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get your sexual propositions the fuck off the asexual tag <33
#this is a warning#btw#i go through and start reporting the hell out of all of it#regardless of anything else#if it's not asexual sex#it doesn't need the asexual tag!#and even if it is asexual sex#slap a “read more” and/or content warning on it so it doesn't just pop up and ruin someone's day#the asexual space needs to be a safe space for asexual minors#okay?#asexual#asexuality#asexual rage#<3
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i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues
#oh the experience of being 13 years old and seeing all my friends talking about wanting to have sex and obsessing over it#and being like 'we are all literally WAY too young to be having sex what the actual fuck are you talking about#why are you even considering it when we have much more important things to worry about. like how much middle school sucks'#you know what though. i still stand by this. that was an entirely reasonable thought to have and i WAS being normal about it#anyway#mine#asexuality
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Listen man, you guys can't be like "you guys need to be normal about asexuality" and then turn around and get weirdly judgemental when you find out someone doesn't have sex by choice. Like that's weird that some of you do that.
#like I love sex im glad we're hyping it up#but also genuinely some of you have got to learn how to be normal around people who dont want to have sex#even if you're not talking about asexuality when you say stuff like that you're still being a weirdass#im not ace myself but i keep seeing posts that come across like they're taking it personally that other people don't want to have sex#it sounds like theyre trying to prove something to someone
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thank you people that make music that isn’t about love or sex whatsoever I love you people that make music that isn’t about love or sex whatsoever
#they might be giants#lemon demon#oingo boingo#<- and even when they DO write about love and/or sex it’s more bizarre and interesting than JUST that#aromantic#asexual#aroace
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You know what? I want a whole post for this:
Sex Repulsion is not the same thing as, or an excuse for, Sex Negativity
non-negotiable!
I am a sex-repulsed asexual. This means that I am uncomfortable and repulsed by the idea of engaging in sexual acts. This does not mean that I have an excuse to be repulsed by other people's sexual attraction or the right to police how other people engage in or express sexual acts or attraction.
Young queer people need to learn the difference between sex repulsion and sex negativity, and actively work to unlearn sex-negative attitudes. Asexuality, even sex-repulsed asexuality, is and should be fully compatible with sex positivity.
If you are uncomfortable with the idea of other people feeling sexual attraction or engaging in sexual acts that do not involve you in any way, that is not sex repulsion it is the cultural Christianity and you need to seriously work on that.
#we as asexual people have got to have a talk about this because the shit i have been seeing is NOT okay#asexuality#sex positivity#this is largely intracommunity allo people can engage w/ it but don't be clowns#original post#500#1k#PLEASE STOP TAGGING THIS AS 'CULTS' YOU CAN CRITIQUE A RELIGION W/O CALLING IT A CULT I AM BITING YOU#this barely even mentions Christianity like someone does not need to be in a cult to be sex negative. and also not all religions are cults#please be normal#other than that y'all have actually been very normal abt this one so far thank you#2k#5k
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They've captured the asexual experience.
Ace people clearly explaining they do desire some level of physical affection, but don't care/want sex. Then allo people too stuck in their own experiences to even try to accept and understand
#no cause even as a sex indifferent asexual (as opposed to sex repulsed) it's annoying to explain#wandee goodday#bl series#lgbt#gay#asian lgbtq dramas#asexual#asexuality#wow actual ace rep#asexual representation
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Even if an asexual does find sex to be gross that still doesn't give you the right to infantalize them.
