#and from what i remember they dont misgender her?

[omgcatboi]

You out here hookin for cheeseburgers again Randy?

mans gotta eat.

You know how Ricky love weed so much ? That's me with food ( and weed )

I'd say I'm more like that with food than randy. While I respect Randy's love for fast food, I am more of an entrepreneur of sorts with it. ( For lack of a better word. ) It is an art craft for me as well as a general source of enjoyment and relaxation. I love breaking down the flavors and taking a moment to appreciate and acknowledge them before moving on with the experience. ( Especially if the chef is present ! )

Which is how I feel Ricky is with weed given he is a plug and a grower. Because I'm not just a feedee, I'm a cook as well 👨‍🍳 .

[lilac-set]

Sentence in a post i just saw:

“manhood ONLY exists as the antithesis of transfemininity. men are a class that only exists because they are not trans women, which they define by inferiority, frivolousness, superficiality, inhumanity, perversion, and subordination”

Fuckin. what

- a cistrans intersex man

[13thdoctorposts]

Sometimes it’s important to know when to let a show go. 

When 13 regenerated into 14 and had her clothes burnt off like a witch on a stake, sending a horrible message about women and gender RTD came out and said he did it to protect David from right wing media. Then the fans defended David coming back and that RTD would address why he had that face and why the clothes also regenerated, although I was upset with 13s regeneration I thought ok I’ll wait and see how this get handles. Because even though I don’t like the real world messaging maybe the in world messaging will be enough to make it ok.

But then what happens? We get a trans story for the very first story with very positive messaging for trans issues which is great but undermined by the fact RTD wanted to protect David from gender critiques by the right wing but didn’t seem to want to protect Yasmin Finney. So first David can’t wear Jodies costume for protection but then RTD has Yasmin live through being deadnamed in the show which she herself has said made her uncomfortable and then also gave her character the line of telling the Doctor to not assume pronouns… which any of the characters could have done but RTD chose Rose and then what happen? What always happens with the right wing, the pronoun line and the male presenting line are the ones that the right wing all go on about in every video, in every article… they deadname the character and then misgender and say horrible things about Yasmin… so RTD protects the 50+ year old white man who’s worn way more feminine things then 13 outfit in his career the media could use if they wanted to go after him but don’t protect the 20 year old Trans Woman? How people aren’t talking about how fucked up that is I don’t know.

Then we get no reason why the Doctor has that face and why the clothes regenerated on them. Then in their own regeneration… they don’t! They bi-regenerates and this time Ncuti does get the Doctor clothes, well half of them… why didn’t 15 regenerate with their own clothes? No instead we have the new Doctor walking around with no pants on… and why is it that 15 has to go pantless and not David? are we protecting David again? Perfectly fine to have a bunch of pics of 15 in his tighty whities and no pants but again David could not be seen in 13s full gender neutral outfit. 

Then to top all this off theres no mention in the loves lost of Yaz… even though the Doctor chose to drop her off in a park 3 days ago after telling her if they could Date anyone it would be Yaz… is that not love lost? Was saying good bye to Yaz not an emotional trigger? Now people are saying thats because only the dead were brought up… Rose is not dead unlike Yaz Rose is not only alive in another Dimension but also got herself a Doctor… Yaz currently is mourning the Doctor while they cant even seem to remember she existed despite dropping her off 3 days a go… so they weren’t all dead… however Rose was over 1000 years ago and Yaz 3 days ago… what hurts more the lost of someone you loved but who is still alive from 50 years ago or the one you lost last week? What makes logical sense is the love you lost most recently hurts the most… and people dont need to die for you to hurt losing them from your life if you love them.

Now we have 2 Doctors and people are already saying they can’t wait for David Tennant episodes, so if you think the 10th Doctor overshadowed the other Doctors when he was no longer the Doctor how overshadowed do you think the first main Doctor of colour is going to be when lots of peoples favourite white Doctor ever is also a legitimate Doctor in universe existing at the exact same time with a TARDIS? Ncuti doesn’t event get to be the only Doctor during his tenure he has to share it with David.  

The lastly no mentions of Yaz at all… seems shes completely forgotten and at the very end the Doctor says they are finally with their family the happiest he’s ever been… what a diss of every TARDIS team ever that the Doctor has found family with… your last crew you literally called your ‘Fam’, the Ponds you actually married into… Susan was your flesh and blood… but no this family you haven’t seen in 1000 years, of which only one of who was part of your TARDIS team are the ones you finally found family with and make you the happiest you’ve ever be? Literally at the exact same time the Doctor is sitting at that table saying all of that, Yaz is mourning the Doctor and not wanting to have left the TARDIS, but she doesn’t get a mention because for some reason if it’s a wlw relationship it means nothing and can be ignored completely. 

Honestly by the end the Doctor just seems like a complete prick, and not in a 13 I’m dealing with internal trauma and I accidentally snapped way but just in a I’m a shit person way. Talk about compromised morals, people wouldn’t shut up about it with 13 but the Doctor just left a young woman to mourn them while being the “happiest they have ever been” grabbing themselves a new family and pretending Yaz doesn’t exist. Talk about shit morals. People say Chibs didn’t know anything from 12s era, which wasn’t true it directly affected the way 13 kept the fam at arms length but after watching this clearly RTD didn’t even know what happened in the episode 14 regenerated from 13 in and the previous episode Legend of the Sea Devils, because surely if you did, you wouldn’t not mention Yaz at all and give a reason why the Doctor wouldn’t go see her while she’s mourning them and just grabbing a new family and claiming to be the happiest you’ve ever been in the 2000 years of life you remember. Because that would make the character look like a prick, not a hero, which is exactly what happened. If RTD is the amazing writer people claim, he could have come up with a Yaz mention and a reason why the Doctor wasn’t going to see her.

