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#real life#what is this shit#lgbtq+#aspec#asexual#aromantic#demisexual#demiromantic#advice genuinely appreciated
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If somebody in your life offers to knit or crochet or, really, create anything for you, please be an active participant in the creation of the piece they are making. I adore making and gifting things, but nothing bums me out quicker than a person who passively just goes "okay," to my ideas about what I'm making them - it can send the message that they won't like it, or that they don't care, even if they're happy about my offering. The back-and-forth feedback is a great way to make sure that you are being gifted something that was truly worth the time, effort, expertise, and money that will inevitably go into the gift!
I know it's really hard to be an active participant, believe me, I'm an anxious ball of horror, but it will only do good for both parties to interact in this situation. It is a big deal to be offered a hand-crafted gift, but it's also something we want you to love and use, and that can only happen if you tell us what would make you fall in love with what we create.
#advice#relationships#art#fiber art#knitting#crochet#i always try to remember that some people's responses to something big is to clam up and become more passive...#..i just want to remind you that you aren't in danger of Ruining Everything by suggesting things or asking questions or saying what YOU wan#like i asked my dad specifically how he would feel if i made him items SPECIFICALLY so i could gauge if he would like them for instance#i don't just want to create something i want the recipient to actually LIKE it#which is why i typically (not always) ask how somebody would feel about me giving them a specific gift#i know some people genuinely don't care in the sense that they would appreciate ANYTHING but sometimes that doesn't always translate i gues#im crocheting a set of coasters for my dad and i really hope hell truly like them because i'm not sure based on how he responded to my ideas#it makes me so happy to gift things but it's with the caveat that the recipient will think it is An Amazing Gift That Is SO Good And Useful
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I need at least another $25 to pay my phone bill in a couple days (and that'd leave me no money left for food, let alone rent next month). I'm still unemployed and paralyzed by one of the worst mental health spirals of my life. Anything helps, if you can spare it
This is my ko-fi. Venmo and paypal available by private request. Love y'all
#i know the blog has been sporadic recently#i'm trying my best to keep it updated because i really do believe it's important#or at least more important than whatever else i'd be doing with my time most days#i'm so burnt out at this point i'm genuinely considering ways to leave capitalist society altogether rather than get another job ever again#squats intentional communities etc#tbh i've read a lot about those things but have had very little interaction with them personally#if anyone has personal experience and could give advice relevant to someone who can barely get out of bed i'd appreciate it#this is the most publicly vulnerable i've been in years i think...
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HI HELLO DO YOU LIKE AUDIO DRAMAS, WOULD YOU LIKE TO MAKE YOUR OWN AUDIO DRAMA well do I have news for you
for quite some time, I have been working on putting every bit of practical information I have about making a podcast into some kind of readable resource and I'm very happy to say that, by george, I think I've done it.
that link will take you to our resource page which has links to a 35-page handbook that takes you through every step of podcast production (on our merch page, but you can download for zero dollars! do it!) and a direct download of a 15-page pdf about how I take an idea from development through scripting.
this is by no means the be-all-end-all definitive correct guide on how to make an audio drama. as I emphasize many times throughout, this is just how I do things, but it's a pretty thorough rundown of how I do things. if you've been too overwhelmed to start your own show, I sincerely hope this helps you!
#audio drama#podcasting#indie podcasts#lauren shippen#atypical artists#free resources#lauren writes things#I'm gonna be honest you guys#I'm...pretty fucking proud of this thing#it's 50 pages of - what I think is - pretty practical advice and genuinely helpful tips#I really believe in keeping AD a place where indie shows can thrive and anyone can try their hand at production#which is why I've spent so much of my own money through the years making other ppl's indie shows#and I can't really do that anymore financially#but I still believe in the spirit of that#and I think this is a nice way to keep that alive#anyway! I hope you like it and find is useful!#and obviously if you are so inclined#you can also pay any amount of money to download the pdf#it was a BONKERS amount of work#so that's always appreciated!#lauren makes things
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Hi friends!
I apologize if this is an odd question, but I’m looking for some advice. Especially those who have hallucinations.
Are “physical” hallucinations exist? Earlier this morning, I felt like I was standing on something warm…but wet?
I have stepped on my cats hairballs, ect. I’m not sure if it’s due to that or I’m getting paranoid. Thought?
#genuine question#hallucinations#can anyone relate?#are physical hallucinations a thing#advice needed#thank you in advance#i appreciate you all
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you know when a friend tells you a story about something they did and they're talking about how they asserted themselves and set their boundaries and they're clearly proud of it but it sounds like they were actually the clearcut asshole in that situation and them setting boundaries was actually kind of double crossing someone and you just don't know what the fuck to say 🫣
#i don't know the other person in question lol#but what even is the protocol here#am i a good friend if I shut up and be supportive or am I a better friend if I call her out#no chat I'd genuinely appreciate advice
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Like genuinely what am I supposed to do as a friendless 21 year old female. Join group yoga? Go to the YMCA? Start another job? Randomly text a coworker I barely speak to? Go to the club alone? Go to the bar alone? Go shopping?
