropriately.   Fear enters the picture when they feel a loss of control or anxiety over potential errors, mistakes, and missteps in the future. A harsh inner voice dictating rigid internal standards is often at the bottom of each of the three core emotions for Type 1s.

Wing

Hiro is very clearly not the peace-making type (1w9, "The Idealist") so I suspect he's a 1w2, sometimes called "The Advocate" (like me!).

Truity describes 1w2s like this:

[1w2s] are more focused on the livelihoods of other people, and champion causes focused on meeting people’s needs. They may appear overly controlling or critical of other people in an effort to help them become the “best version” of themselves. Like the Type Two, this type wants to help and feel appreciated. 1w2s are drawn to careers in medicine, law, religion and social justice.

I know I'm not the only person who sees Hiro as a future lawyer!

Subtype

I don't think Hiro has a strong expression of his subtype yet, but most of his energy seems to be aimed at his own self-improvement. For that reason, I think he's a SP 1w2 (also like me!).

Enneagram Explained describes SP Ones like this:

SP 1s are the more stereotypical perfectionists of the 1s and are more likely to deal with worry and anxiety (over being correct/right) than other type 1s. However, they are also often the more warm and friendly of the 1 subtypes.

Tritype

I actually think Hiro's Tritype is more obvious than his Enneagram. He strikes me as a very clear example of a 3-6-1 ("The Taskmaster")

This tritype is described on Katherine Fauvre's website:

If you are a 136, you are diligent, ambitious, and inquisitive. You want to be ethical, efficient, and dutiful. Highly industrious and responsible, you are focused on achievement. You feel obligated to be orderly and create a successful image as dictated by society. You emulate people you admire and cultivate values that others respect. Most importantly, you focus on your duty and commonly accepted ways of doing things to feel confident and at ease.

Hiro Sohma's MBTI

I liked focusing on Type Dynamics first for Rin, so I'll continue that for Hiro.

Type Dynamics:

Thinking: I see Hiro's Dominant function as Extroverted Thinking. He has concern for external laws and rules, and seeks consistency in the outside world.

Sensing: I think Hiro's Auxiliary function is Introverted Sensing. He prefers routine, and compares present facts and information to past sensory details.

iNtuiting: This would make Hiro's Tertiary function Extroverted Intuiting. He does tend to brainstorm aloud, making connections and asking questions that others wouldn't ask (like the implications of Kyo's feelings for Tohru given his impending confinement).

Feeling: Hiro guards his feelings and works from an internal system of values.

This makes him Te Si Ne Fi

I also want to share what The Myers & Briggs Foundation says about Fi as an inferior function in times of stress:

hypersensitive to emotions, feel emotional but try to control it, afraid of feeling strong emotions and try to hide it

Hiro hides his strong emotions by needling at others and trying to make them feel inferior.

Te Si Ne Fi is the type dynamic of ESTJ, which is often called "The Supervisor."

Here's how the Myers & Briggs Foundation describes ESTJ:

ESTJ: Practical, realistic, matter-of-fact. Decisive, quickly move to implement decisions. Organize projects and people to get things done, focus on getting results in the most efficient way possible. Take care of routine details. Have a clear set of logical standards, systematically follow them and want others to also. Forceful in implementing their plans.

So, to summarize:

Enneagram: SP 1w2 (The Reformer/The Advocate)

Tritype: 3-6-1 (The Taskmaster)

MBTI: ESTJ (The Supervisor)

It's funny; I had Hiro take on a bit of a Taskmaster/Supervisor role in some of the early chapters of Bloom Within Us, though we didn't see that side of him much in canon. I'm kind of excited that I recognized his leadership and organizational qualities, and I've landed on those qualities once again in this series!

What do you think? Did I get it right or wrong? I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Next up: Ritsu!