I know not everyone was happy with the wlw representation with Thasmin but you know what’s way worse? Not even mentioning it or even acknowledging Yaz’s existence.

And to top it off I am so very very over the double standard of the fandom… this episode, had plot holes, had important things that weren’t explained… like why that face and why did the clothes regenerate… things that weren’t explained that weren’t so important like where did the sonic screw driver come from, why can it do all the things it now does… it had racism from both the Toymaker and Donna… what on earth was that line about ‘do you come in every colour’, was paced poorly, it clearly should have been longer and decided to mess with lore by creating bi-rengeration out of thin air and not explaining how it would effect things going forward or why it even happen, like a true WTF… if Chibs had done even one of these things, or wrote this episode the exact same way the fandom would be coming for him instead they are praising the genius of RTD not caring about any of those things, all the sins they claimed Chibs did and some of them on a bigger scale in this episode but the treatment of RTD is the polar opposite. 

It’s unbelievably hypocritical, and makes the fandom look even worse for being so hard on the first female Doctor because none of this was acceptable for her but its not only fine but great with a male Doctor.

So I think it’s time for me to let this show go, and know it’s time to bow out. Because unlike the people who have been horrible about 13 for the last 6 years I understand sometimes you have to step away from something you love when its no longer for you and leave it for other people to love.

Im out with 13.

[velvetvexations]

re anon who talked about claims that white people can't be nonbinary, I have seen it. this was The Discourse in a corner of the internet i was in in like 2021. this person kept literally saying white people can't be nonbinary and quite a lot of people were agreeing with her.

isn't it sad this is the world we live in

It's funny (sarcasm) how many TransRadFems go on and on about how awful they were treated when they were still perceived as "feminine/gay cis men" and how being misgendered as a man as a trans femme is terrible (which is true, of course), but then turn around and say that (trans/cis) men/people who are perceived as men/etc don't ever experience anything bad at all ever. Like.... If that was true, you wouldn't have experienced any abuse while in the closet and would be happy to be misgendered, because it would give you more "privilege" to be seen as such. And yet, somehow, you realize that both of those things aren't actually true and that (real or perceived) manhood does actually come with a lot of oppression. But only when it comes to trans femmes, for some reason, and never trans mascs. It's almost as if you do know that trans mascs experience gendered oppression for being both trans and men, but deny it simply because you're a bigot and want to get away with being a transphobe. Hmmmmmm. 🤔

sometimes they'll admit to trans men being perceived as women but with the caveat "being treated as women is our best case scenario!" as though trans men aren't, just as trans women are, seen as deviants that need killing or correction rather than "just" your average every day cis woman

"Ohhh trans men think of themselves as women/AFAB which is badddd" actually I think of myself as a male cursed by a powerful wizard :)

wizards and magical hot springs are the number one leading cause of trans people

Male cursed by wizard here again tho. I do actually kind of feel a disconnect from the wider transmasc community, as I never feel like I was a woman or experienced what it was like to be one? But that's because I am extremely autistic and weird and have thought gendered expectations were ridiculous for as long as I can remember, and as such have been largely dehumanized by my peers in a way that most girls and "girls" haven't, if that makes any sense? But that doesn't mean other transmascs are wrong for feeling connected to womanhood on some level, it's just not something I can relate to at all. (I don't relate to manhood either for that matter, but that seems to be a more common experience)

gender is a wildly complicated thing and takes a lot to really examine, it's usually different for everyone in small ways

"trans men don't experience misogyny if they pass, but trans women always experience transmisogyny regardless of whether we pass or not" is a WILD fucking take. imagine 'we can always tell'ing your feminist theory as a trans woman. could fucking not be me.

soulgender sixth sense is especially sensitive to trans women whose gender is super special and radiates an aura of purity

Crazy take, feel free to tell me im wrong but i dont think anyone is inherently binary or nonbinary unless specified. I think that every single person on this earth has a slightly different gender (humans are akin to snowflakes and i do not mean this is a derogatory sense). You could put a group of perisex cis women into a room together and all of them would have varying degrees and opinions on what their cis-woman-ness means to them and the same goes for every other label and identity group. And just because someone defies whatever cultural and social norms of identity that have been put on them doesnt automatically make them nonbinary.

it's all just words

What do you think of the "drag is misogynistic" discourse? To me the argument I see is "they're cosplaying being a trans women and thats bad" Which.. sounds exactly like a terf argument but with the word trans slapped in it.

it's a TERF argument and I'm not even into drag

Every time I remember the blahaj discourse I want to simultaneously laugh & light a votive for the trans community's mental health. I am being told by folks who are younger than my personal obsession with sharks (22+ years running let's go!!!) that I cannot possibly fathom the appeal of a stuffie in the shape of a shark, and if I get one anyway, it's appropriation. And yeah, that discourse died pretty soon out of the cradle, but holy shit! It existed! I really hope, for the sake of all involved, that they feel sheepish in the future; better the embarrassment than doubling down on such a — frankly! — ridiculous mindset.

your AFAB man brain simply can't comprehend the true transfymynyn nature of sharks

Idk if this makes me racist but like. It is actually pretty uncomfortable seeing people use non European cultures having 3rd (or 4th or 5th or 6th etc) genders as proof transphobia is a western thing or whatever. Like. Idk I'm biased but as a (relatively) binary trans individual, I don't want to be relegated to a 3rd gender..? Id like to live as any other man, not some 3rd or 4th category of woman-that-acts-like-a-man. I'm happy for the people that see themselves in 3rd genders, but for me it just feels like a painful reminder of how otherized trans people have been historically.... (also I think it's kinda gross to prop up non European cultures as inherently so much better and great and a homogenized soup of betterness instead of. Yknow. Nuanced cultures with their own unique problems and bigotries and positive qualities. Like indigenous cultures don't have to be perfect for colonialism to be bad actually. But that's a separate thing)

yeah it's such an over simplification

just saw someone compare trans women to the omelas child I hate it here.

