#advice from adults

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mabel pines #1 hater

[gumy-shark]

kageyama parents they could never make me hate you

[merakiui]

thinking,,,,,,,, darling who has a cryptic pregnancy....... [insert twst character here] reacting to it,,, maybe you and floyd and you're both a little dense because neither of you could have ever guessed. T_T

"what do you mean you were pregnant this whole time???? i thought shrimpy just got softer. :D" - floyb mindset.

in floyd's defense, he has no idea how human pregnancies work. he slept through that part of land boot camp!!! fell asleep the minute the professor started droning on about how humans don't lay eggs like mers do. jade can only chuckle (maybe he knew, but in classic jade fashion he won't tell because it's much more entertaining to sit back and watch everyone slowly figure it out) and azul is shaking his head in disbelief. had he known, he would have prepared well in advance to lend a helping hand. and you're just so amazed because maybe you were told you're unable to get pregnant, but somehow it happened and you had no idea all this time.

thank you to floyd and his mer virility for doing what was thought to be the impossible!!!!!! <3

[gamblegun]

I recognize how much of an effort and an improvement getting out of the house at all can be, believe me, but there's something funny when someone is saying, "my lack of funds fundamentally robs me of having any life experiences whatsoever, and overwhelming traps me in my house", and someone goes, "have you tried wandering around a park for a little while, that's free 😁". Like, I know that's objectively a little better, but I have to admit, a patch of grass doesn't exactly do it for me.

[harpieisthecarpie]

Caregiving while neurodivergent?

I've been looking into support resources or any information I might be able to pass on to a caregiver loved one who themself is neurodiverse (ADHD, possibly AuDHD)

They're the sole caretaker of their elderly parents w/ intensive healthcare needs while also having been a single parent for 18+ years themself, and that's a lot to do without much support. Especially with a late diagnosis and either neurodivergent or firmly repressed family.

They don't let it show but I know my ADHD makes compassion fatigue hit way harder (plus typical ADHD burnout) so I can't imagine having to also be a full-time caregiver.

I'm rambling but basically I can't find shit online since popular society & healthcare professionals haven't truly accepted that neurodiverse adults with stereotypically "neurotypical" responsibilities exist. Or that neurodiverse adults even exist full stop.

So, this is a full plea asking if anyone has reliable information (websites, videos, podcasts); free/inexpensive resources; or their own tips, experiences, and advice!

ideas for helpful gifts & supplies are also welcome (tis the holiday season)

TL;DR I want to help a family caregiver who is neurodivergent, but I can't find any resources or info! Help???

(even if you don't have anything, reblogs are adored and appreciated and loved pls!!!)

(you're also welcome to bemoan this problem w me it's engagement & solidarity)

[coochiequeens]

This guy just admitted why most men want kids, they want clones and any kids that have different interests can vibe with the other parent (mom).

Only a fucking pick me would give a dude such advice.

She could have suggested asking his sister what are the kids into before he next time he babysits. She could have reminded him that if he wants kids he better prep himself to deal with the birth to preteen stage stages. She could have reminded d him that even if he does have bio kids there's no guarantee that they will share interests. She could have also reminded him that using iPads to pacify three year olds isn't going to work on a day to day basis when/if he has his own kids.

Unless his plan to be he fun cool dad and leave mom with the grunt work.

[dxmxuse]

I’m going to share something deeply personal, forgive me

I hate being bad at things. I give up the second i realize I’m not naturally talented, but there are so many things I want to do.

Painting has always been one of those things. I was so scared to start because I knew I’d be bad at it.

I’m a writer and I’m fairly good at it, but writing doesn’t capture the way I see the world in the way I want it to. I’ve always been drawn to painting because I feel like I would be able to capture the beauty of the world better with images than words.

The thing is, I’m 22 and I don’t think I’ve painted anything since elementary school.