Fruits Basket Personality Types: Enneagram | MBTI | Tohru | Akito | Kyo | Yuki | Haru | Kisa | Momiji | Hatori | Ayame | Rin | Ritsu | Kureno | Shigure | Kagura | Kazuma | Saki | Arisa | Machi | Kakeru | The Hondas | Kaibara Students

[dairy-farmer]

curious!tim / i'm afraid to corrupt your mind!bruce

tim behaving so innocent and unaware of what he's doing when he becomes robin and bruce being filled with guilt and self hatred for seeing tim's actions as anything more than innocent. but tim is young and he's....curious.

tim giving bruce a massage and straying closer and closer to his cock in the same way that bruce's girlfriends would when they were about to give him a handjob and bruce keeps ignoring it and telling himself that's not what's going on. unaware that tim has recently discovered what porn is from all his classmates at school and wanting to know...what it feels like to have a grown up cock in his hand, against his skin. and bruce is the only grown up tim knows and he trusts bruce a lot so...maybe tim tries to play innocent one day and rubs his little palm against bruce's bulge and feels the soft cock separated from his hand by a bit of fabric.

bruce of course puts a stop to it and tries telling tim he needs to keep his hands 'here'.

tim wanting to know...he's just too curious. he wants to know what a hard cock looks like, feels like,...tastes like. he's watched enough videos!!! but seeing and doing are two different things and bruce loved telling tim how experience was the greatest teacher. and bruce was tim's teacher in being robin!!! so why not in this?

tim tries kissing bruce one day when they're on the mats. bruce is holding tim down into a split and kneeled over him telling him something about his hamstrings being too tense and how he has to be more flexible- his eyes are on tim's body but tim is staring at his face in that perpetual from and....tim just gets that weird fluttery feeling in his stomach and so he inches his head up and presses a gentle kiss to bruce's lips and-

it lasts for a few seconds before bruce seems to register what's going on and recoils away. training ends early and bruce sends a pouting tim home.

before tim started curiously testing boundaries by letting his curious hands explore bruce's bulging muscles and hard adult body- bruce had no problem sharing a communal shower with tim.

but now it was much harder. tim moved next to bruce, asked for help scrubbing his back, and...stared in a way that made bruce almost feel self-conscious. bruce had scolded tim about staring, telling him it was inappropriate and not polite and tim had gotten a shamed look on his face that tugged at bruce's heartstrings.

bruce knew tim was at a...sensitive age. his body was beginning to enter puberty and bruce could see tim's flat chest budding into little breasts. he could see how tim was losing puppy fat in exchange for muscle. pretty soon his cunt would get its first pubic hair and his little womb would prepare itself for its first period. teenage hormones were a bitch to deal with and it would be so much better and easier if tim had decided to focus his attention and attraction on someone else.

tim was too young, too small, immature, and inexperienced for bruce. tim needed someone as soft and dumb and virginal as him to have his first kiss with (bruce clenched his fist at the memory of the mats. after tim had left he'd just...sat there for what felt like hours until alfred called him for dinner). bruce was a brute with a cock too big for tim's little hole. bruce would destroy tim if he fucked him. tim would probably be traumatized and put off from sex for the rest of his life. it was the reason bruce never fucked virgins. he was just....too much for most people. bruce's life had been hard and he couldn't bring himself to have gentle soft sex. it had to be hard and fast and dirty. bodies writing, nails digging into his back and leaving bleeding trails. his hands needed to leave bruises on hips and he needed to fuck cunts so hard that it almost didn't feel good.

tim didn't deserve that. his little puppy crush would just hurt him. his curious hands and big eyes staring everytime bruce's muscles flexed...

bruce had to admit the admiration felt good. all admiration did on some level. but from tim who was so young and sweet and good...

he couldn't. bruce couldn't allow himself to sink that low. he wouldn't allow it.

tim deserved better.

he deserved better than bruce.

[the-bjd-community-confess]

Mod: Anon refers to images in this submission, no images were attached (you need to select the photo option to attach images to confessions, or link them in the text) but I think we can figure it out via context clues

TW: mentions of sexualization of minors

Concerning M0i/MoiB4kaDesu.