hard to overstate how much of a pathetic worm one would have to be to say that about themselves with zero irony

help a post appeared on my dash saying "trans men benefit from male privilege" and one person who reblogged it had "transphobes DNI/transandrophobia truthers DNI" on their header

yeah that's the people you wanna put out there first as a DNI trans men who think they're oppressed

Sorry if your inbox is a bad place to vent about this, but I'm so sick and tired of the way Go To Therapy is slung around these days, both as a stealth insult to imply someone is 'crazy' and needs to be 'fixed', but also as the genuine go to (often only) advice that treats it as some sort of fix-all solution. I was deeply traumatized by therapy as someone who's been in and out of it since pre-k and only finally decided to stop going for good in their 30's and being bombarded with the advice to Go To Therapy in every online space I'm part of is exhausting and triggering to the point that I have the word Therapy blacklisted on tumblr. And I can't like, talk about it without being told I just had the wrong therapist and need to keep trying until the right person magically comes along to fix me, as if I haven't spent my whole life trying to force myself into the mold of recovery. Someone not being able or willing to keep trying to heal in the Approved way is often treated as a red flag and a moral failing, and even my own closest friends have this idea in their heads that therapy is absolutely good for everyone and the only valid reason to not be in therapy is not being able to afford it. I'm just tired and I don't want to heal anymore because I don't think I'll ever be healed enough to satisfy anyone, I don't want to get up over and over and over, I want to stay down and rest.

love you anon <3

[the-astrophel-system]

Why Our Alters Mask

tw // brief mentions of ramcoa (no details), using peoples triggers against them, ableism, family being uneducated, brief mentions of deadnaming and misgendering

so, we have a therapist who doesn't specialise in dissociative disorders. but for right now, shes kinda our only option (which is fine, we like her).

but we were talking in our session yesterday and she asked if our mum was aware of our alters and was accepting and stuff. its complicated, but the answer is yes. she's still a bit hesitant, but accepts the fact that we think we have this disorder.

anyway, we mentioned to our therapist that she has been introduced to a few different alters, but we mask almost constantly, so its not like she picks up on it herself.

and our therapist was confused.

again, this is someone who doesn't specialise in this sort of thing, so we do have to talk about our experience and those of people in the community (but y'know she also does have access to scientific and professional stuff, so its not like we're going "our system is the only way it can present").

but i was SO surprised that she was surprised that so many systems mask.

i explained that if you freely drop the mask, thats gonna inform your abusers that what they're doing is working in their favour. they'll learn triggers and use that to their advantage. now, im coming at this from a organic system's pov, we haven't been programmed, nor am i claiming that if systems unmask, they'll automatically be a victim of programming, or later-in-life abuse where the abuser is trying to manipulate the system.

i told our therapist that if you give out your triggers, or you start presenting these switches, people can pick up on those patterns and then use that to their advantage. i clarified and said that i dont think our mum or family would do this to us, its just very very vulnerable and can be dangerous if we unmask completely.

even comments like "you're acting grouchy today", "stop being so childish", and "you never act like this". can all hurt so much and make the system or that particular alter feel guilty for existing the way they do. it would be amazing to unmask around family, but when i have before, i get told im being rude or mean, when thats just how i interact with people. i tease, im a bit blunt, and i tend to swear a lot. im not trying to be rude or offensive, but i constantly feel like an asshole if i do unmask, just because this edgy exterior is who i am.

it can also sometimes be embarrassing for other alters when you do unmask. im sometimes embarrassed by other parts interests, clothes, attitudes, and more. its internalised shit and im working on it. but if we were to unmask, im so worried people wont take me seriously, just because they know of a part who acts differently. and that sucks so much.

another thing is getting told shit like "this is all so confusing", "you have too many alters, how am i supposed to keep track", "you're placing the blame elsewhere because you dont want to admit what you did wrong". comments like that suck so fucking much. i hate them, they hurt, and they're based in misunderstanding.

having many alters (even just any number over 10) can be extremely confusing to others. but i haven't met a single system who expects others to fully know of, remember, and relate to all their alters. all i ask is you accept each new part and if you do happen to remember some names, thats awesome.

it also connects to a lot of gender shit, which our family struggles with. we still cant get them to use our preferred name or pronouns, and we feel like we're too much if we share that we have multiple parts that use different or multiple pronouns. i get that it can be confusing, i understand, especially because my family doesn't see me all that often and if my name and pronouns change each time we see them, it will be a lot to remember. i get it. but my family fills me with so much fear because i feel like they wont try. they wont try to connect with, or understand me. its not fair and its incredibly isolating.

we've also been told that we're placing the blame of negative actions, onto other alters. which, we never do btw. the only time we "shift the blame" is if we try to explain that we don't fully remember what we said or did, because of amnesia. we always try to take responsibility, its just not seen as fair for people to say we're "shifting the blame" any time we try to explain what is going on for us internally. our did isn't an excuse, but its an explanation, yet no one lets us explain.

i explained most of this to my therapist and said that one day we can hopefully be able to unmask more around our family (or even just our mum and brother) so we're less drained all the time. we would get less comments like "why aren't you talking to me", "you're so grouchy", "why are you watching (x show) thats for kids". and more comments like "oh is it (x alter)? thats okay, i wont be mad if you need some time alone", "oh! watching (x show), is this a good episode?", "hey, it seems like (x alter) or (y alter) might be around. i know you're very blunt but just remember to be kind towards your brother", "im not sure if you remember yesterday, but (x alter) and i started this conversation, would you like to talk to me about this, or would you like to wait until (x alter) is back?". or whatever the comments are.

