#and also EXTREMELY cishet feminism

[genderkoolaid]

like if you saw the barbie movie & felt like it was putting into words feelings about womanhood you haven't seen represented, and that it's take on gender is something necessary and important. im glad it could do that for you but you like, DESPERATELY need to engage with feminism more because this movie did not say anything that hasn't been said a million times on feminism Facebook meme pages. and personally I think it was very well made & enjoyable & even had a very beautiful message on being human & what that means. and I don't think this movie could've been made without engaging with feminism because of Barbie's cultural impact. but this is not really a Feminist Movie (nor should it be expected to be!), as much as it is a movie where feminism is part of the plot.

just saw the barbie movie with my friend & really enjoyed it! however i already have seen some extremely Cis Straight Woman takes on it & its feminism lol

[cowboysmp3]

barbie was a good movie but it was a very cishet experience of feminism which is totally cool and has its place!!! but idk didn’t feel as like… revolutionary as i somewhat expected? it was fun tho

[eris-abomination]

Not to be patronizing, but I’m convinced some of y’all don’t know what radfems actually are. Every time I try to speak about how dangerous and reductive radical feminism is as an ideology, I get paragraphs upon paragraphs written trying to “errm actually” me and defending them, so let me clear things up.

Radical feminism’s core belief centers around a form of gender essentialism: that men are inherently violent oppressors and that the patriarchy is to blame for every problem that befalls women and fems. This is not to say that the patriarchy isn’t a major contributor to misogyny, but it completely excludes intersectionality from the equation and dovetails into TERFy rhetoric very easily.

In blaming every issue on the patriarchy alone, radical feminism erases the very real contributions of racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, etc from our struggles in society. Oppression and privilege are extremely complex and fed into by many biases and phobias upheld by our societal systems, not just the “boys vs girls” mentality that radfems emphasize. The main pitfall of this ideology is the way it places all men and all women on an equivalent level of privilege or oppression respectively, rather than the unfortunate reality: for example, a cishet man having inherent privilege and hypothetical oppressing power over a queer or trans man, or an abled woman having privilege over a disabled woman.

Radical feminism also tends to veer into a defeatist mindset: men are inherently oppressive and women are inherently at the bottom of the societal totem pole, so what’s the point of trying to dismantle these systems? The radfem “solution” is to ignore the nuances of intersectionality and create divisions between men and women as a “safety measure” which, as mentioned earlier, opens the door for TERF-like and tribalist ideologies to take root (bathroom bans, label politics, “gender traitor” rhetoric, and categorization of trans and nonbinary people into their AGABs). The “solution” of creating purely woman-only spaces fails to acknowledge that women can also be oppressive toward other women, but it’s still viewed through the lens of “the patriarchy can’t affect things here because we’re all on the same level of disadvantage”.

I don’t write all this to accuse all self-proclaimed radfems of being knowingly malicious or bigoted, but it seems that not many people fully understand the true implications and reductiveness of what radical feminism really is. If you managed to get through this whole post (congratulations!), I invite you to examine your own ideologies and the biases and faults behind them, and hopefully grow, change, and become a more nuanced and open-minded person from there.

Edit: I can and will delete your comments if you’re incapable of being civil (or scrolling away or blocking me like a normal goddamn person) 💕💕💕

[i-like-forcefem]

Hi, I’ve had a funky week. Stumbled on some cishet/‘sissy’ forcefem stuff, fell into a brain rabbit hole.

I know you’ve had asks/posts before about how the mix of dub/non-con, humiliation, and genderplay in that stuff just sort of reinforces the gender binary, just makes it feel like you’re less than a man or a woman (less than a person) for ‘having it happen to you’ and less again if you like it. But do you have any good erotica on hand that steps around that? That’s forcefem or adjacent, that’s genderplay and does want you to think you can be a woman or a man without being immune to genderplay?

I’m not really asking after emotional advice or anything. I mostly know myself and the world well enough for that, I think. I know people are good. I know I’m good. I know transition is possible. I know that humiliation stuff and dub/non-con stuff is fictional, that the consent is between the reader and the author, all that theory stuff. But I’m just feeling low from reading a story that takes the submissive and punishes her relentlessly for wanting to experiment with gender, and I’m looking for more stimulus in the opposite nature, you know?

… I didn’t want this ask to be heavy, but I don’t think I can sound light talking about this, sorry.

Oooooo mhm mhm!!! I get what you mean fully!

Now I think there's around 3 levels of "Forcefem tone"

First you've got sissy- it's what you've been exploring, tends to be quite questionable at times, seeing feminity as a failure

Then the other extremes are what I'll call gentlefem! It's "Forcefem as a trans escape fantasy", incredibly positive and wholesome, and what blogs like mine tend to peddle in plus some wonderful stories like some HDG stories, but also it can be pretty sexless

Then the inbetween is Hentai! And what I'd recommend to you, the medium of course has all flavours, but quite consistently it draws feminity itself as something desriable- just not to the protagonist

Non consensually forcing her to be a girl, but the dom is a lot more gentle about it calling it a positive change! And by the end she usually accept herself and is genuinely happier being a girl! (Even if a bit of a slut!)

I can ramble about the specifics for ages, and it also has a lot of issues (primarily a lot of authors have tendency to draw the protagonists to either look like- or canonically be children) but if you know what to read I think Hentai, on average, hits the tonal sweetspot most often!

[muttgrowls]

About Me + Boundaries & Kinks

Hi! Nice to see you found my profile <3

You can call me Mutt! I'm 19, bisexual, transmasc (he/it, please), and a fulltime college student. I'm also a switch with a major dom lean.

Below you can find a longer list of my boundaries, kinks, and limits :)

BOUNDARIES!

Yes, my DMs and Asks are open. However, this does not mean I will reply. I tend to be picky. I also have fwbs already who I am quite fond of, and they tend to take up more of my time/sexual energy. This also means I am not looking for a sub or any new dynamics or hook-ups at the moment.