I never thought there would the day would come where my interests and dolls would collide until the day I saw M0i in the Doll Dreaming forum 😬

M0i is very infamous in my fandom for making explicit content of a minor character, Haruka. They have been booted out of the biggest fan server, and blocked by almost the entire fandom (at this point) because of this.

This is Haruka. He’s 17, he’s mentally stunted and behaves like a child. Later in the series, he calls another character much younger than him his “mother”. It’s established at this point we’re supposed to see him this way. Moi’s portrayal of him is very creepy and disturbing. They’re almost always putting him in fetish wear or clothing that’s very inappropriate for him. 

This is actually the photo that made me break my silence. Like, really? They know, and revel in the fact that he’s underage and immature, and goes out of their way to harass others who are uncomfortable with the kinds of stuff they put in the fandom. I’m keeping this confession strictly doll related, or else I could go on how horrible they are too. tldr; They’re the kind of person who thinks being problematic and edgy is a personality trait.

I don’t blame anyone for being unaware. I mean it’s not obvious from a surface level. They’re deliberately hiding this information because they know they’re going to be called out if someone digs into these characters some more. I just happen to be the unfortunate one who likes both. Yay for me! 🥴Just know you’re giving attention to a creep who's very proud of sexualizing minors.

~Anonymous

[thedepressedweasel]

My Hot Take on Parents with One Son and One Daughter

First of all, may all TERFs fuck off! Y'all are not welcome in any of my blogs!

I honestly hate parents who insist on having only one son and one daughter instead of two sons or two daughters (or even only one kid of any gender) because even though I don't care if you want to start a family, so many people tend to have only one son and one daughter and only for selfish reasons.

One of those selfish reasons is that in such families, girls are more often than not forced to be very sweet and docile at all times, wear girly clothes, go to grandma's house every weekend without complaining, go with Mommy to her favorite boutiques without complaining, wear designer clothes (especially haute couture clothes) 24/7 without fussing (even when they're just going to school), marry wealthy older men after reaching a certain age, obey their parents without question, dress up nicely everyday without fussing, go to church/synagogue without complaining and work in the kitchen all day while boys, on the other hand, can just get out there and do whatever the hell they want; therefore, boys can just run rampant, roam free, run wild and do tons of fun shit while girls just get turned into mini-adults. In other words, those families are definitely obsessed with strict gender roles!

Another selfish reason is that in those families, there are parents who deliberately refuse to raise their sons to be responsible, clean, well-behaved, mature, tidy, kind, well-adjusted, well-rounded and genuinely good people...all the while treating girls like criminals for purely being human. Those parents intentionally turn a blind eye on their sons' antics, habits and behavior and, thus, allow them to become bratty, immature, mean-spirited, spoiled rotten, messy, filthy, sinful, lazy, irresponsible and violent, especially towards their sisters. Those parents also allow their sons to not only make human mistakes, but literally get away with being disgusting monsters under this lazy, selfish, irresponsible cop-out excuse of "boys will be boys haha". As for the daughters, their treatment is usually different and not in a good way. In fact, every girl's free spirit is more often than not put into a very small cage and the same parents who unconditionally let their sons get away with everything may typically hyper-criticize their daughters' actions as "unladylike", "inappropriate", "not for girls", etc. and then when the girl naturally resists, her parents would end up abusing her and demonizing whatever little free spirit she may still have left, even saying that she's supposed to serve men at all times, that feminism is a farce, that they were going to strip her of all of her human rights until there's none of them left anymore (no matter how much that would hurt her), that she was awful as a person and that she should be ashamed of herself. Moreover, all the same things the boys can get away with, the poor girls will just get vilified for doing as the parents may continue to abuse their daughters, even to the point where the poor girls would eventually be all too broken down to try to defend their individuality because their parents refuse to separate themselves from this ever-vicious, toxic, male-dominated system called patriarchy. The patriarchy that they happily support.