accepting that we are slightly different and not expecting consistency of behaviour, likes, or memories, is so important to us. who knows if this will ever happen for us, idk i guess we wait and see

- virgil (he/him)

[finitevoid]

theres a customer at my job who has like a fixation on me and one of the girls i close with, every couple of weeks he shows up with some kind of bag of candy or something else of that nature and gives it to one of us while winkingly telling us to have a good day and enjoy this candy from him. like he started this by handing my coworker a candy bar one day. my coworkers encountered him by herself twice and he always tells her to share the candy with me specifically, like, that its a gift for us both. ive encountered him by myself three or four times and usually he tells me to share the candy with my coworker, but most recently he walked up to me and handed me a single, individually wrapped oreo. he said, "here, have a treat."

my coworker's been coincidentally moved mostly to morning shift rather than closing which means she wasnt there that day, which means he scoped out the counter to see who was working before going to acquire me some manner of confection. and i walked back over to my shift partner holding this fucking oreo and he was looking at me like i was goddamn insane. and i was like. What do i do with this. emily was like, eat it? i was like I dont want his creepy oreo. so i threw it out

the craziest part is that i dont remember him at all prior to him starting to give us these bags of candy. the first time he did it i was on break, and when i got back my coworker was like You wont BELIEVE what just happened. she recognized him as a regular but i didnt absorb his features whatsoever until he handed me a bag of hersheys kisses and told me to share them with my friend :). and i was like Oh. This is the candy guy . the craziest part is that he never wants anything from us. like he never asks us for cold cuts or cheese or whatever, like, you know, my job? my job working in a grocery store deli? he just walks up to make awkward small talk and give us candy

and like what am i supposed to do about this or think about this or feel about this

i assume he has a crush on me and my coworker but he also manages to always misgender her (Unbelievable) and misgender me (expected) which always confuses me

i never eat these candies (im lactose intolerant anyway) because the thought is kind of weird and slimy. this guy is like 40 and always wears a fedora. and he handed me an individually wrapped oreo and said Have a treat, like, you know, like the way you talk to a dog? ive mentioned this to the closing manager and its like, Whats he gonna do, the guy is categorically harmless so far, its not like he can kick him out. but the vibes are so bad. the vibes are utterly awful . Customer service

[eternallyqiqi]

"Oh, hello Traveller...are you hurt...? Qiqi...will help you..."

Qiqi is a small child from Bubu Pharnacy who helps out Baizhu. Her memory isn't that great, but she carries around a notebook with her to help with that.

Rules

-NO nsfw. Not even suggestive themes. Not a minor personally but qiqi (in my eyes) is a child. Get a grip on yourself.

-Don't be an asshole. We get it, you lost your 50/50 to qiqi, no need to find a random qiqi rp account to complain about it.

-LGBTphobic, Radfems, or otherwise (hateful of any protected group)will be blocked. OP is a trans man and gets misgendered enough and is tired of it.

-Give me at most 48 hours to respond to your ask, if I dont reply by then you can resend it. If your unsure then just ask me. I'm very busy xd

-Dont DM me unless we're mutuals on @barbatoskisser or @thewindstale. No offense, I just dont like being dmed by randos. Yes i will be checking if I dont remember.

-List your pronouns on your bio or in your first ask as an anon! This helps me, and any other potiential others, refer to you correctly. Wouldnt want any misgendering. Eh? XD

-^ above rule does not apply to you if your a character anon. (Ex: venti, i will refer to you with the pronouns your character has. If you headcannon otherwise or just dont like those pronouns, lmk! <3

-I can do descriptive roleplay AND simplified. I will automatically copy your roleplay style sent in your ask. If you want me to rp a specific way, lmk.("Hi my name is jeffrey." Jeffrey smiled politely. / I'm John, Jeffrey's brother *grumbles*)

-Will use american slang. Sorry, i dont know other slang. Any responses in a language are likely a bit scuffed because of google translate.

-Qiqi can be referred to with she/her, dw. XD if you refer to me, op, use he/him or they/them please~ ♡

Stuff about OP

Names Adin/River, a pleasure! I use he/him and they/them pronouns. I'm 18 and a senior in highschool. I also play the viola and have to keep my grades up, so I'm quite the busy human. If you wanna reach me, just go to @barbatoskisser! I'm (usually) active there from 2:00pm to 9:00pm EST on weekdays and 10am to 11pm on weekends. However sometimes you can catch me during classes chatting away with mutuals if I've finished early (which often happens.)

Anon List

-💬Mint - she/her

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Tag List

#bubu pharmacy - stuff about bubu pharmacy

#[your name here...] - stuff about you, or its an ask you sent in! Yay! Thia also includea me reblogginf and continuing a roleplay with another rp account.

#patients - asks (but generalized)

#ooc - something ooc happened, oh no :(

#intro - this post right here! Or add-ons to whats been posted here will be under this tag.

[the-void-writes]

"i hate the way that i dont hate you"

This one was so much fun to write, and it helped distract me from this migraine lol, so thank you so much! I hope you enjoy a small adventure for Pedra and Josephine as they try to outrun an angry pirate crew💖

TW for sword-fighting violence, and a moment of misgendering

The Birth of Paradise - Impossible To Hate You - 1.5k

Pedra was a whirlwind of intrigue. She was bright and funny and full of infectious energy. On a good day, her confidence could inspire those with even the weakest convictions to fight. Josephine adored her spirit, her unapologetic nature, and her passion for life— As well as her passion for Josephine, in particular.

Of course, her thirst for adventure led the crew down some troublesome paths. It wasn’t often that they could go one day without a fight. Passing ships, merchants, random tavern customers minding their business— Pedra always found a way to set them off. Some days, they could dispatch their opponents with ease and make off with a new sword or a bit of gold. Other times, their foes were a little too tough for their liking, and they’d have to run back to their ship.

