#aging parent crisis

[momlovesyoubest]

Kamala Harris to Save the Sandwich Generation

A sad Sandwich generation parent and daughter The sandwich generation is moving toward the proverbial Dagwood sandwich, which is so filled with layers that it might collapse.  As care managers, we know the struggle adult children in their 50s’ and 60s have in dealing with their aging parents’ decline. But Now they face another Layer of the Dagwood -Adult children In the past decade,…

[aalghul]

once again thinking about jason as duke’s robin. he’s ~4 years younger than jason, and that puts him at 8-12 during Jason’s time as robin. that’s prime time to get attached to your local kid vigilante before your own life goes downhill.

and if we try to keep duke’s meeting with bruce in zero year + duke’s age (so he can remember the meeting and hold that conversation with bruce), he has to be around 8. if he starts following batman through the news at that time because of the mess that just happened, the robin he sees is probably jason. I’ve literally connected the dots

[thesulkycroissant]

Space Age takes a different stab at Jonathan and Martha as parents, in a way that I think is very interesting. Jonathan is portrayed as critical of Clark (for a reason, but), and there's a panel after his death of Clark and Jon:

Space Age is a comic set in one of the worlds culled during Crisis on Infinite Earths, but I'm always interested in the different ways comics portray Jonathan and Martha Kent because of their status as kind of the perfect parents. But it's interesting to consider and explore the ways Clark's upbringing also effects him in more complicated ways.

[loopyarts]

I sometimes think about and ponder on how Bruce is such an overprotective yet mostly well meaning parent towards Dick. Yet Bruce is also the type of parent who fails to realise that their kid has grown up and can look after themselves and doesn’t need them for protection and guidance anymore. 

Dick and Bruce are both control freaks but for different reasons. Bruce is a control freak because he thinks that as long as he is in control of the situation that means he can protect the ones he loves from harm or losing them altogether. Because when his parents died he had no control over that. He felt powerless that he couldn’t do nothing to prevent it. Even though he was just a helpless little 8-9 year old boy who could do nothing but stand there watching helplessly as it played out before his very eyes.

While Dick is a control freak for the opposite reasons to Bruce. He needs to stay in control of himself and not let others tell him what to do and values his freedom his independence if that makes sense. All his life even with his own parents he was excepted to do as he was told, like how most children do. He wasn’t listened to in his own mind he felt responsible for his own parents death depending on the version it was because he didn’t tell them about stranger threatening Mr Haly or in some tellings he wasn’t listen to by his parents. He had no one to turn to really and much like Bruce he was just a powerless little boy. Who nobody truly heard, Dick Grayson to the world was just a child and therefore had no voice.

The only person who truly heard Dick’s voice was Bruce Wayne who saw himself in the young boy and knew the only way to save this boy from becoming like him was to get him his justice and put Dick Grayson parents killer behind bars. He became like a second father towards the young lad, family, the dynamic duo crime fighters of Gotham. Which is why Dick was able to heal and move on mostly from the loss of his parents because unlike Bruce. He had someone to fill the void that was lost when his parents died. Bruce Wayne the Batman because like a father to him a second father, in a way he was Dick light shining hope in the darkest part of his life. It’s so important to Dick development as a character and without it he wouldn’t be the same person he is today and it’s also so important that Dick time as Robin was a pretty happy one as well.

Both Bruce and Dick saved each other just by becoming each other new family. Bruce didn’t need anything from Dick all he needs from him is to just exist to remind him why he does what he does.

So imagine the hurt Dick must feel as a young adult. That his second father who heard his voice and listen to him all those years ago. Is now not listening to his voice really anymore or respecting his decisions as a young adult a man in his own right. While it comes from a place of good intentions. Dick cannot help but feel he is still seen and viewed as just a little boy by him and the crushing feeling of never truly living up to his expectations and the shadow that the Bat casts onto him. When will he ever be good enough to finally be taken seriously by him as his own man. Dick coming of age story is about finding one self in the world and crafting out his own legacy and what being a superhero means to him and him alone.

While it wasn’t Bruce intention, he did in fact put pressure onto Dick even though he doesn’t want him grow up to be like him. He values him so highly and he is glad that he grew up to be a much better man than he will ever be. He loves his surrogate son so much but with that comes fear. Like any parent he cannot help but worry for Dick future and the decisions that he makes as an adult and he will state his opinion on what he thinks of said decisions Dick makes in his life. He didn’t approve of Dick dropping out of college which caused some tension between the two of them for a good bit.