Yet another selfish reason is that parents who have only one son and one daughter may usually get off on pitting their sons and daughters against each other in their process of refusing to teach them how to truly love and respect each other; they would also allow their sons to treat their daughters like shit and then intentionally refuse to protect the poor girls who would rightfully cry to them about it. These parents may also train and encourage their sons to abuse their daughters, the boys' own sisters, and literally enjoy it. And for what? What is their goal for this, you ask? To breed more and more generations of abusive sons and extreme doormats for daughters. All in the name of "siblings fighting all the time". I mean---this can happen in sons-only and daughters-only households too (yes, I get that), but with one-son and one-daughter household, it's truly terrible.

To make this long take short, I don't care if you have two sons or two daughters or even one son and one daughter; if you really want to start a family, you must be honest about it and then as soon as you have kids, you must love them equally, not separately!

[eelfuneral]

I feel like a lot of people conflate dealing with emotional regulation issues with being immature and/or abusive, and let me say that I am not a fan of this line of thinking.

For starters, there is a big difference between a person having more trouble dealing with the intensity and duration of their emotions than a neurotypical person might and a person making a habit of reacting to these difficulties by lashing out at others. Being an abuser involves making a choice to behave in an abusive manner, and there are plenty of people with emotional regulation issues who do not make that choice. An autistic guy having a meltdown alone in his car during a traffic jam is not automatically a domestic abuser, and his strong reaction to the traffic situation may very well never translate to his treatment of a partner or friend. If it does, then obviously that is abusive behavior, but assuming that this is automatically the case with no other evidence besides the fact that he had a meltdown is inappropriate. There is a world of difference between having an intense emotion that you express in a “dramatic” way and lashing out at others, and people need to be careful when making blanket statements about what a person’s emotional reaction to a situation or object says about their character. Context and individual behavior is important here.

Additionally, making assumptions about emotional intensity and maturity is unfair. People with emotional regulation issues are not “immature babies” for having emotions that seem disproportionately strong in response to something that you see as minor, crying when upset, or generally reacting in a way that you find personally inconvenient. A person is immature when they put their own emotional needs first before everyone else or use their emotions to harm or manipulate others. Simply reacting in a way that some may deem “too intense” does not always translate to this. Nine times out of ten, people aren’t having strong emotional reactions “at” you and are just as frustrated and embarrassed about their reaction as you are (if not more).

Creating an environment where strong emotions are stigmatized and vilified ironically makes people’s emotional regulation issues worse. Sitting with your emotions and learning how to self-soothe in a constructive way is what a lot of us with emotional regulation issues need to work on in order to function better. Refusing to process negative emotions is not a healthy coping mechanism and is actually seen by mental health professionals as avoidant behavior. Additionally, bottling up our feelings because simply feeling them would apparently make us childish monsters makes it so that those negative emotions sit unprocessed for years until they eventually explode into something painful.

Tl;dr - a neurodivergent person dealing with intense emotions is not childish and they are not automatically abusive unless they make a choice to behave in an abusive manner. Telling people to bottle up their feelings is not teaching them “maturity” or “good coping skills” and is actually teaching them a form of avoidant behavior that can bite them in the ass later.

[harocat]

For the violence ask meme, I'm curious about Yuri on Ice and 10, 13, and 25?

10: worst part of fanon: Like as far as worst part of COMMON fanon goes, the worst is anything that undermines Yuuri's skills as a skater.

But I also dislike the fanon that Yurio is Victor and Yuuri's 'son' in canon, as well as 99% of fandom's takes on Chris and Victor's relationship.

13: worst blorboficiation: Yakov. I don't think Yakov is evil or abusive or anything, but he does behave in a pretty inappropriate and immature way for a grown, elderly man in the series. Victor is a twenty-seven year old man who has given Yakov massive success for over a decade, and he legitimately throws a fit and bad mouths Victor to the press about him going to Japan. He acts like a petulant child when they interact after that. You are his coach. He pays you. He doesn't owe you anything. But in fandom, Yakov is usually reduced to a cuddly grandpa who is a little bit grumpy but overall super sweet. And I have no idea how many times I've seen fic where Victor has to apologize to Yakov for doing what he did. He doesn't have anything to apologize for.