This was one of those days.

Josephine hadn’t paid any attention to the people entering the tavern. That was for Pedra and the crew to handle, while she made some extra money outside with her music. The soft strumming of her laud brought a bit of tranquility to the humid, bustling docks. Some of the townsfolk even stopped for a moment to listen. It wasn’t the grand audience Josephine had dreamed of, but even this sparse group of generous ears filled her with pride.

Then, there was a long, boisterous bellow from inside the tavern. Josephine quickly stuffed the money she had earned into her bag, already anticipating a sprint for the ship. Sure enough, Lucio and his boys rushed out of the building, arms full of coins and food that spilled onto the ground. Pedra wasn’t with them, though.

“Lucio,” Josephine said, grabbing his arm before he could run, “what happened?”

“Card game,” he said. “We may have cheated a bit.”

The sounds of clashing metal echoed from inside the tavern. Josephine groaned into her hand as she heard Pedra laughing and grunting, a clear sign that she was caught in a duel.

“She couldn’t help herself, could she?”

Lucio chuckled. “Just remember, senora, you chose to run away with her.”

Josephine rolled her eyes and dashed into the tavern. A glass of something foul-smelling flew over her head and shattered against a wooden column. Sailors and barmaids were lined up in one big circle, cheering and throwing their drinks in delight. Josephine squeezed through the crowd and found Pedra in the middle. Her dark coat flowed like the ocean itself as she spun on her knees, her sword in her hands, deflecting the swing of another blade just short of her head.

This blade was long and chipped, worn from years of battle. At the end of its silver handle, there was a large and dirtied fist, and an even filthier smile. The opponent's head nearly reached the ceiling, with a ragged braid cascading from an old hat. Josephine had been around enough taverns to know that this was indeed another captain.

Her arms and neck seemed to bulge under her coat as she swung her sword down again and again. She was too slow for Pedra, who kept sliding around on the floor to evade her strikes. When Pedra saw Josephine, though, she faltered on her feet, and the taller pirate used the opportunity to knock her onto her back.

Before the sword could come down over her head, Josephine deflected it with her laud. The wood splintered under the metal, peppering Pedra’s hair as she rolled onto her feet again. The opposing captain growled and tore the broken laud from Josephine’s hand.

“Stay out of this, ye brat! I want this cheater’s head!”

Pedra scoffed. “Please, ma’am, I don’t have to cheat to beat you in cards.”

The captain clenched her fist, crushing the laud the rest of the way. “Shut yer mouth, ya filthy deckswabber! The sea is no place for little boys playing pretend.”

She flinched as her sword was suddenly slapped out of her hand, with a long slash along her palm. Josephine stood before her, holding Pedra’s sword, fury brimming in her dark eyes.

“Never call her that again,” she hissed.

“Ye just cut the Lord of the Sea… ye miserable wench!”

In the blink of an eye, Josephine was suddenly off of her feet and flying out of the tavern. Pedra had her over her shoulder, carrying her across the docks as she dodged civilians and carts full of goods. The captain burst through the door and pointed at the runaways.

“Stop them!”

They turned a corner and ran up a long staircase, with the captain’s crew pushing through the crowds to chase them.

“Why are we going through town?” Josephine yelled over her shoulder.

“I’m not leading them back to the ship,” Pedra said, “we’ll find another way around.”

“This is not how I wanted to die, Pedra!”

“You’re the one who slashed her hand open!”

“You tried to steal from a woman twice your size!”

They made it to the top of the hill, to a street full of houses. They jumped over crates and up onto the rooftops, but the captain still kept pace with them. She even took a whole crate in her hands and hurled it at Pedra. Bits of wood flew around them, and Josephine deflected them with the sword.

Eventually, they reached the end of the rooftops. The captain looked around for another crate while Pedra searched for an escape. A thick pole stood beside the house, with a long rope running from the top, all the way down to a pole at the very end of the docks. Pedra quickly removed her belt and hung it around the rope. Josie realized what she was planning, and she shook her head.

“Absolutely not.”

“It’s the only way, Josie.”

“I’m not strong enough.”

“Then hold on to me.” Pedra took back the sword and held her hands. “Please, mi amor. I’ll keep you safe, I promise.”

Even after all this time, the touch of Pedra’s rough, warm hands made Josephine’s heart flutter. Her embrace was a blanket of love and security. When she promised to protect her, Josephine believed it with all of her heart. She nodded her head and held Pedra tightly as they readied themselves.

“Are you ready?” Pedra asked.

“Is it too late to change my mind?”

“Yep!”

She jumped off the roof, gripping the belt as it slid down towards the docks. Josephine screamed, but as she felt the wind whip through her hair, she started to laugh. They were flying through the air like birds in a summer sky, unreachable to the world below. Just the two of them, for one beautiful moment in time.

As they neared the dock, Pedra suddenly shouted to her.

“Hold on tight!”

“What��”

She screamed again as Pedra released one side of the belt. They soared past the pole, over a crowd of civilians, and into the water with a loud crash. The waves tossed Josephine around a bit until she could finally reach the surface. Water burned her nose and throat as she coughed. When Pedra surfaced beside her, Josephine slapped the arm of her coat.

“Are you serious?! We could have hit the concrete and died! Why do I follow you anywhere?!”

Any bitterness in her words didn’t seem to register with Pedra. She just laughed and laughed, a sight that Josephine was struggling to stay mad at. Her smile was brighter than the sun itself. Rays of golden light made her damp, orange hair glow like a wildfire, as fierce and untamed as herself. Pedra was freedom incarnate, everything that Josephine had ever wanted. She crossed her arms and looked away, feeling the burn of her flustered face.

