#adhdtism

[auroras-void]

I love Izutsumi dungeon meshi sm.

Like she's a catgirl so obv she was always going to instantly become my favorite character, but also I just relate to her a lot I think. It helps that she looks a lot like me irl but also it's deeper than that, and it's also a little odd because I think I relate her to my past far more than my present.

Like is it weird that this catgirl is actually just straight up replacing my memories of my pre transition self?

I hate past me bc they were a miserable bitch who was kinda a jerk to everyone, but now instead I just imagine past me as Izutsumi instead and I feel so much better about myself.

Like, yea she's immature and rude but it's just because because she's young and a little stupid, and so few people have tried to engage with her on an emotional level with compassion, and tried to understand her personal needs and idiosyncrasies.

And she hides because she's been taught to hide. She got given a name that pleased someone else instead of her, no ones ever really wanted her to be herself.

She lashes out at affection but it's because she doesn't know how to communicate her boundaries or advocate for herself yet, but deep down she still craves it like anyone else, maybe even more than most. She's not trying to be mean, she doesn't actually want to be like that, she's just scared and overwhelmed with the world and doesn't want to admit that she doesn't know how to do anything else.

Plus like, she's just a cat.

You can't honestly stay mad at a cat. They lash out sometimes yeah, they bite you, they scratch you, they hide from you, they built different from you, they got different needs and boundaries, and you'll get bit even more if you don't respect it, but like, they just do that, and you don't even need to understand why to know that they aren't any less worthy of love for being like that. You just do anyways, because just intuitively you already know deep down that all cats deserve love.

Like, honestly it's let me come to terms with my past and be so much gentler with myself for my failures. It softens the scorn I have for myself with all my childhood memories because I don't see that miserable little boy being a jerk anymore, I see this young catgirl who's trying her best but still just struggling with the lack of validation and understanding she's received, who still deserves that love and acceptance not just in spite of her angsty reactions, but *because* of them.

Not to mention how gender affirming it is to have someone else to imagine instead of myself. Like it helps a lot I think, because I get to see my past self for who she was on the inside all along instead of what others decided I was based on how they interpreted what they saw at my surface.

That boy in my memories doesn't exist to me anymore I think, it doesn't benefit me to keep that interpretation of me alive, and Izutsumi is the perfect replacement for him I think. In my mind I'll have always just been a catgirl like I am today.

And all cats deserve love.

[queersekai]

Hi hi I have a request ^^

Saki: fingirl, genderfluid, panromantic, polyamorous, asexual, adhdtism, ambulatory wheelchair user, pots

Minori: transgirl, biromantic, asexual, polyamorous, adhdtism, dyslexia, dyspraxia

Akito: transfem, questioning, biromantic, asexual, adhdtism, pots, hypermobility

Rui: intersex, transfemmasc, presentationfluid, polyamorous, aegoromantic, bellusromantic, asexual, catgender, nyanbinary, deaf, autism, insomnia, scoliosis, pots, narcolepsy

Kanade: queer, demiromantic, asexual, genderquietor, musigender, deaf, iron deficient, autism, scoliosis, pots, synesthesia, narcolepsy, MS

(Just realized minori's the only one without pots here lol)

Because of how I have to split these up, Rui and Kanade will be in a reblog

Alternate costume colors for Saki and Akito by @/dragaliareferencearchive

[lyraoctavia]

Why do we call it AuDHD and not ✨ADHDtism?✨ It rolls off the tongue much better and sounds funnier. We should inform the high council of this at once.

[flag-mashups]

Sapphic + Asexual + Autistic + ADHD =

(Please read pinned post before interacting! <3)

Sapphic - An umbrella term for those who experience queer attraction towards fem-aligned people without specific labels.

Asexual - Someone who experiences little-to-no sexual attraction.

Autistic - A nerodiversity causing differences in the brain. Autistic people often have difficulties with social communication and interaction, and repetitive behaviors and/or interests.

ADHD - Someone with ADHD may have trouble paying attention, controlling impulsive behaviors (may act without thinking about what the result will be), or be overly active.

[ohklah0ma]

i think neurodivergent people should just date like penguins

in some penguin species a male will present a female with a pebble and be like “i found this cool rock do u want it” and if she accepts they become mates forever

why cant we just do that guys. obviously it wouldnt be male/female because most of us r queer but u get the idea right

[sexdrugsrocknroller]

so, now im a bit confused about my mental state. before i thought i was both adhd and a bit autistic. im still pretty convinced i have adhd (though i still dont know how to get diagnosed) but now im not so sure i have autism, even if slightly. i dont know enough about it

[1tz-4ll-m3]

Is there a symbol for Anxiety?

I’ve been trying to find one, and I’ve had no luck.

I’m looking for an Anxiety symbol kind of like these

The OCD symbol:

The ADHD symbol:

The Autism symbol:

The BPD symbol:

The Schizophrenia symbol:

I have Anxiety and I’m very interested in finding out if there’s a symbol for it 🥲

[auroras-void]

No, actually I think you're wrong as fuck, and completely missing the point of these posts, not to mention completely ignoring the role that neurodiversity plays in this discussion. Your summary is the most bad faith neurotypical bullshit I've ever seen.

I mean seriously, this isnt even the most important thing in there, but what part of posting "decadently self indulgent fiction" causes even the slightest amount of harm to you??

Like yeah actually I do know why these things are shunned, and I think those reasons are good to know, but also I think most of those reasons suck and there's better ways to work around them.

The point of "being annoying is good actually" is not to encourage walking over other people's boundaries, it's to encourage being your authentic self with your loved ones and having faith in their ability to love you as complete individual and use active communication to negotiate stipulations when necessary.