25: common fandom complaint that you're sick of hearing: Otabek was robbed. I don't think it's entirely untrue, but Otabek's skating skills, spins, etc. are canonically quite a bit worse than JJ's, and JJ DID complete a far more difficult free than him. Otabek's score in the SP was shockingly high and inconsistent with what we know about his skills. He should have been in fourth place after the SP. His free seems like it was more correctly scored for what we know he put out there.

But like... Otabek is this guy with five minutes of screentime (literally), and the fact that he placed fourth and not third is just... not something I care about when the far more egregious writing mistake, and mistake as far as figure skating accuracy goes, is Yurio winning over Yuuri, the protagonist. And also, JJ is just a much better character than Otabek.

[notgoingwell]

Definitive turn-offs in fanfiction, barring standard issues like wrongly listed warnings, misleading tags and ships, turning a reader into an OC, crossposting, etc.:

-Immaturity (both in the rise of conflicts, as well as, simple dialogue) there's nothing more off-putting than two adult characters behaving like overemotional teenagers that put feelings above reason, entirely neglecting responsibilities and duties. There's always a time and place to address such things, but making hurt feelings the front and centre of a story, where the concerned person repeatedly whinges, is an absolute obnoxious vexation

-Twisted morality eg. villainising a reasonable person due to deviating beliefs one fails to comprehend, or normalising inappropriate, harmful behaviour 

-Insert modern sensibilities into fantasy or science fiction (issues, speech, behaviour, belief systems, etc.) This one especially turns into a jarring experience in a case like, eg. modern girl falls into XYZ trope -> Bear in mind that, depending on the time, and the world, they're in, they'll have to adjust. You won't be able to interact with anyone, less so, them apprehending anything in your colloquial language. (slang, idioms, abbreviations, and jokes) Not acknowledging those significant factors will influence the verisimilitude of your story, disregarding all believability and possible interesting bits you could've written about. Adjustments invite faux pas, trial and error, having severe consequences due to carelessness. One action causes a reaction.

-Out of Character I'm aware some characters are more easily to grasp and get the hang out of when writing them, but it irks me to no end when they all of a sudden talk as the next person on the street would, when they, before, had a unique way with words. (Adding, and this point, might as well, more likely be seen as "to each their own", turning them into something they weren't before because the author felt the need to project their own stuff onto said character)

-Main Character Syndrome (applies to both: Reader-inserts and OCs) Not every character has to be the chosen one, the one who's more powerful, knows all the answers, or is somehow the most special creature to ever have lived. It's okay to be normal and simply exist within this/other universe(s), without ever contributing anything groundbreaking. A small arc of changing one's mind, attitude or belief is as compelling as a larger-than-life adventure, if done right. And if a character happens to possess any special abilities, it'd be fascinating to see them working on their shortcomings and follow them throughout their training to master said skills (which one should not master without ever having trained) Additionally, and I sadly have witnessed this one quite often, to add to a new inserted character's uniqueness and giving them sth. to do, some authors will transfer lines or actions to their new addition from other people in-universe, failing to notice, that they've stolen these people's character-defining moments. There's a way to implement your character in the story without diminishing the roles of everyone around, no matter how minuscule. (don't even get me started on Reader/OC being the sole reason the protagonist/love interest chooses a path, takes action, etc. as shown in the media they're taken out of)

-Lack of creativity this one's tricky to define, especially with the example I'm about to give, 'cause it isn't inherently a bad thing, might as well be down to preference. More often than not, writers tend to insert characters by connecting them to the protagonists in some way, be it through familial bonds, established friendships or replacing the role of a side character. (throwing some shade at Star wars here, since they believe said bond is enough to make a character worth following/investing in)

Yet, it always seems so lacklustre and uncreative to just turn your Reader/OC into a sister, daughter, neighbour, or longtime friend, in order to have an easier way in. Even more so when that status quo replaces the relationship-developing phase of a story. I've always found it more intriguing to have strangers clash and find their way into working as a unit. And if one character simply replaces another, why insert it in the first place? 

Feel free to add.