Only use masculine terms when referring to my anatomy. Dick/tdick, cock, hole, and chest are preferred. If I trust you see me as a man, I might introduce other terms, but it's a big maybe. Use of "feminine" terms will result in a block.

I am not comfortable practicing CNC or many hard kinks unless there is mutual trust. This is just me being a responsible dom. Please be careful when practicing these things.

KINKS & MORE!

When it comes to titles, please call me Daddy, Mutt, Sir, or Mister. Anything else is off-limits unless I specify otherwise.

Kinks: praise, humiliation, breeding, pet play, primal play, size difference, forcemasc, edging, bondage, light breathplay, dumbification, overstimulation, blasphemy & corruption, masks, knife play, impact play, dacryphilia, sadomasochism, exhibitionism.

Off-Limits: Extreme age play, extreme fauxcest, feet, scat, vomit, misgendering & feminization of me. (You can follow if you're into these things, I'm just not, and that's okay)

DNI: minors & ageless blogs, chasers, queerphobes, anyone of that nature. Cishets you're on thin ice; just respect my identity and queer nature, and we're good. I block liberally

I post my nudes and more on Reddit, if you wanna see <3

[soft-subby-strawberry]

ᯓ★ Hello!! This is my gigantic info post for my kink account! I've finally finished updating my salacious and trashy fantasies and fetishes. You can also get to know me, the owner of this naughty page a lot more!ˎˊ˗

⚠︎ BEWARE ⚠︎- There are mentions of hard taboo kinks that could be very triggering to others. Once you pass this line, there is no going back.

⊹₊🔥TW: R@pe/CNC, Fauxcest, & other sickly erotic thoughts!

°. ♡ — — ˗ˋ ୨୧ ˊ˗ — — ♡°.

ɞ(づ๑•ᴗ•๑)づ♡ All Women, LGBTQ+ Lovelies, & POC Are Welcomed Here.ᐟ.ᐟ

ೀ⋆｡18+ Acc: MINORS DNI - Age must be in bio or easily visible on page.ᐟ.ᐟ

ᯓ★ Cishet men are not allowed - Only exceptions are femboys who want me to forcefully feminize them into my girlie pets. I will only refer to you as girls, maids, and bitches. You do not get the privilege of dominating me. Expect to be r@ped a lot.° ˎˊ˗

🍓‧ ─・─・୨୧・─・─ ‧🍓

˚◞💌 Age: 21 years old

˚◞💌 Gender: Cissie woman (She/Her)

˚◞💌 Sexuality: Fem, Poly Lesbian

˚◞💌 Zodiac: Capricorn

˚◞💌 MBTI: INFP

˚◞💌 Preference: Submissive Bottom (Can be dominant, but only under certain circumstances and people).

˚◞💌 I am taken by my lovely gf @goober-dyke and I have a maid! (I am always looking for doms and maybe a few sissy maids. Also OBJECTS & MONSTERS!! Please!!).

˚◞💌 DMS Open: Please ask consent to send nudes & don't sext/ erotic rp right off the bat. I like to have a genuine conversation before we devolve into sexy topics. Consent is so important and setting boundaries.

˚◞💌 ASK ME ANYTHING! My ask are always open, and I love threats. If you would like to be my anon. Include your age, pronouns and a emoji!

˚◞💌 Special Non Sexual Interest: Horror Movies, Film In General, Art (I'm an artist), IWTV, Fight Club, Film Celebrities, SOTD, Muppets/Jim Henson, Old Kids TV shows, Stardew Valley, & Cookie Run.

°. ♡ — — ˗ˋ ୨୧ ˊ˗ — — ♡°.

･ ✧ 🍰࣪˖ Green Flag Kink Index - 100% Love

✿ Anal

➷ Spank me Gently!

➷ I want things in my ass!

✿ Breeding/Primal Kink

✿ Cock/Cum Fascination

➷ I love cocks! - Girlcocks, Straps, Bottom Growth.

➷ Creampies - Drench me in cum!

✿ CNC/R@pe Kink

➷ Somnophilia

➷ Intruder/Break In

✿ Fauxcet

➷ Mommies & Big Sisses

✿ Forced Feminization

➷ Femboys

✿ Monster Fucker/ Monster Kink

➷ Tentacles

➷ Blobs/Slime Girls

➷ Parasite Creatures/Body Horror

✿ Objectum/Objectophilia

➷ Soapy Sponges (Bath Sex)

➷ Sentient Inanimate Objects - People who are objects and love to be fucked as objects.

➷ Object insertion - Brushes, TV Remotes, Food, etc.

➷ Plushophilia/Technophilia

✿ Oral Fixation

➷ Throat Training/Throat Fuck

➷ Eat me out!

✿ Pet Play

➷ I am a pet cow! Collar me, breed me, fuck me like a cow.

➷ Loves the idea of being fucked by a dog girl or a big animal lady.

✿ Porn Gifs/Porn Caption Gifs

➷ I get off to porn gfs so much! I love seeing women being fucked by cocks in gfs.

➷ I would love to be sent porn gfs saying that's us.

➷ I prefer no animations or very specific characters.

✿ Slasher Kink

✿ Soft Vanilla sex

➷ Gentle Whispers - Asmr

➷ Talking through it

➷ Soft touches and caresses

✿ Transfem/Trans Supremacy

✿ Teachers

✿ Vagina

➷ Spank my pussy! Step on my Pussy! (Most be done with care and gently).

➷ Use my pussy as a fleshlight

➷ Let me grind my cunt on your heels/shoes

🍓‧ ─・─・୨୧・─・─ ‧🍓

・. •⭐️ Yellow Flag Kink Index - 50% Okay, but Cautious

✿ Bondage/Gagging

✿ Giantess

✿ Rough Sex

➷ Impact Play

➷ Slapping & Degrading

°. ♡ — — ˗ˋ ୨୧ ˊ˗ — — ♡°.

