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how to deal with a crush aspec friendly DIY tutorial
#real life#what is this shit#lgbtq+#aspec#asexual#aromantic#demisexual#demiromantic#advice genuinely appreciated
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If somebody in your life offers to knit or crochet or, really, create anything for you, please be an active participant in the creation of the piece they are making. I adore making and gifting things, but nothing bums me out quicker than a person who passively just goes "okay," to my ideas about what I'm making them - it can send the message that they won't like it, or that they don't care, even if they're happy about my offering. The back-and-forth feedback is a great way to make sure that you are being gifted something that was truly worth the time, effort, expertise, and money that will inevitably go into the gift!
I know it's really hard to be an active participant, believe me, I'm an anxious ball of horror, but it will only do good for both parties to interact in this situation. It is a big deal to be offered a hand-crafted gift, but it's also something we want you to love and use, and that can only happen if you tell us what would make you fall in love with what we create.
#advice#relationships#art#fiber art#knitting#crochet#i always try to remember that some people's responses to something big is to clam up and become more passive...#..i just want to remind you that you aren't in danger of Ruining Everything by suggesting things or asking questions or saying what YOU wan#like i asked my dad specifically how he would feel if i made him items SPECIFICALLY so i could gauge if he would like them for instance#i don't just want to create something i want the recipient to actually LIKE it#which is why i typically (not always) ask how somebody would feel about me giving them a specific gift#i know some people genuinely don't care in the sense that they would appreciate ANYTHING but sometimes that doesn't always translate i gues#im crocheting a set of coasters for my dad and i really hope hell truly like them because i'm not sure based on how he responded to my ideas#it makes me so happy to gift things but it's with the caveat that the recipient will think it is An Amazing Gift That Is SO Good And Useful
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I need at least another $25 to pay my phone bill in a couple days (and that'd leave me no money left for food, let alone rent next month). I'm still unemployed and paralyzed by one of the worst mental health spirals of my life. Anything helps, if you can spare it
This is my ko-fi. Venmo and paypal available by private request. Love y'all
#i know the blog has been sporadic recently#i'm trying my best to keep it updated because i really do believe it's important#or at least more important than whatever else i'd be doing with my time most days#i'm so burnt out at this point i'm genuinely considering ways to leave capitalist society altogether rather than get another job ever again#squats intentional communities etc#tbh i've read a lot about those things but have had very little interaction with them personally#if anyone has personal experience and could give advice relevant to someone who can barely get out of bed i'd appreciate it#this is the most publicly vulnerable i've been in years i think...
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HI HELLO DO YOU LIKE AUDIO DRAMAS, WOULD YOU LIKE TO MAKE YOUR OWN AUDIO DRAMA well do I have news for you
for quite some time, I have been working on putting every bit of practical information I have about making a podcast into some kind of readable resource and I'm very happy to say that, by george, I think I've done it.
that link will take you to our resource page which has links to a 35-page handbook that takes you through every step of podcast production (on our merch page, but you can download for zero dollars! do it!) and a direct download of a 15-page pdf about how I take an idea from development through scripting.
this is by no means the be-all-end-all definitive correct guide on how to make an audio drama. as I emphasize many times throughout, this is just how I do things, but it's a pretty thorough rundown of how I do things. if you've been too overwhelmed to start your own show, I sincerely hope this helps you!
#audio drama#podcasting#indie podcasts#lauren shippen#atypical artists#free resources#lauren writes things#I'm gonna be honest you guys#I'm...pretty fucking proud of this thing#it's 50 pages of - what I think is - pretty practical advice and genuinely helpful tips#I really believe in keeping AD a place where indie shows can thrive and anyone can try their hand at production#which is why I've spent so much of my own money through the years making other ppl's indie shows#and I can't really do that anymore financially#but I still believe in the spirit of that#and I think this is a nice way to keep that alive#anyway! I hope you like it and find is useful!#and obviously if you are so inclined#you can also pay any amount of money to download the pdf#it was a BONKERS amount of work#so that's always appreciated!#lauren makes things
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Hi friends!