“You make it impossible to hate you.”

Pedra hummed and pulled her close. “I’m glad. You saved my life back there. I owe you a debt.”

“A new laud, to start.”

“The best in the world, hand-crafted by the gods of music—” She held her tighter. “Hold your breath.”

Josephine had enough time to take a breath before Pedra pulled her back underwater. Through the churning water, they could see the captain peering over the edge of the docks. She pointed at her crew, and they all ran along the water, searching for the runaways.

They waited a while under the ocean for the captain to be far enough away. Pedra’s eyes fell to Josephine, who held her face and stroked her cheek with a smile. She was a rose, sharp and beautiful, accented by the shimmering water like a living painting. Sailors used to share tales of sirens and mermaids, of goddesses that lived in the sea… Josephine put them all to shame. Her delicate hands pulled Pedra into a deep kiss, one that no wave, storm, or captain could break. With the sea itself as their witness, they would forever be one.

It wasn’t until their lungs burned with a need for air that they finally separated and swam to the surface. They held each other as they caught their breath, with hands tangled in hair and lips still brushing each other’s skin.

“Am I still a thorn in your side?” Pedra asked.

“Oh yes,” Josephine said, kissing her cheek firmly. “But I’d never get rid of you.”

[kinghijinx22]

13 Sentinels Aegis Rim uses obnoxiously tropey anime and predictable sci fi to peddle queerphobic hate propaganda

Last night I started playing 13 Sentinels Aegis Rim. A game that I would describe as being the closest thing to an Evangelion game, moreso then actual Eva games that exist because outside of combat there is a lot of talking and it has a vibe that feels very Eva. And as you might imagine, it's about kids needing to get in the robots to fight the whatever that is coming to Earth to find something we've hidden in a facility deep underground, in this case we fighting aliens instead of angels. Also like Eva it's filled with obnoxious and problematic anime tropes except unfortunately unlike Eva, Sentinels doesn't have the self aware pessimism that Eva has, where it feels like it hates itself which honestly made Eva more bareable.

No, Sentinels does this shit without a hint of self awareness and most of the writing is tropey anime garbage and terrible anime voice acting to go with it. It even makes the underage pilots naked whenever they get in the robot, which just made me unalive the moment I saw it, and the justification for it which I looked up because I don't care about this games dogshit plot, is the most roundabout weeb trying explain the thematic importance of needless sexualisation Ive ever seen next to Quiet from MGS5 breathing through her skin. Also "and it was all a simulation" trope is dumb nowadays and the Wachowsky sisters did it with Matrix 1. And every character is just an obnoxious walking trope and I hate them all.

I think the worst thing for me though is the absolute horrible handling of the few queer characters, like I should have heeded the warnings but yikes. So there is one guy, one of the protagonists we are supposed to route for, who has feelings for a "girl" who we are told is actually a "guy" but the game actually reveals that they are nonbinary, and yet every character continues to misgender and rudely question why they wear the clothes that they do. They literally respond to the "why are you wearing girl's clothes" question with "because some binaries work for me and others dont." The guy who likes them is bi also, which the constant misgendering he does makes him awful bi rep as well i feel. This never stops, and what I learnt from looking up these characters to see if things improve is that it only gets worse. Its revealed that the enby character in the future is in a relationship with the guy who never stopped misgendering, and then literally right after revealing this information they reveal that they are both killed shortly after. The only queer couple in the game. They also like to portray the enby character as manipulating the guy's feelings for them the whole time as well because of course we have to shoehorn in the "trans people are manipulating you" hate propaganda as well.

Something else I wanted to mention is that on top of the horrible treatment of the actual queer characters, very early on they also queerbait with these guys showing what seems to be romantic feelings for eachother when it turns out that, oh it was just this girl character misinterpreting a conversation she was spying on. Queerbaiting an mlm relationship, constantly misgendering an enby character, throwing in a bury your gays trope and potraying the only enby character as a manipulator. I hated everything else about this games writing but the exploitative and horrible treatment of queer folks makes 13 Sentinels unplayable garbage that I wish I could refund.

And it's funny that, I remember it came out the same year as Disco Elysium and seeing people genuinely debating over which had the best game story of the year between these 2 which is absolutely hilarious, like it's not even close. Disco Elysium is actually a super well written game which handles a lot of very sensitive and intense subject matter with so much care, talks very directly about a lot of very relevant sociatal issues and also, actually has well written and tactfully handled queer characters as well. I mean the best and one of the most well written characters of that game, Kim Kitsuragi is a gay man.

[dreamhot]

no ur so right lee, like that 'joke' is so pathetic??? i remember the first time i heard it was when people thought dream was using they)them pronouns or whatever that discourse was, and people we're like "well if he's using they/them I'm not going to use it" and i was like, you would willing let yourself be misgendered the rest of ur life cause some utber you dont like is like you? like sorry, people you don't like can be similar or have the same characteristics as you? if every single time you met someone and you didn't like them, but you both looked/acted/did similar/the same things, you stopped doing that thing or acting like that or changed your appearance you would literally be different almost every day of your life?? like hello? people you don't like are gonna be similar to you, everyone is similar to everyone you just have to get over it and move on, especially if it's such and incredibly surface level thing like how you look/how you do a specific thing.

it's (at least in part) because some people have a tendency to self-actualise solely through their labels, so they take it personally when someone they don't like shares that trait. they defensively interpret it as commentary on who they are as a person, as though having the same diagnosis as the disliked party means you're inherently similar in All ways. as opposed to just, yknow, having the same diagnosis.

if we were operating with this logic at all times, what would that mean when considering people like caitlyn jenner? like, she's obviously a piece of shit human, but that has nothing to do with her being trans. are we supposed to deny her transness, or our OWN, simply because she's an awful person? NO, because that's goddamn stupid. the quality of one's character exists independent of labels, and it would benefit these people to separate morality from identity