.,’”.;🥀 Red Flag Kinks Index - 0% Absolutely Not

✿ Extreme Ageplay

➷ Diapers

➷ Baby Clothes/Baby Toys

✿ Hard Body Harm

➷ Cutting/Knife Play

➷ Gun Play

➷ Gore/Snuff/Blood

✿ Nipple Torture

➷ I don't like nipple piercings.

➷ Don't pinch or hurt my nipples.

➷ I do not like Lactation out of my nipples.

➷ Anything done to the nipples makes me cringe.

✿ Piss or Shit

✿ Terf/Race Play

🍓‧ ─・─・୨୧・─・─ ‧🍓

𖹭.ᐟ‧ Thank you so much for reading.ᐟ.ᐟ

[cearthduo]

Decoding c!George: The femininity of cGeorge as a character and the fandom's unfortunate aversion to it. + Reasons to stop making your George design boring for the sake of being "canon"

This will be a kinda short discussion since, honestly, there's not much to talk about. I made this post because I think cGeorge's depiction in both art and writing is heavily criticized for being "too feminine" by people who aren't to well versed in her as a character.

If anyone reading this is familiar with my blog, you will know that I tend to depict cGeorge as hyperfeminine and even use she/her pronouns for the character. While I have my own headcanons that contribute to that, my main reason I do it is because cGeorge is kinda a feminine character.

Dsmp characters are mostly non-gendered. Only a few characters have explicit genders that were given to them by their CC. When it comes to the majority of characters, people are comfortable with any gender headcanon. The one and only exception to that is cGeorge.

The reason for this actually stems from the way the fandom treated ccGeorge in 2020-21. The streamer was often extremely feminized in art and writing, often to the point of being unrecognizable. Over time people became uncomfortable with this depiction and would attack anyone who feminized ccGeorge. People outside of the DreamSMP fandom would often criticize this as well, attacking artists and authors and even causing them to receive death threats.

Because of incidents like that, any and all depictions of George that wasn't a masculine cishet man were seen as cringe, fetishism, and problematic. Even now that the fandom has largely separated the dsmp characters from their creators, the aftermath of this incident still makes people adverse to any feminization of cGeorge.

This is, I believe, part of the reason that cGeorge designs tend to be less creative compared to other characters. Most cGeorge designs are just his skin with minimal changes or as close to the appearance of ccGeorge as possible.

Often times when people draw cGeorge in feminine clothing, they're still criticized with people saying "He would never wear that. He's a grown man." and similar things. But are criticisms like that valid?

Does feminizing c!George mischaracterize her?

Short answer? No.

Long answer? I'd argue that it does the exact opposite.

Depicting cGeorge as a masculine character, while accurate to ccGeorge, isn't automatically accurate to cGeorge. I believe the insistence that cGeorge must be masculine is due to the fandom at large not seeing her as separate from the streamer. If cGeorge, in a lot of people's eyes, doesn't have her own lore; then how could she have her own gender?

The truth is, cGeorge does have her own lore, and the fandom majorly ignoring this fact actually contributes to her femininity. How?

Well, throughout the lore, cGeorge is placed in a role that is stereotypical feminine. Her only worth as a character, to most, is being the love interest of a more important male character. The other characters even see her as an extension of cDream, often blaming her for things he did. cDream even acknowledges this fact and believes that cGeorge is only capable of following his lead.

cGeorge is never treated seriously by other characters. She's seen as incapable, naive, air-headed, and in constant need of protection. She's even been criticized for her emotions, with many characters calling her "dramatic" and "a crybaby" for being reasonably upset. The way other characters treat cGeorge is very similar to how women are treated in media and by society at large.

Having cGeorge's gender, or at least gender expression, reflect this actually helps visualize that aspect of her character in a way that a masculine depiction doesn't.

Other parts of cGeorge's character also convey femininity, albeit very stereotypically. A good example is her enjoyment of flowers and lack of interest in fighting. She's also feminized by other characters for example being called "the huntress" by Quackity, showing that the people around her feminize her in comparison to someone more stereotypically masculine.

What about designs? Doesn't dressing her stereotypically feminine misrepresent her?

When it comes to outfits, a lot of people go for things that are very practical. I see a lot of masculine clothing that consists of pajamas, sweats, or just (again) the default skin. A few of the times where I've drawn cGeorge, I've been condemned for drawing her in non-pratical hyper-feminine clothing. I've had people tell me that it doesn't make sense for cGeorge to dress up when all she does is sleep.

And I think takes like that miss a very crucial part of cGeorge's character, which is that: she sold her soul for the dsmps equivalent of designer fashion!! cGeorge is not a modest dressing person, at least not by choice. She's canonically obsessed with having the best there is. I mean, the entirety of early smp cGeorge's lore was that she was so obsessed with enchanting all her items that her friends felt they needed to kill her to get her to contribute to the server.

Not to mention the fact that cGeorge still sees herself as the King of the dsmp and holds the title of prince of Kinoko. cGeorge in general seems to have almost this grandiose view of herself, still believing that the smp belongs to her. It makes wayy more sense for her to dress extravagantly than to dress comfortably. Especially since 9 times out of 10, she isn't even going to sleep on purpose. Meaning that she likely dresses herself expecting to be running around the server.

cGeorge also doesn't fight much. That means that putting her in clothing suitable for moving about isn't necessary for her the way it would be for a character like cDream or cTommy. This gives more freedom for designs! Even if you want to be realistic to the character/setting they're in.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, your depiction of cGeorge is your depiction. Whether you prefer to depict the character as feminine, masculine, or even androgynous, have fun with it! Don't make her a certain way for the sake of "being canon" or "not wanting to be seen as someone who fetishizes fem men." cGeorge isn't real. She doesn't have a gender. And playing around with ideas doesn't make your depiction wrong. Don't let anybody tell you what you can't do and don't go around policing other people's designs.

But uh you should be more creative because I'm so tired of cGeorge just being "guy in t-shirt" while all the other characters look cool and unique. I'm getting sick.

Alright, that's all. I'm going back to writing my cDnf analysis now. I'll post again in 10yrs xoxo.