I apologize if this is an odd question, but I’m looking for some advice. Especially those who have hallucinations.
Are “physical” hallucinations exist? Earlier this morning, I felt like I was standing on something warm…but wet?
I have stepped on my cats hairballs, ect. I’m not sure if it’s due to that or I’m getting paranoid. Thought?
#genuine question#hallucinations#can anyone relate?#are physical hallucinations a thing#advice needed#thank you in advance#i appreciate you all
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how do you explain to a doctor that like “yeah i’ve thought about killing myself at least once a month since i was fourteen and my anxiety puts me into an extended period of fight or flight every time i leave the house and i frequently engage in self destructive behaviors including various forms of self-harm” without them institutionalizing you
how do i say that in a way that says “it’s not that serious i’m not actually going to kill myself i’m used to these thoughts but i am dying. i am dying. please help me. but it’s not a big deal”
#would appreciate some genuine advice on this#i’ve never really been honest with a doctor before about mental health and i’ve never asked for help#i don’t know how to go about it#i’m worried i’ll chicken out and just say ‘i’m fine!’ like always#ro speaks#tw suicidal ideation#mental health#starting to really feel that upcoming appointment anxiety#i still have almost a month but. i hate doctors visits so much. if i never had to go i wouldn’t#but the issues. they’re piling up
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i'm sorry.
#𖥔 salem sighs#tbd#i'll stay away for a while longer not that anyone really cares lol#but i genuinely don't feel like i belong here or anywhere i'm just dragging everyone down with me#i cannot accept any love or reassurance and i'm really sorry#i'll stop talking for a while i'm sorry these feelings are overwhelming me and i don't want to burden anyone any more than i already have#i'm sorry this blog isn't as fun and safe as it used to be#i'm sorry i can't trust anyone#the deactivation / delete button looks so tempting at the moment so everyone will finally have me off their back#you all have been nothing but kind to me i'm sorry i am being negative all the time and not appreciative of it#seeing everyone around me having fun and being silly just reinforces my own thoughts of me never being able to be that friend to you all#or a friend at all since i just burden everyone with my issues without applying much of the kindness and grace and advice i'm given#so i'm sorry i genuinely am#i'm hurting everyone else in the process with my own issues and no one deserves that#i'm sorry i can't be witty and funny and have nothing remotely interesting to say#i'm sorry i failed as a friend to you all#cw vent
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Any lovely witchy friends out there have advice for reaching out to a deity?
#personal#been a practising witch for a long time but never really thought about having a patron#but more and more recently i feel a pull towards some specific beings. ive been making some small offerings in the form of crafts#related to their imagery and totem style representations but i havent actually attempted to contact them#or open any direct channels of communication. and as ive never had a patron deity before im not sure how to start that process#how to transition from a solo practice to a more collaborative participation#so any advice is much appreciated! feel free to dm if your suggestions might be more personal or longer than a reply#i only know a few other witches in real life and i dont think any of them deal with deities either so id love to make some friends#who also practice too i think its really good to learn this stuff from real people and not only internet stuff#bc internet stuff especially in regards to witchery can be bs at best and straight up racist and culturally appropriating at worse#and genuinely dangerous at worst for inexperienced practicers so i do prefer knowledge from other real humanoids when possible#witchcraft#witchblr
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how to be throat-fucked by silicone cock without squeaking noises affecting my autism ????
#genuinely would appreciate advice#t4t ns/fw#dyke nsft#trans puppy#t4t nsft#please i just want to have faggot sex
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hey chat if someone theoretically were to whitewash one of my characters would it be acceptable to ask them (nicely and politely) to make their skin darker or should i just be grateful ...
#its a color palette drawing but#☹️☹️☹️#i want to give them the benefit of the doubt#but like they gave the character pure white skin#and colored in all of the rest of the character (including the lighter parts)#genuinely i would appreciate advice idk what to do ghHuUhhh#its on a different platform#its really cute art too ....#update yeah i pussied up and asked them about it#waiting for a responde#i knew i shouldve talked to them i just. didnt know what to say hhhhhh
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hi how do I start taking lewds. asking for a me.