I’ve mentioned this a few times to my boyfriend, especially when I see a painting I love. The other day he bought me an easel he found at a garage sale. He knows I don’t paint. He knows moneys tight and yet he chose to get me something I possibly wouldn’t ever touch for the sake of getting me started. Tbh, it worked. It gave me a push and I bought my first paint brushes and pigment today.

I wanted to start with watercolor. I know it’s a difficult medium but I do really love watercolor. I knew I’d be bad at it so I bought the cheapest materials I could find because that’s what I’ve always done with new hobbies.

This time though, I didn’t have a little voice in my head telling me I’d just give it up. That it’d be a passing hobby. I sat down tonight (after a few glasses of wine) and just started painting what was in front of me.

And you know what I realized?

I fucking suck lmao

It’s a horrible little painting but it made me so happy. I didn’t get frustrated when the color started to bleed more than I wanted or when I realized too late that I didn’t get a water safe pen. I just made my tan rabbit a black one and kept going. Then I started another one (I got really little canvases) and let the shapes I had planned turn to little blobs of color.

I didn’t get frustrated. I didn’t get upset. I just made a mental note for next time to get water safe pens and to not use so much water.

For next time

I truly think this is the first time in my life that I’m ok with being bad, because I’m happy. I’m so proud of myself for taking that step and I’ve already seen progress in my very new skill.

Would my tiny little paintings horrify an experienced painter? Absolutely. But I don’t care. I love that I don’t care.

I love that I love this and that I truly want to do it more in order to get better.

[cipher-zoo]

Sanji: What is love?

Franky: An emotional minefield.

Jinbe: A neurochemical reaction.

Brook: Baby don't hurt me.

[freebooter4ever]

I always enjoy it when people come up to me while im drawing as long as they're nice about it, and especially kids. And while the last two weeks only seemed to have obnoxious parents (at one point a kid was pointing like 'i want to be able to that!' and their parent replied 'you can't' and i was like ???? Wtf), this week there was a mom and two daughters who were really interested in art and were standing behind me while i sketched for a long while. Neither of the girls could have been much older than 10, and they were super shy, and were asking their mom questions, and i answered one of the questions. And the mom laughed and said 'see, she can hear you, don't be afraid to ask her questions!' and then i turned around and introduced myself a little and explained what i was drawing. And then they just stood and quietly watched me draw for like ten minutes, it was so sweet. ��

[the-blossica-fan]

Last ask before Barbra makes me count sheep- actually, two in one:

First: Who gets pregnant between Matilda, Kanjira, and Mercuria? (Can add Anjo Nala in on that for fun if you wish)

Second: Who would you ship Barbra with?

*sits down, pulls out a soda* Mmm...

For me, Anjo is most likely their unwillingly adopted murderous woman. As in, she adopted herself and interrupts their daily life.

Not to make things weird or anything, I feel like exploring a little into the future of a character's relationship in a more mature light can make you understand a couple things about the characters.

Though this might be an uncomfortable topic for some? I'm not entirely sure, the age and all...

So... Err, I think it would be Mercuria.

I took a moment to think, and I feel like Mercuria would be the one to take upon herself that responsibility.

Matilda is a foundation worker, so far, I don't think the foundation would allow anyone to engage in such conditions, especially someone so important as Matilda. In the future, if things continue the way they are, Matilda would be a very important asset to the foundation due to her loyalty, independence and goals.

She's very unique and a person that can rule and be able to come up with solutions with things given to her. If she's so smart this young, the foundation would absolutely require her once she's older. So, if she still works there, they would not allow her to get into any sort of thing that would have her temporality stop doing field missions.

Hell, they'd barely leave time for her personal life! Like Madam Z but instead of being an assistant, she's a field investigator equally as overworked if not more!

Kanjira, on the other hand, is a loose string. I don't think she'd be able to take upon herself the responsibility that it means carrying a child, as mentioned before.

It's more so the way she was raised, Sherja (?) didn't have any children yet she still had to take care of her and others, her parents were not present in her life and she had a bad experience with the adults back in her hometown. If that's how things are, could she really bear the thought?