[upside-down-uni]

Undfortunately Lessons in Chemistry combines historical literature with "women's struggles"/feminism, boring cishet romance and a type of pseudobiographical sweeping narration over her whole life. which are all things i tend to find mildly to extremely annoying in a book and i dont think I can read the almost 500p long german translation. Also why does the translation feel like its patronizing me, why is the narrative voice so fucking annoying.

[moved-to-shijieswife]

this fandoms casual misogyny, often, parading around as feminism pisses me off so much. when u guys turn all the female characters in mdzs into token girl bosses - when all of them were such fleshed out, interesting characters, meant to affirm the oppression in mdzs.

yzy was a horrible person, and no amount of making her into a badass woman, so called feminist, can change that. being mean ≠ being a strong woman. u can have a backbone without being a horrible bitch (example, shijie) she quite literally berates jyl her entire life, for bearing the sin of being a daughter, and a weak cultivator. she only slapped wlj and didnt cut wwxs hand off, because she was annoyed that wlj had 'risen above her station'. and u guys treat that classist moment, one that shows yu ziyuans morals completely, as a badass moment !

to make jyl 'strong', u make her mean, or taking up the sword path. being physically strong is not a strict guideline to being a strong woman. shijie did not pick up the sword path, because she was sickly and a weak cultivator - she physically could not do it. shijie was still strong, in the way she was kind and gentle, and the way she still had a backbone and stood up for her didi, with what limited power she had.

u guys also, amazingly, never make nie huiasang, also a weak cultivator, pick up the sabre. because you recognise his strength lies elsewhere.

and then theres just the blatant, casual misogyny. where u guys just give the female characters in ur fics any role, without any thought, while giving the male characters extremely thought out, well suited roles. theres too many fics where the women are just used as props - how many fics, with mianmian appearing as the 'object' in the way of wangxians relationship, are there ? if were lucky, well get a flat, token girlboss characterisation form her.

and dont get me started on the ships u put these poor girls through. jyl and lxc ??? why ?? just cuz their didis are married ??? jyl would not want to be around such a spineless hypocritical coward, who has so much power, and would stil stan dby and do nothing. when she, extremely oppressed throughout her entire life, stood up for what was right.

wq and jc ?? even tho cql tried to shoehorn in a romance between the woman who had a debt owed to her by the man, which the man didnt only not repay, but also led a siege against her family that he knew were innocent, there was not an iota of chemistry between them. it just seems so slimy, and just outright nonsensical when u consider their two personalities - jc is literally what u picture when u hear right iwng cishet man who doesnt wash his own ass, and u think wq ?? wq woulve been into that ???

[thirstforsalt]

the good omens meta post

this is not going to be very nice, and it will contain all the spoilers

I am a Good Omens book fan. Moreover, I am a Good Omens fandom fan, a fanfiction reader and writer since before the show ever came out. Also, I love Michael Sheen and David Tennant so much that I watched all three series of "Staged."

So when I say I found the show disappointing, I don't just mean as an adaptation, but as a piece of media that has to stand on its own feet. I know, for any viewer who wasn't invested in the Aziraphale/Crowley beats of the first season, it was basically unwatchable. I know because I tried to get a lot of non-shippers to watch, and the only people who could enjoy it at all cared about the love story at its heart. That's okay. It's nice when things are made for us.

The thing I love about shipping culture, and fan culture, is that it's a corner of the internet where soft-hearted people with big feelings and the desire to indulge in those feelings can be together in community. It's a place where we can intellectualize those feelings, or simply scream together. I've been in fandoms for more than two decades, oh my god. It's one of the only places I feel wholly seen, and totally accepted. (I mean, I've been a victim of online bullying, but who hasn't?) I deeply love my fellow fans. We are so creative, so sensitive, so observant. I really love us: what we make. What we do. How we speak. How we interact with media and transform it into something greater than the sum of its parts.

That's how I feel about Good Omens fandom. I think the works this fandom makes-- the art, the fic, the everything-- are overall of a higher quality than the book and the show. And that's okay. Some fandoms are like that. Not everything is eternal art, perfected to the highest aspiration of the medium. It's still valid. It still counts. It still carries a lot of meaning, for me personally and I know for you, if you're reading this.

I say all of this to contextualize why I felt season two was so genuinely mean-spirited. It felt cruel. I am a major fan of fan service, and I love being a fan who gets serviced. But this fan service reminded me of the book "How To Date Men When You Hate Men," in that it might well have been subtitled "How To Service Fans When You Hate Your Fans." It pointedly retconned moments from season one where people had written the most fill-in fics, e.g. having?????? them go???????? to a nightclub?????? AFTER A BLITZ BOMBING?! You know what people in London did after a Blitz bombing?! They hid in their homes or shelters with the blackout curtains on the windows until daybreak! I couldn't help but feel the zombie Nazis plot (what was that?!) was being used to make sure there was no room for the formerly ambiguous night after Aziraphale fell in love. After season one, fic writers had imagined hundreds of little sexy rendezvous after the Blitz bombing scene, but no more. Now, they can't be canon. In fact, nothing set in the past 6,000 years can be canon, now. So much of this season felt engineered to poison the sweet little ambiguities of season one, and you will never convince me it wasn't intentional.

I think it's important to say what we all know: fan activities like fanfiction and fanart are extremely femme-coded behaviors. Regardless of your personal gender identity, fanfic writers are majority female, and the other activities fans perform (making fanart, cosplaying) tend to be gendered (in the media and by outsiders) as somehow female. It's important that we acknowledge this even if it isn't true-- it's similar to the ways that careers like teaching and nursing are feminized, regardless of who actually teaches and nurses. This is also extremely important to acknowledge because women are PAINFULLY underrepresented behind the scenes of television.