[kasaneteto]

anyone else remember the badgers yt video

sorry this isnt about that i just didnt know what to type above the cut im venting about my job again 👎

i really love working where i do but i think the unprofessionalism of it all has caught up with me. im realizing in retrospect that many small comments made by my boss were in her mind her “talking to me” about my cleaning not being up to standard but like. im sorry but making a comment like “i left a pile of crumbs under one of the tables to see if you would sweep it up” is not properly communicating an issue to me. like that reads as a joke. how am I supposed to take that as an actual criticism when its so passive aggressive like im obvs gonna assume thats anjoke when youre my BOSS?? especially when you know im autistic like you cant just imply something and expect me to get it. shes ACTUALLY talked to me about cleaning better once and that was like 2 weeks ago. and now this. so youve had more problems than just my cleaning and never communicated it to me and now im being punished for a problem that was literally just brought to my attention. i wish this didnt happen literally right before my three days off because now ive been brooding over it and the idea of going into work tomorrow has me chewing my foot off with anxiety. like if i talk to her about this and she shows no compassion or empathy from my perspective on this then im going to have to look for a second job. and i dont want to fucking do that because this is a really sweet deal ive got going on here. however……there is a queer coffee shop that is way closer to me and it would be so nice to not be misgendered by everyone i work with, to not have to serve primarily old conservative white men, to not have to put up with the insane lady next door or the insane entitled regular……it would be nice. but we’ll see how it goes.

[baby-yaga]

i had an argument with my mom the other day. it wasnt like... life or death. she was talking about "trans regret" or something and i dont think she was intending to be hateful, but she lives with my grandparents who listen to fox news all day long and views herself primarily as a centrist, so her views were not as compassionate as i believe she thinks they are.

predictably, things got heated. she brought up when i told her "i thought i was a boy", i guess as some sort of gotcha!!

i guess she forgot what actually happened when i came out as trans. i come out as a boy. she didnt kick me out, didnt yell at me, only told me that she "wished i wasnt, because no one wants their child to have a hard life". it wasnt that bad.

so for several months, i was out to her. i was binding my chest, open about it, i thought things were gonna get better like they did when i came out as a lesbian. after some time, she got over her initial reaction and then things were fine.

but that isnt what happened. every time id correct her when she misgendered me, regardless of how patient i was, or gentle, she would snap at me. repeatedly told me how hard it was on her. that was fine, i thought it would get better.

it never did. it seemed to get worse as time went on. she seemed like shed totally stopped trying. and whenever i corrected her, shed yell at me. if i corrected her more than once a day, i was pretty much guaranteed to get the silent treatment for at least a day.

it was more trouble than it was worth. i stopped binding around her. stopped correcting her when she misgendered me. i never brought it up again until she did a couple days ago. i think it was shocking to her that that was the reality, and not what i guess shed thought all along, which was that i simply changed my mind about being transgender.

she said something like, "what about when you thought you were a boy?" implying that if id transitioned when i came out to her, i would have regretted it. i told her "i still feel that way. if i could transition tomorrow, i would." she looked shocked. and then she looked sad. i told her, "i came out to you. and you werent supportive. so i gave up on expecting that from you, but i never changed my mind. ive known i was trans since i was 16."

in the end, i dont think we really came to a deeper understanding of each other. i told her i dont expect her to view me as anything other than her daughter, but that doesnt change the reality. she nodded in understanding, i think. she knows she cant change how she views me, and genuinely, not putting on a brave face, ive accepted that. of course i would love it if she could accept this, and support me, but i know she cant. she wont. its just not something shes capable of accepting.

im not mad at her still. if im correct, that conversation happened when i was... 19 maybe? and im turning 31 next month. i really am over how she reacted then. but i couldnt make myself just accept her throwing that back in my face, and implicitly validate that view she has of me. i havent changed and i wouldntve regretted transitioning. im still transgender. ive known that for almost half of my life at this point.

i guess i just wish that she was capable of apologizing. because id actually blocked out a lot of that time, and only remembered once she brought it up again. it was a really terrible time for me, and i dont think she understands that her support wouldve made all the difference.

[demisexual-eddie-diaz]

Hello, it's the anon from the last " is this transphobic?" ask

if i am afraid of misgendering someone, and i am not completely close to them, should I avoid them (while still maintaining cordiality?)

context:

the person in question used to be a friend of mine, before we mutually drifted apart but remained friendly

After this, they came out as a trans ftm, but eventually found themselves to be non-binary

it's been over five years, and I haven' t seen them much since we have very different classes.

They are SUPER nice but i still catch myself slipping with pronouns sometimes. I can remember their name perfectly though (no deadnaming, but then again I haven't interacted with them much since we drifted).

The fact that it's been so long since they've come out kind of negates the excuse of "not being used to it"

On the other hand, the language we speak at home does not have gender neutral pronouns (i mean they might have come up with some, but my parents sure don' t know about them/wouldn't use them) so my friend is still referred to with feminine pronoun, on the occasion that they are mentioned.

They were only male-identifying for a short period, but i think i had an easier time remembering the male pronouns. so maybe its because im not used to gender neutral pronouns, since all the books I've read only use he/she for the third person singular?

i dont think it would be obvious if i DID avoid them since they have other friends and we dont interact much in the first place

i dont want to alienate or "other" them by making it seem like im walking around eggshells around them--- even if i often am.

also, are they even still nonbinary???? they dont correct me when i slip up, so maybe the pronouns they use have changed??? but its probably because they're just a kind person

Hi, friend:)

To start with, I think the easiest thing pronoun wise would be to just use their name as much as possible.

