#and also being HORRIBLE for the environment

[bullet-prooflove]

Been loving the jack abbot fics soooo much!! Crazy idea to add to the dr faye/ mrs abbott universe, but I've been thinking about them as new parents, like they got pregnant later in life (I'm assuming 40s, but I suck at guessing ages lol). And basically them adjusting to new parent/baby and being doctors.

So this is probs not the answer you wanna hear but as my followers know I shoot from the hip. I honestly do not think they want children and here's why:

Jack sees horrible shit in the ER, < think of the little girl drowning and the college kid Nick, who ended up brain dead. (and that was just in a 12 hours shift) I think he would be terrified of wearing his heart outside of his chest (how having a kid is often described by parents to other people) esp with the world turning to hell in a handbasket. He couldn’t imagine anything worse than bringing a child into a world like this.

Also he’s late 40s in a career that basically demands all the time and mental bandwidth he has, he chose that because it’s the closest to a battlefield he can get. We see it in the shooting ep where his combat training kicks in and he starts the disaster protocols, he thrives and excels in that environment, the adrenaline of it. If they had a kid he would more than likely have to give that up to be around for it and I honestly think it would be determinantal to him.

Faye is probably ambivalent on children. I feel like she has a few nieces and nephews, she likes being the cool aunt. She’s worked really hard for her career and having a child past 35 comes with complications, she would have to slow down and switch to private practice for her child’s safety and that’s not where her heart is. I think she’d be unhappy with that choice but would ultimately do it for her family.

If it did happen for them, it would be a surprise baby and it would cause a lot of upheaval to their lives, it would mean a complete change in professional trajectory. I think Jack would soften and be very loving over it but I also think it would be his greatest tragedy because he knows how hard the world is now. He would be devastated that he’s brought something so innocent into somewhere so cruel and I don’t think he’d ever be able to reconcile with that.

[sadkachow]

how the fuck did my english class manage to take a semi-positive stance on generative ai

[fantasyinallforms]

Man...I'm getting really sick of seeing AI in places it dosent belong. Go detect cancer cells and leave my damn art and literature alone. I need an AI fly swatter at this point.

[cinnamoncianna]

literally hate that I had such a bad experience w a female PI bc how can you do this we are women in stem together this is fucked up

[ruvviks]

coming up with zombie apocalypse stories is always fun because you can just say whatever and people will just have to take your word for it

[ablednt]

Granted I have the overall geographical and cultural knowledge of a 4th grader but from what I can tell the nuclear family model really does seem to be a white colonial invention

Different cultures have different approaches but I mainly hear about either large family units where multiple generations support each other and raise their children and grandchildren together or an "it takes a village" approach where children are raised somewhat communally

And I can't really speak on it much or claim that these families were free of abuse or that children aren't often an oppressed group basically everywhere I know of but the way ownership of your children is so engrained into white society is so bizarre

Like once you notice it you can't unnotice it even the most loving well meaning parents don't know what to do about it because everyone is so isolated from their own families and their own communities so you wind up with 1-2 parents who have full legal ownership of their child and are raised in a culture where you don't have personhood until you're 18 and all attempts at self actualization before them are seen as clueless rebellion. Like our culture is so divorced from the concept that a parent is someone who is helping mentor and care for their child so they can thrive as a fellow human being and it's actually so alarming

And ik this problem isn't unique to white and colonized people but it's honestly really soothing to hear about how other cultures approach and view parenting and community as a whole and to internalize it doesn't have to be this way

[chaosbloot]

Thy twas boarded

[ruvviks]

so massively unwell about nathan x ru/vik

[designernishiki]

I wanna flesh out a yakuza oc but every time I think about it I end up thinking about an oc of mine who already Exists who’s not a yakuza oc. but is, in fact, an oc who is a yakuza. and that fact is genuinely completely unrelated