Fewer women than men actually get to make the art that eventually inspires fandom. There were no female writers on Good Omens. There were no female directors. The cishet male creators, by which I mean to include both writers and the director (of Sherlock infamy, by the way), have no cinematic or narrative vocabulary for the androphilic gaze. [That's the gaze that sexualizes and objectifies men, a term on loan to me from a non-binary academic friend. It's the gaze we use when we write m/m slash. This is a larger discussion, but the reason you have predominantly femme writers and consumers of m/m erotica is in part because it is a break from the male gaze-- there is no man objectifying a woman in these stories. You might have a queer identity, too, and that might be part of it, but the fact is that one of the appealing functions of m/m erotica is the absence of a woman being objectified. We, the readers, get to do the objectifying-- in complete and utter contrast to most media. It also bears reiterating that regardless of your gender identity and sexual orientation, you exist in a world where Western media is constantly feeding you film and television from the POV of the male gaze. That is why m/m erotica especially, and to some degree f/f erotica, is transgressive, by the way. It's also transgressive to just find more than one man hot, because we're not supposed to.] Anyway, creators like the men who made Good Omens might really think they speak our language, but it will always be a second language to them, and a lot of nuance gets lost. In my opinion, that's why the kiss scene was so devastating. It was joyless.

I know people will say (and have said) that it was joyless and passionless in service of the angst, but fanfic readers know: having even a second of passion followed by the angst makes the pain that much sweeter. It would have made the conflict, and the cliffhanger, even harsher. The writers and director behind that scene do not understand what every fanfiction writer with a vibrator knows. They fundamentally do not understand us. It breaks my heart to say it, because I don't think it has to be true across the board, but I felt it so strongly with Good Omens, season two. I felt so strongly that they were trying to speak our language without having the humility to speak with us, to understand us. They understand us only as viewers and as consumers. They don't understand us as collaborators, because they don't think they have to collaborate with us. But fans are, in a very real sense, collaborators-- collaborators in making meaning, and collaborators in making other people money. Understanding that symbiosis is what transformative works are about. This season felt like it was intended to remind us that these characters are not ours. We are welcome to play in our own sandbox, but we are not a part of theirs. And if the show had bothered to hire any femme creatives, there may have been someone above the line to bridge the gap between what they thought they were doing and what we took from it.

I also can't help feeling that we're being held emotionally hostage to get the ransom money of a third season. IMO, the second season was genuinely bad television. Like, sincerely appalling storytelling. I'm talking about everything before the kiss, too. (I can't even discuss the kiss right now.) The so-called "mystery" of Gabriel's memory was nonsensical. We had no reason to care and the "clues" we followed were incoherent until the finale. It wasn't a fun mystery we could follow, and let's be honest, we were all just there for the Aziraphale/Crowley moments. Even those moments were wasted, imo.

What was the purpose of the magic show and the miracle blocker? Was it just for all the sexual double-entendres of giving and receiving and shooting guns? Because, I mean, I love a good dirty joke, but what was its utility in the structure of the season? What did we learn? Did anyone change? Did anyone go on a journey? It failed at every screenwriting 101 lesson I've ever been taught.

Why even have Crowley and Aziraphale setting up the lesbians if the lesbians aren't going to be set up? Why have a monologue about how you can't force two people together just because you want them to be together? That whole storyline felt like subtext (and not particularly subtle subtext) of the author stubbornly wresting narrative control from fans.

And it was FILLED with squandered opportunities. One of my favorite moments was Crowley referencing humans in the rain confessing their love a la Richard Curtis movies. Wow! What a beautiful set-up for his confession later in the-- wait, you're not even going to use that perfect set-up? OK, but you're going to do a set-up, right? Oh, you're not? You're just going to have the lesbians tell Crowley that he and Aziraphale have "never REALLY talked" and think that's a set-up? Girl, I guess!

I don't think on the basis of writing, Good Omens season two earned a third season. I would be very surprised if it got one. And if it doesn't get one, that's frankly justified! No one is going to watch this show who isn't there for Aziraphale/Crowley, which-- again-- are my people. But we are simply not enough, and a good show knows that it has to engage both shippers and casual viewers. My guess is that they don't get a third season, because no one but us hardcore fans will watch that trainwreck again and again, and then Ne*l Ga*man and the actors will do some kind of staged reading of a third season-ish script for charity or something to tie up the loose ends. I'm old-fashioned in that I think you should use the money and time and resources you've been given to tell a story, not just set up a story. I feel like fans are being held emotionally hostage to push Amazon to pay the proverbial ransom of a third season (and it is a ransom, it does line pockets that are not yours or mine). I feel like Ga*man made that explicit in some of his Tumblr posts!

Which is not to say the show might not have been more successful if indeed it had been the pure fan service everyone is saying it is. But also, it wasn't pure fan service. This was not an exercise in giving the people what they want. It was an exercise in asserting narrative control, which to me is the opposite of what fans want, need, and deserve.

[wazzuppy]

I saw your post about how people treat the phrase "white feminist" and yeah, I totally agree. There is this really weird trend to fully ignore misogyny even in leftist circles and belittle women who try to talk about how they're oppressed. Even if a woman is white she's still gonna be systemically oppressed because that's just how misogyny works. I find it pretty disgusting on this website where most discussions about misogyny are hijacked by people literally going "man hating is so bad and you shouldn't point this out". It's cool people defend trans people but 1. criticizing men as a social class isn't "bioessentialism" or whatever, it's genuinely just talking about the oppressor class and 2. why do you see trans women as men??????? like why is this argument always brought up anyway? i get TERFs would say it that way but when the target is so obviously not a TERF it's so odd. I've lost mutuals on here for just saying the words patriarchy and that MRAs are bad. It's baffling. I hate this progressive language coded misogyny in leftist spaces with all my heart. Women should be allowed to be afraid and angry when they're so obviously oppressed in every part of their lives. Sorry for the big rant

no need to apologize, i pretty much completely agree.

i think there is a very weird attitude around men's rights in general. like, it often feels as if they're trying the take the fact that they're men and have an inherent advantage to GAIN their rights out of the equation.