Self awareness is a useful skill, but it can never replace communication when it comes to judging how your behavior will be received by other people, because I hate to break it to you, but *everyone* is annoying sometimes, regardless of how "self aware" you might claim to be.

The point here is to change the way this interaction functions, so as to be accepting of that fact and place unfettered authenticity first, and limitations on it second.

I think it's far more disrespectful to assume everyone needs to have "self awareness" about *you* find intolerable is being than it is to expect you to learn how to live with other people and engage with them like a fucking adult.

It's actually not that hard. I can tell you from experience.

I'm annoying, my friends are annoying, my partner is annoying. And I could either complain to them that they need to be less annoying, or I could recognize that this is a judgement that I am making on my own, and I can evaluate what parts are actual problems and I need to address and what parts I can disregard as harmless to me. Doing so not only improves my awareness of my own needs but it deepens the trust I have with with my loved ones and actually allows me to love them not just in spite of what I find annoying but *because* of it. It allows me to see these things as part of a greater whole that I cherish, and acknowledge what parts of that experience really matter.

So yes actually, I think I will continue to be annoying on purpose, and I think you should too.

I understand it's in part because Tumblr is the space for, among other things, people with very little social skills and self-awareness, and I'll never really tell people they can't post their own brand of positivity in their own netspace, but it never stops giving me a hearty chuckle whenever I see those posts where it's like "Oversharing and infodumping on your friends/others is based, actually" or "Posting the most decadently self-indulgent stories with overpowered self-insert OCs is all you need to do" or anything with that general vibe of "annoying/frowned upon thing or behavior is great, actually" with 150k notes all agreeing loudly because, see, I don't want to deal with any of those things without the proper agreement to do so and respect afforded a third party, friend or not, and I understand it's the kind of thing where it's reinforcement of the shunned and all that, but sometimes, just sometimes, you understand why they are shunned in the first place, and that's less about Quirks(tm) and more about unapologetically deciding to circumvent self-awareness.

[rolling-boy]

I think I have adhdtism and it has taken me 21 years to notice. I LOOK AT THE PAST AND COUNTLESS INSTANCES STAND OUT TO ME NOW. I WAS NEVER A NORMAL CHILD. I am so aware of it now and it pokes and prods at me several times throughout every day. I am starting to grapple with how disabled I really am vs how people I know never wanted me to say or think I was.

[doctorsiren]

historians will say they were best friends

[suntantism]

forever thinking of them in this scene

[ohklah0ma]

OHMYGOD HI HI hi hi i love psychology anf the owl house and amphibia and she-ra and mlp and ALL the good stuff so heres my notes i pulled out of my ass about why neurodivergent people might love kids cartoons so much

BRIGHT COLORS!!!!these r pretty appealing and even if theyre not all bright colors tend to be particularly vibrant in kids shows compared to real life which is veryr appealinng

wholesome childish plots most of the time n stuff:-) theyre very safe because theyre familiar and even if things get pretty fucked up (cough DANA) cartoon logic is basically “things will be ok eventually and even if its not right now they have each other”

MAGIC ithink its just a general experience to be nd and having magic be appealing to you.its just funky and so cool

POWER OF FRIENDSHIP the fact that these characters have supportive friends and family is great because like. we get attached to these characters and we love them and that makes us love these cartoons and shows with characters as interesting as this

SENSORY SEEKING (like colors) just like op said YES animation tends to have more appealing styles (like bouncy swooshy pointy art) and colors so.hehe :-)

ESCAPISM + REPRESENTATION again op is correct! worlds like the ones in cartoons tend to be more diverse, accepting, etc etc and when theyre not the main characters have their friends to back them up and fight by their side! its cheesy but it helps adhd/autistic people cope w a possible lack of support or representation/diversity ^__^

COMPARED TO LIVE ACTION SHOWS live action shows are usually more serious in visual style and story so thats why cartoons are more appealing — bright colors, fantasy, magic and stuff like that r just veryr brain scratchy :-)

um thats all i havw for now im out of brain juice. these r just some notes i wanted to bring up because i love lovelove love psychology and art and animationgrrrgrrgrgrgr

if u read this whole thing im in love w you /p THANX 4 READIGN^__^

Anyone else wonder

Why so many adhd/autism folks (among many other groups in the neurodivergent and disability communities that I cannot speak for) love 'kids' cartoons so much?

Like I wonder about the psychology behind their popularity.

Could it be a form of sensory seeking? Animation tends to be more dynamic and artistic, I would argue there are more things you can do with art and drawing than with special FX and CGI (in that there is more space to experiment and mix mediums).

Maybe it's simply an escapism thing? Society is not really made to accommodate us so why would we want to see that same world we struggle to relate to in fiction?

Attached to that: a representation thing? Characters traits tend to be more exaggerated. It can be easier to understand intentions, subtext etc that we may sometimes miss IRL. Plus, I more often see coding that makes us feel seen and understood in animation than in live-action work (though I understand both are slowly changing to be more inclusive, and there is ofc my own bias towards animation that limits the information I receive).

I'm just so curious about it.

Also I realize there are plenty of folks from these communities who watch live-action work and prefer it too lol, I just see a lot of cartoon chatter online with these groups.

[princeofallhallows]

[flag-mashups]

Bi + Asexual + Autistic + ADHD =

(Please read pinned post before interacting! <3)

Bi - Someone who is attracted to two or more genders.

Asexual - Someone who experiences little-to-no sexual attraction.

Autistic - A nerodiversity causing differences in the brain. Autistic people often have difficulties with social communication and interaction, and repetitive behaviors and/or interests.

ADHD - Someone with ADHD may have trouble paying attention, controlling impulsive behaviors (may act without thinking about what the result will be), or be overly active.

[waste-iisolation]

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