Example:

A - “Who’s that?”

B - “Matthew. We’re friends.”

A - “How long have you known Matthew?”

B - “I’ve known Matthew for three years.”

As for ‘slipping up’ on their pronouns and not knowing whether or not they still identify as non binary, the easiest thing is to just ask.

Truly, you don’t have to worry about upsetting trans people by asking their pronouns. As long as you’re being respectful and don’t ask too personal questions. The classic ‘what’s in your pants’ question would be an example of going too far.

I know that as long as I’m with a safe group of people, not around my unsupportive family, then I’m perfectly okay with telling people my name and pronouns.

Example:

(Me) - Hello, I’m Matthew. My pronouns are he/him.

(My friend) - Hi, my name is Julia. My pronouns are she/her.

It’s really is that easy and as long as you use the name they’ve asked you to use, and you try to say their name and not pronouns as much as possible, it would probably go a lot smoother.

As for the language part, I’m not sure what language you do speak, but I know that this was a problem for one of my friends. They’re Mexican and only speak Spanish at home. There are a few queer organizations working on discovering new ways to say singular they/them in other languages. As for the book part, I’d recommend going to a library or bookstore and just reading a book centering a gender non conforming character. The book will use the singular they for that character so it would be good practice. Also, you used the correct pronouns when typing this so maybe just writing about your friend or even making stories about characters with they/them pronouns can help.

I hope that this was helpful, I’m a binary trans person so I gave the best input I could. If it makes you feel any better, I will say that even as a trans person I mess up on some of my friends pronouns. If I knew them before then I do sometimes mess up. I will say that the name is the easier part, pronouns can be more difficult.

Also, if you have any other questions you could ask here or private message me. Either are fine.

- Matthew(he/him)

[3point14a]

hi i read ur post abt jitter doll being weird and i remembered my theory abt puppet and mai being maipet and maybe they're related??? like ok hear me out.

its name is maipet which is self explanatory. maipet talks about itself in plural (themselves? am i misgendering the rat) and its color palette is very similiar to mai and puppet's. it says its a multidimensioanl energy that has infinite representations in time and space. so it makes me think that like, since z3r0 is an au, in that universe maipet is the little creatue, while in the main series the same enrgy's representation is mai and puppet, two people bc the entity is plural in itself. and that would kinda explain the weird knowledge they both have about shadows and stuff. also pup and mai dont appear in z3r0 and maipet fulfills the same role they did in s2 of being a guide to fred and freddy about shadow stuff. so like. what if the reason jitter doll is so Weird with regards of being human and feeling emotion is because pup was born human but is also a multidimensional being with knowlege no humans have at the same time. and that is going to make life weird. especially bc, like u said, his only connection is mai which, in this theory, they both are the same energy so he actually has no connections at all. how can u function as a normal human being, having emotions and relations, when u know u are not entierely human and there is something very different about you, but you've also been "human" your entire life. also maipet said it is "everything and nothing at the same time" so it could relate to what u said of mai being full of emotion and everything while puppet is hollow, they are the everything and the nothing respectively. "ok but what about mai""what about the explosion and evil and machine stuff" good questions. idk. "but z3r0 isnt canon" yes but also i find it interesting and it kinda is a continuation of canon? in a way? idk

hope i didnt give u a stroke with whatever this is i am leaving it at ur doorstep like a dead bird i just caught

OOOOO THATS COOL! I HADNT HEARD THAT!!! i love that,, that sure is gonna make life weird for sure forreal.... Those strange fucking twins.... i think mai is plenty of weird on her own and one COULD shoehorn how shes like?? not afraid ever into that theory somehow,,,, shes plenty imbalanced herself with how shes filled with energy and has like ZERO sense of danger... something something

also z3r0 not being canon stops no one its always fun to look at stuff from it and rattle the bars of your cage, god bless

i did not in fact get a stroke i really liked that :D! sorry i dont have much to add though lol. Thanks for the dead bird ^^ <3

[aeroplaneblues]

Jjk VOL 18✨

tl;dr thoughts: this is a set up volume not much happened but i like it anyway, kirara is cute idk if we get more about them later but i hope so🥲

- i love panda so much

- Megumi’s hiding in literal shadows will never not be super cool thing from his technique

- Kirara’s technique is actually pretty cute but also great? Very hard for people to know about constellations enough to figure theirs out

- SIDENOTE: I remember when the ch came out and everyone was confused if the translation was misgendering kirara, but panda calls them a boy because thats who he knew and once the meet kirara both panda and megumi use “they”. I guess thats a way to not misgender? Idk if we ever get their backstory

- Hikari is just funny, i wish we would’ve met him before but i still feel this was a good intro

- Higuruma is one of the few new characters from this arc i dont hate, there is something compelling about him that makes sense with how yuuji is right now (the whole cog thing) bc who else but a lawyer knows whats like to be stuck in a system that should work in a way that is just but it doesnt

- “The space between dream and reality is a curse” idk why i like this so much but it also reminded me of the current hsr main arc

- Why did kenjaku saved sasaki and said that thing😂 whats up with this guy

- Ah remi.. what a waste of a fun design lmao kugisaki would’ve destroyed her

- The extras has the ranking for valentines and gege was glad that nanami won but when it came to gojo he was like “i guess he isn’t dead yet” broooo??😭😭

[thatone-highlighter]

In return for the Alice and Coopy photos Here’s some bad photos of the stray cat my family has been feeding, his name is Pete [he’s technically a girl but I don’t think he cares about getting misgendered]

Holy Shit Pete!!

I love Pete bestie…. When i was younger my family also fed a stray cat on our street. I dont remember what her name was but she just kept showing up so we fed her. And then it turned out she actually lived like 2 houses down the street and we made friends with her owner and he gave us eggs from his chickens