#text#ace#asexual#aroace#sex repulsed#sex averse#i keep seeing ppl say that they shouldnt be infantalized for being ace because they dont find sex gross#but also its important to note even if you did find sex gross#that is not a reason to infantalize someone#its not childish or innocent to be repulsed by sex...#me being repulsed doesnt mean im a child
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This gig is doing wonders for my self-esteem related to my age tbh
#no one can know i don't like sex#asexual#aging#ace#asexuality#my art#nonburger#yeah yeah i know you're not supposed to put yourself as an artist because of your age#and it's not a race and everyone at their own pace yadda yadda#you try telling me you haven't felt anxious at least ONCE over those things#unless you're one of the talented young ones obviously#...and even then#anyhow#this is a breath of fresh air
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ok but hear me out. how fun and crazy would it actually be if we talked about asexuality as a spectrum more?
consider this? aces who like sex but don't like being touched themselves? aces liking and getting off on pain stimulation but not pleasure stimulation? Aces who don't like getting off but like sex? Aces who use a one to ten scale to gauge sexual ability but never fully make it to ten. Aces who are happy at a level seven, or four, or two. Aces who like some aspects of sex but not all. Aces who get bored in the middle of sex and stop. Aces who are super into over the clothes stimulation. Aces with boundaries.
#dreamy sigh#that is all#im just a stone ace trenchcoat gender agent#and i really love being ace#i really love my relationship to sex#i really love my disinterest with sex#i love all the complicated fluctuation of emotion that it brings#i love pain#i love pain as a means to pleasure#i love kink even when i don't like sex#i just felt like talking about this#i love the flag so much and i love how i fit into it#asexuality#vent post
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of all the good reasons to have an ace headcanon for him, why would you land on this
#not maintagging this#and I wish I could say this was a singular instance#but sadly it isn't#people can be uninterested in sex without being reduced to children or having their intelligence insulted#not even mentioning that a-spectrum experience is so varied in general#the two sides of terrible asexual generalisation: unfeeling robots and children#if you say someone is too dumb or emotionally immature to understand sex#you imply that if they just grew up a little or learned a bit more they would change their mind#ace people get that kind of patronising enough we don't need the call to come from inside the house as well
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I don’t understand the concept of sex as the natural progression of romance. I understand having sex, I understand how it can be romantic, I just don’t understand how it is seen as the only course that romance takes.
Like love confessions immediately turning to sex is always so ???????? to me. Like ok get it I guess but how did we get here???
#it’s just very confusing to me#i don’t quite get how romance and sex are connected#to me those are two very disconnected things#like yeah i could probably hook up with a hot girl at a club#but i don’t think id ever confess my love to someone and immediately#jump their bones or whatever#what even is love actually#might be aro#idk#asexual#aroace#cw sex mention#asexuality#cw sexuality#arospec#acespec#my txt#1k notes
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Post-Flashpoint comics have been trying to push the idea of Jason as a ladies man and each time I have just not been convinced I say this with all the love in my heart I will concede to the fact that Jason Todd has had sex maybe 3 times. If I’m being generous
#I am not even an aroace Jason truther the way a lot of my dc mutuals are I just don’t see sex/romance as something he necessarily would#seek out. He’s too allergic to vulnerability for that#I don’t see him as completely asexual but def on the spectrum somewhere and he’s got low libido#New earth Jason was too busy being insane to engage in romance and that’s exactly how it should be methinks#too busy scheming to hook up#Jason Todd#dc#also he should have no rizz when it comes to someone he actually likes. I think rhato made that canon actually
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Seeing people only use "but some asexuals have sex!!!" and "some aromantics are in romantic relationships!!!" so they can sexualize & ship the little representation we get makes me hope someone explicitly establishes a popular character as sex-repulsed so we can see the shippers get cooked online for it
#i'm not even complaining if someone specifically writes an asexual character as a sex-favorable ace#or puts the aros in qprs or writes a romantic relationship exploring how a character who doesn't experience romantic attraction navigates i#but if all you do is discard their asexuality & use the existence of sex-favorable and romance-favorable aces as a gotcha#to hide the fact that you're just portraying this character as allo anyway#we all know what you're doing#asexual#asexuality#aromantic#aro#ace#aroace#sex repulsed
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This is something I'll probably never actually do but I'd love to take a plain white t-shirt and write 'I HATE SEX' on it. I'm sex repulsed, not sex negative, but it's annoying how somehow you have to justify being sex repulsed by specifying that you're not sex negative
#ace#asexual#acespec#also even if some sex repulsed people are sex negative what exactly is the threat there. they're not breaking into bedrooms#the worst case scenario is them being annoying online which is not a legitimate issue
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listen im ace and im pro kink at pride and whatever, but the way some of yall are wording your posts in response to the backlash against it is uh. really taking me back to the ace shitcourse era.