not to say i don't think men should have rights or that every single man is more privileged than the average cishet white woman. that's not true. but privilege exists even in marginalized groups because hierarchy still exists, and advantage and disadvantage often affect the same person. like, even a gay man has a leg up over a het woman because they are a man. and likewise, a het woman has an advantage over a gay man because theyre het. things arent as simple as "this group is always more oppressed than this one no matter what." its more fluid than that.

not to mention... a lot of the issues that do affect men (as in the hyper masculine, "feelings are gay" bullshit) are ones that were started and continue to be perpetuated by other men. like yeah, it fucking sucks and it should be fixed, but you get why the victims aren't the ones who should be doing the work, right? we can help and we can offer sympathy, but ultimately that's something THEY need to get over for any real progress to be made.

i also think there's something kind of gross about how a lot of feminist discussions are taken as "you just hate trans men!" automatically, without even knowing the genders of the people having the discussion. trans people should ABSOLUTELY be taken into account and defended, and its completely true that many, many feminists are transphobic. but the assumption that radical feminism (and i mean actual feminism, not "radfems" because thats just a different flavor of wanting patriarchy) = hating trans people feels very icky to me. you can be feminist without being transphobic, and you can be transphobic without being feminist.

leftist language, in general, needs some kind of adjustment or just for people to better understand what certain terms are actually supposed to mean. because lots of people just slap the word "terf" onto someone who is either not feminist or not transphobic.

for example: j.k rowling is undeniably transphobic. she regurgitates lots of terf rhetoric, but the problem with calling her a terf is that... she's not a feminist. like at all. she has an obvious hatred of women and has an extremely conservative mindset of what women should be. that's why all of the mothers in harry potters are good, and all of the unmarried/women without kids are bad. that's why hermione's personality is just a list of misogynist stereotypes.

this issue is especially gross when you remember how dogshit trans feminists are treated, masc or fem. trans people will talk about how men have personally hurt them and how that affected their views, and then a dozen cis queer people will come in like "noooo hating men is bad!!" and assume theyre cis.

i have more to say, but honestly, im tired and a lil sick so i'll leave it there for now. but theres a lot i think that needs to be discussed with how leftist language has evolved, and how feminism is sometimes treated like a scapegoat when it comes to who should be blamed for transphobia. i dont know of any of this made sense but yeah.

[trudemaethien]

Dear Codex Flash Exchange Creator,

I’m always open to treats and I look forward to the possibility of receiving podfic and fanart just as much as written fanfic. I’ll enjoy whatever you make for me!

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General DNWs:

non-critical portrayal of cults, authoritarianism, paternalism, patriarchy, misogyny, sexism, racism or transphobia; american cultural christianity; whitewashing; domestic abuse; unresolved child abuse/neglect; child death; miscarriage (abortion is fine); drug addiction (drug use is fine); therapy-speak; fixed-everything fluff; perfect little angel children; uwu/woobification, whump, sickfic, or terminal illness; highschool/college/university AUs; genderswap/rule 63, fem!reader, Y/N, /You, reader-insert, or self-insert, harry potter AU

Kink DNWs:

wax play, cold temperature play/ice, scat, emetophilia (non-kinky vomit is okay as long as it’s not graphic), Traditional Omegaverse (nontraditional is fine), 24/7 BDSM or sexual slavery, any other type of slavery, findom/paypig, cishet, prepubescent underage, mommy/milfs, ageplay (which is not the same as age gap; that’s fine), diapers, infantilization, exotification, castration, ultra-submissive character, force-feminization, detransition, nonconsensual body modification, parasites, necrophilia

Omegaverse straddles the line between Do and Do Not Want. If you’re writing it for me, it should be very nontraditional, with the trope being used to subvert binary (trinary?) gender norms rather than support them. (omegas should not be portrayed as stereotypically female-coded, alphas not as stereotypically male-coded, betas shouldn’t be boring/sexless) Make it funky, weird, even queer!

DNWs (SW specific):

Mandalorian culture without nuance; Jedi culture without nuance; all clones automatically being Mandalorian and/or knowing mando’a; clones being taller/bigger than their actor(s) or any form of the word beef or similar to describe physique; codywan (not even alluded to or hinted at past or future); non-humans with human-standard anatomy/genitalia

DNW Characters: Satine Kryze, Bo-Katan Kryze, Qui-Gon Jinn, Obi-Wan Kenobi, Yoda, Jar Jar Binks, any characters originating in the Sequel Trilogy. Unless portraying a requested ship containing one or more of these characters, I do not want them even as brief cameos.

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Do Want:

Gay guys, queer everything, non-traditional roles ie service top/power bottom, submissive top/dominant bottom, one or both partners switching.

Clones, in my opinion, would not unilaterally speak or understand mando’a, but I do love it, and other language(s). I’m absolutely a nerd for mando’a and cultural/language barriers.

NSFW Tropes I like: negotiations for kink or polyamory, first times, porn with feelings, casual sex/QPR, competence kink, praise kink, humiliation kink, breeding kink, watersports, somnophilia, xenophilia, getting caught/walked in on, DP, chastity devices, orgasm denial/edging, overstim, eating out, biting, switching, non-exclusive polyamory: threesomes or moresomes, gangbangs, rough sex, tender sex, awkward sex, dirty talk, but not just dirty talk—also normal talking and laughing during sex, topping from the bottom, friends and lovers.

I’ll read (and write) pretty much any kink that’s not on my DNW list, up to and including edgeplay, extreme xenophilia/monsterfucking, and any consent level from enthusiastic to dubious to none, including consensual non-consent. Bring on the DDDNE content, and please feel free to ask if there’s anything in my DNWs needing clarification.

Story Tropes and AUs I like: angst with a happy ending, found family, have a little murder as a treat, there was only one bed, pining (one-sided or mutual), awkward seduction, men crying/showing emotions, getting together, miscommunication, nonverbal communication, unreliable narrator, dystopia, psychological horror, hopeful ending, canon-typical dehumanization, milwank (portrayals of PTSD and other combat-related disabilities very welcome), Canon Divergence, Nontraditional Omegaverse, Soulmates/Soulbonds, Pacific Rim, Mer/Pirate/Historical fantasy, Time Loop/Time Travel.