[discountdyke]

i'm honestly surprised i haven't seen anyone talking about how offensive the "you wouldn't last an hour in the asylum where they raised me" taylor swift lyric is? like, it isnt just another bad lyric (although it is a bad lyric, and a poor metaphor) its EXTREMELY offensive and sanist and i cant believe the number of people who think its okay to say shit like that because she allegedly has depression?

the history of asylums is incredibly dismal and rife with horrific abuse of adults and children, and continues to be so today. its not funny or clever to compare growing up in the public eye to being surrounded by crazy people. you cannot be saying shit like "haha its like i grew up in an insane asylum" when children and teens and adults spend years of their lives trapped in institutions with no power over their own circumstances.

yes, obviously its very silly because shes a nepo baby whose daddy bought her fame and recognition, and yes, being a child/young adult in the public eye is difficult, but its grossly offensive to compare that to the conditions people faced due to institutionalization.

[kkujo]

out of tags bc i rambled but i wanna add on that often gym culture is a rlly supportive and confidence building environment and there's so much positive gym content but unfortunately some ppl do take it in the wrong direction and it becomes like. toxic gym bro culture. we do not like that. take care of ur health physical and mental first and foremost always!!!

[m0tel6mxzzy]

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[coridallasmultipass]

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[ghostprinceiii]

As soon as I get home I am never leaving my house again.

[argentconflagration]

when the subject of "why do people believe things that are seriously wrong and harmful" comes up it feels like you kinda hear one of two perspectives:

"oh, that's easy! it's because they're fundamentally Bad people who want to hurt others and choose their beliefs to justify that! :) hope this helps"

or

"they just don't have access to the same information we do. look at this person who was raised in a cult! don't you feel sorry for her?"

and like, yes, fine, some people were in fact raised in cults, but what i wish people would understand is that the bulk of it is just normal human flaws, like:

they want to believe stuff that makes them feel smart and cool and like they've figured everything out (you also do this)

they want to believe stuff that makes them feel like their emotions are justified and grounded in reality, and that the people they want to hurt deserve to be hurt (you also do this)

they form conclusions before they've processed all the relevant information, and cling to that first impression even when new info comes to light (you also do this)

they pick up beliefs from the people around them because they want to be liked and fit in, not because the beliefs are good or true (you also do this)

they come up with reasons that the stuff that benefits them (and the people they like and identify with) is actually overwhelmingly best for everyone and obviously the right thing to do (you also do this)

they pay more attention to stuff that supports what they already believe and avoid looking in places that might show them otherwise (you also do this)

they listen to people who talk like 'one of them' and ignore others (you also do this)

they come up with reasons to dismiss people with conflicting viewpoints as obviously in bad faith or ignorant or a shill or evil (you also do this)

they fail to take their own beliefs seriously sometimes, and take their beliefs way too seriously other times, in a selective way that lets them do the things they already wanted to do (you also do this)

the very ways they construct the ideas of 'knowledge' and 'wisdom' and 'belief' and 'understanding' are biased so that what they don't want to believe comes under lots of scrutiny and what they do want to believe receives less (you also do this)

you, dear reader, are presumably right about everything and were correct to die on every hill you've ever died on, but the difference between you and someone who's wrong about important stuff doesn't look like "well they're inherently evil and i'm not", it probably looks like a combination of:

natural environment (they would have been exposed to different information than you regardless of their choices)

being in the right place at the right time (your particular profile of flaws and virtues happened to be what was needed to lead you to the right conclusions, they had the opposite experience)

random luck (you doubled down on what felt right to believe but wasn't, but it turned out to be inconsequential, or even right for different reasons, while they doubled down on what turned out to be a horrible mistake distorting their entire worldview)

you do less of the things in the previous list, and over time the difference between you and them adds up

and, look, i also do these things. the nicest and most thoughtful people i've ever met do these things. if you meet someone who never does any of these things, i dunno, give them a fucking medal or something.

i know you're doing your best. we're all doing our best.