#adhdtism

[auroras-void]

I love Izutsumi dungeon meshi sm.

Like she's a catgirl so obv she was always going to instantly become my favorite character, but also I just relate to her a lot I think. It helps that she looks a lot like me irl but also it's deeper than that, and it's also a little odd because I think I relate her to my past far more than my present.

Like is it weird that this catgirl is actually just straight up replacing my memories of my pre transition self?

I hate past me bc they were a miserable bitch who was kinda a jerk to everyone, but now instead I just imagine past me as Izutsumi instead and I feel so much better about myself.

Like, yea she's immature and rude but it's just because because she's young and a little stupid, and so few people have tried to engage with her on an emotional level with compassion, and tried to understand her personal needs and idiosyncrasies.

And she hides because she's been taught to hide. She got given a name that pleased someone else instead of her, no ones ever really wanted her to be herself.

She lashes out at affection but it's because she doesn't know how to communicate her boundaries or advocate for herself yet, but deep down she still craves it like anyone else, maybe even more than most. She's not trying to be mean, she doesn't actually want to be like that, she's just scared and overwhelmed with the world and doesn't want to admit that she doesn't know how to do anything else.

Plus like, she's just a cat.

You can't honestly stay mad at a cat. They lash out sometimes yeah, they bite you, they scratch you, they hide from you, they built different from you, they got different needs and boundaries, and you'll get bit even more if you don't respect it, but like, they just do that, and you don't even need to understand why to know that they aren't any less worthy of love for being like that. You just do anyways, because just intuitively you already know deep down that all cats deserve love.

Like, honestly it's let me come to terms with my past and be so much gentler with myself for my failures. It softens the scorn I have for myself with all my childhood memories because I don't see that miserable little boy being a jerk anymore, I see this young catgirl who's trying her best but still just struggling with the lack of validation and understanding she's received, who still deserves that love and acceptance not just in spite of her angsty reactions, but *because* of them.

Not to mention how gender affirming it is to have someone else to imagine instead of myself. Like it helps a lot I think, because I get to see my past self for who she was on the inside all along instead of what others decided I was based on how they interpreted what they saw at my surface.

That boy in my memories doesn't exist to me anymore I think, it doesn't benefit me to keep that interpretation of me alive, and Izutsumi is the perfect replacement for him I think. In my mind I'll have always just been a catgirl like I am today.

And all cats deserve love.

[queersekai]

Hi hi I have a request ^^

Saki: fingirl, genderfluid, panromantic, polyamorous, asexual, adhdtism, ambulatory wheelchair user, pots

Minori: transgirl, biromantic, asexual, polyamorous, adhdtism, dyslexia, dyspraxia

Akito: transfem, questioning, biromantic, asexual, adhdtism, pots, hypermobility

Rui: intersex, transfemmasc, presentationfluid, polyamorous, aegoromantic, bellusromantic, asexual, catgender, nyanbinary, deaf, autism, insomnia, scoliosis, pots, narcolepsy

Kanade: queer, demiromantic, asexual, genderquietor, musigender, deaf, iron deficient, autism, scoliosis, pots, synesthesia, narcolepsy, MS

(Just realized minori's the only one without pots here lol)

Because of how I have to split these up, Rui and Kanade will be in a reblog

Alternate costume colors for Saki and Akito by @/dragaliareferencearchive

[lyraoctavia]

Why do we call it AuDHD and not ✨ADHDtism?✨ It rolls off the tongue much better and sounds funnier. We should inform the high council of this at once.

[m4rveys]

i have 2 social media bio options:

1. song lyric (will change almost daily)

2. unnecessarily lengthy list of reasons you should DEFINITELY block me

[flag-mashups]

Achillean + Genderfluid + Autistic + ADHD =

(Please read pinned post before interacting! <3)

Achillean - An umbrella term for those who experience queer attraction towards masc-aligned people without specific labels.

Genderfluid - Someone who’s gender changes fluidly.

Autistic - A nerodiversity causing differences in the brain. Autistic people often have difficulties with social communication and interaction, and repetitive behaviors and/or interests.