Mercuria is the most mature and responsible one when it comes to life decisions. She's not a Matilda that barely has time to breathe, nor a Kanjira that doesn't want to carry with the responsibility.

She loves her mother despite what happened, she knows her mother loves her too but wasn't mentally prepared for the task. So, she had to really consider the idea.

She has that instinct, and I'm pretty sure it's her who suggested the idea to the others, because she's in a good place mentally, emotionally and spiritually, and she can do what her mother couldn't do for her.

I remember her tenderness when talking about her mother back in the event, though I didn't play her side story so I could be mischaracterizing, but I believe she has that instinct within herself that she can take care of her own child.

So, yes. I believe it's Mercuria, and Matilda is no absent mother, she would ask for a leave from the foundation to be there!

And I ship Barbara with Nick Bottom, though you'll probably see that in the other ask. Good night comrade, please sleep, I feel your tiredness.

[luck-of-the-drawings]

when i was in highschool one o my biggest coping mechanisms was drawing all the kids i hated getting killed and eaten and killed. and well. time is a slowly ascending spiral. you will find patterns.(i work as a blackjack dealer. gamblers are FASCINATING

[chronurgy]

My mother is dropping hints that she wants to move in with me after she retires in a few years which is extra fucking crazy because I live in a one bedroom apartment with my spouse and am nowhere near in a financial position to purchase a house so what does she think is going to happen? Someone sleeps in the fucking living room? I pull the money for a house or a bigger apartment out of my ass?

Also I'm not her best option by a long shot? Her house is nearly paid off and worth bare minimum twice what she paid for it so she could definitely take that money buy something outright if she wanted so idk why she's looking at me (okay well I do know, it's because she's weirdly dependent on me and expects me to manage her life for some fucking reason)

[puppymolly]

Does anyone else feel objectum towards any drinks? Like technically something inanimate that has to deplete eventually, yet you still have romantic or other attraction feelings towards it when you do consume it. I'm just wondering if this has a name.

For a headmate who is hyperfixating on his objectum attraction atm but can't find any current terms for said attraction

If we need to coin this I will, just wanted to ask first ee

[talesofanautisticwoman]

Moving out

Soooo i'm moving away from home in a week and i am so anxious about it. I'm moving in with a friend of mine, who is also autistic :-). I have mixed feelings about it.. i feel sadness, longing, anxious, scared, nervous etc. A part of me just wants to keep living here and now move away from home,, and another part of me just want to move onto another chapter in my life. As the date approaches i feel more and more anxious and my chest feels thight. I passed my exam for 2nd semester in june,, and i have a bit of a month left before my studies starts again. But now i live closer to my university which is a huge plus. So now i can just walk or bike to school. Question to other autistic people: how did you feel when moving away from your parents/guardian and into your own place?

[irhabiya]

I want to learn Arabic in light of everything but I'm not sure where to start? Do you have have any resources?

this post has many resources for beginners

learn modern standard arabic to an intermediate level to be able to read, write and understand the basic structure and grammar of the language, then learn a dialect to actually be able to communicate with people. i recommend a levantine dialect, jordanian or palestinian are pretty widely understood by most arabic speakers

[mar64ds]

i think the way sans wholeheartedly supports papyrus through everything is really sweet but also very interesting for both of the characters, because i don't think sans is trying to humor him or is 'afraid to hurt his feelings' like many might think, i think sans fully trusts papyrus's own decisions and if he's ever wrong he can figure it out himself and grow from it, if anything sans really respects papyrus's choices, he doesn't think papyrus is making a bad decision by trying to be a royal guard, his brother knows himself best. papyrus also... doesn't have that much support from anyone else, sans is his only family and he barely has friends at all, i think for sans it's more important that papyrus feels supported than anything else, like i said, if papyrus is wrong about something? that's alright, he'll be okay, he'll learn from the experience, and his brother will be there for him. but for this situation, it's more important for papyrus that his brother believes in him when nobody else does than being told he's being 'naive'