I always found Batman #330 original released in September 11th 1980 really interesting because of how Lucius fox and his son Tim Jace fox comes into play in that story Bruce compares himself to Lucius while Tim to Dick and how he cannot understand why would in he in Bruce’s eyes be throwing away his future. So when Bruce is talking all this nonsense to Tim he wasn’t actually speaking to Tim rather it’s the things he wanted to say to Dick.

Dick probably understood at that point that this was never about Tim or the thugs rather it was about Bruce who took out his own frustrations with Dick by projecting them onto Tim and the thug members. The themes and parallels to a father that being Lucius and his son Tim to Bruce and Dick within that comic book story makes it so painfully clear to me. It was about a Father who was upset with his son life choices for his future and only wants what is best for him even if he isn’t going about it in the best way possible.

The biggest hurdle for Dick and Bruce relationship as surrogate father and son is miscommunication and how the other isn’t willing to listen to the other. Bruce is the parent who always think he knows what is best which is not always the case which leads to him fighting with Dick all the time because he is blinded by the idea that his adult son might know better then him and stubbornly refuses to budge on that for a stupidly long time.

[nerdy-hyperfixations]

Thinking about how if Shermy Pines. And like, if he is the baby, he’d be born in the 1970s and be 40 by 2012 and he’s already a grandad. He had to be a teen dad in the 80s (after a severe economic recession) and then his kid ended up being a teen parent by 1999 (Which is 8 years before ANOTHER SEVERE ECONOMIC RECESSION LOL)

Also he was born into a pretty broken family, probably rarely if ever saw his brothers. Do you think he ever saw Stanley before he had to start pretending to be Ford? Do you think Ford visited from college??? Because he didn’t seem confident facing his father until he made millions, so like???

And, like, do you think Filbrick and Caryn changed as parents by the time they raised Shermy? Because it seems like a trend that as parents get older they mellow out a bit, so Shermy probably has a completely different experience with their parents then Stan and Ford, and talking to them is just “is this seriously the same parents???” (Imagine the silent resentment that’d cause 😭😭😭)

Personally I headcannon that Shermy had a daughter (Mabel and Dipper’s mom) and not a son like it says on the wiki because c’mon. Can he just have a daughter. Idk why this is important to me but… c’mon. Can he just have a daughter. It just feels right to me.

[columboscreens]

[nonconstories]

Someone pissed me off a couple of days ago

So! Below are several links to programs and foundations that promote adult literacy! Hundreds of millions of adults world wide were failed by their education system and now must fend for themselves while trying to read contracts and hospital bills and infographics from the CDC. But they don't have to be alone, and it is never too late to learn!

ProLiteracy: A network of educators, researchers, and advocates which provides research reports, learning materials, and other support to adult education programs. They assist with connecting volunteers to local programs and provide guidance and support to community leaders trying to use their programs' findings to advocate for social and political change.

Adult Literacy League: An adult education program in Central Florida, which aims to provide students with one on one attention to foster growth and confidence. It also offers English Second Language courses and job skills training, and each new student receives a comprehensive assessment to determine the best plan for them.

Saint Vincent and Sarah Fisher Center's Foundational Skills Program: A 100% free adult education program aimed at adults reading below a fifth grade level. It operates year round and is either in person or remote, and they now have a GED testing center that is open to students and the public alike.

Washtenaw Literacy: A free network of trained tutors for adults in Washtenaw County, Michigan.

Adult Learning Program (Las Vegas/Clark County): Free education classes to those lacking a high school diploma, those seeking to learn ESL, and adults who read below an eighth grade level. Also assists in students' search for gainful employment. Nevada got so fucked by COVID and the education/literacy numbers in the South West are grim. Please help these guys.

Hawaii Literacy: In addition to helping adult residents of Hawaii Island learn to read and write AND bridging the education gap in Hawaii's underserved children, they offer computer literacy classes, ESL classes, and a bookmobile. 1 in 6 Hawaiian adults struggle to read and write.

[pocketramblr]

man its a shame postcrisis didn't commit to the world they were building up and implying in batman 408-410 because then we would have been running around with fun things like:

everyone in Gotham being convinced that Joker killed Robin 1, and being furious to the point they organize a committee to figure out how to call CPS on Batman (and, naturally, want Bruce Wayne to head it)

Dick not stopping being Robin because he went to college or because he had a fight with Bruce but a secret third thing: they had a pretty calm conversation and decided that "Robin" was too risky to continue going out as and would draw more fire if he came back from the dead, so time to start drafting up a new name and costume

Jason refusing to go with Batman anywhere, probably because of the whole "everyone in the city thinks batman got robin killed" thing, but being too smart to like, say that out loud (personally i think he should say it out loud. for the lolz and foreshadowing)

Dick presumably still recovering from the joker fight when Jason does come with Batman after ever other option just turned out to be crime, and hearing that 'the kid who stole b's tires the other day wants to join crime fighting'

What i can only assume is a fight not about Jason being taken in and trained, but because they should do it literally under any other name and costume- not because robin is, you know, incredibly precious to dick but because 'dude we just agreed it was safer to not be robin'

Batman convincing Gotham that this second sidekick isn't child endangerment because actually he only looks like a kid and is really older than Batman. yeah thats the lie they go with. it is, apparently, bought because no one brings up the committee to call cps on batman again.

