#almost no weird gender shit

[fantasticgothicpeachsludge]

Please watch Butch Cassidy and the Sundance kid pleasepleaseplease watch Butch Cassidy and the Sundance kid I need the gays to get their hands on it! Please!Please!Pleaseee!

[murmurmurl]

I actually find gender swapping characters really interesting (what part of their expression is dictated by gender norms vs certain events in their life vs their personal preferences that wouldn't change either way, etc.) so now I wanna draw what that would look like in my ocs except I am in pain rn so I'm forced to just lie there and be plagued by visions

[bitegore]

When i say i want to hang out with weirdos I do not mean "I want to hang with gay people and that's my marker for whether or not someone is weird." I'm not saying "weird" and meaning "vaguely aro" or "polyam" or "nonbinary" or whatever. Those are not personality traits. They tell you nothing about what that person is like. If i say I need more weird people in my social circle I'm talking about people who are weird. People who aren't like, going with the grain of any community based on literally anything. I have standards for this. I'm looking for like. People who won't blink if I say i only ever enter my house through the window or when I talk about drinking gasoline and then do it and they see I'm not joking, or people who won't think anything huge of me cracking the top of an eggshell and drinking the whole thing from the top in one mouthful. Or if they do, they do enough same-vein shit that it doesn't faze them. These are not really the same as being part of a very broad group of people who happen to have an exogender or whatever. I have met some incredibly normal (derogatory) trans people and gay people and aro people and nonbinary people. When i say weird I mean weird.

[wingsofhcpe]

Every few years the tumblr queer community decides that we clearly don't have enough problems as is with real bigots, and they pick a sub-category of other queer people to convince us that "actually these are the True Oppressors, Guys, I Promise, they're too loud and privileged and stealing our rights as we speak!" while also mostly using recycled terf rhetoric but Woke This Time to support these accusations. At some point it was bi people (especially bi sapphics), then ace and aro people. Now it seems it's the turn of trans men & transmasc people in general.

And of course, if you as a member of the targeted demographic try to speak up, you're labelled as proof of the accusations. "See? They're loud and annoying and are oppressing us by not letting us target them, instead of shutting up and taking it like good little victims!".

And I, for one, I'm not having it.

[novococain]

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[narcopathyfiles]

when people i follow reblog like posts avout being intersex it feels really crazy to me. because it's like oh yeah that's me i guess but i never think about it even though i probably should

[panics-side-blog]

Currently having a pregnancy scare, I'm showing early symptoms like abdomen cramps, more appetite, nausea and some mood swings, my temperature being also a tiny bit off.

I already did a pregnancy test but because my dumbass, like always, didn't read instructions clear enough or just straight up got problems understanding them I did it wrong.

I still have one left for tomorrow morning.

It honestly feels really shitty, like yea i wanna be a pregnant dad in the future but right now is like really bad timing.

Not only that but I'm taking meds that can/will cause a miscarriage which would endanger my life.

But even if it isn't a pregnancy something is definitely wrong that I have been getting lower abdomen cramps that feel like period cramps for a week straight.

Either way I will be making an appointment with my OBGYN to let him check what the fuck is going on.

If it is a pregnancy I at least would be still in the time limit to get an abortion since I max should be 5 weeks pregnant or so,nbut I'm still not thrilled about it.

For some reason the thought of pregnancy doesn't make me dysphoric but thinking about getting an abortion does make me go through dysphoria.

I also fear how the people I would get consulting with would react when a trans man just fucking walks up to them and says

"Hey, yo, I'm pregnant please delete that thing inside me."

Especially because I am in a very conservative area, I know that my OBGYN doctor is very chill with trans men and so are the nurses so that won't be a problem.

At least my boyfriend is very supportive and caring.

[gaymothman]

i think the weird thing about transness, at least for me, is that i was a girl and i always kinda will be in a philosophical sense. I'll always relate to girls and girlhood and women but from such a nostalgic or circumstantial place, not because i actually identify as one. i still kinda think of myself as a "girl" a lot of the time however much of a "trans man" i am. i'm also like insanely fem but not in a womanly way, very much in a faggot kind of a way that is *strangely* not widely accepted or appreciated by cis gays OR trans men. I either see pre transitioned dudes intentionally looking like "a woman" or post T mascs that occasionally sport makeup or smthn. it's very rare to see post T guys that look like me (not super twinkish, soft, or clockably womanly looking anymore) that are still high fem. And i think this comes down to the patriarchy in gay male culture. fem/bottom/fag discrimination is still like A Thing and it causes this weird segregation of Fem Not!Men and then Gay *Men* that leaves absolutely no place for trans people that look out of place within those gender roled boxes.

cis gays operate in a world deeply entrenched by gender binaries still. it can be so strange to feel out of place as a gay fairy faghot in gay male spaces as a gay trans male specifically because i don't look feminine enough *in the right way* as a gay man due to the way my body changed with my transition.