Podfic details:

I really like when there’s a little bit of different voices for different characters, and hearing if they laugh or make other nonverbal sounds in conversation, although I’m sorry to say I can’t always hear subtle sound effects, unless they stand out.

Art details:

DNW: flashing/strobe effects, tarot cards or symbolism, christian symbolism, wildly disproportionate/chibi-like characters, or completely non-representational art, disney style. (and this isn’t a strict dnw but I tend not to be a fan of pastels)

Things I like: any skill level, painterly style, vibrant colors, dramatic lighting, irregular perspectives, funky color palettes, or muted with one standout color
fun facial expressions, costume detail, environmental storytelling, dialogue and words written in the picture (bonus if it’s written in aurebesh or mando’a—not mando’a script tho, I cannot read that 😅), scientific illustrations, anatomical diagrams, fight scenes, very specific knowledge from the creator’s expertise, Characters shown in canon settings as well as AU
Gender Non-Conforming/Queer interpretations
Characters as (space) pirates, bounty hunters, and soldiers/warriors/fighters, especially if it’s not their canon role; characters swapping clothes/gear with each other.
(Mainly for OCs) Within the range of typical human coloration, I tend to prefer darker skin, eyes, and hair, as well as wavy/curly/kinky hair rather than straight (also dyed and/or greying: yes please!); for non-humans, the more colorful the better. Fangs, claws, talons, horns, spikes... anything considered "monstrous" and/or "animalistic" is very welcome.
(<-AU versions?), Fat versions of characters, show the rolls! :D plus stretch marks and scars, disabled characters and accessibility devices
Feel free to go as explicit as you like, genitalia showing, fluids, etc. however much you’re comfortable with.

This is in no way a comprehensive list of things I like; go wild and have fun!

Thanks so much for creating something for me 😊

[pinkcasket]

now that I'm on the topic I do actually have to whine. it drives me up a damn wall how liberal feminism (and queer/lgbtq theory/spaces) reinforce femininity and masculinity as roles while claiming to upend them.

and I do understand where it comes from in many ways- I'm a trans masc person who wears extremely femme clothing! one of the biggest reasons I've yet to go on T is that it'll make wearing clothing I love much, much harder. I'm fully aware that gnc men are treated poorly. I've also experienced enough shit myself to know that hyperfem women do get bullshit, and the dynamics of gender expression are more complex than "conforming" and "nonconforming"

it's also true that many things traditionally associated with women are derided and seen as unimportant within society. but none of this leads into femmephobia being a useful concept!

it's all much, much simpler imo: the oppression of women is upheld using a strict set of gender roles, and those roles are encoded within "femininity" and "masculinity". they aren't natural categories, and they aren't neutral. the existence of these categories alone is the backbone of cishet patriarchy (& others, but were not discussing that here)

divorcing those categories from gender isn't enough, and will never be enough. you have to stop categorizing them entirely. and like, I get that were a long way from that overall! I get that you can't get people to "femininity and masculinity are bad concepts" without first convincing them that anyone can be feminine and vice versa

but my issue is that liberals don't just say that it's too soon. they flat out never think about it! feminine ideals are Good and masculine ones are Bad. esp the emotional ones. god. there's nothing a liberal feminist hates more than a "facts not feelings" commie in pink

[dabistits]

a self-identified proshipper reblogged this post from me in agreement, to which i just wanna hold up a mirror and say: uh, “the overflowing amount of weird fan art” op is referring to is also... made by you all.

this lack of self-awareness makes me want to verbalize something that i’ve alluded to before, but never really fleshed out, which is that this whole “proship” thing is a redux of early 2010s gamergate talking points, just with the misogyny excised (supposedly). all other arguments have already been done to death by misogynist pop culture bros who feared the encroaching wave of feminism and “political correctness,” including the talking points about how female characters in skimpy clothing is “just fiction,” it’s not actually hurting anyone in real life, how video games are just “for fun” and “not meant to be taken seriously,” oh and also the excessive rape and violence against women are just there for the sake of “realism.”

there’s some kind of cognitive dissonance that “proshippers” will make the same arguments while reblogging posts about the misogyny of pop culture media and its fanbase, blissfully oblivious to the fact that they are not exempt from producing an “overflowing amount of weird fanart.” i’ve been thinking for awhile now that this cognitive dissonance is resolved for them through bioessentialism, in terms of gender but also whiteness. some, maybe even many, “proshippers,” as a part of a heavily self-identified “afab” population participating in transformative fandom, view themselves as essentially different from fanboys, and their engagement with any creepy shit (including making weird fanart of schoolboys) as also essentially different from any creepy shit done by fanboys (making weird fanart of schoolgirls).

large swathes of transformative fandom still fundamentally conceive of internet fandom as being split between “amabs” and “afabs.” no matter how much lip service is given to the idea of trans acceptance, i’ve found that many fandom people (regardless of how they identify) are extremely quick to unite around “afab” terminology, discuss “afab experiences” and cite the flawed premise of “female socialization,” in addition to praising fandom for being “a safe space for women to explore their sexuality” (wherein the women are presumed to be at least white and cis). (this is why i’m choosing to use “afab” as the umbrella term here.) i also feel, with anecdotal evidence in support, that tma people tend to be viewed with suspicion and heavily scrutinized, as are poc who openly discuss racism in transformative fandom. none of this is unique to fandom or even “proshippers” tbh, these are symptoms of transmisogyny and whiteness in general, but it certainly concocts into some pretty noxious takes without a single iota of self-awareness.

it boils down to this belief that “afab” desire is inherently exempt from problematization, that it is somehow inherently unimplicated in oppressive forces while cis mens’ desires are. it’s rightly understood that the cishet man who draws panty shots and weird balloon tits is off-putting and degrading for people who are just trying to appreciate female characters. however, “proshippers” are utterly unable to apply this principle to themselves, even when the object of their desire is marginalized through race, transness, age, etc. this inability to recognize one’s own complicity in oppression is endemic in white “afabs,” who imagine their desires and fears to be pure and sacrosanct—even while proclaiming to rep darkness and degeneracy, they stop short of treating that material as something actually “dark,” as in something that’s sensitive and worth treating delicately regardless of the personal desire to clumsily make it sexy or sensationalist. such a thing would entail recognizing their own potential to do harm, to be oppressors, and even outside of fandom that’s never been something they’ve been interested in doing.