#any genuine non-corny advice would actually be appreciated#femcel#girlblogger#this is a girlblog#coquette lesbian#radfem#radfemblr#radical feminism#female loneliness#radblr
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Y'all how the fuck do I talk with people because I wanna interact with more people on tumblr but my mind is like "What if you annoy them?" "What if you say something weird?" LIKE WHAT DO I DO HELP
#Rare Vex moment where he just talks about non fandom stuff#I would genuinely appreciate advice#Anyways uh just me being stupid#Might delete this when I wake up tomorrow#shitpost
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Just realise that when our phone breaks, we are toast… We use it for everything but especially for communicating (it’s our AAC device for everything in-person). And is not like urgent problem, it still work fine! But realise that is older model now, and some point battery will wear down so much that basically not useable.? But not want buy new phone when not need (because waste resources/money and still not know any companies that not exploit places and people- like Congolese people + DRC resources!). But because that, means by time phone break and we need new one, we not have device communicate with until get new one.? And our handwriting not good + hurt + slow. And harder bring big load paper around with you than small phone. Plus we rely on predictive text a lot, and paper obviously not able give that.
Unsure what do about that. We very good at not replace electric device until total broken (our laptop breaking and glitchy but going strong 7+ years, still have iPod from over decade ago, then have current phone since last one total break fall apart (into literal pieces used so much)). But laptop + iPod not useable as AAC. So guess need work out what happen if/when phone stop work…
If anyone know good company for tech (AAC specific or not) that not use materials from exploited place/people, please do let us know 🙂���️. Or ways replace battery for phone? Help appreciated but not urgent 🫶.
#aac user#aac device#high tech aac#actually disabled#disability#disabled#msn autistic#autistic aac user#complex disability#this is from drafts- still not urgent but advice appreciated! (/genuine tone)
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how do you explain to a doctor that like “yeah i’ve thought about killing myself at least once a month since i was fourteen and my anxiety puts me into an extended period of fight or flight every time i leave the house and i frequently engage in self destructive behaviors including various forms of self-harm” without them institutionalizing you
how do i say that in a way that says “it’s not that serious i’m not actually going to kill myself i’m used to these thoughts but i am dying. i am dying. please help me. but it’s not a big deal”
#would appreciate some genuine advice on this#i’ve never really been honest with a doctor before about mental health and i’ve never asked for help#i don’t know how to go about it#i’m worried i’ll chicken out and just say ‘i’m fine!’ like always#ro speaks#tw suicidal ideation#mental health#starting to really feel that upcoming appointment anxiety#i still have almost a month but. i hate doctors visits so much. if i never had to go i wouldn’t#but the issues. they’re piling up
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how to be throat-fucked by silicone cock without squeaking noises affecting my autism ????
#genuinely would appreciate advice#t4t ns/fw#dyke nsft#trans puppy#t4t nsft#please i just want to have faggot sex
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hey chat if someone theoretically were to whitewash one of my characters would it be acceptable to ask them (nicely and politely) to make their skin darker or should i just be grateful ...
#its a color palette drawing but#☹️☹️☹️#i want to give them the benefit of the doubt#but like they gave the character pure white skin#and colored in all of the rest of the character (including the lighter parts)#genuinely i would appreciate advice idk what to do ghHuUhhh#its on a different platform#its really cute art too ....#update yeah i pussied up and asked them about it#waiting for a responde#i knew i shouldve talked to them i just. didnt know what to say hhhhhh
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hi how do I start taking lewds. asking for a me.
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So. I need advice. About going to homecoming for the first time (with a date, even though as far as i know it's just between acquaintances/friends). My most basic question is: What Do I Do?
#juno tag#Im so fucking nervous#Ive been to HoCo before for the first time last year but i didnt have a date that time#I don't know if it'll be super different or not and i dont know what to do...... augh.#THERES STILL LIKE THREE WEEKS TO GO UNTIL THEN BUT IM ALREADY SO NERVOUS#ANY GENUINE BASIC ADVICE THAT CAN BE GIVEN WILL BE GREATLY APPRECIATED
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i really really appreciate it, guys, i know you’re all just trying to be kind and supportive. but i am specially on a journey to make this story either shorter or finesse it into multiple books so that i might have a chance at traditional publishing.
i think every writer should be able to just write what they want, however long. but that is not viable for me right now. writing it as long as i wanted is what got me into this 200k word mess in the first place.
#i appreciate you all#i really genuinely do#but ‘do what you want’ is not good advice right now#and i’m trying to not let it frustrate me#i can’t do what i want and im already irritated because of that#i don’t want to have to tone down my writing#i don’t want to have to shorten it#but i have to
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Google, what do you do when you hear your family talking about politics and you can't just leave and you can't change their opinions either so you know you have to remain silent but you're going to lose your damn mind
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