ADHD - Someone with ADHD may have trouble paying attention, controlling impulsive behaviors (may act without thinking about what the result will be), or be overly active.

[auroras-void]

No, actually I think you're wrong as fuck, and completely missing the point of these posts, not to mention completely ignoring the role that neurodiversity plays in this discussion. Your summary is the most bad faith neurotypical bullshit I've ever seen.

I mean seriously, this isnt even the most important thing in there, but what part of posting "decadently self indulgent fiction" causes even the slightest amount of harm to you??

Like yeah actually I do know why these things are shunned, and I think those reasons are good to know, but also I think most of those reasons suck and there's better ways to work around them.

The point of "being annoying is good actually" is not to encourage walking over other people's boundaries, it's to encourage being your authentic self with your loved ones and having faith in their ability to love you as complete individual and use active communication to negotiate stipulations when necessary.

Self awareness is a useful skill, but it can never replace communication when it comes to judging how your behavior will be received by other people, because I hate to break it to you, but *everyone* is annoying sometimes, regardless of how "self aware" you might claim to be.

The point here is to change the way this interaction functions, so as to be accepting of that fact and place unfettered authenticity first, and limitations on it second.

I think it's far more disrespectful to assume everyone needs to have "self awareness" about *you* find intolerable is being than it is to expect you to learn how to live with other people and engage with them like a fucking adult.

It's actually not that hard. I can tell you from experience.

I'm annoying, my friends are annoying, my partner is annoying. And I could either complain to them that they need to be less annoying, or I could recognize that this is a judgement that I am making on my own, and I can evaluate what parts are actual problems and I need to address and what parts I can disregard as harmless to me. Doing so not only improves my awareness of my own needs but it deepens the trust I have with with my loved ones and actually allows me to love them not just in spite of what I find annoying but *because* of it. It allows me to see these things as part of a greater whole that I cherish, and acknowledge what parts of that experience really matter.

So yes actually, I think I will continue to be annoying on purpose, and I think you should too.

I understand it's in part because Tumblr is the space for, among other things, people with very little social skills and self-awareness, and I'll never really tell people they can't post their own brand of positivity in their own netspace, but it never stops giving me a hearty chuckle whenever I see those posts where it's like "Oversharing and infodumping on your friends/others is based, actually" or "Posting the most decadently self-indulgent stories with overpowered self-insert OCs is all you need to do" or anything with that general vibe of "annoying/frowned upon thing or behavior is great, actually" with 150k notes all agreeing loudly because, see, I don't want to deal with any of those things without the proper agreement to do so and respect afforded a third party, friend or not, and I understand it's the kind of thing where it's reinforcement of the shunned and all that, but sometimes, just sometimes, you understand why they are shunned in the first place, and that's less about Quirks(tm) and more about unapologetically deciding to circumvent self-awareness.

[doctorsiren]

historians will say they were best friends

[suntantism]

forever thinking of them in this scene

[waste-iisolation]

more content

[chaicedtea]

That is a plus side. Just a shame you two didn’t get to tell her the way you wanted to.

You’re cute, Mark. Thank you <3

...do you know how Grace found out about the three of us or are you as confused as I am, Ted?

@chasityathfestates

Uh- yeah, that might be my bad. I have a tendency to overshare..

[ @chasityathfestates ]

[blivy-on]

Been unhappy with Smiley's design for a whilllle now so I slightly redesigned her and gave her a new ref :) Old under the cut

[jimcantswim]

the virgin good at math and science autism is crying and shitting itself when meeting Chad locked-in 7 hours a day involuntary alpha grindset Finding clovers autism

[that-kangaroo-fish]

WHAT DID SHE MEAN BY THIS

EDIT: WE NOW KNOW WHAT SHE MEANT BY THIS

[syn4k]

did jordan go to law school or something

[luc1d-dr34m5]

Decided to post the Toxic Yaoi Yuri moment here as well akjsmwns as you can see my artsyyle is inconsistent, have doodles i made on the other layers of this same drawing below

HC/The Original is a silly guy to me, a goober

Time flies

Nothing changes