[ryegarden]

ID: a reply from @perfectlyripeclementine that reads "Please say more about dandelions being transgender??" End ID

Great question!!!! I'm literally going to write my dissertation on this topic (transbotanism, as well as transangelicism and transentomology).

Dandelions are trans in a few ways.

They're pretty hardy. You can rip up as many as you want and they'll pop up over and over again. The garden in front of my flat gets mown pretty frequently in the summer, and dandelions are always shooting back up within the week. No amount of hypervigilance, weed killer, trimming, pulling, and tearing up of them will ever stop them growing through cracks in the pavement. They're not going anywhere - you can kill one, you can kill a few, but they -- we -- can't be eradicated. Am I talking about dandelions or trans people now?

Dandelions are also, despite their wider reputation as a nasty rotten weed, extremely beneficial to ecosystems. They have deep taproots that pull nutrients up and fertilize dead soil, and those same roots, being widespread and sturdy, disturb and loosen hard-packed earth (the kind you find on golf courses) and reduce soil erosion. As well as their benefits to the earth, they also have medicinal value - they're a natural diuretic, and every part of the plant is edible and absurdly rich in vitamins.

If rigid, binary notions of gender are a neatly trimmed lawn, trans people are the dandelions bursting through the earth - our liberation aids and works alongside that of others (intersectionality forever!!). The deconstruction of society's notion of binary gender also furthers feminism (deconstruction of misogynistic gender roles), wider queer activism (intrinsically linked in more ways than I can explain), and anti-racism (aids in deconstruction of white colonialist binary gender ideology) - freedom of gender expression is vital to all of us. The full and total liberation of trans people, yes, liberates trans people, and it would also let cishet men wear earrings without being called fruity, you know?

The same parallels exist in people who keep trimmed lawns and transphobes - this desperate cling to Order and Uniformity and Ridigness that will inevitably be fruitless. Constant enforcement of a level of uniformity and monotony that is ultimately harmful, and doesn't even look very nice. A comfort to the rest of us that, once they stop caring, or die, we can thrive.

Also, on a visual level, dandelions go through a very intense... transition. From bright yellow flower to fluffy white seed blossoms. And if you step on them, it spreads them further. Seems pretty trans to me!!

be like the dandelion!! unkillable! joyous!! inherently transsexual in ways others cannot fully understand!

on my redbubble!

[dylanobrienisbatman]

I love Dylan o Brien but also hate Taylor swift. Can't believe there's someone who gets it. Please tell us more about your reasons

Okay my love for Dylan would take forever to explain and also I’m sure that’s not what you meant but I DO love him. Surprise surprise, I know.

A big part of my… dislike… of Taylor Swift is that she receives what is, in my opinion, totally unnearned praise and accolades for doing the most basic, bare minimum shit. Like all this stuff this last year. Is it awesome that she’s re-recording her work so she owns her own masters again? Yes. Every artist should have the right to own their own work. But she is literally just re-releasing songs that have been out for years. Yeah maybe there’s a new song or new “version” of a song, but the overall situation is a complete rerelease of old music. But somehow the world treats it like it’s some huge moment for music. It isn’t. These songs have been out for a decade. But, as with everything she does, it’s a god damn spectacle.

And tbh, her music is, in my opinion, the most basic, average music out there, and I say that as someone who used to love some of her songs. They can be fun to jam too, I mean I absolutely sang 22 when I turned 22. I am a millennial woman. But that doesn’t mean any of it is actually good. Musically nothing of hers that I’ve heard has been anything beyond a catchy tune. It never grabs me beyond a lyric or two getting stuck in my head after I’ve heard it 300 times. I’ve never heard a song by her and thought that, musically, it was anything special.

I also don’t find her to be a particularly good singer. Her recorded music is… fine, vocally, but that’s about it. Every time I’ve seen live performances I am unimpressed at best or at worst actively she sounds terrible. Her stage presence is always lacking, and I have never seen her do anything live and been impressed. Lyrically I’m not one to comment. I have a hard time with lyrics because as a HOH person I can’t always pick them out when I listen to music so it’s not something I pay attention too or care that much about. People say she’s a very talented lyricist, I don’t argue, that seems to be the consensus so I’m sure it’s true. But that’s not something that is important to me with music so it doesn’t really affect my opinion of her one way or another.

And honestly, her as a person rubs be the wrong way. She throws people who don’t deserve it under the bus all the time, and has been a perpetual victim for her entire career. She makes a huge deal out of tiny, insignificant shit, and her rabid fanbase treats anything that isnt outright praise of her like the end of the world. She was also openly viewed as the white woman darling of conservative right wing groups for a while and while i do not believe she aligns herself with those views, she spent way too long not saying anything about it.

And tbh, she has always felt completely disingenuous to me. She shifts her aesthetic and her vibe to fit whatever is popular at the time, and it never feels authentic or honest. Everything she does feels like a cash grab or a PR stunt. I’ve never once seen anything she’s done and felt like I was seeing the real her. The lack of genuine authenticity feels weird and I do not like it.

She is an extremely wealthy cishet white woman of mediocre talent who produces average, mediocre music and does the absolute performative bare minimum to speak on issues even with her enormous platform, and she consistently fuels her rabid fanbase to go after people she has been associated with. she constantly plays the victim and is the picture of white feminism. In all honesty, she is one of the most exhausting, oversaturated figures in pop culture and if I never had to hear about her again I’d be fine with that.