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So. I need advice. About going to homecoming for the first time (with a date, even though as far as i know it's just between acquaintances/friends). My most basic question is: What Do I Do?
#olli tag#Im so fucking nervous#Ive been to HoCo before for the first time last year but i didnt have a date that time#I don't know if it'll be super different or not and i dont know what to do...... augh.#THERES STILL LIKE THREE WEEKS TO GO UNTIL THEN BUT IM ALREADY SO NERVOUS#ANY GENUINE BASIC ADVICE THAT CAN BE GIVEN WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED
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i really really appreciate it, guys, i know you’re all just trying to be kind and supportive. but i am specially on a journey to make this story either shorter or finesse it into multiple books so that i might have a chance at traditional publishing.
i think every writer should be able to just write what they want, however long. but that is not viable for me right now. writing it as long as i wanted is what got me into this 200k word mess in the first place.
#i appreciate you all#i really genuinely do#but ‘do what you want’ is not good advice right now#and i’m trying to not let it frustrate me#i can’t do what i want and im already irritated because of that#i don’t want to have to tone down my writing#i don’t want to have to shorten it#but i have to
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Google, what do you do when you hear your family talking about politics and you can't just leave and you can't change their opinions either so you know you have to remain silent but you're going to lose your damn mind
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that feeling when you get advice from someone who you know is well-meaning and has good intentions....but it's just the most allistic, neurotypical, and/or abled advice you have ever heard and completely invalidates the point you're trying to make about why you struggle to do the thing in the first place.
they're telling you to "do it in this specific way that is completely opposite of how you physically/mentally work" for example, make eye contact/read people's facial expressions and intentions! but you're autistic. initiate verbal conversation and don't be shy! but you're nonverbal or semispeaking. get out of the house more and participate in these physical activities! but you're physically disabled. Just Be Yourself! but you have DID/OSDD/other personality disorder. etc.
i'm sorry. I know you're just trying to help. I appreciate it, really. but it's all things i've heard before and none of it helps me specifically. I have tried (maybe even still try out of habit) and learned I can't just do those things. they don't work for me or cause more issues. practice isn't the issue. not everyone can simply willpower through everything. but thanks for trying 😔✊️
#autistic#autism things#autism#actually autistic#adhd#audhd#neurodivergent#disablity#disabled#too tired to tag other thinhs sorry thats all you get#lee rambles#that feeling when you also just have to pretend to accept their advice and move on because people get so upset when you dont take it#i lesrned if i tell people their advice doesnt suit me and my unique circumstances then they feel bad that they didnt help#they want you to do it anyway. even if you cant. pretend you do or say thanks and move on. but it gets annoying hearinf the same stuff#over and over. more expectations on you. more pressure to do things in ways everyone else can but you cannot...#when will the advice be lee shaped? when will it be just for lee and consider all my circumstances?#why is telling the person giving advice their advice wont work fkr me bad? why cant they change their advice to fit the issues i face?#when im asked for advice and someone hits a deadend while working it out i try to help solve that so they can find a way around#but everyone else expects me to grow a bulldozer out of my head and ram the wall down instead of helping me work around it#i crush their fragile ego by saying their advice doesnt work and they get upset instead of adjusting it to help solve the specific problem#its exhausting because they become one of the many problems i have to deal with then 😒#no im not “making excuses/dismissing you/not trying” im trying. your advice sucks try again. and my problems are valid!!!!!! accept it!!!!#anyway. genuinely appreciate people wanting/trying to help but sometimes its such inappropriate advice i dont know how to respond
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Hey folks. Anyone here who is fashion-aware who would like to help someone who struggles with it?
I'm going to a wedding in a colder area (Northeast US) this November. I'd like to embrace dressing in a more butch fashion, but I have no idea where to start. I'm fat and I have a large chest & hips - I doubt I can just rent a suit or something.
Any help would be appreciated here. I'm also up for chatting one on one with more details!
#my life the universe and everything#would genuinely appreciate advice here#butch#butch fashion#idk what else to tag this as. waving my hands please help me.
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