[yoshistory]

part of me still feels like i might be sort of genderfluid and/or bisexual but just traumatized about it. no idea anymore

[mumpsetc]

I Have Very Little Dignity But The Scraps I Do Have are The Only Thing Keeping Me Back From Desperately Begging People to Know How Im Perceived Genderwise Online

[binders-and-beanies]

Why do people like. Make me feel weird about being attracted to people my own age. Like I’m 24 and I’ll say that someone who’s like 22-26 is cute (anyone younger than like 21 is probs a no for me) and people will be like um they look like a fucking child you freak. Like sorry not everyone I’m attracted to looks like someone’s parent? Sorry I wanna feel worthy of people in my age group being into me too? I’m in college and want the life experience of having partners who are also in college? But then when I have partners who are 30+ people tell me I’m a victim. Why is everyone so ready to make trans and disabled ppl feel creepy for not just being fuckin ace I don’t get it WHO am I supposed to like

[huntingpalismen]

why is it that whenever i go on a theater field trip the people directly behind me are completely unbearable

[area51-escapee]

I never like the take that if somebody doesn’t have a lot or any friends than it’s a red flag and it must clearly be something wrong with them but also if somebody’s post about complaining about having no friends is surrounded by the most mean spirited hateful bigoted posts imaginable and it’s like. Hm. Wonder why.

[ayegomorrah]

The Forever War by Joe Haldeman truly sucked ass and doesnt belong to the must read canon tm now its so incredibly 70s. It's not even a shooting and crying book though i do think its scifi metaphors for alienation and combat ptsd are very good it just. Packs in every possible societal anxiety of the time from women's and gay lib to urban crime to road warrior-esque apocalyptic gangs to overpopulation to fear of the horrible eastern hive mind whose primitive ways our individualistic culture can never understand. It treats the Vietnam war as some tragic miscommunication, almost. Fairly troubling how many "anti war" works are like this, and still get praised now, i must say.

[chronophiile]

things i experience or have experienced due to being and growing up intersex

painful intercourse, to the point there are times i cant ignore it and we have to stop, this leads to me feeling insecure and feeling like im disappointing my partners.

extremely painful periods, to the point i went to the hospital almost every time i got one

intersexism and internalized intersexism

i grew up with no gender marker on any of my legal documents

painful cysts on my ovaries

being made fun of by sexual partners for having abnormal genitalia

having intimate photos of myself shared because AND I QUOTE “you just look weird down there”

never feeling like i fit in with the girls or boys

not feeling like im trans enough because i was never female to start so im technically not even FTM trans

having to argue with doctors because they used to acknowledge i was intersex and refuse to diagnose me as such

people not understanding when i say im intersex and having to explain my diagnosis every single time because people wont let it be at just “im intersex, that means im not male or female” and they always want more details

people staring at my genitalia, people taking photos up my skirts and asking to see my body

being made fun of when i was little for being too masculine and having male features

being excluded from the LGBT community

long story short i get stared at every time i go out all because i have tits a dick and im currently growing facial hair.

shits rough out here i just wanted to being awareness to some of the things intersex people go through on a regular basis.

feel free to add on or make your own post :3

edit; yeah im radqueer/transid- that doesnt take away from my intersex experiences

[lilium-major]

this, all of this. it makes me so angry to see lily evans being cast aside for the sake of a jegulus narrative when the james we know from canon (and most ff up until, like, the pandemic probably) would NEVER be with a death eater blood supremacist member of sirius’s abusive family. it’s so disgusting to see her as a surrogate for james and regulus, or be some woman in the background. she died because of her love for harry, which is because of her love for james, and she saved the wizarding world. and all of it that OP said about jegulus, the new characterization of james, and of sirius, this fandom is so weird about gay men that it reduces and removes women from the narrative and i’m so sick of it.

i genuinely think that the shift from the old marauders to the new one where every straight ship even the canon and most important one (i.e jily) and that whole jegulus/all the other made up ships that make no sense come from a place of fetish. yall LOVE to turn characters into little stereotypes and that whole constant obsession w homosexuality is not helping any cause. most of view view homosexual/queer relationships as more angsty or interesting in a way that’s so strange to me. ships could follow the most standard plot line but still be considered angsty cus they’re queer and why is that? this fandom has taken such a strange turn.

you are making sexuality such a strong and central point in a character importance more than any other trait of their character. and those head canons just end up erasing the most important things about these characters

james potter was a strong and good man. he developed from his arrogant teenage self into a good man fighting for a good cause. but now you made him into a twink that is in love with a death eater/ a member of the family that abused his best friend all his life. james and sirius’s relationship was a central point of their characters. and james’s love for lily is a central point as well??????

sirius being turned into a overly feminine gay drama queen, even though what WAS important about him was his loyalty his strength and his honor??? but all of that was forgotten. HE CAN BE GAY WITHOUT ERASING HIS ORIGINAL PERSONALITY. stop painting him into a stereotype of a gay man.

regulus black is getting the recognition that is to be given to sirius. his character was not some brave rebel vigilante that fought for justice. he was a pureblood supremacist.he was a deatheater. yes he is important to the story but he was not what you made him.

lily evans is the most important character of the series. she’s the reason it exists. her and james’s love is the center point. but it was pushed away by you people to focus on your strange fetishized view of gay men. this MAJOR character whose love for her son and husband literally MADE the story got cast away as a secondary character.

important topics like sirius’sabusive family, lily and james’s courage and love….was remplaced by ridiculized view of characters

make characters gay cus we don’t know anything about them yes okay that’s why wolf star was a major part of the fandom. but the complete shift of every single characters identity is just bullshit.