[whywhywhymoney]

Something that's never brought up is that Bruce and Selina were canonically young/teen parents on Earth 2. This probably is something that came out of "the writers can't do math!" But fortunately I can!

If you tell me that Bruce was born in 1973 and Helena is 21-22 in 2014 as said by Levitz (and Selina is consistently 2-3 years younger than Bruce at least) you bet I'm gonna milk that dynamic for all its worth!!

[sunnimint]

i'm too old for pulling an all-nighter, how do my parents do this?? 😭

[momlovesyoubest]

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[h0neyfreak]

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[eldesperadont]

having one of those moods where i wanna read ff about my current ship of interest, but at the same time reading anything about romantic relationships just makes me feel lonely as fuck orz

[flovoid]

its funny how I forgot that my Majima Land simmies are actually… a gameplay series. and Roo is my 3th gen heir who I used to have other generations that nobody knows or seen it except my siblings lmao

[uptoolateart]

All the Missing Pieces - Ch 22

Preview:

Adrien fed Plagg some cheese, his thoughts in disarray. ‘Hey, Plagg…do you…think I’ll have to give to give up being Cat Noir, when the baby comes?’

Plagg eyed him over a mouthful of cheese. ‘I was wondering when you’d realise that.’

Adrien’s heart sank. ‘Has there never been a miraculous holder with children?’

‘Nope. You met the Guardians, right? Bunch of celibate monks making soap and playing complicated boardgames? Holding a miraculous is a life of solitude. When past holders have partnered off, they’ve always given up their miraculous to do so. It’s the only way to get around the whole secrecy and lies part, too.’

‘Huh. Do you…think Marinette’s already worked this out?’

Plagg gave him a look.

‘Yeah, I thought so.’ Adrien sighed and headed for the apartment.

He found Marinette lounging on the sofa, crying at an old episode of ‘My Little Pony’. A plate was balanced on her belly, showcasing a half-massacred chocolate gateau.

Tikki hovered at her shoulder, her eyes drawn in worry. When she saw Adrien, she nodded at him and flew out of the room and down the hall.

He glanced into his jacket and gave Plagg a meaningful look. Plagg took the hint – he’d seen that look enough times to know what it meant – and followed Tikki.

Adrien sat down beside Marinette. ‘Are you okay?’

She stared at the screen, gasping out her words. ‘It’s just – horrible the way – everyone’s – been treating C-cupcake! Making comments about her – appearance, like she’s – getting f-fat, and – everyone just – touching her stomach when she didn’t – she didn’t – give them permission!’

He glanced at the TV. ‘…touching the…pony’s stomach?’

‘Okay, I – might not – might not be talking about M-misty anymore.’

‘Wasn’t it Cupcake?’

‘What – ever!’ She stared sullenly at the gateau, and all the crumbs spilled over her clothes and the sofa like a glitter bomb had gone off. ‘I don’t…I don’t remember eating this.’

He took the plate and placed it on the coffee table, then held her hand. ‘Are people touching your stomach?’

She nodded through tears. ‘They don’t even ask! The hands are just – there before I – have time to tell them to b-back off.’ She gestured at her stomach, which was surreal in its size. ‘That whole rule about – respecting people’s b-bodies and p-private space – that we’re taught in s-school? It just – goes out the w-window when you’re p-pregnant. I’m f-fair game. For that and – everyone talking about how – how – b-big I am. Look at Marinette, isn’t she b-big? Marinette, you’re huge! Are you carrying twins?’ Her eyes rounded with urgency. ‘Adrien, do you…do you think twins run in your family?’

‘Well, I…I think twins skip a generation….’

She slumped back against the sofa and exhaled loudly. ‘Thank god.’ The tears slowed and she got her breathing a little under control.

Then she sat up again, that urgency back on her face. ‘Wait. You and Felix were made identical…but Emilie and Amelie….’

He nodded. ‘That’s just it. With normal genetics, they should skip a generation, which suggests that…it’s possible, yeah. I have no idea how it works if the father is a sentimonster, though.’

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[fabricatedgeek]

I really really really need 2024 to be gentle on my friends.

I just…

Cut everyone a break for once. We’re too young for this bullshit.