yall know theres nothing wrong with being a "virgin", right? that its not inherently shameful to have not had sex, to never have sex, even if youre not ace, even if you do want to have sex someday, like, its fine that you haven't had sex?
maybe if your problem is that theyre trying to police your behavior and shame you for expressing your sexuality, you can say that? instead of resorting to "haha stupid virgin gets no bitches" like my god. do you not hear how fucking regressive that attitude is? i know, i know, youre "joking".
get a better joke
#toy txt post#god im going to regret this post im gonna regret it so much i can feel it in my bones#let it flop..........pls#internalize my message let it sink in and understand what i am saying and then let the post flop#i say. knowing the ppl who need to see such a message are the ones who will make me regret this post and regrwt not having#1 million bajillion disclaimers#virgin is in quotes bc its a bullshit made up stupid purity culture concept anyway and quite frankly i hate even seeing the word#disclaimer: the previous sentence is not me saying that it is a slur for asexuals. it is me a single individual saying this specific word#grosses me out to read and see everywhere when its a stupid bullshit binary made up or at least historically largely used#to shame largely women and i dont know why we're still using it in 2023#and ive just been. seeing such an uptick in this whole like. attitude? lately and like#im ace im minorly sex repulsed. mostly about anything sex at me bad. other adults sex at each other consensually? go wild#i like to think im pretty chill about it. i try to be. i think its fine ig to be like 'my meat is huge i fuck so much so good'#like okay not my thing but good for you. love that for you#but then some of yall have started turning it back around back to. 'haha your meat so small and shriveled you get no bitches'#'haha stupid incel virgin' like okay. didnt realize we all went back to fucking. middle school but okay#god im gonna run out of tine to get ready for my thing writing this stupid post UGH evil#but like idk we've kinda circled back to being like haha being a virgin still is stupid and silly and shameful#and if im quite honest. i do think the acecourse played a part in that bc i felt like we were making good progress in like#hey guys is fine to not have sex ever if you dont want to its fine to not want sex its fine#and then aphobes went fucking rabid on us and splintered and destroyed online communities all over but especially on tumblr#and so many aces went back in the closet we stopped talking about it we stopped spreading awareness and now this stupid goddamn like#and now this stupid bullshit attitude is back where its like funny to call someone a virgin as an insult but like no bro trust me its okay#its okay for me to do it bc im a hot queer person with huge meat instead of a cisstraight frat bro with huge meat#? like you know the issue was the behavior right? not the fact that it was straight dudes saying it? its bc the thing being said was shitty?#you know you can dunk on the puritan bitches trying to police your behavior at pride without getting us as collateral damage right#stop making me read that stupid ugly ass word ur not cool or funny#whatever#if you come on to this post to start shit i will not only block you but as many of your mutuals and followers as i can find. i will scroll#i will block this entire fucking website if i need to do not test me. i am exhausted and the acecourse ate up all my tolerance in 2015.
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Oh so when repulsed ppl or non-partnering ppl bring up their experiences it's suddenly "not all aros/aces! Don't generalize the community!" But a choir of assholes crying out "Aros and aces can still date!" In response to ppl pointing out the erasure of those who don't is not generalizing and totally fine? Yeah, uh huh ok.
#text#aro#ace#aromantic#asexual#aroace#idk its interesting how these people dont have to put qualifiers on their posts#stating aros and aces can still date in response to a character that has expressed otherwise#but yeah ok repulsed and non-partnering aspecs are the problem here#and them expressing opinions on their experience needs to have a million disclaimers#to even have the chance of being viewed as valid#uh huh ok. tell me again abt how much u support aro aces#and definitely arent bias towards the ones that you can pretend are “normal allos”#romance repulsed#sex repulsed#non-partnering
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